Too Soon?
After a break-up, it’s natural to want to get back out there and have a fling. It’s also normal to want a distraction from the misery and void the person has left in your life.
The problem is that sometimes you have post-relationship goggles. You see someone who is probably far from the ideal mate for you as The One, simply because they take your mind off, well the last The One.
Rebounding from a serious breakup takes time and it really needs to be realistic. I have been the rebound girl before and it only bothered me because the man didn’t tell me how recent the break up was. Actually, it turned out being “a break” not a break up, and our short-lived romance ended with a reconciliation with his ex-girlfriend. The one that I had no idea existed in such recent history.
If you want to return to dating after a break up, what do you think is too soon? If you are still having angry outbursts about your ex, is it really a good idea to start a relationship with someone?
Do you disclose your relationship resume, including dates, to the person you are seeing?
Do you think it’s possible for a new romance to have a good chance if one of you just got over a break up?
Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?
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kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 20th, 2009
2:41 pm
Taz – Okay, thanks for the tip & there is an American Deli over here too! Yes, they were a little too wet, I had to blot them! JR Crickets ought to be ashamed!
Chink
August 20th, 2009
2:43 pm
Kimmie one of my favorite wing places in alpharetta is Express Wing & More they changed their name a couple of times but I think they kept the recipe… On Hwy 9 off windward pkwy
Melo
August 20th, 2009
2:44 pm
Mason always leave a big tip for housekeepers when there more to clean. LOL
WOW!!
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
2:44 pm
On that shower curtain…um, now I would think you would stick to the plastic – or do you mean the cloth shower curtains. I’d think towels would be better because you can just throw those in the washer.
LMBO at that entire statement. Tazzee you are being to neat and meticulous. When you are doing that thing you ain’t time to keep stopping making sure the towels are still in place. Like someone said just buy you some sheets for play and throw them on top of the others and hope for the best. Or just do it on the shower floor. LOL
Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile
August 20th, 2009
2:44 pm
im trying to take u away from this foolishness)
Who knew the (occasional) shyt stirrer would help clean up the mess, altho I know you did not act alone…but more of a group effort (this here’s gettin’ real old, IMO). Good job Melo…although I’m still looking at you sideways. LOL but n/r.
Tazzee – The last time I checked, the best sex is already nice n’ sticky all it’s own (the man can spare that other sweet stuff)… cuz “she’s” sweet (& sticky) enough already.
A little extra sweetner wouldn’t hurt the situation either.
Wisey – Now you want to get pointers on foods being compared to what’s succulent and “edible”. You cold have asked this 2 days ago. But nice decoy…anything else was better than the previous subtopic(s).
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 20th, 2009
2:45 pm
Thanks Chink, will check them out too!
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
2:45 pm
LOL @ Tazzee, you are SOO much like me. We probably over think it too much.
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
2:47 pm
Infamous Really? Have you ever been cuffed by the man? Is it a stereotypical thing?
mytw♥cents
August 20th, 2009
2:47 pm
FULFILLING – The devilish face is the word evil between two colons, without any spaces.
Anybody every had someone try to introduce an ingredient/element that they were forced to reject? Hey, closed mouths don’t get fed…
THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK
August 20th, 2009
2:48 pm
Tazzee – A cheap clear shower curtain so you can throw it away when youre done.. Theres extra sliding on it and theres no mess.. Keep the towels on the floor if youre really going for the gusto because your cup/shower curtain will runneth over.. Well if the clear is a little too much you can use a clothe on thats water proof.. I like the human slip and slide myself..
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 20th, 2009
2:48 pm
I’m taking notes up in here today!LOL!!
Chink
August 20th, 2009
2:49 pm
I dont like toys why do I need it if I have the actual in the vicinity???
THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK
August 20th, 2009
2:49 pm
Raqi – Yes I have so thats why I dont do cuffs.. You missed my post the other day about my past..
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
2:50 pm
Melo Sex in front the babies? LOL
I say once they too big for the bassinet all interactions in front of babies should cease.
Now kids walking in during the midnights hours is a whole other episode of The R.H.O-MIA.
Leggs
August 20th, 2009
2:50 pm
@WD, I too said AHA at the shower curtain! I heard stories and always visualized a hot dang mess!
Sticky and the sound the bodies make pulling apart. Oh my! Okay MLBs, you will love this one. I always wanted to be like, no more like in the position of the lady on The Ohio Players album, Sweet Sticky Thing! Those were the days gone by.
mytw♥cents
August 20th, 2009
2:51 pm
NOT Elizabeth’s Mother – I think it was a hotel excursion that resulted in a baby who’s not named Elizabeth. I distinctly remember an afternoon excursion months before we browbeat it outta ya, when you kindly brought us all souvenirs. And obviously, kept a few gazillion for yourself!
Tazzee - Is it Saturday?
August 20th, 2009
2:52 pm
Wise Diva – I’m trying to make sure I get it right the first time. You know I’m a perfectionist
AND I don’t want to be thinking about the mess the entire time, wondering if my sheets will be stained or if I’ll have a rash from some honey afterwards…
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
2:52 pm
LOL TwoLincolns. Lawd, lawd those afternoon hotel deposits. happy sigh
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
2:53 pm
Well Chink, I’m no expert, but I think that toys are used for different things though, not necessarily to replace, but enhance. Things might get dull from time to time yanno.
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
2:53 pm
bwahahaa! *dead* at a honey rash. Stop it!! LOL!!
Chink
August 20th, 2009
2:55 pm
ahem …I mean I dont dislike them but only in emergency situations..
Professor…
August 20th, 2009
2:55 pm
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
2:56 pm
don’t want to be thinking about the mess the entire time
Tazzee you are thinking about the mess then you need to up the foreplay. LOL
And hell…I mean heck, Macy’s always has home sales on sheet, towels, comfortors.
Chink
August 20th, 2009
2:59 pm
Well I definitely don’t need 2 “richards” in the room but the other stuff is ok I guess….I like the real thang!
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
3:00 pm
Tazzee you are thinking about the mess then you need to up the foreplay. LOL
Commenting on my own comment…I can remember a few times that I would not have cared if my mother walked in…j/k, but only a little.
Compelling
August 20th, 2009
3:02 pm
I’ve been laughing non-stop today at this blog. My co-workers think I’m crazy.
Can’t do food of any kind in the bedroom….it does not work for me. I just feel like I’d be sick and uncomfortable after it’s all said and done.
Now blindfolds and restraints of some sort, I can get with those.
Professor…
August 20th, 2009
3:04 pm
I could not resist making the devil face…
Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother
August 20th, 2009
3:04 pm
Yall better stop it before yall make me tell Hoke Colburn to pull this van over on the highway. He has already asked me what am I laughing at. Yall gonna have us in the Carolina lock-up public naughtiness. LOL
THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK
August 20th, 2009
3:05 pm
Leggs – Thats my favorite album cover.. The inside sleeve of the album was the best..
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 20th, 2009
3:06 pm
Hey Chink, the toys don’t replace they intensify. Often they speed things up or take things to a higher intensity. TMI, but those “hand massagers” for instance (for sore necks etc.), that slip over the hand and vibrate cause a vibration through the fingers to whatever those fingertips are touching (helps to know the way around a woman’s anatomy at this point actually). The vibration really can intensify the stimulation for the woman but can be almost too strong so the man needs to pay attention to the woman’s reactions and know when to back away (and maybe pull out the Koolwhip for a few minutes or something, LOL).
Melo
August 20th, 2009
3:07 pm
I can do the lil sweet licking stuff as long as its on the vejay…i think i bought sme at Insurrections, sme time back when i went to Reynolds for Queens birthday.She liked that…i can do the other jelly like stuff,as long as that enhances her feelings and makes her veins more receptive etc.
But too much food stuff in bed?? im with Chink on that,cant have too much of that in my bed.
THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK
August 20th, 2009
3:11 pm
Well I like the lady to use the toys on herself while I watch.. Then I come on in like a song being mixed or the blending of your favorite drink.. With the fruit and other sauces to make that thang kick into another gear.. Go from a rolling start to hyperspace.. The Space rips the the atmosphere and dips..
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 20th, 2009
3:12 pm
Ahhhhh…. me likey, Wise… You just knew that topic flip would bring the freaks out of the woodwork…
BTW, don’t fret about the handcuffs, boo… I’ll let you put the handcuffs on me…
Speaking of naughty accessories, I’ve got some left over from the bachelor party (including handcuffs), so you just let me know what you’d like… 
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
3:12 pm
Compelling, you have to be a little crazy to read this blog regularly, LOL, if they look at you strange, tell your co-workers to mind their business, at least you are throwing staplers at them!
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
3:14 pm
I knew you would chime in I’m Swiss, hahahaha! Do the bachelor party cuffs have a real lock and key? If so.. um No bueno
Professor…
August 20th, 2009
3:14 pm
Whew it is reading like a Freaky Friday in here…ya’ll are going to make WD clutch her pearls (say pearls like the old folks say it puls).
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 20th, 2009
3:14 pm
I need to back away from this…however one more comment. The fruit thing definitely works the best when you just throw a cheap sheet or blanket on the floor or on the dining room table or something. That way you are not worrying about staining that $1000 Select Comfort. Just a thought
SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.
August 20th, 2009
3:14 pm
So, um, Wise – What exactly are you saying, huh? giggling…
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 20th, 2009
3:15 pm
They’re self-release, Wise… although, that kind of defeats the purpose, doesn’t it?
AmazonRed™ - so what?
August 20th, 2009
3:16 pm
Compelling, you have to be a little crazy to read this blog regularly, LOL
If it weren’t true, I’d be offended.
Raqi
August 20th, 2009
3:19 pm
Infamous I bet 3Wishes sell a po-po outfit sexy enough to make you change your mind. Or at least give it a long thought.
That is with the right woman wearing it, I must add.
Leggs
August 20th, 2009
3:19 pm
@WD ~ you swung that pendulum far wide. This is such a better topic. No one seems to be “clutching their pearls.”
@Infamous, I’m not surprised. It was the favorite for a lot of men!
Church lady
August 20th, 2009
3:19 pm
now knocking the heathens over the heads with vial in right hand ready for sprinkling to regain order in this joint
Melo
August 20th, 2009
3:19 pm
a cheap sheet or blanket on the floor or on the dining room table
lol at Randyt!!
to actually see u crouching on the floor,strt8ning that blanket?? one wld think u onto smething real honorable Randyt!!??
u just want to up end smebody’s daughter and make her open her leggs wide open,on the floor,just for u!
Brother has no shame
Wise Diva
August 20th, 2009
3:21 pm
Wait, you guys want to pretend that the crazy doesn’t come out on the blog AT LEAST once an hour? LOL, I really can’t act that well. Hey, I embrace it all, even when It’s like a bad VH1 reality show at times, LOL!! it’s our cast of characters and for the most part, it’s pretty harmless, in my opinion, anyway.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 20th, 2009
3:21 pm
@Infamous…you mean you have never been pulled over by a hot lady cop and at least thought for a moment aout those handcuffs? I have
, but that 9MM kind of put me off a bit.
THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK
August 20th, 2009
3:22 pm
Raqi – Well as long as they are the plastic ones. I can play Dr. Bruce Banner say “Dont make angry you wouldnt like me when Im angry”, then bust up out the cuffs and as Sexy Cool says “Commence to ravishing each other”.. I really like ravishing one another..
AmazonRed™ - so what?
August 20th, 2009
3:24 pm
I bet 3Wishes sell a po-po outfit sexy enough to make you change your mind. Or at least give it a long thought.
They do. I won sexiest costume at a halloween party in it!
SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.
August 20th, 2009
3:24 pm
You remember, I dropped the “Crazy” part of my blog name for a reason.
(whispering) – I’m trying to keep that ish under wraps.
Raqi
August 20th, 2009
3:24 pm
Seagrass carpet gives an helluva rug burn. Use a blanket, pillow or something.