Clocking In
One of the things that single women really like about meeting a new guy with potential is his willingness to share his time with us. The mystery man can be sexy and alluring in his own weird elusive way, but the man that is consistent and open with his life gets taken a lot more seriously.
I have noticed that a man who wants to be in a relationship with a woman he truly desires he makes the effort to show her who he is. It’s like a subtle way of reassuring her that he wants her to be comfortable with him. At the same time, I think a woman who wants to be in a relationship with a man would be open to showing him that she is just as invested as he is.
I admit that I have a big problem with this. I know, you’re shocked, right? Maybe it is because I have been single for 100 years or have dated some possessive men in my past. I just don’t like it when a guy wants me to clock in, tell him where I am all the time, etc. I realize it doesn’t look good when I answer the question, “Where are you?”, with “Why?”, but it’s a bad habit. I’m working on it though! I think in a way I think that relationships represent a loss of freedom that I cling to…a little too hard.
Do you have a problem with checking in with someone you are dating? Do you think it makes the person feel more a part of your life?
Have you ever felt like dating someone was like a job where you had to clock in and put in some work? Why do you think it feels that way? Is that a sign that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship?
If the person is right for you, would you mind that you were giving up a little freedom to be with them?
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Fulfilling Me (Rested!)
August 19th, 2009
8:52 am
Good Morning, All!
I don’t have a problem with the question, but the manner and tone in which it is asked. If I feel like I am being checked or controlled, my defenses will come out quick. I will ask just as a conversation piece, nothing more, nothing less. I like my SO to feel apart of me and will often share my daily excursions with him.
When things start feeling like a job, I 1) try to determine why, 2) discuss, and 3) find a solution. If the solution doesn’t alleviate the issue, then its time to push forward. My relationship should be my peace. I understand relationships take work, but I don’t want it to feel like a job.
I think we all give up a little freedom when you are in a relationship, two are working to become one.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
9:00 am
morning beauties! *i can’t sleep*
Raqi...On the Clock
August 19th, 2009
9:05 am
“Checking in” is for the wedded. And it’s not checking in then but merely notifying your other half of your whereabouts because you two are accountable for and two each other. That accountability simply does not exist outside of marriage.
Anything new in your life will always feel like putting in work. And anything worth having is worth working for.
If you keep wording it like “giving up a little freedom to be with them” it will always feel less attractive. It’s purely spending time which is quite simply the thing you do with your friend, family and associates.
And what, pray tell, is this freedom you speak of?
(This blog is akin to crack-cocaine)
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
9:06 am
Morning everyone.
I think it’s natural to share information about your wearabouts or check in, as the relationship progresses. I don’t mind having my guy concerned about my wearabouts. If I come up missing, I’d want someone to notice and know where I was the last time we spoke.
However, the whole checking in thing can’t be forced though. It can’t come from a place of distrust. That shows. When I went off to college, my HS sweetheart who was left back home wanted to know where I was and what I was doing at all times. I had to remind him that I had a Daddy and even he asked less questions than my man was. That behavior got him kicked to the curb pretty quickly!
And I don’t mind
QC
August 19th, 2009
9:12 am
Morning Bloggers – have a great day
ImAPeach404
August 19th, 2009
9:14 am
Like others, I don’t have a problem with the questions and, to me, it doesn’t feel like work… my perception is my reality.
If I ask a man where he’s going (which I probably wouldn’t) and he has a problem telling me, I’m going to automatically think he’s up to no good. I don’t want to give off this vibe – so, I answer the questions. To me, it’s about providing a level of peace in the mind of the person I’m with. I believe that eventually, if you answer the questions enough times, they will stop asking.
And as Raqi stated, anything worth having is worth working for. Having and maintaining a relationship is worth the work – and the questions – so I don’t mind doing what it takes.
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
9:15 am
It’s a beautiful morning!
Well I am cool with touching bases with the person I am dating as long as it doesn’t seem like a chore. I will send a quick text if I am out shopping or something; on the contrary I am a big girl so I don’t want to be treated like a child. Balance is the key.
Is that a sign that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship?
when you see a text from him.
Long story short, it is a sign that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship with THAT particular person. When you are with someone you want to be with you don’t even realize that you are “clocking in” all you know is you want to hear his voice on the other end of the line, and your heart smiles
If the person is right for you, would you mind that you were giving up a little freedom to be with them?
I do not have a problem with giving up some of my freedom for the right person. In the past when I was in relationships that I did not want to be in I craved freedom. As childish as it may seem I can remember turning off my phone or making myself unavailable just to capture a few moments of freedom, because “freedoms where I wanted to be (Chrisette Michele).
Off Topic: Maxwell, Common and Chrisette Michele is coming to Phillips 10/5. Steve Harvey is now a guest commentator on GMA (huge) answering questions on relationships!
QC
August 19th, 2009
9:16 am
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Raqi...On the Clock
August 19th, 2009
9:21 am
Neither can I Angie.
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
9:22 am
Good Morning!!!
If the person is right for you, would you mind that you were giving up a little freedom to be with them?
No problem at all. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even notice I was ‘giving up a little freedom’ – it was a natural progression.
I don’t have a problem with ‘checking in’ at all, I just had to get used to it. I check in with my friends when I travel, but the calling when I got home took some getting used too.
It’s not work when it’s someone you want to be with.
Pretty Wings
August 19th, 2009
9:24 am
Habari za asubuhi Bloggers!
I don’t have a problem with “checking in”. Although I don’t want to feel like I have to, because if I’m into that person and they are into me, it won’t be a “check in” it will be a “Hi , I hope you are having a good day” or something worth calling about. And yes, WD I have been in relationship were I felt like I had to have my phone in my hand ( not a good look, too stressful).
I guess ideally with the right person, most issues we have with giving up our freedom won’t exist because hopefully, that is the person who really “gets you”.
And yes, I believe that you can be single for so long that that it becomes more difficult to be inclusive.
Have a great Day…… will check in later!
P
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
9:28 am
From the day of conception, I’ve been taught that nothing in life is free. We even pay $25.00 for so-called clean Atlanta air through the emissions test. Everything has a cost. You can’t just get a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes without giving something up in return (namely money). Even if they are without monetary cost, you still have to spend time and effort in getting them.
The same is for relationships. Giving up certain freedoms is part of the costs for a relationship. Is it always easy?No. You have to weigh if what you want is worth the cost for you. It is a personal question. This is one area where I have the most respect for Staceye. She readily admits that she loves her freedom, and has no plans of giving that up. It may mean that she will not be in a relationship, but she is being truthful and honest with herself.
Also,remember your mate has to pay a cost, too. It causes problems when they don’t (or is perceived to not doing their part).
As far as it feeling like a job, it does feel that way a little in the beginning. Humans are creatures of habit, and we don’t like getting out of our routine or what feels comfortable. So, in the beginning when things are changing, you have to put more effort into a situation. Studies show that it takes about 20-25 days for a new action to become a habit. Which means that more effort is put forth during that time. Once it is a routine, it becomes easier and in some cases second nature.
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
9:29 am
Angie/Raqi I am with you on not being able to sleep. I dreamt of my daddy last night (bittersweet) and that took all I had.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
9:33 am
Nothing comes between me and my sleep! What’s on your mind ladies?
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
9:33 am
Three Words Daily – Maintain gratitude’s attitude.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
9:35 am
Ah, the checking in of it all. Appreciated if he does. Noted if he doesn’t. Don’t ask questions either way.
Whether you are into me or not, it shows. It’s up to me to pay attention and not project my desires onto reality.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
9:37 am
**I like my SO to feel apart of me and will often share my daily excursions with him.**
yep!
**It’s not work when it’s someone you want to be with.**
uh huh.
when i start to check in, its usually me inviting him into my world.
Ms. Main
August 19th, 2009
9:37 am
Giving up certain freedoms is part of the costs for a relationship.
This kind of mindset is what keep the wheels in a relationship turning and not exclusive to just checking in. Being in a relationship should release one from the buffet of availables. Giving up freedom while not being imprisioned. Gotta be voluntary though.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
9:40 am
Good morning everyone!
Grown folk don’t like the phrase “checking in,” especially men (from what I’ve heard over the years). When you’re involved and growing with a person, it only feels natural to let the other know what you’re doing and where you are. Not every 30 mins as if you’re tweeting or updating FB, just touching base with that person you’re interested in cuz safety is a big issue in 2009. You can’t even go to the store w/o the possibiility of never returning back home.
Ms. Main
August 19th, 2009
9:40 am
Don’t ask questions either way.
I don’t either…seems to have a suffocating affect (IMO). If he doesn’t volunteer it, I’m not asking. And if not, don’t ask or expect me.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
9:40 am
I realize it doesn’t look good when I answer the question, “Where are you?”, with “Why?”, but it’s a bad habit
It is not a bad habit Wise Diva It is a Playa habit!!
Just do u!
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
9:43 am
@Professor, ARed, Raqi
today is the day! the day i stop the foolishness.
my gf spent a lot of time on the phone with me last night and help me realize that it can’t go on anymore.
if something is not adding value to your life, let. it. go.
Raqi...Still Waiting for A Crib
August 19th, 2009
9:45 am
I agree with the voluntary disclosures. When you are into someone and they really a part of your life, and I mean a PART OF YOUR LIFE it becomes automatic.
I also found that while dating informing your SO of your plans and whereabouts helped to not overlap plans. And it’s also good for your safety and makes it easier to get in touch with.
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
9:45 am
I will say this…I do not do the Santa thingy “making a list and checking it twice.” I am either hot or cold, which means I am feeling you or I am not. So I really could careless either way at the end of the day. It is always cool to know that someone is thinking of you, however I know this guy that sends out a GM to everyone in his phone. He laughs about how it makes the ladies feel special.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
9:47 am
if something is not adding value to your life, let. it. go.
I’m proud of you Angie! You will sleep better once you rid dead weight in your life.
I sleep like a log. I may dismiss em quickly, but at least my mind is at ease.
Good luck!
And if you stumble, I’ll be there to bark at you to get back on track!
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
9:48 am
@Angie I am happy for you! It is always good to see someone grow and stretch themselves to become better.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
9:49 am
I know this guy that sends out a GM to everyone in his phone. He laughs about how it makes the ladies feel special.
Professor – I have this guy that does the same with “positive affirmations.” They are nice, but I never respond because I know he’s just sending them out as a mass text to the ladies.
He called me once and asked how come I never acknowledge his texts. I told him when I know they’re coming to me and me only, maybe I will!
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
9:51 am
hopefully this is not off topic too much, but i don’t do the *why didn’t you call back when you said you were? or i thought you were going to call me at such and such time!*
i can see how that would be irritating.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
9:51 am
Let me add – I can also tell when an individual is deliberately vague about their whereabouts and activities.
Not a good look for developing a foundation of trust and openness.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
9:51 am
Professor
Maxwell, Common and Chrisette Michele is coming to Phillips 10/5.
& Erykah Badu is coming to the ATL at the end of October.
Raqi...Still Waiting for A Crib
August 19th, 2009
9:52 am
A mere “hey where are you headed” is not the same as “where are you going, who will you be with, how long will you be gone, what will you do and what time will you get back?”
One is just a question while the latter is a sign of being possessive.
I have also learned that a simple question taken in offense shows a sign of guilt or non-commitment.
(I need another croissant)
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
9:53 am
Erykah’s concert is combined with comedy of Rickey Smiley and Special K
Raqi...Still Waiting for A Crib
August 19th, 2009
9:54 am
My sleep issue was a result of sleeping in a smaller bed on a different side of the bed than I a used to.
M.(pronounced M dot)
August 19th, 2009
9:55 am
@Wise-I feel you on that loss of freedom.
I have definately dealt with women who I felt like I was working a job but from a different angle. The calls, text, date nights, really started to get routine. I like order but I really hate to plan. I would much rather still have that freedom feeling without knowing I am going to have to wear a monitoring device anklet.
I will be honest I think that is why I am not really looking for a relationship. I really like my space and like operating on my schedule. I cant imagine having to give up some of the things in my routine that I just do without even thinking. The whole checking in thing is not really me because I know I will not try to check in on you. I may say what’s going on what are you up to but if you dont spill the information, I am not going to keep pressing. If you wanted me to know, you would tell me and likewise for me. I think it may make them feel more apart of your life but also may enclose on your space.
ImAPeach404
August 19th, 2009
9:57 am
@Professor and Red – I know I’m the recipient of a routine mass text each morning. He’s just a friend so it doesn’t bother me. But what I’m 100% certain he is unaware of is this: If you send a mass multimedia/picture message to a Blackberry… every single phone # which the msg was sent shows up in the “To” field. If he we were dating, he’d be so busted. And if we were dating and I was crazy… lol
@Angie – I have no idea what you’re talking about but I can gather that this is probably a good thing. Good for you! And more importantly, good luck.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
9:58 am
That first week in October has some concerts: October 4: Metallica;October 5:Maxwell: October 6:U2 (U2 is so big that they have nearly sold out the Georgia Dome)
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
10:01 am
I will be at The Fabulous Fox for The Color Purple with Fantasia next month.
ImAPeach404
August 19th, 2009
10:01 am
Let me add – I can also tell when an individual is deliberately vague about their whereabouts and activities.
@Sexy – word!!! Especially when it’s like 9pm and he says “Oh yea, me and my boys are just about to head out…” and you’re like “Oh yea! Wheres the hot destination tonight?!” (you know, making conversation) And he’s all “Ummm… I’m not sure. I really don’t know”
Yea right! Lol, I think they believe you’re going to just show up at the club or hide out in the parking lot. SMH.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
10:02 am
@Professor, ARed
thanks! i’m looking forward to brushin’ my shoulders off.
i have a couple of ppl who sends out mass bible scripture text every morning. it’s nice to get the word when you least expect it.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
10:12 am
Angie,good for u!!
But,eehh, i had already send ur ticket,so we need to get that part of ur bizzness cleared off first,then u be on ur way,meloed,vitamin enhanced and rejuvinated!
(i didnt know,all this long, that u were in sexxual angst)
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
10:12 am
Just got tix to the Maxwell concert. I don’t really care for him but my BFF does and he’s coming her birthday week so I got some.
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
10:15 am
SexyCool – I’m still torn on Color Purple. I saw it in NYC (Fantasia was sick) and I’m not sure if I want to spend that $$$. I heard Latoya London was in it too and I really like her. Hmm, decisions…
For Real
August 19th, 2009
10:16 am
WD: Giving up certain freedoms?!?! Like what sitting at home in your draws and that one bra with the strap missing talkin bout you ain’t cleaning ish today?
I find it funny that all of the chicks on the blog don’t like to “check in” yet they are the ones that are always wanting the dude to “check in”. If yall feel that way it sure doesn’t show itself in your actions.
Paging Kym, Paging Dr. Faggit (oops dayum The Hangover) here is a good story for you but I can see some chick coming into the picture talking about “Why you got to be carring his ass?” lol…
http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/otl/news/story?id=4371874
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 19th, 2009
10:17 am
Its Respect People.. Its just a common courtesy and respect for ones mate.
For Real
August 19th, 2009
10:20 am
Raqi: you left out “here put this GPS love finder on” cause I don’t want nothing happening to my baby. Oh here a backup battery too.
PG: Has Erykah fallin off that much that she is forced to do a show with Ricky (I like to laugh at my own jokes) Smiley and Special K. I mean Dayum!
Ared: Imma change your to “Kick Em”
Melo
August 19th, 2009
10:21 am
And he’s all “Ummm… I’m not sure. I really don’t know”
ImAPeach404,if he doesnt give u a run down of 2 or so places that they might end up at,coz that happens,then yeah,hes wishy washy for a “good” reason.Playa and uncommitted,like Diva.
Do u have a habit of showing up unannounced tho?
Fulfilling Me (Rested!)
August 19th, 2009
10:23 am
@ImA
Yea right! Lol, I think they believe you’re going to just show up at the club or hide out in the parking lot. SMH.
One of my exes tried to be all extra about his destination…why did his dumb behind end up 3 people behind me and my girl at the same club. SMH LOL
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
10:28 am
For Real
Has Erykah fallin off that much that she is forced to do a show with Ricky (I like to laugh at my own jokes) Smiley and Special K. I mean Dayum!
No, what I heard is that she is one of those artsy types that likes to try different things and hates to be constrained in any particular box. So, it was her idea to attempt a comedy and music concert combination.
I imagine that she chose those two because they wouldn’t ask for more money than she was. I guess Steve Harvey, J. Anthony Brown, etc would want to be headliners in their own right and headliner money.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
10:28 am
@Peach
**And more importantly, good luck.** thanks cause imma need it today!
East Point's Own
August 19th, 2009
10:30 am
I haven’t punched a clock since my UPS days in high school…LoL and I don’t intend to start back. But as it has been said in most relationships people communicate when and what they are doing freely so it should not be an issue. If a woman tried to keep track of my every move she would soon be keeping track of me dating someone else.
http://hispointofview.com
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
10:34 am
Taz – I don’t pay for a lot of the concerts/plays/sporting events that I attend. I’m actually hoping that I can get the hook-up on this play.
If not, this is one that I am willing to sacrifice for since it’s been so long since I actually bought a ticket to anything.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
10:35 am
lol @ Melo. i would do it to you so good it would bring a tear to yo eye. hehehe.
and the ticket betta be 1st class cause this is 1st class na na comin’ yo way! lol.
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
10:38 am
@PG thanks I will have to add Badu to the list.
@ARed I cannot stand the massive text messages…irritating. Nor can I stand it when a dude has the same convo with everyone he is seeing and you can just tell the lies are rehearsed. Instead of teaching HR I need to teach these suckas Game 101 so they can play better.
Off Topic: I wish someone would add K’Jon to the line up.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
10:39 am
Just one tear. Hrmph!
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
10:39 am
Tazzee
Just got tix to the Maxwell concert. I don’t really care for him but my BFF does and he’s coming her birthday week so I got some.
We went to the Savannah concert three weeks ago and it was pretty good.
I actually enjoyed Chrisette Michele better but I realize that Maxwell wasn’t singing to me.
I’ve seen Common many times. He opens for a lot of people. The last time that I saw Jill Scott perform, he opened for her.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
10:40 am
@Infamous
respect . . . agreed. but i think theres a diff between dating checkin’ in and exclusive checkin’ in.
if i’m dating you, you might jus get the *i’m home* after leaving you from a date check in.
Fulfilling Me (Rested!)
August 19th, 2009
10:42 am
@Professor
Wow, you teach HR? Nice. I am working on my master’s in HR and Business Admin. I love K’Jon. His song just lifts me up at the right moment.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
10:43 am
@Leggs
lol. and when its ova, he will curl up in the fetus position.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
10:46 am
@Beaut ~ much better! Carry on!
@Infamous ~ that one sentence said it all. Here we are going on with paragraphs. Thanks!
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
10:51 am
@Fulfilling…Yes! At times it seems like HR is always somewhere in my life. I teach HR and I am a senior level HR executive. No wonder I like reading you it must be that HR connection! Do you work in the HR field currently?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
10:52 am
Morning blog peeps!
In my dating experiences, dudes who were vague about their whereabouts were vague about everything else, including the status of our “relationship”! They were not into me, or they were into me and a few other people! Either way, they always made it a point to let me know there was no ring on their finger or one they placed on mine, so they were free to come & go as they pleased. I politely let them know I only got one mama & daddy too and even they didn’t keep tabs on me since I’m grown, but I just would like a little respect!Keep in mind I am NOT the clingy type! But when a few days would go by & later I hear that dude has gone out of town, one even LEFT THE COUNTRY and didn’t even mention it in casual conversation – there is a problem! They were playing games and would act all foolish when I would let them know it was a lack of respect I felt, not that I was trying to keep tabs on them. If something bad had happened, I would have no idea and if something bad happened to ME, THEY would have no idea and you know what? They didn’t even care! That let me know they had no concern for my wellbeing so they became history.
Now in other relationships, including my current, things just come up in conversation and questions are not intrusive, but out of genuine concern, respect and for making plans. Easy.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
10:55 am
to you so good it would bring a tear to yo eye
Angie,I like crying and mourning so thats all good.
or squirt,as Rell likes to put it.
I know u’ll cry too,there
I am making sure i bring lots of wipes 4 u.Been a loooong, long time since u had it so good.
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
10:55 am
SexyCool – see I don’t have it like that…or maybe I could, it’s just that when I want to see something I buy tickets and ask questions later.
PoppaG – yeah, the last time I saw Common was when he opened for Jill Scott at the Fox. I’m hoping I’ll get to see more of Chrisette Michelle than when she came with Musiq and Anthony Hamilton. And maybe, just maybe, I’ll grow to like Maxwell…
Professor – Is K’Jon’s entire CD good? I was wondering if he was going to go the way of that dude that came out with that song last year – the one with the funny name singing about ‘by the river’ or something like that.
I got Ledisi’s latest. I love her voice.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
10:57 am
Actually, Taz – You are the one that has it like that. :LOL:
Melo
August 19th, 2009
10:58 am
Hey Raqi,hwz Elizabeth???
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
11:00 am
Typical misunderstanding between men and women. Beautiful said bring a tear and Melo’s talking about crying!
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
11:03 am
@PG did Maxwell sing a lot of songs from his new CD when you saw him in Savannah?
@Tazzee I am feeling his entire CD. I have my tix to the Maxwell concert as well so I am looking forward to the show…I really hope they give Chrisette Michele a longer timeframe than they did at the Anthony Hamilton concert.
@Kimmie I agree with your post 100%
M'
August 19th, 2009
11:06 am
Nope…ain’t never done it…ain’t never gonna do it…cain’t do it…I never clocked in with my daddy…in his house…and some man…hehehe…nope.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:06 am
Tazzee
Chrisette did some impersonations while singing. It was quite impressive. She had Erykah Badu down pat. However, the whole theater jumped to its feet when she did a portion of her song as if she was Anita Baker!!
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
11:08 am
**long time since u had it so good.** you know, you right! but instead of wipes, have a towel close by.
there she blows! lol.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
11:08 am
It’s been a minute since I’ve been to a good concert. I don’t know who I really want to see though.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
11:09 am
no misunderstanding Leggs.
Hw u gonna shed a tear without crying??
HW u gonna squirt without a real ugh ugh,up ur canal??
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
11:11 am
@Poppa
have you heard of Corinne Bailey Rae? i think you would enjoy her too.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:11 am
Professor
did Maxwell sing a lot of songs from his new CD when you saw him in Savannah?
There was a good mixture of all of his songs. He did all of the famous ones. Of course, he did Pretty wings. I think that I remember more songs for Embrya than the others.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
11:12 am
I wld want to see Bruce Sping### or Micky Jagger and the Strolling Bones or even watch a footbal game in the Dome when one of the QBs is Bret Forever.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
August 19th, 2009
11:13 am
I’m not sure how I fall on ths question. My only comment is that a red flag for ME is when I find myself not WANTING to “check in”. If calling becomes a chore for me that is telling me that something is not working right. It could be something fixable like fatigue or something, or it could be a symptom that I just don’t enjoy talking to that person. If that is the case, then it might very well be time to move on. In one relationship I was in, that I really thought was heading toward marriage, it eventually reached the point where we would have more and more sex and less and less talking. That does not sound like a bad trade for a guy, but it made me seriously wonder if that was all we had in common. Turns out that it was.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:13 am
Beautiful
have you heard of Corinne Bailey Rae?
Most def. I have her CD and I’ve seen her perform in London. She is very good, too.
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
11:14 am
@Kimmie
the last concert i attended that had me on my feet from beginning to end was my babies New Edition. right now there’s really no one coming to my area where i wanna spend big money to see.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
11:15 am
Again Melo, she said “bring a tear to your eye.” She didn’t say “shed” a tear. Not all tears fall.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 19th, 2009
11:15 am
OK I am sickened by this young dumb a$$ dude getting on the news talking bout the world is his after he slams a baby against the wall and shoots his mother during a robbery. I hope they have him doin a booty doo in jail..
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:16 am
Melo
Bruce gives a good show.
I was really disappointed with the Stones. It was okay, but you could tell that they were just going through the motions. They’ve done concerts for years, and it really showed. It was almost like they were sleepwalking.
I am contemplating going for U2.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
11:16 am
If you send a mass multimedia/picture message to a Blackberry… every single phone # which the msg was sent shows up in the “To” field.
Whooo…that’s probably caught up a few sloppy pimps!:lol:
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
11:20 am
Ared: Imma change your to “Kick Em”
For Real – It fits.
Once you take all the emotional crap out of dating, you can see things real clear!
Kick em!
MsM
August 19th, 2009
11:21 am
Enter your comments here
M'
August 19th, 2009
11:21 am
@Poppa G
That is b/c them old cats don’t want to pull a Steven Tyler…falling off stage and breaking dem old bones…lol.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
11:23 am
I am contemplating going for U2.
U2 gives a good concert and so does Bruce.
I dont think there is anybody out there,R ‘B,that i wld care to waste my money on.Maybe that girl,Prince!
Cant even talk of that “balls clutching” contigent they call rappers…
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Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:25 am
M’
That is b/c them old cats don’t want to pull a Steven Tyler…falling off stage and breaking dem old bones…lol.
Keith Richards’s brain is so fried that he probably wouldn’t realize that he broke a bone.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:29 am
For Real
Hangover 2 comes out Memorial Day weekend 2011.
Professor...I cannot get enough of this K'Jon
August 19th, 2009
11:32 am
Thanks PG!
Melo I love Prince he is my favorite performer. Bon Jovi is #2.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
11:33 am
I want to see Chrisette Michelle but have a track meet. Who knows, I may wind up like Sonya Richardson’s mom crying in the stands like she did last night!
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:37 am
Professor
I love Prince he is my favorite performer. Bon Jovi is #2.
Both of these artist give a good show. I’d also put Mechelle N’Ddgeocello up there in giving a good show. She isn’t as commercial as Prince or Bon Jovi, but she is darn good.
M'
August 19th, 2009
11:40 am
@PG
So true…when he dies they will not have to embalm his arse…he IS the walking dead..lol…and his face looks like the road map to hell when you see him in HD.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:42 am
Angie
Speaking of Corrine Bailey Rae, I hear that her that she has a new CD or one coming really soon.
She has been on hiatus since her husband died from a suspected drug overdose.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
11:52 am
That’s my girl – Mechelle N’Ddgeocello! Love her, but can’t say her name.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
11:59 am
Leggs – I don’t think that I spelled it right, but you know of whom I am speaking. Therefore, in the words of George W. Bush, “Mission Accomplished!”
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
August 19th, 2009
12:00 pm
PG / Melo —
U2 puts on a h3ll of a show… I’m not crazy about the last couple of albums, but they generally do a lot of older stuff live as well. I highly recommend it…
On topic: I think PG pretty much hit the nail on the head — it’s all about what you really want and what you’re willing to sacrifice for what you want. Then again, I hesitate to call it a sacrifice, because when you decide that you really want to be committed to someone, it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice to give up that freedom. I like the fact that Swiss Miss calls me at work at least 3 times a day and checks up on me whenever we’re not together — lets me know I’m important to her…
Melo
August 19th, 2009
12:02 pm
Leggs,just call her “Ndochi”
M'
August 19th, 2009
12:05 pm
@Melo
Youse in rare form today bro…hehehe
Grace
August 19th, 2009
12:05 pm
I don’t like the term “clocking in or checking in” I have no problem if a guy I’m dating exclusively asks me “where are you”? but the tone of it will be the determining factor of an answer. had no problem in the past and I see no problem in the future.
Dating takes work, just like anything else in life, it does take work for two strangers to become a union. getting accustom to personalities, getting used to a picky eater, if the person is a sports junkie and you’re not, that’s work right there esp with football season right around the corner.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
12:09 pm
Hey Poppa(or any other political junkie in here),waaaay off topic:
Qstion:
1.On bills in the senate and house,how do they reconcile them if they differ, so as to come up with one? Does the reconciled bill have to be voted for again in both houses?
2. do u think the Dems have the votes in both houses to pass a health care bill without any single Republican vote?
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
12:11 pm
**I like the fact that Swiss Miss calls me at work at least 3 times a day and checks up on me whenever we’re not together**
that’s sweet.
@Grace
)
i jus found out the other day that i’m attracted to alpha males. *where are you?* with that alpha tone will have me all smitten.
Wise Diva
August 19th, 2009
12:20 pm
no no Melo, I am soo not a playa, LOL I got boundary issues, man. It’s not cute, not at all
SlimOne
August 19th, 2009
12:23 pm
Hi and bye yall.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
12:25 pm
Melo
On bills in the senate and house,how do they reconcile them if they differ, so as to come up with one? Does the reconciled bill have to be voted for again in both houses?
They are used reconciled in what is called “committee conference meetings”.
2. do u think the Dems have the votes in both houses to pass a health care bill without any single Republican vote?
Not if Pres. Obama drops the public option. There are plenty of democrats that are opposed to any bill that does not have the public option.
If the public option stays, it will be very close. Too close to call.
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
12:36 pm
SlimOne Hey Lady!!! How are things in your world.
PoppaG I was so sad when I heard Corinne’s husband died. Love her voice.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
12:36 pm
Hey, Slim
Bye, Slim
Melo
August 19th, 2009
12:41 pm
thanx Poppa
WD,if u have boundary issues, u may be giving off that vibe,albeit unwittingly.Any discerning man will pick that and say,oh well,shes not the keeping type.
From my experienced perch,men’s behavior in a relatiosnhip follows a woman’s lead.
If shes so into him from jump and he observs that by her actions,even if he has some trifling hoes on the side,hes bound to drop them down quick, like a hot iron, only coz there is a good babes in the vicinity that he does not want to dissappoint.
But a foxy and slippery but beautiful babes can still get his attn albeit temporarily.That one gets play,for only one reason and that reason alone.
So pick ur poison ladies.
Bibay
August 19th, 2009
12:47 pm
Good Day! Off topic- the Maxwell show in Savannah was pretty cool (liked the smaller venue)- loved Chrisette Michelle live- saw her on TV once and she was not so good. On my way to pick up Ledisi’s new CD today- she is absolutely wonderful in concert. Would love to hear from Corinne Bailey Rae again.
On topic- If you are married or in a significant steady relationship- checking in should not be a chore- especially with all the craziness going on out here today. There should be a healthy balance of it where it does not get to excessive that the individuals start driving each other crazy.
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
12:47 pm
Lost my post…
SlimOne Hey Lady! How are you?
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
12:48 pm
oh well, I guess it did post…
Dan
August 19th, 2009
12:49 pm
Did Melo just drop some knowledge hours after describing “canal thrusting”?
Am I still drunk, or did that actually just happen?
Melo
August 19th, 2009
12:56 pm
Dan??!!
“melo” is just my MIA screen name.
“Canal Thrusting”, is my first and last name.
Simp
August 19th, 2009
1:00 pm
While being in a relationship, you go a day or two without calling. Why is it your mate thinks the worst?
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
1:01 pm
@BiBay ~ I saw Chrisette a few months back on tv for the first time. I should have known that the way she sings her songs she made her face contort. Not nearly as much as Rachel Ferrell, but it surprised me nonetheless. The young woman is deep!
Melo
August 19th, 2009
1:06 pm
Tazzee, u on cloud 9??
some special happen??
Grace
August 19th, 2009
1:07 pm
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
1:15 pm
“Canal Thrusting”, is my first and last name.
I really hate you melo!
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
1:16 pm
While being in a relationship, you go a day or two without calling. Why is it your mate thinks the worst?
Depends on the person and how far you’ve progressed in the relationship.
If you are used to speaking every day, then a couple of days will be noticed and could be a big deal.
Grace
August 19th, 2009
1:23 pm
Melo you made much sense @12:41
Beautiful ♥s MV7
August 19th, 2009
1:27 pm
**While being in a relationship, you go a day or two without calling.**
um, you will be hearing from me! *tapping toe*
Tazzee - On Cloud 9
August 19th, 2009
1:28 pm
Melo – nope, just in love…
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
1:33 pm
From my experienced perch,men’s behavior in a relatiosnhip follows a woman’s lead.
Yuck!
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
1:33 pm
I would say that Melo’s 1241p goes both ways.
SlimOne
August 19th, 2009
1:42 pm
Tazz sorry I dipped out before I saw your post. I’m cool, just living one moment at a time. Still no J O B. Well gotta go. peace again
Hi Poppa
Bye Poppa
Dan
August 19th, 2009
1:49 pm
@SC
Would you care to elaborate (1:33)?
Melo
August 19th, 2009
1:51 pm
Explain ur self SexxyCool,re 1.33pm
thanx Grace.
Tazzee,aha!
http://sports.espn.go.com/oly/news/story?id=4409318 She looks manly to me!
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
2:05 pm
Meaning – If he’s into her from jump and she observes that by his actions, she’s bound to lose interest anyone else who may be pursuing her quickly, like a hot iron, because there is a good dude in the vicinity that she does not want to dissappoint.
And it doesn’t necessarily have to be “from jump”. How do you know “from jump” if this person is worthy of you being “so into”?
There is value in getting to know some things about a person first. I’m not going to risk being “so into” a person until I have a better idea of who they are. (I’ve learned better.)
M'
August 19th, 2009
2:15 pm
I got an interview tomorrow…yahooo!!!
Chink
August 19th, 2009
2:18 pm
Slowww Wednesday…No problemo checking in, I had to get used to it though after having a single spell. I like for men to set the tone of the relationship….
Melo
August 19th, 2009
2:20 pm
SexyCool,when i said men take the women lead, i meant that.Not the other way round,as u put it up there.
In most dating relationships, a woman puts her cards out on the table, waay be4 a guy does.Thats what i meant and thats what i observe.As much as we dont admit it,our women folk make us,they make us better pple,they make us settle down,they make us go the lenghts and breadth so we can be with them.They mould us.Women mature,waaaaay more quickly than we do,even as we are dating.We take the cue from them.
So, in keeping with todays topic,if the chic is serious about the dude and is checking her man like she wants to coz shes feeling him like that, and he notices that and likes that too and realizes,u know whaaat,she waaaay better than shanequaia,buguzheala and tryneece,hes going to dump those other heifers real quick!
U may not know that tho,but thats what normally happens.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
2:23 pm
In most dating relationships, a woman puts her cards out on the table, waay be4 a guy does.
melo – If that were true, why are so many guys still afraid of commitment.
Many women make it known either directly or indirectly that they want a relationship. Many women are happy to have a man approach them and are receptive to that (if they are open and available to a relationship).
So where is the disconnect?
Dan
August 19th, 2009
2:25 pm
Melo has a point.
I’m checking for who checking for me. If I’m just dating a number of women at a time, then I’m in search of the one that reciprocates my interest. And she’s the one that gets the most attention.
In that sense, it’s mutuality. Reciprocity.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
2:25 pm
Excellent news, M’. Stay positve.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
2:26 pm
Melo – I understood what you meant perfectly. Trust. Also, I have no problems ‘leading’ either. All I’m saying is this – before I put myself out there with a guy, I’m going to get to know some things about him first. All out from jump, for me, is a No-Go.
Oh. And if you’re feeling me, I ain’t gotta ‘check’ you.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
2:28 pm
Dan – Your 225p says something a little different that what it seems Melo is saying.
I, too, am all for reciprocity. A $10 word, by the way…LOL!
Melo
August 19th, 2009
2:40 pm
So where is the disconnect?
the disconnect Ared,is that those men u meeting have an ingrain problem,”commitment phob” or some other commitment problem.Its not the woman’s problem or ur problem.
In most likelihood,the man u are going to marry eventually will be at the ripe age but still playing the field,when u meet him.He will proly have a cpple of trifling heifers on his rotation.But when u step up to him,and he realizes he has a good woman here,thats when he lights up,mentally.
Another thing,when u meet a guy,say nothing about a long term relationship or marriage.Just act a lady and dont jump his bones like that(u knw what i mean).Just be as good as u are and if he got it,it will register.
I been single be4 and single men are scared of 2 wrds:”pregnant” and “marriage”.
The Gods havnt blessed u yet,but its coming!
before I put myself out there with a guy, I’m going to get to know some things about him first
Scool,i hear u.
Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)
August 19th, 2009
2:43 pm
Lord I’m glad I’m single.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
2:43 pm
Thanks for hearing me, Mel.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
2:44 pm
Fear of commitment is just a general term. It doesn’t really explain anything.
Honestly, I could say that Wise Diva’s boundary issues or certain bloggers fear of people using their bathrooms being fear of commitment issues.
The reasons for the disconnect is different for each person. For me, it was timing. When I wasn’t ready to settle down and I didn’t. I wasn’t afraid to let females know upfront.
For others, it is this “clocking in” issue. For even other people, the fear to commit is due to not being ready to give up the variety that comes with being with different people.
It is not one clear answer.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
2:45 pm
SexyCool
A $10 word, by the way…LOL!
I don’t get paid for another 10 days….so can I please get a $5 word, instead?
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
2:45 pm
melo – there is a lot I could say to your n 2:40, but I’m just gonna say thanks.
LOL @ the jump your bones part. No worries there.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
2:51 pm
Ared, say it.
Im open and i know some single lurkers will benefit.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
2:54 pm
melo – It’s not important. Just me being cheeky.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
2:54 pm
PG – Just for you, let’s use “give and take.” LOL
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
2:55 pm
Melo
BTW, I get what you are saying.
I just always explained it as “feeding off of each other” (and not in a 9 1/2 weeks kinda way). Both parties, male and female, really feeding of each others vibe. I don’t really see any real leader. One side gives cues and the other makes move off said cues. it goes back and forth.-
I been single be4 and single men are scared of 2 wrds:”pregnant” and “marriage”.
Oh yeah, those two words are the plague because they both mean dude has to someone else will be invading his space, life, money, and time. Some aren’t ready for it, and literally run for the hills.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
2:59 pm
melo/PG – Heck, I’m scared of the “pregnant” part. I’ve stopped just short of the “no pregnancy guarantee.”
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
3:00 pm
SexyCool
Just for you, let’s use “give and take.”
Thanks!!
Now, I can get cheese on my burger.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
3:03 pm
PG – I like your breakdown. Now THAT, I can get with.
Dan
August 19th, 2009
3:05 pm
I like reciprocity….so that’ll be my substitute for “give and take”, “yin and yang”, etc.
@Tazz
Congrats on “being in love”!
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
3:08 pm
Dan – You know you just like big words. Teasing…
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
3:23 pm
ARED…I thought you read Steve Harvey’s book…It was in there in plain english. lol! Don’t drop the ball now. Melo said it. They have to be forced to be accountable…Put your foot down and let them know what it is. Do it or walk plain and simple!
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
3:27 pm
They have to be forced to be accountable…Put your foot down and let them know what it is.
Blow Me – I know this. My post wasn’t about me. melo made it about me.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
3:31 pm
And when you put your foot down and stand by your convictions, you may just find yourself alone for a spell until the one who gets what you’re saying steps up to the same podium you’re resting on. Just be aware and don’t back down.
Party in our breakroom. German chocolate lake looked so good. Prettiest cake I’ve seen in a long time. Unfortunately, I don’t like coconut!
Wise Diva
August 19th, 2009
3:33 pm
THANK YOU! Poppa G & Melo, I will take what you wrote and marinate on it. great points. I am sure I give off that vibe, and it’s yet another reason I can’t keep a man, LOL
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
3:34 pm
**ARED** Oh ok. But yeah its funny to hear a man say it. So they really do like bytches…If that’s what they want thats what they will get.
Dan
August 19th, 2009
3:37 pm
@Blow
Where’d you get the foolish idea that men like bytches?
That may well be the dumbest thing I’ve heard.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
3:37 pm
So they really do like bytches…If that’s what they want thats what they will get.
Blow Me – As you can tell, I have NO problem chucking the deuces!
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
3:40 pm
Blow
But yeah its funny to hear a man say it. So they really do like bytches…If that’s what they want thats what they will get.
It isn’t about dudes liking bytches.
Riddle me this: Do you respect a dude that you will let you get away with anything and let you treat him any kind of way?
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
3:40 pm
DAN- Relax..(again) lol. It’s a book. The ladies know what I am talking about. Why men love bytches…It’s a book about relationship. Basically plainly put…Have your own life and don’t stop having one when he gets around..Make him respect you and dont tell him your every move. Keep him guessing.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
If that’s what they want thats what they will get
Blow Me,u mean, u going to make urslef available to a guy(s)…..as a bytch and like a bytch???
Nice!!
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
**Poppa** It took me a long time to see it. But we both want the same thing. But women tend to be docile when they are with a man that they are feeling. I am not half way as aggressive as I am on this blog. I am an aggressive head strong person by natural. Not that a man really wants a woman thats’ aggressive…but he does want someone who has boundaries.
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
3:46 pm
**Melo** No Melo it’s a book…its a book. Not nice..but partially mean
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
3:53 pm
Have your own life and don’t stop having one when he gets around..Make him respect you and dont tell him your every move. Keep him guessing.
And if he’s hedging on commitment, marriage or anything. Don’t wig out or play games. Just walk. If he realize he’s missed out on a good thing, he’ll come back. But basically, never feel like your needs are not important.
Oh, and don’t act any different after sex.
Melo
August 19th, 2009
3:53 pm
Blow Me oh…..yeah..!!
we like docile women for easy pudsy
we like strong women for long term.
(we got use for both types)
Dan
August 19th, 2009
3:55 pm
@Blow
That goes against the natural give and take of a relationship. By being that aggressive and putting up those walls, you’re not giving the guy you’re dating a chance to get to know you. Likewise depriving yourself of getting to know him.
Ion know, I’d rather be open to experiencing someone as they are than through all that “other” isht. If I git hurt, I git hurt. But it can’t be about creating artificial boundaries. For me at least
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
3:56 pm
Nothing wrong w/being docile to a certain point. No man wants a woman that’s aggressive 24/7. The balance between the two is admirable!
Melo
August 19th, 2009
3:59 pm
why men luv biatches.
If i ever write a book,thats gonna be my title.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
4:01 pm
why men luv biatches.
melo – That title is taken!
There is a follow up too “Why men marry bytches.”
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
4:02 pm
Dan – I’ve read the book they are talking about – the basic premise of it is don’t be any man’s pushover or doormat. Even if that’s what she is “naturally”, she needs to get over it. You don’t have to come across like a beast, but just speak up for yourself and have some self-respect. And do all that while being a lady.
Nobody respects a marshmallow.
Blow Me
August 19th, 2009
4:02 pm
**Melo** Funny…But it is true.
**Dan** Finally you have said something that was worth listening too! Congratulations! lmao! Yes I realize you have to have all the walls down to truly get a good and better understanding of who you are dealing with. Its a very hard thing to do, I must admit.
Grace
August 19th, 2009
4:04 pm
Melo ur hitting on some g8 points today!
PG I can’t respect a “yes” man or a man who will let me get away with anything, He needs to have a backbone and not so predictable, where’s the balance.
Beautiful
August 19th, 2009
4:04 pm
lol @ Blow.
**Its not the woman’s problem or ur problem.** thanks honey!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
4:05 pm
Also, the women that are like what is described in the book that I know – have been snatched up or have men lined up to date them. It’s definitely something to it.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
4:08 pm
He will proly have a cpple of trifling heifers on his rotation.But when u step up to him,and he realizes he has a good woman here,thats when he lights up,mentally.
Melo – You’re hillarious, but you’re dropping some gems!LOL!!!
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
4:08 pm
Blow
All right. You got my point. We are different, yet we are the same. Both genders want the same things. Different proportions, but generally the same.
Respect is most men’s #1 thing. If we don’t respect you, there won’t be anything significant long term. I know that females want respect, too. I gotta be able to call Mrs. PG on her BS and she does the same in return. If done right, it can make us both better as individuals and as a couple. Careful with bytchiness because being a bytch could go down that disrespect road, too.
Love is probably down to #3 or #4 on most men’s lists.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
4:13 pm
Respect is most men’s #1 thing. If we don’t respect you, there won’t be anything significant long term. I know that females want respect, too.
PG – If I had to make a choice, I’d chose respect over love.
I’ve heard I’m different from most females in that regard.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
4:22 pm
@ARed, if you have the the “respect” you definitely have the love. Just depends what degree of love a person is willing to accept.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
4:36 pm
@ARed, if you have the the “respect” you definitely have the love. Just depends what degree of love a person is willing to accept.
PG – I completely agree.
Seems to me, you get treated better when you are respected first and foremost.
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
4:37 pm
Haaaa, ARed, I said that, not PoppaG!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
4:37 pm
Where is everybody?
Guess I’ll mosey on down the road(400 & 285)
Yall be easy!
Dan
August 19th, 2009
4:37 pm
@Kimmie
I don’t deal with weak people anyway (they make me queasy).
But like most of these books on relationships, grand on ideas, low on practicality. As opposed to saying “stand for a specific set of principle in life and a relationship…” they say “why men like bytches”.
And see, you have a bunch of literal minded women walking around quoting and following the books advice verbatim without getting the central theme behind it (see also: that Steve Harvey mess). Then when they still ain’t got no man, they wait for the next fad and make the same mistakes.
That’s why I’m writing my relationship book….the market is rife for some high-minded foolishness
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
4:38 pm
Whoops. Sorry Leggs! Good stuff.
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
4:40 pm
LOL. If you can’t beat em, join em.
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
4:43 pm
Leggs/AR
Agreed.
Leggs-You know that I would have given you credit.
For Real
August 19th, 2009
4:44 pm
Kick Em: the disconnect is you keep choosing men that don’t want to be in a relationship. Thus no disconnect.
I have said it once I’ll say it again. RESPECT IS EARNED!!!! You can’t demand it!!
That Bytch book sound like it requires women to do what they claim to hate the most “run game”. Men will recognize your game and reciprocate. Look I like for a woman to behave like a woman. Be soft, pretty and girlie. Now, being soft, pretty and girlie has absolutely nothing to do with begin stupid unless you are stupid. No offense to the stupid chick but hell you stupid so you wouldn’t know I was calling you stupid anyway.
Kym: Here’s another news story for you. I would put a lien on the property of the person that made the mistake.
http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local-beat/Womans-House-Mistakenly-Auctioned-by-Bank-53583357.html?yhp=1
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
4:49 pm
LOL. If you can’t beat em, join em. or Kick em!
@PoppaG, yes, I know this. But also know if I want my just dues I need to make it known by my own mouth.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 19th, 2009
4:50 pm
And see, you have a bunch of literal minded women walking around quoting and following the books advice verbatim without getting the central theme behind it
Dan – I gave you the central theme behind the book, though I didn’t need to read it to “get” it. It’s not saying women need to be a B literally, and I doubt if those that are really B’s are that way cause they read it in a book. Those types of books just make for fun conversation on blogs & talk shows. Woe for the person that actually needs to read one to have a successful relationship.
But okay, Dan. Sigh…
Melo
August 19th, 2009
4:55 pm
U food junkies,does blimpie make good food,are they busy???
A blimpie francise is $50k,i see that smewhere.
I can do that!
Leggs
August 19th, 2009
4:57 pm
Goodnight everyone!
Almost at the end of my corny jokes:
I went to a seafood disco last week….and pulled a mussel.
Peace. Love and respect yourself you’re sure to have it returned to you!
Poppa Grande
August 19th, 2009
4:58 pm
Melo
If you follow the laws of supply and demand, Blimpie must not be in high demand to be so cheap for a franchise.
I know cars that cost more than $50K
Melo
August 19th, 2009
4:58 pm
Clocking out
Sakbona kusasa!
See u tmrw……….
Melo
August 19th, 2009
4:59 pm
u right Poppa
ciao!
AmazonRed™ - I, Robot
August 19th, 2009
5:01 pm
Night everyone.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2009
5:02 pm
Man down. Hollluuuuuhhhh!!!!!