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Getting In The Way

There are so many single people that are oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them. So many of us focus on the absolute wrong thing, that we end up getting in our own way of making a connection. Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you. You are part of the problem and you may not know it.

One thing that I have noticed that I do is act very aloof with men that I am interested in. I have had this problem for quite a while and even when I actively try to change it, it seems to be a defense mechanism that kicks in like a knee-jerk reaction. What do you think is getting in the way for you?

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While the single women in Atlanta can boast of their hot looks and gym tight figures, they are happy to turn the heads of gentleman. They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks. They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that, I think. Just as much as they need a woman that looks great and can put together a great meal.

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

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Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

These terms Hooking and capturing a man being thrown around, makes me wonder what the intentions of some are? Men are not animals neither are women so why are we implying this? Once people get over dating is not a game/sport maybe they actually lower themselves to have something real instead of trying to find something out a fairy tale. Some of us are not interested in relationship, some enjoy sitting by the pool drinking our Gin and Tonic and watching your world burn, it’s rather entertaining watching people scurry around for the things they think they need and go to strange lengths to get it. Priceless. I have already done my time, now it’s time kick back and watch.

WD Wrote:
“They showcase their looks and accomplishments (WHICH IS OVERRATED) but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks”

Gee I wonder why? Needy-Greedy-Self-Centered-Gold-Digging much?

This has been brought to you by your regular pig-headed jerk. You know you love me! Mwahahahaahahah

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:26 pm

ELIJAH See how you do! Reading is Fundamental. Just sound out the words and don’t harrass my girl. Remember, it ain’t too early for us to start a rumor that you’re having the biggest SuperBowl party on the East Coast.

Paul McJagger

August 6th, 2009
3:27 pm

I think people need to realize that you can learn from the other person. Maybe they have a better way of handling a situation or a part of life (such as finances, for example). When the other person makes a suggestion, it is out of love and caring to see you improve, not downright criticism. Open your mind and consider the advice without thinking they are “trying to change me” and maybe you will learn something and the relationship will flourish.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:28 pm

Roger Goodell just likes his butt kissed…me thinks

Im not a very knowleadgeble football fan,but based on my gleanings, i concur with that.The man relishes his unbridled power.
But its the owners fault.
I guess they design it that way.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:29 pm

@Magnum- I would love to see him in GB..weird…but I would like to see it

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

@Mag…he not going to shake ish….he going to throw that hoe this time out…bee lee dat….defense is much faster and nastier than they were in his day…trust he will be laid awt if he tried dis time…he may give you some naked boots or some roll out action..but all that madden 10 hit the highlight stick/b button action is OVA..just ask vince young…tavaris jackson….jamarcus russell…mcnabb….but here is what i want to know

how you lead your team to the dayum playoffs for a couple season but you out the league…have you seen Aaron Brooks…but you have an a cleo lemon still in the league…or a dayum seneca wallace playing qb…come on!!!

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:30 pm

Magnum If Jacksonville can have 2 black QB’s on the roster (wait, weren’t Leftwich, Garrard and Quinn Gray on the team at the same time?) – you know the original Chocolate City can have 2 black QB’s. Not saying that I think he’ll go to the Skins though.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:31 pm

E…you think Jam be posting…wait until Foots shows up!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:33 pm

Bills.Browns,Chiefs,Lions,Raiders,Rams and the Buc’s will all be sorry this year

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:34 pm

sorry as in they will suck

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
3:34 pm

@Elijah, I have to agree with you!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

Well, well, well, Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:35 pm

@ Rell: if anyone thinks Vick’s “lost a step” while RESTING for the past 2 years — OR that he’s now going to be a pure pocket QB, they’ve gotta ‘nother thing coming. Steve Young and Randall Cunningham were both deadly from the pocket; yet LETHAL on the edges… McNabb fell victim to listening to nay-sayers as did Vick before his demise in ATL. Now, place a legit O-Line in front of him and let him set his feet = Dangerous – but I don’t think Run Mike Run! had completely vanished.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

Woman…what you need is some natural protein…was that thunder I just heard?

Demi – I know you got the memo last week….Pusha Gal = “The Weewee Breaka. Or maybe I can find myself a V8 made with Swanson’s chicken broth. That way, I get what I’m missing and nobody get’s hurt. And uh, nobody’s clappin’ over in these parts.

Hey there, Melo! Just a little busy bee working my little stinger off. :) And How’s Queen and the little heir(ess) doing? And please do, keep an extra eye out for your beloved buffoonstress, since she’s finally coming to her senses. Lol

Leggs – Don’t tell me you in the business of puttin’ a killin’ on the young men. Hammer don’t hurt em! LOL

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

If Jacksonville can have 2 black QB’s on the roster (wait, weren’t Leftwich, Garrard and Quinn Gray on the team at the same time?)

@ Tazzee – Whp talking about them Buccs again? Lol…but yea.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:36 pm

@W8: my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:37 pm

GO Dolphins!!!

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:38 pm

Cee

Tazzee’s talking about the Jaguars.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:39 pm

PoppaG Lol Tazzee Mae is’a real football girl. Told her she gets a batch of lobster dip jus cause we’d see football as a passion to be reckoned! no kiddin’

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Magnum-It’s okay Magnum..it’s okay…lol

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:40 pm

LOL @ Dolphins, Demi. I *heart* the Chargers! *batting long eyelashes* lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:40 pm

Hey Magnum- You know we have to takeover the new spot with the big screen HDTV for away games…I got my pair of season tickets for the home games..Go Falcons

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

@W8: my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!

Magnum – You know I’ve always respected you for your Raiders and Lakers love. :D

I don’t see how you can hang around W8…

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

LEFTWICH!

PoopaG Mae and i were talking about the Buccs outside the blog. lol…she know…she know…cain’t get into all that though.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:41 pm

Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football.

- my dude…she is hell in fanasty football her and that dayum steeler freak kym…but i will pay attention this year and lay da smack down

@mag…again i said the roll out action = edge….naked boots sure..but all that juking…naw joe…are you serious….lol…days are ova

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Tazzee: valid point re: JAX, but there-is-no-way Goodell & Co. are gonna have him in the same community that spawned all of this fiasco in the first place (the DMV) — remember, NONE of this took place in ATL (cough-cough)… PETA in DC? The headquarters of the NFLPA? On a team owned by Goodell’s BOY, D. Snyder??? I just don’t see it as a likely stop……

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:43 pm

PoppaG You said you can bbq. so we’ll take two orders of chicken and ribs for that first tailgating.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

@W8: For Shizz — HD or BUSSST!!!

@ARed: I’m a simple man: TARHEELS – RAIDERS – LAKERS – YANKEES….. El Fin.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

We gotta Latina sista on the Supreme Court now! Senate confirms 68 to 31.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

my boyz in Oakland may suck, but I’m still a RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAIDER 4 LIFE !!!!</i.
I agree.

I may be a former Bengal,but I am still an Oakland fan.

It just looks like we will have to wait until Al Davis (aka the original Jerry Jones) dies because he isn’t making the best decision. Passing on Crabtree when he landed right in our laps….

Demi

GO Dolphins!!!

Ronnie Brown is really excited about the season for you guys. I spotted him on bench a couple of weeks ago at the LA Fitness at Atlantic Station. (He has a condo there.)

Speaking of Brooking, I saw him at LA Fitness Lenox on the July 25. He was running the treadmill and playing the airdrums at the same time…lol. Next time that I see him, I may give him a message of Tazzee Mae’s love for him…lol

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:44 pm

Demi – Dolphins!? We’re getting some at the Aquarium in Spring 2010. Come see.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:45 pm

Well, well, well, Tazzee Mae Jenkins knows her football

I see that too! she took be aback,when she referenced the curse laden edited post.
sport can be a drug smetimes!
I used to luv hw,when i used to go watch soccer,back in the day,and our team scores.We wl be embracing and giving full body breastess huggs to some of the phine azz chics in the stadium,just coz u routing for the same team!
Fabulous.
Just another way u can scope and get a foot in the door with some of these dimes.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
3:46 pm

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

Uh…do you cover the address, cuz once I’m there I can see the house number and street and keep it in my phone. A quick plug into Google maps will get me back there if I need to! (and now they display house images too).

I doing a cut and paste again on this one….if that ain’t about the simplest thing I’ve ever read….or some really really simple chicks, or public transpo chicks. If you in a car, only once should do it.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:46 pm

@ARed: I’m a simple man: TARHEELS – RAIDERS – LAKERS – YANKEES….. El Fin.

Magnum – Yeah, you know we battled during Final Four, but I couldn’t really hate. Just talked smack.

And uh…you will support your Panthers! But as a Raider fan, I understand. You need a freakin back up team with those fools! I have my black and gold paper bag all lined up for this season. The Crabtree jokes have already started (Big Jim yet again :( ).

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:47 pm

Page

You’d like to know that the Chargers are my preseason pick for the Superbowl. I don’t think that they will win but they shouldn’t have trouble making the playoff in a division with the Chiefs, Raiders, and a rebuilding Broncos. They should get a bye and that usually helps towards the Superbowl.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:47 pm

she took be aback

took me

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:48 pm

place (the DMV

watch your mouth son…..hampton roads stand up..yea we gangsta…we got em all…iverson…vick…lil vick….burress….all from the hampton roads area…aaron brooks…

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
3:48 pm

Cee – I love dolphins! They are so cute!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:49 pm

If you in a car, only once should do it

Lurker, I’m sure you would think it’s simple.

Yes, the address would help you get BACK there if you need to, but what if you are STUCK there and need to call the police. The fact that he’s taken back roads to get you there will deter you from coming back. If you have the ADDRESS you can get back there and ALSO direct authorities to where you are.

But yeah, it’s not smart to have the address to where you are.

Thanks for displaying your simple mindedness.

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:49 pm

MAGNUM The Yankees too? W8 is definitely keeping his frenemies closer… Please talk some sense into him about them.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

lol @ Kimmie – Dophins are cute. I was gettin at Demi tombout those So. Fla boys. Po thang…

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

Cee

Tazzee Mae is a Cleveland gurl and they love themselves some football in that town.

I really feel bad for the fan in that city except when I think about the fact that Atlanta’s only parade came at their expense (Braves beating the Indians in the WS). They are loyal fans. I can’t see how they bear the cold shirtless (Dawg Pound).

Art Modell did the Cleveland fans dirty.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:51 pm

@Magnum: say “word,son”..lol

@Rell- tazzee aint all that in Fantasy Football..thats why she didnt save me a spot

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

since she’s finally coming to her senses. Lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: dont rub it it…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:52 pm

UGA, Falcons, Hawks,Braves, Valdosta Wildcats, Welcome All Raiders

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:53 pm

LURKER Hmmm Methinks folk been misreading you of late.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:53 pm

@ARed: “my” Panthers?? Um… I’ve been in The A since ‘91 – they weren’t even established until ‘95 – I left the QC in ‘91 when I graduated high school… TRUST – I’m much more a Falcon” than I’ll ever be a “Panther”!! LOL – my family hates it, too…

@mytw♥tatas: re: W8’s misguided sports soul, I’m not in “the convincing business” – it’s not for everyone, ya know?? :-D

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

Cee

so we’ll take two orders of chicken and ribs for that first tailgating.

I’ve got two huge slabs of ribs in the fridge right now. I cooked them yesterday on the big grill. We were supposed to go on the cruise this week, but we got it rescheduled for the spring. It might be my spring break getaway.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:54 pm

Rell – not reppin the Tidewater Boyz are we??? :smile:

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:55 pm

WORRRRRD SONNNNNNN !!!!!