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Real Men Smile

It’s never fun to date the serious, uptight, completely devoid of a sense of humor type person. Sure, they have their great qualities: reliable and dependable, practical and logical, blah blah. Whatever, I don’t trust people that don’t ever smile. Why so serious!?

I know that so many of us cope with day to day stress, some more than others. We all have things we are struggling with or trying to figure out, it’s called adulthood. However, when you lose your smile and can’t find laughter in your life, you become a lot less appealing to people you may want to attract.

The last time you were asked out on a date, were you smiling and having a good time? Yeah, there is reason for that! Who is going to approach the ice queen or the mean mugging man? I don’t care how hot you are, if you are walking around looking unhappy and uptight, you are turning folks off!

If you are in a social setting, make sure you are up to mingling and engaging with people…with a smile. I never understand why people go to parties or mixers and don’t bother to speak to anyone other then their own friends.

So what does it take to make you smile?

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?

Men, why do you insist on walking around like Mr. Tough Guy all the time? Is it lame for you to smile or something?

What has a woman done for you or to you that made you smile? insert your own naughty joke here

How can women bring a smile to your face if she is on a date with you?  What about when you are in a relationship or married? It’s the little things, right? DVR’ing your favorite shows, wearing nothing but your dress shirt when you get home, let us know how we can lift your mood and get a smile out of you!

Have you ever been on a date with someone and they just would not smile?

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Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
8:16 am

Morning All!

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?

I recently had a new hair style done and this man walked up to me and told me I made his heart skip a beat and that I was gorgeous. It made my day! I cheesed like there was no more tomorrow. I thanked him. What made it more special was that he wasn’t hitting on me, he was being very genuine in his observation.

How do I make men smile?

I compliment them. I have no problem telling a man that he looks nice or that his cologne is wonderful. Its done in the spirit of happiness.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 11th, 2009
8:29 am

Ok Lisa and Ed Hartwell’s house went into forelosure.. What in tarnations is going on with the housewives of ATL.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 11th, 2009
8:34 am

Ok Im a charming smiler, you know not one of those cheesy doodle smiles but a sly inviting smile followed by a cordial almost shy hello . The reserved laid back smiler with the eye contact to go with the smile.

Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
8:36 am

@INFAMOUS

For what I understand, they were trying to renegotiate their loan and things didn’t pan out.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 11th, 2009
8:38 am

A smile goes a long way.. I love making someones day with a smile and compliment. I realized the power of a smile one day when I thought evrything couldnt get any worse but they kept getting worse by the hour. A old lady walked up, smiled and told me that Jesus loves me. At that moment I realized things arent as bad as they seemed and my day got better because I started looking at it that way. So when Im down I start to smile, think my day is gonna get better and it usually does.

Pretty Wings (My Sunshine Has Come)

August 11th, 2009
8:38 am

Guten Morgen Bloggers!

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile? Perhaps it was a random encounter or a sweet gesture that did the trick. How did you respond? Did you reciprocate?

I love positive energy around me because sometimes I don’t smile as much as I should, but I had the best date ever this past weekend and could not stop smiling:) :) !!!!!!!!! As a matter of fact, I am smiling just thinking about how much fun we had! The converstation was great, the company was great and he looked really goooood.

I was taught that the hallmark of a professional is a “POKERFACE”. For some of us it’s a little harder to turn off and on, but the right thing
will knock down all those walls an make you smile with your whole heart.

(Song)
Smile though your heart is aching;
Smile even though it’s breaking.
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by.
If you smile through your fear and sorrow,
Smile and maybe tomorrow,
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you.

Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness.
Although a tear may be ever so near,
That’s the time you must keep on trying,
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you just smile.

Have a great day! :)

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 11th, 2009
8:40 am

Fullfilling – Thats ridiculous though.. Dang man all that flexin. They owned a real estate co they shouldnt be caught out there..

Pretty Wings (My Sunshine Has Come)

August 11th, 2009
8:42 am

I did’nt really answer the question: I made him smile by Smiling and he made me smile in return…..so natural.

Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
8:44 am

I agree. A smile can do a million things words cannot. I know people have smiled at me and it turned my day around. I am a believe in positive energy and a smile is the perfect way to convey it.

SexyCool - Smiling from inside my soul.

August 11th, 2009
8:53 am

Three Words Daily – Treat yourself well.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
9:01 am

Morning lovelies –

I’m an extrovert and a social butterfly, being out is something I enjoy. Having fun is something I enjoy. Living life is something I enjoy.

A sense of humor is one of my top requests in a guy. I love to laugh.

When is the last time a man made me smile? Last night. Our time on the phone is spent cracking jokes with one another, same when we are out.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
9:30 am

Why I am smiling this morning???

It made me smile when at the marido’s request I went online 8-ish a.m. this morning to print directions to a place he is going this afternoon and while online I peeped the topic for today. Reading the topic brings to mind one of my favorite songs “Your Smile” by Angela Winbush which I just so happen to have on CD, so I reached in the drawer put it in the player. That song makes me dance every time. So there I was moving to the rhythm of that sweet melody relaxed in my fav tank and b-shorts. I was just entranced in the air of the music when I felt from behind a hand grip my hip, the other around my waist and then that body pressed against mine…that baritone humming the tune of the resounding melody in my ear…then I smiled. and still smiling :wink:

Now let’s see, on topic…

Spontaneous affection = Smile

A wink just in passing = Smile

Cooking dinner without being asked = Smile

Unsolicited compliments = Smile

abc

August 11th, 2009
9:37 am

Without a lot of daily laughter, you’re liable to fall ill. I can coax a laugh or a smile out of almost anybody. It’s not hard to do. ‘Course, sometimes it’s the really stupid stuff that gets a smile, but what the heck, I ain’t too proud!

For those who simply can’t lighten up, smile, and laugh, I’d recommend some counseling, I guess.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
9:42 am

‘Course, sometimes it’s the really stupid stuff that gets a smile, but what the heck, I ain’t too proud!

:lol:

abc – You haven’t dropped a “ya mama” joke on us in a while. :lol:

Kym

August 11th, 2009
9:50 am

Good Morning All,

Ladies, when was the last time a man made you smile?

Hmmm about a week ago when a man paid me a compliment regarding my knowledge on an issue.

I smile everyday when the security guard says “Good morning there she is..

I smiled this morning when my son– as I dropped him off at school plays his theme music on the ipod to get motivated for the day.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
9:50 am

I just get people who never smile, who are never happy. Heck just some mornings I look out the window and the sun is shining and I smile.

When it comes to relationships it is often the little things that create the biggest most sincere smiles. For one thing those littles things often take more thought and more paying attention to your mate’s interests, needs and wants. To see that my man was paying attention to something that I said and acted on it makes my heart joyful.

Acts of care and concern also makes me happy. Opening a can of Campbell’s chicken noodle soup and warming it for me when I am feeling ill makes me smile, even if just on the inside. And actually buying the chicken, noodles, celery and going thru the whole process of making c-n-s just makes me elated. LOL

What makes my husband smile?

When I make a batch of caramel brownies and put one in his lunch bag.

When I make him a bath.

When I drop by unexpectedly to take him to lunch.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
9:59 am

Morning wonderful blog people!

I could never date a man that never smiled or did not have a sense of humor. I tried once and I was miserable.

I absolutely love it when anyone smiles at me, male or female, child or adult. I always smile back!

Fullfilling – Those are the best kind of compliments from men, I think. The ones that are genuine and they are not trying to hit on you!

I’m silly and like to laugh, so I’m always putting a smile on SO’s face. Just the other day we were playing 1 versus 100 on his Xbox. I told him his little Xbox man was hot! That made him laugh!LOL!!

I naturally can have a serious look on my face when I’m out by myself and thinking about something or concentrating on what I’m doing. Please don’t TELL me to SMILE! That irritates the H out of me! Just smile, I’ll smile back & if I don’t, don’t take it personal. I was concentrating on something else.

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
10:01 am

@Wise Lurker, you should have wrote this article targeted at women! Oh by the way, murnin folks in my best (Bernice Jenkins “Rickey Smiley” voice)!

I find that more women don’t smile than men, especially when you greet them a.m or p.m. Every morning I speak to at least 10-12 women in my office building or at the food court, etc. and most mornings many look like someone just took all they credit cards and shoes away from them, nor do they speak back! Many look like someone just pooted!

As far as smiles go, If I had a dollar for each one of those I get,I would not have enough to buy breakfast!

I often wonder do women have any idea that their success in dating or meeting and attracting a potential is solely based on their body language! From what I see on the daily, many will continue to find themselves alone and wonder why?

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:02 am

I just DON’T get…

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
10:15 am

LL- man, that is too bad.

For Real

August 11th, 2009
10:17 am

Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
10:17 am

Another thing that makes me smile is my two boys. Everyday they give me reason and motivation to smile and endure this rat race daily.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:18 am

The only thing that runs a close second to not smiling at all are those fake smiles that look forced. There are certain people that seem to feel obligated to smile at certain other people. It’s makes me think every time “why in the world do have you have that dumbazz look on your face?”. Heck if you don’t mean it just keep it to yourself.

The thing is a genuine bright smile is not that hard to pull off. Heck sometimes it happens before you even know it.

Leggs

August 11th, 2009
10:18 am

Good morning everyone. I so enjoyed my day off yesterday, should have taken 2 days!

I am an extrovert so smiling, laughing and joking around is a constant with me. As much as I like to feed people, I like to make them smile and laugh.

@abc, you said it best :arrow: “Without a lot of daily laughter, you’re liable to fall ill.” The world is so harsh that a simple smile can make a person get to the “other side of thru.” Sometimes, a smile is a powerful as a mere hug!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
10:19 am

No woman is attracted to a dude that’s walking around looking like a serial killer either.

For Real

August 11th, 2009
10:21 am

I can coax a laugh or a smile out of almost anybody. – Now this made me LMAO!!!! Who knew abc?

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:22 am

One thing that is worse than not having a sense of humor is not being able to laugh at your self. Some days you just have to laugh at something insane or idiotic that you yourself did. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile.

Kym

August 11th, 2009
10:24 am

@For Real she wanted him dead. LMAO She even planned out a getaway route for the hitman and a alibi for herself.

Leggs

August 11th, 2009
10:26 am

@Raqi, that too is key, the ability to laugh at yourself.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:27 am

Leggs Good eatz always seem to bring the happy out of folks. Layout a good spread and make a crowd happy. LOL

That’s why I love the holidays, the good eatz seasons, especially Christmas and Thanksgiving. Everybody just seems to be happier around that time.

AmazonRed™

August 11th, 2009
10:27 am

Leggs – I missed you yesterday. Glad you enjoyed your day off!

Fulfilling Me (I know my ship is coming in!)

August 11th, 2009
10:30 am

@Raqi

Agree 100%. Finding humor in self is must. Life is too short to be so daggone serious.

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
10:30 am

LL- Do you smile? What kind of personality do you have? I know with me, it’s hard for me to NOT smile. It’s like I can’t do it. Even in pictures, I try to have a serious face and it never works lol. People around me are always laughing because I’m either saying or doing something silly. Just ask W8, Mamba, Mo and the others lol. I have always been social and always a talker and a laugher my entire life. Even in elementary school and junior high school I always had good grades, but when I would get my report cards, the teachers would always put in the comments section, “talks too much in class” or something like that. It’s funny because I actually ended up going to college and getting a degree in Sociology, which is and has always been perfect for me. Being social and studying the interactions of humans in society is what I do best. LOL *go figure*.

I guess the only down side to being so outgoing and laughing a lot is that it’s hard to get people to take me seriously.

Kimmie- I agree with your 10:19.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:35 am

1 out of 3 things that are guaranteed to bring a smile is puppies ,pastries or playing little tots. If on a date and you are looking for something fun and lighthearted to bring a smile to the face of your date go by a pet store, or the bakery or the park.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
10:35 am

Page – The thought of you trying to look serious or have a pokerface is funny!LOL!!! Reminds me of this interview somebody did of Eddie Murphy one time. They asked him to say something funny, but all he did was turn to the camera with a blank look on his face. Everyone fell out laughing!! The interviewer was like “See, that’s funny right there and you didn’t even say anything!”LOL!!!

abc

August 11th, 2009
10:36 am

Murder chick’s motive hasn’t been revealed yet, that I’ve read. Now, someone make up a joke about that story. Challenge!

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
10:36 am

You know… I think overall people are just not happy and dealing with alot of stuff! Very few people in my opinion are truly happy each morning, when the wake up, so that attitude follows them through out the day minus the smile. Folks are kinda like robots daily if you think about it, they just kinda go through the same motions day in and day out and in most cases, only focus on making it to the end of each week. Then the vicious cycle repeats itself every Monday morning.

I hear people complain all the time about stuff they should be thankful for, such as having to get up and go to work ( be thankful you have a job), dealing with their kids ( you made the choice to have kids and many people wish they could have kids, esp. healthy kids), the car they have, (even if it is old its more than what the folks on the bus and train have) , a nagging boss,( if you were at home without a job, you would not have one!) Not making enough money! (What ever you make, be thankful and if you want to make more, hatch a plan to better your training and education!) No man, (learn to be happy by ya dayum self! Your body language, attitude and persona go a long way and may contribute to you meeting a good man! ).

My dad used to tell me that 90 percent of what happens to you and where you are in life has to do with the choices and decisions ‘YOU’ made! 10 percent is the reality of life! If more of us believed this and applied ourselves more, we would see more smiles!

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
10:37 am

@Page1908 I smile all the time! I am the class clown all day long erry day, even in meetings!

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:38 am

Now the one thing I can’t stand is someone that is just too darn silly all the darn time. They never take anything or anyone serious. There is a time and a place for everything. Don’t be scatty.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:39 am

abc which would you say is worst, not being able to tell a joke or not being able to get the joke???

Craig

August 11th, 2009
10:39 am

Wow Miss Diva I am a man and I love to give most ladies even those I dont know a pleasant deep rich smile. It doesn’t mean that Im trying to take someone home. It just means I love myself and I refuse not to be a happy person.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
10:40 am

LL – You didn’t answer Page’s question. Do you smile?

You’re just determined to make this happy topic a depressing, woman-bashing one, aren’t you?LOL!!!

Lighten up, man!!! SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 11th, 2009
10:41 am

LL – I see you did answer Page. Hard to imagine YOU the class clown!!

For Real

August 11th, 2009
10:41 am

"Longtime Lurker"

August 11th, 2009
10:44 am

@kimmie – See my 10:37

Sexy@Cool.com

August 11th, 2009
10:45 am

I cannot live without smiles and laughter.

That is all.

Raqi...smiling

August 11th, 2009
10:49 am

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
10:49 am

LOL Kimmie- LOL girl, you know I cannot have a serious face! I try all the time and it never works. I hardly ever get mad and I never yell or raise my voice, and sometimes this can be a hinderance for me like in the workplace, but luckily people know me so it’s cool. I get sad when (I perceive) someone is either yelling at me or raising their voice because I just don’t like it. Like when I hear people yelling at their kids or whatever I feel very uncomfortable because no one in my family yells or cusses kids out like that or whatever, so even at my age it’s still shocking.

For example, when I first graduated from Undergrad all of my jobs were fun, happy jobs like preschool teacher, ymca and boys and girls camp counselor and stuff like that. Well, in 1999 I got my master’s degree in Public Administration and I ended up taking a job in a Correctional Facility (prison) so that I could have a more “serious” job that required me to be more serious at work. So, I remember the Warden interviewing me and saying “ummm, ok I see you have an MPA now, but you currently work as a preschool teacher…are you sure you want to work in criminal justice”? I was like “yes”. So, he took a chance on me and I did great in that job for like 3 years, then it became too depressing lol so I got out.

Page1908

August 11th, 2009
10:51 am

LOL really? I *heart* class clowns. The funny thing is that most people tell me I’m funny, when I’m not trying to be. I don’t know if that is a good thing or bad thing lol.

Leggs

August 11th, 2009
10:51 am

Hey, ARed. How are you?

@Raqi, I host an annual track dinner to show appreciation for my daughter’s coaches. I just completed my second year of doing this. The smiles on everyone’s face, and just like black folk saying they wished they had brought “tupperware” with them made me smile! The food was good! Cooking for the holidays is a time filled with smiles and laughter and sheer appreciation for just “being.”