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The Ugly Truth

I watched the film The Ugly Truth in mild amusement, like I do most films about male-female dynamics. While the movie is meant to be entertaining, it kind of highlights a lot of what goes on with gender biases and social perceptions of men and women.

The male lead character basically describes men as the simple creatures who will do and say whatever it takes to bed a woman. Not exactly a ringing endorsement, but it’s a romantic comedy.

It did make me look further into the notion that men and women can both be ethically ambiguous. I read somewhere that that socialists consider a component of “ambivalent sexism” in the theory of benevolent sexism: “Women compared to men, tend to have a superior moral sensibility”. They actually conducted studies and claim that “women have a superior moral and ethical fortitude as compared to men”. I don’t know about that one!

It lends itself to male vs. female battle but we already know we are different. What are your thoughts? Should we really give credibility to these kind of studies?

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Always Sexy...Forever Cool...

August 10th, 2009
10:50 am

Kimmie – Like I said yesterday, your cakes were a hit!!! You’ve got major culinary skills. I see great success in your endeavor.

Oh, and it was like you had given w8 an endorsement deal…he was quite the vocal supporter.

YOU ROCK!!!

Page1908

August 10th, 2009
10:50 am

W8- LOL @ “can I have your attention, please”! I was like “wtf, what now? another annoucement”? lmao. BTW me and Staceye saw where u hid that pie. The $20 you gave us helped us keep it a secret lol.

abc

August 10th, 2009
10:52 am

‘Course, Dan. It does illustrate the folly of considering a romantic comedy such as the one cited as having much to do with the way people really are.

Folks tend to think of themselves most highly, crediting their lapses to necessity, and/or protective reactions to other peoples’ turpitude. Moral behavior is defined by religion; for Christians, the New Testament contains the definition of morality. Measured by that standard, most of us are not very moral.

Page1908

August 10th, 2009
10:55 am

LOL Here we goooo:)

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
10:56 am

LOL @ Page. ;)

Too many big words for me today. I’m drinking water all day, trying to get my kidneys back on track. :lol:

Dan

August 10th, 2009
10:58 am

@abc

I dare say you’ll find no one willing to claim perfection. Rather by a 3rd party code (religion) or one’s on ethos.

My point is to allow for the failings of individual to be prescribed to that individual, not to entire gender, race, etc.

The world and people are a lot less cynical that we (each) project.

Be happy!

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
10:58 am

can I have your attention, please”! I was like “wtf, what now? another annoucement”?

Page</strongz. I thought it was the cops again……

Kym

August 10th, 2009
10:58 am

Now enters religion into today’s discussion.

The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend

August 10th, 2009
10:59 am

aint nuttin but da devil make you bring that 1800

- thats what had me….thats why i woke up with chips all over my kitchen…and cool balls…lol

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:01 am

@Rell-lol@Cool balls

Page1908

August 10th, 2009
11:01 am

LOL Sassy and Rell.

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:04 am

Where is my Leggs today?

Dan

August 10th, 2009
11:04 am

My apologies for disturbing the flow of conversation.

Grace

August 10th, 2009
11:04 am

good morning

I don’t plan to see the movie, since I sorta live it everyday :evil:

there is a double standard, women are held to higher moral, be virtuous, all the while men are to get as many knots in his belt before he settles down.

Distractions only have the power that you give them. To avoid being overpowered by distractions, see them for what they are.

The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend

August 10th, 2009
11:04 am

last thing i can fully remember on recall is the convo i had with you and for real…after that….i woke up like what happen…lol

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 10th, 2009
11:05 am

Happy Monday good people!

Thank you so much for the compliments. I am so glad you enjoyed my creations! Great doing business with all of you!

Glad to be of help, Demi, I think!LOL!!! Yeah, the rum cake will do that to ya!

On topic – I like romantic comedies, so I’ll probably end up seeing that movie. But it’s Monday and I have so much work to do that I don’t feel like THINKING and analyzing the topic today, so I’ll just lurk. I will say that we all know men & women are different – and that’s a GOOD thing! Both can offer their voice of REASON in different situations. Yin to Yang, the natural order of things, balance. Problems arise when one tries to (or has to) take on the role of the other. Just not the way things are designed.

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
11:05 am

Sassafrass is soo enjoying some good ol’ country salmon and grits for breakfast dis’ mornin’……

Demi

August 10th, 2009
11:06 am

W8…Dude, when I said I was going to the package store for some “REAL”
licka…them cats look at me like I was crazy!!!

James pointed at the cheap ish and said…

For What Dawg?

But ‘iggas were quick to pull plastic cups out the yingyang…a real gin’n'juice moment

I should have brought a bigger bottle…a brother was dry come Sunday.

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:06 am

@Dan- why are you apologizing..religion is part of life..and dating for some…I don’t know why that is the one thing that is so taboo on here…oh well…it’s not for me to understand everything

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:08 am

On topic – I like romantic comedies, so I’ll probably end up seeing that movie.

kimmie – You’ll like it. Though I was “clutching my pearls” for a lot of the dialogue. Very deserving of the “R” rating! :lol:

The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend

August 10th, 2009
11:09 am

Always Sexy...Forever Cool...

August 10th, 2009
11:10 am

Oh and just one thing…The truth is not ugly. It is forever a thing of beauty. What can get ugly are the reactions to it.

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
11:11 am

To avoid being overpowered by distractions, see them for what they are.

Call ‘em out and keep it moving…..to the left…to the left!! :)

Free your mind and you azz will follow.

Dan

August 10th, 2009
11:11 am

@W8

I was apologizing for interrupting the general conversation, with the one between myself and abc.

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
11:13 am

…The truth is not ugly. It is forever a thing of beauty. What can get ugly are the reactions to it.

Sassy putting 10 more dollars in the collection plate…….

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:14 am

I was apologizing for interrupting the general conversation,

Dan – How nice of you. As you notice, no one else is apologizing for doing the same thing. :lol:

This blog should just break out into different chat rooms, sometimes.

Demi

August 10th, 2009
11:14 am

I don’t know why that is the one thing that is so taboo on here

W8…some of the most ugliest blog battles…involves religion.

fugggg religion…folks just need to work on being spiritual

Page1908

August 10th, 2009
11:16 am

Demi! LOL @ “blog battles”. Blood has been shed a time or two. lmao *shrugs*

Kym

August 10th, 2009
11:16 am

@Rell he was on the sunday night football last night he didnt say what team..I know what team it better not be.

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:18 am

@Demi- When someone let’s a topic, situation or a person cause them to act out…that situation, person or topic has more control over them than they actually have over themselves…..

…blame on the Goose, got ya feeling loose……

..blame it on the rossi, blame it on the henny…..

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:18 am

fugggg religion…folks just need to work on being spiritual

:???:

The Real Rell - did not get pinkeye this weekend

August 10th, 2009
11:19 am

@kym…lol….yeah i seen that….it better be minn or hou

Grace

August 10th, 2009
11:19 am

W8 – I don’t think religion is taboo on here, I remember some breif topics on here before. Dating and religion can sometimes be a chanllenged for me depending the other person’s level of faith and his denomionation. I observe the Sabbath, so from sundow Friday to sundown Saturday night I’m pretty much away from things that I enjoy doing, (I’m still getting it together) and with Friday night and Saturday being the theme time for dating, I have to decline most of the time.

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:19 am

Blog battle? Is this place that important? Yall are kidding right?

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:23 am

I observe the Sabbath, so from sundow Friday to sundown Saturday night I’m pretty much away from things that I enjoy doing, (I’m still getting it together) and with Friday night and Saturday being the theme time for dating, I have to decline most of the time.

Grace – Are you single? I met this really cool SDA this year. Tall, good looking and engineer. However, I had to give up my pork and shellfish, drinking and observe the Sabbath right away. No dice for your girl!

Kym

August 10th, 2009
11:23 am

@PoppaG cause I know you get behind the scenes peeks into the NFL..if Vick is going to where I hope he better not be going..don’t tell me..lie to me..lie to me.

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:24 am

@Grace- my bad I stand corrected.

Page1908

August 10th, 2009
11:24 am

W8- Dude, save me at least 3 kabobs! *stomach growling*. lol

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
11:24 am

he was on the sunday night football last night he didnt say what team..I know what team it better not be.

Can’t wait to see him play for whatever team picks him up…wonder it it’ll be before the end of pre-season.

abc

August 10th, 2009
11:25 am

Demi, what, then, is being ’spiritual’? Not to call you out or anything. Spirituality without religion of one kind or another doesn’t seem to make sense, to me. ‘Spirituality’, as in, affected or inhabited or focused upon a supernatural, i.e., non-physical entity, influence, source of energy — if it’s not a spirit associated with religion, what is it?

Kym

August 10th, 2009
11:28 am

@abc..you really really think that it is through religion that you gain oneness with God? I am just asking.

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:28 am

Vick met with a ton of Bills personnel while he was in Canton during the Hall of Fame inductions..and they(Bills) even questioned Dungy on Vick..hell Bruce Smith even gave him a shot out during his speech…and now Tony Dungy is on ESPN today..hinting at the teams who are asking him about Vick…

Grace

August 10th, 2009
11:30 am

Ared, I’m single, and it’s not because I observe the Sabbath, I know people who don’t observe the Sabbath that don’t eat pork or shell fish…..I eat still eat them, I bless my food as required…..what eat is not relevant, it’s what comes out of my mouth/heart that’s relevant. :wink:

Poppa Grande

August 10th, 2009
11:32 am

Kym

Vick has already met with Green Bay officials. I keep hearing the Redskins too. (Danny Snyder would love it if it closer to that elusive trophy that he has been trying to buy)

AmazonRed™

August 10th, 2009
11:33 am

Ared, I’m single, and it’s not because I observe the Sabbath,

Grace – I was asking if you were single because I know someone who observes the Sabbath as well. I was asking because I was gonna hook you up. :D

But since you still eat pork and shellfish, nevermind. This guy is great but orthodox in his SDA faith, so a lot of women don’t qualify.

Sassy Me....Black koffee no sugar....no creme :-)

August 10th, 2009
11:33 am

you really really think that it is through religion that you gain oneness with God?

I was wondering the same thing?….

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:34 am

@Page-Okay

In layman’s terms a religion is an organized and structured belief system, however spirituality is generally neither focusing more on an individuals beliefs than a groups. Religion is man’s limited attempt to reach out and understand God. Spirituality is God reaching down to man and inspiring man’s mind to understand and know Him. God is a Spirt the only way to relate to God is spiritually, the word spirit in the ancient Greek text means “life”. Being religious is following after a religious teaching about God. Being spiritual is seeking after the truth to know God, to know life. So, if want to “know” God you have to learn to “know” Him on a spiritual level. If you want to know “about” God then you join a denomination or some religious sect where men will teach you “about” God or whatever you decide to follow

W8©

August 10th, 2009
11:35 am

Spirituality comes from within you. Religion comes from outside of you.
Spirituality is the self understanding of your reality through your submition of whatever your higher power is. Higher power is the concept of believing in something beyond your power, beyond your intellect, or a peak of ones own knowledge, however one decides to decipher their higher power renders their own definition of God.
Nothing or no one can give you spirituality. But many can give you religion if allow them too.

Dan

August 10th, 2009
11:35 am

@abc

Let Demi answer in his own way.

But for me spirituality and religion can be two different things. Sometimes they are linked, sometimes not (based on the individual, of course).

For me religion is a set of beliefs: personal and intimate. Spirituality is the essence of that belief of a “higher power” or the interconnectivity of Man in general.

I think you can be spiritual without being particularly religious (or have your beliefs tied to a particlar doctrine of faith); and that a person can experience religion via spirituality.

Always Sexy...Forever Cool...

August 10th, 2009
11:36 am

w8Being religious is following after a religious teaching about God. Being spiritual is seeking after the truth to know God, to know life.

Just awesome.