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Real Men Smile

It’s never fun to date the serious, uptight, completely devoid of a sense of humor type person. Sure, they have their great qualities: reliable and dependable, practical and logical, blah blah. Whatever, I don’t trust people that don’t ever smile. Why so serious!?

I know that so many of us cope with day to day stress, some more than others. We all have things we are struggling with or trying to figure out, it’s called adulthood. However, when you lose your smile and can’t find laughter in your life, you become a lot less appealing to people you may want to attract.

The last time you were asked out on a date, were you smiling and having a good time? Yeah, there is reason for that! Who is going to approach the ice queen or the mean mugging man? I don’t care how hot you are, if you are walking around looking unhappy and uptight, you are turning folks off!

If you are in a social setting, make sure you are up to mingling and engaging with people…with a smile. I never understand why people go to parties or mixers and don’t bother to speak to anyone other then their own friends.

So what does it take to make you smile?

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?

Men, why do you insist on walking around like Mr. Tough Guy all the time? Is it lame for you to smile or something?

What has a woman done for you or to you that made you smile? insert your own naughty joke here

How can women bring a smile to your face if she is on a date with you?  What about when you are in a relationship or married? It’s the little things, right? DVR’ing your favorite shows, wearing nothing but your dress shirt when you get home, let us know how we can lift your mood and get a smile out of you!

Have you ever been on a date with someone and they just would not smile?

442 comments Add your comment

Beautiful♥

August 11th, 2009
1:22 pm

@Dan
should a woman fight for someone that is not hers yet? or just fight for someone that is rightfully hers?

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
1:24 pm

@Beautiful, I wish you mad luck! Seems like at least you have a good starting point!

Just always remember what’s most important is what’s on the inside! Sometimes big things come in packages that may not be the most attractive package!

I once received $200 as a kid in a very small unattractive unwrapped box! I could have went for the large boxes under the tree as most kids do, but for some reason this particular Christmas morning, I chose to grab this box first!

My dad later explain to me that it was a test to get me ready for life! Every since that day, I have learned to not chase the attractive package and explore the small detail!

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:25 pm

Dan – Please believe that should a situation arise where I must engage, I will not back down.

However, fighting typically means that there is an opponent, competitor if you will. When in truth, there is no competition. What’s mine is mine and no one can take it from me. So, really, the only struggle would be from within.

Why would I fight against myself?

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:25 pm

Getting rejected by a woman is akin to:

- someone not letting you into the next lane while driving;

- having to stand in line during “peak” lunch time;

- stubbing your toe on the coner of the bed;

it’s a everyday occurrence, only the truly weak/disturbed let it affect anything beyond that moment.

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

@Magnum- I was making a scene this morning…day 2 and I am still pumped

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

Why would I fight against myself?

Great post.

I often think folks make life more difficult for themselves when it doesn’t have to be that way.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Amred – Thanks sister!

Chink

August 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Nothing worth having comes easily.

When you know their worth not when you just met them! By the way I can’t stand when a man starts acting all womanly. There can only be one female and its me! We are the ones that need protecting not you.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:29 pm

@Angie/SC

It’s not about the “who”, it’s about aggressive pursuit of a goal.

As a type “A” dude, even I’ve amended the whole ‘let her come over’ mentality. If it’s something that I want in this life, I git it. I’m at it.

My interpretation of faith (as opposed to “what’s for me”) leads be to believe that my pursuit will be successful. If not for the specific, then the general.

Chink

August 11th, 2009
1:29 pm

There is no Competition!! ^5

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:32 pm

“We are the ones that need protecting not you.” – Zippppppppp! Quick hide in here for your own safety!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:32 pm

Forgot to tell you all, we got our green belt in Choi Kwang Do last night. We are halfway to black belt now! I feel so accomplished and SO & the kids are doing great with it too! 2 classmates got their brown belt senior, so they’ll test for black belt in early December!

See, that’s how I deal with my frustrations and anger – I take it out on the sheilds & heavy bag! And I’m accomplishing something at the same time!

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:32 pm

I need to pay better attention because I did not know that some of these mindsets exist…or maybe I don’t….

Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

@SexyCool…Excellent Post @ 1:25

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:34 pm

Kimmie, SO, & SO Kid = DBL

Leggs

August 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

@Raqi re: Dating in the Dark. That was the first they let someone looking at another’s living space. They usually just let the men go through the women’s purse and the women through the men’s wallets. I like the show. The best part is when they’revealed for the first time. You are absolutely right, the expressions can be priceless. Last week’s episode all 3 women picked the same man and all 3 walked away. It’s such a downer to actually see them walk out the front door and down that hill. But, I have laughed at that more than once!

@Beautiful, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You might be the most sensitive blogette to date, buy you by far have the most heart. You steamroll w/the best of them! Keep on keeping on!

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

If you want it go get it….do what it takes…if whose it is can’t keep it or maintain it they should have done better to keep it home….if you aint married it’s all “Much Right” every person has as “much right” as the next

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Pursuit of goals should not automatically be defined as combative. If everything worth having has to be struggled for, then there is imbalance in the universe.

The thing most worth pursuing is happiness. I do not have to fight to be happy. I just am.

Kym

August 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Okay this day is dragging on…

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Kym- did you make a decision yesterday? lol

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:38 pm

“The thing most worth pursuing is happiness. I do not have to fight to be happy.” – Yeah I am feeling that it’s like the old saying “Life is like unzipped zipper. Zipppppppp and see what you get”

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
1:38 pm

To add to what I said earlier, often the most inconspicuous guy in the room is the man that offers the most value!

He is often overlooked by many women all chasing the same “5 dudes” He knows what he has to offer, but many times women don’t see him, because flash is not his character!

He is not the one to be forward often, nor does he approach often, but he knows deep down inside that he is a diamond in the rough!

A smart woman knows the little things a quality man possesses at a glance, without ever meeting him! It’s not his car, clothes, shoes or how big or small he is, it’s his conversation and demeanor, it’s his ideals and values. It’s his long-term game plan!

Smart men know when to approach and when not to! Smart men know when to engage and when not to! A smart woman should know when to approach and when not to and most of all, a smart woman should know when to take initiative and when to let a man take initiative!

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:39 pm

@SC

Do you believe that there are people that will deliberately try and ruin your happy mood, if for no other reason than their own pleasure (even accidentally)?

If so, how do you handle that?

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:40 pm

The thing most worth pursuing is happiness. I do not have to fight to be happy. I just am.

SC – Amen!

You can certainly control your own happiness, unless you’ve got some mental thang going on. :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:41 pm

SCool – How did you become so wise? Seriously, you could wright a book like Vanzant, with quotes and essays.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:42 pm

Do you believe that there are people that will deliberately try and ruin your happy mood, if for no other reason than their own pleasure (even accidentally)?

Wow…that certainly gives a lot of power to another person.

No one can ruin your happy mood unless you allow them to.

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
1:43 pm

Leggs I just happened to stumble upon it last night but it was pretty interesting.

Leggs

August 11th, 2009
1:43 pm

@Beautiful ~ “or just fight for someone that is rightfully hers?” What do you mean? The only thing that is rightfully yours is YOU, and even you don’t belong to YOU. You too are here on a loan (so to speak)!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:43 pm

For Real – Hate to be dense, but what does DBL mean?

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
1:44 pm

Do you believe that there are people that will deliberately try and ruin your happy mood, if for no other reason than their own pleasure (even accidentally)?

Dan there is a true saying, “Misery loves company”.

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:44 pm

Anyone or thing that causes you to act out..has more control over you than you do yourself

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:44 pm

Quote I love: “No one can drive you crazy unless you give em the keys.”

:lol: Helps on this blog too.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 11th, 2009
1:46 pm

“Do you believe that there are people that will deliberately try and ruin your happy mood, if for no other reason than their own pleasure (even accidentally)?”

I think so, hell misery loves company. They may not be successful but there are plenty of people that arent happy with you or for you.

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:47 pm

Okay this day is dragging on – Okay this one is for you

A dog, a cat, and a penis are sitting around a camp fire one night. The dog says, “My life sucks, my master makes me do my business on a fire hydrent!”. The cat says, “I don’t think so, my master makes me do my business in a box of cat litter.” The penis outraged, says “At least your master doesn’t put a bag over your head and make you do push ups until you throw up!”

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:48 pm

In the interim until my requested response…

I included try in the question deliberately to make a point. No one can affect your mood unless you allow them to, but that doesn’t prevent people from trying.

The point that I was getting to is that even the attempt is made you sometimes have to combat (fight) that energy with your own – even if does eminate from within.

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:49 pm

Down By Law

No one can ruin your happy mood unless you allow them to. – Really????

For Real now removing all the heals on Ared’s shoes.

For Real

August 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

A man and a woman started to have sex in the middle of a dark forest. After about 15 minutes of it, the man finally gets up and says, “Damn, I wish I had a flashlight!”. The woman says, “Me too, you’ve been eating grass for the past ten minutes!”

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

@For Ral- wakka wakka wakka

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

There are people out there that want you to stop being we you are, not have what you have and not do what you do just to make them feel better about their life.

I try not to deal with people who never have anything positive to say. It’s like they complain on the day that it’s raining, but yet proceed to complain just as much because the sun is shining to bright the next day.

Never happy and don’t want you to be happy either.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:54 pm

No one can ruin your happy mood unless you allow them to. – Really????

For Real – Really. ;)

“I once cried because I had shoes that had no heels til I met a man who had no feet.” :lol:

It can always be worse. :D

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:55 pm

Down By Law

Okay, that’s cool, in a BAD/COOL kinda way!LOL!!

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
1:56 pm

LOL W8- You know my taco makes you smile. LOL

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
1:56 pm

And why can’t some people be happy for other people?

I used to work with a lady that would always find fault and put down everybody’s elses happy moments. You know how something good happens and you share it with those that you deal with on a daily? Well this lady was just horrible of throwing cold water.

Everyone was glad to see her leave.

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

@Kimmie- you are in rare form today…lmao

Kym

August 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

@W8 I decided to steer clear of this particular trouble..it always winds up bitting me in the tushy.

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

Dan Yes. I handle it best as I can. I would always choose to respond rather than react. However, I am at times unsuccessful in allowing the actions of other to ‘take me there’ – as has been witness in this forum. Do I beat myself up over it? Of course, I accept my imperfections and faults and continually seek to improve upon them with the certain knowledge that I will never be perfect.

Kimmie – Wisdom. Maybe. Peace. For sure. Relationship with my Creator. Without it, I would not exist.

I have a work in progress…a couple actually. And coincidentally, I am carrying around with me a year of Daily Meditations from Vanzant right now. And while I don’t believe exactly as she does, I appreciate a lot of what she has to say and admire the success she has achieved.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

Never happy and don’t want you to be happy either.

Raqi – Don’t we all know folk like that, smh?!! I can’t deal with those either.

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:58 pm

CORRECTION – Do I beat myself up over it? Of courseNOT, I accept my imperfections and faults and continually seek to improve upon them with the certain knowledge that I will never be perfect.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:58 pm

And why can’t some people be happy for other people?

Raqi – I think I’m too happy for other people at time. I’m like everyone’s cheerleader.

Which is why I’m spending so much dang money on bridesmaid dresses this year. Next time I’ll give em a simple congrats then lay low. :lol: