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Bad Habits

All of us has quirky little things about us that are part of who we are. For the most part, they are pretty harmless and aren’t such a big deal. However, I believe some of us have some bad habits that may actually run potential partners away. How honest are we about them, though?

I’m quick to say that I love me and if another person can’t recognize all my wonderful goodness (flaws and all) then forget about them! Every now and then, though I have had to stop and think to myself. Is this yet another reason why I’m still single?

What are you bad habits that need to be dropped? I had one that I had no choice but to drop: dating men who had no clue how to be supportive or meet my needs emotionally. They were my bad habit! They were great on paper, ambitious and driven, yada yada. When it came to checking on me and caring about what I thought or felt, I was invisibile. That’s not a good feeling: Being in a couple and feeling alone.

Do you have a bad habit you are drawn to? Maybe there is something about your behavior that is turning people off? Do you have a bad habit of talking down about love and romance? Are you constantly negative about the opposite sex and have a bad habit of complaining about them to everyone you meet?

If we were to take a real honest assessment of some of our bad habits, what do you think we could find to improve? How can we drop them like a…well bad habit!

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Sybil

September 3rd, 2009
11:11 am

@Lioness, too much spit in the corner of a person’s mouth. It also makes me think they have bad breath and that their kiss is going to taste funny.

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 3rd, 2009
11:12 am

@ Lioness- I DON’T have a Poker Face

That’s a good tip…but when I am late, of course they are on time!

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:12 am

Mo & Grace- That is a REALLY bad habit cause we can’t rely on the missed call feature of our phones :???: I RARELY leave voicemails EVER!!!

Bad Habit

I pop gum :(

Speeding

Buying Black shoes

Wise Diva

September 3rd, 2009
11:12 am

My choices are on me, so that is a bad habit of mine. I have admitted that I act too aloof with men that is a bad habit, working on both of these

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:12 am

@Page, I show my toes all the time. I have many 3-4 inch sandals I wear. However, the shoe with the one toe peeking through not a fav of mine. I have about 3 pair like that and have one each once! I rather have all my toes out.

@M. ~ I’m on time for EVERYTHING except work (traffic doesn’t allow me to be on time for that).

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
11:14 am

(Mama tole me this early on when my “sticks” were forming (lol

just as well Leggs since u occassionally go nikka less these days….. :lol:

can u imagine if u didnt cross them and ur amazon forest is all sweaty and slimy dwn there,that wld blind the guys checking on u dwn there.. :lol:

or if ur stikcs were greying,wld look like u sitting on a white lil chick(hen) :lol:

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:14 am

Sybil- OH & ILL!!! I wouldn’t even TALK to you if you have all that going on in the mouth!

M- Of course but the key is communication!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:16 am

I have a bad habit.. I like to see a cute fine ghetto girl.. Not that I would ever appraoch her but I just likes to see me a super fine dope boy fresh ghetto girl walking thru somewhere.. You know the one that the dope boy has dolled up and she knows shes fine as frog hair..

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:16 am

On habit that I have and I don’t really know why is I wear my husband’s slippers. I have my own but I will walk around to his side of the bed and put his on to go downstairs. It’s one of those quirky things that I am made up of I guess.

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:17 am

“bedazzled” :lol:

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:18 am

can’t rely on the missed call feature of our phones…..Lioness to remedy that, I’ll call back a lil later.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:18 am

LOL Leggs- yeah the shoes with only the pinky toe hanging out is not a good look.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:19 am

Awwww Raqi that’s sooo sweet, I had a habit of rolling over in my husband’s spot when he left the bed every morning.

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
11:20 am

Leggs – I HATE to be late for anything. If Im not 15mins early then in my mind Im late, even to work.

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 3rd, 2009
11:21 am

Also another bad habit that I had was if we are on a date and she starts talking wreckless about here demands and how her man should do this and that…I would just start ordering drinks tanqueray and cranberry with a lime or grand marnier and orange juice…..thats the only way I could sit through that. I could have left but I wanted to show how little I cared and enjoy the place and the bar….lol ;)

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:23 am

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:24 am

LOL I love bedazzled sandals and everything. I love to be bedazzled because I like glitter and sparkly stuff. I have like 5 pairs of jeans that I bedazzled. I bedazzled some cute jeans in Lakers colors, purple and gold and omg they are cute. This dude told me i should sell them on EBay.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:24 am

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 3rd, 2009
11:24 am

Another habit I used to have really bad was if I was on a date and it was going bad or she started talking wreckless about her demands for a guy etc…I would just start ordering drinks….tanqueray and cranberrry with a lime, grand marnier orange juice, royal flush…and just start getting toasted….yeah thats not really a great dating career move on my part lolol….

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:25 am

OMG I always leaves voice mails. LOL. They may be long winded, but i always do. it’s funny because my voice mails are in english, but my texts are in spanish! *go figure*. LOL

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:26 am

@Melo, all I can say is “you’re one sick pup.” :lol:

@Page, pinky toe can’t hang out on a peep toe shoe. Not possible!

@Mo, teaching lil leggs the importance of time management. Best example I presently give her is if she doesn’t leave the house in time to catch her school bus, I won’t be driving her to school. Manage your time and you won’t be late!

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
11:26 am

To ur 11.16 Raqi, one “bad” habit of mine is being too possessive with my stuff and not wanting to see anybody use it unless they have my express consent….my Queen does exactly like u there:wearing my flip flops,my house slippers,wearing my t-shirts or my caps….
it irks me to no end..esp when she got her own but leaves that for mine…….

at least she now knows not to borrow my stuff to anybody,no matter how small,unless i say so…

other day i asked her,”so its okay if i wear ur nikkas one of these good ole days?”..she looks at me like a deer in headlights :lol: :lol:

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
11:28 am

Looooooonng Night!!!!! Cant believe I went to bed at 7am,,,I am not young anymore I need my sleep…..

Bad Habits I need to drop:

I need to let life’s natural filter do it’s job rather than trying to force myself into what is never comfortable or peaceful…duuuh.W8 look at the obvious..there is no happiness down that path

Being attracted to b*tches..no other way to put it.

Picking the right woman that has shown herself to be right instead of the challenge.

I need to go back to the old me.

I need to lower my tolerance level back to what it used to be.

I need to get back to being more direct.

I need to get off of this blog…lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:30 am

Oh yeah… I never listen to voice mails..

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:30 am

Page do you say the time, date and your location when you leave a VM? It tickles me when people does that, esp when it’s a personal phone call.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:30 am

Leggs- LOL true. I like some peep toe, but to me, it’s weird with only the big toe and second toe sticking out LOL. some people who have the second toe longer, it sticks out big time.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:30 am

@ M. — lmao!

Voicemails are my friend… especially when i’m drunk lol

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:31 am

Lioness what is wrong with black shoes?

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:32 am

Nor do I ever leave voicemails..

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:32 am

Page- I have AT LEAST 50 pair and they all are similar :neutral:

The Real Rell - angry a zz f oday

September 3rd, 2009
11:33 am

@w8….WE HAVE THE SAME LIST!!!…..ooo i need to kick my porn habit…almost had it kicked until i seen jasmine cashmere…just WOW…

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 3rd, 2009
11:33 am

W8 – You know you have to wear your bulldog paraphanelia tomorrow.

On topic – I overanalyze. I don’t speak up soon enough about things, I have a tendency to let stuff slide until it builds up and I explode.

I’m working on these things.

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:33 am

If I have the sauce in me, I don’t answer my phone

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:34 am

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
11:34 am

Oh yeah… I never listen to voice mails

Now, iam the opposite, i dont answer my cell unless the # and name is in there already,so if u ghost and dont leave a messge, i wont bother calling back!
Tell me ur bizzness 4 calling and i reserve the right to call back or not.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:35 am

Grace- LOL! Ok, well, this is one of my voice mails: “Hey W8, it’s Page (as if he doesn’t recognize my voice or my number lol). I just wanted to see what the plans are. it’s about 6:14pm and i am on my way to the gym. i will be done by 8 after i do zumba and kickboxing. ok…oh yeah…i think i am gonna stop by the store and get some stuff so i can do strawberry shortcake. well, maybe i will just get ice cream instead…who knows! ok, so anyway, give me a call back when you get this message. it’s thursday at 6:17 pm, so call me back. ok cool beans. awesome. talk to you later”.

LOL by the end of the first minute, the voice mail usually cuts me off..lol. so i will call back and finish my message! lmao

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
11:36 am

Being attracted to b*tches..no other way to put it.

cmeon W8…thats not nice! :lol: :lol:

(im being sarcastic wit that,if u catch my drift) :lol:

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:36 am

Bad Habits:

Cussing (even though I only use 2 words)

Giving homeless folk $$.

Never, ever leaving house w/o eyebrows in tact (NEVA).

Rocking in my chair when food is good!

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:37 am

LOL Lioness @ 50 pairs of black shoes!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:38 am

Page – Youre making my ears bleed just reading your voicemail.. You would be hot with me cause you would ask.. Did you get my e-mail and I would tell you no.. I left a voice mail.. Umm yeah I dont usually check voicemails.. Most of the time its full..

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:38 am

OMG lol @ drawed on eye brows leggs! i would be scared that they might get sweated off in the club or something. lmao

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:38 am

Sorry for the interruption, but this right here is HYSTERICAL and I had to share: Ex-inmate injured trying to sneak back into jail
SHARPES, Fla. — A former inmate in Florida was injured while trying to sneak back into jail. Sylvester Jiles suffered severe cuts from barbed wire while trying to climb a 12-foot fence at the Brevard County Detention Center Monday night. The 24-year-old former inmate was released last week from the jail after accepting a plea deal on a manslaughter charge.

He’s afraid the deceased family members are out to kill him.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:39 am

I meant voicemail not e-mail

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:39 am

LOL Filthy- well, my voice mails messages are cute! *wink*. Gimme your number so I can leave a message for you now. LOL

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:39 am

stop it!!!! :lol @ Page

I’ve gotten the long winded vm, I always erase in mid sentence, my tolerance level is too short to listen to the whole thing, even got a couple songs on there too, that I let play to it’s entirety :wink:

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:43 am

Grace- Me too & call your behind back & let you know NOT to do that on MY voicemail :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
11:43 am

Leggs – I learned that time management lesson in high school. My band director always said on time was late. I got tired of running laps/doing push-ups/crab walking for being ‘on time’ to band practice!

W8 – if you start talking crazy we will know why! :smile:

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:45 am

Page – I wouldnt even listen to it.. cause i would have to skip thru right now at this moment 26 voicemails to hear yours at 27.. So by the time I get to yours it would be a wrap city..

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:45 am

LOL Grace- With my work, a lot of colleages leave voice mails with directions on what needs to be done, where to go, etc, so i am used to long-winded ones. this one dude i know in phoenix is sooooo much worse than i am. this is how he is:

“hey Page, it’s Freddy. You know, Freddy in Phoenix, Arizona. Just calling to see what’s going on with you. Are you still gonna be in town this month? The last time we spoke you said it was gonna be on X day and X time, so i hope that is still correct. it’s hot out here (like I don’t know this…lol), so maybe when you come we can hit the pool when you arrive. are you free on tuesday? maybe we can meet in scottsdale for lunch or something? what about mexican or chinese? whatever is fine with me. so, give me a call back either on my home phone 555-55555 or cell at 555-5555, or hit me up on facebook, or via text or email. ok Soror, have a good evening and we will talk soon. goodbye”.

Now, that is long winded! LOL

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:46 am

LOL Filthy- omg that’s jacked up. everyone must listen to my voice mails. they are important! LOL