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Know when to fold them

Have you ever been in a relationship and you had that “this is it” moment when you realized it was over? It could have been after you found a huge difference between the two of you that you were sure you could  not handle. Or perhaps it was their quirky behavior that morphed in to crazy behavior. Sometimes, it’s just the simple realization that you are pretending to be happy, when you are really just happy not to be alone.

When do you decide to end things? What if you don’t have a solid explanation for why you want to check out of the relationship, what do you do?

How do you make sure that you aren’t bailing on dating the person for the wrong reasons? When do you know it’s over?

Being on the other side is frustrating too. You know that the person you are dating is acting strange and distant, but you aren’t sure why. Do you bring it up or wait for the person to break it off? How do you know when to hold them and how do you know when to fold them? (Don’t act like I am the only one that loves that song!)

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Compelling

August 27th, 2009
3:35 pm

This is sooo off topic…but I need some more oldies for my ipod…any suggestions???

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
3:36 pm

Prof – Phantom.. did you mean Fathom.. Dang! ;-) I had to get ya..

Angie

August 27th, 2009
3:37 pm

my post was eaten. never had a prob posting under Beautiful. oh well!

how about keith sweat?

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
3:39 pm

Compelling, Luther and more Luther. I am in a Luther listening mood right now.

Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:41 pm

@Compelling I like the 80s stuff like Hall & Oats, Christopher Cross, I like Switch “I Call your name” and you can always google the Bill Board top 100 for the genre you like…

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpack (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
3:42 pm

Kym – You need space. I need low, low lights, preferably scented candlelights and some slow R&B and sometimes, silence.

I value the sounds of silence.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
3:42 pm

Page1908 – LOL! Girl if there was ever a time that my dimples werent seen as much, that was it! Well that and when I was actually in labor w Lil Mo! :smile: But generally Im a happy-go-lucky chica. Takes a lot to ruffle my feathers.

Complelling – Isley Bros?

Kym-Dick LeBeau Class of 2010

August 27th, 2009
3:42 pm

Billy Ocean..he has a new album.I was watching his stuff on You Tube last night ohh and listening this morning.

Chink

August 27th, 2009
3:42 pm

For Real …if its positive I am all for change…but from my experience guys have wanted me to do things that were just not me….it didnt feel right inside. Thats what I mean when I say love me for me. I don’t want to change my core values to be with you.

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
3:42 pm

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Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:43 pm

@Compelling don’t forget about The Isley Brothers, Keith Sweat, Prince, Toni Braxton, Tony!Toni!Tone!etc.

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
3:45 pm

Compelling my son says that his Ipod can hold over 3,000 songs. He is only 14 so I asked him if he even knows 1000 songs.

Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:45 pm

@DK you got me…this nap is calling me I need to get off this computer and close my eyes.

Kym-Dick LeBeau Class of 2010

August 27th, 2009
3:45 pm

Tina Turner, Lionel Richie, Diana Ross.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
3:46 pm

I unnerstand, KYM… I gotta be able to breathe and some folks are literally suffocating. That’s why I can’t understand cling-ons. I tend to think that women (or men) who like their mates up under them most or all the time are 1. insecure in the relationship and 2. not big enough fans of themselves.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
3:47 pm

Chink – what you wouldnt be my Anna MAe.. No seriously.. I undertsnad.. I dont even think a good relationship has to be work. I think a good one flows, ebbs and tides.. That person in your yin or yang.. I see those kinda relationships and thats whats gonna get me.. A good cool I can be me around this babe completely.. A good relationship would never change your core values..

And yeah you should compromise in a relationship but you should never compromise yourself..

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
3:49 pm

lmao SexyCool! omg omg omgggggggggg

Mo- LOL! yeah you told me that your nose spread when u were preggers. i am glad it’s back to normal lol.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
3:49 pm

COMPELLING Ya gotta qualify “ol skool.” Are you in your 30s? Somebody was calling EnVogue ol skool the other day and I was like HUH??? Then I carded em and understood.

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
3:49 pm

I dont even think a good relationship has to be work

Infamous I agree only 95%.

Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:50 pm

Speaking of music, can you link your iPod to more than one iTunes account without erasing all of your songs?

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 27th, 2009
3:50 pm

Compelling – I have a Debarge greatest hits I’ve been listening to ever since I watched them on Unsung. It is wonderful and brought back old memories.

AmazonRed™ - is a flight risk!

August 27th, 2009
3:51 pm

Compelling my son says that his Ipod can hold over 3,000 songs. He is only 14 so I asked him if he even knows 1000 songs.

:lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 27th, 2009
3:53 pm

Raqi – To your 3:33. You are right. I’m just modest tho, never been comfortable leaving my undies anywhere but my drawer or hamper!

Kym-Dick LeBeau Class of 2010

August 27th, 2009
3:54 pm

Prof do you mean account or computers. Computers yes. you can authorize up to 5. But if you have your pod set to automatically update that is how song erase..manual update works best. I use my ipod as a storage drive. I switch out songs all the time.

Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:54 pm

Phil Collins, Boys II Men and Elton John are some of my favorites too, and don’t forget to add some relaxing music as well Enya, Kem and K’Jon are a few that I like…Chris Botti (these are not old school).

Chink

August 27th, 2009
3:54 pm

I hear you DK

I tend to think that women (or men) who like their mates up under them most or all the time are 1. insecure in the relationship and 2. not big enough fans of themselves. <—- I dont agree with this ..some people do have a good connection where they can spend alot of time together …and seems to me people who have a problem with seeing others like that dont understand/have that connection. Personally I could care less how much time people spend together.

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
3:54 pm

Kimmie I loved that DeBarge Unsung. also, the Phyllis Hyman one was sooooooooooooooo SAD! omg.

SC- I still don’t kn ow how u didnt see black baseball cap dude at the comedy show lmao. he was scoping Mo out the entire time! lol hey, btw, i can finally catch up on Real Trainwreck of ATL tonight after i get out of Yoga class! does kim get her wig pulled again? lol

Professor__k? Come direct or don't come at all!

August 27th, 2009
3:55 pm

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
3:57 pm

omg pandora is totally bumping Jon B. I LOVEEEEEEE that dude. omg. he is my swirl forever!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 27th, 2009
3:58 pm

Page1908 – please dont put Black Hat on me!! LOL! He was happy as a…lets just say WE made his night!! LOL

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
3:58 pm

Page – You KNOW I will be offering my usual FB blow by blow on Trainwreck TV.

And speaking of Trainwreck TV, did anybody watch Frankie and Neffe? Was there really something about Frankie having a clothing line.

Man down. Code 10. LOL

Melo

August 27th, 2009
3:58 pm

so these tracks u get from itunes for ur ipods,do u buy them,at how much??

uall are so hooked up!
i got the iphone but i dont care for the itunes and ipod..but i recently wanted to upgrade my phone just to improve on the battery..i have to have an itune account… :? ???:
i will let my 15yr old dghter mess with that for me….im not into all this kids stuff… :lol:

Dan

August 27th, 2009
4:01 pm

@Compelling –

R & B: Luther (anything), Prince (anything), Boyz II Men, Dru Hill (a personal favorite), Destiny’s Child, En Vouge, Pre-crack Whitney, Jodeci, Mary J (figure you got that), Mint Condition, etc.

Hip-Hop: Chronic (both), early Ice Cube, Biggie, Pac (living), De La Soul, Tribe Called Quest, Outkast, Goodie, anything DF related, DJ Quik, 8-ball & MJG, Scarface, the Ghetto boyz etc.

That right thurr will take you about 1,500 songs easy

Dan

August 27th, 2009
4:03 pm

@Melo

yeah, you have to have itunes for the iPhone. But once you d/l itunes, it’ll convert most of your library to songs that you can play on the iPhone.

**Side note: I both love and hate my iPhone. It gives me pleasure and causes me pain. I used to wonder why they called them ‘crackberries’ and now with the iPhone, I know.***

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 27th, 2009
4:04 pm

Page – I used to work with a dude that looked like Jon B. He was a really good friend. All the ladies liked him but he didn’t swing that way. Trainwreck put me to sleep last week. They are staging a lot of that mess and trying too hard. It’s a wrap for me. I’m watching Project Runway on Lifetime. Love Project Runway, not that cheap imitation Kelly Rowland was doing!

I couldn’t watch the Phyllis Hyman Unsung or the Minnie Riperton one. Just too sad – I knew how it was going to end. Always have loved me some Debarge though – Time Will Reveal, I Like It, Rythymn of the Night, etc!

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:04 pm

Mytwo:stepping off my goody goody podium:

Here goes:

A man was carrying two babies, one in each arm, while waiting for a train.
Along came this woman and seeing the two cute babies started asking the man, “Aren’t they cute, what are their names?”
The man gave the lady an angry look and replied, “I don’t know.
”The lady asked again, “Which is the boy and which is the girl?”
The man looking angrier than before replied, “I don’t know.
”The woman then started to scold the man, “What kind of a father are you?”The man replied,

“I am not their father, I am just a condom salesman and these are two complaints that I am taking back to may company.”

Page1908

August 27th, 2009
4:05 pm

LOL Mo- Girl, Black Hat dude knows he wanted to be in the front row with us, but Weight and the dudes musta gave him the side-eye. lol

SC- Ughhhh there was no way i was gonna watch Neffie and Frankie. no way!

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:06 pm

LOL Kimmie that’s a trick one of my friends told me. She said a guy she was seeing would make sure she packed all her personal belongings when she left. She knew he was seeing someone else although they were “exclusive” so she would leave stuff on purpose.

She told me once to take a pencil and lightly trace one the shelf the box of tampons (yes, tampons) that I kept under his sink in the corner. Now that right there is too much work DK. I figured it like this, it is what it is and until I found out something I should be suspect about then I didn’t wreck my brain over stuff like that. And if he allowed me to leave freakin tampons at his house…LOL

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:07 pm

Kimmie – Trainwreck WAS boring last week and contained a repeat scene from a previous broadcast – TBoz and Kandi at lunch. I was only entertained because me and some of my folks (Hey, Page/My2/Stace) keep up a running FaceBook commentary while the show is on.

Hopefully, this week will pick up some.

Melo

August 27th, 2009
4:08 pm

But once you d/l itunes, it’ll convert most of your library to songs that you can play on the iPhone
Dan :???:

i dont care for the ipod and songs, i can sing.. :lol:

i just wanna upgrade my phone,if not 4 that, i dont need the itunes either…

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:09 pm

Infamous are you still around? I want to ask you a question since you mentioned yesterday about the scent of a woman.

mytw♥cents

August 27th, 2009
4:09 pm

COMPELLING Teena Marie, Ashford & Simpson, O’Jays were a lil before my time, but luv em. Klymaxx (I think) The group Lionel left lol. I get my fix by listening to the radio shows that do the back in the day mixes. DJ Red Alert remote on Sunday nights and Bubbie Luv used to do it Sunday afternoons. Maybe they publish their playlists.

CHINK I guess it depends on what we conisder “a lot.” I know people who don’t like to be by themselves.at.all. Not a visit to the bookstore, no lunch, not a stroll, nothing. Or if they try to do something outside of their mates they’re basically doing minute by minute GPS tracking on them. I will never not think there’s something wrong with that.

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback (Cholly Murfay)

August 27th, 2009
4:11 pm

Page/Mo – I still have NO recollection of that black cap dude. I was chillin’. I was cool. I was smmooooooottthhhh!!! LOL!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:13 pm

Raqi – I dont care if Im seeing someone else or not.. I just dont like a chicks stuff at my house.. Cause Im not leaving my stuff at her home.. Until i ask you to leave something you shouldnt.. See Im crazy like that… i’ll throw it in the trash..

Tazzee

August 27th, 2009
4:13 pm

Compelling – old school: Stevie Wonder, Donny Hathaway, Angela Bofill, Minnie Riperton; Rufus and Chaka Kahn, Emotions, Shalamar, Switch

Those are some artists on my old school playlist that I didn’t see mentioned.

Raqi

August 27th, 2009
4:13 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:14 pm

Raq-Diesel – Fire away

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 27th, 2009
4:15 pm

Or if they try to do something outside of their mates they’re basically doing minute by minute GPS tracking on them. I will never not think there’s something wrong with that.

My2 – I have a few friends like that. I don’t do anything in the evening with them because of that. Me & one of those friends had gotten tickets to Stevie Wonder and we decided to grab a nice dinner before the show. From the drive there, thru dinner, a few times during the show and on the way home, she was on the phone with hubby. Mind you, he declined when we were buying the tickets. But he is super jealous and she spent the whole time consoling his whining. Wouldn’t be me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 27th, 2009
4:15 pm

Thievery Corp – Incident at gate 7

Compelling

August 27th, 2009
4:16 pm

Oooooo these are all good ones. Trust me when I say I’m writing em all down. I have quite a few older artists right now, i.e. Sam Cooke, Bobby Womack, Marvin Gaye, Diana Ross, Duke Ellington, Miles Davis…etc.

I need to get some Toni Braxton, EnVogue, Keith Sweat and the like.

@ MyTwo- I guess I consider oldies anything my parents used to listen to. I do like the songs from the 80’s and 90’s a lot though. I love music, it always puts me in a better mood. I was just listenin to Donny Hathaway’s version of “A Song for You” and was instantly transported back to my childhood.