As much as I love romance and falling head over heels, I admit that I am a big chicken when it comes to saying and hearing the L word. I have noticed that some people use the L word as a weapon to commit emotional larceny. They steal emotions from a person that they have no intention of being committed to. I have heard men say that they often use the L word on women with no self-esteem to entice them into a pseudo-relationship (read: reason to sleep with them) and it works every time. I have also seen women do the exact same thing. They profess love to the man or say it back to him knowing full well that he is only Mr. Right NOW.
In my opinion, it could be an EMPTY “I Love You” if:
It is said by a person that is consistently selfish; It is said by a person who utters it expressly to get something from you: sex, money, power, attention; Their actions are not aligning with their proclaimed love for you as evidenced by being constantly inconsiderate of your feelings, or if they become abusive in any way, shape or form.
How do you know if someone who says those three words really means it? When is it appropriate to tell someone you love them? When you say “I love you” to your partner or romantic interest, do you mean it? Are you saying it to placate them in some way?
I think this is one of those things that some women have a little anxiety about. If he says it first, am I obligated to say it back? What if I don’t feel what he feels yet? Guys, does this kind of stuff even cross your mind? Do you ever regret saying it too early to a woman?
I would take silence over an empty I Love You, ANY day, but that’s just me. What are your thoughts?