One of the things that single women really like about meeting a new guy with potential is his willingness to share his time with us. The mystery man can be sexy and alluring in his own weird elusive way, but the man that is consistent and open with his life gets taken a lot more seriously.
I have noticed that a man who wants to be in a relationship with a woman he truly desires he makes the effort to show her who he is. It’s like a subtle way of reassuring her that he wants her to be comfortable with him. At the same time, I think a woman who wants to be in a relationship with a man would be open to showing him that she is just as invested as he is.
I admit that I have a big problem with this. I know, you’re shocked, right? Maybe it is because I have been single for 100 years or have dated some possessive men in my past. I just don’t like it when a guy wants me to clock in, tell him where I am all the time, etc. I realize it doesn’t look good when I answer the question, “Where are you?”, with “Why?”, but it’s a bad habit. I’m working on it though! I think in a way I think that relationships represent a loss of freedom that I cling to…a little too hard.
Do you have a problem with checking in with someone you are dating? Do you think it makes the person feel more a part of your life?
Have you ever felt like dating someone was like a job where you had to clock in and put in some work? Why do you think it feels that way? Is that a sign that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship?
If the person is right for you, would you mind that you were giving up a little freedom to be with them?