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Numbers Game

Have you ever heard some outrageous statistic about the ratio of women to men in Atlanta? When I first moved here I heard that it was 15 to 1 or something like that. I know that dating can be a numbers game, but does that actually have an impact on how we are meeting and dating one another?

Do you even worry about the numbers or ratio of single people? Does it make us more competitive?

What do you think about the dating options in Atlanta? Are they working for you or against you?

Have you changed up your “type” because of the perceived ratio on the dating scene?

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THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
2:45 pm

Le Siren – I knew a babe in college that was a super attractive but homely. I used to mess with her and tell her to take her glasses off for me and she’d just blish. I mean if she was on Top Model she could win. Fast forward 10 years later. Settled into her career and shook the big glasses and got the wardrobe straight. She is that DEAL.. However she still acts the same way she acted when she was in college beause she just doesnt understand what all the hoopla is about. Dudes breaking they necks bout to get in a wreck about this chick..

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
2:46 pm

How can you not know something that’s reinforced to you on a daily basis?

Le Siren – There will always be folks in the minority that will tell you otherwise. And sometime, depending on who the messenger is, you can start to believe it. That’s supposedly what happened to Michael Jackson.

That’s why self-esteem is so important.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 17th, 2009
2:47 pm

Amred – LMAO!!! You know I gotta clown! Can’t take this stuff too serious!

I think a lot of dudes who complain about pretty women being insecure & not good in bed, yada yada,….. are just a little perturbed because these are the same girls that would never give THEM the time of day! Put someone else down to build yourself up… sad!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

August 17th, 2009
2:48 pm

Hey Jam LOL “Why do I see (picture) your face turning red with a little heavy breathing. LOL j/k Good post tho!”

Yeah, guess I got a little carried away :-) .

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
2:49 pm

Le Siren – I was just joking.. But I would come to your house and blow the joint up and ask you to pass me some tissue even thouog I got some so you can get a good whiff…. :-P

Blow Me

August 17th, 2009
2:49 pm

Dan- Men in general. You included. You want the perks of owning a house…but only got enough cash or funds for a night stay @ the budget inn. LOL…

Melo

August 17th, 2009
2:49 pm

It took me years to understand that I did not have to try to screw every woman I met in the first 5 days……hahaha :lol: …..I have great relations with women to this day, who respect me for “not” being like the norm of men they meet and they also feel as though they can be comfortable around me, without me having a motive!

U settled now on one chic LL,if not why??

i agree with ur post above altho i know that being easy going and appearing like ur dyckk aint on ur forehead is actually a “good” way to fool them to think u the good guy.
Say, “it aint so”!

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
2:49 pm

Amred – LMAO!!! You know I gotta clown! Can’t take this stuff too serious!

kimmie – Exactly. :lol:

Though I do think pretty people don’t have to work as hard tho.

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
2:51 pm

:lol: The ladies are going hard today. :lol:

Dan

August 17th, 2009
2:51 pm

@BG

Needless to say, those are the insecure lames running around that ladies choose and then equate them to the larger male specie. How fair is that (asked while knowing dudes do the same things)?

"Longtime Lurker"

August 17th, 2009
2:52 pm

@AmazonRed™ is you are meeting alot of men who feel they need to take you down a peg, because of your looks, then you might need to change the circles and social options you roll in! Confident men will accept you for who you are regardless!

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
2:53 pm

Le Siren

That makes sense only if the women has nothing to offer EXCEPT

Not necessarily true.

If he views her only as a trophy wife, she is bound to know. The thing about dudes that go for trophy wives, is that they tend to look for more trophies. If that is the case, what she has to offer other than her looks might not matter at all.

SexyC
To the worried secretaries, I say, “Let grown people be grown and stay out of grown people’s business.”

From what I’m getting from the worried secretaries, is that they may be worried about her safety more than anything. I don’t know why, which is why I said that they are privy to information that I am not.

"Longtime Lurker"

August 17th, 2009
2:53 pm

Sorry for the typo in my last post, but you get my point!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
2:54 pm

Blow Me – Thats why you got funds, so you wont have to come at a dude about no money.. Cause I can tell youze one of dem dare Independent womens.

Leggs

August 17th, 2009
2:54 pm

I was told this past weekend that I was very sexy in college, I just didn’t know it nor did I act like I was. Too me that was a good thing. I knew it then just like I know it now. Confidence at its best!

Jamoca - She "be" the light, when they're in the dark.

August 17th, 2009
2:55 pm

Or I guess its no big deal to them and they are just being… This here is what I can honestly relate to. Why trump the issue on something that depreciates throughout the years when gravity WILL eventually take place.

I have a male acquaintance who works out all of the time…like 3x’s a day. While I admire the self discipline, but it’s evident he’s terrified of getting man boobs and a “booty do”. And he’s not a bad looking brutha, very nice looking as a matter of fact. But it’s clear he’s self conscious about his appearance…or rather in the years to come. As if he can do anything about aging.

We are all aging…will get old and die. That’s reality.

So with that being said, a lot of men have insecurities about there appearance like some women. Heyal, I’ll go so far to say that most people who are honest with themselves are self conscious about something…especially the well endowed. They have appearances to keep up (so some of them feel) and have been told (validated) by the masses most of their lives. So is it to be plainly stated: If no one (read: the masses) has ever told you (read: complimented) that you’re a looker, is it to be taken as “the whole truth and nuthin’ but…?” Wow.

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
2:55 pm

@AmazonRed™ is you are meeting alot of men who feel they need to take you down a peg, because of your looks, then you might need to change the circles and social options you roll in! Confident men will accept you for who you are regardless!

Longtime Lurker – I didn’t say such a thing. I was responding to a post left by someone else. Please pay attention. :D

You know my Sexy AND my Cool.

August 17th, 2009
2:55 pm

PG – Now THAT is a horse of a different color.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
2:56 pm

Leggs – OK Ok well I stand corrected..

Grace

August 17th, 2009
2:57 pm

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
2:57 pm

Le Siren

I know many women who are very attractive and also very nice people.

Sure. However, you don’t know what they are like as mates unless you date these women.

"Longtime Lurker"

August 17th, 2009
2:58 pm

@AmazonRed™ Sorry if I misquoted you, my comment applies to anyone who previously made the remark!

Dan

August 17th, 2009
2:58 pm

@Blow

We all can keep sayin the same thing over and over. At some point, it’s not “them” it’s you (not you personally).

I’ve addressed that issue in my life (still working on it), but to constantly blame your hurt on someone else reads like a victim. And that’s unfair to real victims of the game.

Stated: I may only have money for the budget inn, and that’s fine. But my drive is to be there (for as long as I can afford it) and get something better. Thereby taking the onus on me to DO better, if only for myself. I don’t blame anyone else for my circumstances and I work and pray to do better about it.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 17th, 2009
3:01 pm

I just didn’t know it nor did I act like I was.

Nobody wants to appear conceited.

Amred – Oh studies have been done that prove they have it easier in almost every walk of life. They did this story on 20/20 one time with these little kids and how they responded to a pretty teacher vs a not-so pretty teacher. They automatically assumed the pretty teacher was nicer even though they were just shown a picture of her. They sent two people out with equal qualifications but one was pretty, one not-so. Guess which one got the job offer every time and at a higher salary? They also sent a guy out who had less qualifications but was more attractive than the other more qualified dude. Same results!

Chink

August 17th, 2009
3:01 pm

Low self-esteem can affect anyone regardless of looks. Accept yourself for who you are and you should be able to accept others ..starts with you first.

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
3:04 pm

kimmie – I saw that 20/20 special. It was wild.

Grace

August 17th, 2009
3:04 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
3:05 pm

Seriously everyone is beautiful in their own way. You just have to know what makes you beautiful even if it isnt prescribed to by the masses. When you are happy with who you are everybody else will be also..

I got a patna bout 350lbs and the ladies love him because he’s good people, he keep his body clean and is just an all around cool cat.

He tells me all the time.. Man Im happy with me so who ever aint Piss on em. A chick gone get wit me and love rubbing on my belly.. Watch!

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
3:06 pm

Kym

I think 2020 is pushing it. Now 2025 ya’ll could be in.

Either way, ish is going down!!

Yeah, Falcons defense still a work in progress. Lost to the darn Detroit Lions in a game that the Falcons thought that they had won. They let the Falcons come back.

Rell

You did see the Vick interview? He admitted to not putting in the work that he should have while here in the Atlanta. That is what I’ve heard for years, especially during the Bye weeks. If I was a Falcons fan, I would feel betrayed because he didn’t give his best to me as a fan even though I would give him my support through it all.

I kinda felt sorry for him in that interview though. You can only apologize so much. For some those words still aren’t enough. You can’t change the past, but take full advantage of each day to make a better future.

Blow Me

August 17th, 2009
3:07 pm

Dan Relax…Please

The Real Rell - benchs make my stomach hurt

August 17th, 2009
3:07 pm

I did not have to try to screw every woman I met in the first 5 days and it was better to have 20 women who I had never been with, who were in my corner vs. 20 women I have slept with!

- the FRIEND ZONE suckes

@Ms main…get over it groupie..lol…

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
3:11 pm

AR

Is it bad if you’re so hot you can turn yourself on?

You have the issue, too?!?! :lol: :grin:

True Story: This morning Mrs. PG pinched my booty right as I started to brush my teeth. It kinda took me by surprised, and my toothbrush almost end going up my nose! :lol:

Apparently, she still thinks I’m hot. I guess I am a trophy husband. :razz:

Lord Velonese (Insert trendy Quote Here)

August 17th, 2009
3:12 pm

Joe wrote:
“It’s not quantity or ratio that’s important, it’s quality that counts, and the dating scene is lacking in that department. To me it just means we have more shallow, self-centered women to choose from.”

Preach it Joe!

And these whiney self centered women are fun/ makes my day to watch when they piss and stew about something they can’t have. I’d much rather they watch me or another successful man have the “life” they always desire, to them never getting it because I don’t believe in sharing with women. I say that because we all know they are going to “try” to steal it anyway.

WD wrote:
“I know that dating can be a numbers game, but does that actually have an impact on how we are meeting and dating one another?”

Not I says the cat!

WD wrote:
Do you even worry about the numbers or ratio of single people? Does it make us more competitive?

Nope, women out number men. Because of that I’ll let women worry about competition.

WD wrote:
What do you think about the dating options in (correction) America? Are they working for you or against you?

Being able to fly allot I have to say it’s not just Atl that sucks, any where you go women are still the gold-digging, out for just themselves in this place. We need love contracts before marriage or any type of commitment. (Praise Dave Chappelle) And no I don’t feel its working against me, Women just suck here.

WD wrote:
“Have you changed up your “type” because of the perceived ratio on the dating scene?”

I give American women a very rough time/nightmare because they deserve it.

Motto for the day kiddies: Yes, bad apples spoil it for everyone!

Tazzee - On Cloud 9

August 17th, 2009
3:12 pm

Preseason…Detroit was undefeated in the preseason last year…that’s all Imma say about that….well that and our defense needs some work

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 17th, 2009
3:14 pm

Seriously everyone is beautiful in their own way.

DK – Truer words have not been spoken on this blog today!

That’s why we can’t put too much stock in this “numbers game” in ATL or anywhere else. There’s somebody out there for everyone IF they want someone, that’s my belief. Put your focus on being the best YOU you can be and quit paying attention to what other people say you “need” or “should” or “ought” to do!

SCool – To your response about PG’s coworker – a lot of folks can’t fathom the idea of someone traveling a different road to get to the same destination!

Melo

August 17th, 2009
3:14 pm

Oh studies have been done that prove they have it easier in almost every walk of life

how did Gwen Ifill land that job on pbs??

speaking of that, u dont see a lot of dour female anchors on tv…
that makes Barbara walters mighty lucky….unless if she were hotter when younger.

my babe,Dianne sawyer(in case u dont know) was hot in that skirt this morning.. :lol:

The Real Rell - benchs make my stomach hurt

August 17th, 2009
3:14 pm

@PG…i was going to ask you your thoughts on him…..and ocho…have you watched the training camp deal with the bengals….ocho is funny with that “child please”

but i already knew what it was with vick…he from HR…down there if you got any talent you getting a pass on er thing…i mean from school to law enforcement…then he went up to blacksburg and got a way with er thing again…i mean i know folks that went to school with him and said he was riding a lil too high….but i feel sorry for the brother cause it sucks to be betrayed by family or anyone for that matter..but he is focused and from the new reports it seems like everyone wanted him there…plus from the video looks like all his tools are still there..he just need the reps…what do you think

AmazonRed™ - I'm shy...

August 17th, 2009
3:15 pm

You have the issue, too?!?!

PG – Why yes, yes I do. :lol: :D

Maybe I should stop walking around nekkid since mirrors are around. :lol:

:lol: @ the toothbrush almost going up your nose.

Leggs

August 17th, 2009
3:16 pm

You got it Kimmie!

Dan

August 17th, 2009
3:18 pm

@Blow

I’m good baby-girl. Calm as a hot day in Albany.

I was merely responding to your post, we cool (on my end).

@PG

How you gone blame the loss on the guys trying to make the team?

About Vick, I heard that during the season. Working in the Dome for 3 of his years on the team, I saw it too. But hey, he’s the qb and can win a game at any moment, so the team gave him deference.

As far as the interview, I thought the only real moment was we he started talking about “how a guy with a $135 million would be on the flip-side killing dogs?…” I’m like dude, you just now gitting that?

The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE

August 17th, 2009
3:18 pm

Enter your comments here

Ms. Main

August 17th, 2009
3:18 pm

Leggs
I was told this past weekend that I was very sexy in college, I just didn’t know it nor did I act like I was. Too me that was a good thing. I knew it then just like I know it now. Confidence at its best!

Nothing wrong with hearing it….

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
3:20 pm

Rell

His passing skills looked very good for a guy that hasn’t played in two seasons. Really good. Tight spirals and zip on the ball. He actually hit people in stride.

Ocho Cinco

I have nothing against him (except that lame ESPN the magazine commerical with Philly Pitcher Cole Hammels j/k). I don’t ever hear anything bad about him. I think that he gets a bad rap. He doesn’t get in trouble with the law (on the Bengals that says alot), seems like a team player, and works in the community. He is the least of the Bengals (my old team) problems.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 17th, 2009
3:22 pm

Melo – PBS says it all, sorry to stereotype! You turn to PBS when you want intelligence, not fluff. So looks don’t matter as much. And yes, Barbara Walters was quite pretty back in the day. I have her autobiography – you know I am a news junkie! And Diane Sawyer does wear some very nice suits that fit her well!

Jamoca - She "be" the light, when they're in the dark.

August 17th, 2009
3:22 pm

Seriously everyone is beautiful in their own way. You just have to know what makes you beautiful even if it isnt prescribed to by the masses…

When you are happy with who you are everybody else will be also.. <— Now that’s a lie right there and you know it! Lol (but n/r)…we all know that regardless of how we feel or may think of ourselves…good or bad, everyone is not going to “digg us”. Some folks are truly allergic to positive energy and there’s nothing we can/or should feel obligated to do about that. Everything/person some of us come in contact with are not always a direct reflection of who we are, unless we decide to keep em around. But I just think it’s unrealistic to think everyone will fall in line with our “line” of thinking. I’ll go so far to say that I don’t feed that to my daughter…I’d be lying no doubt…she knows and I know it. I simply tell her to keep “truckin” either way, instead of seeking validation. What’s that gannie said?…”Baybeh, they talked about G’sus.”

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
3:23 pm

Dan

How you gone blame the loss on the guys trying to make the team?

Detroit’s scrubs were better than Atlanta’s scrubs enough said. :lol: :lol:

Seriously, though, I hope DJ Shockley does better than he did that game. He just got married a few weeks ago (end of June) and really has others depending on him.

Poppa Grande

August 17th, 2009
3:25 pm

Dan

” I’m like dude, you just now gitting that?

If it is true (I am giving him the benefit of the doubt) that it was an activity that was even accepted by the police in the area in which he was from, then it may have taken a minute for it to register.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 17th, 2009
3:29 pm

Jamoca – But if youre happy with yourself it doesnt matter if people like it or not.. Of course not everyone is gonna dig you and are gonna hate just because thats what they do, but at the end of the day as long as you are happy with you it doesnt matter..

The Real Rell - CHILD PLEASE

August 17th, 2009
3:29 pm

He actually hit people in stride.

- he has no choice…brown and samuels…demps…. = NO JOKE…he has to perform daily…i mean the eagles are a beast team….but dude is focus and he that swag back

Chink

August 17th, 2009
3:32 pm

But if youre happy with yourself it doesnt matter if people like it or not.. Of course not everyone is gonna dig you and are gonna hate just because thats what they do, but at the end of the day as long as you are happy with you it doesnt matter

EXACTLY!!