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Getting In The Way

There are so many single people that are oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them. So many of us focus on the absolute wrong thing, that we end up getting in our own way of making a connection. Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you. You are part of the problem and you may not know it.

One thing that I have noticed that I do is act very aloof with men that I am interested in. I have had this problem for quite a while and even when I actively try to change it, it seems to be a defense mechanism that kicks in like a knee-jerk reaction. What do you think is getting in the way for you?

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While the single women in Atlanta can boast of their hot looks and gym tight figures, they are happy to turn the heads of gentleman. They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks. They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that, I think. Just as much as they need a woman that looks great and can put together a great meal.

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

625 comments Add your comment

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
2:52 pm

DEMIGOD As much as I proclaim Jesus is my homie, we’d have problems if I didn’t have unlimited text. I’m like am I that much of a heathen?!?!

Seriously, it’s great to be a part of your journey. As long as it doesn’t include hearing Cany Rain anymore before Labor Day. :grin:

Demi

August 6th, 2009
2:54 pm

@Mo/Page-My house is not a darn Freak’em House…it’s just a place where ladies feel relaxe enough to remove their clothing…within 5min of walking thru the door

Mo…you know them ladies at Northlake ain’t right!! LOL

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
2:55 pm

@ Moca – Confuzed? what up?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:56 pm

lol@Demi- I dont bring “interests” to my house nor do I let them see the personal me until they have been screened fully..I dont need any stalkers…I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there..lol..lmao

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

Cee – What do you mean?

M. (pronounced M dot)

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

@ Wise

Did you get my email?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

Watch Vick end up with the Cardinals or the Texans

Demi

August 6th, 2009
2:57 pm

(As long as it doesn’t include hearing Cany Rain anymore before Labor Day)

My .02…my days of skeet skeeting across the blog are numbered.

TRUTH

August 6th, 2009
2:58 pm

LOL!!! I see where a lot of the women get in their own way. Here’s some advice: STOP THINKING THAT MEN THINK LIKE YOU DO. The minute that you stop that it will clear your head a bit. Another point, I saw someone say that men have a “roster” of women. That may be true (or in most men’s minds it appears to be true), hint, you ahve a “roster” of men as well. Men love to be the champion. Compromise and allow that. Be interested. Not aloof and stand offish. A lot have tried that, and my response is “How’s that working out for you?” Just like women want a man to wine and dine her, men are far less complex. We want someone who can have a conversation without the loaded sub-premise of a controlled relationship. Controlled by you, for you, and he becomes a prop. Good luck folk.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
2:59 pm

I now go to the Asian women. She has a better & softer touch when she service.

I got a chuckle out of Cee’s quote because I’ve heard those exact words before but uttered in reference to one of those Tara Boulevard “spas” that Victor Hill shut down.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Jam- what’s up…and did you know Sassafras listens to Jam Pony?

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

LOL W8- Don’t worry, I had a secret videotape to help me with the directions and you know Mo can’t remember anything unless she is the one driving lol.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:00 pm

Demi – did the ladies attack you today?? You know you are the higlight to their day! Hey Chocolate Baby!

W8 – even on my best day I couldnt remember how to get there, I dont hang out in Tennessee much. :smile:

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:02 pm

@ Moca – You know…gurl…wait a min…

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

W8

My sources say that Vick will end up with a team east of the Mississippi. I laughed but I heard the exact same words on NFL Total Access afterwards.

Even though they are denying it, word is Washington has some interest. They aren’t happy with Jason Campbell’s progress. Also, Green Bay wouldn’t mind an experienced back up to Aaron.

Carolina is another team that has privately expressed interest. After Delhomme’s performance in the playoff game against the Cards, some are taking another look at Delhomme and if he’s maxed out as ability.

As for the Patriots, Belichek wants Vick but the owner does not.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

(I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there)

Removing Boo’ed Up cap

Pulling out wang and putting them to work…while you head to the house work as well…Free tip for my single bruhs: Keeping different favors of GOOdhead on ice…in your car is a must

now placing boo’ed Up cap back on and looking innocently at Page.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:04 pm

lo@Mo/Pagel..E. Cobb is not Tennessee

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:06 pm

Dear Lord, please don’t let Vick end up in the NFC South. Amen

They were just talking about Vick going to the Saints on the radio. I just want the brother to get a job.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

PoppaG I meant nothing about them “spas”. lol NO!

Jamoca I have been out-a-pocket. I’m so lost…girl you’re gonna havta spoon feed that one maybe.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

W8

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

You, too?

I used to take different route coming and leaving as well.

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:07 pm

Mo…I need to give them time to miss me, LOl

you are the second highlight of mines, homegirl…just busy today

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:08 pm

W8 – “lol@Mo/Pagel..E. Cobb is not Tennessee”… From where I live it is! :smile: And you know we left the State, thats why you took all those back roads. lol

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:09 pm

Cee

LOL… I know. But, it reminded me of a friend that was rating them.

Sun’s Spa had better looking women. But Orient Spa has softer and better touch..

I just laughed then as I am now.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:11 pm

@ Moca – Check your box.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:11 pm

@PG- Saints or Panthers maybe? Buffalo even? And yep on the backroads

@Mo- well if you put it that way then it is..lol

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
3:12 pm

JAMOCA You see I had to let my Zulu know my he♥rt? LOL You know what’s ironic bout the child support stance is that my mama felt the same. For many years, I couldn’t understand her logic. When I was a child, I thought like a child and alla that. Now I know what I couldn’t grasp then. And it saddens me when my Maury fanatic folk eat that mess up. Cuz it is Super Sad to watch the lengths some go to for simple acknowledgement, let alone, participation. It’s wonderful when men and women want to actively live the roles they find themselves in.

DEMI There are 23,756 songs between Candy Rain and From the Window to Wall. You’ll come up with sumthin.

Don’t nobody let their temperature rise. Truth ain’t The Truth.

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:12 pm

Tazzee

I’ve heard that the Saints would like to use Vick more like a running back with occasional opportunities to throw. They let Deuce McAllister go during the off season and Reggie still hasn’t done much in the league. So, they are still looking for a consistent running game to go with Drew Brees’s passing game.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

Cee – Sis, I’mma give you two words and “leave it be” —> Higher Learning. So chica, how have you been, btw? I still have a pretty bad headache, but yet and still refuse to take anything to alleviate the pain…it’s just been a very busy week.

What up, McGruff? …And how would I have known that? Of course not. But I’m almost certain, if Sassy can roll with that JME…then she just may be handlin’ it, bout as well as she (prolly) be twerkin’ it. lol

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

Keith Brooking is the one that gave up the 3rd and 16

- WORD TAZZE…i was so mad after that one play…

- vick goes to washington….he close to home…and he will do good…with those lil speedy recievers when the play breaks down watch out for moss DEEP and he can catch

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:13 pm

lol@”Spa’s”

Where is Victor Hill now anyway?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

I took them on all sorts of back roads to my house..so that they couldnt remember how to get there

Uh…do you cover the address, cuz once I’m there I can see the house number and street and keep it in my phone. A quick plug into Google maps will get me back there if I need to! (and now they display house images too).

:lol:

I’m going to know where I am. Period. The dude could be crazy too and now I’m on his turf.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

LOL @ East Cobb.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
3:14 pm

@Tazzee…. Yes M Ryan lost that game 2 picks one in the red zone and taken back for a td.

@PG …. I am all for the players getting paid, but this system is so useless it is almost a turn that veterans have to sit out to get paid.

Anybody seen Mr. Anderson? Matrik!

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post! Don’t judge me! :lol:

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:15 pm

yeah I forgot about the Redskins

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
3:16 pm

Demi – its all good mayne, I got my headphones on so you know Im chillin. This Ryan Leslie is on pernt right now!

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
3:16 pm

@pg…VICK IS NEVER GOING TO BE A RUNNING BACK….bush is hurt again and the season has not started..they trying to down play it..but he about to go the way of lawerence phillips

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:17 pm

@Page- it is

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
3:18 pm

OH! Okay…yeah, okay…didn’t know. honestly. If you ‘member it’s the 2nd round.

Jamoca – I’m good. Hope you’re good. “Motor Mouf” Never thought ESP after that. “I cain’t win for losing”. it’s all good. Okay done with that.

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
3:19 pm

I hope M. Vick gets picked I would like to see that brutha play, the MOST EXCITING PLAYER IN THE NFL!

@Leggs…. I believe a young man is better for you! You need a man who can handle all of you!

Can a starting linebacker go a whole season without making a play behind the line of scrimmage?

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:20 pm

Rell

I’m just telling what I’m hearing about the Saints interest in Vick. They love Drew Brees in that town so it won’t be easy to unseat him anyways.

Yeah, Reggie is having a bad week. His breakup is public and now he is hurting.

Melo

August 6th, 2009
3:20 pm

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post!

u mean to read it thru or to read it(coz u were busy)???

Elijah,which one??

Hey Jamm lady??? where u been?

Demi

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

Hey…Jamoca… (I still have a pretty bad headache, but yet and still refuse to take anything to alleviate the pain)

Woman…what you need is some natural protein…was that thunder I just heard?

PG..”THE” spa….E, you can have my VIP pass for that as well.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

It took me 3 hours to read Jam’s post! Don’t judge me!

Eli – Never crossed my mind. Who the heyal am I? I’ve got my own skeletons that need to be laid to rest and my own demons to battle.

Jamoca now tosses Eli a Hooked on Phonics kit, she bought off Ebay…now integrate yo’ brain with that for tomorrow’s timed reading.

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
3:21 pm

Elijah – QBs throw picks all the time. We were still in the game until Brooking gave up that 3rd and 16. Add to that Brooking should have known better. After Ryan threw those picks, he got back in the game. After Brooking gave up that 3rd and 16…shoot the game was pretty much over. How in the heck are you going to be a ’supposed’ leader on defense and punk out on a play like that?

but yeah, go ahead and blame the rookie QB if you want…

and I’m done with last season for real – ready to move on to this season. Ya dig? ;-)

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
3:22 pm

Eli

I am all for the players getting paid, but this system is so useless it is almost a turn that veterans have to sit out to get paid.

It is one of the reasons that I like college better.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:22 pm

@Ared it was 3 of them and one of me…I was the one in trouble..lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:24 pm

I love College first and foremost..then NFL is second

Defense wins games..offense puts points on the board

W8©

August 6th, 2009
3:24 pm

Roger Goodell just likes his butt kissed…me thinks…lol

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

@Ared it was 3 of them and one of me…I was the one in trouble..lol

W8 – You know what I meant. lol

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
3:25 pm

SUP Y’ALL !!!

Vick won’t end up a ‘Skin — C’mon, TWO black QBs on one roster – and it’s NOT Atlanta??? Doubt it… The league wants to see him in a small-to-mid-market; i.e. – Panthers, Packers, Cardinals, etc… I just wanna see the brotha shaking Defenses outta their cleats!!!!