I Just Want to be Successful…in Love
Good Morning! I had a busy and fun weekend. How was your weekend? I spent part of the weekend relaxing, catching up with friends, and some of it was spent being inspired. I attended the Women In Entertainment Empowerment Network (WEEN) conference where they had wonderful speakers and panel discussions.
One of the panel discussions focused around women balancing their careers and relationships. The discussion briefly covered how women who are used to being CEOs, strong and powerful women faced challenges when it came to relationships.
It’s sad to say, but sometimes being a successful single woman is another roadblock to relationships: finding them and keeping them. As someone on the panel stated, women who are go-getters and successful often have to find ways to downplay their success and achievements when they first meet men. Do you think that men have preconceived ideas about women who are successful and single?
As someone on the panel stated, it’s not necessary for someone to know your entire resume right away. In the beginning, it should just be about two people finding out about each other personally, not professionally.
Ladies, when you meet men, do you think that your successful image becomes a problem?
Men, do you like confident women who are successful? Are you drawn to women who are single and successful? Do you ever think successful women are too high-maintenance or out of your league?
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Melo
August 31st, 2009
3:45 pm
He only peed the floor once.
coz he didnt have a stomach virus like For Real
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
3:46 pm
Wings there was a girl in our neighborhood when I was younger that was average height, about 5′4″ and she had long legs. However she had an unusually short torso.
Chink
August 31st, 2009
3:47 pm
You can be short and have long limbs …usually they look taller than they really are.
Kym-Steeler Nation and Snuggie Cult Member
August 31st, 2009
3:48 pm
@Raqi I am sorry are u promoting for a woman or man for that matter to stay in a unhappy marriage because they are just stuck based on some “belief” system?
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
3:49 pm
coz he didnt have a stomach virus like For Real
Melo ForReal must have had some of that bad tuna salad that we had Saturday. Awful stomach cramps. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 31st, 2009
3:49 pm
Wings – Failure brings it’s own form of success………………
Wow aint that the truth.. Going thru some thangs makes you. Ive learned some things about me during that process.. That although I may bend I will never break..
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 31st, 2009
3:50 pm
Randy – That’s cool, that you were able to visit Notting Hill. I always said if I go to London I would try to stop by. One of my favorite movies and I wanted to get the soundtrack too. I just wanted your take on the whole “successful woman” situation. It’s not an issue with me, but in my younger days I have run across guys who have just made assumptions about me. I would not necessarily downplay my accomplishments, just not mention them unless necessary. Growing up, in situations people would make assumptions because pops was a physician – “oh you must be spoiled cause you’re a rich kid, you’ve never had to worry about anything, your pops will buy it for you, etc.” They didn’t realize my dad had 6 kids to feed and he served the underserved in the community, so he was not a “Buckhead” doc. He was one of the humblest people you ever want to meet. When people asked what he did, I just said “he works at the hospital”.
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
3:51 pm
Kym I said for those that remain married because of their spiritual belief should at least try to find a way to be happy. You know, sense divorce and separation is out of the question.
Why stay unhappy if staying is your only choice?
Grace
August 31st, 2009
3:53 pm
Possibility of success
You can make your life a triumph in spite of every adversity. Or you could make your life a mess in spite of every advantage.
Success does not depend on where you start. If it did, no one would have ever been successful.
Success comes from what you choose to do with whatever you have. It is fully available to anyone who decides to make the effort and the commitment.
Whatever the day holds, it also holds the possibility of success and achievement. Whatever the situation may be, there is a way to create real value from it.
Choose to see the positive possibilities, and you will. Choose to follow those possibilities, and success takes root.
The opportunity for success is always yours, and so is the responsibility. Decide to do what it takes, and create the success that is your own special destiny.
Enjoy the rest of your day!
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
3:54 pm
@Infamous ~ “That although I may bend I will never break.” Truer words have never been spoken. I have a picture of a frozen bended tree on my file cabinet with a caption that says “Bent, but not broken.” I stared at this picture during my divorce process. I must have repeated the line at least 3-5x a day!
Kym-Steeler Nation and Snuggie Cult Member
August 31st, 2009
3:55 pm
@Raqi because staying is not your only choice. Move, leave, run, flee, shoot, poison, push down the steps. The choices are endless. But alas..
RELIGION…. MAKING PEOPLE MISERABLE SINCE TIME BEGAN
Melo
August 31st, 2009
3:57 pm
Bent, but not broken
speaking of Bent,its one of the best attributes in a wang!
Tazzee - RIP iPhone
August 31st, 2009
3:58 pm
I’m 5′4″ but I have long legs…well as long as they can be at my height, LOL.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 31st, 2009
3:59 pm
Kimmie…It is tough and unfortuantely there are some ppl, male and female, that go into a potential relationship with upfront assumptions, both good and bad. Not a whole lot you can do except, a) display in all instances taht their assumption is wrong, and b) move on to soemone who can appreciate you and make an attempt to get to know you, apart from all assumptions.
It is funny though. The 5′10″ lady I mentioned above (in her mid 40’s, teenage children) made the asumption that what was right for her was a tall guy who was very Biblically knowlegeable (assuming that if he was a devout Christian, he would have to be a good potential husband). So she found a tall guy, with a PHD in religious studies or something who had never been married or had children. Four years later they are in the midst of a divorce and she is wondering why she thought that those elements were all that was necessary. The guy had no idea how to be married (none of us do particularly at first), secondly he had no idea what it was like to have children either…bad combination. Third, definitely a dry kind of guy with a woman who still had some passion.
She got exactly what she asked for…thus the very wise saying, “be careful what you wish for, you might get it”.
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
4:00 pm
Shet it up, Melo! You are crazy (lol).
SexyCool - Insert witty phrase here
August 31st, 2009
4:01 pm
Taz – You really don’t seem THAT short. LOL!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 31st, 2009
4:02 pm
Regarding the size issue…I was too short to play in the NBA, too tall to be a jockey, not “hung” well enough to be a porn star, but I was just the right size for project management. Thus my career choice was a matter of elimination ;-0
2CPTG sick with SWAG FLU
August 31st, 2009
4:03 pm
loves me an independent successful woman…..I know, I’m all late.
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
4:04 pm
Hello 2C, hope you feel better real soon, but so glad there’s a screen between us.
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
4:06 pm
As of right now with one hour left to be here, I am almost successful in a promise I made to myself this morning. I have only called the sitter once and that’s what I said I would do today.
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
4:08 pm
LOL 2CPTG. You got that Swag Flu, huh?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 31st, 2009
4:08 pm
I recall a song with the words “bent but not broken” in it.
Wise Diva
August 31st, 2009
4:11 pm
I KNOW MR. 2 did not return to this blog after all THIS time and not give me some love. Dude, really? Alright, I see how it is *sniff*
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
4:13 pm
@kimmie, you have to truly believe it in order for you to once again walk straight, with head held high!
Wings ()
August 31st, 2009
4:14 pm
@Raqi – she must have been built like Sheri Shepherd from the view.
@IDK – ain’ that the truth………..somehow we are better…………
Melo
August 31st, 2009
4:15 pm
who was very Biblically knowlegeable
how did she settle on that criteria Randyt???
had she been messed up and dwn trodden on by bible ignornt playaz or sme to that effect? smdh….gon from one extreme to the next…sme females do that..
like from being a pastor’s daghter then divorce and then become one of the bangest puddsy slammers ‘n juggler in the whole city!
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
4:16 pm
As I strongly believe, STAY ALERT: http://www.wimp.com/goodsamaritan/
2CPTG sick with SWAG FLU
August 31st, 2009
4:17 pm
Hey Diva, how ya been Sexy?
Wings ()
August 31st, 2009
4:17 pm
@Randyt – So do you believe in the notion of starter wives/husbands?
Lord Velonese (Atlanta's very own Sadist and you love it too!)
August 31st, 2009
4:18 pm
Hello Kiddies I’m BACK! You could take everything away from me and I’d still resent people, I might resent them even more maybe.
Hasn’t this topic been covered any way?
Leggs
August 31st, 2009
4:19 pm
ALERT AND AWARE!
Compelling
August 31st, 2009
4:20 pm
I refuse to give up heels…therefore my guy must be tall. My guy is 6′1/6′2 and I’m 5′8 and it works out perfectly.
I wish I woulda taken off today, I’m so sleepy. At least next week Monday will be a no-work day for me due to the holiday. YES!!!
Melo
August 31st, 2009
4:23 pm
anybody saw that story on cnbc last nite about the 15 yr old girl who shot mum in 1971 and confessed 27 yrs later after going thru drug addiction and all sorts of problems due to her inner guilt….
27 yrs later,she fessed up..
mum died leaving her with 2 yunger boy siblings..
A man’s dead spirit an’ spilt blood will mess u up..dont play with it!
Raqi
August 31st, 2009
4:25 pm
WiseDiva one of these days we need to do a challenge of people listing “10 Things I Like About You” (<== meaning the opposite sex) that include everything but the obivious physical characteristics.
Tazzee - RIP iPhone
August 31st, 2009
4:26 pm
SexyCool thanks, I don’t think I look that short either. That’s why I make them measure every time I go to the doctor
Tazzee - RIP iPhone
August 31st, 2009
4:26 pm
Hey 2can! As always, it’s good to read you.
Wings ()
August 31st, 2009
4:27 pm
@Melo – It’s like inertia, anytime something goes to far to one extreme it swings all the way back to the other…………..one of my sisters is married to a minister and every time they have gone to the extreme with their kids, the kids go to the extreme in their push back……………
2CPTG sick with SWAG FLU
August 31st, 2009
4:29 pm
Hey Tazz….good to read you, too….always the insightful one. Hopefully I’ll jump in earlier tomorrow….
Dream_n
August 31st, 2009
4:30 pm
I’m with you Compelling.. No work on Monday!!!
Melo
August 31st, 2009
4:31 pm
Wings (),(did i spell urs correct?)
ministers children have a habit of goin’ left,….u right!
Ms. Main
August 31st, 2009
4:32 pm
one of these days we need to do a challenge of people listing “10 Things I Like About You” (<== meaning the opposite sex) that include everything but the obivious physical characteristics.
We did that already…on some many topics/levels
AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing
August 31st, 2009
4:34 pm
Why Amazon? I lot of women WANT to be tall because of ANTM. I have heard women describe themselves as ANTM tall and thin. As if ANTM has the market cornered on what’s beautiful and sexy
If someone says they are ANTM tall and thin that’s just because ANTM is a widely known program. ANTM didn’t set the standard in the modeling industry “model size” has been around since modeling began.
Again, tall women were in style long before ANTM graced the runways.
Wings ()
August 31st, 2009
4:35 pm
@Melo – Yes you did………..a typo is one thing and a planned attack is another……………..lol
Ms. Main
August 31st, 2009
4:39 pm
Again, tall women were in style long before ANTM graced the runways.
Not exclusively….any beautiful woman is hot tall or no
Kym-Steeler Nation and Snuggie Cult Member
August 31st, 2009
4:40 pm
@Sexy my friend may bedazzle my Snuggie. I am not only going to be warm and cozy but stylish, with sparkle and shine. LMAO
Dream_n
August 31st, 2009
4:44 pm
@ Ms. Main :Not exclusively….any beautiful woman is hot tall or no
Say it… lol…
5′4 — 141– is just as HOT!!!! believe me
AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing
August 31st, 2009
4:47 pm
No one said exclusively.
SexyCool - Insert witty phrase here
August 31st, 2009
4:48 pm
Kym – I canNOT hear you talking about the Snuggie. ~LOL~
SexyCool - Insert witty phrase here
August 31st, 2009
4:52 pm
2can – my man. Mad No. Fla. love to ya’!!!!
Wings ()
August 31st, 2009
4:52 pm
What’s a snuggie?