In Between Men
Ok, not literally between men. The title refers to the time when a single woman is not in an exclusive relationship but has a couple of suitors on deck who could definitely make a great candidate. I think for a lot of women this time can extend longer than expected or desired. Then she’s left with the dilemma: do I pursue casual hookups in the meantime or wait for Mr. Right (aka Mr. Right around the corner, Mr. Right for you, Mr. Right on TIME).
I don’t think this is an issue for men as much, is it? Do guys ever consider the idea of casual hooking up with one woman a deterrent to having a long-term relationship with another one? Is it necessary to do the meaningless booty calls and random hook ups if you actually want to build something with someone you feel connected to?
What do you do in the time that you are between relationships? Focus energy on finding the long term relationship that you actually desire or hit up the single people buffet until you get full?
What do you think is the best course of action if you really desire a long term relationship?
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Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:39 pm
@ Melo…probably do a soft slow “box step” around the kitchen to some soft music while the food is cooking…glass or two of wine (I’m taking two bottles just in case she is thirsty) then probably Scrabble, or work cross word puzzles or something, lol.
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
2:40 pm
Grace- I know that is right but why the heck the middle of that cookie taste & looks like lard?
Chink- He may too busy trying t get to the furburger
Melo
August 28th, 2009
2:41 pm
thank u Sybil
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:42 pm
@ Kym “then probably Scrabble, or work cross word puzzles or something” okay now is ok to turn your BS meter on
Sybil
August 28th, 2009
2:43 pm
So, based on what you all are saying about a new woman cooking for your for the first time, should I make sure I ‘love myself’ before I have sex with you for the first time?
Because some New D!ck can’t phck!
Chink
August 28th, 2009
2:43 pm
W8 wow
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:43 pm
At the end of the day..find someone who brings you more peace than drama..and have fun making it work
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
2:44 pm
probably do a soft slow “box step” around the kitchen to some soft music while the food is cooking
- wow you pour it on thick i see….just show her your o face over that spagethii she is heating up for you…lol..skip the scramble watch the news and then get some head during the weather segment….
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
2:44 pm
What is the big deal with cooking? You can’t cook for just any man cause the mfer won’t know how to act..
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:45 pm
@Sybil- You better…love yourself first…cuz just because a puddy is wet and tight doesnt make it good…it’s not just a hole…lmao
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
2:45 pm
@sybil..do you have 72hrs…i am flucking like i just got released yesterday…lol
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:45 pm
Ouch @ Sybil I suggest multi-tasking…combine food and sex simultaneously, they can be worked together!!!
DuShawn
August 28th, 2009
2:46 pm
Foreplay to me is putting in the flick and pouring my first drink. Shortly thereafter, I’m rammin it in, dry or not. Three minutes later, I’m snoring. What’s up yall, It’s been a minute.
Melo
August 28th, 2009
2:46 pm
wine is good…it is good at calming down the nerves…and easing that tension…u got everything on tap.
scrable,word games,intelligent talk and wine..all that is nice.
when it goes down,if it does,u be exhausted by the time u done…
If i were u,i wld carry change clothes + teethbrush too in the trunk!
(hunting with ur salt on tap-zulu saying)
Chink
August 28th, 2009
2:47 pm
You can’t cook for just any man cause the mfer won’t know how to act..
Aint that the truth….me cooking on the 1st date will not happen
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:48 pm
Actually if Scrabble were actually suggested, I might have an urgent need to head home, jk. Now Twister…hmmm, with a plastic sheet and some Wesson oil maybe, lol.
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:49 pm
LMAO- I am glad I know how to cook for myself…lmao
Grace
August 28th, 2009
2:49 pm
Lioness lard? what’s that?
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:49 pm
Chink- are you Blasian or something…just wondering
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:50 pm
@ Lioness re: “You can’t cook for just any man cause the mfer won’t know how to act..”
LOL at that too!!!
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Melo
August 28th, 2009
2:50 pm
Hey Dushawn!
Kym
August 28th, 2009
2:51 pm
@ Ellijah..Huh? I missed all of the last page I am not going back.
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:53 pm
lol so some of yall’s cooking skills are better than your bedroom skills…lmao
Melo
August 28th, 2009
2:55 pm
Chink/Lioness: so when u cook, whats the implied meaning of that??
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
2:55 pm
Rell- Your 2:44 made me laugh out loud BUT your 2:45 made me
Make sure you wrap your vienna up tight!
Du- Lawd! At least you are keeping it real!
Melo- Wine puts my tail to BED asap!
I am REAL skeptical about ppl cooking for me cause not a lot of ppl have kitchen etiquette. Too many nasty ppl out here. WASH YOUR MEAT & HANDS PPL
DuShawn
August 28th, 2009
2:56 pm
On that note, I had a potnah tell me about one intimate moment he shared with his ole lady. He said they were gettin it down, things went dry, he needed some lube and didn’t want to break the vibe, so he grabbed the closest thing off the night stand….some Murray’s hair grease. I thought to myself..Damn! I bet your lady gotta helluva yeast infection.
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
2:57 pm
Grace- That ish they make fluffy biscuits with
Melo- It means ” I am hungry” That’s all
Sybil
August 28th, 2009
2:58 pm
WASH YOUR MEAT & HANDS PPL – This applies to sex as well. Thank you very much.
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:58 pm
lol@Murray Hair Greast…LMAO…heyalll nawwwwwwwwww…..who has murray hair grease “at the ready” anyway?
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
2:58 pm
@ Lioness … with all the things out there these days, I wash my hands BEFORE I touch my meat, lol.
W8©
August 28th, 2009
2:59 pm
Yeah I wash before I piss and after
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
3:00 pm
Du-
NO HE DIDN’T!! That is GROSS!! WTH is Murray’s hair grease??
You are SUPPOSED to keep astroglide on deck!
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
3:01 pm
W8/Randy- Ya’ll need to wash your hands before touching the cupcake PERIOD! No hand sanitizer.. Soap & water
Melo
August 28th, 2009
3:03 pm
Melo- Wine puts my tail to BED asap!
that makes u easy!
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
3:03 pm
Is the topic sex? *looking around*
Chink
August 28th, 2009
3:04 pm
Melo It means I am serious about this dude …I am in love.
W8 no I just look it …but who knows what happened centuries ago
Melo
August 28th, 2009
3:04 pm
Lioness:and when u cook for him,it means u hungry for him too?
Melo
August 28th, 2009
3:05 pm
cooking Page,cooking….are u open to sex anyway??
W8©
August 28th, 2009
3:06 pm
“I don’t even know you & I hate ur guts. I hope all the bad things in life happen to you and nobody else but you”- Hater’s Ball..dave chapelle show
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
3:06 pm
omg someone used lard for lube?!! *gagging*
The Real Rell - so numb!
August 28th, 2009
3:06 pm
astroglide on deck!
@ly o ness….astroglide is for straight anal action…so i take it you like it in the sh it pit….do you have 72hrs..lol
Willie Dynamite
August 28th, 2009
3:06 pm
Du – What up. How you making it? Murrays, Bruh prolly had that same can since 93. Thats some pretty thick stuff. Lot of Friction only thang loosening that up. lol!!!
Page1908
August 28th, 2009
3:07 pm
Melo- I cook all the time because I enjoy it a lot. it doesn’t have anything to do with sex.
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
3:08 pm
Melo- Most likely but not necessarily.. I LOVE to cook & I am DAMN good @ it too
mytw♥cents
August 28th, 2009
3:09 pm
DU ~ LMA:lol: ! I can’t be the only one who misses ya when ya gone…
W8©
August 28th, 2009
3:10 pm
@Chink- okay cool cuz Blasians are my weakness…
@Lioness- Why do you call it a “cupcake”(dont know if I should even ask) lol
@Page- You have cooked for alot of folk…umm do we owe you sex now..lol
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 28th, 2009
3:10 pm
“Soap & water” Yup, for all parties and all appendages or it aint happening…and as an aside, the male needs to remember where all of his usable parts have been during the process too or the woman can get a rash that will guarantee that will never happen again. I know, but am unsure other dudes do.
SexyCool
August 28th, 2009
3:10 pm
Rell – Every time you type – Do you have 72 hours? – I can hear Wendy Williams’ “How YOU doin’?” and w8’s “Don’t y’all judge me.” in my head.
I am over here cracking up.
And with that, I’m out.
Man down. Code 10. (And I don’t even watch that show. LMAO!)
For Real
August 28th, 2009
3:12 pm
Murray’s awwww hell naw Du. I don’t believe that…. Ish he would have had to spit in the grease and then rub it in his palms for 3mins just to get it to loosen up. Plus I bet your boy had a shine on his wang that lasted for a week.
Chick: Oh baby pull it out!
Du’s Boy: Yeah here you go girllll.
Chick: WTF!!!
DB: What?
Chick: Who you let put chicken grease on your wang?
Lioness
August 28th, 2009
3:12 pm
W8- When I get a REAL man in my life, that is who will get the explanation