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Bad Habits

All of us has quirky little things about us that are part of who we are. For the most part, they are pretty harmless and aren’t such a big deal. However, I believe some of us have some bad habits that may actually run potential partners away. How honest are we about them, though?

I’m quick to say that I love me and if another person can’t recognize all my wonderful goodness (flaws and all) then forget about them! Every now and then, though I have had to stop and think to myself. Is this yet another reason why I’m still single?

What are you bad habits that need to be dropped? I had one that I had no choice but to drop: dating men who had no clue how to be supportive or meet my needs emotionally. They were my bad habit! They were great on paper, ambitious and driven, yada yada. When it came to checking on me and caring about what I thought or felt, I was invisibile. That’s not a good feeling: Being in a couple and feeling alone.

Do you have a bad habit you are drawn to? Maybe there is something about your behavior that is turning people off? Do you have a bad habit of talking down about love and romance? Are you constantly negative about the opposite sex and have a bad habit of complaining about them to everyone you meet?

If we were to take a real honest assessment of some of our bad habits, what do you think we could find to improve? How can we drop them like a…well bad habit!

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Lioness

September 3rd, 2009
10:27 am

Grace- Just Checking

Unknown- I am a communicator but it has been turned around on me as the cause of the one sided relationship but that trick doesn’t work on me. Communication is key in any relationship I am in. Friendships as well!

DK- I have a shoe fetish as well!!

Grown and SexyCool

September 3rd, 2009
10:29 am

Habits are also established dispositions and/or customary manners or practices. All of which can intentional or engaged in consciously.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
10:29 am

@ melo..

I am co-signing everything you said…
(my family had a pop intervention with me and my friend last Sunday)
They say our sarcasm is over excessive lol.. I tend to say whatever pops into my head at the time. Then I look back and say “should I have said that”. I don’t know if i use the “term” sarcasm to justify me saying whatever i want… (i dont think so)…. I just hate the having to censor what I say around people or sugar coat things…. Shoot life isn’t always sweet :)

Deeva4Life

September 3rd, 2009
10:30 am

I have a low tolerance for BS so I will completely shut down on a guy in a minute. I’ve been accused of being “dismissive” but I disagree. I just like what I like and everything isn’t as deep as people try to make them be.

My body language and facial expressions definitely tell off on me. You know how I feel even if I never mumble one word. I’m pretty cool (so I think) but if you cross me, my words can be somewhat lethal. I guess it’s that whole Gemini thing (NiceNasty)…lol I’m working on that. And lastly, I have a tendency to put everybody’s feelings before my own…family, friends, relationships, etc. This is a real issue, but as with my other habits, I’m working on it.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
10:31 am

Page – I dont like flip flops either cause I just think thats a babe being lazy.. I like my women in heels.. they do something for me.. I like that chick that wears heels everywhere..

Lioness

September 3rd, 2009
10:31 am

Melo- A dude with a slick mouth KILLS me!! Then they have the NERVE to complain about women having one.. WTH?? If you say something out the side of your neck to your woman, do you expect shawty to sit there and smile?? :roll:

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
10:31 am

@ THE INFAMOUS DK

I guess I can see where you’re coming from… men with small shirts send me running lol….

Lioness

September 3rd, 2009
10:32 am

Deeva- ME TOO!! All of that!

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
10:34 am

@ Page
luvs me some flip flops lol… Not out to dinner… or movies …. or anywhere fancy. If I’m going to the beach: flip flops.. walking to the nearby grocery store: flip flops…. chilling at my ma’s house: flip flops….

Lioness

September 3rd, 2009
10:35 am

DK- Even if the flip flops are nice?? I could understand if the flip flops look cheap..

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
10:35 am

Bad Habits:

I cross my legs all the time

I sit with chin in hand contemplating something!

I watch tv holding my right breast (don’t know why).

I look at men’s crotches too often.

I walk too fast.

I’m prone to hang up the phone when I realized you took a stupid pill before talking to me.

Let me think on my other bad habits…

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:35 am

Deeva- LOL. I have been accused of laughing and smiling too much! In all of my pics on fb, i try so hard not to smile, but it’s too hard. i have a pic of me, sexycool and mo and i made a so-called “serious face”, and a friend made a comment like “wow, i didn’t think it was possible for u to not smile”. LOL SexyCool and Mo- i need to make that my profile pic!

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:37 am

Filthy- I do wear heels all the time, but i wear flip flops too. So, I guess you would think I was lazy LOL. *shrugs*

Grown and SexyCool

September 3rd, 2009
10:38 am

Page – Blowing kisses at the camera does not count as a “serious face.” ~smooches~

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
10:38 am

Infamous I don’t have a shoe fetish but I do love shoes. Nice shoes for sure. My love of shoes tend to make me notice the shoes others are wearing. Men and women alike.

A little like you, no matter how good looking he is and how fine I think his body is some things just stand out more than others to me. (Shut up ForReal and Melo) Those would be the shoes, the watch and the hands.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:39 am

Dream_n- I will rock my Old Navy flip flops to the movies or out to dinner to certain places, heck yeah. I guess my point is that people come from different places with different climates. Where I have lived (Cali and Phx) we wear flip flops. Kinda like how people in NY wear boots or Timberlands. Both of which I HATE.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
10:40 am

Raqi – The earrings and hair run neck and neck for 2nd..

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:40 am

LOL SexyCool- well, that is about as serious as I can be! I’m working on being more serious.

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
10:40 am

@Dream_n ~ I have toned my sarcasm down over the years, but I remember those days when my machete (tongue) took over and my brain cells went to sleep. I think much more now before I leap….(sometimes).

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
10:41 am

Leggs are you alone when you’re holding your right breast while watching TV? if not do you allow another to hold it for you?

Deeva4Life

September 3rd, 2009
10:42 am

Page1908 smiling is good…try getting the “you look so serious” or “smile” comments regularly. And what kills me is, I’m not even aware that I’m looking serious but I tend to get deep in thought even when I’m just out and about. However, if I make eye contact with you I will always offer a smile…ALWAYS! So keep smiling girl…lol

Lioness

September 3rd, 2009
10:42 am

Raqi- Watch & Footwear on a man is a MUST!! Dude MUST smell good too!

Grown and SexyCool

September 3rd, 2009
10:42 am

My summer uniform this summer has been jeans, a tshirt and flipflops. Like Page, they are fine for the movies and most of the eating places I go to – I’m a drinks on the patio kinda girl.

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
10:44 am

Page1908 – LOL! I get that too chica! Even For Real said that b/c I am short I am supposed to be happy all the time. I have a bad day and folks are like :shock: …lol

Legss – in line with your bad habits:

I twirl my earrings when Im bored or sleepy (the studs I wear)

Out of the blue I will check my hair for split ends

I chew on my fingernails, not bite

I never say ‘goodbye’ when I end a call (mom says its rude, lol)

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
10:45 am

Melo- A dude with a slick mouth KILLS me!!

ok then but if u gotta talk to me,or ask me sme,please shelve ur britney spears/jennifer simpson air head brain smewhere…i aint gonna let that slide.
I know u females think loudly smetimes,bouncing off thoghts with ur friends,even lame ones….

im not very good at listening like that,taking garbage in and not saying sme……

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
10:45 am

To bring your thoughts to life, put them into words. To bring your words to life, put them into action. To bring your actions to life, make them into habits. What you make into a habit becomes a part of who you are.

A negative, destructive habit can hold you back as surely as a steel chain around your ankle. A positive, productive habit can enable you to soar to heights that would otherwise be unreachable.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
10:45 am

Dude MUST smell good too!

Definately a MUST….!!!! Anything less is grounds for termination(if i’m with you) or rejection (if you’re trying to get with me)… Nothing worse than a stanky man… ugh!

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
10:48 am

Melo- I understand what you are saying BUT sometimes less said is more.. But I guess you are just keep it real..

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
10:49 am

Leggs

I cross my legs all the time

So do I but although it’s a habit it’s not bad. I have more than a few men tell me how sexy it is or rather how sexy I look with me legs crossed like I do. I tend to kinda move my foot and/or let my shoe dangle (heels mostly) when I cross my legs.

I sit with chin in hand contemplating something

When I am thinking or contemplating I normally trace my lips with tip of my sunglasses or a pen. Sometimes I put the tip of my glasses between my lips. And this BTW is usually done in conjunction with the crossing of the legs. (That habit is the one my husband find to be the sexiest)

I watch tv holding my right breast (don’t know why).

First of all, LOL. But my tv habit is rubbing my lips with my finger.

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
10:49 am

I cross my legs all the time.….thats a good lady habit Leggs!

Alvin,where are u….he said some about some female’s open leggs that made us laugh! :lol:

(if u female and u dont cross ur leggs, i ll judge u harshly,sorry!)

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
10:50 am

Dream- Not necessarily stanky but not as fresh as you SHOULD be ALL OVER.. I am a firm believer that if I could smell you then you could smell yourself..

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
10:52 am

I can’t STAND to see a woman with a skirt or dress on sit with her legs open.. Plain ol GROSS!!

Sybil

September 3rd, 2009
10:52 am

Spit corners are a turn off. Makes me think you’ve got too much saliva in your mouth that I may be ‘drinking’ if you kiss me.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:52 am

SexyCool- Yeah, casual is nice.

Mo- Yeah, short people should be happy, shouldn’t they? LOL

I *heart* my cut off off the shoulder tshirts, one shoulder tops, which I always wear, totally rad and cute Hello Kitty ring and bracelet, my name plate bracelet and chain, old navy flip flops, candies shoes, my blue eyeliner and silver glitter nails. LOL.

Dream_n- Yeah and good smelling dude is a requirement for sure!

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
10:54 am

Lioness maybe she’s trying to air out :lol:

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
10:54 am

hw about females who literally sit on their underwear/nikkas,not bothering to hold their dress down at the back and kinda fold it as they sit…….. LIONESS eeeewe yikes….

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
10:55 am

I’ve never understood flip flops. I hear they’re very comfortable, but don’t really like things between my toes. I wear heels all the time!

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:55 am

Raqi- LOL @ dangling heels. Yeah, I would assume they would be heels because you can’t dangle a tennis shoe or boots. LOL

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:57 am

Leggs, I have never seen your feet, so I remember you saying you don’t like things between your toes. But, I have never seen you with open toe shoes that are not flip flops. Do you just not like to show your feet?

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 3rd, 2009
10:59 am

@Leggs

LOL

Another Bad habit I have is if we agree on a time to meet and you show up 15 minutes late like nothing happened….I am floored at that point..

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
10:59 am

OMG i have these totally wayyy cute Chinese sandals i wore at the clubhouse party. they are super awesome. i have to take feet/shoe pics all the time. LOL. SexyCool and Mo- you know I will tag feet in FB pics a heartbeat. LOL

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
10:59 am

Sybil- Spit corners?

Grace- :lol: :lol:

Bad Habits:
If I call you & you don’t return my call, I won’t EVER call you again :neutral:

If you call me & leave a voicemail, I will call you back instead of checking my voicemail.

I don’t check my voicemail for months at a time.

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:01 am

SexyCool and Page I love flip flops but I cannot wear those little plastic ones like the ones at Old Navy. I can only wear leather, or rather I only prefer the leather ones, which makes me pay waaaay too much for a pair of flip flops. The last pair I remember buying were on sale for $40 at Macy’s. That’s one of my downfalls.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:03 am

lioness I’m wayyy with you on the VM tip, nor do I like leaving them.

Lioness- I DON'T have a Poker Face

September 3rd, 2009
11:04 am

Leggs- I used to be that way too.

M- No phonecall?? That is why I am NEVER on time :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
11:05 am

Lioness – co-signing on the vm thing, dont like laving them and I dont check them ever.

Page108 – Ms TMZ! LOL!

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:06 am

@Grace, yeah I’m alone when I’m doing it (lol).

@Raqi, yes, I’ve been told the same thing while legs crossed. I can’t even imagine sitting with feet firmly planted on the ground. Crossing of the legs is ladylike (Mama tole me this early on when my “sticks” were forming (lol)

Bad Habits:

I pop my lips while walking down the hallways (you know when your lipstick is gone and you make that puckering sound).

I’m directionally challenged.

I sing all the time (but am tone deaf).

I rinse everything off before placing in garbage can (just about everything).

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:06 am

Raqi- really? I like all types of flip flops, the plastic ones, leather, bedazzled ones, LOL. one thing is i will not wear the cheap wal mart ones or other cheapie ones. the old navy ones are cheap in price, but the quality is good.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:08 am

LOL Mo- yup that’s right! I should have taken a pic of Bone Crusher when I saw him at Quik Trip last week. I was gonna give him your number. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
11:08 am

Another one of my Bad habits.. I’m a shoe whore..