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Know when to fold them

Have you ever been in a relationship and you had that “this is it” moment when you realized it was over? It could have been after you found a huge difference between the two of you that you were sure you could  not handle. Or perhaps it was their quirky behavior that morphed in to crazy behavior. Sometimes, it’s just the simple realization that you are pretending to be happy, when you are really just happy not to be alone.

When do you decide to end things? What if you don’t have a solid explanation for why you want to check out of the relationship, what do you do?

How do you make sure that you aren’t bailing on dating the person for the wrong reasons? When do you know it’s over?

Being on the other side is frustrating too. You know that the person you are dating is acting strange and distant, but you aren’t sure why. Do you bring it up or wait for the person to break it off? How do you know when to hold them and how do you know when to fold them? (Don’t act like I am the only one that loves that song!)

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Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:16 pm

Infamous those were not the only things I left at his place. And he did leave some stuff at mine. Some shirts, razors, deodorant, different stuff. All of our stay overs were not always planned so it was good to have the stuff you needed when you needed it. However our relationship did not start out that way, it took about a year to get there.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 27th, 2009
4:16 pm

Taz – Got a Shalamar greatest hits too that I love! Night to Remember is one of my favorites.

Kym-Dick LeBeau Class of 2010

August 27th, 2009
4:16 pm

You are too close if..

I can see your ear wax
I smell what you had for lunch
I can hear you breathing and we are not naked

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:17 pm

MELO Aww, poor babies! :lol:

SEXYCOOL Yeah, they need to step it up. Although I’ll always cheris, “Whatever happened to. . . Customer Service?” I’m ready for a new phrase! Gonna have to DVR that and watch Project Runway if they don’t.

I think the blog fellas have the best music collections. No matter how much I disagree some of the time, their music is on point alla da time. Having a good ear works for me.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
4:18 pm

Page1908 – Frankie & Neffe….oh heeeeeeeell naw! I already dont care much for reality tv so I definitely cant watch them! Im still trying to stomach Trainwreck!

SCool – im niiiiiiiiiice! LOL!

Compelling – I love Donnie Hathaway and Lalah HAthaway

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:20 pm

Raq- Pack a bag.. Or get up early enough to go home..

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:20 pm

Infamous last night I was watching a show that I had recorded. The show was Dating in The Dark. On the show the contestants had a chance to see what the others had slept in that night. Well when the men were looking thru the ladies’ stuff Mason said talking at the men on the tube “smell the clothes. you’ll know which one is for you by her smell.”

I asked how it that and he just said “we just know”. I found that to be quite interesting. Is that true for all men?

And is that true at all. LOL

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:21 pm

Personally I could care less how much time people spend together.
Chink,that there,spending a lot of quality time tgether,is not a problem.

Problem is when u just cant be seperated at all and if u are,u do play by play like Kimmie said.Thats a red flag.
If there is no trust or there are Trust issues..then there is a problem.

“If u luv sme,let it free,if it dont come back at ya,it wasnt urs anyway”

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:21 pm

Oh, yeah, Moe – THAT’S what I was saying. LMAO!!

Dan

August 27th, 2009
4:22 pm

@My 2

DJ Red Alert….wow. That’s “hold the tape recorder up to the speaker” old. And I love it!

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:22 pm

Pack a bag

We did that in the beginning stages. It got tiring. LOL

Leggs

August 27th, 2009
4:23 pm

Roy Ayers, Bill Withers, Isley Bros.

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:25 pm

SC and Mo- Yeah dude was all over it. lol Ughhhh I cannot stomach looking at Frankie. ever since i saw how she didn’t have any teeth and now she has a full mouth of dentures, uggghhhh i can’t stand it. lol *shrugs* SC I need to to post your weekly countdown to trainwreck status on facebook! if u don’t i am gonna pull your wig off!

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:26 pm

And you know what I thought about Infamous? I have watched several shows about wild animals and would see how some of the males animals sniff the female and sometimes move on to another.

I have seen dogs do that during mating season.

Compelling

August 27th, 2009
4:26 pm

Still writing furiously…I’ll have a downloading party all by my lonesome tonight.

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:26 pm

My2 – That “Customer Service” line delivery is a CLASSIC!!!

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:27 pm

That could be part of that “chemistry” that we talk so much about in relationships.

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:28 pm

Trying to figure out how I can fit a stop at Blue Moon Pizza for a couple of their Caramel Apple Pie Martinis into my evening.

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:28 pm

RAQI! LOL u mention that show Dating in the Dark every week! lol. i saw the one last week i think where the black girl dissed ole dude because he was too short for her. smdh.

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:29 pm

SC no Blue Moon for you tonight! U remember what happened last week! you were almost late on FB to give the trainwreck blow by blow LOL. if u go, be home by 9pm, please. thanks. that is all. lol

Dream_n

August 27th, 2009
4:30 pm

@ compelling Marvin Gaye (don’t forget)!!
Here My Dear CD….. was the BEST!!!!

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:31 pm

Page – If you pull my wig, I’ma kick you in the humpback.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:32 pm

INFAMOUS Yeah, throwin it out will serve a dual purpose. Cuz it’s sumthin that she thinks is the ish, she may eliminate you for eliminating it. Even if it’s a bottle of perfume? Can’t ya give a girl a warning? I will get real trife about my fragrances. Missed a flight & went back and snatched my Kenneth Cole/Michael Kors or sumthin out the bin since it was outta the T-Gate. Lil TSA agent was goin crazy but I did not care!

KIMMIE See, that’s what I’m talkin’ bout. That’s exactly who I don’t wanna be.

COMPELLING Music therapy, Retail Therapy & Massage Therapy. Not too much more to a girl’s needs, is it? lol

For Real

August 27th, 2009
4:32 pm

1. date him and be friends with him but dont phluck him = A dude you didn’t want to marry anyway

2. enquire about his mom and dad and his siblings and find out,”intelligently” how all his pple have handled marriages. = I’m rubber you’re glue whatever you say about me will bounce off me and stick to you.
3. make sure u are invited to be around those his pple and observe how they interact,if they are married etc.If there is no drama,ur chances are good,if there is drama in some or most of them,its 5050 u divorce too. = Yall shut the fugg up and ack right my lady friend is commin!

4. listen carefully to the family conversations..that shld give u a good read of whetherr urs may be successful or not = Tatter it’s yo turn to scratch big mamma’s feet!

5. the problem u ladies make is being caught up in the emotions of luving a men,usually,after sleeping with him. If u have to,tough it up then,luv like a man.If it dont seem good,it is not good,drop him even after a good phluckk. = Zipppppppp!

6. Dont take excuses..by the age of 35,a man must have it tgether,education,good job,decent car,a reasonable portfolio and house!This is america! = Ahem, umm there is this little thing called RECESSION!!!

7. keep a keen eye on the company he keeps,thats who he is like,neva mind the smoke screen. = Paging Doctor Faggit!

8. take time to visit his house,observe how often the phone rings or if it does at all.If the home phone is quiet all the time,girrrrrl,u beeing tricked.If hes cell phone neva rings,u being tricked! = I had to do some cutting back (dayum) and that apparently includes the lights now.

9. always leave one pair of ur underwear in the bathroom closet,where he least expects to find it. = Sniff, sniff, Baby you smell that?

10.Neva ask a man abouyt marriage but listen to hear if he eva mentiones the wrd,if not about u 2,about other pple and what does he say. = If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear does it make a sound?

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:33 pm

lmao SC- Ughhhhhh

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:37 pm

I have seen dogs do that during mating season

RAQI,dont u hate it when the male dog or bull(as in cows) is trying to hit the female behind but missing badly,and the males’ front leggs are falling of the female behind? whilst the female is right there,waiting,sheepishly…….

poor thang! :angst: :lol:

reminds me of those african females who were sitting nearby..and they were wailing…..yuwi, yuwi,yuwi!!!!!!….each time the male was hitting blanks.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:37 pm

DAN When I was in highschool, I used to sneak out every Thursday night with my best friend. He did this set at a spot that was a Latin Restaurant by day, down East Tremont and they didn’t card. He was spinning House and R&B. I’ll always ♥ Coooool DJ Red Alert!

Tazzee

August 27th, 2009
4:38 pm

I can hear you breathing and we are not naked

What if s/he has asthma? :lol:

Grace

August 27th, 2009
4:38 pm

FYI – Ken Ford will be at Villa Christina this Sunday, show starts at 5:30 and it’s FREE

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
4:39 pm

SCool – LMAO @ kick the humpback!! Too funny!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
4:40 pm

Grace – thanks for that tidbit chica, I love Ken Ford

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:41 pm

lmao Mo- i’m gonna call Weight and tell him on both of you chicas!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:42 pm

Very True.. The smell will draw you into to her.. Just like it does for women.. See you got some twats that smell like rose gardens and others that smell like fish and watse water.. I opt for the Rose gardens.

Seriously That body scent does something.. Just like certain colognes smell good on me some dont but my homeboy swears by them.. Like I can wear an old school goodie Obsession and get hemmed up all night..

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:43 pm

Two – I’ll tell you about it but once.. After that no dice.. I wont even mention you left anything.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:44 pm

RAqi – Yes Smell is important. I had a good one written but I got censored for the day..

Kym-Dick LeBeau Class of 2010

August 27th, 2009
4:44 pm

@Tazzee then Mr. Wheeze needs to move down to the Man-Cave where he can wheeze and scratch and smell his fingers in peace.

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:46 pm

lmao Kym. *gross*! scracthing and smelling is fingers! he might as well pick his boogers too! ughh *gagging*

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:47 pm

A man’s scent is important to me too. I LOVE a nice cologne. LOVE IT! It’s a turn on. But I also like the natural scent of the right man. Everybody’s scent does not attract me. Some can be a turn off.

And I’m not talking about that just from the gym smell. I’m talking about the just out of the shower, so fresh, so clean scent that is THE MAN!

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:48 pm

Did I say I LOVE a nice cologne? Aint NOTHING like a good smelling MAN!!!!

OH, lawd geezus. I will go now.

Man down. Code 10. >lol<

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
4:49 pm

SCool – co-signing 100%, love a good smelling man!! GEE-ZUS!

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:50 pm

lmao @ “man down” code 10. i thought code 10 was the code for a spill on the floor at wally world? lmao

Grace

August 27th, 2009
4:51 pm

Compelling

August 27th, 2009
4:51 pm

@ MyTwo- Yeah those three all mashed together can make me very happy.

@ Dream_n- That album IS really good. I have it in my collection already.

@ Leggs- Isley Brothers…Living for the Love of You…what a wonderful song.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:55 pm

SEXYCOOL Mmmm, thankcha lawd for men’s chemistry + cologne of choice = their own signature scent.

Now don’t be sniffin up on strange men’s necks tonite, tho. Gonna catch a case…

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:55 pm

WHAT DO U DO:

if a man keeps inviting u to his church, by email,every week,but u neva show up and u have no intention of showing up.

shld i reply and just say”i like my church better”?

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:56 pm

coz it gets on my nerves!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
4:56 pm

Page1908 – SCool had her own “spill” after thinking about a good smelling man!! LMAO!!

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:57 pm

INFAMOUS You know I chuckled at ‘but once.’ You’re so exacting with some thangs.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:59 pm

ZULU Thanks, but I’m very happy with my _______ (religion, church home, etc.)

Wise Diva

August 27th, 2009
5:03 pm

I missed you guys today :( sorry so quiet, back in the saddle tomorrow. So glad it’s almost FRIDAY!!!!