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Too Soon?

After a break-up, it’s natural to want to get back out there and have a fling. It’s also normal to want a distraction from the misery and void the person has left in your life.

The problem is that sometimes you have post-relationship goggles. You see someone who is probably far from the ideal mate for you as The One, simply because they take your mind off, well the last The One.

Rebounding from a serious breakup takes time and it really needs to be realistic. I have been the rebound girl before and it only bothered me because the man didn’t tell me how recent the break up was. Actually, it turned out being “a break” not a break up, and our short-lived romance ended with a reconciliation with his ex-girlfriend. The one that I had no idea existed in such recent history.

If you want to return to dating after a break up, what do you think is too soon? If you are still having angry outbursts about your ex, is it really a good idea to start a relationship with someone?

Do you disclose your relationship resume, including dates, to the person you are seeing?

Do you think it’s possible for a new romance to have a good chance if one of you just got over a break up?

Do you think men and women rebound at different rates? Or is it more about rebounding in a different way?

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Poppa Grande

August 20th, 2009
4:33 pm

Professor

Dang Big Poppa now that was BOLD…

That was just the beginning.

It is what led to the afternoon delight on the midtown condo balconies in the middle of the day when you could see office workers at Colony Square looking at us.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
4:34 pm

It is what led to the afternoon delight on the midtown condo balconies in the middle of the day when you could see office workers at Colony Square looking at us.

That’s hot tho.

Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile

August 20th, 2009
4:34 pm

Okay, fair is fair…shyt it happened.

The first time was over at his place. His mother comes over for a while. I’m in his bed asleep. I’m awakened with a nudge and some other things. We’re about to begin. I’m on top, no cover. All of sudden…someone (his mother) busts through his bedroom door to let him know she’s “officially leaving” . He’s like I thought you had already left…and I’m sitting there on top, naked and “busted”. I was literally “froze”…I couldn’t move, but it’s not as if he took me down either.

The last scenario was over to his uncle’s…where we hung out pretty late as well. We ended up getting into it on the sofa in the den. Pitch black darkness, with a little shine through the windows. No covering for me. I’ll just call the individual “an old head” comes up and opens to door to the den and asks “Man, is that you?..I heard something…” Scared and nervous…we both come to a complete pause, while I’m biting on his neck to keep from heard by breathing too hard and hoping that “she” does not flip the lightswitch to find me bare as the day I was born on top of her beloved, most favorite…of all.

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
4:34 pm

777-9311, any ara code will do – COMEDY!

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
4:35 pm

Poppa!!! I knew you were a bad ^$#@…shut yo mouth!

@Church lady that is my phone number :evil:

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
4:38 pm

@PoppaG, I never forgot that story

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
4:40 pm

i’z cain’t take no mo of dis her immorals. on da balcony in da middle of da day laaaawd help us! dis stuff on her is like cryptonite. gotta get out of dis her chat room. not healthy fa da chuuch lady.

Professor is yous sayin yous want to join hands wit me? ahhh glory. help is on da way

Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile

August 20th, 2009
4:41 pm

…good the blog pharoah decided not to let my post go…Whew!

Infamous, Randy & Swiss AND PoppaG – LMAO!

Yes, while in high school I remember two students getting caught by the school deputy sherrif and another couple getting caught by one of the Asst Principals (and one of the students were relatives with the AP).

Beautiful giving the middle finga to Amazon

August 20th, 2009
4:43 pm

of course!

lol.

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
4:44 pm

I can honestly say I’ve never been caught. I was too scared to do much of anything. No boys in the house, meant no boys in the house! I broke that rule once never to let it happen again (and he came in for koolaid)!

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
4:45 pm

Church lady I do not want to join hands with you! I am a girl and I don’t think the good deacon is ready for two of us @ the same time. So this little sweet pea will let you eulogize the good deacon as you ride the glory train!

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
4:45 pm

Aw…Angie, you dedicated your screen name to me.

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
4:45 pm

see iz knew it, thank da lawd fa Leggs. come on ova to da bright side

Melo

August 20th, 2009
4:46 pm

although I broke that rule with my current.

I just got this thing about……

u dissappointed me Tazzee….the ending was not what i was expecting,esp after u said u broke rule!

i was thinking,daaaamn,it finally went down during the vacation.

poor me!

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
4:47 pm

I’m laughing so hard, I’m snorting.

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
4:47 pm

No boys in the house, meant no boys in the house!

Leggs – My mom would let me have my boyfriend over. She’d even left us alone. She left us alone on prom weekend. I was a virgin so we didn’t have sex but he stayed pretty late.

She’d always leave and say “respect the house.”

So we’d do it in her mini van. :lol: (this was after hs though, when I was home for breaks). :lol:

Beautiful giving the middle finga to Amazon

August 20th, 2009
4:48 pm

get ova yourself. lol.

ok, yea.

Beautiful giving the middle finga to Amazon

August 20th, 2009
4:51 pm

hello Jamoca! you can insert my name if you like. giggle.

i’m j/k, but not really.

read y’all tomorrow.

Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile

August 20th, 2009
4:51 pm

I’m laughing pretty hard myself…and again, nothing…I mean nothing…is what it seems. HA!

AmazonRed™ - so what?

August 20th, 2009
4:51 pm

How can I get over myself when you actually did dedicate your screen name to me.

I’m special. :D

Raqi

August 20th, 2009
4:52 pm

Caught? Yes, by my late mother-in-law.

Caught once by my dad when my pre-hubby was checking out my new thong.

Beautiful now giving middle finga to Moca

August 20th, 2009
4:52 pm

another lol day. i love it! nite.

Professor…

August 20th, 2009
4:53 pm

…stepping out and wishing everyone a good evening.

Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile

August 20th, 2009
4:55 pm

Blog pharoah must know better today…

Again, unless I’m reading you wrong…why would I insert your name Angie?

Leggs

August 20th, 2009
4:58 pm

Goodnight everyone!

Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special!

Peace out…(my cheeks hurt)!

mytw♥cents

August 20th, 2009
4:59 pm

VOODOO CHILE What you got abrewin??? LMBAO

Church lady

August 20th, 2009
5:00 pm

Leggs i see we’z dun lost yous too. chuuch lady now sad

Jamoca - "Be" That Voodoo Chile

August 20th, 2009
5:02 pm

MYTWO – Like the pharoah of the blog, you already know…hence “him” being on the lookout for all the VooDoo Chile submits…love that he knows me well…just like yourself. ;)

Compelling

August 20th, 2009
5:13 pm

@ WD- Yeah, they’ve just learned to deal with my random fits of laughter throughout the day. It’s been a tough day at work…I’m so happy that Friday is right around the corner. I live for the weekends.

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