The Ugly Truth
I watched the film The Ugly Truth in mild amusement, like I do most films about male-female dynamics. While the movie is meant to be entertaining, it kind of highlights a lot of what goes on with gender biases and social perceptions of men and women.
The male lead character basically describes men as the simple creatures who will do and say whatever it takes to bed a woman. Not exactly a ringing endorsement, but it’s a romantic comedy.
It did make me look further into the notion that men and women can both be ethically ambiguous. I read somewhere that that socialists consider a component of “ambivalent sexism” in the theory of benevolent sexism: “Women compared to men, tend to have a superior moral sensibility”. They actually conducted studies and claim that “women have a superior moral and ethical fortitude as compared to men”. I don’t know about that one!
It lends itself to male vs. female battle but we already know we are different. What are your thoughts? Should we really give credibility to these kind of studies?
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AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
9:25 am
Maybe it’s just a case of the Mondays or maybe I just kicked it too hard this weekend…but HUH? What is this topic about?
I did go see the movie though and found it to be one of the funnier romantic comedies. This is one I think a guy would actually enjoy.
Happy Monday everyone!
Fulfilling Me
August 10th, 2009
9:32 am
Good Morning, All!
I haven’t seen the movie, but based off advertisements it seems to play off the typical male/female stereotype. In regards to the studies, I think they should be taken with a grain of salt.
Sidenote: Tried the california rolls at Strip..not too terrible, but I think I will try it at some of the places you all mentioned Friday. I will say the drink Bubble bath was my thing.
Dan
August 10th, 2009
9:35 am
Good morning,
I haven’t seen the movie (prolly won’t).
In relation to your question, WD, I think women do have a higher moral sensability than men (superior may be a step too far). Personally, I don’t find it to be a bad thing.
Having a higher moral sensability keeps some women off the pole (still the best topic title ever), from having children before their ready, and in general from participating in destructive behavior.
We men get the luxury of “being men”. We can do stupid things, chalk it up to testoterone and typically be excused for it without being viewed negatively.
“Should we give credibility to these studies?” We already do, there called “double standards”.
Just Sexy...Just Cool...
August 10th, 2009
9:46 am
Three Words Daily – Sunshines bring opportunities.
Kym
August 10th, 2009
9:46 am
Good Morning All,
I agree with Dan, the only credit these studies give is the double standard. Think about the subject of cheating(that one comes up once a week) or even sleeping around. Remember a week ago the sowing of wild oats..with guys its expected..if a woman does it(break out your Victorian hoopskirts.) It really is a timeless battle of the double standards. Women are to be soft and light, held in high regards(morally upright) while Men are expected to be hard and dark….(sorry I blanked out for a sec) and expected to screw up now and again.
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
9:47 am
i might check out that movie with one of my ladie friends….i typically find myself in that role….like what can you tell me…or help me be the women that guys will like type of stuff…even on my off day i am still giving out that cold game…lol
Always Sexy...Forever Cool...
August 10th, 2009
9:49 am
Co-signing on the double standard of it all. But such is life. Deal with it and keep it moving.
Live your life to your standard. Dismiss all b.s. and stay up.
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
9:50 am
(break out your Victorian hoopskirts.)
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
9:50 am
@dan
chalk it up to testoterone
so what happens when women hit that “chalk it up” zone..usually around 27-29 when they are nailing anything with two leggs…then they hit 30 and decide ok now its time for me to pack away my whorish ways and find a “good man”…lol….we men finally wake up say around 45 THEN we look for a “good woman”..lol
Demi
August 10th, 2009
9:51 am
“Should we give credibility to these studies?” We already do, there called “double standards”.
True.
“Women compared to men, tend to have a superior moral sensibility”.
Until Eve listened to that snake dude.
I am looking forward to a ‘male vs female’ battle with Wisdom, later today.
Demi
August 10th, 2009
9:54 am
Live your life to your standard. Dismiss all b.s. and “stay up”…
SexyCool…I will be good.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
9:55 am
LOL Rell.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:02 am
LOL @ getting pink eye. Ok, of course, I have no idea what that means, but I’m sure it’s not good. lmao
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:03 am
The male lead character basically describes men as the simple creatures who will do and say whatever it takes to bed a woman.
Why is that?…..not all do it fbut for the fools that do….why?
Live your life to your standard. Dismiss all b.s. and “stay up”…
Okaaay!?….couldn’t have said it any better.
Hey Demi,Sexy and Page
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
10:03 am
Co-signing on the double standard of it all. But such is life. Deal with it and keep it moving.
Agreed. More importantly, recognize it and accept that’s just the way it goes.
Sure, you can buck the system and make your own rules, just don’t be surprised if you gain a rep you wish you could shake or a past that just won’t die.
abc
August 10th, 2009
10:03 am
Yall aren’t really going to support the misapprehension that the movie in question reflects the way people really are, are you? Come on. It’s just a movie.
In my personal experience, women do not have a higher moral or ethical sensibility. If anything, I’d say the opposite is true.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:03 am
Hey Sassy! Girl, how are you doing???
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:04 am
I am looking forward to a ‘male vs female’ battle with Wisdom, later today.
Are you really?…..
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
10:06 am
whats up sassy…lol
@page…look at knocked up…and you will see how you get pinkeye right way…lol
thanks again for the party folks..and it was nice to meet everybody…but if not for the pictures i would not be able to piece together everything…when i started drinking that colored sweet juice things got all types of fuzzy…lol
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:06 am
Girl, how are you doing???
I am fabulous…..had a GREAT weekend….how YOU doin’.
Mytwo where you at?…..
Raqi
August 10th, 2009
10:09 am
It is a well known common truth that double standards do exist. I am okay with that. I just get in where I fit in. And yes we women are held to a higher standard of morals and ethics than men are. But what can you do about it? Date like a man??? I think not. That doesn’t give you male status, it just gives you a bad look.
The ugly truth is they do it for the kitty. Or the possibility of obtaining it. Nearly everything a man does to get to a relationship, building a relationship and in the relationship, they do for the kitty. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying men are not capable of performing duties out of love for their mate however the ugly truth is they do if for the kitty. Guys tend to be more active, giving and attentive to the relationships where the kitty is accessible.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:16 am
Rell- Ok, I thought I saw Knocked Up, but I guess I need to see it again. The colored juice you had was Sangria, also known as Jesus Juice. lol
Sassy- I am great, thanks.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:16 am
Raqi that 10:09 was soo on point…especially the last part.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:18 am
The colored juice you had was Sangria, also known as Jesus Juice. lol
Page…..you goin’ down
Kym
August 10th, 2009
10:19 am
@abc Who are these women you know?
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
10:19 am
@page…i know what sangria is love…where you think all the fruit went…in my cup…lol…i am talking about that sweet stuff that taste like puddy..i mean candy…lol
@raqi
standard of morals and ethics than men are
- do you think women are held to a higher standard to controll there sexuality…i mean if women were out here like men….we would have sevaeral…maury moments
but you are right we men do alot of things for that poo cee…that i cannot argue
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:21 am
Guys tend to be more active, giving and attentive to the relationships where the kitty is accessible.
HELLLLLLLLLLZ YEAH!!!!
But how I am now…a strong foundation must be laid first
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
10:22 am
The ugly truth is they do it for the kitty. Or the possibility of obtaining it.
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:23 am
Are you really?…..
Sassy…yeah, Wisdom is getting betta in SF:IV.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:24 am
LOL Ok Rell.
LOL Sassy. Girlllll u were bananas!
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:24 am
Street Fighter IV…sorry.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:26 am
Alright then Demi….hope all goes well with that…no really I do.
Dan
August 10th, 2009
10:27 am
@Rell
Come on man. That’s the classic “double standard” – she’s forgiven for her indescretions, he is not. But that’s the world we live in.
@SC
Right on!!
@abc
Glad to see somethings haven’t changed…..
@Raqi
What else is new?
Of course men FTW to git the kitty. The difference I feel as I get older are the tactics (lying/truth).
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:28 am
And an A.Red BISHASLAP to the fools who brought bottom shelf VOKIA.
Y’all trying to kill a Demi
Sidelines aka Joyful One it was good meeting you and you got gangsta with the 1800, LOL!!
Always Sexy...Forever Cool...
August 10th, 2009
10:29 am
Some men will do/say anything for the cookie. Some women will do/say anything for that which they convince themselves is love.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:29 am
Girlllll u were bananas!
Just enjoyed the company is all…..plus that sweet stuff Mytwo was making was “jammin’ on the one”…..
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
10:31 am
plus that sweet stuff Mytwo was
-yep
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:31 am
LOL @ “jammin on the one”.
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
10:32 am
convince themselves is love
- true
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
10:32 am
And an A.Red BISHASLAP
*smh*
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:33 am
In my personal experience, women do not have a higher moral or ethical sensibility. If anything, I’d say the opposite is true.
abc…mayne, stop speaking ill of your female co-workers, LOL.
Sassy…whatever, you’ll be right there…yelling girl power…knocking the controller out of my hand…so she can win, LOL
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:33 am
Some women will do/say anything for that which they convince themselves is love.
So true Sexy…..and when you play with some women’s emotions like that, that’s when cats start being on the news and stuff….anybody got any krazy glue?
Pretty Wings (My Sunshine Has Come)
August 10th, 2009
10:34 am
Good Morning all!
I have not seen the movie but to answer your question, I definitely think there are double standards that we live by and I agree with Dan we make these studies credible because we live them out.
For example, If a woman has an extensive dating history she either can’t keep a man or there is something wrong with her but, when a man does the same thing he is a player or deemed to be “The Man” women are rarely given the “luxury” of “working out” their life without it being percieved as a problem or having issues.
For Example: When women stray from their marriage they are 1) unhappy 2) confused 3)abused by or had issues with a parent, etc.
But when a man strays, he is 1)a scum bag 2) sex addict 3)doesn’t know a good thing when he has it.
Now, with that said, when a woman misbehaves she is 1)crazy 2)has anger issues 3) is not polished.
When a man misbehaves the ‘boys will be boys’ attitude prevails.
Women are usually expected to be the better parent, the better person and have a higher moral compass. What I find truly sad with women is(our lack of solidarity, when we promote these sterotypes against each other) Feel me on this, bottem line it’s not fair!! But it’s the world we live in.
Have a great day!
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:35 am
whatever, you’ll be right there…yelling girl power…knocking the controller out of my hand…so she can win,
Naturally, of course.
abc
August 10th, 2009
10:36 am
It’s just as stereotypical as men’s supposed total preoccupation with getting laid: chicks are catty, secretive, manipulative, mendacious, and will cheat in a heartbeat. 75-80% of AA babies born to unwed mothers last year doesn’t indicate a higher moral sensibility on their behalf, nor on behalf of their sperm donors.
To have to work for a woman is to have to deal with a lack of moral and ethical sensibility.
If you are lucky enough to have a woman of high moral and ethical sensibility, consider marriage! It illustrates a character that exceeds the stereotypical norm by a mile — it has to, in order for that to be true.
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
10:37 am
Here we go…
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:38 am
Alright then Pretty Wings….. Sassy putting a 10 dollar bill in the collection plate and passing it to the right.
Demi
August 10th, 2009
10:38 am
Kimmie…I had my first orgasm from eating cake…your Rum Cake was the bomb.
Awwwwwwwwwwww…SKEET SKEET SKEET!!!
Dan
August 10th, 2009
10:43 am
@abc
Side convo: I think what you’re speaking of is the “subjective morality” that we (male/female) all exhibit.
I’d like to say that I’ve met nothing but high moral character women, but that wouldn’t be true. Nor would it hold true for men. And neither would hold true enough to establish a percentage.
Situational ethics is more to the point, and using that knowledge certainly helps me seperate moral from immoral and square from down.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
10:46 am
The Ugly truth….men do a lot in life for the kitty..those women who tend to hold out longer sometimes (NOT ALL THE TIME) tend to be the one’s that guys respect more…like I said that’s not always the case..but sometimes it’s true
@ all I was waaay tired and a little off Saturday but I had a ball just the same..my homeboys and co-workers did also
@Rell- thanks for adding songs to the playlist…can’t wait till the next time
@Mo- What are you doing dancing and drinking like that..good girl gone bad
@Staceye- you momma is FIONE!!! Mrs Parker..Mrs Parker..I want toooooo……….u M!!!!!!
@Demi- aint nuttin but da devil make you bring that 1800
@Sassy-You are a dancing machine..dancing dancing dancing…dancing machineeeeeee
@My2- I saw you dancing after you finished making drinks..you are a perfectionist
@Kimmie- My Dawg!! Thanks for the cakes and the sangria…nobody knew I hid the sweet potato pie…lol.alll mine
@Clarissa- smooooooottttttthhhh
@Magnum- If I hear you say “Can I have your attention please, Shots on deck” ever again I am running the other way
@Page- You and James provided the funniest moment of the night to me..brought me to tears
@For Real- Stop laughing at me…lol
Always Sexy...Forever Cool...
August 10th, 2009
10:50 am
Kimmie – Like I said yesterday, your cakes were a hit!!! You’ve got major culinary skills. I see great success in your endeavor.
Oh, and it was like you had given w8 an endorsement deal…he was quite the vocal supporter.
YOU ROCK!!!
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:50 am
W8- LOL @ “can I have your attention, please”! I was like “wtf, what now? another annoucement”? lmao. BTW me and Staceye saw where u hid that pie. The $20 you gave us helped us keep it a secret lol.
abc
August 10th, 2009
10:52 am
‘Course, Dan. It does illustrate the folly of considering a romantic comedy such as the one cited as having much to do with the way people really are.
Folks tend to think of themselves most highly, crediting their lapses to necessity, and/or protective reactions to other peoples’ turpitude. Moral behavior is defined by religion; for Christians, the New Testament contains the definition of morality. Measured by that standard, most of us are not very moral.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
10:55 am
LOL Here we goooo:)
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
10:56 am
LOL @ Page.
Too many big words for me today. I’m drinking water all day, trying to get my kidneys back on track.
Dan
August 10th, 2009
10:58 am
@abc
I dare say you’ll find no one willing to claim perfection. Rather by a 3rd party code (religion) or one’s on ethos.
My point is to allow for the failings of individual to be prescribed to that individual, not to entire gender, race, etc.
The world and people are a lot less cynical that we (each) project.
Be happy!
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
10:58 am
can I have your attention, please”! I was like “wtf, what now? another annoucement”?
Page</strongz. I thought it was the cops again……
Kym
August 10th, 2009
10:58 am
Now enters religion into today’s discussion.
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
10:59 am
aint nuttin but da devil make you bring that 1800
- thats what had me….thats why i woke up with chips all over my kitchen…and cool balls…lol
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:01 am
@Rell-lol@Cool balls
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
11:01 am
LOL Sassy and Rell.
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:04 am
Where is my Leggs today?
Dan
August 10th, 2009
11:04 am
My apologies for disturbing the flow of conversation.
Grace
August 10th, 2009
11:04 am
good morning
I don’t plan to see the movie, since I sorta live it everyday
there is a double standard, women are held to higher moral, be virtuous, all the while men are to get as many knots in his belt before he settles down.
Distractions only have the power that you give them. To avoid being overpowered by distractions, see them for what they are.
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
11:04 am
last thing i can fully remember on recall is the convo i had with you and for real…after that….i woke up like what happen…lol
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 10th, 2009
11:05 am
Happy Monday good people!
Thank you so much for the compliments. I am so glad you enjoyed my creations! Great doing business with all of you!
Glad to be of help, Demi, I think!LOL!!! Yeah, the rum cake will do that to ya!
On topic – I like romantic comedies, so I’ll probably end up seeing that movie. But it’s Monday and I have so much work to do that I don’t feel like THINKING and analyzing the topic today, so I’ll just lurk. I will say that we all know men & women are different – and that’s a GOOD thing! Both can offer their voice of REASON in different situations. Yin to Yang, the natural order of things, balance. Problems arise when one tries to (or has to) take on the role of the other. Just not the way things are designed.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
11:05 am
Sassafrass is soo enjoying some good ol’ country salmon and grits for breakfast dis’ mornin’……
Demi
August 10th, 2009
11:06 am
W8…Dude, when I said I was going to the package store for some “REAL”
licka…them cats look at me like I was crazy!!!
James pointed at the cheap ish and said…
For What Dawg?
But ‘iggas were quick to pull plastic cups out the yingyang…a real gin’n'juice moment
I should have brought a bigger bottle…a brother was dry come Sunday.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:06 am
@Dan- why are you apologizing..religion is part of life..and dating for some…I don’t know why that is the one thing that is so taboo on here…oh well…it’s not for me to understand everything
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:08 am
On topic – I like romantic comedies, so I’ll probably end up seeing that movie.
kimmie – You’ll like it. Though I was “clutching my pearls” for a lot of the dialogue. Very deserving of the “R” rating!
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
11:09 am
http://msn.foxsports.com/nfl/story/9863226/Dungy-says-coaches-inquiring-about-Vick
Always Sexy...Forever Cool...
August 10th, 2009
11:10 am
Oh and just one thing…The truth is not ugly. It is forever a thing of beauty. What can get ugly are the reactions to it.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
11:11 am
To avoid being overpowered by distractions, see them for what they are.
Call ‘em out and keep it moving…..to the left…to the left!!
Free your mind and you azz will follow.
Dan
August 10th, 2009
11:11 am
@W8
I was apologizing for interrupting the general conversation, with the one between myself and abc.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
11:13 am
…The truth is not ugly. It is forever a thing of beauty. What can get ugly are the reactions to it.
Sassy putting 10 more dollars in the collection plate…….
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:14 am
I was apologizing for interrupting the general conversation,
Dan – How nice of you. As you notice, no one else is apologizing for doing the same thing.
This blog should just break out into different chat rooms, sometimes.
Demi
August 10th, 2009
11:14 am
I don’t know why that is the one thing that is so taboo on here
W8…some of the most ugliest blog battles…involves religion.
fugggg religion…folks just need to work on being spiritual
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
11:16 am
Demi! LOL @ “blog battles”. Blood has been shed a time or two. lmao *shrugs*
Kym
August 10th, 2009
11:16 am
@Rell he was on the sunday night football last night he didnt say what team..I know what team it better not be.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:18 am
@Demi- When someone let’s a topic, situation or a person cause them to act out…that situation, person or topic has more control over them than they actually have over themselves…..
…blame on the Goose, got ya feeling loose……
..blame it on the rossi, blame it on the henny…..
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:18 am
fugggg religion…folks just need to work on being spiritual
The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend
August 10th, 2009
11:19 am
@kym…lol….yeah i seen that….it better be minn or hou
Grace
August 10th, 2009
11:19 am
W8 – I don’t think religion is taboo on here, I remember some breif topics on here before. Dating and religion can sometimes be a chanllenged for me depending the other person’s level of faith and his denomionation. I observe the Sabbath, so from sundow Friday to sundown Saturday night I’m pretty much away from things that I enjoy doing, (I’m still getting it together) and with Friday night and Saturday being the theme time for dating, I have to decline most of the time.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:19 am
Blog battle? Is this place that important? Yall are kidding right?
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:23 am
I observe the Sabbath, so from sundow Friday to sundown Saturday night I’m pretty much away from things that I enjoy doing, (I’m still getting it together) and with Friday night and Saturday being the theme time for dating, I have to decline most of the time.
Grace – Are you single? I met this really cool SDA this year. Tall, good looking and engineer. However, I had to give up my pork and shellfish, drinking and observe the Sabbath right away. No dice for your girl!
Kym
August 10th, 2009
11:23 am
@PoppaG cause I know you get behind the scenes peeks into the NFL..if Vick is going to where I hope he better not be going..don’t tell me..lie to me..lie to me.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:24 am
@Grace- my bad I stand corrected.
Page1908
August 10th, 2009
11:24 am
W8- Dude, save me at least 3 kabobs! *stomach growling*. lol
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
11:24 am
he was on the sunday night football last night he didnt say what team..I know what team it better not be.
Can’t wait to see him play for whatever team picks him up…wonder it it’ll be before the end of pre-season.
abc
August 10th, 2009
11:25 am
Demi, what, then, is being ’spiritual’? Not to call you out or anything. Spirituality without religion of one kind or another doesn’t seem to make sense, to me. ‘Spirituality’, as in, affected or inhabited or focused upon a supernatural, i.e., non-physical entity, influence, source of energy — if it’s not a spirit associated with religion, what is it?
Kym
August 10th, 2009
11:28 am
@abc..you really really think that it is through religion that you gain oneness with God? I am just asking.
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:28 am
Vick met with a ton of Bills personnel while he was in Canton during the Hall of Fame inductions..and they(Bills) even questioned Dungy on Vick..hell Bruce Smith even gave him a shot out during his speech…and now Tony Dungy is on ESPN today..hinting at the teams who are asking him about Vick…
Grace
August 10th, 2009
11:30 am
Ared, I’m single, and it’s not because I observe the Sabbath, I know people who don’t observe the Sabbath that don’t eat pork or shell fish…..I eat still eat them, I bless my food as required…..what eat is not relevant, it’s what comes out of my mouth/heart that’s relevant.
Poppa Grande
August 10th, 2009
11:32 am
Kym
Vick has already met with Green Bay officials. I keep hearing the Redskins too. (Danny Snyder would love it if it closer to that elusive trophy that he has been trying to buy)
AmazonRed™
August 10th, 2009
11:33 am
Ared, I’m single, and it’s not because I observe the Sabbath,
Grace – I was asking if you were single because I know someone who observes the Sabbath as well. I was asking because I was gonna hook you up.
But since you still eat pork and shellfish, nevermind. This guy is great but orthodox in his SDA faith, so a lot of women don’t qualify.
Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)
August 10th, 2009
11:33 am
you really really think that it is through religion that you gain oneness with God?
I was wondering the same thing?….
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:34 am
@Page-Okay
In layman’s terms a religion is an organized and structured belief system, however spirituality is generally neither focusing more on an individuals beliefs than a groups. Religion is man’s limited attempt to reach out and understand God. Spirituality is God reaching down to man and inspiring man’s mind to understand and know Him. God is a Spirt the only way to relate to God is spiritually, the word spirit in the ancient Greek text means “life”. Being religious is following after a religious teaching about God. Being spiritual is seeking after the truth to know God, to know life. So, if want to “know” God you have to learn to “know” Him on a spiritual level. If you want to know “about” God then you join a denomination or some religious sect where men will teach you “about” God or whatever you decide to follow
W8©
August 10th, 2009
11:35 am
Spirituality comes from within you. Religion comes from outside of you.
Spirituality is the self understanding of your reality through your submition of whatever your higher power is. Higher power is the concept of believing in something beyond your power, beyond your intellect, or a peak of ones own knowledge, however one decides to decipher their higher power renders their own definition of God.
Nothing or no one can give you spirituality. But many can give you religion if allow them too.
Dan
August 10th, 2009
11:35 am
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Let Demi answer in his own way.
But for me spirituality and religion can be two different things. Sometimes they are linked, sometimes not (based on the individual, of course).
For me religion is a set of beliefs: personal and intimate. Spirituality is the essence of that belief of a “higher power” or the interconnectivity of Man in general.
I think you can be spiritual without being particularly religious (or have your beliefs tied to a particlar doctrine of faith); and that a person can experience religion via spirituality.
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August 10th, 2009
11:36 am
w8 – Being religious is following after a religious teaching about God. Being spiritual is seeking after the truth to know God, to know life.
Just awesome.