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I’m Focused, Man!

On any given weekend in Atlanta, there are a myriad of events going on in the city. At these events, it’s very possible you will see really attractive people, some being single. This has its pros and cons. If you are in a newly formed “exclusive” relationship with someone, it’s hard to turn down the phone numbers and attention.

Why does it seem as if you become the hottest commodity on the single’s market just as you have started a new romance? One month you can go to a store opening, arts festival, film screening completely unattached and on the prowl and nobody says anything remotely flirtatious. Then weeks later, after you and your honey have decided to make a go of it, all of a sudden you are a babe magnet. What gives?

This situation gets worse when you are the type that has dating ADD!  You already have to struggle not to lose interest too easily with potential dates.  When everyone you meet thinks that you are such hot stuff, you probably have to remind yourself of those dating ruts and dry spells that you just experienced.

Do you ever find it difficult to focus on a solid connection that you have with someone?  Is our attractive and active dating scene part of why a lot of us can’t hold each other’s interest? If we are constantly slipping through the revolving doors of dating, does this mean we are perpetually avoiding relationships?

How do you focus on the one individual that is standing out in your dating prospects? Is it hard to resist the urge of “waiting for a better option” or are we wasting time and money?

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SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.

August 26th, 2009
12:42 pm

Well, gawking would be distasteful. Stopping mid sentence and turning your head would get you a strong glare the FIRST time.

A respectable acknowledgement is allowed, but continual blantant disrespect??? Don’t get stabbed. LOL!

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
12:43 pm

Dream_n now you know they only go to the strip club for the $2 beers.

LOL To say someone is attractive or cute is one thing but to get so worked up to get a boner or a slip-n-slide is just wrong all day long.

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
12:43 pm

And believe if you’re fanning, you’re slipping.

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
12:45 pm

@ Raqui lmao… I totally agree getting worked up will def get you a side eye from me….. but giving a compliment is def okay….:)

East Point's Own

August 26th, 2009
12:57 pm

It’s all about respect. There is no reason to carry on like a 14 yr. old at a Chris Brown concert when you are 30 and someone mentions the name Tyrese or Maxwell, or Denzel or who ever, especially if you are with your man. Saying that so and so is fine is not a problem, but there is a point where it goes too far. Yes we all admire celebrities to a point, but you still have to respect the one you are with.

Ms. Main

August 26th, 2009
12:58 pm

I keep my head in a harness when im with Queen,even tho it pains my neckk,

lololol….some serious restraint going on….men are sooo visual.

Melo

August 26th, 2009
1:01 pm

some serious restraint going on….men are sooo visual

As far as celebrities go, i have told her that if Dianne Sawyer comes calling, i will leave her and the kids but i will support the kids and her on the side.

:lol: :lol:

Compelling

August 26th, 2009
1:03 pm

@ Melo- Daine Sawyer? I mean, whatever floats your boat, but you sure you’re not speaking of the younger Diane Sawyer?

@EPO- I agree. There’s no reason for women to be fawning over a celebrity or a regular joe for that matter.

Ms. Main

August 26th, 2009
1:03 pm

Dianne Sawyer….wow….whodda thunk it….to each his own though. not that she’s not a looker (in someone’s eyes), just don’t strike me as your type, according to your “screen” personality that is. Nothing wrong with that though. Hope that’s not a stereotype. Feast – famine, treasure – trash….and so on.

Ms. Main

August 26th, 2009
1:06 pm

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Professor...ahhh

August 26th, 2009
1:08 pm

Melo…what turns you on about Dianne Sawyer? What age range do you like your ladies…just curious?

Professor...ahhh

August 26th, 2009
1:09 pm

Melo wants Dianne Sawyer to tell him the news…

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
1:15 pm

LOL…Diane Sawyer is not a bad looking woman plus she’s very succesful… Now if he was checking for Omorosa(however you spell her name) then this would be a diff discussion….

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
1:19 pm

@ EPO– I agree with your statement…. The number one word is “Respect”.

MsM

August 26th, 2009
1:21 pm

I just find it annoying… he’s 52 years old for petesake! Never in my presence, but OMG if he’s driving and I’m on the phone I get the blow by blow on practically everything he sees (mostly over in the Deck), especially women (the good, bad and ugly) he’s quite hilarious.

I don’t take it serious because it’s just him, and I know how he feels about me :)

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
1:23 pm

Tazzee

August 26th, 2009
1:26 pm

Diane Sawyer? Never woulda thunk it Melo.

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
1:31 pm

Al Pacino would be my guy.

Melo

August 26th, 2009
1:35 pm

Dianne Sawyer,yes thats her….

she exudes some to me,very mild,seemingly kind and gorgeous(accrding to melo) and seems i can make her cook. :lol:

Proff/Ms Main. What age range do you like your ladies…just curious?
any age is good in a woman but the older,mature,ripe and sexxier,like Diane,the better. :lol: U knw these days,with viagra and other female enhancements, a 60 yr old woman is the new 40.
As long as she still delicious to the eye,face,dress,grace/gait and all….. :lol:

AmazonRed™

August 26th, 2009
1:39 pm

Diane Sawyer!?!?! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Well, that’s a first. :lol:

Foots

August 26th, 2009
1:42 pm

I told my SO that since Reggie Bush and Kim broke up, they were both fair game if we ever got close enough. LOL!

I would definitely mind the ogling and the going on and on about somebody else, but simply acknowledging is okay with me. I already know what he’s thinking anyway, because one time we were out, there was this guy, way too young for me, but he pure-D made me giggle he was so cute and fine. He was standing close to us at the bar, so I made not so subtle attempts to touch him. That ish was funny. My SO never knew what I was laughing about.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
1:43 pm

My secret, older man crush used to be Robert Redford. He was the only “blond” I thought was hot. I usually go for the darker-haired types.

None hold a candle to any Brother for me, but if I went there….

Melo

August 26th, 2009
1:47 pm

Raqi/Amazon!

dont be jealous! :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
1:49 pm

I’ve never really gone for the athletes, always liked the cute nerds, more intellectual types. But for athletes I used to like Grant Hill cause he was intelligent & could play the piano. I like that brother tennis player, James Blake.

SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.

August 26th, 2009
1:51 pm

“I’m focused, Man!”

Wise – I can practically “HEAR” you saying this. ~lol~

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
1:51 pm

Melo – You let your Dianne Sawyer crush out a few weeks ago! It slipped everyone else, but I caught it! You said you liked her suits. I like them as well. She had on a really nice black suit election night.

AmazonRed™

August 26th, 2009
1:51 pm

dont be jealous!

melo – It will be tough…but I’ll try my best not to. :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
1:53 pm

Foots – My SO said Sade might be his next wife if we didn’t make it! I told him okay as long as Maxwell was available for me!LOL!!

Ms. Main

August 26th, 2009
1:53 pm

Sean Connery during the height of his James Bond days……he’s too old now to think about in that way…

yeahhhh for the split of Reggie and Kim…what was he thinking? Oh, wait, scratch that

Professor...

August 26th, 2009
1:56 pm

Well Melo go on with your bad self!

@Kimmie I remember Melo saying he liked her suits I did not think he was over there smiling at GMA.

My crush would be Miles Davis…since he is gone I will take MV7…sorry Angie

Kym-Accomplish much by trying less

August 26th, 2009
1:56 pm

Anyone have any ideas or know of any festivals for Labor Day Weekend? I am finding the outings pretty slim this year.

Melo

August 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

Kimmie, i neva thoght she was married untill i saw her with her hubby on tv,attending some award show in LA.Hes an older guy.
Cant stand Barbara Walkers for some funky reason.That facial she has makes it even harder coz u cant tell if shes happy or sad…
I watched The View lil bit yesterday..thats a hot show…

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

Ms. Main Kim Kardashian got a thing for the brothers, eh?

Melo

August 26th, 2009
1:58 pm

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

@ Ms. Main…
I am definately with you on Sean Connery but not the “James Bond Days”:(.. I love the white hair on him:)

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

An attractive older brother that I would give a chance is James Pickens, Jr.

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

Never too much cared for her with (BW) something about her is off… can’t quite put my finger on it…

SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.

August 26th, 2009
2:01 pm

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Ms. Main

August 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

Raqi Yes she does….as well as her sister…I believe Kourtney. I think at the end of last season, she came in with a brother, a surprise to all. Can’t remember his name but he’s an athlete too…I think

Dream_n Bond, James Bond…mmm mmm mmm

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
2:08 pm

Melo – I like Barbara, but then I am a journalism/news junkie. I have her book. She was very attractive in her younger days on Today and could hold her own with the men. The View is a hot mess to me!

I lost complete respect for Sean Connery when he was on one of Barbara Walter’s specials and said he thought there was nothing wrong with hitting a woman to “put her in her place”. Barbara was stunned. She tried to get him to clean it up, but he repeated it. My mom was watching in the other room & she ran into mine & said “did you hear him?” My martial arts teacher is from England. He was talking about that the other day. He said folks over there knew about it too and his popularity tanked over there after that statement. A slip of the lip….

Melo

August 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Is Kim Kardashian not a sister??

she looks mulatoo to me.

Raqi

August 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Kimmie a few of the guys on here feel that way also. We had that discussion one time.

Wise Diva

August 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

LOL @ SexyCool, that’s funny, and I had no idea you were in Mary Kay, nice!

kimmie, it’s good to see your spirits lifted again, I was sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

Compelling

August 26th, 2009
2:14 pm

@ Kimmie- Wow, Sean Connery said that? How horrible.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
2:17 pm

Wise – Thank you so much. Just trying to keep on keepin on!

Leggs

August 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

Surprised no one has mentioned Ted Kennedy’s passing. R.I.P. Mr. Kennedy!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

Melo – She is Armenian.

Dream_n

August 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

@ kimmie… If he did say that he just lost a lot of points with me… but if he’s never actually done it “Can I still Crush on him?” lol

AmazonRed™

August 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

Yes she does….as well as her sister…I believe Kourtney. I think at the end of last season, she came in with a brother, a surprise to all

Actually it was the youngest sister, Khloe. She was dating some Timberwolves player. The oldest Kourtney is having a baby with that white guy, Scott.

melo – the Kardashians are not mixed with black at all. Their father is like Persian or Iranian or soemthing. Moms is white.

SexyCool - Tastes great. Less filling.

August 26th, 2009
2:20 pm

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