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Too Soon?

After a break-up, it’s natural to want to get back out there and have a fling. It’s also normal to want a distraction from the misery and void the person has left in your life.

The problem is that sometimes you have post-relationship goggles. You see someone who is probably far from the ideal mate for you as The One, simply because they take your mind off, well the last The One.

Rebounding from a serious breakup takes time and it really needs to be realistic. I have been the rebound girl before and it only bothered me because the man didn’t tell me how recent the break up was. Actually, it turned out being “a break” not a break up, and our short-lived romance ended with a reconciliation with his ex-girlfriend. The one that I had no idea existed in such recent history.

If you want to return to dating after a break up, what do you think is too soon? If you are still having angry outbursts about your ex, is it really a good idea to start a relationship with someone?

Do you disclose your relationship resume, including dates, to the person you are seeing?

Do you think it’s possible for a new romance to have a good chance if one of you just got over a break up?

Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?

481 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
3:25 pm

it’s our cast of characters and for the most part, it’s pretty harmless, in my opinion, anyway.

*sigh* You would think. :arrow:

Melo

August 20th, 2009
3:25 pm

Is Ceemeli on vacation?

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
3:25 pm

@Professor, HA HA HA, I just saw your “clutch the pearls” post.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:25 pm

now knocking the heathens over the heads with vial in right hand ready for sprinkling to regain order in this joint

I AIN’T PLAYING HEATHENS!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
3:25 pm

Melo I don’t plan these things…sometimes life just happens. I’m not a player, just can think quickly if the moment happens.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:26 pm

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
3:26 pm

~LMAO~ – DK – I haven’t said that mess in FOREVER.

But you’re absolutely correct, Let the ravishing commence.

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
3:28 pm

Randy – I used to date a copper.. She was bossy and crazy.. She screamed at me one day because I was walking out the house.. Like “You get back here right now!” “Do you hear me?” and nope I would never let her put them cuffs on me.. Dang the memories.. She was crazy.. She used to grunt like a dog and scream really loud during the act. She used to try and spank my butt while we were doing it even though I told her heyyyy I dont get down like that..

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:28 pm

ahem, church lady now standing at tip of pulpit to get a perfect view. every heathen in the house will get sprayed. not sprinkled, yall need spraying!

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
3:29 pm

CHURCH LADY? OMG :lol: OMG :lol: OMG I’ve missed you so much! I know you’ve got a few Incense and Candle stories in yo pocketbook. < (Hush, SexyCool!) And how is your daughter, Sistergurl?

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
3:30 pm

Randy – But the copper was also from Haiti..

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
3:31 pm

Dayum DK, that is a vision that will be with me from now on every time I see a lady cop. Thanks for the warning. That IS scary.

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
3:33 pm

My222222222222222222 – Oh LAWD!!! Don’t make me explain “The Pocketbook.”

I’m laughing so hard I can’t breathe. That is one crazy ass white boy. I totally HEART that dude!!!!

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:34 pm

mytw♥cents, if they don’t hursh wit all dis her evil nasty talk, imma start da rebuking. i ain’t playing. too much heathenism on dis thang. folks ain’t got no mo respect des days. just nasty. relations should be had wit yo husbum or wife. dats all. all da rest is out right wron and evil. i ain’t playing wit chall. ahhh glory

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
3:34 pm

Let me ask you all’s opinion. If you are spending a few days at a relative’s or friend’s house, is it disrespectful to be intimate under their roof as long as you keep it quiet?

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:36 pm

see what chall made chuuch lady do? don got off my right gramma. whas my smelling sauce? ahhhh glory

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
3:36 pm

If you are spending a few days at a relative’s or friend’s house, is it disrespectful to be intimate under their roof as long as you keep it quiet?

:lol:

This is why I have a water proof mattress pad in the guest bedroom. :lol:

The only sucky part about it is that the relative or guest is the one washing the sheets.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:37 pm

be decent and keep yo relations at home! yo mama ain’t told you betta? lawd help des yung folks

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
3:37 pm

Raqi…don’t ask me why, but the stranger the place the harder the wood. It was always a major turn on for me for some reason. As you said, good idea to keep it quiet if you want another invitation (remembering biting down hard on a pillow many times to keep from screaming out loud).

Fulfilling Me (Back in Action)

August 20th, 2009
3:37 pm

Yall got me thinking bout some wonderful times..
Chair, silk ties, handcuffs, blindfold, ice and a wild imagination ;devil;

Fulfilling Me (Back in Action)

August 20th, 2009
3:38 pm

Fulfilling Me (Back in Action)

August 20th, 2009
3:38 pm

@Mytwo…thanks…I will be super expressing myself now!

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:39 pm

lawd, help us. da harder da wood?! i rebuke you right now! get thee back oh evil one. get thee behind me. i rebuke right now! ahhh glory

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Raqi, at Grandma’s house yeah. No seriously, I think it’s disrespectful. Now if you have permission from your friend, go for it. But a short visit one should be able to keep their sex drive on ice!

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
3:40 pm

Raqi – Just like when kids in the house..

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
3:41 pm

but the stranger the place the harder the wood

Randy I know. LOL

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
3:41 pm

I used to lurk…I remember reading a church lady story. Hmmm let me say something nasty :evil:

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:41 pm

aaaammmmaaaazeeegrace how sweeeet da sound.
dat saved aaaah retch liiiike meeee.
i once wuz lost but now i’mmm found.
wuz blind buuuut know iiiii see.

ahhh glory!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
3:42 pm

@ Church…”da Devil made me do it”, LOL.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
3:42 pm

Melo I don’t plan these things

playa, i aint hating..im just picturing what we do smetimes!

If ur mama stumbled on u laying the blanket on the floor(re Raqi) she wld think u want to iron clothes :lol:

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
3:43 pm

Simmer down now, y’all! CHURCH LADY Please uplift us all in the prayer circle. Now, about those stories. Did you give in to the Deacon’s advances a the Church picnic this summer? He’s gotta be wearing you down.

RAQI Plese don’t be overnighting costumes to his Auntie nem’s house for a raucous nite of passion! But hey, I’m not mad that you’re giving your road warrior a lil motivation to finish the last leg of the trip.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:43 pm

thank da lawd for Leggs

Professor gul dontchu do dat! where’s my vail? you just come on. i’z ready fa yo evil speakins

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
3:44 pm

Permissions Leggs. Who ask permission to have sex in someone’s house? I don’t think I could do that.

When couples stay at my house for more than a couple of days I just assume it. The only couple that was not been allowed to stay together in my house is my husband’s female cousin who is ghey. She has to stay at a hotel or whatever. Other than that just keep it quiet.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:44 pm

mytw♥cents, i’m still yet holding on. ahhhh glory

Melo

August 20th, 2009
3:44 pm

is it disrespectful to be intimate under their roof as long as you keep it quiet?

knowing u Raqi, better u abstain coz u too loud! :lol:

unless u and the friend-cpple and ur hubby,joke like that!

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
3:45 pm

Just like when kids in the house

Yeah.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

August 20th, 2009
3:45 pm

SexyCool / My2 — Hold up, now — what’s this about pocketbooks? I thought we agreed the term should be purse-y :lol:

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
3:46 pm

:lol: @ melo. Yeah, I don’t think I’d know how to do it quiet anymore. Heck I live alone, I can be as loud as I want, you get used to that.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
3:46 pm

Church lady=Fee????

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
3:47 pm

Raqi – I don’t think I could partake in someone else’s house. I would have a fit if someone did at my house. I can’t remember the last time I had a couple visit – but if they did the do, they better stick those sheets in the washer before they leave.

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
3:47 pm

LOL TwoLincolns. Nah we are staying in a hotel.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:47 pm

Randyt ain’t no tshurt fo whut yous doing yous mocking me son? jus git ready fo one mo tshurt if yous keep playing like dat. you heah me?

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
3:47 pm

I am the only person that do the nasty in my house. I do not let couples spend the night…get a room. I will meet you for dinner or attend an event with you, I can also advise you on some nice hotels, car services and where to park at the airport.

@Leggs I just remember some nasty talk going on in Blog High and folks were complaining because it was not Friday.

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
3:49 pm

WTH?! I think askin’ permission is a bit much. I say go for it and if you get caught it’ll just have to be a good laugh. But only if you’re gonna tell us the story later lol. Just try to hide the evidence.

PROF A fornication tale? Oh my!(see I need a blinkin’ eyed emotie with long lashes too.) Church Lady is sure to faint now…

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:50 pm

Melo whatchu you means asking foz a fee i’z not no strumpet. i rebuke you. what kinda mess is dis? lawd dis gul got otha folks spendin da night having group relations under ha ruf. i need my prayer cloth now to wip da sweat yalls cauzing me. whew, i got da shakes now.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
3:51 pm

Ared,that divorcee i was talking about that i dated:

shes the women that taught me/awakened me to the fact that its okay to cry when making luv.
I think her vejay sensors were some of the best and baddest in da bizzness.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
3:52 pm

I would have a fit if someone did at my house. – Tazzee

I am the only person that do the nasty in my house. I do not let couples spend the night…get a room. – Professor

Tazze and Professor – You guys were also the ones who didn’t want to share bathrooms with your S/Os either right?

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
3:52 pm

Professor & Tazzee – I’ll get sum at ya’ll house.. Ya’ll could be having a dinner party with friends and we’ll sneak in the bathroom and cut a fool right quick..

And Tazzee I’ll get your booty in a burger king bathroom.. I dont give a dam.. I’m like Janet.. Anytime, Any Place..

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
3:52 pm

shes the women that taught me/awakened me to the fact that its okay to cry when making luv.

This made me holler, for real. :lol:

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
3:53 pm

mytw♥cents chuuch lady is bout to pass out. lawd what iz dis wurl coming to? folks having unmarried relations, doing all kinds of immoral thangs to deys bodies. yall yung folks get married and do thangs da right way. nuthin good will come of yalls shenanigans. ahhhh glory. chuuch lady gotta go. yalls too immoral fa huh