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Real Men Smile

It’s never fun to date the serious, uptight, completely devoid of a sense of humor type person. Sure, they have their great qualities: reliable and dependable, practical and logical, blah blah. Whatever, I don’t trust people that don’t ever smile. Why so serious!?

I know that so many of us cope with day to day stress, some more than others. We all have things we are struggling with or trying to figure out, it’s called adulthood. However, when you lose your smile and can’t find laughter in your life, you become a lot less appealing to people you may want to attract.

The last time you were asked out on a date, were you smiling and having a good time? Yeah, there is reason for that! Who is going to approach the ice queen or the mean mugging man? I don’t care how hot you are, if you are walking around looking unhappy and uptight, you are turning folks off!

If you are in a social setting, make sure you are up to mingling and engaging with people…with a smile. I never understand why people go to parties or mixers and don’t bother to speak to anyone other then their own friends.

So what does it take to make you smile?

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?

Men, why do you insist on walking around like Mr. Tough Guy all the time? Is it lame for you to smile or something?

What has a woman done for you or to you that made you smile? insert your own naughty joke here

How can women bring a smile to your face if she is on a date with you?  What about when you are in a relationship or married? It’s the little things, right? DVR’ing your favorite shows, wearing nothing but your dress shirt when you get home, let us know how we can lift your mood and get a smile out of you!

Have you ever been on a date with someone and they just would not smile?

442 comments Add your comment

Honey

August 11th, 2009
12:29 pm

Hey FOR REAL :)

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:30 pm

@Amazon, where you grew up has nothing to do with taking initiative!

LL – Sure it is. Certain areas breed a certain type of culture. Not to say everyone adapts to it. But folks who walk down the streets in L.A. and speak to everyone get looked at crazy for the most part. The opposite is true here. It’s embraced.

As for f you sit back and wait for others (namely men) to always approach you, then you are only going to meet a small percentage of the men that you are capable of meeting

That’s probably for the women who complain about not meeting men. I would never complain about such a thing. I speak to who I want to speak to period. I’ll strike up a conversation with folks, no problem. But I do not speak just for the sake of speaking. It’s not me nor does it has to be.

Beautiful

August 11th, 2009
12:31 pm

i’m off for the rest of the week. too bad my boo has to work. *shucks!*

Dan

August 11th, 2009
12:32 pm

@”LL”

I agree 100% with your 12:20.

To add: The marketplace is packed with consumers. Competitive advantages and disadvantages are inherent. Proactivity is the key to success in life and business.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:32 pm

the blog is funky today.

Kym – Glad it wasn’t just me. I thought the job finally caught on and blocked the site for a minute! :lol:

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
12:35 pm

OMG LL- What’s with all the tension?! Why not just worry about yourself and not what other need to do or should do. Every person (men and women) is different, so judge people as individuals. If you come across women like that, then keep it moving. Consdier it their loss.

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
12:38 pm

Tazzee I’m glad to see you enjoyed the movie. And your mini vacay. LOL

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
12:39 pm

LL – Maybe you are posting for the crowd that reads this blog and does not comment. Taking initiative and approaching men first have been topics on the blog before. Most of the women on here seem pretty outgoing. Those that want husbands or significant others have them, those that don’t & want to chill are & those that want to meet people seem to get out & do just that. We’re doing just fine. I think most of us know in 2009 nobody is going to ride up on a white horse.

And those that are job-hunting are certainly not sitting back waiting on a job to just fall in their lap, in this bad economy!

You come on here complaining about what women DON’T do right in your little world, yet when someone calls you on it you claim it’s not personal and you don’t have any problems. You give off negetive energy and it radiates on this blog, look in the mirror! If you perfer women that are not American or you don’t like the way American women do things, that is your right. Go whereever it works for you. We’re doing just fine over here, thank you!

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:39 pm

Why not just worry about yourself and not what other need to do or should do.

Page – Agreed.

Which brings me to another key of happiness: Worrying about stuff you can actually control. I’d get upset if I worried about everything I don’t like about other people. Not worth the trouble.

W8©

August 11th, 2009
12:42 pm

I am usually not a just a guy who walks around smiling all of the time..it’s not that i make an effort not to smile I just don’t… people mess with me about it all of the time..but then again like I give a rat’s tail what people think of me. My childhood, things in life, military experiences and job…just cause me to be sort of emotionless..but on the other hand when I am comfortable I smile..or if I am in a comfortable environment I smile. When life gets hectic I look at my phone..on that screen saver is a picture of my kids..I can never look at them without smiling…lol…I’m smiling now. Alot of times when I take pictures i dont smile because I just cant turn a smile on and off…no need to fake. If you ever spent anytime around Page or For Real..those two will make you smile all day..lmao…My baby momma just sent me a text saying “Tell me something dirty”(wth, that made me frown) I responded with “A white horse fell into a mud hole”(that made me smile)….Why they heck did she send me that text…has me emotionless but wondering…i am not feeding into it though

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:43 pm

And those that are job-hunting are certainly not sitting back waiting on a job to just fall in their lap, in this bad economy!

kimmie – I’ve had my job for a while, but it did come to me. They made me an offer and I left my last job for this one!

But if I was on the hunt, I’d certainly get off my azz and go get em. Folks seem to post in an all or nothing manner. Like if you say you aren’t an initiator, that means you never initiate anything, which is just silly. :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
12:45 pm

W8 – I thought you didn’t smile on pictures cause you want to be cool or prepare for your next career as a model.

I tryed to type this with a straight face, but now I’m cracking up!LOL!!

Beautiful

August 11th, 2009
12:47 pm

@LL
taking the initiative in person is tough for me. i’m scared of rejection. it’s embarrassing and how do you play a turn down off?

i meet a lot of folks online. i find myself approaching men online the way i should in person. it’s just easier. plain and simple.

the last man i approached in person was the married guy at work (didn’t know he was married). after his good morning short conversation with me, i felt the need to let him know that i was interested also.

giving him my number on a scratch piece of paper and waiting for his acceptance was not fun. lol. it felt good to get a text two mins later *what took you so long?* lol.

a man has to be really special for me to approach.

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
12:48 pm

I watched Dating In The Dark last night and I must say I like that show.

I liked the part where they allowed the potentials to get a view of where each of the opposite lives. I am a firm believer that everything about a person tells a story. Our houses and cars, the items in them and the how they are kept say a lot about who we are. As well as how we dress.

I also liked the way they had the pictures sketched how each thought the other looked based on their personality. The only downfall there was the drawings we only as good as the third party artist sketching them.

And speaking of smiling, the expressions that two of them made when they were given a chance to see how the other looked were priceless. I just knew they were not going to be a match based on their expressions although they were the two that seemed to get along the best in the dark.

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
12:52 pm

@Kimmie, I was one of the first persons to ever post on this blog several years, so I know the climate very well! I work and travel often, so I don’t post often, thus my moniker “LL”

To give you a little education, I was a part of the original crew of posters when this blog was created and Wise and I have gone back and forth for years! Anyone who has been a part of this forum for any period of time knows that I am controversial and my comments are not always received well by some, but the one thing you will always get from me is the truth and most of all, I am always going to keep it very real! Some folks appreciate it, some don’t and I am ok with that!

This is a “general” forum for dialogue, ideas, concerns, questions, etc. so I post to the masses, not specifically one person! I may direct a portion of what I am saying to an individual, but generally, the post is for the masses! I hope this clears things up with everybody involved!

W8©

August 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

@Kimmie- lmao that made me smile..lmao

On another note the audacity of folks on this blog and their “omniscient” mind makes me smile often. This place is pure comedy also when I just mess with folks…. get them riled up and step back and watch the carnage…thats funny to me also…laughter is great medicine…lmao

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

And speaking even further on smiling and Dating in the Dark, there is such thing as a happy smiling personality. Some people are just people persons without being silly and over-the-top. You could see it on the face of one of the couples while they were interacting. They had happy personalities when they were together.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:54 pm

W8 – Very true. The antics on this blog make me laugh all day.

mytw♥cents dba d♥s centav♥s

August 11th, 2009
12:56 pm

Most things make me smile. The antics of children an men, especially…both are usually equally serious with their own kind of foolishness and that just tickles me.

And when I’m already smiling and get a compliment on it, I may start laughing cuz I flashback to my crazy friend. We were chillin one day with our other girl-I dubbed her Negative Nelly- and outta the blue, she tells me I have a winning smile. I’m like aww, thanks! She looks at Nelly and in her best Costanza voice, says But you….have a Loooooooosing smile! Still cracks us up. I luvs me some tom foolery!

anonymousella

August 11th, 2009
12:56 pm

a or my man? my man makes me smile every day just by being who he is. but the rest of dem fools? pssssht …

+10 to amazonred. i grew up in NY where people don’t speak to strangers unless a transaction of some kind — a purchase, directions, getting a phone number — is involved. i am okay with that.

that said, i am an avowed non-smiler. i do it to keep men (all people, really) at bay. i hate small talk. if someone speaks, i will say enough to meet the Minimum Manners Requirement while discouraging further conversation. plus i have pretty good spidey senses about when “good morning,” really means “good morning. can i call you sometime?” that’s when i grunt and mean mug as appropriate.

Beautiful

August 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

@LL
i think i’ll play it ‘ol skool for now and let the man do the approaching. unless . . . lol.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

i hate small talk.

ella – I’m not a fan of it either. :lol:

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
12:58 pm

I can’t remember if someone I know said it over the weekend or if I saw it on television, but the statement was made that people expect a pass on obnoxiously being a bitter betty or jaded joe all in the name of “keeping it real”.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
12:58 pm

So Longtime Lurker, since you’ve been around so long, you know you have several blog citations written for those long azz posts! :lol:

Beautiful

August 11th, 2009
12:59 pm

i luv the ♥s. so cute.

Raqi

August 11th, 2009
1:00 pm

“good morning,” really means “good morning. can i call you sometime?”

LOL

Kym

August 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

Why are these folks on Real Housewives in foreclosure..maybe they should be looking for smaller places to live..you can be ghetto fab in a smaller house or condo.

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

Big talk is where it’s at?

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

LL – I agree with that 12:20 post.. Thats 100..

Ladies I know ya’ll probably dont think it happens but some of ya’ll are rude borderline disrespectful.

Beautiful♥

August 11th, 2009
1:03 pm

i like the new dating show MORE TO LOVE. i might stop watchin’ though, cause they cry too much. depressing.

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
1:04 pm

@Beautiful, sometimes you have to take a few on the chin that is why it is called “the game” Don’t get in the game if you cannot take a few blows! Blows are not designed to hurt ya, but to make you stronger and better!

Men have been dealing with rejection since playing in the sandbox! We learn to deal with it and keep it moving! For some reason, women want equal opportunities as men and compete with men, but can’t handle rejection like men! Seem to be a double standard there somewhere!

You cannot seek to reap the full benefits of meeting a good man if you only want to put 30 percent into finding him! That’s like me letting one of my co-workers do all the work on a project, then me taking credit for it and getting the promotion! It takes effort on “both” parts to pass the interview and get the job!

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:04 pm

Ladies I know ya’ll probably dont think it happens but some of ya’ll are rude borderline disrespectful.

DK – Some probably are, some probably aren’t.

If someone hold open the door for me or some other random act. I say thank you and keep it moving. You really shouldn’t expect more than that.

If someone speaks to me, I might give them a brief answer and keep it moving. Nothing wrong with that either.

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

Taking a few on the chin is not a game. It’s a fight.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

LL – I’ve been around awhile too, lurked for awhile before I started posting regularly, so I’m familiar with you. So yeah, me & most of the other bloggettes don’t need your teachings, which can be rather insulting to other intelligent American women as well. But maybe there is a need out there, so teach on brother!LOL!!!

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

@AmazonRed There is a message in my words, sometimes it takes a paragraph or two to decode it! If you don’t want to read it all read some now, read some later!

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

Mo (aka Moeisha)

August 11th, 2009
1:09 pm

LOL @ your last post SCool! :smile:

Magnum

August 11th, 2009
1:10 pm

*POOF*

What’s crackin in this piece?????

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:10 pm

There is a message in my words, sometimes it takes a paragraph or two to decode it!

LL – Seriously, who cares to decode it? Make it plain.

For instance: You asked a question, I answered and at the end of the day I’m gonna do me whether you get with it or not. And if it comes to a point and time where I was unhappy with any aspect of my life, I’ll take the necessary steps to change it.

I know your words were general, but really, you brought the issue up and no one else seems to be concerned with it. That’s okay too!

W8©

August 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

@Magnum- “WHAT’S THE DEAL????”

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

Poor things, somebody got rejected and got their wittle feelings hurt!LOL!!

Let me sit down in my corner & shut up & stop starting mess! And let other folks worry about worrying about other folks! Laughing & smiling to myself!!LOL!!

W8 – get them riled up and step back and watch the carnage – I love it too!!LOL!!!

Beautiful♥

August 11th, 2009
1:14 pm

@LL
i’m the sensitive blogger on here. i take mostly everything to the extreme. if i’m rejected, i’m done. no lie. it will bother me for a minute. i’ll get over it, but not as fast as the others will.

like i said, if i approach a man he’s special. someone that made my heart skip, my eyes light up, and my stomach caught butterflies. ya know.

i won’t approach if he’s not WORTHY.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
1:15 pm

kimmie, you are making me smile today. I love the figh in you. :lol:

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:16 pm

@SC

Nothing worth having comes easily. Yeah, it’s a fight – a fight for something (someone) that want.

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
1:17 pm

I’m a lover. Not a fighter.

You knew that was coming, right?

Magnum

August 11th, 2009
1:17 pm

@ Kimmie — lovin’ da WITTLE talk – I’m havin an Elmer Fudd flashback!!! LOLOL

@W8 — U know, what a pimp do….

Beautiful♥

August 11th, 2009
1:18 pm

ppl are full of themselves today, but i truly don’t see anything wrong with that.

Dan

August 11th, 2009
1:19 pm

@SC

I did. Still don’t stop the statement.

Chink

August 11th, 2009
1:20 pm

*Poor things, somebody got rejected and got their wittle feelings hurt*<—- I think that sums it up!