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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

You’ve already met

If I think about all the men I’ve met, dated, dumped, or were dumped by, I really can’t imagine that I would end up with one of them one day. I am pretty sure that if we were “meant” to be together, then things would have happened the first time we crossed paths. What if that’s not the case, though?

I have heard a lot of couples say that they reconnected through Facebook, or found they were living in the same city, and things clicked instantly. Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?

Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? Do you believe that it’s about timing? How much do you think our life experiences change us? Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago?

I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny?

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Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

nope.Trust me, im a sinner like u but if i ever have to get a chance to say i apologize for everything i did,be4 i die,i will repent to God and leave the rest to him.

Say it again, bruh…..Humility goes a long way with God…no matter the state of you being a sinner…

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
3:49 pm

Professor

I agree about the Nigerian thing. However, I think that it had a purpose. Look to where caucasians lived and where Nigerians lived, especially in reference to South Africa in 1982 and apartheid.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
3:50 pm

I mean, prior to the current incarnation of the Christian religious tradition, sex was thought (and still is in some current religions) to be a path to spirituality and experiencing the divine.<<<Dan I saw this on History Channel but I have on my to read list a book on Goddess worship, and sex and spirituality. If you know of a good one let me know. Right now my days or reading for pleasure are limited. I am currently learn about the lovely world of Family Law–or as I like to say..How to profit on others misery. LOL

Leggs

August 24th, 2009
3:50 pm

W8©

August 24th, 2009
3:56 pm

That was deep…that was deep….Nice convo in here today…

Kym why do you think God is a woman?

Melo

August 24th, 2009
3:56 pm

Proff, i didnt watch it.

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
3:57 pm

Dan

There are some precedent for it.

There have been cases where one party or the other has sued the other over an broken engagement on ground of “Breach of Promise” or something like that in civil court. Some courts refer to it as a contract. The elements for a contract ( Offer, Acceptance and Consideration) are all there. Oral contracts are legally binding.

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
4:00 pm

There are people who have weddings or ‘commitment ceremonies’ without getting licensed for marriage. There is even at least one book written on it, Unmarried to Each Other.

Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
4:00 pm

God is the supreme being….gender isn’t irrelevant so it’s not disclosed. However we can assume, with Adam being made in his likeness and image……

Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
4:02 pm

…..that he’s the spiritual Supreme

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
4:03 pm

Kimmie

If your SO is a sci-fi lover he will not be disappointed. It is a sci-fi film that is almost all sci-fii.

As opposed to The Time Traveler’s Wife, which I hear has almost no sci-fi,and show only be thought of as a romance story. The book is classifed both. However, my friends that it would be a good movie to see with his wife since he loved sci-fi and she likes that romance junk. He was disappointed.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
4:05 pm

Raqi

I think the funniest joke the Divine(PC to cover all beliefs) ever played on mankind was putting us all together on this big orb spinning through space and saying now here deal with it. Ever major religion searches for the truth of how we got here, why are we here, and who’s right or wrong.

I believe that mankind was only given one really great commandment..and it translates all religions and is respected by all faiths..it is also the one we break indivdually and collectively as a whole daily. “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Our neighbor is Muslim and Hindi and Buddist and Atheist. We are all neighbors yet we kill,lie, steal, cheat, disenfranchise, rape some in the very name of God. I never could or would allow myself to think that God so loving forgiven and kind..would turn around and punish her very creations with all of the horrors we read about daily. I realized the horror is what we created..the command is always right there but we have warped it to our own belief systems. By the way I use we as a collective whole. I had this convo once with a friend years ago and he said something that always kind of stuck with me..what if we all have it wrong? Anywhoo didnt mean to go all deep..just came to mind.

Professor...she works hard for the money

August 24th, 2009
4:07 pm

@PG great point as it relates to 1982, also a friend mentioned the part about the Prawns to me. I found the movie very exciting and I am not a big Sci-fi fan.

Dan

August 24th, 2009
4:07 pm

@Kym

I’ll have to check my books, can I get that to you next week?

@Leggs

Hey to you too!

@PG

Good information to hold on to. But the homie “gave up the ghost” when he met his wife. She said “uh-uh” and he folded.

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:08 pm

Father,Son, Holy Spirit..etc..I am not looking to argue or state my case..I am grounded in my spirituality although I still have alot of growing and pruning to do…I just wanted to know how one would thing that God was a woman?

I mean in the first book of the Bible when God was creating light along with everything else it uses the word “he” separated the light from the darkness…etc…just wondering a bit

Professor...she works hard for the money

August 24th, 2009
4:11 pm

@PG I am looking forward to going to see the The Time Traveler’s Wife, for some reason I keep missing it I am going to try again Wednesday after work.

Dan

August 24th, 2009
4:12 pm

@Kym

There’s a movie “Dogma” by Kevin Smith that abstractly tries to deal with the very question that your friend posed.

That question has baffled mankind since before there was before.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 24th, 2009
4:15 pm

PG – Okay, cool! His mom loves Sci-Fi too, so I’ll tell her about it.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
4:15 pm

@W8 Because prior to Christian alot of older eastern religions worshipped God as a woman. I understand about God made man in his image but I have always thought that the female form was unique and divine. I understand male sperm/female egg = zygote..but it is the mother that nurtures that offspring..and brings forth life. It is the mother that cherishes and nurtures that life until it is able to stand on its own. It is the mother that loves that life unconditionally even when wrong or right. Not saying that father can’t. There are a few animals, insects that produce offspring..but the uniqueness of that job has always been with the mother and so it is why I believe the divine/God/Goddess is a woman.<<<IMO.

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
4:16 pm

Professor

I found the movie very exciting and I am not a big Sci-fi fan.

Yeah, they did a good job. It looked like Peter Jackson (Lord of the Rings Trilogy director) had his hand in it.

They did a good job by actually developing the main character with that pseudodocumentary. So, you actually know something about him, his family and background. You can actually care about him a little.

Kym

I am currently learn about the lovely world of Family Law–or as I like to say..How to profit on others misery.

Hey!!! What yo mouf! I have the bad habit of liking a roof over my head, so watch what you :mad: ….. j/p :lol: :lol:

Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
4:16 pm

If you believe it’s simple…if you try to find evidence you’ll only confuse yourself…as meant

Kym

August 24th, 2009
4:17 pm

@Dan that’s cool..I am not going to be able to read anything pleasurable for awhile..my life is about real estate, family law, and bankruptcy.

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
4:18 pm

Dan

There’s a movie “Dogma” by Kevin Smith that abstractly tries to deal with the very question that your friend posed

Alanis Morrissette was God in that movie.

For Real

August 24th, 2009
4:19 pm

Let me say this first:

“An unexamed faith is a blind faith”

Now, if you do your homework about sex and how it relates to religion I know you will be shocked. The church at one time thought prositution was good for marriage and even promoted such. The History Channel (my favorite channel) did a series about religion and sex that was very interesting.

Lets be real, if everyone believed that marriage is in God’s eyes there wouldn’t be a reason or a need for man laws would it. Man laws are so desired that many would not get married without it. As a matter of fact they would be insulted and would question your love for them without it.

Dan: It’s called a Covenant Agreement

Dan

August 24th, 2009
4:20 pm

@Ms. Main

That’s not necessarily true.

My own journey of self discovery led me to question everything. I’ve never been a proponent of “blind faith”. But I will say that the time spent learning was interesting, to say the least. And in the end, I consciously chose my belief system and religious tradition to follow.

Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
4:23 pm

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
4:24 pm

Kimmie

District 9 also has a strong commentary on capitalism and what people will do for money.

Some describe as a political movie that is using sci-fi to get its point across. It even had a quick jab at American snobbiness in it.

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
4:24 pm

Wow – it’s gotten deep in here. I think Ms. Main captured my thoughts when she mentioned that it’s more than just the act.

Thing is, I wasn’t raised on the ‘no sex before marriage’ belief. I was a practicing adult when I made a conscious choice to become a Christian and live according to God’s word. Abstaining wasn’t difficult at all when I wasn’t dating or when I was dating someone that I really didn’t care for. But the first time I had sex after my commitment to Christ was definitely more than just the act. First of all, after the initial lust wore off – in the back of my mind all I could think about was my disobedience to God. It broke my heart to the point where I started crying during the act. At first the guy thought he was really putting it down – then he realized what was really going on with me. I felt bad for the guy, but I learned that I was not as strong as I thought I was.

After that encounter I stopped telling guys that I wasn’t having sex before marriage but rather I was ‘trying’ to abstain. I truly did not want to destroy whatever witness I had by declaring that I was one way and then not being able to hold strong. Because one thing I’ve learned on my Christian walk is that you never really know if you’ve truly repented until you’re faced with that temptation again. So I could confess my sin before God and ask for forgiveness, but the next stage was asking God to strengthen me in that area so that I would not do it again. I also had to make sure I did my part in ensuring I wasn’t tempted.

Also, after that first post-celibacy encounter, I never again told someone ‘you shouldn’t be having sex’ – it was always more of my witness; what I’m trying to do, what the word of God says and explaining that everyone has their own walk to consider in that area.

What works for some doesn’t work for others and I think everyone has their areas of struggle. The thing with sex is, the act in itself is not a sin – so it’s not a desire that God is going to take away (believe me, I prayed for Him to do so) – it is truly an area where we have to exercise discipline.

And I’m done preaching for today.

For Real

August 24th, 2009
4:25 pm

“If you believe it’s simple…if you try to find evidence you’ll only confuse yourself…as meant” – So are you saying God want us to be confused? How does that line up with “Ask and you shall receive”?

Professor...she works hard for the money

August 24th, 2009
4:27 pm

@Tazzee…now that was deep thanks for sharing.

For Real

August 24th, 2009
4:27 pm

District 9 the syfy part was good but the social commentary is tried and true.

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:30 pm

@Kym- Thank you for your explanation.

This is a good read also

http://bible.cc/exodus/20-3.htm

Ms. Main

August 24th, 2009
4:32 pm

If you believe that asking you shall receive….is simply….ask God for himself to take his abode, walk with you, be a part of your life…not asking God is he exists. After you believe and take him at his word, is when the revealing and unveiling of himself to you, comes to past. If you try to look on the “other side of God” other than what he gives of himself (i.e. Word of God), then yeah you’re going off the deep end. Honestly, for some it’s just that simply and for others, not. That’s why I don’t do the big bang and stuff, if the Bible states God made man and on the seventh day rest, I believe. Don’t want to know if I evolved, pop up somewhere, etc. Know that is going to do what for me? Nothing. So, for me, I chose to stay with the given Word of God.

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:32 pm

“His ways are above our ways and His thoughts are above our thoughts”………that’s when you rely on faith

Professor...she works hard for the money

August 24th, 2009
4:33 pm

@Tazzee I will share this…I have not told guys that I am abstaining for religious reasons in the past. I just usually say No or I am not ready. I really hate getting into the religion conversation. Bear with me I am going to keep it real for two seconds…(1) How does it look I will not do the nasty, but I am at home on Sunday mornings? (2) I get a little road rage while we are in the car and he witnesses me cursing like a sailor. For some reason I’ve never felt comfortable having that convo…

So I just never felt a need to disclose or go there instead I just decline…

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
4:33 pm

Dang – that was a LONG post. Sorry folks.

I will say this – I saw Dogma back when I was on the path from being a legalistic religious person to one that has a true relationship with Christ. I thought that movie was hilarious and then I was repenting for laughing at it :lol:

As far as ‘what if we’ve got it wrong’ – well to me that would mean that there is no eternity and honestly I’ve lived a life of peace and joy with the morals/convictions that I have here on earth. So it will be alright if there is no eternity.

My main goal is the greatest commandment to love God with all my heart, soul and mind and to love my neighbor.

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:34 pm

Alot of folk pray and ask God but the never take the time to listen and see what he wants from us…they just say “amen” and go about their way….He requires something of us sometimes also

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:34 pm

I just need to learn how to listen better

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
4:37 pm

A lie of omission is still a lie. And doesn’t that make it still a sin?

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 24th, 2009
4:38 pm

PG – Sounds perfect! It will satisfy the political/business junkie in me, seems like!

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:39 pm

@Professor-As long as you understand your walk..and your personal relationship it is not open for others interpretation so who cares what others may think….if he called you to be a witness to others He will equip you for that fight..all through out the Bible…God uses killers, murderers, tax collectors those who worshipped false gods for His work. He liked to use folks who people looked down upon..just so that others could see the glory of HIm in them. I also know he will sometimes put you in situations where only he can get the glory…not our education, business savy, who we know or whatever..Only the glory goes to hiim..and there is no other explanation…God only judges us once..but people want to judge you daily….ok back to work for me..Yall have a good one

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 24th, 2009
4:40 pm

@ Tazzee…good thing for all of us that there is grace and forgiveness…however God does “allow” us to suffer the full consequences of our bad decisions. The 10 Commandments were not to protect others from us, but to protect us from ourselves.

Melo

August 24th, 2009
4:40 pm

<strong<It broke my heart to the point where I started crying during the act

I attribute that phenomena to Pleasure and Pain of sexx.

Melo

August 24th, 2009
4:42 pm

I move that we change the blog to a Religous blog and not a Phlucking blog!
Any seconders??

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
4:43 pm

Kimmie

Sounds perfect! It will satisfy the political/business junkie in me, seems like!

It was good,and you should like it. A good portion of it is shot like a documentary. Other parts of it looks like you are watching CNN.

The spaceship sitting over Johannesburg looks like it is really there. (sci-fi)

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:43 pm

@SexyCool- yep a sin is a sin but some folks dont think omission is a lie..I remember many a person saying “I didnt ask the right question” lol…mmkay…folks get mad about someone lying but will fornicate commit adultery and still think that they are okay..just easier not to judge anyone and watch your own lane…in my opinion

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
4:44 pm

Sometimes, sex can be so good that I am calling God, but I ain’t thinking about Him.

W8©

August 24th, 2009
4:44 pm

and Melo…snaps everyone back…lmao

Leggs

August 24th, 2009
4:47 pm

@Tazzee, love the post. That’s the gray area I have with people abstaining. Not saying there’s anything wrong with it. Just the level of difficulty to adhere to it can be physically and emotionally draining. I wouldn’t say I abstain before marriage. I just didn’t have sex for the heck of having sex. Since my divorce, I’m back to practicing that. Not every man that desires me is good for me. You said it perfectly, discipline is the key!

Professor...she works hard for the money

August 24th, 2009
4:47 pm

@W8 now that is true and thanks for sharing. In fact I love the passage in the book of Amos when Amos states that he is not a son of a prophet he was just tended to the sycamore fig trees and sheep, but God chose him (he was not much as it relates to lineage). For some reason that speaks to me because I always wonder why and feel so unworthy about my blessings at times.

…I am stepping out wishing you folks a lovely evening.