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If I think about all the men I’ve met, dated, dumped, or were dumped by, I really can’t imagine that I would end up with one of them one day. I am pretty sure that if we were “meant” to be together, then things would have happened the first time we crossed paths. What if that’s not the case, though?

I have heard a lot of couples say that they reconnected through Facebook, or found they were living in the same city, and things clicked instantly. Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?

Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? Do you believe that it’s about timing? How much do you think our life experiences change us? Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago?

I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny?

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Mr. Unknown

August 24th, 2009
8:29 am

Good morning, It seems today is call out sick day…

As far as the questionS.. I believe you can reconnect with a person, Im not the same person you knew 4yrs ago. So unless there was a real reason for the split, cheating, abuse, bad in the sack, ABS, kidding on the last one.. I don’t see why not.. As for being Destined for each other, I wouldn’t go that far.. Anyway, Its going to be a long day,, so you guys have a good one…

Foots

August 24th, 2009
8:37 am

Good morning. About two years ago, I reconnected with a man I met in college. We were friends then, but I had a big crush on him that I never told him about because he had a girlfriend. So ten years later, we run into each other and right away we decide that this must be destiny. He said that he didn’t want to waste any more time without each other. Needless to say, the more we got to know about each other, the more we knew that it wouldn’t work long term. The short term was great, but the breakup was hard.

I say that to say that I believe that timing and compatibility is what determines if a relationship will be established. Once you have that, it’s the three-legged stool of Love, Friendship and Intimacy that keeps a relationship going once established. Lose one of those legs and the relationship can topple. I don’t believe in “The One”, I believe that there are many people that we can be compatible with and love if they are placed in our path.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
8:49 am

Good Morning All,

Ohh Wisey your Cancer spirit is showing today. Here goes..

Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?

Yes, I think all of our life experience serve to shape us and hopefully at some point provide guidance, if not understanding to someone else.

Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry?

YES…and alas I am not sure which moron it was. The same fellows pop in and out of my life..may not make a good marriage but the stories would make one helluva book. Timing is essential and I do believe because we change and grow as people that if the timing was not or the person was not right at 21, it doesn’t mean that they will not be right at 41. You have changed and hopefully so have they. Who’s to say it will not work right now?

I am not so much the hopeless romantic..but I do believe that everything in the universe is connected and that you can be connected to a person (or two). If a person(s) has touched your life so deeply(not just physically touched) then that leaves a connection that no matter the circumstances some how the universe finds away to keep you connected. <<<my deep thought for today.

C tha 1

August 24th, 2009
9:03 am

Of course you can reconnect with someone from your past as I’m a living testament to that. If I was posed this question at least two years ago I would have told you otherwise. However some people change, and when presented with a different set of circumstances it is possible to hit the reset button on an old relationship that had potential.

I’ve known my wife since I was in college, but certainly was not ready for anything serious back then so it didn’t work out. Still she was on the periphial (sp). Ironically, when we did start to date seriously I had another friend who seemed to turn the corner and wanted to press the reset button on something that started years ago. It actually could have worked too, but I cast my lot with with the woman who became my wife. Ultimately it proved to me that some bridges are worth maintaining rather than burning and I’m notorious for buring bridges.

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
9:06 am

Good Morning All!!!

Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason? Yes, I’ve met some great guys in my past but the timing wasn’t right. I wasn’t mature – they weren’t ready, etc. There was one guy I reconnected with at my high school reunion – we didn’t date in high school, were just real cool. We ‘almost’ hooked up but then we got in a spat about something really petty. By the time he called me again (my birthday) I was with the current love of my life. In the words of OG Blogger Ivy, “oh well to that…”

Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? nope because I’m with him now ;-)

Do you believe that it’s about timing? Yes

How much do you think our life experiences change us? I think our life experiences help to build our character and major experiences can really change us.

Is it possible that a person can be right for you know, but was wrong for you years ago? I believe that can be possible. Someone that knew you years ago knows your past and as you’ve both matured the timing can make it right today.

I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny? I do believe in destiny. But sometimes we can mess it up. My fiance’ and I were just talking yesterday about how we believe nothing happens by chance.

Poppa Grande

August 24th, 2009
9:10 am

Taz

Congrats

Dan

August 24th, 2009
9:11 am

@Taz

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

August 24th, 2009
9:17 am

Morning everyone,

I was hoping everyone had a fantastic weekend and I know someone most definitely did! I can’t even answer the question yet, I’m so happy for Tazzee!!!

Congrats Tazzee!!!!

Kym

August 24th, 2009
9:19 am

Happy Happy Joy Joy..Lady Tazzee!!! Congrats!

Raqi

August 24th, 2009
9:20 am

Rocking Finger Bling!!!!!!!!

Am I reading correctly?

Foots

August 24th, 2009
9:20 am

YAY TAZZEE!! Another blog wedding! Congratulations!!

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
9:22 am

Thank you blog family!

Raqi – yes, you are reading correctly ;-)

The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE

August 24th, 2009
9:22 am

congrats tazz…when is the date…finger bling..thats funny…

Is it possible that a person can be right for you know, but was wrong for you years ago?

-yep and thats why i am not with wifey nomo…she dont love me nomo…lol…folks is straight funny…i watched revolutionary road and the movie called fling*..and both movies had the same general theme…right for me now..but long term no….i could feel both of those movies

Kym

August 24th, 2009
9:24 am

Wait did I miss a blog wedding? Oh wait that’s right Ms. QC brother who’s name escapes me right now got hitched.

Wise Diva

August 24th, 2009
9:25 am

Good morning! Pardon all the errors, I promise I was not drunk blogging again.

CONGRATS to my Tazzee!! I haven’t had a chance to threaten to bust knee caps if he acts up, but I’ll get to that, as soon as I stop tearing up, LOL

Grace

August 24th, 2009
9:25 am

congrats Tazzee!!!!!!!!!!

Kym

August 24th, 2009
9:26 am

Just one day I would like the ajc to not eat a blog post. Just one.

Raqi

August 24th, 2009
9:26 am

Tazzee I just went over to see and I saw. Congratulations miss lady. I knew it was going to happen soon from reading at your spot.

I am so happy for you. I wish you two all the best that God and this life and give.

The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE

August 24th, 2009
9:27 am

@kym…is that right ol darrell got hitched…wow….congrats

@tazzee..did you cry and scream thank you jesus..lol

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 24th, 2009
9:28 am

Happy monday.

I think that there is a good chance that you could have met the one but also you may have THOUGHT you met the one, but you are still getting to know yourself, especially in the college part of your life. You dont know exactly where you want to work or even what city you will live in.

Timing is a big part and sometimes its the right person at the wrong time.

I also think you are constantly growing so that person may or may not be what you are looking for later down the line.

Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry?

I think this may have been possible, but I am a notoriously progressive dater. I have coined that term over my dating life and always look at what went wrong/good and add up the total. If bad, cut my losses and move on. I rarely go back to an ex to give it another try.

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
9:29 am

Rell – we haven’t set a date yet. We are going to wait until we go through pre-marital counseling. Plus we still haven’t decided if we are going to have a wedding or not.

Which reminds me, I need to call the church….

AmazonRed™

August 24th, 2009
9:32 am

Wait did I miss a blog wedding? Oh wait that’s right Ms. QC brother who’s name escapes me right now got hitched.

Kym – I remember the announcement that he got engaged but I don’t remember any one that he actually got married. QC never confirmed from what I can remember.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
9:35 am

I really don’t believe in the concept of “The One” because I believe there can be more than one person you connect with.

AmazonRed™

August 24th, 2009
9:35 am

I have heard a lot of couples say that they reconnected through Facebook, or found they were living in the same city, and things clicked instantly. Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?

I guess I have to. My sister dated this guy in college. They were young and stupid, they both had significant others yet were always drawn to each other. Years later, they reconnected on MySpace and were both single. They took a trip together and the rest was history. They just celebrated a year of marriage and now have a baby girl due at the end of the year!!!

Another one of my friends connected with her HS crush on Facebook. They will be married in April.

I guess timing is everything. I try not to look backwards in my relationships, but I could be open to doing so for certain reasons.

Foots

August 24th, 2009
9:39 am

Kym — And my friend Lady Dark w/ Dimples got married last March. She announced her engagement on here.

Foots

August 24th, 2009
9:40 am

And Musing Lee and Swiss…

Kym

August 24th, 2009
9:40 am

@ARed one of my friends is dating an old flame she reconnected with on Facebook.

AmazonRed™

August 24th, 2009
9:42 am

And the blogger who got engaged at the Kindred concert.

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
9:47 am

Three Words Daily – Now’s the time.

The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE

August 24th, 2009
9:48 am

until we go through pre-marital counseling.

- yep…good look

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
9:53 am

Yes, Taz – this weekend’s leakage of the eyes is credited to you.

I’ve done some reconnecting and some disconnecting. It is the cycle of life.

Mo (aka Moeisha aka Katt)

August 24th, 2009
9:54 am

Morning All!

Congrats Tazzee!!! Wishing you all the best!

BRB – gotta get this kettle corn popped first

Compelling

August 24th, 2009
9:55 am

Congratulations Tazzee!!! What great news!!! Peace and blessings to you both. :-)

As for the question(s) at hand: Anything’s possible. Timing really is everything. It happens for some people and as evidenced by the comments here, they can live happily ever after. However, the men that I dated in my past are out of my life for a reason. I can honestly say that no Facebook messages, MySpace pics, or random coffee house spottings will ever put me back together with any guy from my past. If anything, I’d probably run in the other direction, lol.

East Point's Own

August 24th, 2009
9:56 am

I have often thought that I may end up with a woman I currently know. Not one that I have dated, but a woman who has been in my life for years. There are maybe 3 women who I could imagine myself settling down with, but they are all at least 600 miles away. I know if I moved to any of the 3 cities where they live or close to it that we would at least start down the road to marriage if some other guy did not beat me to it.
Those are just the 3 with whom I think there are mutual feelings, I think there are probably 3 more women who want me to settle down with them, but I have no interest in return…but that’s another story.

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
9:56 am

Wise Diva – I’ll relay that kneecap message to him, LOL. My uncles want to have a talk with him…

Rell – I cried, quite a bit – but I didn’t yell ‘thank you Jesus!’ LOL.

SexyCool – thanks for being so happy for me!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 24th, 2009
9:58 am

Hi WD, Good Morning All,

“Do you think that we meet people at certain times in our lives for a reason?” ABSOLUTELY…I’ve just seen too much in my life to believe in “coincidence”.

“Is it possible that you have already met or dated the person you are supposed to marry? Do you believe that it’s about timing?” It is all in the timing. There have been a number of times I met someone at a time when she or I were involved…that in another place and time, could/would have fallen for. (One is happily married in Tupelo MS, but the one night we spent together all those years ago was magical…but she was involved and so was I).

“Is it possible that a person can be right for you now, but was wrong for you years ago?” Maybe, but most likely not. Wrong is wrong usually.

“I could be a hopeless romantic here, but do you believe in destiny? Do you think that whatever happens in your love life is going to happen because of destiny?” I believe in destiny, but the tough part is “what/who” is our destiny. Most of us don’t realize it. My marriage was brought about by a drunken dumbazz (me) dialing a wrong number and starting a conversation. Destiny…I think so. It ended up causing two marriages and seven children (the guy with me that night ended up marrying her sister). Marriage sucked, but I love my children more than anything. Without that wrong number, they would not exist.

Destiny is not necessarily something you see at the time…it is something you see much later…that of all of the possible paths in this world, it wass the one you chose (or was chosen for you) that changed your life, and everyone you touched later.

Leggs

August 24th, 2009
9:58 am

Good morning everyone!

CONGRATULATIONS, TAZ! Your happiness has been pouring through these pages for quite some time. Yay, for you!

@Kym, Darrell was his name!

Yes, people can change and the “reset” button can be pressed. However, since a lot of folk don’t believe in backtracking, one may never know if they dated someone who might have become their husband. Moving forward, everything happens for a purpose and people are placed in your lives for a reason. Destiny, mestiny, it’s all in your hands.

I have a friend who reconnected with a h.s. mate on Facebook. Both are now in their late 40’s. They’ve been dating long distance and she’s in love and he says he loves her too (from the emails I’ve read). However, she pours her heart out and wears all emotions on her sleeve. People change, some for the best some for the worse. His red flag to me is when he said “you always appeared so strong and levelheaded in school. Now, you don’t seen to handle stress very well.” One’s perception changes as time goes by. Not prudent to live by the thoughts from yesteryear. Life has a way of beating up on some people. My exes will remain my exes!

SexyCool - First name, Crazy.

August 24th, 2009
10:08 am

Taz – OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! ~LOL~

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 24th, 2009
10:09 am

@ Leggs re: “everything happens for a purpose and people are placed in your lives for a reason” …I believe this one probably more strongly than anything else I believe.

I know most on this blog are not country music fans, but the group Rascal Flatts has some of the best lyrics of any group out there. One song that I know WD is very familiar with is titled “God Bless the Broken Road (that led me straight to you)”. Check it out sometime on line. Why did we choose the path we chose? Like I said, I do not believe in coincidence.

I absolutely believe what you wrote.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

August 24th, 2009
10:11 am

Morning all…

Congrats, Tazzee! Okay, so spill it — how did he pop the question? The blog ladies are dying to know, and some of the dudes could use ideas. ;-)

On topic — I would like to believe in destiny; that everything happens for a reason & that there is some larger, cosmic plan to everything. It’s a nice thought (well, so long as that cosmic plan isn’t for me to become a man-wh@re, sucking dyck for crack, or something like that). But, my utter rejection of anything resembling an orchestrating higher power won’t let me buy into it. I think there are always opportunities out there, and your life is all about what you make of them.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
10:16 am

I forgot about MusingLee and Swiss. Cool beans. @Randy T I am a fan of country music..some of my best pick me ups come from the likes of the Dixie Chicks, Kenny Chesney and Sugarland.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
10:20 am

@Swiss I believe in past lives and that if you feel a really deep connection to someone(not that whole one night in Bangkok stuff ) then its possible you were connected to them in another life.

Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!

August 24th, 2009
10:30 am

Good Morning all

**Mr Unknown** What you talkin about? Yes chile it is call in sick. I mean half of my small dept called out this morning. More work for me.

Congrats Tazzee…..(Singing “ANOTHER BITES THE DUST”)

blog confetti falls from the air!

Leggs

August 24th, 2009
10:32 am

@Randy ~ I love country music. A lot of their songs are heartfelt and have great messages. Their lyrics are profound. Love Rascal Flatts, Reba, Carrie Underwood(newcomer), Trace Atkins, Brad Paisley, Darius Rucker, etc. I love the title and will check it out.

@Swiss, you are going to have a beautiful day Saturday.

Professor

August 24th, 2009
10:37 am

Tazz I am so HAPPY FOR YOU! Now that is wonderful news!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 24th, 2009
10:38 am

Good mornting gang!

And a big ole CONGRATULATIONS to our fellow blogette TAZZEE! Yeah, you gotta spill the beans on how he did it!

On topic – While I’m a romantic and I do believe in destiny, some stuff just is NOT meant to be. We want it too so bad cause the story sounds so good and all – “we met back up after 15 years and the love was still there, yada yada! It DOES work quite a bit – one of my sister’s best friends from college met her husband at a Spelman/Morehouse reunion and the rest is history. For me, one of the worst relationships I’ve had was a “meet back up”. I dated very briefly this guy I met at one of my cousin’s 30th birthday party. We went on a few dates, but this other guy I still had feelings for was moving back to town. Fast forward 10 years at another cousin’s wedding reception. I see the same guy and his sister is the one marrying my cousin. Well the attraction was still there and yes it felt like destiny. Plus this dude looked like a taller version of Tyson Beckford. We dated and it was pure H. He was a man ho with a capital H! I have never cussed someone out as bad as I did him. After him I took a year & a half hiatus from dating, until I met my current wonderful SO!

Tazzee - Rocking Finger Bling

August 24th, 2009
10:40 am

Taz – OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! ~LOL~

:lol: That is the exact voicemail message I got from Cemeeli (without the LOL)

the proposal (with a little extra): http://lifeisministry.blogspot.com/2009/08/my-weekend_23.html

Professor

August 24th, 2009
10:41 am

I will not pull out the rewind and repeat button for my answer on this topic. I think timing is everything and I have stated this before.

Over the years there were a few special guys that I had a deep connection with, but the timing was not there. Probably if timing had been different we would have wrapped our arms around each other and made a vow of forever.

Kym

August 24th, 2009
10:45 am

All this love and destiny talk..it feels like Valentine’s Day..Lets press the pod and see what love song spins first..After Tonight..Will Downing..we have a winner!

Melo

August 24th, 2009
10:48 am

Three Words:

Its going Down

Congrats Tazzee…he beat me to it.Lucky guy!
:lol: