Morning everyone! Did’nt Mike Vick look good last night YES Hope you all have a great day in spite of the rain (which we really need) Have a great weekend also

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Good Morning WD, Bloggers

“What do you do in the time that you are between relationships? Focus energy on finding the long term relationship that you actually desire or hit up the single people buffet until you get full?”

Personally I am ONLY looking for a meaningful relationship. Unfortunately therein lies the rub, how can you tell the difference quickly enough to get out before someone gets hurt. I’m in that dilemma right now. One lady likes me a lot (beats me why), very nice, attractive, attentive…but I am unsure that I feel an inclination to take it deeper. Another lady I really want to pursue which frankly is not my style (okay the woman from the other day that had me in a funk did call the next day and is interested…I just have to rein in my own emotions and not get carried away, translate STUPID, in the heat of the moment again).

As shallow as it sounds, I don’t want to let go of the first until I have the second firmly in hand. Now excuse me why I go into the mens room, look at myself in the mirror, and tell myself what an azz I am being.

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I’m not looking to be a lover or a fling, I’m only looking for long term relationship that will lead to marriage, in other words I date to marry, I no longer date for fun. Between time I focus on me, building my spiritual side, fine tuning my attitude and such. Not living so much in the past but remembering events that will help me to not make the same mistakes.

Good rainy morning!

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Personally I am ONLY looking for a meaningful relationship. Unfortunately

eeehh,eehh,my mayne…if i were u,i wld just keep banging them untill it really hits u in the head(dawns on u) that u need to settle down!

I dont think u there yet,given all the nice and beautiful women u say u meet.If u still got hangups, u cant lie to urself nor force issues to settle down.
When the right one comes,u will know and u will harness ur energy towards her ONLY.

OFF TOPIC:
Mayne,its raining cows,donkeys and horses out there.

Congtatulations SWISS,for UR DAY TOMORROW!!

Wish u Many more Buddy…and WELCOME TO THE HARNESS!
ON topic AGAIN:

What do you do in the time that you are between relationships?

Most grown men will tap around untill they find the right one or settle when the right one comes along by destiny.In the meantime, u got feed that raging animal just to keep it in check…hunger aint a good thing,in fact,it can be cause for destructive aggression.Now this may seem to contradict what i said yesterday but it dont,cause that message of abstinance was for ladies.

Guys always feed and prey on the willing and non-abstainers,but cherish and value the tight legged ones!

Morning folks!

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Hey Melo and Dream n …probably right. I just tend to feel very uncomfortable in multiple relationships. I date a lot (made up for lost time during marriage with a vengeance) but I almost always have been one at a time, short duration (once or twice out then either I don’t call back or they get smart and don’t answer). It would not be a problem if most of the wome I dated were biotches, but they aren’t…I screen well before I ever go out.

Oh well. New manager I think just screwed me over. May be time to go to upper management and ask to be transferred into another group. I hate getting comfortable with a chain of command and then get some new hotshot above me who wants to make his mark.

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Three Words Daily – Let it be.

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@Dream – The real question is where is the threshold between being single and breaking off dating with others………..to become exclusive? Because if you’ve been dating, you gotta let them other folks know………….a lot of people keep one foot in the dating pool although they have SO they are trying to get to know…………..drama!

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@ compelling : I agree.. that in between time can give you the much needed break to reevaluate alot of things. SOme people tend to loose themselves in the relationship and once it’s over don’t really know who they are(those people really annoy me lol)

@ Randyt Do you want to be in a relationship or do you enjoy casual dating more (I’m confused)

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No Men dont get caught up in all the hook up legal mumbo jumbo.. We usually date until we find one that shines truer than the others and shes it. Its that simple. Caveman sensibilities.. Me Like you You like Me, I club you real good one evening and hey bingo blammo bango.. Youre the girl.. Now its cutting the loose ends where it gets complicated..

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DK – “Now, its cutting the loose ends where it gets complicated.”

Co-sign.

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Dream – Oh its so refreshing to see a babe unjaded yet.. Confusing emotionally.. Please these old pros can juggle dudes like dudes juggle babes.. Hopefully you dont get there..

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Happy Rainy Friday ya’ll! Wish I could be home enjoying this…..

SCool – co-signing that 10:16

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@Melo

There is a place for the “tight legged one”, but she doesn’t rate more prominent than any other. Whether she’s active or inactive, it’s more about the connection and wanted to investigate or develop it. For guys (disclaimer: only speaking on myself and my crew(s)) the sex is the least of the determining factors for building a relationship.

Won’t say that it [good sex] hurts, but it [great sex] helps as a selling point.

I think DK hit the mark (pause). A guy may “see” any number of women at one time, but until the he’s “feeling” emerges, all else is fun and games.

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IDK – Have you been juggled?

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Tramell – Reading is fundamental.. Read the blog entry not just the name.. Oh and welcome to the blog by the way..

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Wings – Everybody has been juggled.. Everytime a woman tells you shes dating shes juggling.. As long as you see it for what it is there arent any hard feelings..

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ILM – Although she is way off topic………….she has a point………it’s a real equation in the dating pool and in the choices that folks make………….no harm, no foul………just a point of view.

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IDK – So why is dating considered to be juggling and jaded?………I actually think it helps a person know what they want and don’t want in someone……….and you are right we’ve all been juggled.

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Wings – I didnt say dating is Jaded.. I say after you get a certain age juggling occurs.. After a chick has been burned enough she’ll start juggling.. You know the good girl gone bad scenario.. Dream-n aint went bad yet..

Come on now in your 30’s you know what you want and exactly what youre looking for.. Everything else is called collateral damage. Or Incidentals.

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Reading is fundamental.. Read the blog entry not just the name.. Oh and welcome to the blog by the way..
LOL!!! also….. things can be “emotionally confusing” unles the person has no attachment to the other person and it’s just…. dare I sa …SEX. but i honestly belive that if you are dating more that none person and there is an attraction beyond “physical” then it can become draining… IMO…..

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IDK – True women in Atlanta really do appreciate the men that keep it 100!

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Why do women make everything so freakin hard? If you are not in a relationship you date until you are in one. Why all the extra pontification about time and emotions. This is the only country in the world that has soooo many hang-ups about sex. If you like sex then do it. At a certain age your emotions shouldn’t rule you. If they do, do ole boy a favor and just keep it moving. I mean it just ain’t that hard.

Grace: do you tell the dudes you date that you are dating to get married. If so, how soon do you tell them. If not, why?

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WD – If you are lucky it’s a stage if not, it’s your permanent address! lol I say that to say hopefully you make wiser choices instead of juggling.

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For Real – True… Its just not rocket science for men.. But.. Women are emotional creatures even when they try and act like they got a pair..

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For Real ..whats wrong with standards? Shoot not everyone is good in bed.

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@ Melo – How you arrive at your choice is totally up to you…………. I say at some point you should choose and it it should not necessarily be based on weather or not she gave it up!

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Good morning,,, Draft day Saturday and Sunday,,, football season is here!!!

Topic: I hate to hear, Im dating to get married right off the bat… What is that??!?.. Starting the relationship with negative vibes… Causal is always fun…

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LOL Mr Unknown some men date to get married too. I guess you wouldnt be compatible with said person.

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totally up to you=subjective, i agree and said that
it should not necessarily be based on weather or not she gave it up!=i dont necessarily disagree nor agree altho how often she chops it up comes in the equation of most men.
none really crossed the finish line=becoz of ur subective rationale,so we dont disagree=u choose based on ur subjective reasoning.

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Please ladies and gentlemen, don’t get me wrong on this, but…….
Isn’t all this sleeping around the main cause of the widespread STD epidemic in America? I’m just a firm believer of dating only one person at a time. Maybe I’m too old fashioned, but I also care about my body, self-esteem and reputation. I simply refuse to have a sexual relationship with two or more men at once. I just don’t do “casual hook-ups” as most of you call them. If I am like a guy, he knows that I like him and we discuss becoming more serious or he moves the heck over for the next guy to have a chance and the process starts over. I don’t sleep with a guy until I have know him at least 90 days. In those 90 days we discuss many things.

My advice to daters: Please gather some dignity and stop playing chicken with your lives and bodies.

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Chink – Men Dont date to get married they date to get sex.. Mariiage is a byproduct of said sexcapades.. Unless of course she’s Oprah, then we’re trying to marry, impregnate and everything else right away..

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@ THE INFAMOUS DK : Men Dont date to get married they date to get sex.. ?????????? I hope you’re joking….

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Good Mid-Morning All,

I agree with For Real, in other countries there are not this many hangups you date until there is a meeting of the minds..Done.

Off-Topic If you live in Cobb, Clayton,Henry or Fayette Counties…you can’t drive. It is something about folks with those tags…drives me nuts.

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Correction DK there are men who date for marriage. Funny, when I was dating for fun, I ran across a couple of men who stated that they date for marraige, maybe old fashion but……it does make sense, maybe they were at the point in their lives when just getting sex wasn’t the big equation.

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Dream – Im not.. If it were up to men we would never get married.. Whats the use? If we could just live with you, have kids and just be… That would be perfectly fine with us.. The thing is dudes dont need a piece of paper to show how much they love you.. If they love you no matter what no paper says they will die trying to make it right for you.

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“I ran across a couple of men who stated that they date for marraige”

For Real now putting his newly issued MLB decoder ring up against that statement. Translation…..

Saying those words to a chick will get you the draws quicker than saying I can suck a golf ball thru a 42′ waterhose.

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For Real – Nope just dont agree with your free sx philosophy. There have to be some guidlines in choosing a partner.

DK ..I don’t agree some people (men and women) know what they want and they can use their smart head (the one above their shoulders) to come to that conclusion.

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I dont casually date…I can “entertain” myself (dancing, drinking, sightseeing etc., sporting events, see a movie, go to a restaurant, etc.). Dating to be dating is expensive, time consuming, and usually a lousy return on the money/time invested. I only go out with someone to evaluate whether I would want that person to be friend/lover/potential spouse first, to have a good time with while still exploring long term possibilities, second. But to date just to date…not me. That is why I am ususally gone after the first or second date…either I punt or the lady does.

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@sexycool dating to get to know someone IS “dating for marriage.” dating for fun means you’re dating someone you know won’t work out.

“dating for marriage” means you’re dating men who have met the minimum standards for ‘good husband’ and could work out.

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LOL DK

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For Real – LMAO! I ran across dudes that said the same thing Grace mentioned and my take was ‘that means you are dating quite a few women’….cool. Do you playa…I can choose to be involved or not.

SCool – “Everyone that you meet or date is not going to be a match or marriage material for you.” ^5

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Ladies weve talked about it before.. Men dont date to get married.. It a light bulb moment that happens and we say dang I really like this chick… and 17,000 light bulb moments later we think we can marry her..

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@THE INFAMOUS DK
Now that statement I agree with… I don’t think the piece of paper defines the marriage… I think I’m like my dad… I don’t think I’ll get married…. The whole “wedding” isn’t something I’ve dreamed of as a smaill girl lol…I think its perfectly “normal and okay” to be with someone for 15 -20 yrs and not be married… It’s the relationship the connection the love, not the paper.

Attempting to apply logic to (somma) these ladies is a futile endeavour, like looking for a four-leaf clover my dude.

Your “logic” may not be someone else’s logic.. and I don’t even think its logic…it’s all opinions….

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Anon – “dating for marriage” means you’re dating men who have met the minimum standards for ‘good husband’ and could work out.

But…how do you know all that if you JUST MET this person?

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“For Real – Nope just dont agree with your free sx philosophy. There have to be some guidlines in choosing a partner.” – Not sure I understand what you mean by “Free sex” but there should be standard in everything you do especially sex.

Kym: Women do the same thing. I bet Grace does mention the fact she is dating to get married on the first date either. It just ain’t that deep for men. WE LIKE SEX, WE WANT TO HAVE SEX YOU, WE LIKE FOOD, WE WANT TO EAT FOOD, WE LIKE BEER, WE WANT TO DRINK BEER, WE LIKE SPORT, WE WANT TO WATCH SPORTS, WE LIKE QUIET, WE CAN’T GET IT FROM YOU!!!

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I don’t think its a piece of paper its a VOW to your creator and everyone that you going for the long haul.

I halfway agree with this lol… I think its amazing for a man to want to marry.. spend the rest of his life with you, confess this to GOD, friends, family,and associates in a formal way…..but do I think its an absolute necessity.. no. I could very well be happy being with my “soul mate”forever and not marry him. I can still confess my love and undenying commitment to him without the marriage.. idk just my opinion. (maybe i’ll feel different in a couple years)

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“I ran across a couple of men who stated that they date for marraige”

a church chic meets a church dude.

thats the scenario i see that working or old fashioned.
(play cards with ur cards exposed)

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I think some people define dating differently.

In the dictionary – An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.

A date refers to an activity two people share together with the intention of getting to know each other better on a potentially romantic level. This differs greatly from ‘hooking up’ which usually describes a casual get together between two people that may or may not be sexual in nature. Two people who are “dating” therefore, have shared several dates together and have made it clear to one another they are interested in more than just a friendship – even if so far the exchanges have been purely friendly in nature. Dating is, essentially, getting to know someone over an extended period of time to determine if a relationship is something worth pursuing.

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Anon: I’m calling bs on your 11:46. Dating is suppose to be fun. If it isn’t then you are doing something wrong. You meet men at your job that you have come to know are you trying to marry them as well? So, does “dating for marriage” means it want be fun but it could work out sooooooo?

Chink: “I don’t think its a piece of paper its a VOW to your creator and everyone that you going for the long haul.” – So your VOW to your creator isn’t valid without the “paper”?

“Most guys focus on the money part of marriage not the love part when deciding if its worth it.” – Take away the “paper” and money ain’t a thang.

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Good Afternoon Folks!

When I was younger I was always in-between women, I was constantly going out of one relationship into another. Now that I am older that no longer applies to my life, I now take time to reflex on my failing qualities of my past relationships and try to make improvements on what I need to do to substain a a healthy long term relationship.

Fellas, I will disagree with you that all guys want women just for sex! Their are quite a few men in the world whoe seek a wife because they is how they were raised and believe strongly in married!

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I’m over here laughing out loud right now.

So, to the guys that disagree about “dating for sex”, a question:

How long have you, or would you, date a woman that did no engage in sexual congress? How far would that relationship go? Would it lead to marriage, a lifelong friendship, what?

Dan now hearing For Real’s BS alarm sounding loudly in south GA…

NBF, an honest question

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I don’t think that most women necessarily date to get married but preparation is a good thing. Like the blogger yesterday that stuck with a boyfriend through hard times……..she has the makings ……..she understands that in commitment you gotta endure……….some folks don’t have a clue about what it takes to even be remotely committed………….even in friendship.

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Chink – You cant knock me because I dont think marriage is for me.. I believe I would do better with a life partner. Not of the same sex of course but using that moodel..

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How long have you, or would you, date a woman that did no engage in sexual congress?

- 3days….period

How far would that relationship go?

-umm not far

Would it lead to marriage, a lifelong friendship, what?

- sure if i get what i want after 3days we can do whatever

and thats real talk

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Dream_n – That is pure comedy, I was laughing constantly. HAHAHA!

@ Wings- Your 12:17 is on point.

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Not knocking you…but it seems like the concern is your pockets…what about a prenup?

I just think marriage can be a beautiful thing and to paint it in such a negative fashion just doesnt seem right …we all make mistakes.

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Some random thoughts here.

To me, if a guy is just after sex, and the woman already thinks that, that totally empowers the woman. Someone told me many years ago that the women have all of the power, they have half of the money and 100% of the (you know what) which gives them the power. I know I am kind of weird, but I tell all of the women I get involved with (when the topic arises, and it always arises) that if and when “it” happens, it is entirely up to them. You would be amazed how free a woman can be if she thinks/believes/understands that she is driving. (For the record most ladies most ladies have no problem saying “I’d like to…” if you just give them the freedom

Am I saying that was my “goal” or “plan”, nope…just saying let the lady decide and the result is often remarkably quick and pleasant. Please a woman and shw will please you. It happens naturally (helps that I have made a major study of kissing techniques etc. though, lol).

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@ Kym re “blue balls hanging”…see my 12:27 lol.

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@randy…3days player…or i am bouncing…lol

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Chink – I dont knock marriage. I just dont want to do it for me. i applaud anyone who wants to get married and will tell them the truth about it.. Tell them some areas where I wasnt successful in my marriage and stress the need for counselling before they do jump the broom.

Again I see beautiful marriages and my friends are always trying to hook me up but they understand what I want these days. Believe it or not Im not the only person who feels this way. I met someone recently who feels exactly like i do.. Its not that odd.

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Randy – No dude is out there soliciting I hope.. I hope they have more tact than that.. Im just speaking to the basics.. the end of the road.. A dude wants these key pieces of life.. Food, Sex, peace and comfort. Not necessarily in that order..

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Dk You started it with this

If it were up to men we would never get married.. Whats the use? ….

But I digress I don’t think its odd how you feel …

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Afternoon folks!

Lovely rainy day – I hope it’s raining like this until around noon tomorrow.

Nothing to add to this discussion…

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@Randy

I’m not saying that goal (as in the only reason that I am dating someone) is sex. I’m with you on “if it happens, it happens”. I’m also in the “no means no”, “that’s how they got Tyson and Pac”, and “I don’t take anything that is not offered” camps.

My point is that no male or female is spending time with another person without a motive.

I’m just a lot more upfront about mine being sex. I don’t shy away from it because I believe in informed consent. Hence: “I’m not in this to be just your friend, and if that is your goal, I’m out.”

All else is (IMO) lying to yourself, her, or both.

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@Rell

3 days? For real homie, only 3 days?
Git it how you feel it

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folks are continuing to expand the boundaries of love TRUE!

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Well, I got the gig that I interviewed for…a small step to a bigger plan…oh yeah!!!!

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off topic: Tomorrow is MJ’s B-day… think i’m going to bring out the CD’s again

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Chink – I still think youre swell though..

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DK – I have my moments also ..its all to the good! Just practicing on my debate with my SO who is a divorcee…lol

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@ Eiljah :Some of the ladies are very curious as too why I have not touch on the sex topic! So they will bring up the subject and when that happens I am going to pounce on you like a lion chasing a buffalo!

I almost spit up my soda lol

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Chink – Nah you better stay away from marriage conversations.. because if its one thing a divorcee knows is when the time is right for them to get married.. If you put any extra on it.. He will be in the wind.

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melo Yes, I’m still holding strong. I’m still on my love high and this discussion is a little bit of a downer, LOL.

M’ Congratulations Lady!

Dan Thank you – I’ll accept all congratulations from here until I’m in the grave. Shoot, there might be some days I need a random one to remind me of how I feel right now.

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melo – I may have misinterpreted your question – but I’m still holding strong in my love haze.

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DK actually he brings it up…and we talk about it. Oh they dont leave that easily…lol. By the way I am a lady and forcing men to marry me isn’t on my agenda.

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Time limit on sex…if it happens it happens..I think the longest I have waited was 3 months…but that was an oddity….Just keeping it real some women want it just as bad as men do and will have sex quickly….then will try and work out the particulars later…folks tend to forget it takes two……

On the inbetween relationships actions..it depends on where my mind is…sometimes I can just be flowing and going out..other times I can be looking for a particular thing. Some men need lightbulb moments…so men have focus on what their goals are to be and act on them….it’s real easy to sit back and play armchair quarterback..but until that blitz comes at you in real life you dont know what you will do..will you stay in the pocket or will you roll out……………………

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Afternoon All,

I can partially agree with Rell. I mean to a point Women know after about 20 mins if a brother has potential. After that and 1-2 dates if the brother is up front and good at wht he does he can filter the fairy tale BS. By the 3rd date he usually has already made a conscious decision to bounce, stick it out or smash this tonight. 9 times out of 10 that decision is directly related to his options. Or in rell’s case his mood. It really is that simple most of the time. Whether women admit it or not it usually is that simple for them also until they get to thinking too much or reading books.

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Chink – Yeah U act like your honey pot is from another galaxy.. I remember now..

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Dk It is…*wink*

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Dream’n – Just because I gave it him doesn’t mean I don’t value it, it just means I wanted to fck too.

And for the record, I know I don’t have the only good-good in the world. Mine is not the answer to world peace or the end of the recession. It’s just the piece that I happen to carry around with me.

Some chicks place too much value on THAT and not enough on themSELVES.

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Willie- I have yet to spend 20 minutes with a guy and know he has potential…most of the time I am trying to figure out whats a lie and whats the truth???

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DK- I think your 1:27 is very attractive to some women.. Personally, I don’t like any dude bringing up sex or referencing sex on any date I am on with them UNLESS we have already been there..

I don’t understand that whole “first, second, third date” thing in regards to sex. Seems childish to me. I once met this dude & he started talking about that whole counting down dates to sex thing to me & that ruined it for him with me.. It is a turn ff to me when a man talks about sex all the time if we are trying to get to know one another. Automatically go in a “friend zone”

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But then again its the whole package DK…nothing wrong with knowing your worth…I aint prancing around like I got it like that…but I still am aware of my own worth. Silent but Deadly…let me stop playing

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Chink- I agree w your 1:36

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Chink – you telling me after 20 minutes you haven’t figured out whether to give a dude another 20 mins or not? At that point I’m sure you already had the he can get it and lets see what else he is about convo in your mind.

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WOW… lol
IMO… if I value myself… what’s between my legzz are a part of that. I’m not going to sleep with you on the first night I meet you… the 2nd night, or even the 3rd… that’s just me to each its own. I know people who have had sex on the first date and are still together after 2-3 yrs going strong… It’s just me:)

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i have the unfortunate luck of meeting women after they have got the “slut” out of em…like they meet me and want to build a relationship or take there time – nope..give me what you gave the last brother…lol

OMG – Three days til bang bang or you’re jetskee, can only make one conclude you “victims” are members of sluts r’ us. If it’s three days til bang bang, trust there’s some “slut” still happening. It all make sense now. SMH tsk tsk tsk

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@Lioness what is happening? How you doin?

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I agree with Lioness(cant believe I said that) but having sex within the first week is the same as the first night in my mind

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we know you are knocking the backs out on a daily basis

- i wish…but i am not…the energy i stick out there is one of comfort..plus i am a good listener..so half the time i am talking to a women i feel like larry king…..i dont say much….i am just telling you i see the play…i am neo and i see the dayum matrix for what it is not for what i want it to be…some of yall are full of ish period…most women upfront need plenty of dates and phone convo…and she is good with that….

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you telling me after 20 minutes you haven’t figured out whether to give a dude another 20 mins or not? At that point I’m sure you already had the he can get it and lets see what else he is about convo in your mind

WOW….so not really (the already had the he can get it part)

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Willie…I am not thinking “he can get it” …more along the lines oh he seems nice or he’s a jerk…his breathe stinks or he has nice teeth….he works _______ or he is trying to sleep with me …..I already know he is attractive now I am trying to figure out what he is about.

Most of the times when I even suggest I might “do” someone its a fantasy guy like LL Cool J or something and I really Dont mean it.

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Dream_n, did u say u are 24,thereabout??

Tazzee, u answered good..

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Sybil – We know that game too.. Ya’ll try to space the Dongs out a day or two so you wont look like bad to yourself.. I got one for you.. That time we half hit you during sex was because we hit her right before we came over.

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@Melo currently 23… by the years end i’ii be 24

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@sybil….yep your sooooooooooooooooooooo right…one guy gets the goods..and the other is good for painting your house, fixing things…etc etc

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Dream’n – Just because I gave it him doesn’t mean I don’t value it, it just means I wanted to fck too.

And for the record, I know I don’t have the only good-good in the world. Mine is not the answer to world peace or the end of the recession. It’s just the piece that I happen to carry around with me.

@SexyKOOL you are on top of your game! Consistent common sense stating in regards to the realites of relationship!

THREE WORDS….. SEXYCOOL GOODIES CAN SOLVE WORLD HUNGER!

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That’s consistent common sense statements in regards to the realities of relationships!

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@ Eiljah : And that’s fine lol… again its just me. Some people think giving up sex isn’t everything and others hold it on a higher pedastool….. it’s just difference of opinion.. neither one is right or wrong:)

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Melo currently 23… by the years end i’ii be 24

Dream_n,okay…i was following ur convo with Rell:

i wld say stick it out and be brave about it..dont follow the guys head games about sexx(coz thats what they are..head games)…be consistent.
If u want to know the guy be4 u sleep,i wld say do that,thats a better way to do it…but demonstrate thru ur ways that u are not a slut but a lady.No mixed messages.
Let the chips fall where they may.If hes serious about u,he wil wait,if not,he wasnt meant for u.
Now,that advice may not wrk for someone who is experienced in the game and knows and likes the smell and taste of salt.

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By the way I appreciate when a man puts his manhood on a pedestal also…knowing he aint swinging it around up and down the street ..I can respect that.

Just like you should be mindful about what you put in your body outside is just as important…

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@sybil….word…i am glad somebody is feeling me…be real folks!!

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@ For Real — lol not literally hahahahhaha

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Hands down kissing! locking lips, licking lips, swirling tongues. French kissing. so much passion.

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some men are NOT great kisser, more like kissing Kent, hard plastic

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Elijah – Just giving you glimpses of the view from my window on the world.

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Kissing…absolutely more. Like Julia Roberts’ friend said in “Pretty Woman”…”never ever kiss a john on the lips”.

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Some women want it that way so that THEY don’t run into their man

- so whats wrong with my 72hr rule….again i am not the strawberry-kiwi dude….

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LMBO Lioness, how are you girlie?

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so whats wrong with my 72hr rule

I guess that its rule not a “choice”

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Sybil,so have u ever found urself being in that situation: the 11.30 /12.00 midnite bed headboard chic??

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yeah kissing is more intimate to me also…i will serve her the wood before i kiss her

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@Melo, When I was younger, by happenstance. These days, should I allow headboard bangage ONLY, it’s by choice.

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Grace- Hey Lady! I am doing spectacular How are you?

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There is nothing wrong with getting your back blown out but all that banging the head up on the headboard stuff is SOOO not necessary! I kind of think of it as a form of disrespect You could risk biting your tongue and that ish hurts like heck!!!

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@ Melo (2:04)– nicely stated

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When I was younger, by happenstance..thank u coz that fosters and strengthens Dream_n’s position..she young.

If she gets dyckkmatized,she be in trble.Control,yes she will have but its self deception.
Self control to indulge is no control,its more of self deception and addiction.
Better limit the potential for that thogt when she young.

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Chink- Pls say you are joking!! If you aren’t, you’ve been getting f*cked all along

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Lioness I’m just lovely now that I have some oreo cookies and a glass of milk

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Lioness

What happen? W8 said he doesnt kiss …I was just wondering how he can bypass not kissing someone into having sx…I do think oral is intimate

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@ Rell …so are you suggesting that if I jump the fence and start seeing a sista, I need to eat before I get there? lol.

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@Randy…yes!! Eat before you get there

“New Pu$$y can’t cook”– Chris Rock

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@ Melo…probably do a soft slow “box step” around the kitchen to some soft music while the food is cooking…glass or two of wine (I’m taking two bottles just in case she is thirsty) then probably Scrabble, or work cross word puzzles or something, lol.

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thank u Sybil

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So, based on what you all are saying about a new woman cooking for your for the first time, should I make sure I ‘love myself’ before I have sex with you for the first time?

Because some New D!ck can’t phck!

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At the end of the day..find someone who brings you more peace than drama..and have fun making it work

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What is the big deal with cooking? You can’t cook for just any man cause the mfer won’t know how to act..

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@sybil..do you have 72hrs…i am flucking like i just got released yesterday…lol

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Foreplay to me is putting in the flick and pouring my first drink. Shortly thereafter, I’m rammin it in, dry or not. Three minutes later, I’m snoring. What’s up yall, It’s been a minute.

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You can’t cook for just any man cause the mfer won’t know how to act..
Aint that the truth….me cooking on the 1st date will not happen

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LMAO- I am glad I know how to cook for myself…lmao

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Chink- are you Blasian or something…just wondering

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Hey Dushawn!

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lol so some of yall’s cooking skills are better than your bedroom skills…lmao

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Rell- Your 2:44 made me laugh out loud BUT your 2:45 made me Make sure you wrap your vienna up tight!

Du- Lawd! At least you are keeping it real!

Melo- Wine puts my tail to BED asap!

I am REAL skeptical about ppl cooking for me cause not a lot of ppl have kitchen etiquette. Too many nasty ppl out here. WASH YOUR MEAT & HANDS PPL

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Grace- That ish they make fluffy biscuits with

Melo- It means ” I am hungry” That’s all

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lol@Murray Hair Greast…LMAO…heyalll nawwwwwwwwww…..who has murray hair grease “at the ready” anyway?

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Yeah I wash before I piss and after

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W8/Randy- Ya’ll need to wash your hands before touching the cupcake PERIOD! No hand sanitizer.. Soap & water

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Is the topic sex? *looking around*

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Lioness:and when u cook for him,it means u hungry for him too?

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“I don’t even know you & I hate ur guts. I hope all the bad things in life happen to you and nobody else but you”- Hater’s Ball..dave chapelle show

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astroglide on deck!

@ly o ness….astroglide is for straight anal action…so i take it you like it in the sh it pit….do you have 72hrs..lol

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Melo- I cook all the time because I enjoy it a lot. it doesn’t have anything to do with sex.

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DU ~ LMA:lol: ! I can’t be the only one who misses ya when ya gone…

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“Soap & water” Yup, for all parties and all appendages or it aint happening…and as an aside, the male needs to remember where all of his usable parts have been during the process too or the woman can get a rash that will guarantee that will never happen again. I know, but am unsure other dudes do.

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Murray’s awwww hell naw Du. I don’t believe that…. Ish he would have had to spit in the grease and then rub it in his palms for 3mins just to get it to loosen up. Plus I bet your boy had a shine on his wang that lasted for a week.

Chick: Oh baby pull it out!

Du’s Boy: Yeah here you go girllll.

Chick: WTF!!!

DB: What?

Chick: Who you let put chicken grease on your wang?

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SexyCool! lmao. man down.

W8- yeah! lol

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Page,when u cook for a man,if u do,does that have a special meaning to the relationship? Wld u be open to getting laid that day?

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ohhhhhhhh omg. ok someone said they used Sulfur 8 grease for lube?!!! *gagging*

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Melo- what does cooking have to do with me willing to get laid that day? are you serious? ummmmmmmm if i cook when i am in a relationship its because i want to.

For Real! lmao yeah u do!

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Eli- Washing, lips and mouth before touching the Johnson is a must!<–Yousa DAMN lie!

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@Page- Yeah I owe you some sex also…dang so do alot of other folks…some women owe you sex also…Page girl you get it in…

@Elijah- Hold on a minute..now I dont know if she needs to wash her lips and mouth before performing oral sex…what about “road head”?

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Rell- You must have had a TUBE steak for lunch or are craving one for dinner..

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W8- shuttup *mean muggin*

Melo- like i said i cook when i want to. it has nothing to do with wanting to get laid. if that is what Chink does, then that is her.

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Melo- I cooks cause I am hongry! Nothing to do with love!

W8- Hope you get all teeth on her way back up

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“If the head right w8 there everynight” stolen from the Notorious B.I.G.

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Melo- like i said i cook when i want to

i understand that Page..do u cook for any man or only for the one u digging,when u do…other than cooking for urself?
(is this hard?)

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i mention taht I am having a dinner cooked for me tonight and things have spun totally out of control. Actually that is probably what a blog should do

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W8- Poor thing You must get most of your sexcapades from Craigslist with that freaky ish..

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Melo all u need to do is ask me a direct question. your comment about being tight in the draws is not only rude, but unnecessary and irrelevant. you always do that. you have no tact. like i said again, i cook for my man and for friends. if the friends are men, then yes i cook for them too. it’s not that big of a deal for me.

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@W8 that is why I keep some mouthwash in the car! I am always ready to get the ROAD HEAD!

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I dont get the Craiglist joke?

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@Elijah ****Warning***Warning** BS Alert*** Sorry I didn’t catch that over the siren.

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W8- Next thing you will type will be that you like to have hooks inserted in your back & hung will getting head.. Craigslist type of ish

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Ya’ll cats mean to tell me ya’ll messing with chicks with dirty hands.. Boy ya’ll better catch these chicks with that hand sanitizer on em so they can give you a manual anywhere. She aint gotta run and wash her hands..

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hmmm I guess I am just nasty cuz if my girl wants to go down on me..wherever we are..I aint thinking about no mouth wash etc….guess im just a nasteeee mutha phuckkkaaaaaa

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Rell- I agree! Real skills there!!

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draws is not only rude, but unnecessary and irrelevant. you always do that. you have no tact

i know Page, im gon try and stop doing that…
i cant know,unless i ask or make a mistake..so u dont like those type of qstions,right Page??

so we cool now Page..??
u a good girl..

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hey ev1!

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she better do it with some hands if she aint deep throating…and dont forget to cup the balls…..this has been a PSH service announcement brought to you by ZIPPPPPPPPP

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Remember this ladies…. someone posted it awhile back and for those of us dating to marry, please keep in mine.

On topic: Most guys get to a point where they accept a woman into their heart. It is not the same as dating but its when he says this is mine and thats that light switch moment. Five seconds before that moment he doesn’t know its coming but its the way she does something, says something, or does nothing at all. Usually that moment has more to do with a whole lotta things other than sex, her push up bra, or her Mac make-up. She’s allowed into his inner circle and can even visit his cave. She’s raised to another level in his mind and heart, the position is hers and no other woman can take it, though she can give it away.
Any woman making powers plays before that moment is heading for disaster. After that she has a very receptive ear. Its the exact same as a cat trying to get with you before your ready to give it to him. Its pathetic.
So ladies, do like my mom told me when i showed interest in women. “Be patient” I still remember the day she told me that, though it took awhile to figure out exactly what she meant.
And yes, though love can happen in an instance it takes time to get to that point. My theory is its where love meets respect.

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Page just likes to cook

yeah,she sounds kinda innocent and puieer(ebonics for pure) in all this!

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LOl@DK

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MsM-And yes, though love can happen in an instance it takes time to get to that point<– I agree

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thug nasty…nasty thug

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@Dk…. Man Law number 2,100. Always stick with the homies!

@Kym…. You need to test drive this new hybrid engine before you run!

@Lioness…. Mouthwash is for bad breathe! You might have eaten some tuna fish or something!

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Personally I would have preferred less food and more “you know what”.

u funny boy!

how old are u again……???

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Randy…I put my soul into cooking its like a art for me…so I get tired…thankfully my SO is like you he dont want me in the kitchen long

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Randy- I agree.. Cooking & washing clothes is not a term of endearment but neither is sex TO ME.. Spending regular time together means a bunch to me.. Wrestling, playing Wii etc. Saying I love you & meaning IT!!!!

Chink- Glad you did

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Melo not at Woodstock, but definitely remember it…that is as close I will say, lol.

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Elijah – Ionknow sometimes you be breakin our balls in here.. But its glad to know youre apart of the No Ma’am Club..

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“swirl” ?

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W8 If at anytime a woman smells like fish anywhere she will get a swift kick in her azz or punched in the throat for trying to do something with me….

You ARE CRAZY !!! LOL

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Eli- Tuna breathe is HORRIBLE! Mouthwash isn’t doing JACK to curb that issue! TRUST

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Page..you aint right..you just aint right

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I heard a bad joke once about “a certain something” that smelled like the “shytehouse door off of a tuna boat”. Don’t think I will go there though. Restraint…for a change, lol.

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Randy- a woman needs to feel loved to want sex<– If in a long relationship.. I agree

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Randy, swirl means dating outside of your race.

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W8 right…the respect is 1st, sex is #2 I agree…although I may have allowed #2 to get ahead of #1 once or twice (purely by accident of course, lol).

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Sorry Rell *another sad face*

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Melo- I agree

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@Lioness…What do you know about the Tuna Fish breathe? Are you an expert?

Women must be ready to sexually please us at all times! Man Law number 3!

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Well All, have a great weekend. I have to go get a couple of bottles of wine and an angel food cake (hmmm, wonder if I should get some Cool Whip too, lol).

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W8 can u make me some strawberry shortcake, pleaseeeeee?

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Eli- Nope.. Don’t eat tuna but I have been around a few folks that love it.. I don’t do stank breathe PERIOD!! Don’t care what the cause of it is

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at WD

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@Man Law amendment…..

1. Man Law number 1. Women must respect men and be ready to sexual please us at all times!

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@randy…superman dat….lol

@ly o ness…whats your phone namber

mayne i am about to bust this thing wide open in about an hr…..i have alot of energy and i am straight snatching folks tawwwwwwwwwwnight….lol

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Eli- Men MUST respect themselves FIRST by respecting the woman that they want to respect them THEN her drawls will always come off as soon as she sees him!

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@Chink- Page does the bootleg version also..but its good

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Page- does the food…Kimmie does the desserts..speaking of which…I am missing a pie and cake

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Diva- Call it & find out.. Should be your laugh of the afternoon..
I have a couple of topics for you.. What’s you email addy?

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LOL bootleg strawberry shortcake? well, i love it. gracias mijo W8. i’m glad u enjoyed it.

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Rell- HA! You don’t have my # dude & you know this Mannnnn

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Ared- I love it when a woman can be real & not put up a front like they ONLY have sex with ppl they are in relationships.. What up chica

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@Ared- What up..

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I wld like to thank my LORD in advance for my lottery winnings this evening!

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I guess I will type this again without the expletives. The blog ate the first one. One of our modern day poets stated ” A WOMAN’S LIFE IS LOVE, A MAN’S LOVE IS LIFE.” ( lil brother for the hip hop heads)If you think about it. that’s real talk. A lot of women define themselves by their relationships. Dudes fall in love when the timing is right. On a side note, I recently discovered what “tea baggin” is. Are yall hip to that?

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lol @ lioness and rell.

ared- hey. your Poopie has been waiting for you. lol

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tea baggin” is. Are yall hip to that?

Nope..but im Mandingo,so im excused a lil….
say it

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Hey to you as well, Ms Celie!

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umm I know that’s not your real phone number, is it Lioness?

I’m sure we can translate 212.660.2245 to
PHO.ONA.SIMP (PHONE A SIMP) DES.PER.RADO (DESPERADO) or GET.YA.CLOWN (GET YA CLOWN)or SLU.TSA.REUS (SLUTS ARE US) or FOR.DUM.MIES (FOR DUMMIES) or THE.DUM.BONE. (THE DUMB ONE) or NAS.TYS.TICK (NASTY STICK) and last but certainly not least NAS.TYA.SEVA (NASTY AS EVA)

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who wants to go with me to watch the movie Final Destination? i wanna see that.

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lol Miss Celie. girl, u need to take that quiz. Staceye is Miss Sophia! go figure lol

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LURKER-

Du- That is SOOOOO not sexy! Dude squatting over me is NOT the move! Scary if you ask me

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TEA BAGGING – HE MIGHT BOO BOO ON ME BY MISTAKE NO CAN DO!

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Diva- I think you will find my topic interesting and if you would like me to blog about it then I would do so to help out Not sexually

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ok Mo cool. we’ll see what’s jammin on the one for this weekend.

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Page – All those damn quizzes irk the HELL out of me. Why do folks have to publish them all to their newsfeeds? I’m anti-quizzes. My azz is probably Shug Avery.

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@Melo-di u just say “finger him and clutch his balls”? hell no…aint nobody fingering me

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So yall will put a wang in your mouth but not nuts..do you atleast lick the nuts?

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Who doesn’t lick nuts? Like for real.. I could understand not licking tail but nuts is a GO

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You better be as nasty and as freaky as you mate requires you to be whether you are male or female..because if that desire is there it will get quenched somewhere…………..

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Who doesn’t lick nuts? Like for real.. I could understand not licking tail but nuts is a GO

Lioness – That’s a good azz question. I thought that went hand and hand with oral pleasures. LOL

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W8- And your point Is??????????????????????????????? Dude could get the hell on & get his quenched cause BET she can get he cupcake frosted & defrosted

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You better be as nasty and as freaky as you mate requires you to be whether you are male or female..because if that desire is there it will get quenched somewhere…………..

SOOOO I SHOULD HO DOWN A NOTCH OR TWO TO QUENCH HIS THIST AND WHEN I’M ALL USED UP HE’LL FLOG SOME OTHER WENCH? I TROW NOT! YOU CAN BE AS EVENTIVE AND CREATIVE WITHOUT SOMEONE HO-ING YOU OUT. YEAH, I’LL DO IT IF YOU LICK MY BUTT HOLE. WHAT DO I TELL THE DOCTOR WHEN I’M EXPLAINING MY ILLNESS IS A RESULT OF BOO BOO GETTING DUMPED BY A MISTAKE AND WAS ALL IN THE NAME OF FUN. PLEASE! IDLE THREATS. IF IT’S GONNA MAKE ME NASTY, I’LL GET THE DOOR FOR YA!

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Ared- Howsa about licking tail? That is something that I would need to take a Xanax to do..

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@Lurker- aint nothing wrong with being a ho for your man or woman…i mean you are supposed to be everything to that person right?..Yeah I will lick my womans azz…so what?

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Looks like w8 thought u met some anal action on male

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LIONESS

NOT PARTICULARLY BUT IF IMMA BE THE LICKER I AIN’T GONNA BE THE ONLY SUCKER SUCKING

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The TAIL subject is one that makes my stomach queezy

Just the wetness back there & how it tickles..

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Sorry comments all messed up good weekend to all

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Have a great weekend ya’ll!

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LMAO @ “Pretty Wang”

Now I’m going to be calling “Pretty Wings” that…:lol:

I would wish all a good weekend, but I’ll still be sitting here waiting on my damn flight. Damn rain.

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Just the wetness back there & how it tickles

so like Angie,u in a drought Lioness?

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Melo- Go teabag something

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@Wise- Well it is Friday..and i do have a wang…lmao

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I included ur name on the spreadsheet Lioness…..
trying to match that with the fellow thirty male hustlers

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Have an EXTRAORDINARY weekend All

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@Lurker- I really dont think about it past..”okay you dont suck d*ck…see ya later…kick rocks”

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@Lurker- I really dont think about it past..”okay you dont suck wang…see ya later…kick rocks”

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This reminded me of a girl I met a few years back who thought that doing it doggy style was disrespectful to a woman…I never even knew yall existed

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