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Too Soon?

After a break-up, it’s natural to want to get back out there and have a fling. It’s also normal to want a distraction from the misery and void the person has left in your life.

The problem is that sometimes you have post-relationship goggles. You see someone who is probably far from the ideal mate for you as The One, simply because they take your mind off, well the last The One.

Rebounding from a serious breakup takes time and it really needs to be realistic. I have been the rebound girl before and it only bothered me because the man didn’t tell me how recent the break up was. Actually, it turned out being “a break” not a break up, and our short-lived romance ended with a reconciliation with his ex-girlfriend. The one that I had no idea existed in such recent history.

If you want to return to dating after a break up, what do you think is too soon? If you are still having angry outbursts about your ex, is it really a good idea to start a relationship with someone?

Do you disclose your relationship resume, including dates, to the person you are seeing?

Do you think it’s possible for a new romance to have a good chance if one of you just got over a break up?

Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?

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SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
12:27 pm

Yes. I have too much time on my hands today.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:29 pm

LMAO @ Sexy vs. Cool.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:30 pm

Ok Sexy Here you go..

I dont dig you three words daily.. Here are three words.. OMG!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:31 pm

or

I dont care

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:32 pm

or

Sexy is Hot!

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:32 pm

Or:

Eat my shorts!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:32 pm

or

I loveded U

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:33 pm

or

i still do

For Real

August 20th, 2009
12:35 pm

Getting it off your chest with Mike:

Umfoofoo I would like to talk to you!!! Stop the car right now!!! Umfoofoo I ain’t playin wit you!!! Girl!!! Imma!! Oh ish!!!

Umfoofoo now reaching 50mph and thinking to herself “Goonie goo-goo he fast to deaf!”

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
12:36 pm

That’s not news.

Melo

August 20th, 2009
12:37 pm

Mytwo: 3 years
yes i cld marry a divorcee or one with kid(s)
Be4 my 1st marriage, i had dated a divorcee with 1 kid and she was one of the best women i ever dated.My thoghts on those had shifted by then, i believe.
My uncle killed the relationship! But one of the finest fillet mignon nana i ever had in singledom,beautiful woman too.

Professor…Miles Davis is playing

August 20th, 2009
12:39 pm

I will say this…still trying to get these wings for lunch so be patient with me.

On this blog you have cliques and some folks laugh when it “aint” funny and scratch when they don’t itch just to be congruent with their friends. So for the most part I do not post certain things because I really don’t feel like being bothered with foolishness. Not to mention some folks are slower than others so you have to S-P-E-L-L things out to them. I don’t have time for that either. At the end of the day I could careless, so if I feel like saying something I will. If I have to let a fool know to find something else to play with. No problem. Do I feel like giving someone a virtual TKO everyday? No that gets old, but I will if needed because you have to recondition some folks. Now that is why I stated I do not post certain things that go against the grain. Just look at how that entire 60K went down? So I am sure you all feel me?

Tazzee - The Point of it All (on repeat)

August 20th, 2009
12:40 pm

Afternoon folks!

kimmie I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s loss and your bad summer. I’m praying for your friend AND you.

I think all my thoughts on this topic have been expressed.

DK Thanks for sharing your story. I’m taking notes.

After my last break up I STAYED in the gym and had Keyshia Cole on repeat. Looking back, I probably should have been listening to India Arie’s CD because those songs are really ‘positive’ break up songs.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:40 pm

But one of the finest fillet mignon nana i ever had in singledom

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Melo

August 20th, 2009
12:40 pm

Mytwo,she had ring,court marriage and traditional rites marriage.
Queen has no ring but the other 2.
US$$$$$ is too precious to waste on a lil thingy on the finger.U knw kids need to go college route,u know hw that is.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
12:41 pm

MS. MAIN >>> Which is why I post like I do…doesn’t matter who cosigns, agrees, likes or dislikes. Its’ my story, my life, my take, my outlook, my opinion… I concur, but I thought that’s what the majority were doing. Then again, I’m naive.

ARED Did you think my statement about folks being very much delusional was towards you? Nah. Now if I hadn’t crossed out the “kinda,” yeah, I could see the fit… We know our own version of our lives better than anyone else here but once you paint in the rest of the numbers, it can drastically change the picture.

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Mike Jones (who)

August 20th, 2009
12:43 pm

ARED and Infamous

You both made good points, each coming from different directions.

Ared–Thats the moment where you are like WTH were they thinking????

Infamous–LOL I felt the same way. (that would be a sucker move) I could picture her and friends enjoying that one. But like you said it isn’t about her, its about getting it off my chest and moving on.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:43 pm

On this blog you have cliques and some folks laugh when it “aint” funny and scratch when they don’t itch just to be congruent with their friends.

So true.

It’s a more difficult road to be out there on an island…but at the end of the day, it’s still a freakin blog. The seriousness of it to some is a constant source of amusement.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:44 pm

Did you think my statement about folks being very much delusional was towards you?

mytwo – No I didn’t. And you are usually good at directing post towards me at me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:45 pm

Sexy – Now Anna Mae dont get to sassa frassin off now..

Tazzee - The Point of it All (on repeat)

August 20th, 2009
12:46 pm

Melo I didn’t know you were on your second marriage. This is only the second isn’t it?

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
12:46 pm

Kimmie – Sending you tons of love and waves of good vibes.

Professor…Miles Davis is playing

August 20th, 2009
12:47 pm

@Tazzee…good point on positive music (Keshia Cole/India Arie).

@ARED…yep the seriousness can be comical at times.

@Melo do you think you will ever buy Queen a wedding ring?

Tazzee - The Point of it All (on repeat)

August 20th, 2009
12:47 pm

Professor – you and those lemon pepper wings!!! Now I want some – that’s what I’ll have while watching the Falcons tomorrow. That is if I still want them.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
12:48 pm

You both made good points, each coming from different directions.

Mike Jones – I make no bones about it. I have never experience divorce, I’m not even a child of divorce. So yes, I can not post from a place of devistating heartbreak.

However, there are things we know we should be doing and don’t do. There are signs we have long seen and miss. You have to work on your mental fortitude to control your emotional output sometimes.

Tazzee - The Point of it All (on repeat)

August 20th, 2009
12:49 pm

One more time and I’ll let my iPod go to the next song…

I can´t stay away from you too long
Even if I do I´ll always call
Checkin’ on you make sure you´re ok
Be the one to brighten up your day

And the point of it all
Is I love you
You know I love you baby

My days seem long
whenever we’re apart
it´s like someone had
thrown away my heart
you´re a major part of my life
And no matter what the
storm may bring
I´m fine with you,

And the point of it all
Is I love you
And the reason for it all
Is I love you

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
12:50 pm

Ya’ll know I dont care who agrees or disagrees with me.. Ive been almost banned a couple times.. I am consistently censored too, so most times people dont get the unadulterated.. They get the moderated..

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
12:51 pm

What you go do, Ike? You gone beat me? You gone hit me?

After running from the limo – I don’t have any money. Take my ring. I promise I’ll pay ya’ back.

Namyo renge kyo

Professor…Miles Davis is playing

August 20th, 2009
12:51 pm

@Tazzee that is my SONG! BTW, maybe I should wait on those wings until the Falcons play…decisions decisions.

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
12:54 pm

Lawd, not the finest filet mignon nana…

Look Ladies ^^^^^^ it takes more than that to snatch a ZULU Warrior King, in case ya didn’t know lol

Now how is it that men have so many names for it. I hate the sudsy pudsy coota kat punani… alla that terminology. Oddly, thanks to N.W.A., I’d rather just hear p—- if ya can’t wrap your tongue around vagina. :razz: It really tickles me to be a wordsmith, sometimes!

Melo

August 20th, 2009
12:55 pm

This is only the second isn’t it?
if she dont dump me,this will be the last.Number 2,yes it is.I aint doing the Larry King thing..6 and counting.

@Melo do you think you will ever buy Queen a wedding ring?
My thoghts on that are evolving and mellowing..dang!! that may be good for her.Problem is,she wants a ring and wedding soooo bad.I hate being paraded like a cow…
But im tempted to want to surprise her,allocate a small budget for ring,invite few folks and do it,once and 4 all.
She really is a good mom and wife,cant complain(altho im a WIP,myself)
Soooo……wl see!

Beautiful Loves Philly Eagles

August 20th, 2009
12:56 pm

lol @ eat my shorts! lol.

i’m prayin’ that i never read like Blow Me. what was the cat fight bout again?

@Infamous
something happened at that party and at the other gatherings and i want to know what went down. someone please enlighten us. post under lurker if you have to.

i’m going to always stand by *to get over the ex, get under the next*. i’m proof it works.

Mike Jones (who)

August 20th, 2009
12:59 pm

Ared

Yeah there are always signs, that the person might be F’in Crazy!!! lol The question is whether you choose to read it or not. But we all learn from experience, sometimes you have to touch that stove to see if its hot. I burned my hand once, won’t do it again.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 20th, 2009
1:00 pm

Sexy – Yes Anna MAe I am gonna beat you then Im gonna has sweaty stinky s3x with you.. Im even gonna defacate on the sheets and make you clean it up because King Kong aint got nothing on me.

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
1:00 pm

I guess I’m so used to blending in with multiple groups of people that ‘clique’ is another term I’m not a fan of. Not in middle school and not now. I have some of the strongest disagreements with people I vibe with the most with. And I don’t believe disagreement necessitates confrontation. More like a precursor to dialogue. But that’s just me.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
1:02 pm

sometimes you have to touch that stove to see if its hot. I burned my hand once, won’t do it again.

Mike Jones – so true.

Some people have to touch it several times.

Some people won’t touch it at all, chosing to heed the warning in the first place. I fall into this group.

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
1:03 pm

@Melo I think that would be nice having a dinner party and giving her the ring! How romantic would that be? I knew my Zulu buddy had it in him somewhere…now I just need for you to release it and get the ring

Blow Me ....Please don't feed the MONKEYS!

August 20th, 2009
1:04 pm

Back from lunch. I see ARED has been making subliminals about me since my lunch. Wow! It doesn’t get to you but you are still harpering on it hours after said comment. Get a grip! It’s MORE to my amusment to put you on the carpet. You are the one who goes crying to everyone about WOE IT’S ME….Chill girl.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
1:05 pm

Angie – You can’t come in being messy. I’m sure you have your off blog network that can tell you what happened at the party. We don’t have to hash it out on the blog.

Did you sleep last night?

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
1:05 pm

BEAUTIFUL Did you chop some of that hair off yet? I gotta laugh at your advocating someone to post under lurker. NO, if somebody got sumthin to say, they should post under their usual moniker. Remember that time you had forgotten to switch back? COM-I-CAL! I wasn’t gonna point it out, but TRUTHY doesn’t have as much couth as I do…

SexyCool - If you could feel my joy.

August 20th, 2009
1:06 pm

Sweaty, stinky s#x? You promise? Just don’t be mashing my face up against the recording booth window again. That hurted.

But the shttng on the sheets thing, you’re on your own. AND you nasty.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
1:06 pm

Blow – I don’t do siblimals. If I was talking about you, I know how to direct it to you.

I guess you just felt it was directed at you.

And no, I don’t play the victim role either. Do you just make this stuff up? :lol:

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
1:08 pm

***something happened at that party and at the other gatherings and i want to know what went down. someone please enlighten us. post under lurker if you have to****

Now that would be funny Angie if someone did that, but they are probably too afraid to do it. Not to mention I would probably miss the posting anyway

@My two…I think it would be fair to say that the cliques on this blog will not disagree with each other. In fact I have seen them bobbing their heads like those big head dolls when a “man” or one of their own say something but cut a fool two weeks later when the same thing is said by someone else. I have coined the name “Blog High” for this joint. You, maybe the exception.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
1:09 pm

NO, if somebody got sumthin to say, they should post under their usual moniker.

mytwo – Thank you. There are enough cowardly lions on here as is.

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
1:09 pm

Aww MELO, has KIMMIE – Perfect Queen broken you down some? You should apologize for all your harassment tell her thanks for helping you see the light. Lemme know if you need a planner for the big day. I already have a vision. ;)

Beautiful Loves Philly Eagles

August 20th, 2009
1:10 pm

@Ared
why not? and Infamous started it! and i slept like a baby. :o )

@My2
lol. that was eons ago and i was posting for Unknown. hehehe. i wonder how she’s doin’?

Melo

August 20th, 2009
1:12 pm

I think that would be nice having a dinner party

Party?? thats the part that gets to my obstinate skull.Doing stuff so others can see….i been neva the showy,see me please type.Thats why weddings etc dont vibe with my soul.
But knowing u women,u thrive on that.
If i buy a ring and dont do the wedding,its gonna be us 2,at a restaurant and then the ring,as she gets off the car or in the living room when we get back home.
She can go ahead and show if off herself! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
1:14 pm

Angie – He did not start it. He just asked where they were. Many of them are on vacation.

Glad you slept well. I take it mission accomplished? Good job.

Beautiful Loves Philly Eagles

August 20th, 2009
1:14 pm

yep i’m being nosey as h3ll, so what. i want to know what happened! whatever happened chased another blogger away. if they want to post under lurker and not say names, just say what happened i’m cool wit that. lol. and i promise i won’t call them a coward.