I’m Focused, Man!
On any given weekend in Atlanta, there are a myriad of events going on in the city. At these events, it’s very possible you will see really attractive people, some being single. This has its pros and cons. If you are in a newly formed “exclusive” relationship with someone, it’s hard to turn down the phone numbers and attention.
Why does it seem as if you become the hottest commodity on the single’s market just as you have started a new romance? One month you can go to a store opening, arts festival, film screening completely unattached and on the prowl and nobody says anything remotely flirtatious. Then weeks later, after you and your honey have decided to make a go of it, all of a sudden you are a babe magnet. What gives?
This situation gets worse when you are the type that has dating ADD! You already have to struggle not to lose interest too easily with potential dates. When everyone you meet thinks that you are such hot stuff, you probably have to remind yourself of those dating ruts and dry spells that you just experienced.
Do you ever find it difficult to focus on a solid connection that you have with someone? Is our attractive and active dating scene part of why a lot of us can’t hold each other’s interest? If we are constantly slipping through the revolving doors of dating, does this mean we are perpetually avoiding relationships?
How do you focus on the one individual that is standing out in your dating prospects? Is it hard to resist the urge of “waiting for a better option” or are we wasting time and money?
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Page1908
August 26th, 2009
2:21 pm
omg who still uses the word “mulatto”? smdh
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:22 pm
……and said he thought there was nothing wrong with hitting a woman to “put her in her place”. Barbara was stunned.
gheesh, so am I
Raqi…got it, thanks…I knew it was one of them.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
2:23 pm
Dream – If I remember correctly, cause it was so long ago, he had not actually done it. I think Barbara clarified that with him. But yeah, he lost major cool points with me, cause I’m a serious Bond lover!
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:23 pm
Leggs yeah, I heard the Kennedy new this morning. Although eons ago, I read up on the Kennedys….did so again this more. So much tragedy in that family. That Joe (Sr), was no joke.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
2:24 pm
Amred – Yeah, half white, half Armenian.
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:25 pm
I hate clingy coworkers….gives me the heebie jeebies.
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
2:27 pm
Olive Garden Take Out
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
2:29 pm
SCool – Where’s your pink Cadillac?
Dream_n
August 26th, 2009
2:30 pm
I read a story about Ted leaving a 28 yr old woman in a car to drown… What’s that all about??? Anyone know?
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
2:34 pm
Ms. Main my husband and I were talking about that this morning, how tragic their deaths were.
Ted and the sister that passed a week or so ago were the only two of the kids that lived to get old and die. All the others did tragic deaths. Even to JFK Jr.
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:35 pm
Dream_n As much as I’ve read, today was the first time I came across that story. That was tragic to say the least. Most of the sources pretty much stated the same….that she drown is the cause of death stated on the death certificate. However the undertaker stated she suffocated. There are questions surrounding that event that will never be answered…esp whether or not she was pregnant. Her parent declined an autopsy.
Melo
August 26th, 2009
2:36 pm
So much tragedy in that family
Ms Main,this is a tragedy but very natural in this case,77 yrs old..nothing elevated in my view.
At about how old do u turn over folks in ur fam,on avrge?? 125 years???
I hate clingy coworkers
why are they clinging,smebody has a crush on u Ms Main?
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
2:37 pm
LMAO!!! Kimmie – I will NEVER get a MaryKay car. Ever. In life. LMAO!!!
It’s funny. I’m just a big fan of their Bronze #2 mineral powder foundation and the TimeWise skin care products. Everything else, I buy from the beauty supply, the drug store or the MAC counter. (And I don’t even wear a lot of makeup.)
For all that Cadillac stuff, you have to become a KayBot. I am so NOT interested in THAT. LOL!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
2:41 pm
SCool – Yeah, I was being funny, cause I so cannot picture you being a KayBot AT ALL!! Or driving a pink Cadillac! You just seem too COOL for all that!LOL!!!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
2:45 pm
SCool – Okay, why am I singing that Aretha Franklin song in my head, Freeway of Love” in my head now?!!LOL!!
“We’re goin ridin on the free-way of love, in my pink Cadillac!”
Leggs
August 26th, 2009
2:47 pm
Joe, Sr was no joke and all the physical aliments John F. had to go through was mind boggling. Perhaps now the ever looming black cloud over the Kennedys has faded away.
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
2:47 pm
I felt you, Kimster.
And yes, I am quite cool, aren’t I? ~more laughing~
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:49 pm
Raqi
Actually, there’s one left….
Jean Kennedy Smith (born February 20, 1928) is an American politician, a former United States Ambassador to Ireland, and is the eighth of nine children born to Joseph P. Kennedy, Sr. and Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy. Since the death of Ted Kennedy on August 25, 2009, she is the only surviving member of her generation of the well-known Kennedy family.
Melo Oh, I agree that this is about as natural as we’ve seen…with long years I might add. For my family, we’ve been fortunate. So far God has blessed with long life in my family. I’d say late seventies and on into the eighties.
As far as clingy coworker….nope no crush…at least I don’t think so…lol. A coworker volunteers to assist when I have to leave early and I guess she sort of have the wrong idea now and is coming by everyday and giving updates on her doctor’s appointments and stuff. I treated her to lunch as a show of appreciation in her assiting and that following workday, she made a beeline to my desk. It was how she did her morning greeting….(singing) how are yoooou and in falsetto (sp) I might add. That really creeped me out….HEEBIE JEEBIES. I’ve just sort of been keeping away…here of late. She took the hint though after coming by a couple of times and reading an expression of “yes, what do you need.” I don’t wrap tight with coworkers like that.
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
2:49 pm
We have had it all sold by someone here. Mary Kay, Avon, Amway, Kitchen Knives, Lingerie, “Toys”, Monavie, and this other “health” drink that I can’t think of right now.
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
2:51 pm
Leggs Perhaps
Foots
August 26th, 2009
2:53 pm
The Kennedy family seems blessed and cursed at the same time. I mean, has any other family had so many untimely deaths and illnesses due to plane crashes, murder (assassinations), drugs, cancer, etc? I know that Washington is sad to lose him, at least he got to live to almost see universal health care come to fruition, which he fought for.
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
2:54 pm
Oh yeah and the lady that tried selling the jewelry that her daughter made at home at the kitchen table. Givin’ folks rashes and gangrene and crap.
Melo
August 26th, 2009
2:56 pm
an expression of “yes, what do you need
If shes not lesbo,sho proly feels u are one of the good guys,since u actually treated her to lunch.
More wrk on her plate wld be appreciated,im sure..no wonder the beelines to ur desk…
Is she a junior to u??
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
2:59 pm
Raqi – You’ve got me cracking up over here. Gangrene – lol!
I don’t even mention MaryKay at work and few of my friends and associates even know I’m a PUC.
Lord Velonese (Atlanta's very own Sadist and you love it too!)
August 26th, 2009
3:02 pm
WD wrote: “does this mean we are perpetually avoiding relationships?”
I know I am. I’m also very focused too! Why you ask or wonder? Well that’s really none of your business now is it?
Professor
August 26th, 2009
3:03 pm
…stepping in…catching up.
@Leggs I mentioned Sen. Kennedy before 11:00AM
@Melo, do you like Kim too? Give us a list of the ladies you like…
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
3:07 pm
Now JFK Jr. is one I would have gotten with any day of the week! Talk about hot!
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
3:10 pm
Melo No, no lesbo…at least that’s not what comes off. But hey, you never know. I mean we’re cool but I had to do that to put some distance. She was like waiting on me in the mornings or coming back if I stepped away. She’d say I came over but you weren’t here. Me treating someone or doing something nice for someone as a thanks is not exclusive to one person. I think that may have been miscontrued somewhat. But we’re cool. I chatted a bit or two in passing and kept it moving. Not a meanie.
Oh, no she’s not a junior under me but I trained this group during some company orginizational changes. According to tenure they’re ahead of me but this group was so archaic and pretty much operated manually. When the changes started, as far as experience and depth, I’m actually more 360 than them so I was the chosen one.
Melo
August 26th, 2009
3:12 pm
Melo, do you like Kim too? Give us a list of the ladies you like
naw, i dont like Kim!!
u know i dont like Halle nor Gabrielle Union..
i like Sannae Latham,Denzel wife,even Samuel Jackson’s..
or are u asking me about my MIA blog celebrity women crushes???
Melo
August 26th, 2009
3:15 pm
naw, i dont like Kim!!
I shldnt have said that, i mis spoke…i dont particularly care for Kim,i dont hate her.Shes not even in my radr coz i dont even know what she does?? oh! reality shows, i dont watch those nor care for them….
Leggs
August 26th, 2009
3:17 pm
@Raqi, are you talking about Noni Juice or Acai Berry?
Foots
August 26th, 2009
3:17 pm
kimmie — If we start talking about deceased guys that if they were still alive, they could get it, I must mention Christopher Reeve. I loved myself some Superman!! My goodness!!
Leggs
August 26th, 2009
3:18 pm
@Professor ~ I’ve been skimming since I’ve been gone for quite some time. I didn’t see it. Good for you!
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
3:18 pm
I thought Raqi may have been talking about Melalueca (sp?).
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
3:19 pm
SexyCool what pyssed me off was her having the her daughter come in here selling that crap. We buy the Girl Scout cookies from her, ain’t that enough? You hate to tell kids no so I bought one bracelet and put it around the dog’s neck when we had it. These crazy folks were wearing that stuff and one lady formed a really bad rash around her neck and another man said the holes in her daughter’s ears became infected.
I forget about the Christmas cards that one man sold.
I got with the Amway, I bought a set of the knives and I always buy the GS cookies.
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
3:20 pm
Yeah Noni, that’s it.
Melo
August 26th, 2009
3:20 pm
Ms Main, i take it from what u said that u are somebody she probably is looking up to.
Thats my read.
Just be nice to her and ask her if theres smething she wld want to learn from u etc.(since shes cming from an “archaic” bacground)
She proly figures since she did u some fav,she has a foot in the door as far as getting valuable advice/knwledge etc is cponcerned.
That wld be nice if u respond favrably and empewer her to do better in her job…
Promise me u wont biaatch her….
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
3:21 pm
Melo – Well, Kim’s definitely not as accomplished as your girl Diane!LOL!!
Leggs
August 26th, 2009
3:23 pm
@SexyCool ~ I use to sell Melalueca (sp?). I loved the product!
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
3:24 pm
Promise me u wont biaatch her lolol
pinky swear
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
3:24 pm
Raqi – It used to be this furniture polish that Amway used to sell that my mom liked. Anytime someone came around that’s what she would get.
Ms. Main
August 26th, 2009
3:25 pm
Leggs what is Melalueca
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
3:25 pm
I have a friend that is involved in it. They have some really great lip balm. My fave is the pina colada.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 26th, 2009
3:26 pm
Foots – Reeve was a very handsome man. See that’s what I’ve always gone for, the tall & dark-haired kind!
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
3:27 pm
Mason had me laughing about the new Acai Berry fad. He has been going to the same barber for 20 years and he was talking how the fad goes thru there. He said on Saturday morning about 70% of the shop is sipping on a bottle of whatever is popular at the time. Now it’s Acai.
Snapple, Green Tea (Arizona and Lipton), Noni, Vitamin Water. There was other stuff he mentioned that I can’t remember because he went way back with it. 15-20 years back.
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
3:29 pm
He mentioned chewing on the yellow root.
Professor
August 26th, 2009
3:30 pm
@Melo I will not ask you to divulge blog crushes, but if you do not have a problem revealing…do tell!
Melo
August 26th, 2009
3:31 pm
I didn’t see it. Good for you!
Leggs, i wanted to answer u earlier and rebutt that and say Proff had said so.
I just shied away coz i figured, blog peeps might mis-construe and picture u,Proff and myself in some sort of menage a trois! So i just cowed.
Not a bad idea tho!
Raqi
August 26th, 2009
3:31 pm
The one thing he said that never caught on were the fancy coffees.
SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.
August 26th, 2009
3:36 pm
I think it’s difficult to make money in any of the MLM companies that are out there. After years of being sucked into a few of them, I have finally learned to say no.
In fact, the MK thing came about because my apartment complex manager noticed that I’d paid my rent with an MK check that I had from nearly four years ago. Back then I thought I was going to make BIG MONEY as a consultant – it only took me a few months to realize that I was not going to get rich selling one lipstick at a time.
Anyways, she was trying to make director and needed to add consultants to her team. She asked if I was interested in becoming an active consultant again to ‘help her out’. I responded, “No.”
Well, then she offered to pay the fee to reinstate me out of her own pocket and give me a bunch of product free. And here I am – a personal use consultant.
I’ve never made any money worth talking about in any of those companies. Who knows? Maybe there is something out there that works. I just haven’t happened across it.