Real Men Smile
It’s never fun to date the serious, uptight, completely devoid of a sense of humor type person. Sure, they have their great qualities: reliable and dependable, practical and logical, blah blah. Whatever, I don’t trust people that don’t ever smile. Why so serious!?
I know that so many of us cope with day to day stress, some more than others. We all have things we are struggling with or trying to figure out, it’s called adulthood. However, when you lose your smile and can’t find laughter in your life, you become a lot less appealing to people you may want to attract.
The last time you were asked out on a date, were you smiling and having a good time? Yeah, there is reason for that! Who is going to approach the ice queen or the mean mugging man? I don’t care how hot you are, if you are walking around looking unhappy and uptight, you are turning folks off!
If you are in a social setting, make sure you are up to mingling and engaging with people…with a smile. I never understand why people go to parties or mixers and don’t bother to speak to anyone other then their own friends.
So what does it take to make you smile?
Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?
Men, why do you insist on walking around like Mr. Tough Guy all the time? Is it lame for you to smile or something?
What has a woman done for you or to you that made you smile? insert your own naughty joke here
How can women bring a smile to your face if she is on a date with you? What about when you are in a relationship or married? It’s the little things, right? DVR’ing your favorite shows, wearing nothing but your dress shirt when you get home, let us know how we can lift your mood and get a smile out of you!
Have you ever been on a date with someone and they just would not smile?
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Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)
August 11th, 2009
8:16 am
Morning All!
Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?
I recently had a new hair style done and this man walked up to me and told me I made his heart skip a beat and that I was gorgeous. It made my day! I cheesed like there was no more tomorrow. I thanked him. What made it more special was that he wasn’t hitting on me, he was being very genuine in his observation.
How do I make men smile?
I compliment them. I have no problem telling a man that he looks nice or that his cologne is wonderful. Its done in the spirit of happiness.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 11th, 2009
8:29 am
Ok Lisa and Ed Hartwell’s house went into forelosure.. What in tarnations is going on with the housewives of ATL.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 11th, 2009
8:34 am
Ok Im a charming smiler, you know not one of those cheesy doodle smiles but a sly inviting smile followed by a cordial almost shy hello . The reserved laid back smiler with the eye contact to go with the smile.
Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)
August 11th, 2009
8:36 am
@INFAMOUS
For what I understand, they were trying to renegotiate their loan and things didn’t pan out.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 11th, 2009
8:38 am
A smile goes a long way.. I love making someones day with a smile and compliment. I realized the power of a smile one day when I thought evrything couldnt get any worse but they kept getting worse by the hour. A old lady walked up, smiled and told me that Jesus loves me. At that moment I realized things arent as bad as they seemed and my day got better because I started looking at it that way. So when Im down I start to smile, think my day is gonna get better and it usually does.
Pretty Wings (My Sunshine Has Come)
August 11th, 2009
8:38 am
Guten Morgen Bloggers!
Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?
I love positive energy around me because sometimes I don’t smile as much as I should, but I had the best date ever this past weekend and could not stop smiling:)
!!!!!!!!! As a matter of fact, I am smiling just thinking about how much fun we had! The converstation was great, the company was great and he looked really goooood.
I was taught that the hallmark of a professional is a “POKERFACE”. For some of us it’s a little harder to turn off and on, but the right thing
will knock down all those walls an make you smile with your whole heart.
(Song)
Smile though your heart is aching;
Smile even though it’s breaking.
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by.
If you smile through your fear and sorrow,
Smile and maybe tomorrow,
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you.
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness.
Although a tear may be ever so near,
That’s the time you must keep on trying,
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you just smile.
Have a great day!
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 11th, 2009
8:40 am
Fullfilling – Thats ridiculous though.. Dang man all that flexin. They owned a real estate co they shouldnt be caught out there..
Pretty Wings (My Sunshine Has Come)
August 11th, 2009
8:42 am
I did’nt really answer the question: I made him smile by Smiling and he made me smile in return…..so natural.
Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)
August 11th, 2009
8:44 am
I agree. A smile can do a million things words cannot. I know people have smiled at me and it turned my day around. I am a believe in positive energy and a smile is the perfect way to convey it.
SexyCool - Smiling from inside my soul.
August 11th, 2009
8:53 am
Three Words Daily – Treat yourself well.
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
9:01 am
Morning lovelies –
I’m an extrovert and a social butterfly, being out is something I enjoy. Having fun is something I enjoy. Living life is something I enjoy.
A sense of humor is one of my top requests in a guy. I love to laugh.
When is the last time a man made me smile? Last night. Our time on the phone is spent cracking jokes with one another, same when we are out.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
9:30 am
Why I am smiling this morning???
It made me smile when at the marido’s request I went online 8-ish a.m. this morning to print directions to a place he is going this afternoon and while online I peeped the topic for today. Reading the topic brings to mind one of my favorite songs “Your Smile” by Angela Winbush which I just so happen to have on CD, so I reached in the drawer put it in the player. That song makes me dance every time. So there I was moving to the rhythm of that sweet melody relaxed in my fav tank and b-shorts. I was just entranced in the air of the music when I felt from behind a hand grip my hip, the other around my waist and then that body pressed against mine…that baritone humming the tune of the resounding melody in my ear…then I smiled. and still smiling
Now let’s see, on topic…
Spontaneous affection = Smile
A wink just in passing = Smile
Cooking dinner without being asked = Smile
Unsolicited compliments = Smile
abc
August 11th, 2009
9:37 am
Without a lot of daily laughter, you’re liable to fall ill. I can coax a laugh or a smile out of almost anybody. It’s not hard to do. ‘Course, sometimes it’s the really stupid stuff that gets a smile, but what the heck, I ain’t too proud!
For those who simply can’t lighten up, smile, and laugh, I’d recommend some counseling, I guess.
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
9:42 am
‘Course, sometimes it’s the really stupid stuff that gets a smile, but what the heck, I ain’t too proud!
abc – You haven’t dropped a “ya mama” joke on us in a while.
Kym
August 11th, 2009
9:50 am
Good Morning All,
Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile?
Hmmm about a week ago when a man paid me a compliment regarding my knowledge on an issue.
I smile everyday when the security guard says “Good morning there she is..
I smiled this morning when my son– as I dropped him off at school plays his theme music on the ipod to get motivated for the day.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
9:50 am
I just get people who never smile, who are never happy. Heck just some mornings I look out the window and the sun is shining and I smile.
When it comes to relationships it is often the little things that create the biggest most sincere smiles. For one thing those littles things often take more thought and more paying attention to your mate’s interests, needs and wants. To see that my man was paying attention to something that I said and acted on it makes my heart joyful.
Acts of care and concern also makes me happy. Opening a can of Campbell’s chicken noodle soup and warming it for me when I am feeling ill makes me smile, even if just on the inside. And actually buying the chicken, noodles, celery and going thru the whole process of making c-n-s just makes me elated. LOL
What makes my husband smile?
When I make a batch of caramel brownies and put one in his lunch bag.
When I make him a bath.
When I drop by unexpectedly to take him to lunch.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
9:59 am
Morning wonderful blog people!
I could never date a man that never smiled or did not have a sense of humor. I tried once and I was miserable.
I absolutely love it when anyone smiles at me, male or female, child or adult. I always smile back!
Fullfilling – Those are the best kind of compliments from men, I think. The ones that are genuine and they are not trying to hit on you!
I’m silly and like to laugh, so I’m always putting a smile on SO’s face. Just the other day we were playing 1 versus 100 on his Xbox. I told him his little Xbox man was hot! That made him laugh!LOL!!
I naturally can have a serious look on my face when I’m out by myself and thinking about something or concentrating on what I’m doing. Please don’t TELL me to SMILE! That irritates the H out of me! Just smile, I’ll smile back & if I don’t, don’t take it personal. I was concentrating on something else.
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
10:01 am
@Wise Lurker, you should have wrote this article targeted at women! Oh by the way, murnin folks in my best (Bernice Jenkins “Rickey Smiley” voice)!
I find that more women don’t smile than men, especially when you greet them a.m or p.m. Every morning I speak to at least 10-12 women in my office building or at the food court, etc. and most mornings many look like someone just took all they credit cards and shoes away from them, nor do they speak back! Many look like someone just pooted!
As far as smiles go, If I had a dollar for each one of those I get,I would not have enough to buy breakfast!
I often wonder do women have any idea that their success in dating or meeting and attracting a potential is solely based on their body language! From what I see on the daily, many will continue to find themselves alone and wonder why?
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:02 am
I just DON’T get…
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:15 am
LL- man, that is too bad.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
10:17 am
Off topic but I’m just saying…..
http://news.aol.ca/article/newlywed-charged-with-plot-on-husband/689489/
Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)
August 11th, 2009
10:17 am
Another thing that makes me smile is my two boys. Everyday they give me reason and motivation to smile and endure this rat race daily.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:18 am
The only thing that runs a close second to not smiling at all are those fake smiles that look forced. There are certain people that seem to feel obligated to smile at certain other people. It’s makes me think every time “why in the world do have you have that dumbazz look on your face?”. Heck if you don’t mean it just keep it to yourself.
The thing is a genuine bright smile is not that hard to pull off. Heck sometimes it happens before you even know it.
Leggs
August 11th, 2009
10:18 am
Good morning everyone. I so enjoyed my day off yesterday, should have taken 2 days!
I am an extrovert so smiling, laughing and joking around is a constant with me. As much as I like to feed people, I like to make them smile and laugh.
@abc, you said it best
“Without a lot of daily laughter, you’re liable to fall ill.” The world is so harsh that a simple smile can make a person get to the “other side of thru.” Sometimes, a smile is a powerful as a mere hug!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
10:19 am
No woman is attracted to a dude that’s walking around looking like a serial killer either.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
10:21 am
I can coax a laugh or a smile out of almost anybody. – Now this made me LMAO!!!! Who knew abc?
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:22 am
One thing that is worse than not having a sense of humor is not being able to laugh at your self. Some days you just have to laugh at something insane or idiotic that you yourself did. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
Kym
August 11th, 2009
10:24 am
@For Real she wanted him dead. LMAO She even planned out a getaway route for the hitman and a alibi for herself.
Leggs
August 11th, 2009
10:26 am
@Raqi, that too is key, the ability to laugh at yourself.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:27 am
Leggs Good eatz always seem to bring the happy out of folks. Layout a good spread and make a crowd happy. LOL
That’s why I love the holidays, the good eatz seasons, especially Christmas and Thanksgiving. Everybody just seems to be happier around that time.
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
10:27 am
Leggs – I missed you yesterday. Glad you enjoyed your day off!
Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)
August 11th, 2009
10:30 am
@Raqi
Agree 100%. Finding humor in self is must. Life is too short to be so daggone serious.
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:30 am
LL- Do you smile? What kind of personality do you have? I know with me, it’s hard for me to NOT smile. It’s like I can’t do it. Even in pictures, I try to have a serious face and it never works lol. People around me are always laughing because I’m either saying or doing something silly. Just ask W8, Mamba, Mo and the others lol. I have always been social and always a talker and a laugher my entire life. Even in elementary school and junior high school I always had good grades, but when I would get my report cards, the teachers would always put in the comments section, “talks too much in class” or something like that. It’s funny because I actually ended up going to college and getting a degree in Sociology, which is and has always been perfect for me. Being social and studying the interactions of humans in society is what I do best. LOL *go figure*.
I guess the only down side to being so outgoing and laughing a lot is that it’s hard to get people to take me seriously.
Kimmie- I agree with your 10:19.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:35 am
1 out of 3 things that are guaranteed to bring a smile is puppies ,pastries or playing little tots. If on a date and you are looking for something fun and lighthearted to bring a smile to the face of your date go by a pet store, or the bakery or the park.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
10:35 am
Page – The thought of you trying to look serious or have a pokerface is funny!LOL!!! Reminds me of this interview somebody did of Eddie Murphy one time. They asked him to say something funny, but all he did was turn to the camera with a blank look on his face. Everyone fell out laughing!! The interviewer was like “See, that’s funny right there and you didn’t even say anything!”LOL!!!
abc
August 11th, 2009
10:36 am
Murder chick’s motive hasn’t been revealed yet, that I’ve read. Now, someone make up a joke about that story. Challenge!
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
10:36 am
You know… I think overall people are just not happy and dealing with alot of stuff! Very few people in my opinion are truly happy each morning, when the wake up, so that attitude follows them through out the day minus the smile. Folks are kinda like robots daily if you think about it, they just kinda go through the same motions day in and day out and in most cases, only focus on making it to the end of each week. Then the vicious cycle repeats itself every Monday morning.
I hear people complain all the time about stuff they should be thankful for, such as having to get up and go to work ( be thankful you have a job), dealing with their kids ( you made the choice to have kids and many people wish they could have kids, esp. healthy kids), the car they have, (even if it is old its more than what the folks on the bus and train have) , a nagging boss,( if you were at home without a job, you would not have one!) Not making enough money! (What ever you make, be thankful and if you want to make more, hatch a plan to better your training and education!) No man, (learn to be happy by ya dayum self! Your body language, attitude and persona go a long way and may contribute to you meeting a good man! ).
My dad used to tell me that 90 percent of what happens to you and where you are in life has to do with the choices and decisions ‘YOU’ made! 10 percent is the reality of life! If more of us believed this and applied ourselves more, we would see more smiles!
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
10:37 am
@Page1908 I smile all the time! I am the class clown all day long erry day, even in meetings!
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:38 am
Now the one thing I can’t stand is someone that is just too darn silly all the darn time. They never take anything or anyone serious. There is a time and a place for everything. Don’t be scatty.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:39 am
abc which would you say is worst, not being able to tell a joke or not being able to get the joke???
Craig
August 11th, 2009
10:39 am
Wow Miss Diva I am a man and I love to give most ladies even those I dont know a pleasant deep rich smile. It doesn’t mean that Im trying to take someone home. It just means I love myself and I refuse not to be a happy person.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
10:40 am
LL – You didn’t answer Page’s question. Do you smile?
You’re just determined to make this happy topic a depressing, woman-bashing one, aren’t you?LOL!!!
Lighten up, man!!! SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
10:41 am
LL – I see you did answer Page. Hard to imagine YOU the class clown!!
For Real
August 11th, 2009
10:41 am
Kym: You will like this one too:
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/07/25/BA6918UIM9.DTL#ixzz0NFo80T8d
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
10:44 am
@kimmie – See my 10:37
Sexy@Cool.com
August 11th, 2009
10:45 am
I cannot live without smiles and laughter.
That is all.
Raqi...smiling
August 11th, 2009
10:49 am
Smile!!!
http://bittersweet-rose.blogspot.com/2009/08/i-bet-you-smiled.html
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:49 am
LOL Kimmie- LOL girl, you know I cannot have a serious face! I try all the time and it never works. I hardly ever get mad and I never yell or raise my voice, and sometimes this can be a hinderance for me like in the workplace, but luckily people know me so it’s cool. I get sad when (I perceive) someone is either yelling at me or raising their voice because I just don’t like it. Like when I hear people yelling at their kids or whatever I feel very uncomfortable because no one in my family yells or cusses kids out like that or whatever, so even at my age it’s still shocking.
For example, when I first graduated from Undergrad all of my jobs were fun, happy jobs like preschool teacher, ymca and boys and girls camp counselor and stuff like that. Well, in 1999 I got my master’s degree in Public Administration and I ended up taking a job in a Correctional Facility (prison) so that I could have a more “serious” job that required me to be more serious at work. So, I remember the Warden interviewing me and saying “ummm, ok I see you have an MPA now, but you currently work as a preschool teacher…are you sure you want to work in criminal justice”? I was like “yes”. So, he took a chance on me and I did great in that job for like 3 years, then it became too depressing lol so I got out.
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:51 am
LOL really? I *heart* class clowns. The funny thing is that most people tell me I’m funny, when I’m not trying to be. I don’t know if that is a good thing or bad thing lol.
Leggs
August 11th, 2009
10:51 am
Hey, ARed. How are you?
@Raqi, I host an annual track dinner to show appreciation for my daughter’s coaches. I just completed my second year of doing this. The smiles on everyone’s face, and just like black folk saying they wished they had brought “tupperware” with them made me smile! The food was good! Cooking for the holidays is a time filled with smiles and laughter and sheer appreciation for just “being.”
For Real
August 11th, 2009
10:54 am
not getting the joke is the worst.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
10:56 am
“So, I remember the Warden interviewing me and saying “ummm, ok I see you have an MPA now, but you currently work as a preschool teacher…are you sure you want to work in criminal justice”?” – You just can’t write this kind of stuff. HE-LARRY-RE-US!!!!
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:56 am
Kimmie- My friend Keith made a comment about one of the pics on my FB page from the party on Sat night. He said something about how I can’t have a serious face at all. LOL. So, even other people notice it.
Sexy@Cool.com
August 11th, 2009
10:57 am
Not knowing that you’re the butt of the joke is pretty bad too.
abc
August 11th, 2009
10:58 am
Two cannibals were eating a clown. One says to the other, “this taste funny to you?”
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
10:59 am
LOl For Real. People are usually shocked when they see I worked as a preschool teacher, then in a prison. I mean, I wasn’t an officer, I was a QA Manager, so I never had direct contact with inmates, however, I did have to go through the 8 week Correctional Officer training that is required by all CO’s. So, believe you me, if I was ever down in a housing unit and something poppped off, I would definitely know how to protect myself. *trust*
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:01 am
LL- Why do you think the women you encounter don’t smile when you smile or speak to them? How would you describe your personality? For me, it would be very hard not to speak or smile at someone who spoke or smiled to me. I don’t get that.
Kym
August 11th, 2009
11:01 am
@For Real yeah that was truly selfish of her. Her anger was with the dad not the son. Horrible..I can understand her families pain and the boy’s father.
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:11 am
i like to see a man smile, but not too much. its not natural. i work with a lot of gay men and they smile all day long.
now what i like to see is a man laugh. it lets me know he can open up a lil and relax. not be so serious all the time.
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
11:12 am
Two cannibals were eating a clown. One says to the other, “this taste funny to you?”
For Real
August 11th, 2009
11:13 am
You’re just determined to make this happy topic a depressing, woman-bashing one, aren’t you?LOL!!!
Lighten up, man!!! SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay this one is for you:
A chick that had grown tired of the dating scene decided to place a personal ad on craiglist. In her ad she wrote, 1. I want a man that would not beat on me, 2. I want a man that would not run out on me, and 3. I want a man that’s an exceptional lover.
Satified with the ad she submitted and 1 wk later received a call from a dude. The chick and dude spoke over the phone for two wk and decided to go out on first date. The arrived for their first date. The chick was very excited and nervous. Then the doorbell rung. The chick runs to the door opens it and to her surprise no one was there. She closes the door. 2 seconds later the doorbells rings again. She opens the door and doesn’t see anyone again. The chicks thinks it must me the neighborhood kids playing and closes the door. 1 second later the doorbell ring again. Angry the chick opens the door looks around and then down. There she sees a man with no arms and no legs laying on her doorstep.
Chick: Ummm, can I help you?
Dude: Yeah It’s me I’m here for our date!
Chick: Ummmm, I don’t mean to be rude but you are nothing like the man my ad requested.
Dude: Really? Well first you said you did not want a man to beat you. No arms! (check) Second you said you did not want a man to run out on you. No legs! (check)
Chick: YEAH BUT WHAT ABOUT THE THIRD REQUEST!!
Dude: DAYUM I RUNG THE DOORBELL THREE TIME DIDN’T I!!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 11th, 2009
11:14 am
Morning All
I am co-signing Page1908 on this one, I am generally a happy person so smiling is easy for me. However I have been known to mean mug when Im in deep thought about something or like if Im doing stuff alone like when im grocery shopping, working out, cruising the mall…stuff like that.
Things that make me smile: when Lil Mo says “Morning Mommy!”, hearing the right person say “I miss you”, forehead kisses (or any other unsolicited affection), a you-were-just-on-my-mind phone call/email and of course compliments
Page1908 -chica that was a helluva career change!! LOL!
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:16 am
what makes me smile from ear to ear are happy thoughts. have you ever caught yourself sitting at a red light and all of a sudden your cheeks hurt? lol. memories . . .
also, when i’m told what i want to hear. i’m a sucka when it comes to compliments. i love ‘em. won’t get the panties off, but please keep ‘em comin’. lol.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
11:16 am
abc = The Joker
“I am co-signing Page1908 on this one, I am generally a happy person so smiling is easy for me.” – No fair Penny, God made shawt people to be happy.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
11:18 am
Kym: That’s some serious azz anger. I just don’t believe there anything a person can do to me to make want to kill my child. Kill you yes but my child nawwww!
For Real
August 11th, 2009
11:19 am
Update on the Super Glue Woman. Guess what she is married too!
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
11:20 am
@Page1908… I cannot explain why certain women act as they do, that is why I put the question out there to the ladies on the blog! Many men will tell you that they often speak to women and they don’t reciprocate, nor are the appreciative of his efforts! Some women have the attitude “He is supposed to do this or that”
I am naturally a very upbeat, social kid of person and many of my close friends are women. I have never had issues in meeting and dating women either, so I think I am delivering on my end!
It’s a weird situation when women don’t speak or don’t thank me for holding the door or elevator for them, but I will continue to do these things, because that is how I was raised!
So putting it back out there to the women on the blog, what is going on with some of your counterparts? Why do many women avoid greeting men in a professional manner and most of all, why do they not take initiative to speak first or perform some kind gesture for more men, even when they don’t know that man?
Why do most women feel that they are being “aggressive” if they take the first step in getting to know a man or taking initiative to put a smile on his face first? Why is it that more women are not doing more to make themselves stand out from the crowd vs. doing with every other woman is doing ( i.e. wanting for a man to approach them? ) This is so tired and played out to me! I will admit that there are times and places where a man needs to be a man, but there is also times where a woman needs to take some initiative on her own and show a man that she is confident, strong and will go after what she wants in life, including meeting men!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
11:22 am
For Real – Okay, that was funny! I love it!!LOL!!! You are so bad!!
Another thing:
I often wonder do women have any idea that their success in dating or meeting and attracting a potential is solely based on their body language! From what I see on the daily, many will continue to find themselves alone and wonder why?
Guess what? Every woman (and every man too) is not out on the make all the time! We’re all not out on the hunt 24/7, okay?
Compelling
August 11th, 2009
11:23 am
Good Morning! I figured I’ve lingered long enough so I’ll post a comment today.
I agree with what a lot of you have said already, a smile can really turn a whole day around. I used to frown all the time and my mother would tell me that my face would get stuck that way, lol.
I started to smile more when strangers on the street would say things like, “smile it can’t be that bad.”
So now it’s really the little things that make me smile. Hearing my guy laugh makes me smile. Getting an unsolicited back rub or foot massage. Watching children play makes me smile. Listening to oldies on my ipod.God’s grace. All it really takes is a feel good moment, and it’ll elicit a smile every time.
I make him smile by telling jokes, surprising him with gifts, giving him compliments, and planning tailgate parties during football season(That’s for him as much as it is for me hahaha).
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:24 am
i went to a small club saturday night with some co-workers and found myself NOT smiling. i had to fix my face a couple of times so i wouldn’t seem so blah. there wasn’t any good lookin’ men in the house. none. i left an hour and a half later.
i did get a smile and a laugh in before i left. a friend from high school recognized me and we chatted it up a bit. it was good to see him and talk about old times. i was a freshmen and he was a senior when we first met. he saved the night from being a total waste.
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
11:24 am
Sorry for the typo’s in my 11:20, I am multi-taskin again!
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:25 am
LOL Mo- Girl, you know it. BTW, you also smile when I say “huh, huh, huh” or “jammm on it”, or “latino persuasion”. LOL. You know I *heart* that pic of you and Rell!
LL- Ok, I can’t answer on behalf of other women, so I don’t know. I can only speak for myself. I guess, don’t worry about why the women you encounter don’t smile or whatever. Just take it as a sign that either they don’t want to be bothered or just don’t appreciate a good dude such as yourself. Just keep it movin.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 11th, 2009
11:26 am
For Real – LOL! And like I said, generally I am happy but you know there are times when I have to be out of character. The people at my job (the women) say Im “private, dont talk a lot, very to herself”…..translation if you are a nosey ole biddy she is not the person you want to talk to.
Shawt people get upset too, we are more sensitive than people think! LMAO!
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
11:28 am
I am co-signing Page1908 on this one, I am generally a happy person so smiling is easy for me. However I have been known to mean mug when Im in deep thought about something or like if Im doing stuff alone like when im grocery shopping, working out, cruising the mall…stuff like that.
Mo – Agreed. Even if I’m not smiling like a Cheshire cat from ear to ear, doesn’t mean I’m not happy. Happiness is a choice. But even still, life has been good to me. The Lord continues to bless me.
I can not complain!
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:28 am
Beautiful is that you? Angie? Girl, why did u even bother to go out if you were gonna have a funky face at the club? My happiness or attitude doesn’t depend on others, it just enhances it. If I feel like I am in a “blah” kinda mood, then I won’t go. I hate being with Debbie Downers, so I definitely do not want to be one myself. I also don’t like going out with women who have attitudes cuz dudes are not talking to them or approaching them. C’mon girl!
Dan
August 11th, 2009
11:29 am
I think Kimmie touched on something in that 11:22….
Sometimes a man gives you a compliment – because you look/smell nice.
Sometimes a woman gives you compliment – because your outfit is cut right.
And then sometimes people give you compliments – because it makes them feel better to put that energy into the world (or a specific person).
“Not everyone is on the make..” <— Kimmie. That comment is applicable to both the giver and receiver of compliments, smiles, “good mornings”, etc.
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:32 am
i remember a couple of months back having my head down at work and concentrating on getting some paperwork done. i received a text from across the office *you need to smile more*. wth. i’m working you azz! lol. men!
Leggs
August 11th, 2009
11:32 am
@Beautiful, good you saw an old friend from h.s., but you said “there wasn’t any good lookin’ men in the house. none” Guess that goes for your friend too (LOL). Sorry!
Coming back from the breakroom, a coworker just said…”you’re always smiling, why? I told her that I love life, love myself and have so many things to be thankful…what about YOU! WTHell is wrong w/ppl?
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:36 am
@Page
sorry you took my post the wrong way. i was good.
@Leggs
yea, he’s not a cute guy, but i enjoyed seeing him.
For Real
August 11th, 2009
11:36 am
We’re all not out on the hunt 24/7, okay? – True dat cause sometime I feel like a dude can’t give a chick a compliment no mo. I mean what’s wrong with “you look very nice today zippppppp”?
Shawt people get upset too, we are more sensitive than people think! – True but even when shawt people are upset or climbing on a tool I tend to smile.
I can not complain! – Who would listen away right? Good attitude!
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:37 am
True, Dan. Well, I always say good morning, even on Mondays lol. Sometimes when I do, people are like “ok, I want whatever she took this morning”! LOL. I mean, if I am coming to work, why not say good morning. There have been sooo many time, especially in the last few months where I have been SO tired in the mornings because the crew have been going out and doing stuff even during the week. Yet, when I go work in the morning, I am still bubbly.
Sexy@Cool.com
August 11th, 2009
11:37 am
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Kym
August 11th, 2009
11:38 am
@For Real maybe her hubby was messing around on her so she figured she would mess around on him and then when she discover the dude she was dipping with was dipping on her it all became too much. Either way that is some hot mess right there.
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:39 am
Well, Angie, ok if the room was filled with mud ducks, then what does that have to do with YOU smiling and having a good time? I’m wondering if the dudes in the club saw you and thought “man i would approach her, but she is mean muggin” or whatever. I mean, the same thing you thought about them, they could have thought about you?
Magnolia Peach
August 11th, 2009
11:40 am
Good mid-morning to you all. I’m a newbie to the WD blog, and this post really got me thinking…so much so that I just had to comment. Fortunately, I’ve never been on a date with a guy with an aversion to smiling. I love to laugh, and that’s the key to keeping me interested. I’ve been told I have a great smile and that it’s one of my best features. So of course, I keep the smiles coming whenever I’m in social settings or on a date. Compliments are great…but they don’t always do the trick. Kindness makes me smile; seeing someone do something nice for others. If you’re a brother with a good heart, then you’re almost guaranteed to get a smile out of me anytime.
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:43 am
@Page
i was cool wit that. lol. i know i’m not attractive to every man.
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
11:44 am
Well, Angie, ok if the room was filled with mud ducks, then what does that have to do with YOU smiling and having a good time?
Page – Good question. One of my girls is nice to everyone, even the mud ducks because “he may know my future husband.”
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
11:45 am
**I’m a newbie to the WD blog** y’all kill me with dis! lol.
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
11:47 am
LOL ARed- That could very well be true.
Angie- Ok, but I am just saying that YOUR body language and attitude play a key role in whether or not people (even men) approach you, especially in a club of all places. Just remember that.
Tazzee - back to reality
August 11th, 2009
11:52 am
Morning Folks!
Catching up at work – vacation was GREAT. I didn’t want to come back.
On Topic – I usually make others smile by smiling at them. My guy says he doesn’t like to smile, but he’s always smiling. I’m silly at times so he can’t help it. It doesn’t take much to make me smile either. I can be pretty intense when something is on my mind, but the little things make me smile.
Raqi we watched The Heartbreak Kid. I asked my guy a few times if he felt like Ben Stiller when we go on road trips. The first two times he didn’t answer me, then on the third time he burst out laughing and told me no. Good thing because I sang 5 straight hours to the beach but only 3 on the way back
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
11:53 am
Why do many women avoid greeting men in a professional manner and most of all, why do they not take initiative to speak first or perform some kind gesture for more men, even when they don’t know that man?
Longtime Lurker – To be honest, why should we? I grew up in L.A. it’s not natural for me to speak to someone just because they are there. It’s not natural for me to speak first or perform random gestures. Not to say I never have, but I’m not in the practice of doing so.
And it doesn’t speak to my level of happiness just because I don’t. It’s all about comfort level.
Leggs
August 11th, 2009
11:59 am
I’m just the opposite ARed. I speak to everyone, from the janitor to the President of the company. I say hello to all I pass for the first time that day. I’m amazed at how so many people don’t speak back, especially “puuds (those of a fairer complexion).” Being rasied in NY we don’t readily acknowledge people. However, I’ve been here for quite a while now, and the atmoshpere here is more conducive to offering a warm hello and a smile to all people!
Wise Diva
August 11th, 2009
12:00 pm
Good to see LL drop in, oh and warm welcome to Compelling, Craig, Magnolia Peach!
I’m not feeling that great today, *blech*
Page1908
August 11th, 2009
12:01 pm
ARed- It’s natural for me to speak or even smile at someone.
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
12:04 pm
@Page
gurl, my goal wasn’t to get approached, but to meet up with rudy poot and big head. lol. those my gurls though. i was lookin’ for some eye candy. something, dang! the two that were cute . . . not avail.
it really wasn’t that serious. i think i was a debbie downer for leaving so early though.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 11th, 2009
12:05 pm
“Not everyone is on the make..” <— Kimmie. That comment is applicable to both the giver and receiver of compliments, smiles, “good mornings”, etc.
Dan – I agree. Actually, I said earlier, those are my favorite kinds of compliments, just nice, sincere, not out to get anything. They can come from anyone. I’m also not so arrogant or full of myself to think that every man that says something nice to me wants to get with me! And I don’t want every man thinking that when I greet or compliment them!
Beautiful
August 11th, 2009
12:15 pm
i miss the old format.
Kym
August 11th, 2009
12:17 pm
@ARed I get what you are saying..not everyone is comfortable speaking to every soul they meet. I am extroverted too but I have to get to know people before I open up. Once I feel comfortable then the possiblities are endless. <<this is my third attempt at typing something along these lines the blog is funky today.
"Longtime Lurker"
August 11th, 2009
12:20 pm
@Amazon, where you grew up has nothing to do with taking initiative!
There is an old saying that “the early bird catches the worm” and also “those who take initiative often end up ahead of the game!”
If you sit back and wait for others (namely men) to always approach you, then you are only going to meet a small percentage of the men that you are capable of meeting and the “quality” factor may not always be what it should! Just because you get approached by men often does not mean that you are attracting the “right” man! You have to take some initiative on your own to balance the tables of attracting that “right” man!
The same would go for a job, if you only wait for employers to contact you, without taking some initiative on your own, then you will in most cases not get the “right” job you truly want! The leftovers will call, but is that the job your truly want? We all know that the only person who wants a leftover is a dog!
I firmly believe that more women need to take initiative and make them stand out! The same goes for men! We live in a very competitive society, where you’re looks and your resume is not always good enough to make you stand out in a crowd. It takes “initiative” on your part, to make yourself stand out and win the prize! Sometimes you have to let go of the ego, rejection concerns, and self pride and humble yourself to do things that you are not used to doing to produce a different results! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result! 90 percent of the women in America in my opinion are waiting for that man to initiate, greet and approach them, but the reality is that everyone won’t get approached and everyone won’t get married or have someone to date!
With that said, life is short and opportunities only exist to those who take initiative to seize the opportunity when it presents itself!
AmazonRed™
August 11th, 2009
12:20 pm
I’m just the opposite ARed. I speak to everyone,
Leggs – And there is certainly nothing wrong with that! I’m just telling LL that it’s not normal for everyone. Doesn’t mean there is anything “wrong” with that person.