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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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I Just Want to be Successful…in Love

Good Morning! I had a busy and fun weekend. How was your weekend? I spent part of the weekend relaxing, catching up with friends, and some of it was spent being inspired. I attended the Women In Entertainment Empowerment Network (WEEN) conference where they had wonderful speakers and panel discussions.

One of the panel discussions focused around women balancing their careers and relationships. The discussion briefly covered how women who are used to being CEOs, strong and powerful women faced challenges when it came to relationships.

It’s sad to say, but sometimes being a successful single woman is another roadblock to relationships: finding them and keeping them.  As someone on the panel stated, women who are go-getters and successful often have to find ways to downplay their success and achievements when they first meet men. Do you think that men have preconceived ideas about women who are successful and single?

As someone on the panel stated, it’s not necessary for someone to know your entire resume right away. In the beginning, it should just be about two people finding out about each other personally, not professionally.

Ladies, when you meet men, do you think that your successful image becomes a problem?

Men, do you like confident women who are successful? Are you drawn to women who are single and successful? Do you ever think successful women are too high-maintenance or out of your league?

306 comments Add your comment

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 31st, 2009
2:54 pm

Melo – Yeah we should accept a headstrong woman but if it were a dude we would be controlling..

Dan

August 31st, 2009
2:54 pm

@For Real

Dan sniffin the air I smell hateraide.

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
2:54 pm

I have never understood why women think tall men are somehow better able to protect them.

For Real – That’s not what it is, really.

Melo

August 31st, 2009
2:55 pm

If you are an evilazzbytch with prestige and money you were more than likely an evilazzbytch before your got it.

thats what i hear about Martha Stew,u know the one that went to the lil house.
were it not for that evilazzbytch in her that i hear, i wld want to try a lil sme with her…..shes got the kinky look :lol: (me and older swiss women??)

(well u can see, im not intimadated by their success…aiming waaaay high)

canadian52

August 31st, 2009
2:55 pm

Here is an answer. http://kenbesseder.wordpress.com/2009/08/21/smart-girls-sexy-legs-and-high-iqs/ This is a blog post written by a man about smart women. Might be an interesting read.

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
2:56 pm

My Darling ared it would have been different if you rep for attacking folks wasn’t so bad, but since it is I just thought I would use this time as a teachable moment…………………….carry on

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
2:56 pm

ared – Let me further say, that I don’t come on here to disrespect anyone……eva…… and if that is your MO than maybe you need to find a blog for haters.

Is there some reason you can’t take a joke or something? Let me know.

And maybe you should find a little blog. I fail to see where you have been disrespected. So maybe you should take a time out.

Chink

August 31st, 2009
2:56 pm

I have never understood why women think tall men are somehow better able to protect them.

Oh I dont agree …well if he is short and skinny there might be reason but than again Mayweather is small and he is a Champ boxer

For Real

August 31st, 2009
2:57 pm

Dan: I understand what you are saying but “traditions” and “normal” is what you want it to be. So, if you want a hundit acres and mule then find a chick that wants hundit and one acres and mule and car (cause you know ain’t no chick gon settle for what you have)

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
2:58 pm

My Darling ared it would have been different if you rep for attacking folks wasn’t so bad, but since it is I just thought I would use this time as a teachable moment…………………….carry on

It reads however you chose to read it. I was just making a joke. If the fact that it comes from my particular screen name is a problem for you, I can’t help you.

I don’t see how you were attacked in any way. Again, lighten up. I’m not interested in your misguided and misdirected “lessons.”

Just another example of folks making mountains out of molehills.

Melo

August 31st, 2009
3:00 pm

I have never understood why women think tall men are somehow better able to protect them

:lol: For Real

For Real now standing on a ladder,wearing high platform shoes,trying to post his new bill board above,proclaiming his availability and ability to protect.
:lol: :lol: :lol:

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
3:01 pm

Like I said …………..carry on……………

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 31st, 2009
3:01 pm

I’ve actually never heard a man use that phrase. Not “she don’t need a man”, but “she don’t want no man [acting like that]“.

Dan – I have heard it.

For Real

August 31st, 2009
3:01 pm

Ared vs Wings = Chicken and hot sauce

Leggs

August 31st, 2009
3:02 pm

Also being successful in love that leads to marriage and staying married til death do you part because you want to and not because you’re obligated/unhappy to me defines “SUCCESS.”

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 31st, 2009
3:04 pm

For along time I felt like I was unsuccessful because I couldnt hold my family together. I felt I failed.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 31st, 2009
3:06 pm

I like the line in the movie “Notting Hill” when Julia Roberts says to Hugh Grant “I’m just a girl, standing in front of a guy, and wanting him to lover her”.

Randy – That’s my favorite line in that movie.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 31st, 2009
3:07 pm

Afternoon Everybody! I really dont want to speed read so I’ll just ask, are we still on topic??

Infamous – I’ve heard men say that is the reason they wont file for divorce: feeling like they failed to keep family together

For Real

August 31st, 2009
3:07 pm

Ared: “That’s not what it is, really.” – Hit me with the one – two then.

Melo: “For Real now standing on a ladder,wearing high platform shoes,trying to post his new bill board above,proclaiming his availability and ability to protect.” – Naw it ain’t that cause Imma run hell somebody got to tell the story. I just don’t understand why it’s always got to be the chick.

Chick: For Real was sooooo brave he saved me from all of those gay women. Who knew a man could get kicked in the nutts that many time before dying.

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
3:07 pm

For Real – LOL

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:09 pm

For Real – women want a man taller than them so that they can still be shorter than him in heels. :lol:

And cuz tall people rock and no one wants to birth oompa loompas. :lol:

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:09 pm

Infamous a lot of men feel that way. I guess it is an insult to your pride also to have your family fall apart.

As being the head men take on a lot of responsibility and bear a great bit of the burden for the family as a whole. If a family gets put out of the house the focus is automatically on the man for allowing it to be.

Kym-Steeler Nation and Snuggie Cult Member

August 31st, 2009
3:12 pm

@DK I hear that from alot of divorce men and women too.

SexyCool - Insert witty phrase here

August 31st, 2009
3:12 pm

I just feel like a dude that I’m bigger than cannot protect me as well as I can protect myself. I don’t want to be towering over some little dude. It’s all about perspective for me.

I’m 5′10″ and weigh 175. If I can raise my fist and hit you in the top of the head, we ain’t going out.

Besides, most of my gf’s are short. Because I’m taller, I always end up standing behind they can see and be seen. LOL – I always joke that I feel like Security with out with them. I don’t want to feel like I’m on security detail when I’m out with a guy.

Leggs

August 31st, 2009
3:13 pm

@Infamous, that’s a normal feeling to have after a divorce!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 31st, 2009
3:16 pm

Kimmie …that would be my favorite line also if I did not like the one where he says at the press conference, “if this guy Thacker realized he’d been a daft prick and got down on his knees and begged you to stay, would you reconsider” … I may have resembled a “daft prick” a time or two (or three or four times…) myself.

By the way, the first time I was in London, I intentionally went to Notting Hill just because I like that movie so much ;-)

Leggs

August 31st, 2009
3:17 pm

It’s also normal for the woman to feel exactly the same way!

Melo

August 31st, 2009
3:17 pm

I felt I failed-DK

I wld feel i failed if mine disintergrated.As the head honcho, i must be able to convince her to see reason in the event that shes not and focusing on the wrong thangs.
As a man, i must hold sway over my houshold..i must have a manly mentality in evething i do incl a manly delievry(more like that preacher who inspires u).
If my mentality is not and my delivery to her falls short as a consequence,yeah,its my fault.
Otherwise(check this) how did i convince her to be my woman in the 1st place??

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 31st, 2009
3:17 pm

Raqi/Mo – It was the way I was raised.. I was raised in a strong Church of Christ Family.. Mom, grandparents, Uncles, Aunts, Cousins and everybody went to one church.. So it was taught at an early age that you dont get divorced or you are going to h3ll. My family frowns on divorce but when I filed I had to realize that I wasnt living my life for any of them and most arent happy in their marriages.

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:21 pm

Yes, I also think it’s normal to feel like a failure when something you are responsible fails. I think it pushes you to work harder though, so a lot of people find bigger and better successes after failures.

For Real

August 31st, 2009
3:21 pm

“women want a man taller than them so that they can still be shorter than him in heels.” – What if ole buys a pair of those shoes that people wear when one leg is short than the other?

“5′10″ and weigh 175″ – Calling BS ain’t no way you 5′10″ or weight 175lbs. I see you using the Page system of measurement.

“If a family gets put out of the house the focus is automatically on the man for allowing it to be.” – Yeah men get all the blame and none of the glory.

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
3:22 pm

IDK – I think most folks who have gone through a divorce have felt a since of failure……….I don’t wish that on anyone…………and I think it has a lot to do with me wanting to get life “right”. Not perfect, but improved…………….

SexyCool - Insert witty phrase here

August 31st, 2009
3:23 pm

Shut up, For Real. Why would I lie about that? “The Page system of measurement.” ~LMAO~

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 31st, 2009
3:23 pm

@ For Real …what if one the dude’s legs is longer than the other two? That can be a problem, lol.

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
3:24 pm

Failure brings it’s own form of success………………..

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:24 pm

So it was taught at an early age that you dont get divorced or you are going to h3ll.

Infamous what I don’t understand is for those that are in those type of situations why would they not work at trying to make it work since the feel they are “stuck” in it. Why live in misery? If that’s where you got to be and you both agree to that then find a way to bring some happiness or happy tolerance into it.

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:24 pm

What if ole buys a pair of those shoes that people wear when one leg is short than the other?

:lol:

Then we have a whole nother problem to contend with. :lol:

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:26 pm

My sister is 6′3″ and married a guy who was shorter than her. He’s 5′10″

She doesn’t wear high heels anymore and he’s always talking about having some tall kids.

But they have love. :lol:

For Real

August 31st, 2009
3:27 pm

“I think it pushes you to work harder though, so a lot of people find bigger and better successes after failures.” – I agree, when I was just a lil For Real my mom use by me pant with the elastic in the wasit and boy it was hell trying to develop my technique. Like when the pants where new the elastic would be super tight and I couldn’t pull my pants down or worst yet the elastic would snap back pinning my AAD but look at me now. ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:31 pm

ForReal I bet you were one of those little tots that could be caught any day of the week running around the house with a t-shirt and no diaper.

All that zipping you keep doing.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 31st, 2009
3:32 pm

Infamous – “I had to realize that I wasnt living my life for any of them and most arent happy in their marriages.” Aint that the truth! Like I said on here before I was told by my folks “no one knows what its like in your marriage but you and the spouse, so what other folks think/know/want/say dont matter”.

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:32 pm

I wonder if being a tall woman or wanting to be going to go out of style now since ANTM has gotten rid of their height requirement.

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:34 pm

Raqi – I was told the height thing on ANTM was only for that one season. They just did the casting for the newest one and you still had to be 5′7″ or taller.

AmazonRed™ - successful in vacationing

August 31st, 2009
3:34 pm

But :lol: at anyone not wanting to be tall based on ANTM.

Melo

August 31st, 2009
3:36 pm

any day of the week running around the house with a t-shirt and no diaper=NAAAASTY

For Real now plastering the whole kitchen leading to the living room with duuuudu, since he got a stomach prrrrrrr disease/virus!

Wings ()

August 31st, 2009
3:36 pm

@Raqi – Long legs will never go out of style………………

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:41 pm

Why Amazon? I lot of women WANT to be tall because of ANTM. I have heard women describe themselves as ANTM tall and thin. As if ANTM has the market cornered on what’s beautiful and sexy.

LURKER

August 31st, 2009
3:42 pm

that’s why it is sooooo important to know what you want then you can do what works for you.

To me that’s it…in a nutshell. Doesn’t really merit a panel discussion…IMO. I think panels, dicussions, exhaling, venting, bashing, etc., causes the demise sometimes or rather can hinder. It becomes overkill. Just do you, no pretense. Leave out all the extras (where you work, what you make, how much you paid, if you’re high maintenance, blah blah blah). The person should be meeting you…you void of any extras.

Raqi

August 31st, 2009
3:43 pm

Melo my oldest son used to take his diaper off all the time. He only peed the floor once.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 31st, 2009
3:43 pm

Success varies and changes. What I deemed successful in my 20’s I dont think is successful anymore..