You’ve already met
If I think about all the men I’ve met, dated, dumped, or were dumped by, I really can’t imagine that I would end up with one of them one day. I am pretty sure that if we were “meant” to be together, then things would have happened the first time we crossed paths. What if that’s not the case, though?
I have heard a lot of couples say that they reconnected through Facebook, or found they were living in the same city, and things clicked instantly. Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?
Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? Do you believe that it’s about timing? How much do you think our life experiences change us? Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago?
I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny?
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Mr. Unknown
August 24th, 2009
8:29 am
Good morning, It seems today is call out sick day…
As far as the questionS.. I believe you can reconnect with a person, Im not the same person you knew 4yrs ago. So unless there was a real reason for the split, cheating, abuse, bad in the sack, ABS, kidding on the last one.. I don’t see why not.. As for being Destined for each other, I wouldn’t go that far.. Anyway, Its going to be a long day,, so you guys have a good one…
Foots
August 24th, 2009
8:37 am
Good morning. About two years ago, I reconnected with a man I met in college. We were friends then, but I had a big crush on him that I never told him about because he had a girlfriend. So ten years later, we run into each other and right away we decide that this must be destiny. He said that he didn’t want to waste any more time without each other. Needless to say, the more we got to know about each other, the more we knew that it wouldn’t work long term. The short term was great, but the breakup was hard.
I say that to say that I believe that timing and compatibility is what determines if a relationship will be established. Once you have that, it’s the three-legged stool of Love, Friendship and Intimacy that keeps a relationship going once established. Lose one of those legs and the relationship can topple. I don’t believe in “The One”, I believe that there are many people that we can be compatible with and love if they are placed in our path.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
8:49 am
Good Morning All,
Ohh Wisey your Cancer spirit is showing today. Here goes..
Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?
Yes, I think all of our life experience serve to shape us and hopefully at some point provide guidance, if not understanding to someone else.
Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry?
YES…and alas I am not sure which moron it was. The same fellows pop in and out of my life..may not make a good marriage but the stories would make one helluva book. Timing is essential and I do believe because we change and grow as people that if the timing was not or the person was not right at 21, it doesn’t mean that they will not be right at 41. You have changed and hopefully so have they. Who’s to say it will not work right now?
I am not so much the hopeless romantic..but I do believe that everything in the universe is connected and that you can be connected to a person (or two). If a person(s) has touched your life so deeply(not just physically touched) then that leaves a connection that no matter the circumstances some how the universe finds away to keep you connected. <<<my deep thought for today.
C tha 1
August 24th, 2009
9:03 am
Of course you can reconnect with someone from your past as I’m a living testament to that. If I was posed this question at least two years ago I would have told you otherwise. However some people change, and when presented with a different set of circumstances it is possible to hit the reset button on an old relationship that had potential.
I’ve known my wife since I was in college, but certainly was not ready for anything serious back then so it didn’t work out. Still she was on the periphial (sp). Ironically, when we did start to date seriously I had another friend who seemed to turn the corner and wanted to press the reset button on something that started years ago. It actually could have worked too, but I cast my lot with with the woman who became my wife. Ultimately it proved to me that some bridges are worth maintaining rather than burning and I’m notorious for buring bridges.
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
9:06 am
Good Morning All!!!
Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason? Yes, I’ve met some great guys in my past but the timing wasn’t right. I wasn’t mature – they weren’t ready, etc. There was one guy I reconnected with at my high school reunion – we didn’t date in high school, were just real cool. We ‘almost’ hooked up but then we got in a spat about something really petty. By the time he called me again (my birthday) I was with the current love of my life. In the words of OG Blogger Ivy, “oh well to that…”
Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? nope because I’m with him now
Do you believe that it’s about timing? Yes
How much do you think our life experiences change us? I think our life experiences help to build our character and major experiences can really change us.
Is it possible that a person can be right for you know, but was wrong for you years ago? I believe that can be possible. Someone that knew you years ago knows your past and as you’ve both matured the timing can make it right today.
I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny? I do believe in destiny. But sometimes we can mess it up. My fiance’ and I were just talking yesterday about how we believe nothing happens by chance.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
9:10 am
Taz
Congrats
Dan
August 24th, 2009
9:11 am
@Taz
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
9:17 am
Morning everyone,
I was hoping everyone had a fantastic weekend and I know someone most definitely did! I can’t even answer the question yet, I’m so happy for Tazzee!!!
Congrats Tazzee!!!!
Kym
August 24th, 2009
9:19 am
Happy Happy Joy Joy..Lady Tazzee!!! Congrats!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
9:20 am
Rocking Finger Bling!!!!!!!!
Am I reading correctly?
Foots
August 24th, 2009
9:20 am
YAY TAZZEE!! Another blog wedding! Congratulations!!
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
9:22 am
Thank you blog family!
Raqi – yes, you are reading correctly
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
9:22 am
congrats tazz…when is the date…finger bling..thats funny…
Is it possible that a person can be right for you know, but was wrong for you years ago?
-yep and thats why i am not with wifey nomo…she dont love me nomo…lol…folks is straight funny…i watched revolutionary road and the movie called fling*..and both movies had the same general theme…right for me now..but long term no….i could feel both of those movies
Kym
August 24th, 2009
9:24 am
Wait did I miss a blog wedding? Oh wait that’s right Ms. QC brother who’s name escapes me right now got hitched.
Wise Diva
August 24th, 2009
9:25 am
Good morning! Pardon all the errors, I promise I was not drunk blogging again.
CONGRATS to my Tazzee!! I haven’t had a chance to threaten to bust knee caps if he acts up, but I’ll get to that, as soon as I stop tearing up, LOL
Grace
August 24th, 2009
9:25 am
congrats Tazzee!!!!!!!!!!
Kym
August 24th, 2009
9:26 am
Just one day I would like the ajc to not eat a blog post. Just one.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
9:26 am
Tazzee I just went over to see and I saw. Congratulations miss lady. I knew it was going to happen soon from reading at your spot.
I am so happy for you. I wish you two all the best that God and this life and give.
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
9:27 am
@kym…is that right ol darrell got hitched…wow….congrats
@tazzee..did you cry and scream thank you jesus..lol
M. (pronounced M dot)
August 24th, 2009
9:28 am
Happy monday.
I think that there is a good chance that you could have met the one but also you may have THOUGHT you met the one, but you are still getting to know yourself, especially in the college part of your life. You dont know exactly where you want to work or even what city you will live in.
Timing is a big part and sometimes its the right person at the wrong time.
I also think you are constantly growing so that person may or may not be what you are looking for later down the line.
Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry?
I think this may have been possible, but I am a notoriously progressive dater. I have coined that term over my dating life and always look at what went wrong/good and add up the total. If bad, cut my losses and move on. I rarely go back to an ex to give it another try.
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
9:29 am
Rell – we haven’t set a date yet. We are going to wait until we go through pre-marital counseling. Plus we still haven’t decided if we are going to have a wedding or not.
Which reminds me, I need to call the church….
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
9:32 am
Wait did I miss a blog wedding? Oh wait that’s right Ms. QC brother who’s name escapes me right now got hitched.
Kym – I remember the announcement that he got engaged but I don’t remember any one that he actually got married. QC never confirmed from what I can remember.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
9:35 am
I really don’t believe in the concept of “The One” because I believe there can be more than one person you connect with.
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
9:35 am
I have heard a lot of couples say that they reconnected through Facebook, or found they were living in the same city, and things clicked instantly. Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?
I guess I have to. My sister dated this guy in college. They were young and stupid, they both had significant others yet were always drawn to each other. Years later, they reconnected on MySpace and were both single. They took a trip together and the rest was history. They just celebrated a year of marriage and now have a baby girl due at the end of the year!!!
Another one of my friends connected with her HS crush on Facebook. They will be married in April.
I guess timing is everything. I try not to look backwards in my relationships, but I could be open to doing so for certain reasons.
Foots
August 24th, 2009
9:39 am
Kym — And my friend Lady Dark w/ Dimples got married last March. She announced her engagement on here.
Foots
August 24th, 2009
9:40 am
And Musing Lee and Swiss…
Kym
August 24th, 2009
9:40 am
@ARed one of my friends is dating an old flame she reconnected with on Facebook.
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
9:42 am
And the blogger who got engaged at the Kindred concert.
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
9:47 am
Three Words Daily – Now’s the time.
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
9:48 am
until we go through pre-marital counseling.
- yep…good look
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
9:53 am
Yes, Taz – this weekend’s leakage of the eyes is credited to you.
I’ve done some reconnecting and some disconnecting. It is the cycle of life.
Mo (aka Moeisha aka Katt)
August 24th, 2009
9:54 am
Morning All!
Congrats Tazzee!!! Wishing you all the best!
BRB – gotta get this kettle corn popped first
Compelling
August 24th, 2009
9:55 am
Congratulations Tazzee!!! What great news!!! Peace and blessings to you both.
As for the question(s) at hand: Anything’s possible. Timing really is everything. It happens for some people and as evidenced by the comments here, they can live happily ever after. However, the men that I dated in my past are out of my life for a reason. I can honestly say that no Facebook messages, MySpace pics, or random coffee house spottings will ever put me back together with any guy from my past. If anything, I’d probably run in the other direction, lol.
East Point's Own
August 24th, 2009
9:56 am
I have often thought that I may end up with a woman I currently know. Not one that I have dated, but a woman who has been in my life for years. There are maybe 3 women who I could imagine myself settling down with, but they are all at least 600 miles away. I know if I moved to any of the 3 cities where they live or close to it that we would at least start down the road to marriage if some other guy did not beat me to it.
Those are just the 3 with whom I think there are mutual feelings, I think there are probably 3 more women who want me to settle down with them, but I have no interest in return…but that’s another story.
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
9:56 am
Wise Diva – I’ll relay that kneecap message to him, LOL. My uncles want to have a talk with him…
Rell – I cried, quite a bit – but I didn’t yell ‘thank you Jesus!’ LOL.
SexyCool – thanks for being so happy for me!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
9:58 am
Hi WD, Good Morning All,
“Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?” ABSOLUTELY…I’ve just seen too much in my life to believe in “coincidence”.
“Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? Do you believe that it’s about timing?” It is all in the timing. There have been a number of times I met someone at a time when she or I were involved…that in another place and time, could/would have fallen for. (One is happily married in Tupelo MS, but the one night we spent together all those years ago was magical…but she was involved and so was I).
“Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago?” Maybe, but most likely not. Wrong is wrong usually.
“I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny?” I believe in destiny, but the tough part is “what/who” is our destiny. Most of us don’t realize it. My marriage was brought about by a drunken dumbazz (me) dialing a wrong number and starting a conversation. Destiny…I think so. It ended up causing two marriages and seven children (the guy with me that night ended up marrying her sister). Marriage sucked, but I love my children more than anything. Without that wrong number, they would not exist.
Destiny is not necessarily something you see at the time…it is something you see much later…that of all of the possible paths in this world, it wass the one you chose (or was chosen for you) that changed your life, and everyone you touched later.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
9:58 am
Good morning everyone!
CONGRATULATIONS, TAZ! Your happiness has been pouring through these pages for quite some time. Yay, for you!
@Kym, Darrell was his name!
Yes, people can change and the “reset” button can be pressed. However, since a lot of folk don’t believe in backtracking, one may never know if they dated someone who might have become their husband. Moving forward, everything happens for a purpose and people are placed in your lives for a reason. Destiny, mestiny, it’s all in your hands.
I have a friend who reconnected with a h.s. mate on Facebook. Both are now in their late 40’s. They’ve been dating long distance and she’s in love and he says he loves her too (from the emails I’ve read). However, she pours her heart out and wears all emotions on her sleeve. People change, some for the best some for the worse. His red flag to me is when he said “you always appeared so strong and levelheaded in school. Now, you don’t seen to handle stress very well.” One’s perception changes as time goes by. Not prudent to live by the thoughts from yesteryear. Life has a way of beating up on some people. My exes will remain my exes!
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
10:08 am
Taz – OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! ~LOL~
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
10:09 am
@ Leggs re: “everything happens for a purpose and people are placed in your lives for a reason” …I believe this one probably more strongly than anything else I believe.
I know most on this blog are not country music fans, but the group Rascal Flatts has some of the best lyrics of any group out there. One song that I know WD is very familiar with is titled “God Bless the Broken Road (that led me straight to you)”. Check it out sometime on line. Why did we choose the path we chose? Like I said, I do not believe in coincidence.
I absolutely believe what you wrote.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
10:11 am
Morning all…
Congrats, Tazzee! Okay, so spill it — how did he pop the question? The blog ladies are dying to know, and some of the dudes could use ideas.
On topic — I would like to believe in destiny; that everything happens for a reason & that there is some larger, cosmic plan to everything. It’s a nice thought (well, so long as that cosmic plan isn’t for me to become a man-wh@re, sucking dyck for crack, or something like that). But, my utter rejection of anything resembling an orchestrating higher power won’t let me buy into it. I think there are always opportunities out there, and your life is all about what you make of them.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
10:16 am
I forgot about MusingLee and Swiss. Cool beans. @Randy T I am a fan of country music..some of my best pick me ups come from the likes of the Dixie Chicks, Kenny Chesney and Sugarland.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
10:20 am
@Swiss I believe in past lives and that if you feel a really deep connection to someone(not that whole one night in Bangkok stuff ) then its possible you were connected to them in another life.
Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!
August 24th, 2009
10:30 am
Good Morning all
**Mr Unknown** What you talkin about? Yes chile it is call in sick. I mean half of my small dept called out this morning. More work for me.
Congrats Tazzee…..(Singing “ANOTHER BITES THE DUST”)
blog confetti falls from the air!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
10:32 am
@Randy ~ I love country music. A lot of their songs are heartfelt and have great messages. Their lyrics are profound. Love Rascal Flatts, Reba, Carrie Underwood(newcomer), Trace Atkins, Brad Paisley, Darius Rucker, etc. I love the title and will check it out.
@Swiss, you are going to have a beautiful day Saturday.
Professor
August 24th, 2009
10:37 am
Tazz I am so HAPPY FOR YOU! Now that is wonderful news!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
10:38 am
Good mornting gang!
And a big ole CONGRATULATIONS to our fellow blogette TAZZEE! Yeah, you gotta spill the beans on how he did it!
On topic – While I’m a romantic and I do believe in destiny, some stuff just is NOT meant to be. We want it too so bad cause the story sounds so good and all – “we met back up after 15 years and the love was still there, yada yada! It DOES work quite a bit – one of my sister’s best friends from college met her husband at a Spelman/Morehouse reunion and the rest is history. For me, one of the worst relationships I’ve had was a “meet back up”. I dated very briefly this guy I met at one of my cousin’s 30th birthday party. We went on a few dates, but this other guy I still had feelings for was moving back to town. Fast forward 10 years at another cousin’s wedding reception. I see the same guy and his sister is the one marrying my cousin. Well the attraction was still there and yes it felt like destiny. Plus this dude looked like a taller version of Tyson Beckford. We dated and it was pure H. He was a man ho with a capital H! I have never cussed someone out as bad as I did him. After him I took a year & a half hiatus from dating, until I met my current wonderful SO!
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
10:40 am
Taz – OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! ~LOL~
the proposal (with a little extra): http://lifeisministry.blogspot.com/2009/08/my-weekend_23.html
Professor
August 24th, 2009
10:41 am
I will not pull out the rewind and repeat button for my answer on this topic. I think timing is everything and I have stated this before.
Over the years there were a few special guys that I had a deep connection with, but the timing was not there. Probably if timing had been different we would have wrapped our arms around each other and made a vow of forever.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
10:45 am
All this love and destiny talk..it feels like Valentine’s Day..Lets press the pod and see what love song spins first..After Tonight..Will Downing..we have a winner!
Melo
August 24th, 2009
10:48 am
Three Words:
Its going Down
Congrats Tazzee…he beat me to it.Lucky guy!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
10:49 am
That was a wonderful read, Tazzee!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
10:51 am
I belief in destiny and I believe that certain things are meant to be. However I also believe that we can hinder or prevent those happenings whether on purpose or involuntarily. And I do believe that it comes down to the right time and place for some events to rightfully and/or properly manifest.
Sometimes we have to grow a little more or go thru some other avenues and trials of life to prepare or get to that right place in time to be the right person for each other.
And then sometimes it never come to be because we messed it up some way, some how.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
10:58 am
Taz – Great story!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
10:58 am
@RandyT, read the lyrics, but can’t hear the song. Nice, nice words! I read all the while thinking of those that I dated, my marriage experience along with experience of divorce, wondering….again, nice lyrics.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
10:58 am
Morning, Leggs — Thanks… I can’t wait. Hopefully the weather this Saturday will resemble the weekend just passed — clear & not-so-hot. Meantime, it’s going to be a busy week. Got to get packed up and moved out of my place this week, as my place is scheduled to close the day after I get back from the honeymoon.
Anyone wanna help me move? I’ll give you all the beer/booze you can drink…
Kym — Yeah, I would like to believe in such things, and at times the romantic side of my brain does take over briefly; then the stone-cold logical side of my brain wakes up & beats the romantic side into submission.
Although, I think there’s still room for romance without believing in any sort of destiny or deeper, cosmic connection, etc. It’s just a different type of romantic idea, I suppose… more about having the desire to “make it be” rather than “it was meant to be…” If that makes any sense…
Now having said that, Swiss Miss & I have both had our houses on the market for quite some time with no luck, and right before the wedding we get contracts on both — so maybe some things are meant to be…
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
10:59 am
Nice rock too, by the way!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
11:00 am
@Leggs …there is a shorteded version on Utube of the song with Carrie Underwood and Rascal Flatts doing a duet. 5 star rating by viewers. Still good idea though to listen to the whole version (also on Utube).
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
11:04 am
Can’t get utube @ work. Will listen when I get home! Thanks
@Swiss, can’t lift many heavy things, but I know how to delegate.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
11:04 am
@Swiss see!!! Who knows?? It must be a good day all of my friends Facebook messages are so nice and upbeat.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
11:05 am
Off topic:Randt..there is a fast food peri-peri chicken joint in DC called Nando’s,have u tried them yet??
They are South african and if u havent tried them yet,please do, i highly recommend them.
Mo (aka Moeisha aka Katt)
August 24th, 2009
11:05 am
Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason? Yep
Do you believe that it’s about timing? Definitely
How much do you think our life experiences change us? They shape you as a person, assisting in your development.
Is it possible that a person can be right for you know, but was wrong for you years ago? Im sure its possible however I have never really given much thought to the possibility. I pretty much leave the past at the past.
Pretty Wings
August 24th, 2009
11:07 am
Good Morning Bloggers and mazeltov to you Tazzee!
I can only say if Fate is kind, I have already met him!
OFF TOPIC:
Congratulations to the AJC on their Sunday piece on Health care. It was informative, insigtful and interesting!
Have a great day everyone!
Deeva4Life
August 24th, 2009
11:07 am
Congratulations Tazzee!!!! I pray you have a long, happy and healthy union.
Professor
August 24th, 2009
11:09 am
Tazzee great read…
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
11:15 am
Hey Melo…I will try them out when I get back…my plans/directives seem to change daily…wherever my company has another fire they need putting out. Where is it in DC, sounds familiar, maybe Adams Morgan or somewhere like that? A place I really like is right across from the Metro stop in Chiantown. It is a Spanish Tapas bar with Happy Hour Sangria (probably a half a dozen different kinds) and complimentary paella. Great (and usually some “eye candy”).
Professor
August 24th, 2009
11:19 am
Randyt…Sangrias are my favorite!!! I am going to wake up a Sangria and it is going to be Kimmie’s fault because she gave me two recipes and I am a sangria making machine
Eiljah ( Professor got what I need!)
August 24th, 2009
11:22 am
Good Morning good looking people of the blog world!
Congratualations to Ms. Tazzee soon to be Mrs. Tazzee! May God bless your union for a lifetime with good health, peace and happiness!
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
11:23 am
tazzee that story going straight to DVD…..lol….good read
Melo
August 24th, 2009
11:24 am
Randyt, i dont know exactly.I got the news from Fortune magazine.
I havnt been to DC myself,so no idea.Matter of fact,lemme me hit up my young bro in DC and if he knows,i will let u know.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
11:27 am
@ Melo I looked up Nandos on line. That food looks awesome and I developed a taste for food witha Portuguese flair in Newark one time. I will definitely try it out.
@ Professor…about a year and a half ago, an associate and I hopped a jet out of Newcastle, England to Barcelona, Spain. Right off of Las Ramblas there are a bunch of Sangria bars. It was the first time I had tasted Sangria since college. It was so great I wish I had not gone so long. So good. I remembered the way I used to feel the next morning (not good), but had forgotten just how great it could taste.
Eiljah ( Jam is one of a kind! :smile: )
August 24th, 2009
11:28 am
That,s congratulations Ms. Tazzee!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
11:30 am
Professor – Don’t blame (hiccup) me, (hiccup)! It’s all good, I love me some sangria. Probably make some Labor Day weekend – Imma start buying the ingredients!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
11:43 am
Speaking of today’s topic & destiny, they were talking about this same subject on Q100 this morning. This lady called in to tell about meeting back up with her high school sweetheart at their 29th reunion back this past July 11. She stayed for about 2 weeks, went back to FLA to tie up some things and is moving back with her son. They are getting married. He has a son the same age – 11. She said all is working out wonderfully.
Professor
August 24th, 2009
11:55 am
@Kimmie…LOL.
@Randyt…I am thinking about where I plan to vacation next year. Shall I use the places with the best sangrias as the deciding factor?
@Elijah…sending you a glass I saw the moniker.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
11:59 am
TAZZEE!!! Congrats to you
The Truth-Don't Call it a Comeback
August 24th, 2009
12:00 pm
Whats up folks?
Congratulations Tazz. I hope the 2 of you have the life you’ve always dreamed of. Do I need to send a matching jersey? LOL
For those that remember him GAMAN is engaged too. He met his dream woman and popped the question. My boy here leaves this week to get married. Its something in the air folks. Inhale. LOL
W8©
August 24th, 2009
12:03 pm
Destiny..I dont believe in it when it comes to relationships……Yeah I think I let one get away that I should have married…but then again I am glad i didn’t…so..I guess I made the right choice. Timing…depends on who’s time schedule…but I used to beliebe in destiny, timing the goodness of folks i general….not anymore though…life is just what you make it and what you are willing to deal with and what you are not…but that’s just my opinion
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
12:06 pm
Truth – So good to read you man! Hope all is well.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
12:07 pm
Hello Truth. Hope you’re doing great over there. No more towel wrapped around your head. Are you back home?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
12:09 pm
Truth – How’s my hubby doing over there across the water? Do you have a tan?LOL!!
Good to hear from you!
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
12:11 pm
Thanks Everyone!
Kimmie – I wouldn’t have picked this ring, but when he put it on my finger I fell in love with it instantly. In our conversations I told him I like white gold and princess cut. Then when he told me why he just had to get this ring, I fell in love with it even more.
Truth – Good to read you man! I’ll have to send GaMan a congratulatory email. Naw, no matching jersey – he’s a Tampa Bay fan, but I’m still working on that.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
12:12 pm
Truth!!! How goes it?? I hope you are well big bro. Stay out of trouble.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
12:28 pm
Truth
What’s man! Hope that things are well for ya over there.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
12:31 pm
What’s up with ya Truth!? Good to ready ya
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Raqi
August 24th, 2009
12:37 pm
Tazzee I think you wonderful news has everyone in a fantabulous feeling all lovable mood today. Or it could very well be that the winter is right around the corner and folks looking for a warm body to snuggle up against, but I was surely expecting more “I don’t do do-overs”, “I don’t give second chances” and “they are an ex for a reason” comments like we have seen in the past when the topic of re-dating an ex comes up. You have filled the air with so much love today in addition to your normal pleasantness. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 24th, 2009
12:37 pm
Yeah its cool to recycle someone.. I had a bevy of beauties that I was not ready to recieve in my day.. Now if I ran across one or two of them and they wanted to pursue something I wouldnt limit the situation..
I recently got a call from a ex girlfriend recently divorced but me no likey long distance so I just chit chat with her and will not go any further than that.. I actually dont her to be trying to use me to ride the scream machine to get over her divorce..
Kym
August 24th, 2009
12:43 pm
@Raqi..LOL Just like GA weather stick around long enough it will change.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
12:58 pm
Raqi/Kym
Just like GA weather stick around long enough it will change
Raqi – I expected more negative responses, too.
I am in a good mood because we went shooting at the gun range this weekend. How can you be anything but happy after a weekend of safe firearm weaponry?
The wife even picked out a Sig P238 (handgun) to purchase for herself. She is headed down to the Courthouse to get a carry/conceal permit for it.
The Truth-Don't Call it a Comeback
August 24th, 2009
1:01 pm
Its good to read you all. I hope all is well with every one of you. Things are going well with me. I have my feet back under me and my goals and dreams in front of me. Life is good.
Hey, we need to do something as a blog fam for Tazz. I cant be there physically but whatever I can do to help I will. She’s been a special blogger for so long we have to show up. (This post will appear blank to Tazzee)
Kym
August 24th, 2009
1:06 pm
@Poppa G/ARed What do you two know about the Dill Ave area of Atlanta, I saw online a couple of cute houses in that area..Capital View area I think? So I wanted to know if that is one of the upswing areas of Atlanta.
Jamoca - Something strange is happening...
August 24th, 2009
1:07 pm
Tazzee – Wonderful news! And congrats to you both!
Truth – Nice reading you again…it’s been awhile it seems.
On Topic –
Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?… Of course.
Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? …I really don’t know how to answer that..can’t call it.
Do you believe that it’s about timing? I believe timing to be a big part of the equation, but not necessarily its entirety. Depends who you ask…
How much do you think our life experiences change us? This depends on the individuals involved and if they’re willing to allow themselves to grow. Depending on one’s resistance/open-ness to the thought of “change,” our life experiences has the potential to have an insignificant or dramatic impact…again depends on the individual, their mentality and self awareness.
Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago? I certainly do. Some call it growth.
I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny? Unsure of that as well. I’m simply of the belief that everything comes along in our lives for a reason, whether we’re receptive to it or not…ready or not. However, I do believe depending on the roads we travel, we will and do have an impact on how we get from point A to point B…but arriving at point B nonetheless.
JtJ
August 24th, 2009
1:08 pm
Hey Ya’ll……long time no blog………I just had to post a “CONGRATULATIONS to Ms. Tazzee Mae Jenkins…….Go on girl……yeah I do think it is something in the air.
What’s up ARED, MELO, LEGGS, FOOTS, DAN, INFAMOUS, W8, RAQI……I have been lurking trying to stay under IT’s radar, you guys are definately true to this blog.
I wish all of you all who are seeking love and exploring the possibility of being in a relationship to be true to yourself. Meeting and re-connecting can be a good thing, if the relationship didn’t end for obvious reasons ( i.e. cheating, abuse, illegal activities, etc.) People grow, people change, people mature……it is worth a chance to at least see what could be.
Until the next time………………peace!!!!
Beautiful loves MV7
August 24th, 2009
1:12 pm
congratulations Tazz! sniff. that’s beautiful.
Beautiful loves MV7
August 24th, 2009
1:13 pm
hey Truth! thanks for poppin’ in.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
1:18 pm
Kym
I have two really good friends that live in that area. One has had a very good experience in the Capital View area. No problems, good neighbors, and no robberies at all in six years. He has really made his house look very good and yard looks good, too.
However, the other has had more problems than good. He has had more than his share of break-ins. For example, he went on vacation to Rio and came back to find that his house had been broken into and the whole HVAC system was stolen. He has found out that his house was once the house of the nieghborhood crackhouse and some people still come around thinking that it is back in business. Even the cops walked in saying “Wow!! They’ve done wonders to this place!”
I had to show up one time when his alarm went off and he was out of town
Both got money to move into that area. I think that they got first time homebuyer statuses and got even more money. Both have bungalows.
I agree with ya though that there are some nice houses there.
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
1:20 pm
Hi JtJ! Thanks for stopping in. How are YOUR wedding plans going? Is there gonna be a blog table at the reception? LOL
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
1:27 pm
Enter your comments here
Beautiful loves MV7
August 24th, 2009
1:27 pm
Definition for destiny:
1. somebody’s preordained future: the apparently predetermined and inevitable series of events that happen to somebody or something
we always say *it happened for a reason*. destiny is the reason why ppl believe this. yes, i believe in destiny. and i know that some folks come into my life so that i can stay on the right track to where i’m suppose to be going. i just stay optimistic and keep looking straight ahead.
work is calling . . .
JtJ
August 24th, 2009
1:32 pm
Hey Ared,
the plans are coming about. He wants to get married at the courthouse and have a banging reception; but I want the whole church wedding and reception. Eventhough we both were married before, I still did not get to have my princess moment and this time around, I want it to be exactly they way I want it. He has come around to the whole church wedding, but he is planning the reception details all by himself.
We are now debating where, here in Lawrenceville or near his hometown in Tallahassee. If we have it here in ATL, there will definately be evites to my blog peoples!!!!
For Real
August 24th, 2009
1:35 pm
For Real now looking over his shoulder at Tazzee while zipppppppppping up.
Congrats Tazzee, now you have to invite all these crazy azz blogger to the wedding. I’m sitting on your side with my zipper down and hand full of Black Cake. Oh and if you need sanger I been known to tear My Girl Likes to Party All the Time!
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
1:35 pm
If we have it here in ATL, there will definately be evites to my blog peoples!!!!
(just the ones you’ve met and are cool with of course!
)
For Real
August 24th, 2009
1:36 pm
Oops I forgot to add while listen to “The End of the Road” For Real now looking over his shoulder at Tazzee while zipping up.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
1:38 pm
Hello JtJ. Glad to see plans are moving along and you guys compromised. You’ll have the wedding you, want and he’ll plan the reception. Compromise is the second ingredient to loving, lasting relationship/marriage.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
1:43 pm
hey JtJ/Truth!
i think there is going to be another announcement of nuptials this year,to make it three.
I can smell it.We are losing our blog females,this yr is a record.Raqi,Poppa and I must be doing sme right!
Tallahassee or Lawrenceville,it dont matter,Queen and I will be there!
Siwss, are u fasting(sexually ofcourse) this week??
For Real
August 24th, 2009
1:44 pm
What up Truth good to read you bruh.
"Longtime Lurker"
August 24th, 2009
1:50 pm
@Wise Lurker, I will have to keep it short, because I am headed to a meeting! I will say this though and I have said it before…’We are our own worst enemy the majority of the time’
I feel people should quit limiting their options and go with the possibilities and what feels right in the gut!
If you dated a guy let’s say 10 years ago or even 5 years ago, he may not be the same person he was then! His views may have changed and he may have matured as a person! I will fess up and honestly say that I am definitely more mature, stable and open to a relationship now vs. 5-10 years ago!
People normally become more mature,more stable, more comfortable with them selves and more open minded in most/some cases as they get older, so reconnection with someone who already has a history with you may be very beneficial to ‘both parties’ interest long-term!
In today’s world it is always better to meet someone through a close friend or co-worker, that knows you vs. some random broad / dude!
It is always better to hook up with someone you already know vs.some random broad / dude!
Didn’t we just give Micheal Vick a second chance? Is he the same person he was two to three years ago? Why not give an ex a second chance, based on their changes and maturity?
I will read you guys in two hours….
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
1:53 pm
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
1:53 pm
JtJ – thanks for popping in to wish me well. I’m glad you’re getting your big church wedding.
For Real – you are a stone cold fool! Thanks for that laugh, your nasty tail.
JtJ
August 24th, 2009
1:53 pm
Hey Leggs,
yes, we compromised. I am a little curious about the reception, he is a planner and party person, plus a former DJ, so I am sure it will off the chain. I told him as long as he don’t have my sisters or cousins hanging from the chandelier…..he’s ok. I am sure it will end up on Youtube, too.
JtJ
August 24th, 2009
1:54 pm
Hey Melo……the blog ladies are “DOING SOMETHING RIGHT”!!!
MsM
August 24th, 2009
1:56 pm
:EVIL:
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
1:56 pm
@LL, depending on the degree of pain suffered because of an ex, getting back together 10 or even 15 years later to a “changed” person may be true. What’s also true is the pain and suffering one went through to get to the healing process. Just because people age, doesn’t mean they mature. Some will still see yesteryear and may snap and pop him/her in the back of the head just because! J/K, kinda sorta!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
1:57 pm
Hell Melo I don’t know about that. I ate an entire bag of Dove chocolates on our ride back home Sunday from Virginia. And that’s not a good thing. He knew the level of my pissedness (yeah I said pissedness) when I laid that bag of chocolates on the belt at grocery checkout.
A 10 hours drive with barely 10 words spoken by me.
But today Tazzee has spread her happy, joyful vibes and I am chock full o’ love. But I will warn her to take make sure she get a copy of the “The Truth Be Told” manuel that list all the goods, bads, and uglies to expect.
No. 745 in the manuel is “The man will pisseth thee off occasionally.”
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
1:59 pm
No. 1 in the manual is “You will become an idiot and continuous spell words wrong.”
i.e. Manual and not manuel.
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
2:02 pm
Raqi – I shall be picking up that manual today, LOL. Sorry you got pissed off – especially on a 10 hour drive. Were you in the passenger seat at the time? I can be pissed and drive, but to just sit there – I would burst.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:07 pm
A 10 hours drive with barely 10 words spoken by me
what did he do Raqi?
those days will surely surface,eve now and then..there are times i do the same.Those of u who get inspiration from God and ask/pray to Him for direction,i guess thats what u do.
I just use my common sense.If its God who gave me that common sense,so be it..i dont have a thumper-like explanation.
As long as one remembers why they married that person in the fist place,they’re good!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:08 pm
Tazzee, yes at first I was but he kept touching me so I got in the back with the baby. LOL
Did I mention I am truly happy for you?
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
2:12 pm
Raqi – yes you did. Thank you!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
2:14 pm
@Professor…sorry to just now get back to you. I met a lady at Ted’s Montana Grill for lunch and time got away from me. Re your question about whether to pick your vacation based on the sangria…I’d say yes, for sure. I can honestly say that I liked Barcelona as much as any place I’ve ever been and the sangria there is extraordinary. Could there be a connection…maybe
(of course, the beautiful city, delicious food, awesome Mediterranean sunshine, and last but not least…incredibly beautiful women may have influenced my opinion some also.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
2:14 pm
“are u fasting(sexually ofcourse) this week??”
Melo — Apparently so, but not by choice… Swiss Miss already has some family & friends in town & staying with her/us, so the Matterhorn has been put on ice so far. Of course, she’s still been discreetly grabbing/rubbing/teasing whenever the opportunity arises… Seriously, I don’t think most ladies truly understand what they’re playing with — it’s a loaded weapon, and it could go off at any moment.
I’ve already warned her that I’mma tear that azz up on the wedding night, however… 
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:19 pm
Yeah Melo those days will be. And you are correct we chose each other so we have to deal with the “all” that we bring.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:23 pm
Swiss,i know ull make me proud on wedding night,no doubt.Thats the night u should make memories,at least for her.
Whatever happens down the road,make that night special, a night she will neva forget for as long as she lives.
Im so happy for u,not for the wedding,but for getting it from her,on that night,no hang ups,no sense of guilt of fornication on her part or urs.Nada!!
Just Mr swiss’ version of copious, unbriddled,messy and full access sexx,no holds barred.
Congrats my brother!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:23 pm
Swiss when are you getting married?
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:29 pm
@Melo what is this sense of guilt you are talking about? I have felt alot of things after sex regret maybe but guilt never that.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:32 pm
Melo you are truly a character but you are correct. There was something really special about that first time I made love with my husband. It’s crazy because it’s the same act as before but it’s real.
The only difference in making love and just having sex is the mind.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
2:34 pm
Raqi — T-minus 5 days, 4 hours, 26 minutes and 40..39..38..37…
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:35 pm
>strong>I have felt alot of things after sex regret maybe but guilt never that
Our values are no the same Kym.
I was talking of the sense of guilt u wld feel if u fornicate.After the blessed wedding,its all systems God.
God will be helping Swiss to take down her underwear!
Ofcourse some dont feel the same way about fornication,even murder,i wont begrudge them tho.
They have a diffrnt value system.
(did u follow the uproar fom animal rights pple when Obama killed a fly at a press confnce?? thats values gone to the extreme left)
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:36 pm
But if you are having sex with someone you love..why does the fact that you now get to do it with all the legal paperwork in place make a difference?
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
2:39 pm
@ Swiss…I think it is very important that you defend the sacred honor of us Scorpios everywhere by hitting it in the stairwell, maybe the bathroom, out on the deck under a beach towel, maybe all of the above. You need to be ready to take one for the team, bro…our reputations are at stake.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:39 pm
Kym when you are raised in a way of being told that sex belongs within the marriage you always have that little thingy in the back of your mind. For me it didn’t bother me all the time but every now and again I would feel that little twinge of guilt. You can’t fully get rid of that feeling when it has been ingrained. I believe sex within a committed relationship is okay, but I could not forget how my dad raised me.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
Unfortunately, that “piece of paper” turn people into chattel! Sex is good better, or nonexistent. That papers messes w/a lot of people minds from how the house should be run to how often sex/loving should be dispensed. It takes very loving and connected individuals to understand that little piece of paper really doesn’t have any power at all!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
“God will be helping Swiss to take down her underwear!”
Well that may be the case, but god is getting sloppy seconds that night…
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:42 pm
Yes Melo I know our values no same..your blues are not like mine..blah blah. So why is it God only showed up at the rodeo on the wedding day? Where was she the other(365 mulitply by two minus 84 give or take vacation days) times you were getting busy?
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
2:43 pm
Kym
why does the fact that you now get to do it with all the legal paperwork in place make a difference?
I am a legal eagle, but I think that there is a difference between the religious part of marriage and the legal part of marriage.
I guess that you put them together as one, but I think that they are different.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
2:44 pm
Raqi – I get that twinge too.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:45 pm
But if you are having sex with someone you love..why does the fact that you now get to do it with all the legal paperwork in place make a difference?
good qstion but i need the thumper crowd to help me out here.
All i know is that i learnt the lessons early(like most other pple) and i may not be able to quote the verses verbatim on why we shldnt.
In zulu we say,”the stolen goodies taste much sweeeter”, so u may be on to smething Kym..some ” evil but sweet delirium”!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:46 pm
Kym my date also taught us that you date to marry. So for a while there I was looking for a husband in every guy that I thought about dating. It was miserable but it was something I had to get over. By the time I was 25 I had learned to drop that mindset and date to date. If a relationship formed then good. If not then so be it.
Now I always did hold sex to a much higher standard than just dating. It took a really special guy to get the sex. But I dated numbly for a little while not looking for anything but a good date outing out of it.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
2:47 pm
@kimmie, is the twinge because you want to be married to this man?
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:47 pm
My dad not my date…
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:48 pm
PoppaG
I get that there is a difference(which is why I don’t understand people getting church approval for divorce.well I think practicing Catholics do.I shall look that up) but I am trying to figure out why for Melo and others God only showed up when you got naked on the wedding night.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:48 pm
Kym,they say He forgives so we may be forgiven if we go ahead and fornicate.
BUT, that was not me speaking!
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
2:49 pm
I never felt guilt because I always known that as a human I am imperfect.
As far as the piece of paper goes, I never thought about it at all (except when going to the courthouse for it).
Leggs, it does have some legal power, such as inheritance, benefits, etc. That is probably why same-sex couples want it. However, they can have a ceremony and be each other spouse with it.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
sorry should read not getting church approval for divorce.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
2:51 pm
I am trying to figure out why for Melo and others God only showed up when you got naked on the wedding night.
For me Kym(thats why i didnt do no wedding), when i paid my customary african marriage dues to the parents, i had a freer mind to indulge.I knew it was blessed by them,the parents.
Fot those who go the wedding route,yeah there is a religius angle to it.U may not believe it but thats how it is for those who believe so.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
2:53 pm
Kym because marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled in the eyes of God according to the bible. And if you associate marriage with God it is holy before him.
So sex outside of marriage could be viewed as a defiled act. But it all goes back to how you are taught and what you believe in the feelings of guilt or not that you get while engaging outside of the marital bed.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
2:55 pm
Leggs – I would like to be married to him, but that’s not the reason for the twinge. I’ve had the twinge with every guy I’ve ever been with. It was not enough to stop me. But I suspect it will never completely go away until I do get married. It’s like Raqi said, I was taught a certain way. Mind you, my parents were a little more practical about that and after I went off to college, stopped the “don’t before marriage” talk. My church didn’t make a huge deal of it either. But I do give my Christian teachings at least some consideration.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
2:55 pm
“I never felt guilt because I always known that as a human I am imperfect.”
We are made human not perfect..Sex is natural, birds,bees, and all animals do it. My point is it is natural to want to engage in sexual activity..if you don’t you become like old dude who shot up the LA Fitness<<<thats a whole other Oprah.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
2:55 pm
I thoroughly understand the legal power. That’s why, a man wasn’t going to shack w/me and not marry me. The piece of power and it’s legal power mentally make people flip and forget what the heart and mind dictates. All they see is that piece of paper! It changes people.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
2:55 pm
Kym
I am trying to figure out why for Melo and others God only showed up when you got naked on the wedding night.
I read them saying the exact opposite. The fact that they had guilt showed that they were felt guilt toward God. If that weren’t the case, they wouldn’t mention guilt at all.
I think that we all have different relationships with God. How they relate with him is personal to them.
That is what I’ve always taken from the words from the Hymn called Blessed Assurance that say “This is my story, this is my song”. It is a personal thing.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
2:58 pm
Leggs
All they see is that piece of paper! It changesSOME people.
Fixed it for you. It doesn’t change everyone. Most of the time, people didn’t change at all. Just that part of them hadn’t been exposed yet. People give signs all of the time that we don’t heed.
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
2:59 pm
the legal paperwork in place make a difference?
- jedi mind trick!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:01 pm
Thanks PoppaG because I’m an advocate of using the word “some”.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:03 pm
Kym
Sex is natural, birds,bees, and all animals do it.
I understand where you are coming from. However, some people don’t believe that we are part of the animal kingdom. Plenty of religions forbid the thought of evolution. Heck, we even had US Supreme Court cases where one party is trying to forbid the teaching of evolution. So, it can be conflict for some people.
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
3:03 pm
bed undefiled in the eyes of God according to the bible.
- hey raqi do you think PORN defiles the bed or lustful thoughts…i went to a retreat once back in my day…and porn was included in the act along with lustful thoughts….what do you think?
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:05 pm
kimmie you know my dad raised us in the way that he felt was right but he allowed us to live our owns lives with condemnation from him. He never said anything to me about the times I would drop my boys off at my parents’ house to go spend the weekend with Mason. But I was never disrespectful before him about it. I didn’t ask him “dad can you watch my boys for the weekend while I go lay up bucket nekkid in a hotel for two days with my boyfriend”. That would have been disrespectful to him and how he taught me. But he knew who I was spending time with.
He hated that I lived with whitebread but he only pressed the issue of not liking whitebread because he did not trust him. He never condemned my for getting pregnant with my second but I still knew what he stood for and what he believes to be right. And I believe it also that’s why I would have those brief moments of guilt every now and then.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:06 pm
Sex is natural, birds,bees, and all animals do it
dont the bible say we have dominion over animals?? I wldnt put myself and animals in same boat.
personally, i wish i were a virgin be4 i got married coz sexx def got me into problems.From my story(as Poppa says) i wld say God is abolutely right,no sexx be4 mariage and if u experience a strong urge to sexx,pray, so u can overcome that.
Most of us dont pray thats why we glorify fornication and see it in a cavalier way.
Hope u be forgivven u sinners! Thsts ur only hope,othersie u go to hell.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:06 pm
It’s not that sex is not a natural act or emotion but it like so many other things has its rightful place and that is said to be within a marriage.
Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!
August 24th, 2009
3:08 pm
**Melo** **>strong>I have felt alot of things after sex regret maybe but guilt never that
Our values are no the same Kym.
I was talking of the sense of guilt u wld feel if u fornicate.After the blessed wedding,its all systems God.
God will be helping Swiss to take down her underwear!**
Exactly MELO…that’s probably the best time! I can’t wait to see how that feels! I am gonna wear his ass out!
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:08 pm
No Rell I don’t. I do believe bringing another person into your bed is defiling because sex with that other person is sex outside of the commitment and bond that the husband and wife share alone.
I believe in the whole you become one when married with no one else in between.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:09 pm
Leggs
No problem.
First, I have always said that marriage isn’t for everyone. Religion, society, fairy tales, etc. tries to tell us otherwise. But, it isn’t for everyone.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
3:11 pm
Leggs – Also, that same “guilt” and upbringing makes certain things uncomfortable, if not almost impossible for me to do. Like very casual hookups, purposely having a baby out of wedlock and shacking. One guy I was very close to marrying said he would not marry anyone that didn’t shack at least one year with him. He knew I had issues with that and it was not going to happen. Both of my parents were alive then too. It would have disappointed them to no end. I could not go against everything that I had been taught AND believed. That was not the reason we broke up at all, but it was a touchy subject.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:12 pm
As for the legalities of marriage and the holiness of it, I believe it’s not merely the paper that you sign to make it legal before the state but it’s also the vows that you make before God for those who believe marriage is established and instituted by God.
I believe marriage is before God.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 24th, 2009
3:14 pm
“… Sex is natural, sex is good
Not everybody’s done, but everybody should
Sex is natural, sex is fun
Sex is best when it’s 1 on 1….”
D@mmit, see what you all went & put in my head….
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
3:14 pm
Raqi – My parents were the same way. I can identify with what you’re saying.
My mom used to tell me too – there’s a WAY to do everything.
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
3:16 pm
Shacking. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt. Will not be shacking in the future.
Sexual relations. I’m less than perfect. It is what it is. I’m cool with me and where I am with it.
And on a semi-related note, my pastor encouraged me to make sure that I made it to church on Sunday via FaceBook. I finally accepted his friend request. After church, I had an opportunity to sit down with him and have a conversation with he and his wife. And it’s official – He is real people. And understands the difference between religion and relationship. And I heart real people.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:17 pm
GOD, is the Ultimate Father,the Supreme Father.
If u cant at least recognize his authority,even tho u may not follow to the tee what he may want out of u…then hmmmmmmmmmm.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:17 pm
My oldest told Mason after we got that he was glad Mason made me an honest by marrying me.
At his young age he understands that fornication is not looked at positively before God but that doesn’t stop him from doing what he does either. He knows to not get disrespectful with it also.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:18 pm
@kimmie, thank you for your honesty. That is why I’m glad the “twinge” is there. That twinge merely incorporates your morals, your scruples, your pride, dignity and respect for yourself. Your parents did a great job with the only two that are speaking on this….you and Raqi. Sure others feel this way, but you two are speaking on it. My morals have never gotten in my way, but it seems to get in the way of others. Glad you got the twinge. Many women should have it and listen to it.
The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE
August 24th, 2009
3:20 pm
I do believe bringing another person into your bed
- a man will hold that image in his head or act and bring it to the bedroom
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
3:20 pm
…stepping in for a moment.
@Randyt…thanks I will keep that in mind.
@melo/Raqi…I do understand what you are talking about…esp. you Raqi as it relates to if you are raised a certain way. One of my names have a deep meaning as it relates to not having sex…it is rough when I think about it and see or hear my name. My folks knew what they were doing…lol
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:21 pm
i was watching a discovery channel show on saturday, trying to scientifically tell how the earth was formed(many billions years ago) and the process it took and how satellites are formed etc.
scary stuff,if u think about it or saw it…..
thats why i neva want to speak ill about GOD,my weaknesses not withsatnding.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
3:22 pm
Thanks Leggs!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:24 pm
I believe marriage is an institutiion sanctioned by God. However, I’ve also seen the hangups people bring to the table by having that “piece of paper.” What I am saying is those that merely believe IN the paper and not in the institution are the ones that fall and fall HARD!
Kym
August 24th, 2009
3:25 pm
@Poppa G I usually say “We all got our walk.” Don’t start with the evolution stuff..I remember having to get a permission slip to discuss that in class, along with sex education. I like to say I was raised by with country, baptist, sprinkle in a catholic, bible thumping, realists. Yeah they said wait to get married, but just in case you are hard headed like we were…here are the facts. Once you have the facts then you choose, but damn it you will have the facts. Never once did they make me feel like I was going to die and go to hell because of sex or that God would not love me or be disappointed in me. Different folks..different strokes
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:25 pm
Melo
Off- theoff topic discussion- Have you seen the movie called “District 9″?
I only ask because it is set in Johannesburg. I’ve seen it. It is a sci-fi lovers dream.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:27 pm
those that merely believe IN the paper and not in the institution
Leggs there lies the great divide.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:28 pm
Poppa, i havent.
Beautiful loves MV7
August 24th, 2009
3:28 pm
**Why not give an ex a second chance, based on their changes and maturity?**
that’s cool, but only one! and it also determines what they did to damage the relationship on if they should get a 2nd chance. imo.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
3:29 pm
Poppa – SO really wants to see that. Is it good?
Kym
August 24th, 2009
3:30 pm
@Melo well if I am going to die and go to hell I will not be alone..Would you like me to save you a bleacher or aisle seat?
Beautiful loves MV7
August 24th, 2009
3:30 pm
i’m ret-2-go already . . .
y’all have a good one!
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
3:31 pm
personally, i wish i were a virgin be4 i got married coz sexx def got me into problems.From my story(as Poppa says) i wld say God is abolutely right,no sexx be4 mariage and if u experience a strong urge to sexx,pray, so u can overcome that. Most of us dont pray thats why we glorify fornication and see it in a cavalier way.
wow – that was golden…I cosign
Yep Raqi to everything you’ve said. That’s how I was raised as well. Didn’t follow during my early twenties, but gotta respect. Did the cohabitating, will never do that again. But ummm, yeah to you Melo and PG.
Dan
August 24th, 2009
3:31 pm
Interesting discussion….
The spiritual requirements vs. state/societal requirements….
Few single people articulating the differences though
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:31 pm
Never once did they make me feel like I was going to die and go to hell because of sex or that God would not love me or be disappointed in me.
Kym neither did my parents. But I have to say the mere teachings of sex belongs with the marriage coupled with respect yourself and your body kept me from giving it to any and every Tom, Richard and Harry as I was growing up as a young lady.
As a parent myself I now that my kids will not adhere to every moral and principle that I try to place within their mind but I do believe it gives them a great foundation to built on.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:32 pm
Leggs,the Paper thing u talk about is caused by the fact that,nowadays,some pple look at marriage more as “status” symbol and not just as a step in the journey of ones lyfe.
Like Poppa said, if pple cld get accustomed to the fact that some get married,others dont,our minds cld be much clearer about marriage.
No wonder we have so many divorces now.
Plus just the capitalism of it all.
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
3:32 pm
Today’s topic……sure why not. Different time and place, some things would probably play out differently.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
3:33 pm
Like the old hymn goes “Everybody talking about heaven..aint going.” <<<so channeling Granny today
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
3:34 pm
District 9 was great! PG good question I am looking forward to hearing Melo’s take if he saw the movie. I will say this I did not like that the Nigerians were running things I felt it added to the sterotypes and some folk forget how big Africa really is it is a continent not a country Nigerians west Africa…Johannesburg South Africa, I am bias when it comes to Nigerians
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
3:35 pm
Not to mention, God knew for most, sex is more than an act and you have all that other baggage that comes with giving yourself to someone. The bond, ties, connection (emotional that is), so from my take it would spin better (as most becom fully entertwined) to be wholly connected to your spouse. IMO
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:36 pm
As far as religion and beliefs go, being human and erroring is one thing, but blatantly disregarding God and his wants for mankind is going way off the deep end.
God knows us better than anyone. He knows our nature. Heck he gave it to us. But that doesn’t mean we should smear out the conscience that he gave us. It keeps us mindful of him.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:37 pm
Leggs,the Paper thing u talk about is caused by the fact that,nowadays,some pple look at marriage more as “status” symbol and not just as a step in the journey of ones lyfe. I’ve been spitting this for quite some time!
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:38 pm
Would you like me to save you a bleacher or aisle seat?
nope.Trust me, im a sinner like u but if i ever have to get a chance to say i apologize for everything i did,be4 i die,i will repent to God and leave the rest to him.
I wont go in ,die hard like u seem to be suggest(aisle seat?).
I have seen/experienced ghosts,evil spirits etc so i know,there is a dark side to dead, real bad pple.
Knowledge is power.
Dan
August 24th, 2009
3:38 pm
@Melo
Ion know about the “[glorification] of sex”, that’s on the individual.
I mean, prior to the current incarnation of the Christian religious tradition, sex was thought (and still is in some current religions) to be a path to spirituality and experiencing the divine.
I’ve thought of sex like that from time to time. Doesn’t contradict my religious beliefs in the slightest.
Raqi
August 24th, 2009
3:38 pm
sex is more than an act
Ms. Main my mother warned me about that. LOL
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:39 pm
Leggs
That is why people must decide if marriage is for them, and then choose wisely.
I definitely believe that it can be a great thing for people who are truly prepared. I also believe that marriage can be a bad thing for people aren’t prepared for it.
I’ve always referred to my marriage as a business entity because that is what motivates me to make it work. No one wants to start a business that will fail. I try to make decisions that will benefit the marriage even if it is at my detriment at time. We have financial meetings, recreation meetings, etc. like you would have at work. It sounds alot like what Raqi alludes to when she says “Respect the marriage”. at least in my mind
Also, business entities have articles of incorporation and such that is similar to a marriage license to me. So, it seemed like a good legal analogy.
That is the process that I had to go through prior to marriage to get marriage
Melo
Ok, I just wondered if you had seen it. It is interesting. It had definite references to apartheid in it and reference to
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:42 pm
Professor
I know that the aliens were called Prawns which is reference to some kind of King Cricket species found in South Africa called a Parktown Prawn or something like that.
For Real
August 24th, 2009
3:42 pm
“A 10 hours drive with barely 10 words spoken by me.” – WTF!!!! I don’t know about yall but Mase will get my PLAYA OF YEAR MOVE vote. I mean dayum he managed to keep RAQI, RAQI quite for 10 fuggin hours!!! The man is a fuggin Genius!!!!
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:42 pm
I think your analogy is perfect. It works for you.
Dan
August 24th, 2009
3:44 pm
@PG
It’s funny that you should make that analogy.
A friend of mine was DEAD SET on not being married but having a “commitment contract” (or something like that). Dude was so serious, he was trying to find legal precedent to justify it.
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
3:45 pm
nope.Trust me, im a sinner like u but if i ever have to get a chance to say i apologize for everything i did,be4 i die,i will repent to God and leave the rest to him.
Say it again, bruh…..Humility goes a long way with God…no matter the state of you being a sinner…
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:49 pm
Professor
I agree about the Nigerian thing. However, I think that it had a purpose. Look to where caucasians lived and where Nigerians lived, especially in reference to South Africa in 1982 and apartheid.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
3:50 pm
I mean, prior to the current incarnation of the Christian religious tradition, sex was thought (and still is in some current religions) to be a path to spirituality and experiencing the divine.<<<Dan I saw this on History Channel but I have on my to read list a book on Goddess worship, and sex and spirituality. If you know of a good one let me know. Right now my days or reading for pleasure are limited. I am currently learn about the lovely world of Family Law–or as I like to say..How to profit on others misery. LOL
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
3:50 pm
Hey Dan!
W8©
August 24th, 2009
3:56 pm
That was deep…that was deep….Nice convo in here today…
Kym why do you think God is a woman?
Melo
August 24th, 2009
3:56 pm
Proff, i didnt watch it.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
3:57 pm
Dan
There are some precedent for it.
There have been cases where one party or the other has sued the other over an broken engagement on ground of “Breach of Promise” or something like that in civil court. Some courts refer to it as a contract. The elements for a contract ( Offer, Acceptance and Consideration) are all there. Oral contracts are legally binding.
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
4:00 pm
There are people who have weddings or ‘commitment ceremonies’ without getting licensed for marriage. There is even at least one book written on it, Unmarried to Each Other.
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
4:00 pm
God is the supreme being….gender isn’t irrelevant so it’s not disclosed. However we can assume, with Adam being made in his likeness and image……
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
4:02 pm
…..that he’s the spiritual Supreme
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:03 pm
Kimmie
If your SO is a sci-fi lover he will not be disappointed. It is a sci-fi film that is almost all sci-fii.
As opposed to The Time Traveler’s Wife, which I hear has almost no sci-fi,and show only be thought of as a romance story. The book is classifed both. However, my friends that it would be a good movie to see with his wife since he loved sci-fi and she likes that romance junk. He was disappointed.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
4:05 pm
Raqi
I think the funniest joke the Divine(PC to cover all beliefs) ever played on mankind was putting us all together on this big orb spinning through space and saying now here deal with it. Ever major religion searches for the truth of how we got here, why are we here, and who’s right or wrong.
I believe that mankind was only given one really great commandment..and it translates all religions and is respected by all faiths..it is also the one we break indivdually and collectively as a whole daily. “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Our neighbor is Muslim and Hindi and Buddist and Atheist. We are all neighbors yet we kill,lie, steal, cheat, disenfranchise, rape some in the very name of God. I never could or would allow myself to think that God so loving forgiven and kind..would turn around and punish her very creations with all of the horrors we read about daily. I realized the horror is what we created..the command is always right there but we have warped it to our own belief systems. By the way I use we as a collective whole. I had this convo once with a friend years ago and he said something that always kind of stuck with me..what if we all have it wrong? Anywhoo didnt mean to go all deep..just came to mind.
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
4:07 pm
@PG great point as it relates to 1982, also a friend mentioned the part about the Prawns to me. I found the movie very exciting and I am not a big Sci-fi fan.
Dan
August 24th, 2009
4:07 pm
@Kym
I’ll have to check my books, can I get that to you next week?
@Leggs
Hey to you too!
@PG
Good information to hold on to. But the homie “gave up the ghost” when he met his wife. She said “uh-uh” and he folded.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:08 pm
Father,Son, Holy Spirit..etc..I am not looking to argue or state my case..I am grounded in my spirituality although I still have alot of growing and pruning to do…I just wanted to know how one would thing that God was a woman?
I mean in the first book of the Bible when God was creating light along with everything else it uses the word “he” separated the light from the darkness…etc…just wondering a bit
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
4:11 pm
@PG I am looking forward to going to see the The Time Traveler’s Wife, for some reason I keep missing it I am going to try again Wednesday after work.
Dan
August 24th, 2009
4:12 pm
@Kym
There’s a movie “Dogma” by Kevin Smith that abstractly tries to deal with the very question that your friend posed.
That question has baffled mankind since before there was before.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
4:15 pm
PG – Okay, cool! His mom loves Sci-Fi too, so I’ll tell her about it.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
4:15 pm
@W8 Because prior to Christian alot of older eastern religions worshipped God as a woman. I understand about God made man in his image but I have always thought that the female form was unique and divine. I understand male sperm/female egg = zygote..but it is the mother that nurtures that offspring..and brings forth life. It is the mother that cherishes and nurtures that life until it is able to stand on its own. It is the mother that loves that life unconditionally even when wrong or right. Not saying that father can’t. There are a few animals, insects that produce offspring..but the uniqueness of that job has always been with the mother and so it is why I believe the divine/God/Goddess is a woman.<<<IMO.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:16 pm
Professor
I found the movie very exciting and I am not a big Sci-fi fan.
Yeah, they did a good job. It looked like Peter Jackson (Lord of the Rings Trilogy director) had his hand in it.
They did a good job by actually developing the main character with that pseudodocumentary. So, you actually know something about him, his family and background. You can actually care about him a little.
Kym
I am currently learn about the lovely world of Family Law–or as I like to say..How to profit on others misery.
Hey!!! What yo mouf! I have the bad habit of liking a roof over my head, so watch what you
….. j/p 
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
4:16 pm
If you believe it’s simple…if you try to find evidence you’ll only confuse yourself…as meant
Kym
August 24th, 2009
4:17 pm
@Dan that’s cool..I am not going to be able to read anything pleasurable for awhile..my life is about real estate, family law, and bankruptcy.
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:18 pm
Dan
There’s a movie “Dogma” by Kevin Smith that abstractly tries to deal with the very question that your friend posed
Alanis Morrissette was God in that movie.
For Real
August 24th, 2009
4:19 pm
Let me say this first:
“An unexamed faith is a blind faith”
Now, if you do your homework about sex and how it relates to religion I know you will be shocked. The church at one time thought prositution was good for marriage and even promoted such. The History Channel (my favorite channel) did a series about religion and sex that was very interesting.
Lets be real, if everyone believed that marriage is in God’s eyes there wouldn’t be a reason or a need for man laws would it. Man laws are so desired that many would not get married without it. As a matter of fact they would be insulted and would question your love for them without it.
Dan: It’s called a Covenant Agreement
Dan
August 24th, 2009
4:20 pm
@Ms. Main
That’s not necessarily true.
My own journey of self discovery led me to question everything. I’ve never been a proponent of “blind faith”. But I will say that the time spent learning was interesting, to say the least. And in the end, I consciously chose my belief system and religious tradition to follow.
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
4:23 pm
Dan
ok
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:24 pm
Kimmie
District 9 also has a strong commentary on capitalism and what people will do for money.
Some describe as a political movie that is using sci-fi to get its point across. It even had a quick jab at American snobbiness in it.
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
4:24 pm
Wow – it’s gotten deep in here. I think Ms. Main captured my thoughts when she mentioned that it’s more than just the act.
Thing is, I wasn’t raised on the ‘no sex before marriage’ belief. I was a practicing adult when I made a conscious choice to become a Christian and live according to God’s word. Abstaining wasn’t difficult at all when I wasn’t dating or when I was dating someone that I really didn’t care for. But the first time I had sex after my commitment to Christ was definitely more than just the act. First of all, after the initial lust wore off – in the back of my mind all I could think about was my disobedience to God. It broke my heart to the point where I started crying during the act. At first the guy thought he was really putting it down – then he realized what was really going on with me. I felt bad for the guy, but I learned that I was not as strong as I thought I was.
After that encounter I stopped telling guys that I wasn’t having sex before marriage but rather I was ‘trying’ to abstain. I truly did not want to destroy whatever witness I had by declaring that I was one way and then not being able to hold strong. Because one thing I’ve learned on my Christian walk is that you never really know if you’ve truly repented until you’re faced with that temptation again. So I could confess my sin before God and ask for forgiveness, but the next stage was asking God to strengthen me in that area so that I would not do it again. I also had to make sure I did my part in ensuring I wasn’t tempted.
Also, after that first post-celibacy encounter, I never again told someone ‘you shouldn’t be having sex’ – it was always more of my witness; what I’m trying to do, what the word of God says and explaining that everyone has their own walk to consider in that area.
What works for some doesn’t work for others and I think everyone has their areas of struggle. The thing with sex is, the act in itself is not a sin – so it’s not a desire that God is going to take away (believe me, I prayed for Him to do so) – it is truly an area where we have to exercise discipline.
And I’m done preaching for today.
For Real
August 24th, 2009
4:25 pm
“If you believe it’s simple…if you try to find evidence you’ll only confuse yourself…as meant” – So are you saying God want us to be confused? How does that line up with “Ask and you shall receive”?
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
4:27 pm
@Tazzee…now that was deep thanks for sharing.
For Real
August 24th, 2009
4:27 pm
District 9 the syfy part was good but the social commentary is tried and true.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:30 pm
@Kym- Thank you for your explanation.
This is a good read also
http://bible.cc/exodus/20-3.htm
Ms. Main
August 24th, 2009
4:32 pm
If you believe that asking you shall receive….is simply….ask God for himself to take his abode, walk with you, be a part of your life…not asking God is he exists. After you believe and take him at his word, is when the revealing and unveiling of himself to you, comes to past. If you try to look on the “other side of God” other than what he gives of himself (i.e. Word of God), then yeah you’re going off the deep end. Honestly, for some it’s just that simply and for others, not. That’s why I don’t do the big bang and stuff, if the Bible states God made man and on the seventh day rest, I believe. Don’t want to know if I evolved, pop up somewhere, etc. Know that is going to do what for me? Nothing. So, for me, I chose to stay with the given Word of God.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:32 pm
“His ways are above our ways and His thoughts are above our thoughts”………that’s when you rely on faith
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
4:33 pm
@Tazzee I will share this…I have not told guys that I am abstaining for religious reasons in the past. I just usually say No or I am not ready. I really hate getting into the religion conversation. Bear with me I am going to keep it real for two seconds…(1) How does it look I will not do the nasty, but I am at home on Sunday mornings? (2) I get a little road rage while we are in the car and he witnesses me cursing like a sailor. For some reason I’ve never felt comfortable having that convo…
So I just never felt a need to disclose or go there instead I just decline…
Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling
August 24th, 2009
4:33 pm
Dang – that was a LONG post. Sorry folks.
I will say this – I saw Dogma back when I was on the path from being a legalistic religious person to one that has a true relationship with Christ. I thought that movie was hilarious and then I was repenting for laughing at it
As far as ‘what if we’ve got it wrong’ – well to me that would mean that there is no eternity and honestly I’ve lived a life of peace and joy with the morals/convictions that I have here on earth. So it will be alright if there is no eternity.
My main goal is the greatest commandment to love God with all my heart, soul and mind and to love my neighbor.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:34 pm
Alot of folk pray and ask God but the never take the time to listen and see what he wants from us…they just say “amen” and go about their way….He requires something of us sometimes also
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:34 pm
I just need to learn how to listen better
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
4:37 pm
A lie of omission is still a lie. And doesn’t that make it still a sin?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 24th, 2009
4:38 pm
PG – Sounds perfect! It will satisfy the political/business junkie in me, seems like!
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:39 pm
@Professor-As long as you understand your walk..and your personal relationship it is not open for others interpretation so who cares what others may think….if he called you to be a witness to others He will equip you for that fight..all through out the Bible…God uses killers, murderers, tax collectors those who worshipped false gods for His work. He liked to use folks who people looked down upon..just so that others could see the glory of HIm in them. I also know he will sometimes put you in situations where only he can get the glory…not our education, business savy, who we know or whatever..Only the glory goes to hiim..and there is no other explanation…God only judges us once..but people want to judge you daily….ok back to work for me..Yall have a good one
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 24th, 2009
4:40 pm
@ Tazzee…good thing for all of us that there is grace and forgiveness…however God does “allow” us to suffer the full consequences of our bad decisions. The 10 Commandments were not to protect others from us, but to protect us from ourselves.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
4:40 pm
<strong<It broke my heart to the point where I started crying during the act
I attribute that phenomena to Pleasure and Pain of sexx.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
4:42 pm
I move that we change the blog to a Religous blog and not a Phlucking blog!
Any seconders??
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:43 pm
Kimmie
Sounds perfect! It will satisfy the political/business junkie in me, seems like!
It was good,and you should like it. A good portion of it is shot like a documentary. Other parts of it looks like you are watching CNN.
The spaceship sitting over Johannesburg looks like it is really there. (sci-fi)
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:43 pm
@SexyCool- yep a sin is a sin but some folks dont think omission is a lie..I remember many a person saying “I didnt ask the right question” lol…mmkay…folks get mad about someone lying but will fornicate commit adultery and still think that they are okay..just easier not to judge anyone and watch your own lane…in my opinion
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
4:44 pm
Sometimes, sex can be so good that I am calling God, but I ain’t thinking about Him.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
4:44 pm
and Melo…snaps everyone back…lmao
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
4:47 pm
@Tazzee, love the post. That’s the gray area I have with people abstaining. Not saying there’s anything wrong with it. Just the level of difficulty to adhere to it can be physically and emotionally draining. I wouldn’t say I abstain before marriage. I just didn’t have sex for the heck of having sex. Since my divorce, I’m back to practicing that. Not every man that desires me is good for me. You said it perfectly, discipline is the key!
Professor...she works hard for the money
August 24th, 2009
4:47 pm
@W8 now that is true and thanks for sharing. In fact I love the passage in the book of Amos when Amos states that he is not a son of a prophet he was just tended to the sycamore fig trees and sheep, but God chose him (he was not much as it relates to lineage). For some reason that speaks to me because I always wonder why and feel so unworthy about my blessings at times.
…I am stepping out wishing you folks a lovely evening.
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
4:47 pm
I’m just throwing statements out from observation and for the sake of debate.
What is the difference between omitting something and just not telling a person YET or waiting until the right time?
BTW – I can be guilty of telling you what I think you need to know when I think you need to know it. LOL
Poppa Grande
August 24th, 2009
4:48 pm
W8
God uses killers, murderers, tax collectors those who worshipped false gods for His work. He liked to use folks who people looked down upon.
I agree. I always felt that Doubting Thomas was one of the more important people of the Good Book. Thomas lost faith and wanted proof that Jesus resurrected. I think that we all have some Doubting Thomas in us. If one of the Apostles could lose faith, be forgiven. So, can anyone.
Melo
August 24th, 2009
4:50 pm
I am stepping out wishing you folks a lovely evening.
see!!
she dont want to vote on that motion so she leaving. 
Uall pple are silent coz u luv ur fornication!
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August 24th, 2009
4:50 pm
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Ahmaad
August 24th, 2009
4:51 pm
Good afternoon.
I’ve got to say, when it comes to this blog lurking is the best. Some really good post and insightful point of views especially when you all contribute to deep discussion. And did I mention informative (sometimes). LOL
And to the moderator Wise Diva, just want to say youre doing a splendid job all on your lonesome. I can remember lurking back when Laney was on board. And to contribute to the original topic sure I believe in the idea of everyone of us being put on this earth for a purpose. A mission. Call it whatever you like, but I do believe it can be for more than one reason and definitely more than one person.
Which brings me to say something else. We’ve Already Met. I had to laugh at this one. And since you will not reply back to my email Ms. Jamocha (do not mean to put you on the spot) but all that I can say is Yes We Have. Little lady I finally figured out who you are. And it was VERY nice to have met you THIS morning. LOL at the look on your face because you still have no idea who I am. Priceless.
You all have a good evening.
SexyCool - First name, Crazy.
August 24th, 2009
4:53 pm
Ahmaad – Dude, that sounded a little stalkerish.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
4:53 pm
@W8, the only problem with that is God takes care of situations and answers prayers on HIS time. His time really has nothing to do with our time. People need to step back and let God’s glory manifests itself after you’ve prayed your prayer! Once you prayed, let it go and let him handle it!
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
4:54 pm
For Real
August 24th, 2009
4:54 pm
Cool post Tazzee. Now, that you are engaged I will only expose myself to you on occassion. I know, I know, but that’s way it has to be. Talk to Raqi she had withdrawl as well but look at her now.
Knowledge and wisdom will bring you closer to God. God didn’t create man to be simple. The most powerful gift God gave to man is his mind. The strongest inclination man has is self preservation (and that is relative too) and the second strongest inclination is curiosity. Thus, we are tasked to survive and seek God out. If you believe God is the be all and end all then there is no such thing as “the other side of God”. God is everything.
Compelling
August 24th, 2009
4:56 pm
“Ahmaad – Dude, that sounded a little stalkerish.”
@SexyCool- LMAO!!!! I needed that laugh.
Kym
August 24th, 2009
4:57 pm
And it comes back full circle to “We all have our walk.” I always think we get so deep when things are so simple. Love your neighbor as you love yourself..covers all the 10 commandments. Would you want to be cussed out..then don’t cuss your mama..your mama is your neighbor too. Don’t want someone to kill you..don’t kill(this one and captial punishment…its a push at time) Don’t steal..well you get the point.
@W8 you are welcome on the explaination..call me kooky but I think women have been disenfranchised alot in this world..and I am curious to know why. I think alot of what is written by man(the male opinion) is bogus. I think man does have a job as protector and defender of woman not because woman is weak but divine and given a divine birthright. I think at some point in our history man got jealous of that birthright and started switching it up..but that’s a whole other Oprah for another day.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
4:58 pm
Goodnight everyone!
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here, we should dance.
Leggs
August 24th, 2009
4:59 pm
Yippee, no fights today.
For Real
August 24th, 2009
5:01 pm
Kym: At some point we are going to have to discuss the whole woman and birthright thing. But until then Zippppppppppppp!!! Birthright!!!
Jamoca
August 24th, 2009
5:06 pm
Interesting comments ya’ll…
Kym – I must say that my uncle as some interesting theories too…and he often says the same thing—> “what if we’ve got it all wrong?”
Umm Ahmaad – I appreciate your thoughts and pov via email. And you are absolutely correct, I have NO IDEA who you are, so unfortunately I cannot say the same. But you may want to be careful with “that there”…yeah, I AM looking at my screen sideways. Damn…
Good night people, you all have a good one.
W8©
August 24th, 2009
5:14 pm
@Leggs- Problme with what? I am not following you.
@Ared- I will typewriter all over you…….
@For Real- You are right the greatest gift is our mind “the freedom of choice”..I call it the gift and the curse…lol
W8©
August 24th, 2009
5:15 pm
Ahmaad- “How you doin…..” whoa
W8©
August 24th, 2009
5:17 pm
Funny Episode of South Park…(at heaven’s gates) Jesus comes out and say’s “The Mormons ..it’s the Mormons…the Mormon’s got it right!!” lol and everyone else had to go to hell
AmazonRed™
August 24th, 2009
5:23 pm
@Ared- I will typewriter all over you…….