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Too Soon?

After a break-up, it’s natural to want to get back out there and have a fling. It’s also normal to want a distraction from the misery and void the person has left in your life.

The problem is that sometimes you have post-relationship goggles. You see someone who is probably far from the ideal mate for you as The One, simply because they take your mind off, well the last The One.

Rebounding from a serious breakup takes time and it really needs to be realistic. I have been the rebound girl before and it only bothered me because the man didn’t tell me how recent the break up was. Actually, it turned out being “a break” not a break up, and our short-lived romance ended with a reconciliation with his ex-girlfriend. The one that I had no idea existed in such recent history.

If you want to return to dating after a break up, what do you think is too soon? If you are still having angry outbursts about your ex, is it really a good idea to start a relationship with someone?

Do you disclose your relationship resume, including dates, to the person you are seeing?

Do you think it’s possible for a new romance to have a good chance if one of you just got over a break up?

Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?

481 comments Add your comment

Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!

August 20th, 2009
2:07 pm

Wow! WD…getting down and dirty!! LOL! I haven’t notice men to have a problem with the food thing i.e. Fruit Roll ups…lol or Strawberries and Whip cream. But the TOYS…its a No go. For some reason alot of guys do not approve of the toys.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
2:07 pm

Did I do That?

Grace

August 20th, 2009
2:08 pm

Wise I will not use any fruits, acid against the walls no no….but I’m open to whip creme, fudge, caramel, and occasional drips of alcohol :) never used any toys :oops: but tempted to try handcuffs. I’m being bad today :evil:

Grace

August 20th, 2009
2:09 pm

oh yeah I forgot about the ice cube :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
2:10 pm

Wise – As long as the toys are for you and not me.. Food um hmmm.. Hot Candle Wax.. A light feather tickler.. Oh yeah… I like to get er done..

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
2:11 pm

Ice cubes, chocolate, a blind fold but no handcuffs.. I dont do handcuffs..

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
2:14 pm

Yeah I like to turn in to Rick James in that B!tch.. From the windows to the wall.. With my Patented baby boy bounce baby bounce move..

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
2:15 pm

i wish i was there. i hate missing out on the gatherings.

Angie – You really think you would have gotten an invite if you lived here? :lol:

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
2:16 pm

WISEY Did Young Buck ask you what was with the strawberry sauce and whipped cream??? I knew a dude who didn’t see the point, but ya know some prefer going Zero to 90 in 2.8 seconds (Heavy Sigh)… But isn’t the edible stuff more along the lines of aphrodisiac? Cuz when you mention ‘aides’ I start to thinkin of other thangs…

LEGGS It’s so okay to Luv the arrow. I luvs the heart and the stickin’ out the tongue emotie. But what I’d really luv doesn’t exist. Imagine an emotie with a raised brow or a hand on hip!?! That would be so “me.”

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
2:17 pm

Okay WD talking about “toys” now huh. “Anyway, change of topic, are men opposed to using toys/food/extras in the bedroom? I’m asking for a specific reason, but ladies, do you get resistance? Men do you feel comfy with some “aides””

I have no trouble at all with it, and never have. When a guy is comfortable in his masculinity (and I am, thanks to a very patient and experienced teacher years ago). Toys, great…cool whip…awesome if used properly…and let’s face it, more Redi-whip is sold at Kroger than there are strawberry pies…that stuff is going somewhere.

I can truly say that I have never had a moment’s heartburn about bringing a vibrator or any other toy into the bed (unless I had to go out and buy some more Duracells at midnight in the cold rain). If a “rabbit” or something else enhances one or the other’s pleasure, why not? I never could see the resistance to this one at all. Now I suppose it is possible for a lady to develop somewhat of a “toy” habit and start to ignore a man, but even that would only be if the man has no imagination. But that is me, and I have few inhibitions unless serious pain or scarring is involved.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
2:19 pm

Leggs,Beautiful’s 1.23 has some dramatic irony twist to it,assuming some happened.

Reminds me of this story that happenend to me,waaay back(im trying to take u away from this foolishness)

Im wrking at some location, out in the cntry,on a farm and one of my phine wrkmates(lady) hooks me up with this philandering chic.Everything was supposed to be on the low low coz she had a boyfriend that i knew(long story)
My wrkmate,one nite,escorts the chic to my bachelor pad,with her young,2 yr old daughter on her back.She dumbs her there(the chic), i follow later to milk that cow and then escort her back to her house.
The young daughter has not forgoitten,everthing was in her eyes, thoghts,the movements etc.
The angst was that, after that philandering episode,every time the kid saw me, and im in the company of my boss,other wrkmates or local folk(it was a small cmmunity),she wld mutter some crazy nonsense(other folk had no idea what it meant) but the nonsense wld make sense to me and her mum and caused so much angst to me.
Her mum,my wrk mate was a coy biaatch.She wld just simply smile at me! :lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
2:20 pm

Oh, LEGGS, this one is precious, too. :oops: Maybe I like it cuz I blush a lot.

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
2:20 pm

Oh snap, awww suki suki. Thanks WD, cuz I surely did not want to hear anymore on what Beautiful wants to know about.

YES, YES, YES, use of gadgets in the bedroom! You know I’ve never given it much thought on who should bring the toys, men or women and if man did would I look at him sideways. Well, I know I wouldn’t but that’s me. Can’t speak on the food thingy, never experienced that, but I’ve been listening to people. What exactly is the fascination with whip cream???

@Grace, I will use one handcuff. Can’t have both my hands in cuff!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 20th, 2009
2:22 pm

Back from getting my wings – they are good, got them from Taco Mac, although I prefer the ones from the little hole in the wall places, but you don’t have many of those in Alpharetta!LOL!!

THANK YOU everyone for the kind words. They mean alot.

Melo – I KNEW you would break!LOL!! I think I remember telling you a ring would be a nice anniversary or renewal-of-the-vows gift! Just get her something nice within your means, don’t have to break the budget! Have a nice little party!

Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!

August 20th, 2009
2:22 pm

See thats why i don’t mind snapping on her ass. She on that self righteous ISH. Regardless of the smiley you stay on that funny style self righteousness
i wish i was there. i hate missing out on the gatherings.

**Angie – You really think you would have gotten an invite if you lived here?**

But again you know who you can try that with though. lol!

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
2:22 pm

Leggs – I’ll bring some Whipped Cream to Fletchers this evening..

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
2:23 pm

Leggs – I’ll have to show you I cant even explain..

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
2:24 pm

Melo – you had sex while a toddler was watching?!?!? Shame on you!!!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
2:25 pm

LOL @ Leggs lets just say it brings a whole new meaning to the topic of “tasty” ;-) .

Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother

August 20th, 2009
2:25 pm

kee,kee,keeing @WiseDiva while covering the baby’s eyes.

RediWhip, Real honey, chocolate sauce…oils, feathers, silk scarf(s)…

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
2:26 pm

Kimmie – I don’t like the lemon pepper wings at Taco Mac. Too ‘wet’ for me. But I’ll take American Deli any day of the week. JR Crickets would be my second choice – though they charge 59 cents extra for lemon pepper. That’s discrimination!!! :lol:

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
2:26 pm

I actually spit on my keyboard reading your (ARed) 2:15. Be nice! :lol:

@Melo, reading that story gave me a headache. Luv you nonetheless!

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
2:28 pm

I actually spit on my keyboard reading your (ARed) 2:15. Be nice!

:lol:

Leggs – I was just askin… :lol:

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
2:28 pm

Doesn’t it get sticky when you use all that sweet stuff in the bedroom? I mean, do you use it and then ‘partake’ while sticky? I would think your bodies would stick together. Then mix the sticky with the sweat…

OK, I’m grossing myself out

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:29 pm

bwahaha! No Mytwo, LOL not yet? I am over here wondering why I haven’t proposed to RandyT, I’ve long ago figured out he is the ideal man for me. Marry me RANDY!!

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
2:29 pm

no no, it’s NOT the topic,

Sorry WD – I thought she was asking what the topic changed to.

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:30 pm

sticky stuff is best used at hotels, the *ahem* raunchier the better. Mess up their sheets!

Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother

August 20th, 2009
2:30 pm

I dont do handcuffs

Infamous even if she wore a sexy little po-po outfit and wanted to shackle you for sexual assault, Not even then?

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:31 pm

and after sticky stuff usage, you go directly to the shower, preferably together *blushing*

Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)

August 20th, 2009
2:31 pm

WD wrote:
“Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?”

Women are masters of this, you ought to know.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
2:31 pm

:-) at WD…thanks.

Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother

August 20th, 2009
2:32 pm

I would think your bodies would stick together.

Ah, yeah.

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
2:32 pm

Tazzee – Yes it does get sticky and the sound it makes when the two bodies are separating is outrageous. Yeah but dont forget to throw a shower curtain over the bed so you dont make too much of a mess..

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:32 pm

Infamous, what’s wrong with handcuffs to you? You don’t trust anyone enough? Because I think that is my opposition for them LOL

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
2:32 pm

Anyway, change of topic, are men opposed to using toys/food/extras in the bedroom? I’m asking for a specific reason, but ladies, do you get resistance?

WD – I don’t do toys. I don’t need anything that vibrates or needs batteries. So I can’t speak to that. And the only electronic device ever present has been a video camera. :twisted:

So in terms of things like food, it cleans up and it relatively harmless so I haven’t gotten any resistance on that one.

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:33 pm

a shower curtain! Why didn’t I ever think of that?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
2:33 pm

Word of caution though. Fruit stains the hellz out of sheets…so make sure you get some really cheap ones at Big Lots if you use the strawberries with the RediWhip.

Fulfilling Me (Back in Action)

August 20th, 2009
2:34 pm

I say allow your wildest fantasie to come true. Be open to the experience…Be a human sundae!

Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother

August 20th, 2009
2:34 pm

sticky stuff is best used at hotels

WiseDiva, Mason always leave a big tip for housekeepers when there more to clean. LOL

And you should always get a room with two beds. One for resting and one for play.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
2:35 pm

Melo – you had sex while a toddler was watching?!?!?

Nope Tazzee!

the toddler wld recite the episode of chic going to my house…..she left with her mum be4 i got there so she didnt know the derty derty like that.

But the fact that she wld say sme incoherent but placing the chic at my house is what broght the angst out!

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:35 pm

human sundae, man that brings back memories *sigh*,

Amazon, oh ok, then again, I was skimming and could have read it wrong, no worries :)

Captain Underpants

August 20th, 2009
2:36 pm

To beat or not to beat, that is the question.

Wise Diva

August 20th, 2009
2:36 pm

wow, great tips, shower curtain, big lots cheap sheets, and second bed in the room. GOT IT

Strange Woman...Not Elizabeth's Mother

August 20th, 2009
2:36 pm

Fruit stains the hellz out of sheets

No Randy, red rose petals are the devil to get out.

THE INFAMOUS SUPERFREAK DK

August 20th, 2009
2:38 pm

Raw-qi – No ma’am.. Youre not locking my hands up.. I likes ya alot but you aints doin that.. Being in handcuffs is not sexy to me..

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Infamous, thanks but don’t think I want Fletchers to be my first experience. :wink:

Fulfilling Me (Back in Action)

August 20th, 2009
2:38 pm

Yes, Wise…it uh makes for an interesting hide and seek adventure.(insert devil face)

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
2:39 pm

taking notes….

only at the hotel with two beds or put down a shower curtain – good advice, because my next question was going to be the bedding.

On that shower curtain…um, now I would think you would stick to the plastic – or do you mean the cloth shower curtains. I’d think towels would be better because you can just throw those in the washer.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 20th, 2009
2:40 pm

“red rose petals are the devil to get out.”

Thanks @ Strange, I’ll remember that (cheap thought, roses are really cheap at Aldi, but if they are spread out and the Aldi bag has been hidden….hmmmmm…who says romance is expensive?).

Tazzee - Is it Saturday?

August 20th, 2009
2:40 pm

Melo – thanks for that clarification, I was about to put you down for real.