In Between Men
Ok, not literally between men. The title refers to the time when a single woman is not in an exclusive relationship but has a couple of suitors on deck who could definitely make a great candidate. I think for a lot of women this time can extend longer than expected or desired. Then she’s left with the dilemma: do I pursue casual hookups in the meantime or wait for Mr. Right (aka Mr. Right around the corner, Mr. Right for you, Mr. Right on TIME).
I don’t think this is an issue for men as much, is it? Do guys ever consider the idea of casual hooking up with one woman a deterrent to having a long-term relationship with another one? Is it necessary to do the meaningless booty calls and random hook ups if you actually want to build something with someone you feel connected to?
What do you do in the time that you are between relationships? Focus energy on finding the long term relationship that you actually desire or hit up the single people buffet until you get full?
What do you think is the best course of action if you really desire a long term relationship?
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Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
4:04 pm
Melo
August 28th, 2009
4:05 pm
speaking of Woodstock Randyt, i was just thinking the other day that,if we ever have another woodstock or similar version,the Cleaning crew will have a hard time picking up all the used condoms!
Elijah
August 28th, 2009
4:05 pm
@Man Law amendment…..
1. Man Law number 1. Women must respect men and be ready to sexual please us at all times!
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:05 pm
Randy- Enjoy your weekend! You sound like a wonderful man
Enjoy!
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
4:06 pm
@randy…superman dat….lol
@ly o ness…whats your phone namber
mayne i am about to bust this thing wide open in about an hr…..i have alot of energy and i am straight snatching folks tawwwwwwwwwwnight….lol
Chink
August 28th, 2009
4:07 pm
strawberry shortcake is my absolute fav!
I do the bootleg sometimes Pound Cake with whipped cream and fresh strawberries..hmmm hmmm
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:07 pm
Eli- Men MUST respect themselves FIRST by respecting the woman that they want to respect them THEN her drawls will always come off as soon as she sees him!
W8©
August 28th, 2009
4:07 pm
@Page- that whole meal was delicious…
W8©
August 28th, 2009
4:08 pm
@Chink- Page does the bootleg version also..but its good
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:09 pm
Rell- (212) 660-2245
Hit me up tonight after your Tube steak dinner
W8©
August 28th, 2009
4:09 pm
Page- does the food…Kimmie does the desserts..speaking of which…I am missing a pie and cake
Wise Diva
August 28th, 2009
4:11 pm
umm I know that’s not your real phone number, is it Lioness?
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:13 pm
Diva- Call it & find out.. Should be your laugh of the afternoon..
I have a couple of topics for you.. What’s you email addy?
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
4:14 pm
@WD…OF COURSE ITS NOT REAL….i have her real number…i just dont use it nomo….lol….what it do lieoness…lol
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
4:15 pm
LOL bootleg strawberry shortcake? well, i love it. gracias mijo W8. i’m glad u enjoyed it.
AmazonRed™
August 28th, 2009
4:15 pm
Good afternoon folks.
I’ve never been thirsty or desperate enough to take on a maintenance man, friend with benefit or cut buddy while in between relationships. I enjoy not having the stress or pressure that sex brings.
It’s just easier for me to enjoy life and keep myself primed and ready for the next relationship.
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:15 pm
Rell- HA! You don’t have my # dude & you know this Mannnnn
Dream_n
August 28th, 2009
4:15 pm
lol… got’s to love Fridays:)
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:17 pm
Ared- I love it when a woman can be real & not put up a front like they ONLY have sex with ppl they are in relationships.. What up chica
Tazzee
August 28th, 2009
4:17 pm
Lioness – hey lady! Long time no read.
What’s everyone doing this weekend?
W8©
August 28th, 2009
4:19 pm
@Ared- What up..
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:19 pm
Tazz- Hey Sugar Plum.. Had to go on a diet from this piece
May be back for good.. We’ll see.. Depends if I find a MAN this weekend.. If I do, I am gone 4eva!! 
Melo
August 28th, 2009
4:19 pm
I wld like to thank my LORD in advance for my lottery winnings this evening!
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
4:20 pm
@lioness…yes i do…i got it from you that day we were all on three way couple months back…but hey bee lee what you want
DuShawn
August 28th, 2009
4:21 pm
I guess I will type this again without the expletives. The blog ate the first one. One of our modern day poets stated ” A WOMAN’S LIFE IS LOVE, A MAN’S LOVE IS LIFE.” ( lil brother for the hip hop heads)If you think about it. that’s real talk. A lot of women define themselves by their relationships. Dudes fall in love when the timing is right. On a side note, I recently discovered what “tea baggin” is. Are yall hip to that?
Melo
August 28th, 2009
4:21 pm
Depends if I find a MAN this weekend
Lioness??
u have juggled 2 men in space of 9 months, a swiss and another,uncategorized..whats goin on??
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
4:22 pm
lol @ lioness and rell.
ared- hey. your Poopie has been waiting for you. lol
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:22 pm
Rell- You are a NUT!! Why would I give you my #? We had nothing to talk about.. You & my homegirl chatted it up.. I had no interest in the convo.
Melo
August 28th, 2009
4:22 pm
tea baggin” is. Are yall hip to that?
Nope..but im Mandingo,so im excused a lil….
say it
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:23 pm
Melo- Life.. Life.. I get bored easily
Wise Diva
August 28th, 2009
4:23 pm
wise.diva@gmail.com send them in!! Also, if you are interested in guest blogging, let me know. Ya girl needs a break, for realz
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:23 pm
Melo- What if dude has HUGE balls?? Whose mouth opens up that big?
Wise Diva
August 28th, 2009
4:24 pm
if anyone is interested, let me know. I am open to looking at them and possibly posting them.
AmazonRed™
August 28th, 2009
4:24 pm
Lioness – I have had sex outside of a relationship but it has been with someone I’ve actively been dating and not just me trying to get my physical needs met.
W8 – Hey boo.
AmazonRed™
August 28th, 2009
4:25 pm
Hey to you as well, Ms Celie!
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:25 pm
Diva- Will do but it may be my first & last time cause you know I am raunchy.. Maybe I will do a Friday set
HA!
LURKER
August 28th, 2009
4:25 pm
umm I know that’s not your real phone number, is it Lioness?
I’m sure we can translate 212.660.2245 to
PHO.ONA.SIMP (PHONE A SIMP) DES.PER.RADO (DESPERADO) or GET.YA.CLOWN (GET YA CLOWN)or SLU.TSA.REUS (SLUTS ARE US) or FOR.DUM.MIES (FOR DUMMIES) or THE.DUM.BONE. (THE DUMB ONE) or NAS.TYS.TICK (NASTY STICK) and last but certainly not least NAS.TYA.SEVA (NASTY AS EVA)
DuShawn
August 28th, 2009
4:25 pm
Tea baggin = female on her back, dude squattin over her, dippin sack in her mouth like a tea bag..lol.
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
4:26 pm
who wants to go with me to watch the movie Final Destination? i wanna see that.
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
4:26 pm
its been real kids….have a good weekend
that includes witch hazel and lie n a zz….lol
its ya bwoi!!
@du…lil brother is my fave…and thats real spit right there
for some reason when i blog it messes with my energy….hmmmmm might have to look into that…i went from not needing a beer to needing one all since i hoped on this here blog…wow
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
4:27 pm
lol Miss Celie. girl, u need to take that quiz. Staceye is Miss Sophia! go figure lol
AmazonRed™
August 28th, 2009
4:29 pm
WiseDiva – You do need a break. You have done an excellent job holding it down solo though.
Hill Harper has a relationship book coming out on Sept 8 called “The Conversation: How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships”
I plan on supporting and I can write some blogs on it if you’d like.
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:29 pm
LURKER-
Du- That is SOOOOO not sexy! Dude squatting over me is NOT the move! Scary if you ask me
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 28th, 2009
4:29 pm
Page1908 – Im witcha chica! I wanna see that movie too!
LURKER
August 28th, 2009
4:29 pm
TEA BAGGING – HE MIGHT BOO BOO ON ME BY MISTAKE NO CAN DO!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 28th, 2009
4:30 pm
ARed – I plan on getting that book as well, I read an interview he did in Essence and it seems like a good read
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
4:30 pm
Diva- I think you will find my topic interesting and if you would like me to blog about it then I would do so to help out
Not sexually
Melo
August 28th, 2009
4:31 pm
I wld rather not be, between females.
I would rather be between her leggs…..
What if dude has HUGE balls??
u doing sme wrong…how do u get to the point of opening ur mouth without knowing hiz size balls….u do that,finger him and clutch his balls as u tease each other be4 u even get there.Thats why cooking 4 him is so important….
want me to give u a class..??
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
4:32 pm
ok Mo cool. we’ll see what’s jammin on the one for this weekend.
Wise Diva
August 28th, 2009
4:33 pm
No, Melo, no classes on the blog please, LOL