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Getting In The Way

There are so many single people that are oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them. So many of us focus on the absolute wrong thing, that we end up getting in our own way of making a connection. Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you. You are part of the problem and you may not know it.

One thing that I have noticed that I do is act very aloof with men that I am interested in. I have had this problem for quite a while and even when I actively try to change it, it seems to be a defense mechanism that kicks in like a knee-jerk reaction. What do you think is getting in the way for you?

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While the single women in Atlanta can boast of their hot looks and gym tight figures, they are happy to turn the heads of gentleman. They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks. They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that, I think. Just as much as they need a woman that looks great and can put together a great meal.

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

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Willing to learn

August 6th, 2009
8:54 am

“They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. ”

What an insightful posting that has me actually responding and not lurking! Guilty as charged. I can hook a man, but he soon loses interest. (Hard to admit.) I’ll be reading today from the ladies and gents as to how to capture (and continue to capture) a man’s imagination and his mind.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
8:58 am

Good Morning All:

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships?

I think what is getting in the way is that we do not know ourselves. Seriously most people do not know who they are nor are they in tuned with their own capabilities and power. Most of the folks walking around are unreflective thinkers (google it if you don’t know what it means because it might be you). Therefore when you have all of that going on it is grounds for disaster.

To sum it all up, “our” ME included thinking or lack or thinking is what is getting in the way…nothing more or nothing less.

What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

If I work on my thinking everything else will fall into place.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
9:00 am

Welcome to the blog Willing to Learn…

If you don’t mind I have a question for you. Do you feel like the men you are meeting are worth capturing? Do they capture your imagination and mind?

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
9:07 am

Good morning All,

If I had to name one thing it is that I have a inner defense system. Like one of those spy movies where the lights go out, the steel encloses the windows and red track lights flash warning..warning..I shut down. If I feel threaten..I shut down. If I think a guy is getting to close I shut down. I analyze maybe overanalyze but if I suspect there is going to be something off kilter-Defense system up..commence shut down. Now do I plan to work on this…NO. I said the other day..I like my cracks. I like my defense system it has saved me some heartache a time or two..so I embrace it, if someone comes along that I feel a need to make adjustments to the system then I might.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
9:14 am

Good Morning Wise!

I mentioned my problem earlier this week…I overthink things. The term “going with the flow” is very difficult for me. Why? Because most men I’ve encountered aren’t consistent. Something that flows is moving…it’s consistently moving so how do you go with the flow when things aren’t moving? People (men I’ve encountered) say one thing and do another, which leaves me with a lot of questions and usually they’re questions about me…so much so that I usually just lose interest in dating the person all together. There are just some things I need and although I’m a compromising person I do have certain expectations. The problem has become meeting people who meet those expectations. Now before I get stoned for stating I have expectations, keep in mind these are basic principles…do what you say you’re going to do, learn to communicate through talking and quit all this darn texting (UGH!), be considerate of my time, and don’t have your rep doing things you know you can’t keep up (consistency). I don’t think those are difficult priciples for an adult (man or woman) to keep up. Just my opinion.

In the meantime, I’m going to continue spending time with me. I’m really trying to get to a place that whatever state I’m in, I’m content. Everyday I’m accepting that although a healthy long-term relationship is what I desire it may not be in the cards for me (right now), but I still have a life to live and I need to do that with joy and peace.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
9:22 am

Now do I plan to work on this…NO. I said the other day..I like my cracks. I like my defense system it has saved me some heartache a time or two..so I embrace it, if someone comes along that I feel a need to make adjustments to the system then I might.

Kym, one thing I really admire about your posts is that you’re always honest…with yourself and with others. That’s a trait that’s rare these days but one that is to be commended.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
9:23 am

whats getting in my way – ME

My homeboy told me that yesterday…so did the skrippers…they were like there is no reason a man like you should be backed up…either you saying or doing the wrong things or picking the wrong women….lol…good post diva this should be a good one

lurker

August 6th, 2009
9:24 am

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While I can admit both men and women can be blamed for the “not so good” in relationships the aforemention (in bold) should be plaqued.

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
9:26 am

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships?

Good Morning Good People!

What has gotten in the way for me is me……. I am simply not ready to be in a relationship were I have to give up to much. My divorce was difficult, (it felt more like a death because I knew he loved me) so the grieving process and recovery is not what I want to subject anyone to. Therefore, short-term dating is the option that works for now……..no expectations.

I actually prefer friendships over the pretense that dating sometimes creates. I don’t go into the deep with folks often because at the surface most things are simple until feelings become involved. Although I can take or leave most people I ain’t gonna lie, there was one that really made wanna get my ish together and quick! LOL

Today, I am working on me at every level and it feels good.
But at my own pace………

Have a great day !! Check in later

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:28 am

Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

IT DOESN’T????? :(

:lol: Morning all. :)

lurker

August 6th, 2009
9:28 am

Oh, and to today’s post….I’ve learned to quiet down. It never hurts to give a little. Almost like knowing which battles to fight and which aren’t work the effort. My part in keeping peace I would sum….have really grown in this are but still ever evolving.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
9:29 am

“worth” is what I meant

abc

August 6th, 2009
9:30 am

oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them

You are part of the problem and you may not know it

great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger is enough to make women fawn all over him

Now, all of these are very strong indicators of poor self image. Do you think that someone has to somehow fabricate that which would keep someone interested in them? Do you think that your car, your clothing preferences and styles, and an arrogant front are aspects that others will find appealing? To subscribe to this mindset is to adopt a lifestyle based on presenting yourself as something you are not. This is common among chicks. Men will center their identity on their car and other materialism to compensate for their own lack of good self image, too.

Insinuating that if you’re not that way, that “you’re part of the problem and you may not know it” is to simply bash those that don’t feel the need to portray themselves as something they’re not.

Here’s a novel idea: stop being so shallow and become a genuinely more interesting person.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
9:30 am

They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that,

Aww Man!! Thats its right there.. I cant even make a comment I just got to let that marinate in the wind for a minute..

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
9:32 am

@Deeva Aww thank you kindly. Heck, lie to keep your lights on, lie to get out of a ticket. But lying to yourself about yourself..you only fooling yourself.

In the words of George W. Bush.. “Fool me once shame on you..Fool me twice..you can’t fool me again.”

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:32 am

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you.

I, personally, do think about my dating misadventures. I know when it’s me and I know when it isn’t.

Quite honesty, I don’t give up sex fast enough for many men. I was just having the convo with one last night, who reminded me, yet again, that there are plenty of fabulous women, who will give it up within days or weeks of meeting a guy.

That’s really great for those men and women. I’d rather you go for the quick lay. Really, I’ll be over here on the single’s perch not trippin.

Oh, and there was the guy that gave me the silent treatment over a silly argument we both contributed too. And he’s made I didn’t kiss his azz over it. Now he’s asking our mutual friend about me and how I am. I relayed back that he can stay gone. I’m keeping it simple in 2009 and I’m not playing those games. Sorry!

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
9:35 am

Good morning everyone!

The main thing that’s getting in my way is getting out there to meet like minded people. I need to go out more often than I do, which I’m thankfully changing and have met a few interesting people. Other than that, I’m perfect. :wink: Just Kidding!! I have to learn how to take people at face value and not always think that there’s an ulterior motive, at least until one is proven. There are some other things I need to work on that I may discuss later.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
9:35 am

I am curious why is it that a man cannot bring peace to his own mind and heart. Men need that? Shoot I do that for myself 24/7. I see myself as a help mate not a creator for men…I need the man in my life to be complete and let me be that supplementary component that enhance him and make him better. Not to sound negative, but there are some broken men out here flexing.

ImAPeach404

August 6th, 2009
9:41 am

@Deeva – I felt like I was reading my own post! I totally agree and relate to everything you’ve stated.

What is getting in the way of my dating relationships? Hell if I know. I wish I could hold a panal of all the guys I’ve only went out with once and never heard from again. I’d be open to hearing their constructive criticism.

Sometimes, I think I know too much. When I was 23 and didn’t care and didn’t know – dating was so much easier.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
9:42 am

They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that,

My mind, heart, and soul…are often a raging storm.

Some how, Wisdom…quite those storms

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
9:43 am

Its interesting this topic came up today.. Im having a great day but Im throwed this morning. Ya’ll know I been keeping folks at arms length since my divorce but Ive had this particular friend for a while who’s been being really patient with me. Just kinda letting me do my thing but she always said I’m a good dude but I was scarred. She knows I love music and she stopped by last night and dropped of a CD with one song on it. TRUST by Keisha Cole Ft Monica She said pay particular attention to Monica’s verse.. Ok so I listen to song, had heard it a million times before and it was like whoa.. So I fall asleep with this song on my mind.. Then wake up this morning they play it again on V1033. Dang! She throwed me fer sure cause I been running hard from anyone and everyone, purposely sabotaging relationships, pushing people away, but she didnt leave. Hey Im not saying shes the one but maybe I need to slow down a little and smell the roses a bit enjoy the scenery. Maybe I’ll take off my running shoes and put on some walking shoes..

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
9:44 am

@ So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

#1. I know what has gotten in the way for me was the initial stages. When I meet someone, I want to interact with them in person. Some people like to talk on the phone for weeks before they go out. I cant stand talking on the phone because I want to see you and your mannerisims, quirks, etc in PERSON. So I am working to talk on the phone more.

#2. I know what has also gotten in the way for me is the visual aspect. I am sure we are ALL GUILTY of this. I am learning to SCREEN better. If I can see past the visuals and really drill to the core, you will realize that there is not a lot of SUBSTANCE with people at times charge them and keep it moving.

#3. This is going to start some controversy, but I learned from my last relationship that you cannot ignore any disrespectful behavior. THIS GOES FOR MEN AND WOMEN. You may think it’s a minor detail, cute, or that it’s no big deal but you give them an inch and they want a football field. He’s texting on the phone while on a date with you, she trying to bash you in front of others, nip that in the bud asap…

I am a building in progress, how about you?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:45 am

Deeva – There is nothing wrong with wanting and expecting consistancy from the guys you date. I feel you on that.

The problem is that many guys want to give you half azz treatment and pass it off as A game. Stay strong and know what you deserve. A lot of folks are out there settling for less than they deserve.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
9:46 am

Prof – A man will get peace. The peace you want in the peace he finds with you not without you.. He will get peace no matter what. Thats all we look for in a mate can I come home to a peaceful environment because if not we can go get our own spot and get that peace we always need.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:48 am

#3. This is going to start some controversy, but I learned from my last relationship that you cannot ignore any disrespectful behavior

M – Why would that be controversal? Sounds like common sense to me.

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
9:49 am

It’s funny which makes you say out loud “Damn Diva that’s a good one”. LOL Things that make you “hmmmm”.

Diva, what is it about you that makes you feel that you are not good enough for those guys???

I agree that most of my dating issue were self inflicted. Everything has become so freakin’ textbook. The problem could very well be that the MLB and WLB attract like to identical magnet poles. Rather than bring the M’s and the W’s together it repels them further apart. Most WLB commentary that you read these days encourage W’s to be and think more like a man. But you know what my husband says about that, he doesn’t need me to his potnah. He needs me to be his partner. No this doesn’t mean that we should not have things in common and common interest, it just means that he’s the man and I’m the woman, we are different and that’s how it should remain. Men are attracted to women and women to men.

Now this…”the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart”…I absolutely love, love, love. I had a very intimate conversation with my oldest brother once. And it was about my husband Mason and all things related. He told me that a man goes to war every morning he leaves his house. It’s him against the free world fighting to get his. But his home and his relationship are his comfort and haven. Men don’t want to fight just as hard or harder in the place he goes to find solace as he does when on grind. I get that. I was happy to be given that little bundle of knowledge.

Now on my side, the W’s side, men need to be more understanding of a woman’s way. We are not men. We don’t think like men. We have emotions that you all need to learn to accept and deal with them. Lose the “imma man why should have to deal with vagina logic”. Well if you want to continue to have deal with the vagina you have to accept the logic that comes with it.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
9:51 am

@Ared I am in agreement on your 9:45.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
9:51 am

@ARed

Question for you, you said “The problem is that many guys want to give you half azz treatment and pass it off as A game.”

How does this work? Is it all a balancing act, like if he pursued you, then some women was say he was to thirsty, sweating you, or to eager, but if he didn’t then he would be labeled as not trying hard enough? Im begining to feel like we just cant get right…lol

Mike Jones (who)

August 6th, 2009
9:52 am

whats getting in my way–Me
I think you have to look at yourself first before pointing the finger at someone else. Since you are the common denominator in all of your relationships, what are you doing wrong. (note I haven’t always thought like this, before I would point the finger). But as time goes by you learn…Now I say the hardest part is finding someone that is on the same page as me and learning to be patient.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
9:53 am

@ARed, I said it may be controversal just as a disclaimer, you know how people get…its like a warning label… :)

Demi

August 6th, 2009
9:54 am

Hey 404

(I am curious why is it that a man cannot bring peace to his own mind and heart.)

Profess…men want to feel needed and women want to be needed.

most real men have a warriors spirit at heart (like our God) and most real women have gentle spirit at heart (like our God)

Bring the two together…you’ll have a beautiful thing.

two people of the same spirits…often do not last

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:55 am

How does this work? Is it all a balancing act, like if he pursued you, then some women was say he was to thirsty, sweating you, or to eager, but if he didn’t then he would be labeled as not trying hard enough? Im begining to feel like we just cant get right…lol

M – Go back and read Deeva’s post. You are not talking about what she is talking about.

It’s not about trying to hard or not enough. It’s about consistency in your actions. Many men are not consistant. I think it’s because many of them are managing a roster of women, instead of focusing on one. Nothing wrong with dating folks, but when you are juggling several balls in the air, you’ve gotta focus your attention on them all, or they will fall.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
9:56 am

@ARed, I said it may be controversal just as a disclaimer, you know how people get…its like a warning label…

M – But what was controversal about it though?

If I said the sky is blue, I don’t think I’d need a disclaimer on that. I just want to see why you think someone would have a problem or issue with “don’t ignore disrespectful behavior.”

The rest of your post didn’t get a disclaimer.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
10:01 am

@Infamous, your post was a great read. At least you recognize what you’ve been doing all this time and why you’ve been doing it. It just might be time for you to take off the running shoes and put on your walking shoes and take a nice, long walk with your friend. Good luck!

@Deeva ~ this deserves repeating :arrow: In the meantime, I’m going to continue spending time with me. I’m really trying to get to a place that whatever state I’m in, I’m content. Everyday I’m accepting that although a healthy long-term relationship is what I desire it may not be in the cards for me (right now), but I still have a life to live and I need to do that with joy and peace. Well said.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
10:02 am

@ARed

I saw her posts. So this is a QUESTION: So you can decipher between a guy who is managing a roster rather than 1 woman based on his actions i.e. consistency? I kinda disagree with that. Yeah it may be a lot of work, but what if he gives each woman a good mix of everything? I know EVERY woman has different levels of expectations, but what about that concept when you are trying to choose between 2 people? Obviously they are doing something right if both people still in the running and if they told everyone the deal up front?!

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
10:02 am

While rules are meant to assure the order of dispensation and to create a balanced setting and fair playing field for all involved in the game. But we have just incorporated too many damn rules in dating. And they are all one sided.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
10:02 am

Sometimes, I think I know too much. When I was 23 and didn’t care and didn’t know – dating was so much easier.

ImAPeach404, I feel the same way!!!

The problem is that many guys want to give you half azz treatment and pass it off as A game.

ARed, truer words have not been spoken…LOL

But you know what my husband says about that, he doesn’t need me to his potnah. He needs me to be his partner. No this doesn’t mean that we should not have things in common and common interest, it just means that he’s the man and I’m the woman, we are different and that’s how it should remain.

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar b.k.a Raqi (I think) I totally agree with that statement. ^5

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
10:04 am

We are our own enemy. For something that is fueled by nature itself we have made it so hard to do. The attractions are unavoidable. But we have made it so difficult.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:05 am

So you can decipher between a guy who is managing a roster rather than 1 woman based on his actions i.e. consistency? I kinda disagree with that

M – I didn’t say I could decipher. I said it was just a theory.

But it is impossible to give TWO people the same attention as ONE. Doesn’t matter the reason, and like I said there is nothing wrong with dating more than one person.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
10:07 am

Good Morning All!

This is an interesting topic as I have had to take a step back and evaluate me. I get in the way of myself by being understanding. My willinginess to be understanding has allowed men to think that they could say whatever and I would be okay. I had to shut that down real quick. I am a giver by nature and part of that plays into me be understanding, but I understand that it is a two-way street.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
10:08 am

Morning good people!

M dot – I understand how you may feel the need to add a disclaimer cause folks can take seemingly innocent stuff on here and twist it around. But I actually identified with your disclaimed statement the most out of your post. That was the story of my dating life at one point – letting stuff slip until it built up into a big pile of resentment in me. Letting stuff go on longer than it should and hoping there would be a change. Listening to other people tell me that I was impatient and was not giving “good men” a chance! Ever since I realized this about myself and cut it out, life has been so much easier and my relationships have been more successful.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
10:08 am

Professor..I agree with your 9:39

ImAPeach404

August 6th, 2009
10:09 am

…I been running hard from anyone and everyone, purposely sabotaging relationships, pushing people away,

DK, I think I went out with you recently

Quite honesty, I don’t give up sex fast enough for many men.

AR me either. I like to lie to myself and say thats not the reason I’m getting pushed off, but I secretly know better. And you know what, I’m ok with it

Hey Demi!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
10:09 am

@Demi/DK thanks I can respect that…and it makes sense

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
10:09 am

Deeva4, we are made to fit like a puzzle. It should remain.

Willing to learn

August 6th, 2009
10:09 am

Professor, thank you for the welcome. Actually, I guess it flows both ways. I haven’t met too many captivating men. The type of guy who captures your mind by speaking -not spewing rhetorical game and surface conversation, but the ones who can talk politics, culture, current events, academia and then take it to sports, music etc. There have been only a small number of captivating people. All others are saying enough to talk you into the bedroom. I’m not knocking their approach, but that sort of thing typically fizzles out after 90 or so days and then the cycle starts over. A lot of the time, I can see the sell-by date the moment I meet a man.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
10:10 am

A.red…are you wearing pumps today?

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:10 am

Hello all…

Deeva4Life – Hey maam! …”Content”, is such a good word.

I caught HECK this moring in traffic!!! Some high school Seniors driving a caravan to school and it took me 30 minutes to get out of that rally….

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:11 am

lol @ Mrs. Spoken For…I love it!!!!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:11 am

A.red…are you wearing pumps today?

Demi….why are you asking…?

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
10:11 am

And I really think a lot of people are afraid that the thing just might happen but we fear the heartache the could be.

Elijah( Get that spirit and happiness will follow)

August 6th, 2009
10:11 am

Good Morning Everyone!

I have read some good post regarding this subject this morning.

@ABC…Talking about Self esteem is one of your strengths to converse about stick to it the words show good wisdom!

@Professor I am with you in regards to the peace statement, I am not looking for any woman to bring me peace. We should all have peace in our life before we entered in any relationship.

What I do know is I am not afraid to fail, I cannot hold back or worry about if someone is trying to get over on me in the dating game!

Mike Jones (who)

August 6th, 2009
10:12 am

Kimmie–
letting stuff slip until it built up into a big pile of resentment in me. Letting stuff go on longer than it should and hoping there would be a change

I agree

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar

August 6th, 2009
10:13 am

LOL Cemeeli that was my tag last night while out with a friend that is single. This one guy she knew asked my name and she said “Her name is Mrs. Spoken For”.

SexyCool - Grinding.

August 6th, 2009
10:14 am

Three Words Daily – Don’t resist change.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
10:15 am

Elijah-
The last part of your post is on point. I am not afraid to fail because life is about trial and error; learning from ones experiences and build upon them.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
10:18 am

I am not looking for any woman to bring me peace. We should all have peace in our life before we entered in any relationship.

There’s a huge difference though in disturbing the peace (or keeping…I should say) and (expecting someone to) bring. I’m at peace with myself, all the time but the ability to keep peace flowing between two different individuals where we may not agree on all things…as we are separate individuals…..takes effort.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
10:19 am

And I really think a lot of people are afraid that the thing just might happen but we fear the heartache the could be.

Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar, so true!!

Hey Cemeeli!!

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
10:19 am

I don’t give up sex fast enough for many men

why?

i just want to know is it the emotional connection is not there…or is it his perception of you afterwards…could you answer this for me please

SexyCool - Grinding.

August 6th, 2009
10:19 am

What has impeded me in the past? Impatience. Picking wrong Yeah, I know you said don’t use that one. – so, I will elaborate and say choosing the wrong individuals based on the wrong criteria. Not enough knowledge of self.

So, yeah. Those are the things that I am working on – Not wanting everything NOW, looking past appearances into character, continued self introspection and improvement.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:20 am

@ Mrs. Spoe Kinphoar – Good friend, that is. You did not havta beat ‘em off. She took care of that for ya. lol

I’m hungry…late to work…no breakfast…and i’m cold…

Professor

August 6th, 2009
10:21 am

@Fulfill I can relate to your that 10:07 I am a pretty cool person if I do say so myself but I have found guys and gals to take that as a weakness. Danger comes in judging a book by its cover because I will put a lid on things real quick. I do not have a problem with problem solving aka checking someone and setting him or her in his or her place…point blank period.

For the most part I am baffled when someone cannot accept kindness. What is that about? I guess a reflection on childhood and upbringing, because I expect people to be kind, considerate and compassionate towards me…ok I am off my soapbox, can one of you fellas grab my arm and help me down these stilettos are too high today?

Demi

August 6th, 2009
10:21 am

AmazonRed…I when love to give you a non-church like hug for your posts…I am in agreement with you for the most part.

East Point's Own

August 6th, 2009
10:23 am

AmazonRed Quite honesty, I don’t give up sex fast enough for many men. I was just having the convo with one last night, who reminded me, yet again, that there are plenty of fabulous women, who will give it up within days or weeks of meeting a guy.

In my case its not that I want a woman to give it up in the first week or two. I have dated women for months who I was very much interested in sexually when we met, and for several weeks afterwards… but at some point during month 1, 2, or 3 the desire to have sex just faded away. I mean I may still like them in all other ways but I just lose the drive to have sex with a particular woman after a certain period of time if it has not happened. Its been to the point where when the woman tried to make it happen I was not even feeling it anymore and did not let it happen.

But on the other hand I dated a woman for almost 2 years who I had sex with on the second date. So I can say with all honesty that if a woman gives it up in the first week I do not think of her in a negative way. But that’s just me…

Melo

August 6th, 2009
10:23 am

They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks

Frank had this discussion on radio yeaterday.

If u really want a man and a relatiosnhip,good looks and a phine body wont hurt u.Neither shld ur accomplishements.The qstion to be asked is,”what else is it about u other than the material suff that can go and come” Whats coming outa ur mouth and how do u carry urself,in public and in pvt.
Now, some of u maybe prisoners of ur upbringing, i understand that.If u are in that “comfort” (discomfort) zone,seek out other successful pple at relatiosnhips, and hear what they gotta say.U need a mentor too even when it comes to relationships and marriage.Gravitate towards other ladies or men that u admire and wld want to emulate and find out what their “secret” is.
Proclaiming that u independent,u got ish and ish is not gonna get u a man for long term.It will get u a man to sleep with,whose whole purpose for pursuing u was to brag to his hommies that he conquered you,Ms phine and Independent.Then what?
In he same breath,stay away from the men who lead with their money cars etc.Those are all good things to have but they dont make a good man.A good man is what he is about,his goals,his heart,his close family and the interaction with his community.Ur initial attraction to him may have been his trappings,thats understandable,we all viasual.But explore beyond that,be4 u sleep with him,to find out exactly how he conducts himself.
If u are a good and worthy woman and he is a good worthy man,u will find each other!
In addition and lastly,if u sek love,get prepared to be hurt.Luv does not come free! If u nurising hang ups from the failed relaiosnhips u have had in the past and u doog men eve time,”heh u men are this ,u men are that” u are not going to find luv.The new man who steps up to u is not the one who dogged and phlukked u last time,for no return to u.So spare him that tongue lashing and byiattch ass behaviour.Close the last chapters in ur failed relatiosnhips and open new, clean slates.
If u still nursing a failed relatiosnhip hangover,sit ur azz down!

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
10:23 am

@kimmie-livin my life like it’s golden!

THANK YOU That’s all I meant. Now if I just posted it up with total disregard it would have been an issue.

@AmazonRed™

I see your point of view also…

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
10:23 am

M. – Ok yeah you cant ignore 1 disrespectful act because they will only do it again..

C tha 1

August 6th, 2009
10:25 am

For some reason this topic is bringing me to the LA Fitness shootings in PA recently. Dude definitely was in his own way. But I was talking with my wife last night that their are plenty of men who desire to interact with a woman but simply lack the social graces to do so. Sad, of course. The shooter fell off the wagon some time ago and couldn’t get back on.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
10:25 am

Professor-
Exactly. I don’t have an issue putting someone in their place, but it comes out really harsh because I am chill spirit. Content my nature, but folks will test you. I think you hit the nail on the head with accepting kindness. I have been told that I have everything a man (that particular one) wanted without even asking, but it seemed to real.

Really? SMH whateva. Luckily I remain optimistic

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:26 am

M – I just asked “why” you would think it be controversial to someone. But since you have no answer, I’ll leave it alone.

SexyCool - Grinding.

August 6th, 2009
10:26 am

Melo – Standing ovation for that 1023a!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
10:28 am

@Willing 2 Learn thanks for answering my question and I must confess when I see that same old Rent-A-Center game flowing I first check myself and continue to be cool, but I will ask a few questions that will send the dude running. So, it may not be that you do not have the ability to capture his mind and stuff; he may not be worth capturing…

@Elijah ***What I do know is I am not afraid to fail, I cannot hold back or worry about if someone is trying to get over on me in the dating game!***
…I am with you on this statement; in fact I have a quote on my refrigerator that reads, “What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail.” The fear of failing often holds people back, but not this lion, tiger and bear.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:28 am

So I can say with all honesty that if a woman gives it up in the first week I do not think of her in a negative way. But that’s just me…

EPO – I’ve heard this from men. I’ve also heard men admit that they would judge her, even if it’s not fair.

But most importantly, having sex with someone I just met is not something that is appealing to me, whether I get judged for it or not.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
10:29 am

ImAPEACH – You prolly did for real..

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
10:29 am

@AmazonRed™

I thought it would be controversial to someone because you would be surprised at what people dont know or care to embrace. I just did not want to offend anyone. You have to remember AmazonRed™ that everyone wont always be on the same level in any area and sometimes everyone needs a little help even if it is common sense to you.

abc

August 6th, 2009
10:31 am

Failure can be good. It should indicate that you’ve learned something not to do.

In the absence of knowing what to do, being able to rule out the things you know not to do is the next best alternative.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
10:31 am

(can one of you fellas grab my arm and help me down these stilettos are too high today?)

Hellz NO!!!

Demi is now looking for dolla bills…

Sassy/Mo/Cee…hush!!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:31 am

M – Still not answering the question. Really it’s okay, dude.

I know how things can get twisted on here. I didn’t argue with that.

It’s cool, really.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
10:32 am

Elijah – Im gonna need you to stop getting on here just to agree with these chicks.. Come on Cuz show them some insight into a mans world. They meet yes dudes all day everyday.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
10:32 am

Melo’s 10:23….OUTSTANDING!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:33 am

AmazonRed…I when love to give you a non-church like hug for your posts…I am in agreement with you for the most part.

:lol:

Demi – I have on loafers today.

East Point's Own

August 6th, 2009
10:34 am

AmazonRed As in most things in life half the people will always disagree with what you do, so its best to do what makes you comfortable… and just deal with those who can get with your program.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
10:35 am

Morning Folks!

I think what’s gotten in the way of my past relationships is impatience and not recognizing and embracing the gender differences. These go hand in hand in a way.

I’m not say all women are like this, but I’m very expressive about my feelings – sometimes too expressive because, being the Gemini that I am, how I feel right now may be different from how I feel 2 hours from now. It’s difficult for me to hide my emotions. While I may not say anything my face will give it away. So if I’m feeling a little down those around me will know. If I’m excited, folks will know and so on. Not only will they know – if asked (by someone close) I’ll tell them why.

That is not so with men – so if I detect something’s wrong, I wanna know. In the past, if a guy said nothing but continued to act differently I would either press or assume he’s about to pull a disappearing act and pull back myself (which leads to my impatience). Neither reaction is good for a relationship.

So over time I’ve learned to appreciate that menfolk aren’t going to tell me what’s going on until they get a chance to work it out within themselves. I’m still working on that patience part – just this morning my guy seemed a little out of sorts when we left the gym. I asked him if he was alright. He said yes. Then I asked if he was alright, alright or was it a ‘he needs to process and tell me later’ alright. He said he was fine…but I know something’s going on in that mind of his. I suspect I’ll hear about it on the ride to the beach tomorrow – but I won’t ask again (and it’s driving me crazy!!!)

W8©

August 6th, 2009
10:38 am

Hmmm, Whats getting in my way? I would say my communication skills and my tolerance levels. I tend to withdraw when someone is over talkative or seems to always have the answer or is pointing fingers. I have no problem with accountability at all. On the way to bettering myself I refuse to drop my standards for a potential mate. Whether it be her ability to bring more peace than drama in my life, her spiritual walk, her ability to cook, her looks..etc etc. I will not compromise those things,I have gotten sidetracked into prototypes that weren’t exact working models but during that process I have found out more things that I need to work on with me. My mindset when a relationship doesnt work out is always “W8, what could you have done differently?” and I go from there. Lastnight I was talking to a great female friend and she asked me about folks feelings. I said “not my problem, thats how I stay drama free” That’s something else I need to work on…if I detect one ounce of drama, I have a great “on and off switch” and will just keep on stepping, with no explanation. I have gotten to a point in my life that if I like someone and if she does anything that starts to tear at my heart I will just leave, because I know that it’s only a matter of time before I start dissecting her and realizing why I shouldn’t be with her….man I don’t even know what I am typing now..my mind is all over the place…and like I said communication is my biggest hinderance when it comes to relationship…i digress

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
10:38 am

Melo – Outstanding. That says it all right there, and you put it so much better than Frank “I Think I’m The Shyt” Ski ever could!

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:39 am

Alvin Please tell Demi Cee said…good one don’t come around often. Just get her those stilettos you’d like her to have…

Tazzee Happy Early Friday! All i ask is for picture text.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
10:40 am

@Fulfilling I know all about stuff coming out harsh, even without cussing mine comes out harsh regardless and it is a shocker to most. I will say this a lot of times I will ask a few questions which will put the guy on notice and I do not have to go there, but when I go there be it a guy or gal I will give them the business signed and sealed.

Hey Melo! I am with you on that post. You brought it this morning…

Dang Demi! I just knew you would give me a hand! :-o Oh well I have strutted down anyway :)

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
10:40 am

M. – Thats condescending ARED.. you’ll get used to it..

Now what I’m waiting for is her to say something is wrong with her besides she doesnt give it up and all these dudes just cant get it together.

ARED – Dig deep babe and open up to the blog.. Aint nobody gonna judge you..

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
10:41 am

Close the last chapters in ur failed relatiosnhips and open new, clean slates.
If u still nursing a failed relatiosnhip hangover,sit ur azz down!

Good stuff Melo!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:42 am

so its best to do what makes you comfortable… and just deal with those who can get with your program.

EPO – Precisely. Which is why I feel no pressure to give into things I don’t agree with just to have a man. Maybe if I hated being single or had a biological clock ticking I’d feel differently.

There are lasting marriages in my family. I can’t just settle for any old thing.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
10:43 am

Cemeeli can’t send picture texts on the iPhone. I’ll send you an email though. See, this is why you need to get on FB – real time pics….but I won’t pressure you ;-)

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:46 am

.A good man is what he is about,his goals,his heart,his close family and the interaction with his community.

If u are a good and worthy woman and he is a good worthy man,u will find each other! Close the last chapters in ur failed relatiosnhips and open new, clean slates.

How freakin” good is that?!!! I love it when you’re like this.

Melo Pre-vacation is mugg, hunh? :) …my boy…

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:48 am

DK – You must be my groupie today. :)

I have open up to the blog. When something is relevant, I cop to it. I have nothing to hide in my dating experiences. Come here more often. However, I don’t have whoa is me stories of gross mistreatment. I’ve known my worth for a long time.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
10:50 am

@THE INFAMOUS DK lol

@ Ared Can you say the number 1 area where you think men fail and I tell you the area where I think women fail?

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
10:51 am

@ Tazzee – I will one day…:) My family is sending pic. via FB and i’m like “LOOK, i don’t have a FB profile.” Then they send them via email or pic text. Lol…i’m stone age.

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
10:53 am

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:53 am

M – Go for it.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
10:56 am

Tazzee, if you created the album, you can sent pics to people to view even if they don’t have a FB account. There will be a public link at the bottom of the album.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
10:56 am

Lol…i’m stone age.

Cee – You’re not the only one, Sis!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
10:58 am

Good topic….I’ll answer with a testimony…

The number one thing that I did to become marriage minded was ask myself was I ready for a successful relationship. For quite sometime, I was prepared for the females that weren’t for me such as gold diggers (I called them,” leeches”). I purposely would deal with people with a long handled spoon.

Also, I good at finding ways to disqualify people. Sometimes, it was as simple as her nose is too wide. She talks too much. She has manhands. I tried to justify it by saying that I supposed to be picky. I got really good at finding ways to pull to back. It became as easy as wiping my azz after a dump.

I had always been upfront with females and didn’t have to lie to get someone to rabbit dance with me. So, that wasn’t a problem. I met plenty of good females, and that wasn’t a problem.

However, I was the problem. I ended up asking myself was I really ready for successful relationship. We all like to believe that we are. However, many are not and do not really realize it.
Successful relationships mean change. Letting someone into your space comes with successful relationship. Letting someone see what the general public doesn’t get to see comes with a successful relationship. Mutual give and take comes with a successful relationship. It means that life as I had become used to having was going to change.

In reality more people have a fear success than they do failure. Many folks see relationships going well, and then for some reason they start to sabotage it or find something wrong with the other person.

Fear of Success is usually an unconscious thing. It is like the first two lines of the poem entitled “Our deepest fear”:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

This poem is especially important for me as man to be the head of the family that I am destined to be.

With us being the real first generation of kids from the divorce boom of the 80s and 90s, many males and female of our generation know more about failing relationships than we do about successful relationships. That leads to whole different Jerry Springer show.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
10:59 am

Great post PG!

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:00 am

Ok, I think (this is MY opinion) that women fail in the area of reciprocation. Sometimes, everyone is concerned about having their needs met and are not taking into consideration the concept of dealing with the other person. Dating is a 2 way street not a dictatorship; yes I know men are supposed to pursue etc but also you have to put yourself in the guys shoes. What are you bringing to the table other than the trivial things? Why should I deal with you?

It is kinda like venture captialist. They invest in businesses because they want a return on investment. They care about money and how they are going to get it back and then some. Now what that exact return is up to you but do know that if guys are putting in their time, that they want returns. So if a guy takes you out 5 times and you have a great time, try planning something for him for the next time. Trust me it will be rewarded and appreciated.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
11:00 am

AmRed – thanks. I’m not sure if I can do that with my mobile uploads ‘album’ I’ll have to check into it.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
11:00 am

you too PG….great post that is

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:01 am

@ Ared

Ok, I think (this is MY opinion) that women fail in the area of reciprocation. Sometimes, everyone is concerned about having their needs met and are not taking into consideration the concept of dealing with the other person. Dating is a 2 way street not a dictatorship; yes I know men are supposed to pursue etc but also you have to put yourself in the guys shoes. What are you bringing to the table other than the trivial things? Why should I deal with you?

It is kinda like venture captialist. They invest in businesses because they want a return on investment. They care about money and how they are going to get it back and then some. Now what that exact return is up to you but do know that if guys are putting in their time, that they want returns. So if a guy takes you out 5 times and you have a great time, try planning something for him for the next time. Trust me it will be rewarded and appreciated.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
11:02 am

Someone pass me a bag of Salt ‘n Vinegar potato chips…imma be sittin’ inside Kym’s inner Grace today.

IslandGirl aka IG

August 6th, 2009
11:02 am

Good Morning Folks,

Just stopping in to say hello. This is an interesting topic and it is great to hear everybody’s perspective. My personal experience has taught me to be patient and don’t serve up my goods on a platter.

You can’t expect any guy to truly love and respect you if you don’t respect yourself. I think it is important for me to set the tone of the relationship I expect to have. It is sooooo irritating to me when men think because you have been on a couple of dates then you owe them something (particularly sex).

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Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:04 am

@M.Dot

What happens when a woman has done the outlined things in your 11 and still nothing comes of it?

SexyCool - Grinding.

August 6th, 2009
11:06 am

And that’s why I call you Big Poppa. Awesomely introspectivePG. Thanks for sharing.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:07 am

@Fulfilling Me

At that point, they probably are not worth your time or effort. Charge them and keep it moving.

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
11:08 am

Good Post PoppaG.

@Cee I am feeling very much like Grace from Saving Grace..I can relate to that character well. So today I am embracing my Grace.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
11:08 am

Poppa Grande, great post!!

abc

August 6th, 2009
11:10 am

If a guy takes her out 5 times and something isn’t reciprocated, then he should assume that she doesn’t have a genuine interest in him, or that she has nothing to offer that’s of interest to him. No, I’m not talking about sex; I’m talking about genuine interest in each other as people.

For people who persistently consider themselves not interesting enough, or consider that others aren’t interesting enough to them, I’d suggest involvement in a church. Discover your Spiritual Gifts and pursue them. Get involved in social outlets available through the church, Bible study groups, men’s/women’s/singles groups. You’ll meet people, they’ll be interesting, and you’ll be interesting too — especially once you shed the notions of what you want, what you deserve, what you consider ’settling’, you, you, you. Self image problem? Self-focus and absorption issue? They seem almost related to each other.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
11:10 am

What happens when a woman has done the outlined things in your 11 and still nothing comes of it?

Fulfilling/M Dot – I ask that question too, because reciprocation has never been a problem for me, but as Professor said earlier, sometimes your kindness is taken for weakness. Now that will never stop me from being me, but are there really THAT many women out here that are just taking, taking, taking and not giving ANYTHING in return or showing ANY appreciation? If so, like I’ve said before, upgrade your selection process.

Elijah( Get that spirit and happiness will follow)

August 6th, 2009
11:10 am

@Melo…. You get an A for that post young brutha!

@Professor….Can you give the fellas a description of the complete description of your entire outfit that you are wearing with those stilettos? j/k! :smile: Professor are the students able to concentrate around you? :wink:

@DK…. Women treat me too good for me to turn on them like that! I have been broken down by a woman,but, I have recovered from that broken heart! Now, I do not worry about failing again in a relationship but I try remind myself everyday to give every relationship I have my best effort!

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
11:10 am

hmmm….while checking out my big hands…I ask myself:

Am i ready of a successful relationship? Yup, long overdue! Not only am i ready, i’ve set aside the ENERGY to keep it successful!!!

PoppaG I really understood “stay safe” mode. Hell, i was a President of said company not long ago. But at this stage in my life i’m moreso i’m in the whole “it’s better to have loved, than none at all”…I riding the tidal waves…yes indeedy.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
11:13 am

W8

Thanx. I was taken back to that time by a recent post of yours. You talked about having a relationship with God in that post. I truly believe God wants us to be successful. Therefore, we shouldn’t be fearful of success.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:13 am

For the right person the right person will act the right way……

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:13 am

@ M. Dot

Exactly. Thanks for responding.

Deeva4Life

August 6th, 2009
11:14 am

Trust me it will be rewarded and appreciated.

M. really now? Because I’ve done those things and more) and they were not appreciated (didn’t do it for a reward). I’m a big fan of recipriocity but the men I’ve encounteredwere not. In addition to the fact, when they had women who were forever taking (and never giving back) you hear all the stories about how he kept doing for her, kept giving to her, yada,yada,yada. So from my experiences I disagree with your post, or should I say your post doesn’t apply to me.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:15 am

@Kimmie

I agree. I was raised to do for others when they do for you. I don’t mind taking my man out and spending on him if he has demonstrated the same to me. In fact, I love to show my man (when I have one) that appreciate him.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:16 am

Now, I do not worry about failing again in a relationship but I try remind myself everyday to give every relationship I have my best effort!

Nuff said Eli…..everybody’s dropping gems today…that’s what’s up.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:16 am

@PG- I agree with your 11:13, and I am my own worst enemy..behind the scenes I have been cleaning house and getting in order. You have to plan and act for success and not just expect it to be brought to you.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:17 am

For the right person the right person will act the right way……

I cosign……

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:18 am

Elijah I am not messing with you today! I will say this I am looking good and feeling even better.

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:18 am

@W8

Your 11:16 is exactly were I am at. Cleaning house, getting things in order, and preparing myself mentally, spirtually, and emotionally to receive my blessings. I had to stop being my own blessing blocker.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:19 am

@Deeva4Life

I understand what you mean and it’s definately not always going to work the same for everyone like every dating experience wont be a home run but it will be a valuable experience one way or another and hopefully you grow and learn from that even if it was negative.

Wise Diva

August 6th, 2009
11:19 am

wow, Infamous, is that really you?! I love it when you open up and share, your less edgy side :)

I am absolutely loving the comments today, soo thoughtful. Keep them coming, guys!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:19 am

@Sassy- It really is that simple..IMO and it goes both ways

Elijah( Get that spirit and happiness will follow)

August 6th, 2009
11:20 am

@PG…. Great Post mayne!

Those are true words of wisdom! Are you ready for a successful relationship!

@ Now PG can you go solve the NFL rookie contract situation! Paying rookies millions of dollars in bonus who have yet to establish themselves in the NFL is going to ruin the NFL someday!

Now back to the regular program!

@W8…. You cannot act right unless you are already right! No one can make you straighten up if you got a whole lot of bad in ya!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
11:21 am

If a guy takes her out 5 times and something isn’t reciprocated, then he should assume that she doesn’t have a genuine interest in him, or that she has nothing to offer that’s of interest to him.

abc – I agree. I don’t go out of my way for someone I’m not interested in, but then again, I probably would have figured that out before 5 dates too.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
11:22 am

Excellent post, PoppaG

I just got a call from a friend saying he misses me and wants to hug and kiss me. He then says goodbye. This isn’t the first phone call I’ve received like this. However, this time I call him back and ask why he keeps making these calls to me and not following up w/anything. He says “I know you’re special and you won’t tolerate me as I am and all my BS. So, I’m working on myself before stepping to you.” Again BS at it’s finest. I know this man too well, and he’s not changing! But, I can’t change how he thinks but I know how to keep it moving all the while taking care of myself!

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
11:23 am

Letting someone into your space comes with successful relationship.

This may not be big to some, but in the past I wouldn’t let a guy I was dating use my bathroom. Didn’t matter if we were watching a movie in my room, I would have him go use the guest bathroom. (that started when this guy I was dating dribbled on my floor one time) The first time my guy went to use my bathroom I almost freaked out, but I let him – that was a big step for me but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him to go to the hall bath…he deserved better than that.

Listening to ‘Breathe Into Me O Lord’ on my Fred Hammond pandora station…. I need to unpack my CDs!!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:25 am

It really is that simple..IMO and it goes both ways

I totally agree W8 that it’s that simple and it must go both ways in order for things to be successful. I guess I’m at a crossroads right now….no I take that back b/c I’ve reflected enough and have realized that I should change things up so-to-speak…..be more social…do more things…meet new people. I’ve also realized that it’s okay to give myself the things that I don’t get from others. Too often people look outward for their happiness but I don’t….I start with ME and work from there.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
11:25 am

Thanx uall,cant play till afternoon!
Bossman hating on my pre-vac CEE!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
11:26 am

LeggsHowever, this time I call him back and ask why he keeps making these calls to me and not following up w/anything.

Don’t enable a BSer. A man that’s ready to bring it will, and void of BS. Call a mental foul on him and keep the ig on him.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:26 am

Do you look at the “Cover”
Talk to someone who read the “book”
Read the “Cliff Notes”
Read the Narrative
Read the whole book.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
11:26 am

AmRed – thanks. I’m not sure if I can do that with my mobile uploads ‘album’ I’ll have to check into it.

Tazzee – Good point. I don’t think you can either. My bad.

Enjoy the beach!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
11:26 am

Elijah

Everyone except the rookies benefitting from the current system wants a change.

I’m a proponent of the slotted system that the NBA uses for draft picks. I think that it is coming soon since the Owners voided the last two years of the current CBA (collective bargaining agreement) with the players union. There will be some renegotiation on this issue especially since Upshaw is gone.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:28 am

@Eli- The right person will bring out the best in the right person…having the right person doing things that is even new to the right person

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
11:28 am

gotta go pick up one car (45K svc) and drop off the other (oil change)

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
11:28 am

Ok, I think (this is MY opinion) that women fail in the area of reciprocation. Sometimes, everyone is concerned about having their needs met and are not taking into consideration the concept of dealing with the other person.

M – I agree with you. And I know I have failed with that sometimes sitting up on Princess perch!

I think the main problem with men is consistancy. They want you to be loyal when they aren’t. They say things and do not do them. It’s very frustrating how you have to prove how “down” you are for a man who is fickle in return.

Grace

August 6th, 2009
11:29 am

good morning,

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships?

One guy told me I complained too much and was too blunt, another told me I was unresponsive and had a nonchalant attitude and yet another told me that I was too stubborn and spoiled. 3 different men with 3 totally different opinions. I sum it up as they all wanted to move way too fast and since I didn’t they bounced. I admit I am to some point all of the above but those are the traits I have that keep me from getting way over my head being lead by attraction instead of getting an emotional connection first.

I don’t know what I will change about myself to accommodate a man in my life. Since with life everyday bring changes. One thing I can work on is communication, not being too blunt with it and stop being having a sharp tongue.

SexyCool

August 6th, 2009
11:30 am

I think another place where we all go wrong in dating/relationships is our tendency to forget that we too are a prize, a gift, a wonderful thing to behold. We can want a person in our lives so bad sometimes that we allow ourselves to become secondary in our own life story.

We give up much power when we lose awareness of self.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:31 am

@ Fulfilling Me I will say this a lot of people want someone to treat them well, be engaging, worry about their well being etc. That is all good, I have no problem with buying a man dinner, or cooking him dinner hell I actually enjoy it because I like treating others. Some people are so jaded and scorn and not accustomed to kindness that you are speaking the wrong language to them. However when I see the BS going on dude acting a fool or cannot except proper treatment I just ask a few questions and he will get the drift. I usually will not call dude on the fact that he claim to have to two expensive cars, but I keep seeing him in this entry level girl car, or his job title and what he is say he do does not match up, or the fact that his stories are just too over the top and I know he is lying. Why should I go there…I just ask a few questions, which lets him know the Rent-A-Center lies need a new home?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
11:32 am

I truly believe God wants us to be successful. Therefore, we shouldn’t be fearful of success.

Amen.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:32 am

Are you ready for a successful relationship!

This reminds me of a song off of India Arie’s first cd called “Ready for Love”….it spoke to me and just thinking about the lyrics is making my eyes misty(I want to cry actually but I’m at work and must focus)….feeling rather melancholy….I need a big bear hug :(

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
11:32 am

@lurker, exactly what I haven’t been doing…enabling him. This time, I had to call for my own clarity. The fact that I haven’t called him in months prompts his calls to me. First time I’m hearing of “he’s working on himself.” Probably just graduated from psych 101. He must have heard these words from someone cuz he’s the “take me as you see me” type of guy with no apologies for his behavor. Now at 51 he wants to take inventory. Guess it’s never too late, but too late for me.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:34 am

@Ellijah ***You cannot act right unless you are already right! No one can make you straighten up if you got a whole lot of bad in ya!***

You are on point today…I need to add your class participation points in…

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
11:34 am

He says “I know you’re special and you won’t tolerate me as I am and all my BS. So, I’m working on myself before stepping to you.” Again BS at it’s finest.

Leggs – I was already to go “awwwww!” until you dismissed his azz! :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:35 am

I’ve seen the best players. gold diggers(Male/female) etc…meet the right person and the transformation is like day and night…once they found what they are looking for it’s like a whole new life for them. Some have long term relationships, some have gotten married some have started families, faithful and just plain old happy. My homeboys and homegirls say I should right a book about my dating experiences..I tell them I will once I have a final chapter..lol..because deep down over the past month or to I don’t know if I want to be married again…it’s a big question mark for me now…and that let’s me know that I am not ready yet….now I am fine with where my love life is right now in it’s slow process…but I don’t know what I want the end result to be…marriage or just a long-term never ending relationship…lmao..hey just being honest (flame suit on)

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
11:35 am

Tazzee – How cute!…Let the man in your bathroom he aint looking in you medicine cabinet. He just need to take a p.

:)

IslandGirl aka IG

August 6th, 2009
11:36 am

That was a very insightful post from “PG”. I also agree with you “abc”. I truly believe relationship is when there is a reciprocation, if not what is it really. What my biggest issue is the idea that some men have adapted the idea of expecting sex (particularly) because they have dined with, or spent time with you.

I was very naïve in my thinking that most people want a good relationship with a good person. Most people think they do, but their actions don’t line up. I am a very giving person. I love people and I like to see people around me happy. As I got into dating relationships over time I gave too much of myself. That was my poor judgment and no one else. I failed may times and learned to hard way.
Where I stand today is that I don’t pour out myself like that anymore. If a man is not willing to get to know me which will take some time, especially with my clothes on…then he needs to keep it moving.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
11:36 am

@SexyCool ~ “think another place where we all go wrong in dating/relationships is our tendency to forget that we too are a prize, a gift, a wonderful thing to behold.” EXACTLY, and I refuse to forget this!

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:37 am

@ Professor
I think that is it. I stopped probing awhile ago because I was accused of being overanalytical about things, but realized that I have to put that back into the mix because it eliminated idiots. It sad to me because I like who I am, what I have to offer, and the potential of person I can be. I will not compromise who I am nor will allow you to trample over me. That goes back to my understanding quality, its not a weakness its a gem (to me). Respect it.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
11:39 am

I think the main problem with men is consistancy. They want you to be loyal when they aren’t. They say things and do not do them. It’s very frustrating how you have to prove how “down” you are for a man who is fickle in return.

Amred – I agree. I’m not jumping thru hoops if you can’t follow thru on simple things. Be a man of your word.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:39 am

Tazzee I thought I was the only person with that bathroom rule. I don’t think I can break it…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:40 am

now I am fine with where my love life is right now in it’s slow process…

Well W8 at least you have a love life to speak of….whenever I get back in I’ll be starting from ground zero….which is fine for me….for right now. No need to rush ’cause if it’s not right today then it might not be tomorrow.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
11:41 am

Melo – Where you’re going, i’m hating on your pre-vacay too! :) The boss not trippin.

I have a lil bit more time before i’m outta here.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:42 am

M’- I lost your number and email..I am ready for those curtains and the wall done in the basement in the new home. I had to get a few second opinions. Mo, Staceye and Page came over and I took then to the basement showed them the vision and they agreed..and those women have great “style” so lets get it done. Well I took Page’s advice with a grain of salt…but please hit me up.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:43 am

What my biggest issue is the idea that some men have adapted the idea of expecting sex (particularly) because they have dined with, or spent time with you.

Why is that?….not all men do it but there for sure a good many that do….as a matter of fact someone said this just yesterday.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
11:43 am

Wisey ~ It’s everything I’ve ever tried to say about going beneath the surface rolled up in one post. So many men and women get lost in the facade. I’m talking about the person pursuing and the one being pursued. And if someone seems to put so much stock in their material or their physical alone, why wouldn’t the rest of the world believe that’s the main thing they’ve got going for em? But we’re so afraid of exposure… exposing our fear of only being valued for our @zz or title or possessions that some of us don’t speak it. Damn that. Your ‘voice’ is something that no one else can take away unless you allow it.

Not paying attention holds me back. Like I’m supposed to be focused on self improvement and being healthier thru 9/09, so I’m fairly oblivious. Actually I’ve always been this way since I expect gentlemanly behavior, cordial treatment, light banter. I’ve been accused after the fact of shunning advances when really I hadn’t noticed. Missed a coupla good ones too.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:44 am

@Fulfilling I will say this do not stop using your analytical skills. Thinking is the most important thing you can do, and above else embrace yourself strengths and weakness and you will be okay. I know you already know that so just keep doing it, and stay positive.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
11:44 am

Professor – You and Tazzee are funny with the bathroom rule. Bend a little (for the right dude)….let him see those thigh highs hanging on the back of your shower door. :wink:

Watch the smile on the face when he comes out.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
11:44 am

@Sassy-Love is a powerful word maybe I should not have used it..I meant it as in I am comfortable where I am with me..not that I am “in love”…ya feel me?

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:45 am

@AmazonRed™

I agree with you and I know I have done that. For me it’s usually based on something that I see or something that happens that affects my consistency..I am human

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
11:48 am

@Professor

Thank you. Mine has been a journey of learning, discovering, and loving me. As continue to grow, as stated early, my blessings will come.

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
11:48 am

@AmazonRed™

I totally agree with you there. I have been guilty of that and I notice my consistency is always affected by something that is said or done…Im human

dw

August 6th, 2009
11:48 am

Ladies, if you want to keep a man’s attention, the solution is simple. If it feels a little too kinky or over the top…DO IT!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
11:51 am

@Cee I am not messing with you either! I just cannot bend that rule…I dated a guy for three years and he never used my bathroom. Is it safe to say I will know I have the right one when I let him use my “necessary.?” When I went to visit Mt. Vernon that is what they called the bathroom the necessary…that tickled me.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:52 am

ya feel me?

I sure do ;) As I’ve said one has to start with one’s self and go from there…we all have to be comfortable with ourselves before we can or even want to be in a relationship. Sometimes I hear women say they don’t feel complete without a man but I think you shoulda been that way(complete) before you got with the man. If you’re not 100% then whatever you’re putting out there is full of hyprocrisy at best ’cause it’s not the real YOU.

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
11:54 am

@W8 You are right love is a powerful word. But I always think we give more power to the words “IN Love” than we do just “Love” someone says I am in love with you..I really can’t take it serious..in love means there is potential to fall out of love. But if someone says I love then I have to evaluate the seriousness of that statement because Love..that means staying power..and that requires serious thinking before throwing it out there. <<<<This is all my own personal opinion of course.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
11:54 am

Ladies, if you want to keep a man’s attention, the solution is simple. If it feels a little too kinky or over the top…DO IT!

That,too, gets old eventually….where is the substance? :???:

Then again maybe you were joking……

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
11:54 am

MELO You know I miss your Zulu musings when I’m away…you really have LOTS of sense. But please continue your concerted efforts of Tom Foolery. It keeps me from not pushin Queen down the steps tryna get her spot! ;)

PG Everytime I let go of the whole Mormon style marriage… That poem is so powerful and I used to recite it over and over. I diagnosed myself with a Fear of Success several years ago and left a safe job. People still ask me why. Just never been into complacency. And the lack of a safety net is heck of an impetus. Plus, I ain’t into whining, so I’m good with my choice.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
11:54 am

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
11:56 am

I don’t know if I want to be married again…it’s a big question mark for me now…and that let’s me know that I am not ready yet…

W8 – It also just lets you know that you haven’t met the right one either.

Like you said, there is a “transformation” when the right person comes into your life.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
12:00 pm

Professor Im’a leave ya’ll alone…

“The Necessary”?…oookay.

I’m just saying, you aint gotta mess with ole CEE…sniffs…sniffs..lol. But on the real, what’s in there that he ain’t seen before already? I’m talking about someone you are “relatonship” status.

See Tazzee, she figured “what da hay” right after she thought about it.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:00 pm

dayum

What’s up Rell?….deep aint it.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
12:00 pm

*Mean muggin at W8* lol. Hmmmmm ok, re: your 11:42…so let me get this straight, you didn’t like my idea about turning the basement into a “Freak Em Man Cave”? LOL. You said you would do whatever me, Mo, and Staceye agreed to, right? So, ok that means, the red (of course) freak ‘em circular bed in the beasement with the red velvet comforters, strobe light, wet bar, and 100 inch flat screen tv! And what about the master bath with that freak’em shower and bath tub?! I think you gave Staceye and Mo free reign on the decoration of that, rememberrrrrrrr? DUH! Just make sure you leave the green curtain for me…lol.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:02 pm

@dw- sex is an after effect of a good relationship so it wont maintain it..although a fix has happened a time or two…nobody is perfect

@Kym- To me it takes a long time to build love. I love my daughters mother but I am not in love with her…that’s hard for me to explain but after nine years of marriage and we have been divorced for seven i still have a love for her…but yet I am not “in love” with her..we only talk about my daughter but I will always have a special place in my heart for her…but we both have no desire to be with one another in anyway…she gave me the most important thing in my life…and she does a good job being a mother…plus she was with me at my lowest of lows and my highest of highs…but the realtionship was not meant to be…my sons mother…that witch can die and I wouldnt care except for my son not having his mother around…so I don’t love her at all…the mistake was that I thought i was “in love” with her at one point.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
12:04 pm

W8 – Love but not in love, I totally get that.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:04 pm

Dang Page you didn’t just go off did you,girl :)

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
12:06 pm

LOL Sassy! Girl!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:07 pm

@Ared- You are correct

@Page- You know I saved that green curtain after they painted…and I am real funny about people being in my bedroom even more so my bathroom(that’s just a personal area)…as a kid I never went in my parents bedroom…and after the infant stage my kids didnt come into mine..Yall got carried away with decorating ideas and I said that yall could decorate the play room up stairs..and nothing else

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
12:07 pm

I enjoy your contributions, M DOT.

LEGGS How low can ya go? (Run with it…lol) I know you don’t like them older cat daddies. You mentioned needing to get out n’ about too, so pondering a good venue to recommend for your target demographic.

CEMEEEEEEEELI Did you mention cold earlier? Why does it take 1 long sleeve blouse, 1 pashmina & 1 lightweight jacket buttoned alll the way up to get thru a workday. The others don’t feel nuthin! Short sleeve, polo shirt, khaki pants wearing behinds.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
12:08 pm

LOL play room! Ummmmmm no. Basement and Master Bath was the deal! You know Staceye will decorate your bedroom in skulls and crossbones. lmao

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:08 pm

the mistake was that I thought i was “in love” with her at one point.

At least you “realized then recognized” that it wasn’t meant to be….some people stay b/c of children or the fear of not wanting to “start over” with someone new. It’ll be painful either way so why not leave when the writing is clearly on the wall?

sex is an after effect of a good relationship so it wont maintain it..although a fix has happened a time or two…nobody is perfect

:oops:

Professor

August 6th, 2009
12:09 pm

@Cee there is nothing in there I just will not share my bathroom. I do have a ______ under the sink but that is no big deal…it might scare him or turn him that just depends on if he is snooping.

I need something good for lunch I was going to eat a salad, but I don’t know…

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:10 pm

*off topic* Exes coming out the woodwork. Where is my bug spray…???

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:10 pm

@Sassy- they just tried to take over, once they walked in..grrrrrrrr

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
12:11 pm

W8- Plus, the driveway was kinda steep like going into the garage. How are you gonna manuever the BMW on the hill? Well, then again, it’s an automatic so you should be good. I remember when I had a stick, I hated parking on hills. I can barely parallel park as it is now lol.

Grace

August 6th, 2009
12:11 pm

Kym I have to agree with you when it comes to love. I’ve been told that and I question the seriousness behind it especially if there are no actions behind it or his actions doesn’t validate his love. Am I just supposed to hang on his word? heck no! and no he didnt tell me in the heat of the moment either…I don’t fall for that one…it’s always out of the blue.

Beautiful

August 6th, 2009
12:11 pm

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:13 pm

my sons mother…that witch can die and I wouldnt care except for my son not having his mother around…so I don’t love her at all

:shock: Dayum.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
12:15 pm

@mytwo, I can go very low (and don’t need no help getting back up). :lol: :wink: Yeah, don’t want any “cat daddies.”

Off topic: How the hell do you pay someone to murder your husband of only six months and not suspect you’re talking to an undercover cop. People are just stupid, greedy and selfish.

@Fulfilling, keep honing those analytical skills.

Honey

August 6th, 2009
12:16 pm

@FOR REAL, I like reading you. Wish I could meet men that wasnt into labels & commitment, they all want to tie me down sort of speak. Your lady is a lucky woman.

Grace

August 6th, 2009
12:16 pm

Ared I got my fly swatter ready for the exes…it tickles me when they send me email tags to befriend them, yeah right!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:17 pm

Honey…you sure you got the right For Real? :lol:

SexyCool - Back to the shallow end...

August 6th, 2009
12:19 pm

I think I’ve had enough relationship talk for the day. Y’all send me good vibes. I’m out.

Dueces…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:19 pm

@Page- who stole the Honda symbol off the back of your car?

@Ared- yeah I got played…played well by her..you live and you learn and she has tried to use my son as a pawn..by not letting me see him on the regular…so my mom gets him and brings him to me when she acts like that..I do my part child support, medical etc…I still will drop by the daycare and spend time with him…but honeslty if she were walking down the street in front of me and someone came and shot her in the head I would step right over her and not lose a step or shed a tear….

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:20 pm

they just tried to take over, once they walked in..

You know how we do :)

Melo

August 6th, 2009
12:23 pm

It keeps me from not pushin Queen down the steps tryna get her spot!

@Mytwo: that and b4 that, is the closest to ur confession i can get and i appreciate u 4 it!!!
Ur sophisticated mental musings have not escaped me either.Ur a phine dime too,i angst smetimes,just imagining u walking by.
Phluckk it,im in a tight box!
:lol: :lol: :lol:

( i was thinking about Rell last nite in ref to yesterday,can u imagine??And i said to myself,brother is in MIA,hes in the right spot,maybe he just needs a lil more mental nudge to get it going 4 him)

Beautiful

August 6th, 2009
12:23 pm

that was dedicated to *2CPTG*. lol. thanx for poppin’ in last week. *wink*

have a good w/e bloggers!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:24 pm

but honeslty if she were walking down the street in front of me and someone came and shot her in the head I would step right over her and not lose a step or shed a tear….

I don’t EVER want to represent THAT to a man…ever. I don’t want to ever hurt anyone like…

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:24 pm

Ared I got my fly swatter ready for the exes…it tickles me when they send me email tags to befriend them, yeah right!

:lol:

I’m trying to decide how “friendly” I’m feeling right now. I don’t do the friends with ex thing. Except for the one who is insisting that we’ll be friends.

Shyt, another one is calling as I type this. Something must be up. Maybe I’m posted on a men’s room wall somewhere. :lol:

Fulfilling Me

August 6th, 2009
12:24 pm

@Leggs

Thank you!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:25 pm

have a good w/e bloggers!

You,too….I know I will ’cause I’m off tomorrow and today is my Friday….can’t wait for the weekend! :)

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:27 pm

but honeslty if she were walking down the street in front of me and someone came and shot her in the head I would step right over her and not lose a step or shed a tear….

:shock:

I’m so sorry that you have to endure this W8. Your son deserves the best, man. :(

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:28 pm

Im not into the being friends with exes either..if there was something to hold onto we would have worked out the relationship

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
12:32 pm

@W8, when you can let that hurt and that disgust for your ex go, then you’ll truly be able to have a healthy relationship w/another. Another sign of you “working on yourself.”

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:34 pm

@Ared- We are going back to court

Grace

August 6th, 2009
12:34 pm

for a guy to ask me to be friends with him after a relationship goes belly up, aint happening, I take it as a slap in my face, torture….how can I be friends with someone I wanted to share life with? knowing that he’s making it happen with someone else? sure I’m not for everyone and everyone isn’t for me I got that, but to be all chummy is a bit too extra. I’m in a pissy mood right now…must be the hormones :evil:

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
12:35 pm

LEGGS See I was really asking bout age range. Knew your mind would veer off, tho! Everyone always says they can see me with older, tho I can’t fathom it.

ARED I kinda sorta think she got the right one. Cept has he said he’s unwilling to be committed… or just not on label lockdown. Must clear out cobwebs to recall…

MELO Yeah, uhm, thanks. That’s just the type of tom foolery that brings me back. But XOXO LOL

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:35 pm

Im not into the being friends with exes either..if there was something to hold onto we would have worked out the relationship

My philosophy is if you’re my ex then you’re that for a reason…..I don’t backtrack….at all. Be your friend?….playa puh-leaze.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:35 pm

@Ared- We are going back to court

I’m sorry. :(

She betta NOT want more money!

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
12:35 pm

okay I wont even try to speed read and catch up, I’ll jump right in…

“what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?” My communication skills (or lack thereof) and allowing my optimism to cloud my judgement (i.e, overlooking those red flags that are waving right at me). Im not the best communicator, always pride myself on letting just enough out to pacify the person or situation and then get pissed when they want more. So I had to say “Mo wouldnt you want more, dont you want to know whats going on with your SO?” Anyhoo, Im a work in progress, trying to learn from my mistakes and grow. I’ll never stop being optimistic, but I wont be dismissive of the reality of said situation anymore either. Im in no rush though and plan to approach my next relationship differently…..

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:38 pm

My philosophy is if you’re my ex then you’re that for a reason…..I don’t backtrack….at all. Be your friend?….playa puh-leaze.

Sassy – I’m sooooo with you on this. I did backtrack once, just to affirm that I shouldn’t backtrack! :lol:

But after a “grace” period, I can allow myself to be “cool” with my ex. Like, I haven’t talked to my ex Beau since we broke up. He’s recently started texting me. I can text him back. But I’m not initiating everything.

While my married ex just told me he’s moving to GA and that his wife won’t be coming for another month…. SO?!? :lol:

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
12:41 pm

@mytwo ~ HAAAAAAAAAA. Thought you tole me to “run with it” (how low). HAAAAAAAAA, I thought about dancing! How low? Must admit that in the past 2 years I’ve changed my mind. I saw this 29 year old for a spell, but thought he was too young. We had fun together, but that was my personal hangup. I will no longer let that be a hangup for me. If we connect on the levels that we both are comfortable with, then I will interact with him. So, 29 the lowest (very mature at that). But really 35!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
12:41 pm

My thang is Im a very dominant dude, so I can come off as domineering.. After going thru my deal I had to learn to talk to her instead of at her. Chill out with the big dawg thing. I had to reel myself in a bit. I believed everything must go the way I thought it should but when you have individuals you have to know that everything you think is right may not be right for the next person.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
12:41 pm

While my married ex just told me he’s moving to GA and that his wife won’t be coming for another month…. SO?!?

So nothin’…..operative word beingmarried…..

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:42 pm

@Leggs- I only dislike her because of what I have to do to see my son..once I see him on the regular I am fine

@Ared- I am the one taking her to court…thing is..is that she is an attorney and man they are tight with other attorney’s and judges…it feels like going to war without a map or ammo…but sometimes you have to just go ahead and jump right into the middle of battle and see what happens

@Mo- Hey!! Would set Page straight please…lmao

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:44 pm

So nothin’…..operative word beingmarried…..

Right…tho the other operative word is being “ex” :lol:

Demi

August 6th, 2009
12:45 pm

Fear of Success is usually an unconscious thing. It is like the first two lines of the poem entitled “Our deepest fear”:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

PG…I wrestle with fear of having a sucessful relationship for all of…two days.

Then I said fuggit! Imma just put in 100% and let the dude of the most high handle the rest, LOL

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
12:45 pm

@Ared- I am the one taking her to court…

W8 – Well good for you. But yeah, you’ve got a battle on your hands. It’s hard enough for a man in the family court system.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
12:48 pm

W8

As long as you have an attorney, you should be fine.

If you don’t, may I suggest Cordell & Cordell. They represent men’s rights in domestic litigation. They only represent men. They aren’t cheap but they are good.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
12:48 pm

INFAMOUS – OMG are you my ex hubby??? LMAO! He was the same way!

W8 – what is Page1908 sayin now?

Demi – Im taking that approach next time around, just go all in and let The Supreme Being handle everything else

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
12:49 pm

W8 – Like my Sons mother… I had to realize that she didnt want to be cool with me after the relationship was over. I thought we should remain cordial because of our son and after a while I just had to realize she’s angry with me and in due time she will come around or she wont but you cant allow yourself to hate her like that because YOUR SON LOVES HER, no matter what ya’ll wnet thru. I tell ya there were many nights I wanted to hate her, actually thought I was gonna hve to Wayne Brady her but at the end of the day I dont want me to be the person that kept the drama up.. My son will know that Daddy has nothing against Mommie cause trust when he grows up and begins to observe the situation for himself he will see whos being the A$$. You dont want to be that dude that continues to hurt Mommie or hates Mommie…

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
12:50 pm

W8 and PG – Yeah Cordell and Cordell got me what I wanted..

lurker

August 6th, 2009
12:50 pm

They only represent men….WHAT?!

Wishing death on folks ain’t right either….IMO

Elijah( Game Show Host)

August 6th, 2009
12:51 pm

I have an idea! How about a reality show staring the following people!

A for Real/Infamous DK chance for love!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
12:53 pm

Lurker – Yes they only represent men and you can rest assured they will keep that Fathers right on the front burner. Not only that they wont let the courts take everything from you because they understand the courts are biased against men.. They are the best..

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
12:54 pm

Yes, Lurker..

Cordell & Cordell specializes in men’s rights.

I have one friend who used them and they won the case to the point that the ex wife gets no spousal support anymore & he gets to share custody of their son. I’ve heard other men give great reviews.

I am starting to consider to go in that direction with my legal education as well.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
12:55 pm

that 12:49 is more like it…that’s how you be amicable after a bad situation…

Elijah( Game Show Host)

August 6th, 2009
12:55 pm

I had a partner who’s wife cheated on him and then wanted to divorce him after being caught! My partner hired Cordell and Cordell, they got him the house, he kept the 401k and she got child support and a whole lot of drama.

Now she is so resentful she goes back to court every 6 months for something only to lose and have to pay his attorney fees!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
12:55 pm

Elijah – Pump your breaks buddy

W8©

August 6th, 2009
12:56 pm

I have an Attorney he is a Frat brother and ex- Assistant DA in Cobb…I have been getting my ducks in a row for over a year..keeping all of the voicemails/emails(of me attempting to see him), child support payment receipts etc..

I recently saw her when Demi I and the others were at the Comedy Club…she was walking with her new man and I just immediately started getting heated, because I wanted to know where my son was…oh well Staceye calmed me down and she and ol’dude ended up leaving once she saw me. My mom thinks that she is acting out because I dont want to be with her…and I say that has nothing to do with my son….I can deal with anything in this world and be cool with it..but when it comes to my kids..the games stop..

ON a lighter note my Falcons Season TIckets came yesterday Section 104….boomchickawowwow

lurker

August 6th, 2009
12:56 pm

DK and PG…THANK God, my daughter’s father had/have no knowledge of. Well, he probably wouldn’t have been able to swing the bill. Wow, again…not knocking it, just never heard of litigating for men only.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
12:58 pm

INFAMOUS – me & ex are cool but we have our moments and initially that knee-grow gave me pure hell. But I focused on Lil Mo and didnt feed into a lot of that BS he was spewing. Eventually he started to come around but he had to put Lil Mo first like I did. Aint about you or me, we are done…its only about the lil one. Are we best of friends, no…but we can function and be cordial with one another. However our contact with each other is so limited now there is no need for craziness

Melo

August 6th, 2009
1:01 pm

My thang is Im a very dominant dude, so I can come off as domineering

@IDK i think u will do well with a laid back chic,not the A personality type.
As long as u have disposed of the past shenanegans and ur mind is in the right spot, a lid back chic will do the do for u.An A type will just aggravate u and u aggravate her coz uall competing for space.
An explosive mix at best.
Stay away fromthose types,they maybe good but not good for u personality.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:02 pm

I am going to check out Cordell & Cordell it seems like they specialize in this stuff….

@DK- when I see him I never say anything bad to him about his mother or anything else…I just dislike the fact that she is playing that game with me…but there is no love loss at all..I see my kid I am golden…I dont see him you have me to deal with…let me see my child…my daughter cries at times because she misses her little brother and she doesnt understand why she can’t see him sometimes…even her mother is trying to figure out what is going on with my sons mother..lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:03 pm

@Mo- What did i say yall could decorate when yall came over to the new home? Page is being all extra with that

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:04 pm

Did you mention cold earlier? Why does it take 1 long sleeve blouse, 1 pashmina & 1 lightweight jacket buttoned alll the way up to get thru a workday. The others don’t feel nuthin! Short sleeve, polo shirt, khaki pants wearing behinds.

Uh maam! I cain’t get them to understand, i’m anemia until they see me put on a sweater. Or if i’m still cold after leaving the gym.

Sup suckas :) .

mytwo Someone will get to see the chocolate wrapped in fuschia love? I figured out how i’m going to wear it until….. A skirt!!! So if somehow the loop/knot gets loose/untied…:)

mwaaaahahahah….mwahhaaaa…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:05 pm

@PG/DK Is there a particular attorney at Cordell &Cordell that you suggest?

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:07 pm

Howdy folks! Just thought I’d pop my head in and see what the hecks been up. See yall been still holding down the fort. Can you believe, it’ll be a year of unemployment next month. I’m inviting all the regs to my Rejection Bon fire once the weather gets colder. I’ll be burning all the “Dear John…we ain’t hiring you” letters….rejection never felt so good. Feel free to bring licka, ribs, chicken, tata salad, and herbs. LOL!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
1:07 pm

“I had to learn to talk to her instead of at her.”

Spread the word…

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
1:07 pm

W8

I am going to check out Cordell & Cordell it seems like they specialize in this stuff

Like I said, they aren’t cheap, but they are very good.

The only real negative that I’ve heard about them is that they are known to put liens on clients who don’t pay.

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:08 pm

Oh and not sure if you all already knew…i think Blatino is a daddy now.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:08 pm

PG – They got me split joint legal.. She cant even move unless she leaves him with me. She cant take him out of school unless I agree to it, I have first right to recision, she cant sneeze worng or she’s in contempt.. She tried to take me back to court to get more child support but after they saw what I do for hime the lowered it to only enough to cover his food expenses.. Hey they bumped her and her attorneys head. I could have done morw damage but all I wanted was access to be a co-parent in my sons life. Now I didnt do anything to be dirty but I wasnt going to settle for a every other weekend screw job.. I guess thats why shes so angry with me too because i throttled her in court but at that point I wasnt playing about my son.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:09 pm

(but honeslty if she were walking down the street in front of me and someone came and shot her in the head I would step right over her and not lose a step or shed a tear…)

W8…u so nice! lol

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
1:09 pm

W8

s there a particular attorney at Cordell &Cordell that you suggest?

I don’t know one in particular. However, I’ve heard that the female attorneys there are ruthless.

Who better to go against a female than a female?

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:11 pm

Tatas – We only get aggressive when we feel like we are being disrespected.. She was used to running her office and minions so she thought she could handle me the same way.. No dice..

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:12 pm

W8 – They are all good.. they tag teamed for me and your situation may be different from mine so they are gonna put the best attorney on the case..

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:13 pm

@PG- Dont mind the expense or paying upfront…and yeah women are ruthless towards other women..I just called and setup a Consult

PG/DK/Eli- Thanks

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:17 pm

Can you believe, it’ll be a year of unemployment next month.

God is good. And you’re still afloat?!

Melo

August 6th, 2009
1:17 pm

Can you believe, it’ll be a year of unemployment next month

keep ur head up lil sis!! I been there be4 and it shall come to pass.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:17 pm

lol@Demi- I’m really a mean azzhole in real life..lol..UNLESS you have gotten through the layers and I am cool with you..lol

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
1:17 pm

SLIM Hey chick! All you can do is press, press on… This time last year I was where you are. I thought I was gonna Lose.My.Mind. One tip I got (that didn’t actually work) was to increase volunteering. Lots of non-profs end up needing PT workers cuz they can’t afford FT. That may help keep you from becoming a stick up kid.

CEE Come over so I can drape it just so… he’ll get distracted by the length of leg then…BAM hit em with a lil peekaboo cleavage when it accidentally slides down. Lemme stop fore the shower gets moved up.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:18 pm

Lol stop it MELO!!! WE do that alot!

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:19 pm

Cain’t find my Ipod. DARN!!!

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:22 pm

Tatas Yeah I was thinking about getting some volunteering in. I’m okay mentally. Had an interview this morning as a matter of fact. ;-)

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:22 pm

W8….oooooooh, dude I was wondering why you had the look your eye…when that couple past.

Trizzle

August 6th, 2009
1:23 pm

after many many years of trying…i find that i’m never happy in a relationship because i’m not happy with myself. I used to meet men online (yahoo, craigslist, plentyoffish, etc…) but found that it was all about sex with them. Once you gave it up, they were gone to another challenge. I promised myself I would never meet someone online again and so far it’s been over a year. Dating here is difficult. IF you dont look like a hard body from the gym, you will rarely even get looked at or taken seriously. I’m in a relationship now, but when this is over, and it will end, i will stay single for a VERY LONG time to come. I’m at the point in my life where I just want to be alone and not worry about anyone else but myself!

Raqi

August 6th, 2009
1:25 pm

Are yall still on topic before I bother resuming commenting on it???

lurker

August 6th, 2009
1:26 pm

God is good. And you’re still afloat?!….YES HE IS

lurker

August 6th, 2009
1:28 pm

but when this is over, and it will end

talk about waiting for the other shoe to drop….SCHLEPROCK

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:28 pm

Trizzle

If you’re already saying the relationship ‘will end’, why are you still in it? Seems like if you’re ready to be alone, that you should just go ahead and end it now instead of waiting for it to die on its on.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
1:29 pm

FILTHY Maybe You didn’t until then, but some cats attempt that route off top. Question, was she initially demure in your dealings or did you initially find her strong tone attractive? Lots of slick mouths out here with men. They start out slick, they may not get any slicker, but they’ll at least stay slick.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:29 pm

W8 – Oh yeah mine told me you can just walk away because Im capable of being mommie and daddy until I find him a new Dad.. I almost smacked the taste out her mouth.. But again exercised restraint and plotted my course of action.. Another time she politely told me that the courts system would never give me the time of day about joint custody so i should just give up before wasting my money.. I laughed at her (although I was nervous about court). Since then she has been truly humbled and all I do is smile, say hello and hug my son goodbye. See I had to go into offense mode. I bought a home around the corner from them so i couldnt be denied any access. before i left the marital home, so looking back that might be another reason she’s mad because I already had somewhere to go and wasnt on my behind when I left.. Play Chess Dawg..

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:29 pm

@Demi- yeah that was them I spotted them a block away

...

August 6th, 2009
1:31 pm

Make ya’ next move ya’ best move.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:32 pm

@ Lurker – Don’t get me started. WITH a job, i WAIT on Jesus! Had me in tear this morning thinking about his goodness!

And as i was reading the guys talking about “child support issues”. My son is 10 years and ask me how many times i’ve had to ask his father for one cent?!!!

Girl stop!!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:32 pm

@DK- Yep I feel you on that and thanks for the info..I am really taking it to heart…thanks man….iron sharpens iron…Thank you once again

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:32 pm

Tatas – Nah I used to shut her down but everyone that met her said she looks down her nose at people.. I used to tell her man comeon you aint no better than anyone else so why do you judge everybody so harshly.. We had a good friendship though so we got married.. Now we are mortal enemies locked in this beat it dance with her trying to stick me and me trying to stick her if I need to.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:33 pm

SlimOne…yeah, blatino even sent me a pic…I was like awwwwwwww…time to stock up on weapons’n'ish….email me demigod33@yahoo.com

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:34 pm

” you aint no better than anyone else so why do you judge everybody so harshly”

Some folks can’t look at themselves…or atleast admit to it.

Sharre

August 6th, 2009
1:34 pm

I have been in Atlanta for about 3 years now and I have had the opportunity to me a lot of interesting men. Some I’ve talk to for about a week other a couple of months. Of course, I’m not with anyone from that group because they lacked some important things that I was looking for like: trust, communication skill, dependability, some even lacked money along with a lot of basic things. I had to look at myself to see if I need to make any changes and I realized that I had limited myself to a certain group of men. Finally I decided to try another race, and wouldn’t you know, everything that I experienced with the other guys I have yet to experience with my new boyfriend, which is great. My BF has to be one the sweetest and adorable guys out there. He keep his word, he’s attentive to my needs, he caring, loving and he has a heart of gold. So maybe you need to try fishing in another pond. He even took me to Paris just after 5 months of dating.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
1:34 pm

W8 I was in section 104 for 6 years – we just moved to section…umm, can’t remember right now, but we’re on the sideline side of the visitors tunnel.

I hate we lost Harry Douglas yesterday…

Cemeeli I have a hoodie sweater in my office. It gets so cold up in this joint that I ride home with the windows down to get the chill out of my bones. When it gets too cold – I put the hood on.

Raqi

August 6th, 2009
1:35 pm

locked in this beat it dance with her

And it’s not even about the child but her trying to make you miserable.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:37 pm

W8 – and the sad part is she prolly told dude that “Oh thats my sons father he doesnt do anything but pay child support” and dude eats it up.

I’m gonna say it now fellas ya’ll better start getting the facts out these chicks cause its two side to every story and I guarantee if you talked to the EX dude you will find stuff out about your new babe that you didnt know, cause the Boo game is prevalent in Atlanta.. Boo Hoo he left me (when you put him out). Boo hoo he doesnt take care of his kids(when you wont let him see them.. See this stuff aint made up this mess happens for real..

Melo

August 6th, 2009
1:37 pm

@ Trizzle: I’m at the point in my life where I just want to be alone and not worry about anyone else but myself!

u certainly need to get rid of the toxins in ur body and mind and time alone,without having to date, will/may do that 4 u!

IF you dont look like a hard body from the gym, you will rarely even get looked at or taken seriously

Now,there is so much competition out there to be honest.A hard body will get u attn,no doubt.Are u plus size,do u like hw u look when u in front of the mirror or what???
Get ur self esteem right,that wld be my advice.Get around,netwrk,volunteer,go to book clubs,events etc.Even the gymn is not a bad spot to be in.
That may help to get ur mind in the right frame so as to be able to withstand the scrutiny of another person’s eye,accept and recognize acceptance as well as rejection.
Not everybody will like hw u look or talk or walk but others will.Recognize and understand that.
When u do,u a winner be4 u even take that 1st step outa the door!

(i hate sounding like im the luv doc :lol: )

Elijah( Game Show Host)

August 6th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Infamous One….. I thought you were the king of jokes!
Now see this is where I truly get on the ladies! DO NOT PUT YOUR KIDS IN THE MIDDLE TO SETTLE A DISPUTE WITH THE FATHER ESPECIALLY WHEN THE FATHER IS A GOOD FATHER!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
1:38 pm

Oh and to clarify, I do believe in self improvement, but it has to be for self. Making ome kind of crash course attempt to change sumthin that’s become second nature to you to appease another person just ain’t gonna stick.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:38 pm

Tazzee I call/email for a work order so the service tech can come and turn the air down. One thermo unit services 3-5 offices. So they get “questionable” when the air is asked to be change….forget that!!! I still ask ‘em to turn it down…expecially day’s i’m wearing light.

brrrrr….

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
1:39 pm

He keep his word, he’s attentive to my needs, he caring, loving and he has a heart of gold.

Sharre – My guy is like that too and I didn’t have to fish in another pond. I’m in no way saying anything against interracial dating and I’m not going to assume your race – but I am saying that to say there are some great brothers out there.

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:41 pm

Tazz & Cee I used to sit in my office with my scarf wrapped around my head. I used to sit right up under a vent and I couldn’t stand that cold air blowing on my head and neck. Brrrrrr!

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
1:42 pm

LOL W8- I told you the H got stolen by the “ese’s” when I lived in Phoenix lol. I’m just lucky they didn’t take the whole car across the border and strip it to the bones lol.

Mo- Don’t listen to W8. lol.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:43 pm

Trizzle…you read like a woman who has a sign which reads:

DEPOSIT SPERM HERE========> {}

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:43 pm

@DK- I believe you and I have experienced that…it eats me up also

@Tazzee- Yeah I am sad about Harry too, I think Troy B. will be the one to step up…I wish this mess with White was over…I mean he is already under contract I don’t think he deserves a new one

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

August 6th, 2009
1:46 pm

What’s up folks???

PAGE….W8…you know you love my skulls and crossbones! :lol:

Dude I swear I thought I was going to have to jump on your back to stop you from going after them. But you held it together. Its so good to see a man fighting to be a great father such as you and DK. Its sad to see the woman use the baby as a pawn because the man no longer wants to be with them. Then you have the lazy deadbeats..

lurker

August 6th, 2009
1:47 pm

Cemeeli@ Lurker – Don’t get me started. WITH a job, i WAIT on Jesus! Had me in tear this morning thinking about his goodness!

When you said that off the rip (in responding to Slimone), I thought, since she entered the blog she’s remained consistant on faith….impressive to say the least

Elijah( Revenge is not a dish that is well serve)

August 6th, 2009
1:47 pm

@infamous one you sound like one of my partna’s ,They have wage a battle going on 7 years non-stop. Now a new battle is he recently got married and now her marriage is on the rocks!

This will guarantee a return to divorce court! A couple of yrs ago my partna wanted to take his children out of the country and I believe both parents need to sign for a passport, the ex-wife would not sign because his present lady was also going on the trip!

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:47 pm

W8…we both are…if the wrong button is push…PERIOD!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:48 pm

I know u’ve seen alot of things in your life
got you feeling like this cant be right
but i wont hurt you im down for you baby
(i know u’ve seen alot of things) I know u’ve seen alot of things in your life
got you feeling like this cant be right
but i wont hurt you im down for you baby (im down for you baby)

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
1:49 pm

OMG I remember that night at the comedy club, Staceye. W8’s face turned red! Thanks for calming him down lol.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

August 6th, 2009
1:49 pm

W8 — I don’t have a problem w/ White (or really any NFL player) trying to renegotiate an existing contract, just because of the nature of NFL contracts. Very little is guaranteed — being under contract doesn’t really mean much in the NFL. Add the fact that you’re 1 play away from not only being out of the league, but crippled for life & I can’t blame guys for trying to get paid while they can.

I do wish they’d get a deal done, however — especially now that Douglas is out.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
1:50 pm

DO NOT PUT YOUR KIDS IN THE MIDDLE TO SETTLE A DISPUTE WITH THE FATHER ESPECIALLY WHEN THE FATHER IS A GOOD FATHER!

So true….makes me glad I don’t have kids yet…I tell my guy friends that are only concerned with how “fine” a woman is that if you go raw and she has a baby, you two are linked together FOREVER

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:51 pm

Lurker – Faith is “knowing” everything is going to be alright! I’d spoken to Slim about that before.

Faith = The substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
1:53 pm

Elijah – I swore to myself and told her I would spend every dime I had to be a father to myself.. Even if it meant I would sleep with him in a card board box somewhere along I-20.. She has since said she has seen me give her looks of being serious but she knew that day that I meant that. See dog when it becomes a matter of I would die for this child to live.. It aint no measure you wont take..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
1:53 pm

Demi I’m surprised at your 1:43…but I liked it though…..stopped just shy of calling izzle a ……

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
1:53 pm

Testimony….

When i walked out on my baby daddy…baby mamma style! I Was WORRIED as heck! I heard GOD as clear as i’m listening to this radio RIGHT now…he said to me….

“Be still, and KNOW that i am GOD!”

‘n…he has been….

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
1:55 pm

TRIZZLE Not happy with self but only wanna deal with self… Do you see yourself going from one extreme to the other? From not seeing enough value in yourself to then over-estimating your value?

SHARRE Do you honestly think it’s cuz you changed your pond or because you changed your mindset as well?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
1:56 pm

I don’t know one in particular. However, I’ve heard that the female attorneys there are ruthless.

Who better to go against a female than a female?

:lol:

My mother always wanted me to be a lawyer.

I told her, if she’ll pay for law school I will (I paid for undergrad, I’m not paying for anymore school).

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
1:56 pm

I understand Roddy wanting a new contract, but he’s only been good for one year. I don’t think he’s proven that he deserves a big contract and I think he paid that rookie to roll over Harry’s knee (j/k on that last part)

Demi

August 6th, 2009
1:57 pm

Melo…You are making me nervous…I need to becareful of those texts I spent each morning

Melo

August 6th, 2009
1:58 pm

Swiss,so does the NFL have a blanket type contratc that all football clubs have to abide by?
If so,thats gross,in my view.
Why arent individual clubs and players free to negotiate whatever they wanna agre on based on the value they see??

So if a player has a five yr contract paying him $$$,he gets hurt,no mo money coming in,is that it??? No continuation of contract?

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
1:58 pm

Okay what did I miss? @W8 I am all for father rights..but all that adversity with the mom..for your son’s sake you need to drop that shyt off somewhere. Kids are not stupid, they sense it, and they know when their parents are not getting along. My son’t father was not the best(RIP) but he was his daddy. I had to show my tail a time or two or three, heck I showed it this summer to his father’s family. But I always bring it back to the middle for the sake of the boy. He needs all of his family(no matter how special they are) speaking of which I need to get in touch with my son’s sister’s mom..I want to see if she wants to go see Mitch Musso at the state fair.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
1:58 pm

@Tazzee it seems as if Roddy is forgetting all the dropped balls…lol

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
1:59 pm

lurker & Cee yall know me, I deal with it all with a hope in my heart and a laugh on my tongue. If it ain’t light, it ain’t right. I know it ain’t funny when you don’t have no money. But it ain’t trickin if you got it…lol. ..oops that didnt fit into what i was trying to say.

abc

August 6th, 2009
2:00 pm

Trizzle, go to church. Just plain go to church, and get involved. If you’re already going to church, then go to a different church. Now, I’m not kidding! Just do it!

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
2:01 pm

your test becomes your TESTimony! Cee’s been good to me on trying to keep my faith up. Can’t take that away from her. And just for that, I’ll even share my Ramen noodles with you. ;-)

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
2:02 pm

Oh yeah mine told me you can just walk away because Im capable of being mommie and daddy until I find him a new Dad..

DK – Wow.

Kimora Lee said something like that on her reality show. Like “my girls have a good dad, but I’m a better dad.” :???:

That was the last time I watched that heffa. And now she already has a baby by the Amistad dude.

Good thing Russell does yoga! :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
2:04 pm

Slim one – You test becomes your testimony.. You better say that..

Foul play..used to be Jazzyone

August 6th, 2009
2:05 pm

Hey Tazzee!! Have fun at the Beach sistah! I agree there are some great men out there. In a great relationship or not with a man I could think the world of I still keep the side eye on deck. Doesn’t mean I treat him like he isn’t my man and the king of my world its just people are who they are and do what they do. The key is not getting in your own way having a healthy sense of self and having a threshold of what one will and will not tolerate. It doesn’t mean being a walk all over rug or subject for the abuses of others or being treated less than, but having a certain standard for yourself and how you will allow another to treat you.

As for the fly guy attraction, well for me it has never been the material, what either of us have obtained being it the fruits of our labor or the inheritance of possesions material or otherwise its only that. Doesn’t make the man or the woman who they are its just stuff and baggage when it really comes down to it.

A man flashing his car and materials well that a cover in my eyes hes lacking someplace and not ready for this sistah. What you have or I have will be revealed upon us spending time together. All that shyt you try to floss is just a whole lotta doe you spending on depreciating items honey..Doesn’t mean I don’t like the finer things in life having them or my man either, just means substance outweights all that other stuff.

Yes Ive been the chick in my time to give a brotha hell only to lose him because im in my way but in my maturity ive learned, don’t break a mans spirit or try to or have your own broken, move on if its not right, if you want to love love is not without vulnerablity, open up and be you give 100% if it doesn’t work I fel better knowing I gave my all and the pain won’t last an eternity.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:05 pm

Foul play..used to be Jazzyone

August 6th, 2009
2:05 pm

Long azz post i just got on my own nerves. *sigh*..LMAOFF

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
2:09 pm

Hey ya’ll leave Trizzle alone.. She’s in a delicate place right now..

Trizzle – No one can tell you what to do but counseling is not a bad thing. Hey even the Big Bad DK had to have some counseling cause I wasnt processing my feelings that well about my divorce. Hey this is a period in your life where you feel like youre stuck down in it but you can pull yourself out. You can.. Hey I heard this on Tiny and Toya the other day of all places.. (Yeah I secretly like Toya but I digress).

Today I take the first step towards what I want and the last step from what I dont.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:10 pm

@ Slim – Glad you are yet holdin’ on to faith.

WE all are a walking testimony…and i’mma leave it at that.

When he talk to his father…he continually ask are ya’ll still driving______, Ya’ll move to a NEW spot, where________???, You still at the private school_____? Ask me had I gotten married, you know you high maintenence? I don’t say NAYTHAN! Just look at that EVIDENCE of how God has did it for me.

I want you to do the same.

off box.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
2:11 pm

Ok I’m gonna give up a big secret.. My favorite place is having a wharehouse sale.. Bill Hallman.. Nomatique:Atlanta.. up to 80% off.. This is where I get those shoes folks stop me about..

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
2:12 pm

SlimOne, good to read you. Glad you are still striving.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
2:14 pm

I still want to be married. I still don’t want to have children.

It’s very hard for me to understand loving your spouse and then dispising them.

Raqi

August 6th, 2009
2:15 pm

“Some I’ve talk to for about a week other a couple of months. Of course, I’m not with anyone from that group because they lacked some important things that I was looking for like: trust, communication skill, dependability, some even lacked money along with a lot of basic things.”

WiseDiva I want to come up with something to talk about that above statement made by Sharre. I mean really, a week to two months is not enough time to judge whether someone is dependable or trustworthy. And maybe not even enough time to gauge skills of communication and true financial situations. To display trust and dependability you have to be confronted with something. IMO it’s unfair to place the burden to prove such major characteristics in such a short time.

Now if she is just talking about not calling or arriving when they said they would then yeah, that I can see. But where geniune trust, dependability and communication is concerned for me where it is most important, we need to be well into doing the thing before I could make an accurate assessment.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
2:18 pm

AR

Good thing Russell does yoga!

Yeah, but he still cusses enough to make a sailor blush.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
2:19 pm

I need to becareful of those texts I spent each morning

DEMI,as long as u dont do a full 360 summersault on me and be a deacon,i be str8 with u. :lol:

the texts are a good anchor! keep it cming.

SlimOne

August 6th, 2009
2:20 pm

Cee oh yeah….Jas Juicy Jaws crawled for the first time Tuesday!!! I sure wish I could’ve been there to see it. For a minute there, we were wondering if she’d just go straight to walking. Moments like these make me think about popping out one of my own…then I slap myself and go on about my day. LOL

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
2:20 pm

It’s very hard for me to understand loving your spouse and then dispising them

- wait until you say i do…lol

Elijah( Get ready for that blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
2:22 pm

@DK I totally understand! I have many partna’s who are currently battling on a weekly basis with the ex’s. These are men who are spending time and pay the child support but the ex is bitter to the core.

We have 3 to 4 hours conversation about their ex’s and that is some mentally draining shyt!

@ABC are you a pastor or a deacon at a church? You seems to mention church often in your posts!

@Tazzee…. Mr. White has put together 2 good seasons, that brutha needs to get paid today! The Falcons managment jump the gun and gave M. Ryan all that upfront money.

You can pay a rookie big money upfront like he is going to turn the team around but a proven veteran has to hold out to get his money something aint right!

Hello Ms. Sassy! How you doin?

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
2:22 pm

W8/Page1908 – okay my ADD kicked in right after we got into the ‘freak’em’ bathroom so I dont remember what we were supposed to be decorating! LOL! I do remember some things about the basement though….. :smile:

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
2:23 pm

And off topic…. why after 5 years does it STILL hurt to get your eyebrows threaded….DAYUM!!

Ok back to the topic at hand

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
2:26 pm

@W8, ok, you’re taking her back to court. Good for you. More men should do this.

I’m with you Infamous. I too could have been mad at my ex, but I opted to take the high road and remain cordial and civil because we have a child together. No need for her to know that he gets on my last nerve.

I have no idea what the topic is.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
2:26 pm

@PG who is running this league? Are the agents running sports?

Truth be told M. Ryan lost that play-off game, 2 picks, one returned for a touchdown! On anther note Tony G. is going to be a great pick-up if all the players are on the field together!

@DK… Where is that spot? I need to buy some new shooooeeeesss!

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
2:26 pm

Hey Jazzyone!!! How are you? Loved that post, especially the last part about being vulnerable.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
2:27 pm

Roddy deserves more pay. Most definitely he deserves more. He has had 2 great season. Two years ago he was the only bright spot in the Bobby Petrino regime. He had to adjust to Harrington, Redmon, Byron Leftwich, and did so.

I don’t agree with his asking price though. He wants Larry Ftizgerald money..4 yrs/40 million, and his agent isn’t being really flexible. Which is really stupid because he is the Falcons property until 2011. This is the last year of rookie deal but next year he is restricted free agent which means that the Falcons can match any offer and would get draft picks if he signed elsewhere.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
2:30 pm

Elijah – you are smoking crack. Roddy has not had two good seasons and while Ryan made some mistakes – Keith Brooking was the one that let the Cardinals get that 3rd and 16. Dangit – I had put that 3rd and 16 out of mind and you dug it back up. That was freaking ridiculous – letting a team get the first down on 3rd and 16!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...do it right or not at all :-)

August 6th, 2009
2:31 pm

Moments like these make me think about popping out one of my own…then I slap myself and go on about my day. LOL

I do that whenever I see the cute baby clothes in the mall…..especially the girls’ section…..it’s all so cute.

Hello Ms. Sassy! How you doin?

Now Eli you know whenever you post your FIRST post you ALWAYS shout me out….it’s time for me to go and you’re just now gettin’ at me?……hey baby….how YOUdoin’? ;)

I forgive you :) :mrgreen:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
2:32 pm

LOL @ ‘freak ‘em bathroom Mo.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:32 pm

Moments like these make me think about popping out one of my own

Lol I and some other of the blog ladies will throw you a fiya shower!

Jas Juicy Jaws crawled for the first time Tuesday!

awww… Jazzy is sweet…moving fast too. lol @ Jas Juicy Jaws.

Slim – I told you she preparing you. But being Auntie first, is usually best. lol…

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
2:32 pm

Jazzy – needed that last part of your post. I was in a place. You relaxed me. My gratitude…

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
2:33 pm

@Elijah ~ “We have 3 to 4 hours conversation about their ex’s and that is some mentally draining shyt!” I refused to do this. There are women out there don’t badmouth. I never saw any point to it. The child loves the other parent so why taint their vision with your distorted picture?

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:33 pm

Mo Indian women did it? YES MAAM! The lady ask me was i cry, I said YES!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:33 pm

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
2:36 pm

Eli

who is running this league? Are the agents running sports?

Oh heck yeah!!!!!

Seriously, though, player really just want to play. Owners would get over on them if there were no agents. However, some agents get on my nerves though. cough Drew Rosenhaus)cough

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
2:38 pm

Cemeeli – I’ve been going to the same spot/same chick for 5 yrs and I SWEAR it still hurts!! I thought I would have developed an immunity by now! LOL! I dont tear up now but dayum….

Page1908 – you gave everything the freak’em label so why not the bathroom too! LOL

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
2:40 pm

I guess the anger I was expressing regarding the playoff game is what got my post eaten so let me try this again without the fake curse words..

Elijah – you are mistaken. Ryan did not lose that game. Yes it was one of his worst, but Keith Brooking is the one that gave up the 3rd and 16. I was not sad to see him leave considering that is the play that will be forever etched in my mind when I think of him.

Let’s see if this one goes through…

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
2:40 pm

LOL Mo- you know I did. It will be called the ‘freak ‘em house”. lol

Demi

August 6th, 2009
2:41 pm

Melo…Not my style…I just want to encourage and be encourage.

Oooooh, Jazzy…My favorite tall glass of…SHOOT..Now my girl is calling to say hi and ask if I am behaving

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:46 pm

lol ….’Cause i feel your pain Mo!

I now go to the Asian women. She has a better & softer touch when she service.

Kimmie I’ve seen Keri Hilson (the hip hop singer decatur chic) in the shop on an occasion or two.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:47 pm

@Mo/Page-My house is not a darn Freak’em House…

@Tazzee- I agree with Keith Brooking…I aim not mad he is gone…besides he is a Techie

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:49 pm

Brooking = one of the weak links for the last two years in my book

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
2:50 pm

W8 – Page nicknamed ya house! LOL! :smile:

Cemeeli – the chick I go to is cool but that threading just hurts, plain and simple. But its so clean and neat.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
2:51 pm

Wise – This is a good one…

So, what have I allowed to get in my own dayum way?…as I’m so tired of repeating this —> Fear disguised as pride. The tendencies of being a hot-head, stubborn (can’t tell me nuthin’ type of attitude once I’m in “the zone”). Went from keeping too much to myself (too private/not opening up) to laying it all on the table. Some appreciated that approach, while some rejected it. While I’m more open than ever to welcoming constructive criticism, since I believe that for an individual to point out certain flaws (in an effort to uplift another), has to be because they give a dayum, even if it hurts for them to do so. However, when it comes down to belittling…while talking “at” me, instead of “to” me?…that’s where it all must come to a holt.

Some of us have come a long way, but it doesn’t mean that some of us do not have quite a road to travel. So might as well make the journey worthwhile… like it’s your last.

Melo/PG – Loved your posts earlier…and you too,Abc – I especially liked your 11:13 (I believe it was somewhere around that time)…but moreso that last portion about having that “all about me mentality” being detrimental to those who claim they truly want a “partnership”.

Ctha1 – I may have missed it, but from reading some of the “tidbits” (keywords in some of your posts) I meant to tell you CONGRATS! – to you and the Mrs!

MyTwo – Sis, I’m gone need you to stop makin’ so much sense…right along with ZuluKing! ;)

…and Cee – Chick, Please don’t tell me you’re compaigning for the title of “Motor Mouf”…some things I are better left unspoken, especially when advised.

But ummmm, onto NOT running behind “the other half” for contributions on “someone” he knowingly help create. Yeah, that would be me. My thought process is…you know “she’s here”…know full well she exist. I’m not in the business of running after folks to take responsibility for their doings. That includes not taking a grown up to court, just for someone else to make you take care of “something” you claimed you wanted. But honestly, for me its more like, I’m just don’t have the patience nor desire to deal/tolerate the foolishness…for sometime now, but don’t pity yourself or anyone into thinking you’re being kept from “yours”. Heyal, I don’t need reminding and neither should you.
You’re an adult. So be one. Period.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
2:52 pm

DEMIGOD As much as I proclaim Jesus is my homie, we’d have problems if I didn’t have unlimited text. I’m like am I that much of a heathen?!?!

Seriously, it’s great to be a part of your journey. As long as it doesn’t include hearing Cany Rain anymore before Labor Day. :grin:

Demi

August 6th, 2009
2:54 pm

@Mo/Page-My house is not a darn Freak’em House…it’s just a place where ladies feel relaxe enough to remove their clothing…within 5min of walking thru the door

Mo…you know them ladies at Northlake ain’t right!! LOL

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:55 pm

@ Moca – Confuzed? what up?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:56 pm

lol@Demi- I dont bring “interests” to my house nor do I let them see the personal me until they have been screened fully..I dont need any stalkers…I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there..lol..lmao

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

Cee – What do you mean?

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

@ Wise

Did you get my email?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

Watch Vick end up with the Cardinals or the Texans

Demi

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

(As long as it doesn’t include hearing Cany Rain anymore before Labor Day)

My .02…my days of skeet skeeting across the blog are numbered.

TRUTH

August 6th, 2009
2:58 pm

LOL!!! I see where a lot of the women get in their own way. Here’s some advice: STOP THINKING THAT MEN THINK LIKE YOU DO. The minute that you stop that it will clear your head a bit. Another point, I saw someone say that men have a “roster” of women. That may be true (or in most men’s minds it appears to be true), hint, you ahve a “roster” of men as well. Men love to be the champion. Compromise and allow that. Be interested. Not aloof and stand offish. A lot have tried that, and my response is “How’s that working out for you?” Just like women want a man to wine and dine her, men are far less complex. We want someone who can have a conversation without the loaded sub-premise of a controlled relationship. Controlled by you, for you, and he becomes a prop. Good luck folk.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
2:59 pm

I now go to the Asian women. She has a better & softer touch when she service.

I got a chuckle out of Cee’s quote because I’ve heard those exact words before but uttered in reference to one of those Tara Boulevard “spas” that Victor Hill shut down.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Jam- what’s up…and did you know Sassafras listens to Jam Pony?

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

LOL W8- Don’t worry, I had a secret videotape to help me with the directions and you know Mo can’t remember anything unless she is the one driving lol.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

Demi – did the ladies attack you today?? You know you are the higlight to their day! Hey Chocolate Baby!

W8 – even on my best day I couldnt remember how to get there, I dont hang out in Tennessee much. :smile:

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:02 pm

@ Moca – You know…gurl…wait a min…

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

W8

My sources say that Vick will end up with a team east of the Mississippi. I laughed but I heard the exact same words on NFL Total Access afterwards.

Even though they are denying it, word is Washington has some interest. They aren’t happy with Jason Campbell’s progress. Also, Green Bay wouldn’t mind an experienced back up to Aaron.

Carolina is another team that has privately expressed interest. After Delhomme’s performance in the playoff game against the Cards, some are taking another look at Delhomme and if he’s maxed out as ability.

As for the Patriots, Belichek wants Vick but the owner does not.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

(I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there)

Removing Boo’ed Up cap

Pulling out wang and putting them to work…while you head to the house work as well…Free tip for my single bruhs: Keeping different favors of GOOdhead on ice…in your car is a must

now placing boo’ed Up cap back on and looking innocently at Page.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

lo@Mo/Pagel..E. Cobb is not Tennessee

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:06 pm

Dear Lord, please don’t let Vick end up in the NFC South. Amen

They were just talking about Vick going to the Saints on the radio. I just want the brother to get a job.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

PoppaG I meant nothing about them “spas”. lol NO!

Jamoca I have been out-a-pocket. I’m so lost…girl you’re gonna havta spoon feed that one maybe.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

W8

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

You, too?

I used to take different route coming and leaving as well.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

Mo…I need to give them time to miss me, LOl

you are the second highlight of mines, homegirl…just busy today

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:08 pm

W8 – “lol@Mo/Pagel..E. Cobb is not Tennessee”… From where I live it is! :smile: And you know we left the State, thats why you took all those back roads. lol

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:09 pm

Cee

LOL… I know. But, it reminded me of a friend that was rating them.

Sun’s Spa had better looking women. But Orient Spa has softer and better touch..

I just laughed then as I am now.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:11 pm

@ Moca – Check your box.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:11 pm

@PG- Saints or Panthers maybe? Buffalo even? And yep on the backroads

@Mo- well if you put it that way then it is..lol

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:12 pm

JAMOCA You see I had to let my Zulu know my he♥rt? LOL You know what’s ironic bout the child support stance is that my mama felt the same. For many years, I couldn’t understand her logic. When I was a child, I thought like a child and alla that. Now I know what I couldn’t grasp then. And it saddens me when my Maury fanatic folk eat that mess up. Cuz it is Super Sad to watch the lengths some go to for simple acknowledgement, let alone, participation. It’s wonderful when men and women want to actively live the roles they find themselves in.

DEMI There are 23,756 songs between Candy Rain and From the Window to Wall. You’ll come up with sumthin.

Don’t nobody let their temperature rise. Truth ain’t The Truth.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:12 pm

Tazzee

I’ve heard that the Saints would like to use Vick more like a running back with occasional opportunities to throw. They let Deuce McAllister go during the off season and Reggie still hasn’t done much in the league. So, they are still looking for a consistent running game to go with Drew Brees’s passing game.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

Cee – Sis, I’mma give you two words and “leave it be” —> Higher Learning. So chica, how have you been, btw? I still have a pretty bad headache, but yet and still refuse to take anything to alleviate the pain…it’s just been a very busy week.

What up, McGruff? …And how would I have known that? Of course not. But I’m almost certain, if Sassy can roll with that JME…then she just may be handlin’ it, bout as well as she (prolly) be twerkin’ it. lol

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

Keith Brooking is the one that gave up the 3rd and 16

- WORD TAZZE…i was so mad after that one play…

- vick goes to washington….he close to home…and he will do good…with those lil speedy recievers when the play breaks down watch out for moss DEEP and he can catch

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

lol@”Spa’s”

Where is Victor Hill now anyway?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

Uh…do you cover the address, cuz once I’m there I can see the house number and street and keep it in my phone. A quick plug into Google maps will get me back there if I need to! (and now they display house images too).

:lol:

I’m going to know where I am. Period. The dude could be crazy too and now I’m on his turf.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

LOL @ East Cobb.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

@Tazzee…. Yes M Ryan lost that game 2 picks one in the red zone and taken back for a td.

@PG …. I am all for the players getting paid, but this system is so useless it is almost a turn that veterans have to sit out to get paid.

Anybody seen Mr. Anderson? Matrik!

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post! Don’t judge me! :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:15 pm

yeah I forgot about the Redskins

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:16 pm

Demi – its all good mayne, I got my headphones on so you know Im chillin. This Ryan Leslie is on pernt right now!

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:16 pm

@pg…VICK IS NEVER GOING TO BE A RUNNING BACK….bush is hurt again and the season has not started..they trying to down play it..but he about to go the way of lawerence phillips

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:17 pm

@Page- it is

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:18 pm

OH! Okay…yeah, okay…didn’t know. honestly. If you ‘member it’s the 2nd round.

Jamoca – I’m good. Hope you’re good. “Motor Mouf” Never thought ESP after that. “I cain’t win for losing”. it’s all good. Okay done with that.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
3:19 pm

I hope M. Vick gets picked I would like to see that brutha play, the MOST EXCITING PLAYER IN THE NFL!

@Leggs…. I believe a young man is better for you! You need a man who can handle all of you!

Can a starting linebacker go a whole season without making a play behind the line of scrimmage?

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:20 pm

Rell

I’m just telling what I’m hearing about the Saints interest in Vick. They love Drew Brees in that town so it won’t be easy to unseat him anyways.

Yeah, Reggie is having a bad week. His breakup is public and now he is hurting.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:20 pm

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post!

u mean to read it thru or to read it(coz u were busy)???

Elijah,which one??

Hey Jamm lady??? where u been?

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

Hey…Jamoca… (I still have a pretty bad headache, but yet and still refuse to take anything to alleviate the pain)

Woman…what you need is some natural protein…was that thunder I just heard?

PG..”THE” spa….E, you can have my VIP pass for that as well.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post! Don’t judge me!

Eli – Never crossed my mind. Who the heyal am I? I’ve got my own skeletons that need to be laid to rest and my own demons to battle.

Jamoca now tosses Eli a Hooked on Phonics kit, she bought off Ebay…now integrate yo’ brain with that for tomorrow’s timed reading.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

Elijah – QBs throw picks all the time. We were still in the game until Brooking gave up that 3rd and 16. Add to that Brooking should have known better. After Ryan threw those picks, he got back in the game. After Brooking gave up that 3rd and 16…shoot the game was pretty much over. How in the heck are you going to be a ’supposed’ leader on defense and punk out on a play like that?

but yeah, go ahead and blame the rookie QB if you want…

and I’m done with last season for real – ready to move on to this season. Ya dig? ;-)

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:22 pm

Eli

I am all for the players getting paid, but this system is so useless it is almost a turn that veterans have to sit out to get paid.

It is one of the reasons that I like college better.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:22 pm

@Ared it was 3 of them and one of me…I was the one in trouble..lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:24 pm

I love College first and foremost..then NFL is second

Defense wins games..offense puts points on the board

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:24 pm

Roger Goodell just likes his butt kissed…me thinks…lol

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

@Ared it was 3 of them and one of me…I was the one in trouble..lol

W8 – You know what I meant. lol

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

SUP Y’ALL !!!

Vick won’t end up a ‘Skin — C’mon, TWO black QBs on one roster – and it’s NOT Atlanta??? Doubt it… The league wants to see him in a small-to-mid-market; i.e. – Panthers, Packers, Cardinals, etc… I just wanna see the brotha shaking Defenses outta their cleats!!!!

Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

These terms Hooking and capturing a man being thrown around, makes me wonder what the intentions of some are? Men are not animals neither are women so why are we implying this? Once people get over dating is not a game/sport maybe they actually lower themselves to have something real instead of trying to find something out a fairy tale. Some of us are not interested in relationship, some enjoy sitting by the pool drinking our Gin and Tonic and watching your world burn, it’s rather entertaining watching people scurry around for the things they think they need and go to strange lengths to get it. Priceless. I have already done my time, now it’s time kick back and watch.

WD Wrote:
“They showcase their looks and accomplishments (WHICH IS OVERRATED) but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks”

Gee I wonder why? Needy-Greedy-Self-Centered-Gold-Digging much?

This has been brought to you by your regular pig-headed jerk. You know you love me! Mwahahahaahahah

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:26 pm

ELIJAH See how you do! Reading is Fundamental. Just sound out the words and don’t harrass my girl. Remember, it ain’t too early for us to start a rumor that you’re having the biggest SuperBowl party on the East Coast.

Paul McJagger

August 6th, 2009
3:27 pm

I think people need to realize that you can learn from the other person. Maybe they have a better way of handling a situation or a part of life (such as finances, for example). When the other person makes a suggestion, it is out of love and caring to see you improve, not downright criticism. Open your mind and consider the advice without thinking they are “trying to change me” and maybe you will learn something and the relationship will flourish.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:28 pm

Roger Goodell just likes his butt kissed…me thinks

Im not a very knowleadgeble football fan,but based on my gleanings, i concur with that.The man relishes his unbridled power.
But its the owners fault.
I guess they design it that way.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:29 pm

@Magnum- I would love to see him in GB..weird…but I would like to see it

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

@Mag…he not going to shake ish….he going to throw that hoe this time out…bee lee dat….defense is much faster and nastier than they were in his day…trust he will be laid awt if he tried dis time…he may give you some naked boots or some roll out action..but all that madden 10 hit the highlight stick/b button action is OVA..just ask vince young…tavaris jackson….jamarcus russell…mcnabb….but here is what i want to know

how you lead your team to the dayum playoffs for a couple season but you out the league…have you seen Aaron Brooks…but you have an a cleo lemon still in the league…or a dayum seneca wallace playing qb…come on!!!

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

Magnum If Jacksonville can have 2 black QB’s on the roster (wait, weren’t Leftwich, Garrard and Quinn Gray on the team at the same time?) – you know the original Chocolate City can have 2 black QB’s. Not saying that I think he’ll go to the Skins though.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:31 pm

E…you think Jam be posting…wait until Foots shows up!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:33 pm

Bills.Browns,Chiefs,Lions,Raiders,Rams and the Buc’s will all be sorry this year

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:34 pm

sorry as in they will suck

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
3:34 pm

@Elijah, I have to agree with you!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

Well, well, well, Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

@ Rell: if anyone thinks Vick’s “lost a step” while RESTING for the past 2 years — OR that he’s now going to be a pure pocket QB, they’ve gotta ‘nother thing coming. Steve Young and Randall Cunningham were both deadly from the pocket; yet LETHAL on the edges… McNabb fell victim to listening to nay-sayers as did Vick before his demise in ATL. Now, place a legit O-Line in front of him and let him set his feet = Dangerous – but I don’t think Run Mike Run! had completely vanished.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

Woman…what you need is some natural protein…was that thunder I just heard?

Demi – I know you got the memo last week….Pusha Gal = “The Weewee Breaka. Or maybe I can find myself a V8 made with Swanson’s chicken broth. That way, I get what I’m missing and nobody get’s hurt. And uh, nobody’s clappin’ over in these parts.

Hey there, Melo! Just a little busy bee working my little stinger off. :) And How’s Queen and the little heir(ess) doing? And please do, keep an extra eye out for your beloved buffoonstress, since she’s finally coming to her senses. Lol

Leggs – Don’t tell me you in the business of puttin’ a killin’ on the young men. Hammer don’t hurt em! LOL

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

If Jacksonville can have 2 black QB’s on the roster (wait, weren’t Leftwich, Garrard and Quinn Gray on the team at the same time?)

@ Tazzee – Whp talking about them Buccs again? Lol…but yea.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

@W8: my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:37 pm

GO Dolphins!!!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:38 pm

Cee

Tazzee’s talking about the Jaguars.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:39 pm

PoppaG Lol Tazzee Mae is’a real football girl. Told her she gets a batch of lobster dip jus cause we’d see football as a passion to be reckoned! no kiddin’

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Magnum-It’s okay Magnum..it’s okay…lol

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:40 pm

LOL @ Dolphins, Demi. I *heart* the Chargers! *batting long eyelashes* lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:40 pm

Hey Magnum- You know we have to takeover the new spot with the big screen HDTV for away games…I got my pair of season tickets for the home games..Go Falcons

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

@W8: my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!

Magnum – You know I’ve always respected you for your Raiders and Lakers love. :D

I don’t see how you can hang around W8…

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

LEFTWICH!

PoopaG Mae and i were talking about the Buccs outside the blog. lol…she know…she know…cain’t get into all that though.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football.

- my dude…she is hell in fanasty football her and that dayum steeler freak kym…but i will pay attention this year and lay da smack down

@mag…again i said the roll out action = edge….naked boots sure..but all that juking…naw joe…are you serious….lol…days are ova

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Tazzee: valid point re: JAX, but there-is-no-way Goodell & Co. are gonna have him in the same community that spawned all of this fiasco in the first place (the DMV) — remember, NONE of this took place in ATL (cough-cough)… PETA in DC? The headquarters of the NFLPA? On a team owned by Goodell’s BOY, D. Snyder??? I just don’t see it as a likely stop……

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:43 pm

PoppaG You said you can bbq. so we’ll take two orders of chicken and ribs for that first tailgating.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

@W8: For Shizz — HD or BUSSST!!!

@ARed: I’m a simple man: TARHEELS – RAIDERS – LAKERS – YANKEES….. El Fin.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

We gotta Latina sista on the Supreme Court now! Senate confirms 68 to 31.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!</i.
I agree.

I may be a former Bengal,but I am still an Oakland fan.

It just looks like we will have to wait until Al Davis (aka the original Jerry Jones) dies because he isn’t making the best decision. Passing on Crabtree when he landed right in our laps….

Demi

GO Dolphins!!!

Ronnie Brown is really excited about the season for you guys. I spotted him on bench a couple of weeks ago at the LA Fitness at Atlantic Station. (He has a condo there.)

Speaking of Brooking, I saw him at LA Fitness Lenox on the July 25. He was running the treadmill and playing the airdrums at the same time…lol. Next time that I see him, I may give him a message of Tazzee Mae’s love for him…lol

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

Demi – Dolphins!? We’re getting some at the Aquarium in Spring 2010. Come see.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:45 pm

Well, well, well, Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football

I see that too! she took be aback,when she referenced the curse laden edited post.
sport can be a drug smetimes!
I used to luv hw,when i used to go watch soccer,back in the day,and our team scores.We wl be embracing and giving full body breastess huggs to some of the phine azz chics in the stadium,just coz u routing for the same team!
Fabulous.
Just another way u can scope and get a foot in the door with some of these dimes.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:46 pm

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

Uh…do you cover the address, cuz once I’m there I can see the house number and street and keep it in my phone. A quick plug into Google maps will get me back there if I need to! (and now they display house images too).

I doing a cut and paste again on this one….if that ain’t about the simplest thing I’ve ever read….or some really really simple chicks, or public transpo chicks. If you in a car, only once should do it.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:46 pm

@ARed: I’m a simple man: TARHEELS – RAIDERS – LAKERS – YANKEES….. El Fin.

Magnum – Yeah, you know we battled during Final Four, but I couldn’t really hate. Just talked smack.

And uh…you will support your Panthers! But as a Raider fan, I understand. You need a freakin back up team with those fools! I have my black and gold paper bag all lined up for this season. The Crabtree jokes have already started (Big Jim yet again :( ).

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:47 pm

Page

You’d like to know that the Chargers are my preseason pick for the Superbowl. I don’t think that they will win but they shouldn’t have trouble making the playoff in a division with the Chiefs, Raiders, and a rebuilding Broncos. They should get a bye and that usually helps towards the Superbowl.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:47 pm

she took be aback

took me

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:48 pm

place (the DMV

watch your mouth son…..hampton roads stand up..yea we gangsta…we got em all…iverson…vick…lil vick….burress….all from the hampton roads area…aaron brooks…

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
3:48 pm

Cee – I love dolphins! They are so cute!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:49 pm

If you in a car, only once should do it

Lurker, I’m sure you would think it’s simple.

Yes, the address would help you get BACK there if you need to, but what if you are STUCK there and need to call the police. The fact that he’s taken back roads to get you there will deter you from coming back. If you have the ADDRESS you can get back there and ALSO direct authorities to where you are.

But yeah, it’s not smart to have the address to where you are.

Thanks for displaying your simple mindedness.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:49 pm

MAGNUM The Yankees too? W8 is definitely keeping his frenemies closer… Please talk some sense into him about them.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

lol @ Kimmie – Dophins are cute. I was gettin at Demi tombout those So. Fla boys. Po thang…

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

Cee

Tazzee Mae is a Cleveland gurl and they love themselves some football in that town.

I really feel bad for the fan in that city except when I think about the fact that Atlanta’s only parade came at their expense (Braves beating the Indians in the WS). They are loyal fans. I can’t see how they bear the cold shirtless (Dawg Pound).

Art Modell did the Cleveland fans dirty.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

@Magnum: say “word,son”..lol

@Rell- tazzee aint all that in Fantasy Football..thats why she didnt save me a spot

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

since she’s finally coming to her senses. Lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: dont rub it it…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

UGA, Falcons, Hawks,Braves, Valdosta Wildcats, Welcome All Raiders

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:53 pm

LURKER Hmmm Methinks folk been misreading you of late.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:53 pm

@ARed: “my” Panthers?? Um… I’ve been in The A since ‘91 – they weren’t even established until ‘95 – I left the QC in ‘91 when I graduated high school… TRUST – I’m much more a Falcon” than I’ll ever be a “Panther”!! LOL – my family hates it, too…

@mytw♥tatas: re: W8’s misguided sports soul, I’m not in “the convincing business” – it’s not for everyone, ya know?? :-D

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

Cee

so we’ll take two orders of chicken and ribs for that first tailgating.

I’ve got two huge slabs of ribs in the fridge right now. I cooked them yesterday on the big grill. We were supposed to go on the cruise this week, but we got it rescheduled for the spring. It might be my spring break getaway.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

Rell – not reppin the Tidewater Boyz are we??? :smile:

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:55 pm

WORRRRRD SONNNNNNN !!!!!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:56 pm

Ared Are you on the crack pipe? seriously. If you would calm your azz down you think before inserting foot to the mouth. You big dummy. I’m not even going there with you today.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
3:56 pm

@Jam…. I meant no harm you know I like me some Jam! I like the fiesty come back!

@W8 why do you have to mention my Cleveland Browns with those teams?

The Browns will have a good season this year!

@My2tatas…. I am having a big Superbowl Party this year! Would you and Jam like to attend! :wink:

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:56 pm

The wife is actually home sewing curtains and window stuff for the guest room. Trips to Hancock Fabrics are so boring for me. She was excited.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
3:57 pm

“frenemies”. That’s a new one, and it makes sense.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:57 pm

Magnum- You knowwwwwwww I love, love, loveeeeeeeeeeee my Lakers and my Phoenix Suns! Hmmmmmm I know u and W8 peeped the super totally cute pink Suns shirt with my future ex hubby’s #13 and his name on the back that I had on the other night, right? *wink* lol

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:57 pm

My2
LURKER Hmmm Methinks folk been misreading you of late.

SAY IT AGAIN!!!!

Some folks got allll the sense and answers to everything but lacking common…gheesh

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:57 pm

TRUST – I’m much more a Falcon” than I’ll ever be a “Panther”!! LOL – my family hates it, too…

Magnum – My bad. I thought I saw something Panthers at some point it time. It probably was Carolina football something! Sorry bruh. Cuz I wouldn’t want anyone to mistake me for a 49er fan. :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:58 pm

sooo what you are saying is that these fries that i cooked in the toaster oven three days ago..that i forgot about and just found…i should not eat???

Rana Cash

August 6th, 2009
3:58 pm

hey guys, check out my frugal and fun date ideas every Thursday on ajc.com’s Atlanta Bargain Hunter blog. Everything under $40, and different cool dates every week.

And while you’re out, take some tips from Wise Diva: relax and enjoy yourself.

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
3:58 pm

Which reminds me, Lurker – Saw your last post from yesterday…I’m cool. You’re cool. We’re cool.

Above the Fray.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:58 pm

I’m not even going there with you today.

Good. See ya.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:58 pm

Big Bird yeah Imma go there…I did a cut and paste because I thought your answer was sufficient to the idiotic statement of taking different routes to ones house

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:59 pm

I’m not usually so trusting of new aquaintances, but misguided might be right. WTF is a Valdosta Wildcat???? :eek:

PG Mine are marinating right now! Have you ever tried a brown mustard & honey rub?

CEMEELI Just cuz… OMG :shock: OMG :eek: OMG :shock: OMG :eek: OMG

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
3:59 pm

Page – I caught that…13 is my favorite number…

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:59 pm

(@W8: my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!)

Mag…thats only because yousa know Raider’s cheerleaders career enda, LOL

Mag is now forcing a Demi into a 10 hours a day P90x marathon

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:59 pm

Which reminds me, Lurker – Saw your last post from yesterday…I’m cool. You’re cool. We’re cool.

Above the Fray.

SCool….yep we are

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:59 pm

“frenemies”. That’s a new one, and it makes sense.

Leggs – You must not be a Sex And the City fan!

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:00 pm

4 a moment,i thoght lurker and Ared were in agreement!

Mytwo,i agree,Ared misread her and went left :arrow:

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:00 pm

MyTwo – Yeah, sis most folk already new “truth” was a false. Lol And about mama’s logic…yeah, she made a helluva a point.

Demi – and Mayne, Don’t you start (regarding Foots/long posts in general)…somma you just don’t like reading or like Fantasia, reading is not one of your strong points (but got-dang that guhl sang)! Cuz I dare not put you on blast for fithy-elven (50-11) scriptures at the top of the morning, like you just hip to the 23rd Psalm. Some folks already know about “that goodness”…however, I’m glad to be one of several to witness ya’ revelations.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:01 pm

Page

There is still a little bit of talk (not as much as before) between the Suns and Hawks in regards to Amare.

The Hawks are trying to come to an agreement with Joe Johnson on an extension. If they cannot, Amare might be in play for the Hawks because both Johnson and Amare would be in their contract years. It would clear a lot of money off the books with Josh Smith gone to Phoenix.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:01 pm

Dirty Birds – Bulldogs and GT Basketball. The dicotomy of an Atlanta native.. Yeah I support the hawks, but dont quote me boy.. Oh and the braves but I been half hearted fooling with them sine they names it Turner field when a Living legend played across the street at Atlanta Fulton County Stadium.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:01 pm

PoppaG – My side pancreas is telling me not to talk about football anymore cause there’s not a single game on tonight being Thursday and all.

We can talk about that episode of “The Closer”, or “Hawthorne” from Mon & Tues night though. lol

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:01 pm

@ARed: Yeah, it was likely about my boyz from CHAPEL THRILL… And I cannot front- after all these years of loathing the Niners and Steelers (both for OBVIOUS reasons), I am HUUUUUUUGE fans of Coaches Singletary (my high school idol!) and Tomlin (Dungy disciple).

Disclaimer: I wanna see the Coaches do well – the teams’ success is but a mere byproduct…. GO RAIDERS.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:02 pm

Mytwo,i agree,Ared misread her and went left

Hey, it happens. Folks need to get their formatting game together.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:02 pm

Tatas-no, I have tried Brown Mustard and Honey Rub.

I used a rub from Whole Foods for yesterdays ribs.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
4:03 pm

@MO…now….puleeze..always….been fan since..Lawerence taylor went to my high school..along with mel gray and ron springs…not to mention i have played against tomlin in high school sports….i remember paying for a dayum high school game to go see ZO play…not to mention i watch iverson dunk at dayum 15 in the tidewater christmas tourney back in the day…came home on leave and caught him playing qb for bethel long before mike vick stole his style….trust i been 7 cities…HR…for a minute…i just hate the dayum dead skins..back in the day all you got in va was either ….9er/raiders/steeler/dallas…on tv every sunday …cbs fins/jets/browns….take your pick from that list..lol

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:04 pm

@Demi: LMAO!! I’ve graduated from P90X and stepped into the realm of Elite training; **INSANITY** lives up to the name “4 REAL- 4 REAL” !!!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:04 pm

Melo4 a moment,i thoght lurker and Ared were in agreement! Mytwo,i agree,Ared misread her and went left

That chick needs to pull back and re-read what she posts and the tone. She prides herself on “being up on it” quick retorts et al, that it reflects more than what oozies through the screen. Being that chick, the one that knows it alls, says it all, does it all, sometimes ain’t a good read/wear. Relax and learn a little…gheesh.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:04 pm

the moment i saw Ared’s response, i went back to that theme of black on black women hate.

I tell ya,uall do that smetimes.

Theres no reason why u shld tear each other apart just coz ur opinions dont jive or coz shanneekwa has some fly shoes and pants today.
Ur menfolk see that and play that against uall!

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:06 pm

I am crakin up at Moca! Lol 50-11 and Barrino!! I’m glad you pegged it cause if on mo’ person say they don’t….

Oh lawd! Gal!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:06 pm

@Eli- sorry..go Browns!!

So my random thoughts…Paula is gone from American Idol? I only watch the first few episodes…when folks act a fool..but the new white chick is nice…and atleast she can sing…and who ever said Paula can sing?

Is Joe jackson not with mrs..jackson? What’s the deal with that? Sorry ms jackson I am for reallll!!

So umm yeah after I was tricked into watching houswives of atlanta last week I am watching it again tonight..cuz i want to see the one snatch the other ones wig…and I think I may be developing a man crush on her…Magnum you want to crash the girls party again..they are cooking…plus her parents are in town so her pops may need saving…lol

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
4:07 pm

@Kimmie…. I see you follow the world of the politics! Do you have any aspirations to run for a political office in the near future?

@PG….. The Dawg Pound in Cleveland is awesome baby! Back in the day me and my boys use to lift-up the gates at the old Cleveland Browns Stadium and sneek into the Pound! Beers fights, street fights, chasing the opponents fans those were the days!

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
4:07 pm

Mag – Received your email. Thought I was going to check it out the link in the office today. Too many darn distractions. Will get a listen when I get home and follow up with you.

abc

August 6th, 2009
4:07 pm

I don’t see a parallel between Reggie Bush, Mike Vick and Lawrence Phillips. All 3 were college stars, but Phillips winds up in jail after how many counts of domestic abuse — dating back to his college days at Nebraska. Bush gets hurt. Phillips goes to jail for 10, Vick is out in less than 2 after cruelty to animals rap. What’s the comparison?

Now, I’ll be a little surprised if anyone picks up Vick, but you never know. If they do, he won’t last long. Just my opinion.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

P90X Insanity with Shawn hunh? Don’t be found in the hospital. Lol…we had a call lastweek. HOw you on heart meds and go straight to Insane.

madness.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

Cee

cause there’s not a single game on tonight being Thursday and all.

CSS shows a football game just about every night. It isn’t anything new, but it is a game.

I watched parts of the Ole Miss/Arkansas game the other night.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

True PG about Amare, but I really don’t think he is going anywhere. A friend of mine works for the Suns and he gives me the inside track because he knows I am addicted to NBA. Like, I knew way before a lot of people that the Suns were gonna get Shaq and when they traded him too. There has been talk about an Amare trade since I was last in Phoenix for All-Star this year, but ummmmmm I guess we will see.

PS- I love Joe Johnson, too, but not as a Hawk lol. I *heart* Steve Nash!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

the moment i saw Ared’s response, i went back to that theme of black on black women hate.

LMAO…it’s always ARed’s fault. Even if she wasn’t calling me simple, she was calling someone simple. It’s one thing to attack the argument another to attack the person, whether it’s a female or not.

Go around calling Queen “your biaatch” to her face and see how the response comes back.

But it’s whatever dude.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

LEGGS It helps that I browse the People and Life&Style mags while in line at the Target or Publix. Hollywood starlet lingo at its best…

ELIJAH As long as you understand that I’m rooting for the Giants. Even if they ain’t playing. (And where’s Osi? I will root for him, regardless.)

JAMOCA He’s not really an impostor, but he usually posts in the political blogs, and it had me con-fu-zed when I’d go over there.

Hi RANA! (I like that name.)

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:08 pm

Well Infamous is at the world serioes of DICE with Ashy Larry.. Son!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:10 pm

Oh yeah, JAMOCA… You just wrooonng for that bout Ms. Fanny. My friend refused to see The Color Purple with me talking bout she wouldn’t be able to read her lines. You and She? Straight to H-E-Double Hockey stix!

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:11 pm

Rell – Hold on Harpo! :smile: Im witcha Bruh, I have love for the Tidewater Boys. I dont have the history you have but I saw Iverson play at Bethel as well. How can you be in the area and NOT have love?? Oh and since I was a huge ZO fan I did find out where he lived! My room was covered with two athletes back then :D eion Sanders and Alonzo Mourning

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:11 pm

Mytwo :( i don’t know how to do that.

Cee now lookin at mytwocents like she has gotten on the Calypso Coaster Adventure Islands @ Bayou.

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
4:12 pm

@ARed, just every blue moon I would watch that show.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:12 pm

it’s always ARed’s fault….learn from that chick….you’re the common demoninator

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:13 pm

Eli

You northerners are as crazy about your pro teams as we southerners are about our college teams.

The Dawg Pound was crazy. The Philly Fans are downright frightful if you wear anything but Iggles gear. The NYJ and NYG fans are rowdy. The Pats fans are a set of interesting folks.

Steelers, Bills, and Packer fans are diehards and love their small market teams to the end. (All three have good owners-in the case of the Packers, the fans own shares).

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:13 pm

lol@DK- With Ashy Larry and the dice game

@My2- Only the best Highschool Football team ever…

Now that there is a tinge of drama popping up…watch who shows up next who has been quiet

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:13 pm

Lurker – Whether that’s you (Ms. Main) or not…I concur…and crackin’ up at the same dayum time. Lol

Melo – Head nod to ya’ 4:04.

MyTwo – Frenemies indeed. And to the invite ova at Eli’s (pronounced E-LYE)…yeah, you & me sis…you & me! Female version of Simmie and Akeem all over again! You wit’ it? Lmao!

E-LYE – We’re good suga…just a little sensative bout my ish (at times). ;)

Cee – Anutha whaaaat??? Fu–>tha. LOL

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

There is nothing worse than Bills Fan…sorry but there isn’t

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

PoopaG No thanks on CSS. It shows all gray, and dated. Ole Miss won in that one? Not saying i watched it though :lol: .

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

@W8: I’m dowwwn — about to get this INSANITY in rrrrrright now!!!

@Cemeeli: That would be the one! No heart meds ova hurrre, but yeah- whomever that was iz a DUUUUUUMMMMMYYYYYY !!!

@SexyCool: Splendid – give me a ring once you have.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

@ ALL: Training time – BE BLESSED – ARRRRRRRRRRROOO!!!!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

it’s always ARed’s fault….learn from that chick….you’re the common demoninator

That’s fine with me. It’s blogging not brain surgery.

Besides, I was being sarcastic. I’m not a woe is me victim blogger. I couldn’t care less.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Page1908 – LOL! I knew early on at Barnacles that you “heart” Steve Nash. “Hi, Im Page and I heart Steve Nash”!!

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

if that ain’t about the simplest thing I’ve ever read….or some really really simple chicks

thats the quote,not attack in there by my interpretation,not to u not to W8.
I wld say sorry to lurker,if i were u.Its human to misread.
Queen knows she “my” bia,just depends where i say it, :arrow: in her face,just us 2 and when its hot!

and i luv u too,remember that…

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Magnum – Yea Shawn is silly for real. I’ll take Tony on a bad day!

yea…He’s back at work now. But boy, i thought…jus wow!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Eli – Naw, but I’ve always loved current events & news stories since I was very young. I always got straight A’s in social studies! Should have really answered my calling and went on to journalism school at UGA instead of majoring in business/accounting. Sigh… Oh well, never too late!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:16 pm

Ok I’m putting the Chapelle Show up there as one of the Funniest Shows ever. Im sitting here laughing my A$$ off..

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

Did Magnum just howl?

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

Page

I agree that Amare probably won’t go anywhere at least until the trade deadling. (After all, he is a free agent next summer and Phoenix doesn’t need to let him get away for nothing).

Amare is still here in Atlanta a lot either way. He is trying to do a rap label or something here(as if we need more rappers here).

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

Sister Cee – I wanted to go thru the tv watching that bigot messing with the nurse with the artificial leg on Hawthorne!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

CEE Of course you do! I’m just using shock and eek. And I got eek from you, miss ma’am.

And how you know what that look gonna look like? You ain’t ever gonna get to look at me like that. tee hee hee

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

melo – I misread. Moving on. :arrow:

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

melo – it wasn’t really a curse laden post. I put ‘freaking’ in there. Oh and I said Elijah was on that crack…

Mag – yeah I see your point about Vick being too close to the scene of the crime.

Cemeeli – OK, you know I had to laugh about that Bucs reference.

Y’all my guy is a Bucs fan. I’m slowly trying to woo him over to the Falcons…

W8 – you still might have a spot…

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

Queen knows she “my” bia,just depends where i say it

Melo – I’m so proud of myself. Soooo…I did read you quite well, if I must say so myself…and I understand the sentiment behind —> “biaaa, biaaaa”! Lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

@Kimmie- Go Dawgs!!

@DK- I agree

@Others, It’s just comedy…just jokes..nothing serious..besides I like saying off the wall stuff..just like kicking the ant pile sometimes…I guess I should have stated that in reality I took the most direct route there…actually 4 turns to E.Cobb off of GA 400..

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:20 pm

Jamoca Gal, you are a fool witit!! lol…oh…oh…oh….naw, for real though..i cain’t stop laufin.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
4:20 pm

Stepping back in…

@Melo I have not read back far enough, but for some reason your 4:04 made me laugh.

So I guess there is a little tension in the place? Well let me read and see what is going on b/c who knows I might donate a few lines…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:21 pm

@Tazzee- Okay I hope so…besides I don’t want to have to snitch on someone in your league who needs a little help..ZIIIIPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

The ones who were supposed to understand did.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Kimmie I was not playing with the artifical leg. Some folks…boy i tell ya. And Jada’s daughter driving? I’m like wait a minute here…wasn’t she like in 3rd grade when the show started a month ago?

Driving???

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Im out.. Toodleloo MuthaF–ckas (As I roll up the escalade window)

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Cee

You better start loving CSS. As part of the new SEC TV deal, CSS will get some live SEC games this year. Some of those old Jefferson Pilot/Lincoln Financial games that were on UPN and the WB affiliates on Saturday afternoons will be on ESPN and CSS now.

SEC is raking in the moolah. Maybe I should quit law school and because a SEC coach. Nah…I up for the travel that recruiting entails.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

W8 – PG said he used to do the same thing to then you co-signed with him.

Whether you were “joking” or not, it likely happens.

But hardy har har to your joke. :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Mo- Yup, you know I do. Yeah, when we went to Barnacles like when I first moved here and the Suns were in the Playoffs, remember! I was going bananas and dudes were looking like “whoa”!

PG- Yeah, my friend in Phoenix’s son went to school with Amare’s little brother. Man, the kid needs help…mucho. Amare’ is actually really nice and down to earth in person. I hung out with him with my cousin and some Cardinal players a few times when I loved in Phoenix. I *heart* Phoenix…I’ll be there next week….*dang it’s gonna be hot as hellz out there* lmao. *shrugs*

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Did someone mention Ronnie Brown?? I’m going to have to visit LA Fitness in Atlantic Station periodically. That is one nice bit of chocolately goodness!!!! Whew! And the good thing is, he’s so dark you can barely see his tats.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Melo I wld say sorry to lurker,if i were u

She ain’t that simple. Everything about her comes off as “grand”, I’m sure she thinks. Just be glad folks like you and I have no problem admitting our mistakes. That’s the vital part she misses…on a daily.

Jamoca What’s up girlie. Yep, its’ me…Ms. Main

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:24 pm

W8 – I know thats right – whatever the pros are doing, we can always count on our DAWGS for some excitement!

Grace

August 6th, 2009
4:24 pm

Okay what’s going on up in here? football- I know nothing about, but those men sure look good from the back..much to hold on to.

going down back roads to confuse a person does not work at all these days, some folks have gps systems or better yet lojack for brains

now that my day is over and they have worked me to the pulp, I’ll go to the spot and enjoy a not so tiny tini. Have a great evening yall :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

SCool. Why do you like the number 13?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

@Ared- I think we were both talking about way back in the day..i know you can roll with jokes…..sometimes…..rarely….. not very often…lol.:) just kidding

@DK- lol at the Hangover reference

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

Haven’t seen this week’s Hawthorne but Cemeeli Jada’s daughter has been a teenager since the first episode :lol: I think I saw an earlier post where you called her Jada’s sister or something after the first episode.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

There is nothing worse than Bills Fan

-shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhheyt…philly fans are way worse..followed by gaints fan…remember the infamous batteries in the frozen snowballs

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

Just be glad folks like you and I have no problem admitting our mistakes. That’s the vital part she misses…on a daily.

That’s why I feel no need to apologize to you. Keep posting like you know me. A lot of your posts are attacks on what you think you’ve learned about people through their post. No one gives a shyt.

I admitted to my mistake, I just didn’t apologize to you. You’ll live, trust me.

Grace

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

Lift up the lives of those around you and you’ll lift up your whole world.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

MyTwo – Sis, ain’t nobody (well I didn’t) say that Ms. Fannie cain’t read Mury had a lil lamb… However, I remember listening to her on the morning show and further clarifying the rumor that should could not read. And that chick DID say —> “All I meant was I’m not/wasn’t a very strong reader” when growing up (and also referencing) some difficulty reading to the little one.

Now you can yell out: Jamoca, say it ain’t so!!! “But it Izzzz the troof” !!! Lmao.

Cee – You know I’m not downing sistah gurl at all. Just encouraging Demi, E-LYE and nem to read a little more. That’s all. :D

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
4:27 pm

Okay what did I miss? No fights I hope. I saw the word football. Are we talking football?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

@Ared- I think we were both talking about way back in the day..

W8 – Duh. PG been married for almost a decade. ;)

It’s cool, a lot of us are doing the 500 meter backstroke today. Don’t worry the water is warm. :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

LOL @ The Hangover. “weenis”. lmao.

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

Page – Cause I’m weird. LOL.

Playing volleyball in high school, no one ever wanted the number 13 jersey because it was supposedly ‘unlucky’. I decided to prove ‘em wrong.

13 ain’t never caused me no problems.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Cee – Yeah, her driving is about right. She started as an unruly teenager on the show, about 15 or 16. So time for learner’s permit.LOL! Actually she needs to get slapped for that smart mouth before I would take her out driving, but that’s just me.

Did you see the look on that dudes face that was questioning the nurse’s credentials until she told him she graduated top of her class at Georgetown?! Priceless!!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Tazzee- It’s all good. PoppaG owe us some bbq ribs and chicken for that tailgate we should be having. Trying to rake me over…:) he should know by now Cee don’t have any hate for the Jags…i was rootin’ for them when they were 12-4 going to the playoffs.

I gotta go get ready for this Play….Enjoy you trip Ladybug!

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Hey MO! That wasn’t Barnacles, that was Flambeaux in StoneCrest! LOL. Remember when we kept ordering stuff and they were like “we ain’t got no mo jambalya….huh? u wanna apple martini? well, we ain’t got no mo apple mix”. lmao

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Good Ared/Jam,we all good.
Proff, im making peace and luv in the joint,more than i have ever done,no funky lines needed today! :lol:
watch it, i dont want to make nobody prego

Tazz,good altho i know u a mad fan.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

P90x..woohooo…lol I ran into a “blog sis” at T-mobile one morning after a workout and I had on some workout pants that happened to be tight…she said..”.umm W8, i know i have seen those pants on the rack at a fitness store but never did I think that someone I know would be wearing them”….lmao….she made me feel all self conscious…lmao

“Yep, its’ me…Ms. Main”
@Lurker- I dont know why but that reads so sexy to me…go on ‘head “Ms Main”

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

Tazzee

Did someone mention Ronnie Brown??

Yeah, I did. I actually met him a year ago when he was rehabbing after his knee injury. I was with Bob (Sheree’s ex-hubby) when I met him. I saw him a couple of times during the summer at the gym and he would ask me to spot him.

We haven’t hung out or anything but he seems cool.

However, I know nothing of his chocolately goodness,though. But maybe that is why Mrs. PG’s eyebrow raised when I introduced him when she came over while I was spotting….Nawl..she raised her because of me!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

Page1908 – LOL! That is why I said you were like “HI, my name is Page and I heart Steve Nash”! You were rooting hard when they showed him on the screens! Too funny!!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:31 pm

No one gives a shyt…you’re not suppose to. You’re reading them those, as meant to be done…on a blog

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:31 pm

LOL SCool. *Weird*

Mo-”huh, huh, huh, huh, huh” (black baseball cap dude) lmao.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:31 pm

“….reading them tho”

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:32 pm

PoppaG owe us some bbq ribs and chicken for that tailgate we should be having

When did we agree to dis?

Alright…take this blog coupon to Sonny’s…lol

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:32 pm

HAAAAAAAA!!!! :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:33 pm

@Ared- I never knew PG was married…just kidding…I am doing backflips, swandives, breast strokes…I am like you when it comes to certain things on here..

@Rell- yeah I remember the snowballs..lol

@Kimmie- On ESPNU lastnight they showed last years Capitol One Bowl…I watched it like it was brand new

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:34 pm

W8 – See, even the DAWGS reruns are GOOD!!LOL!!!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
4:34 pm

Ok Melo just checking to see what was going on…you know I am always ready for whatever just in case…

Nah don’t knock up anyone just remember child support and Queen going upside your head…

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:34 pm

Page1908 – you know we did Flambeaux for the NFL playoffs. And yes I had to make a call after one to many “we dont have anymore of….” WTH?!?!? This is a freakin restaurant, how can you be out of ERR’THANG!! And then we did Barnacles for the NBA Finals, remember cause Lady J was KILLING those crab legs!! :smile:

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:34 pm

SCool – …to finish ya 4:22 —> “…actually get it.” That just reminded me of something 2Can went off about a time or two. LOL And about the number 13, yeah my ex said the same thing. So it helped that my birthday was on that very day. I was already “in theyaaah”. Lol j/k

Lurker – waving Hey gurl! And that is how I’m addressing you from now on, if that’s aww-right —> Ms. Main. Nice ring to it, at least I think so. :)

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:35 pm

mytwo Let’s see… OMG :eek: OMG :eek: OMG :eek: …did i do it?

Moca I know. Still funny…still funny…

@ Tazzee – The girl playing Jada’s daughter looked too mature to be Jada’s daughter! Then when you told me after i was like (must be sister)”opps”…now i’m like….”whooooaaaa”.

K – I’m gone.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:35 pm

@Kimmie- I was really acting like I had never seen it before…lmao…it was to funny

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:36 pm

Ms. Main. Nice ring to it, at least I think so…and so it is

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:36 pm

PG been married for almost a decade.

A decade and almost three months now. :grin:

I’ve admitted to trust problems. Looking for peoples motives when they interacted with me. So, I really didn’t want them to know where I lived. Most of the time I met in public places only.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:36 pm

Cemeeli – enjoy the play. Get you some tissues, that last scene gets me every time. Oh and don’t forget about the other play ‘A Cool Drink A Water’

PoppaG – yeah that was it, the raised eyebrow was you. I tell you, his pics on those sports pages don’t do that man justice. I’m going to give him a special shout when he’s coming in and out the tunnel on September 13.

Hmm, I might try to finnagle my sideline passes for that game….

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:37 pm

Lurker – Just “memba” who gave you that name, chica. LOL

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:37 pm

GRACE Bring it! Peace has tried to escape or some folks tried to run it away.

This is reminding me of the Angie Flirt/Not a Flirt convo. ARED It’s pointless to say something like ‘this is a reflection of me and a part of my personality I choose to display’ one day, and the next… flip to ‘you don’t know me.’

I encourage everyone to go back and read themselves. Not only for consistency – but for growth’s sake. If you cain’t see none. Right.

Where’s the incense and candles? Maybe we can manufacture a semblance of zen real quick…

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:38 pm

LMAO MO OH YEAH! No, I thought when Lady Ja was killin the crab legs that was Dugans? lmao ok, i need to put my helmet on lol. Yeah, Flambeaux was not the bomb! Didn’t somebody’s card get an extra charge or something? lol. Barnacles was cool…man, when I walked in, I was like “JAM ON IT”! LOL

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:39 pm

So, I really didn’t want them to know where I lived.

PG – You know I’m with you on that. But only because I’ll lose in a showdown :lol:

I’m getting dinner cooked for me and I’m really thinking twice about it, just because it requires my kitchen. I wonder if I can use my neighbors house. :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:39 pm

Hey Ms Main…lol…why do i like that name so much…hmmm

Sounds like…”respect my ish, cuz im that chick”..lol

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:39 pm

Tazzee,have a safe and enjoyable trip!

i scoped that Mr Ego is on the trip too,thats a good look.

Hope to hear and read u brite and early monday next of next week,with a steppy bounce in ur walk and a twinkle in ur eye! ( he he he :lol: )

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:39 pm

JamoLurker – Just “memba” who gave you that name, chica.

You got it girl.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:40 pm

W8Hey Ms Main…lol…why do i like that name so much…hmmm
Sounds like…”respect my ish, cuz im that chick”..lol

Yep…I’m digging that too….thanks Jamo

Wise Diva

August 6th, 2009
4:41 pm

of course! Tazzee is known as the gridiron goddess, please respect her gangsta. That is all. LOL

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:41 pm

I encourage everyone to go back and read themselves. Not only for consistency – but for growth’s sake. If you cain’t see none

mytwo – I’m sorry…this blog is for entertainment, right?

Just checking….

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:41 pm

Page1908 – OMG! okay we did Dugans too but I dont remember what sporting event we went for! LOL! I remember cause my sister and I cussed at the bouncer (sorry Sap Sucka). And yeah I think Kinderbabe had her card over charged. The manager sent me a gift card after I called and complained but hell, ya’ll didnt have ish on the menu so what good is the gift card!! WTH???

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

This lady just said she thinks Paula Abdul didn’t know she was going to get let go on American Idol! I told her they’ve been talking about that for awhile now so if she didn’t at least have an suspecion, she’s crazy!! Just can’t take “duh” statements sometimes!LOL!!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

ARED It’s pointless to say something like ‘this is a reflection of me and a part of my personality I choose to display’ one day, and the next… flip to ‘you don’t know me.’

Too funny

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

Taz – Don’t forget about the balcony action. :)

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

A decade and almost three months now.

PG – Congrats by the way!

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

WD! LOL @ “that is all”. lmafo.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:42 pm

Tazzee

I knew it was for me. Hooray for me!!! :grin:

Reggie is a Georgia native. Cartersville, GA that is.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:43 pm

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:43 pm

Ms. Main (Lurker) – You’re welcome, sis. I just have a thing for naming folks according to how they post and/or the tone that’s given off.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:44 pm

W8 Ohh, high school! Yeah, y’all are bred on the teams from Pee Wee on up. Go Vipers!

JAMOCA Uhh, yeah, that would be ME who dubbed her Main. LOL If only I could help you further distinguish when it’s her. She reads different than others making use of it. Usually succinct. Matter of fact in a common sensical way. Will touch on the spritual but remains lurkin cuz most of the time she can only SHDH at the antics.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:44 pm

LOL @ Mo- how much was the gift card? lmao. well, they went out of business anyway, so maybe you can give the gift card to someone you don’t like. lmao.

W8!!

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:46 pm

Page1908 – LMBAO!! Gurl I dayum near choked reading ya last post!!! Too funny!

Ok its off to the nail shop, read ya’ll later!! :smile:

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:46 pm

My2Cents – She reads different than others making use of it. Usually succinct. Matter of fact in a common sensical way. Will touch on the spritual but remains lurkin cuz most of the time she can only SHDH at the antics.

You know me so well….just got me all pegged and stuff. You pulled allll that from my few posts….smart lady you are

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:47 pm

MyTwo – Naw chick! Now the epiphany may have come ’round the sametime…but dian’t the doggone pernt! Besides, who got the copyright? crickets?… Lmao. Lemme stop!!! This is comical. Lololol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:47 pm

@Page- huh I didnt make any of those trips..that was before my time..what you saying my name for? lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:48 pm

Mo- you got them eyebrows..done..now the nails done..what are you up to?

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:48 pm

Rell

Philly fans are the worst & they love that distinction.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:48 pm

SexyCool – balcony action…you just made me blush

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:49 pm

…but I’m gone need you to stop trying to “dee-bo” my side gig from me, 2Pieces! LOL

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:50 pm

Taz:)

And I was about to say….Jam – weren’t personality summaries requested of you awhile back? And did you ever finish the fellas?

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
4:51 pm

What y’all doin’? (looking around the blog lounge)……………….. Any body know anything about film credits in Ga?

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:51 pm

SCool – I don’t think I could get into any balcony action. I’m scared of heights!LOL!!

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:51 pm

LOL Mo

W8- Yeah this was before your time. You know me and Mo go “way” back! huh, huh, huh, huh. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

W8 – why caint I just be getting my cute on?? Why I gotta be up to something!! LOL :wink:

Okay Im leaving now…….

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

Headache gone, without the need of protein either…time to hit the bricks!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

ARED No need to be sorry! It’s absolutely entertaining witnessing backtracking and listening to the side of the neck comments. And I recall when we have conversations about self reflection, you aren’t usually a strong proponent per se. So I’m not surprised if you reject that. But in general, if your words or actions are recorded in some type of medium, you should be able to chart progress. It’s why you need more than static characters for a movie, book, play to be good. Think about it. Or because you’re obstinate, don’t. It’s still holds true.

JAMOCA Oh, now if it’s Ms. Main, then yeah, you can have the residuals on that, But Main,…

Wise Diva

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

I like Ms Main, too. Diggin it. Good job

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

LOL, Kimmie! Close your eyes.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

@Mo- Cuz you are naturally cute..born that way..now you are getting all extra today…lemme find out who he is…uhh huhhh

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

What do you wanna know Pretty Wings? I *heart* the film industry.

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

And hold on TIGHT!!!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:54 pm

@Mo- He better not be short like you…how yall gonig to sit at the bar with yall legs dangling…lol

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

JAMOCA See. I had typed that copyright comment before the lengthy paragraph! We really do get on the same vibe. But yeah, I did come up with Main. Go on, now gurl hahaaa

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

Mo, you are gettin your swerve on tonight? I took off my acrylics like 2 weeks ago, so i am rockin all natural. last week it was blue nails, this week, yellow ones. lmao.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

And I recall when we have conversations about self reflection, you aren’t usually a strong proponent per se. So I’m not surprised if you reject that.

mytwo – I don’t reject it. I just don’t cheerlead for it on an entertainment blog.

My self reflection is daily. I am single, with no children. I have enough time to love myself, learn myself and work on self.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:56 pm

SCool – LOL!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:56 pm

@Page- You have yellow nails now? wow…MESSAGE!!!!

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

Goodnight everyone!

I Believe…That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

lol yeah W8- Ummmm u can see them on the fb pics of me and mamba on our fb page. they are cute nails lol

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

@ Page – How has the State of GA modified their film credits and what are the advantages as opposed to say LA or NY?

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

how yall gonig to sit at the bar with yall legs dangling…lol

oh,thats 4 ft 2 right there! :lol: :lol:

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

@Tazzee….I have something for ya! Just so you know I am a football expert! Haaaaaaa

Atlanta rookie Matt Ryan was intercepted twice, was tackled in the end zone for a safety and fumbled the ball away on a botched handoff. That fumble was returned 27 yards by Antrel Rolle 52 seconds into the second half to put Arizona ahead for good.

Now who lost the play-off game?

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

W8/Page1908 – i cant leave for messing with ya’ll! LOL! And no swervin, just chillin in my cuteness tonight! :smile: But thanks for calin me out chica…

W8 – you know I discriminate against those that are eye-level. We both cant have feet swinging and I prefer I be the only one. Looking like 2 5th graders!

Ms. Main

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

Enter your comments here

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:59 pm

Scool – Those files…still being updated. But it was also based on supply and demand. So I haven’t received any demands lately, so the supply is simply on “backorder”. LOL And did I mention it was over 30 of them dudes that I recalled??? May be I’ll shell out a few tomorrow. However, because of the count, I can only handle the multiple personalities/tones/characteristics of our beloved blog men in increments. Gotta love em though. Lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
5:00 pm

@Melo-Lol reminds me of that scene from I’m gonna get you sucker.

@Page- You and Staceye looked great lastnight I couldn’t come sorry I missed her Magazine launch..I gave the lil lady her props today though

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
5:01 pm

@ Demi – Play some Earth Wind and Fire

W8©

August 6th, 2009
5:01 pm

lol@MO and 2 fifth graders..like yall need a chaperone

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
5:03 pm

MyTwo – Yes, ma’am! We are. Which is why I automatically put the killswitch on reference of Peat & Re- (I shall not utter the remainder).

And hey, we bof’ came up with Main. I remembas! LOL But yeah, that Ms. <—sets it off real proppa like. All dignified & ish. Lmao! So, chick (meaning 2Pieces)? Where’s my percentage? Ching! Ching! LOL

Wise Diva

August 6th, 2009
5:03 pm

Have a great evening everyone! I appreciate those comments today, very nice.

Elijah( )

August 6th, 2009
5:06 pm

@Jamoca…. I enjoy reading your posts. Don’t Judge Me!

Everyone be blessed this evening! Share a smile and a laugh with someone it will not hurt ya! :lol:

Jamoca - Pusha Gal say - "Bish betta have my Money"

August 6th, 2009
5:07 pm

LOL

G’nite you all!