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In Between Men

Ok, not literally between men.  The title refers to the time when a single woman is not in an exclusive relationship but has a couple of suitors on deck who could definitely make a great candidate. I think for a lot of women this time can extend longer than expected or desired. Then she’s left with the dilemma: do I pursue casual hookups in the meantime or wait for Mr. Right (aka Mr. Right around the corner, Mr. Right for you, Mr. Right on TIME).

I don’t think this is an issue for men as much, is it? Do guys ever consider the idea of casual hooking up with one woman a deterrent to having a long-term relationship with another one? Is it necessary to do the meaningless booty calls and random hook ups if you actually want to build something with someone you feel connected to?

What do you do in the time that you are between relationships? Focus energy on finding the long term relationship that you actually desire or hit up the single people buffet until you get full?

What do you think is the best course of action if you really desire a long term relationship?

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Melo

August 28th, 2009
3:37 pm

Page just likes to cook

yeah,she sounds kinda innocent and puieer(ebonics for pure) in all this! :lol:

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:38 pm

Rell- NEVER!! It is still all love

Always show the balls some love!

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:38 pm

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:39 pm

I never have understood the whole concept of a woman “having dinner on the table” as either a requirement or a reward. I cook almost as often when I am in a relationship, and the other “third” of the meals, we cango out. My ex-wife seemed to think that if she cooked and washed clothes that showed all of the love I needed. Personally I would have preferred less food and more “you know what”. Both can be fast food or a gourmet meal.

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:40 pm

MsM-And yes, though love can happen in an instance it takes time to get to that point<– I agree

Chink

August 28th, 2009
3:41 pm

Lioness Homeboy wanted a maid…I ran like hell

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:41 pm

thug nasty…nasty thug

Angie

August 28th, 2009
3:42 pm

i have a date sunday. he asked me to go fishin’ wit him. lol. how cute! he jus don’t know that i got skillz. a true tomboy.

have a good weekend!

p.s. y’all nasty. giggle.

Elijah

August 28th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Dk…. Man Law number 2,100. Always stick with the homies!

@Kym…. You need to test drive this new hybrid engine before you run! :wink:

@Lioness…. Mouthwash is for bad breathe! You might have eaten some tuna fish or something! :smile:

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:43 pm

Chink i see what you mean.

hey Angie.

Melo

August 28th, 2009
3:43 pm

Personally I would have preferred less food and more “you know what”.

u funny boy!

how old are u again……???

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:43 pm

we hook up…we have some good sex…you cook…oh you get the bizness….

Chink

August 28th, 2009
3:43 pm

Randy…I put my soul into cooking its like a art for me…so I get tired…thankfully my SO is like you he dont want me in the kitchen long :)

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:44 pm

lol W8- thug nasty! that reminds me….i saw the Rapper Bone Crusher at Quik Trip a little while ago. thank God he had his shirt on. lmao.

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:45 pm

Randy- I agree.. Cooking & washing clothes is not a term of endearment but neither is sex TO ME.. Spending regular time together means a bunch to me.. Wrestling, playing Wii etc. Saying I love you & meaning IT!!!!

Chink- Glad you did ;)

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:45 pm

@Elijah- If at anytime a woman smells like fish anywhere she will get a swift kick in her azz or punched in the throat for trying to do something with me….

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:45 pm

Melo not at Woodstock, but definitely remember it…that is as close I will say, lol.

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:45 pm

Randy do you swirl?

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 28th, 2009
3:45 pm

Elijah – Ionknow sometimes you be breakin our balls in here.. But its glad to know youre apart of the No Ma’am Club..

Chink

August 28th, 2009
3:46 pm

MsM I like that post..I will take that one with me

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:46 pm

“swirl” ?

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:47 pm

Ughhhhhhh W8! thats why i was asking u and magnum if whats her name started off with that smell or did the smell get worse as the night went on. i can’t imagine that! *gross*

Chink

August 28th, 2009
3:47 pm

W8 If at anytime a woman smells like fish anywhere she will get a swift kick in her azz or punched in the throat for trying to do something with me….

You ARE CRAZY !!! LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 28th, 2009
3:47 pm

Elijah – Then too I aint letting her put no mouthwash on MR cause boy that minor amount of Icy Hot on MR was a tragedy. The horror the pain

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:48 pm

Eli- Tuna breathe is HORRIBLE! Mouthwash isn’t doing JACK to curb that issue! TRUST

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:50 pm

Lioness… heard it said one time that “a woman needs to feel loved to want sex, a man needs sex to feel loved”. I suspect that is not 100% accurate, but very close.

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:52 pm

Page..you aint right..you just aint right

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:53 pm

Sorry W8! *sad face*

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:53 pm

I heard a bad joke once about “a certain something” that smelled like the “shytehouse door off of a tuna boat”. Don’t think I will go there though. Restraint…for a change, lol.

W8©

August 28th, 2009
3:54 pm

Randy- dont believe that crap…men want respect..then sex…lol

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:55 pm

Randy- a woman needs to feel loved to want sex<– If in a long relationship.. I agree

Melo

August 28th, 2009
3:55 pm

Randyt,ur 3.39 is diff to what most men desire, i wld think,incl me.
At some point,when u got the wman on deckk,sexx ceases to be that novelty and focus..other things come into play….and a woman that treats u good,feeds u,massages u,talks to u respectfully,listens to u,consults u etc and does all the other lil things becomes more of ur focus and reason for happyiness.Sex is important but it gets a lil relegated..at least in my case.
I was more onto the sexx tip in my late 20s and 30s.
I think u still on that fix thing.

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:56 pm

Randy, swirl means dating outside of your race.

The Real Rell - so numb!

August 28th, 2009
3:56 pm

Spending regular time together means a bunch to me.. Wrestling, playing Wii etc. Saying I love you & meaning IT!!!!

-you are lame

@page….YOUSA FOOL FOR THAT ONE…shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.that was never to be discussed…we all experienced the same thing…lol

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
3:57 pm

W8 right…the respect is 1st, sex is #2 I agree…although I may have allowed #2 to get ahead of #1 once or twice (purely by accident of course, lol).

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 28th, 2009
3:57 pm

OMG ya’ll are freakin hilarious!! :smile:

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
3:57 pm

Sorry Rell *another sad face*

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
3:58 pm

Rell- I get being lame from reading you!

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
4:00 pm

Melo- I agree

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
4:00 pm

Paige…not opposed to it, just haven’t. There was married lady of color that I became close friends with in my last , but cooler heads prevailed. Never a good idea to fish off of the company pier…and she was married, but very interesting.

Elijah

August 28th, 2009
4:01 pm

@Lioness…What do you know about the Tuna Fish breathe? Are you an expert? :lol:

Women must be ready to sexually please us at all times! Man Law number 3!

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
4:01 pm

Thats cool Randy.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
4:01 pm

Well All, have a great weekend. I have to go get a couple of bottles of wine and an angel food cake (hmmm, wonder if I should get some Cool Whip too, lol).

Wise Diva

August 28th, 2009
4:02 pm

well goodness gracious, some of ya’ll need to acquire a blog filter, LOL! Just saying any ole thang that comes in ya head, aren’t we!? *clutching my pearls*

Page1908

August 28th, 2009
4:02 pm

W8 can u make me some strawberry shortcake, pleaseeeeee?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 28th, 2009
4:03 pm

To go with the angel food cake of course ;-)

Wise Diva

August 28th, 2009
4:03 pm

have a great weekend RandyT, and yes, always keep the cool whip, just in case it’s needed. LOL

Dream_n

August 28th, 2009
4:03 pm

lmao!! How did we go from marriage to uhmmm this subject…. u guyz are hilarious….

Lioness

August 28th, 2009
4:04 pm

Eli- Nope.. Don’t eat tuna but I have been around a few folks that love it.. I don’t do stank breathe PERIOD!! Don’t care what the cause of it is

Wise Diva

August 28th, 2009
4:04 pm

because it’s Freak Friday Dream_n (and welcome!), we all got our minds in the gutter, and my topic choice is the gateway drug, LOL