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Getting In The Way

There are so many single people that are oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them. So many of us focus on the absolute wrong thing, that we end up getting in our own way of making a connection. Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you. You are part of the problem and you may not know it.

One thing that I have noticed that I do is act very aloof with men that I am interested in. I have had this problem for quite a while and even when I actively try to change it, it seems to be a defense mechanism that kicks in like a knee-jerk reaction. What do you think is getting in the way for you?

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While the single women in Atlanta can boast of their hot looks and gym tight figures, they are happy to turn the heads of gentleman. They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks. They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that, I think. Just as much as they need a woman that looks great and can put together a great meal.

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

625 comments Add your comment

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:52 pm

LOL, Kimmie! Close your eyes.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

@Mo- Cuz you are naturally cute..born that way..now you are getting all extra today…lemme find out who he is…uhh huhhh

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

What do you wanna know Pretty Wings? I *heart* the film industry.

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:53 pm

And hold on TIGHT!!!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:54 pm

@Mo- He better not be short like you…how yall gonig to sit at the bar with yall legs dangling…lol

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

JAMOCA See. I had typed that copyright comment before the lengthy paragraph! We really do get on the same vibe. But yeah, I did come up with Main. Go on, now gurl hahaaa

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

Mo, you are gettin your swerve on tonight? I took off my acrylics like 2 weeks ago, so i am rockin all natural. last week it was blue nails, this week, yellow ones. lmao.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:55 pm

And I recall when we have conversations about self reflection, you aren’t usually a strong proponent per se. So I’m not surprised if you reject that.

mytwo – I don’t reject it. I just don’t cheerlead for it on an entertainment blog.

My self reflection is daily. I am single, with no children. I have enough time to love myself, learn myself and work on self.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:56 pm

SCool – LOL!!

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:56 pm

@Page- You have yellow nails now? wow…MESSAGE!!!!

Leggs

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

Goodnight everyone!

I Believe…That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

lol yeah W8- Ummmm u can see them on the fb pics of me and mamba on our fb page. they are cute nails lol

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

@ Page – How has the State of GA modified their film credits and what are the advantages as opposed to say LA or NY?

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:57 pm

how yall gonig to sit at the bar with yall legs dangling…lol

oh,thats 4 ft 2 right there! :lol: :lol:

Elijah( Get ready for your blessing!)

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

@Tazzee….I have something for ya! Just so you know I am a football expert! Haaaaaaa

Atlanta rookie Matt Ryan was intercepted twice, was tackled in the end zone for a safety and fumbled the ball away on a botched handoff. That fumble was returned 27 yards by Antrel Rolle 52 seconds into the second half to put Arizona ahead for good.

Now who lost the play-off game?

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

W8/Page1908 – i cant leave for messing with ya’ll! LOL! And no swervin, just chillin in my cuteness tonight! :smile: But thanks for calin me out chica…

W8 – you know I discriminate against those that are eye-level. We both cant have feet swinging and I prefer I be the only one. Looking like 2 5th graders!

Ms. Main

August 6th, 2009
4:58 pm

Enter your comments here

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:59 pm

Scool – Those files…still being updated. But it was also based on supply and demand. So I haven’t received any demands lately, so the supply is simply on “backorder”. LOL And did I mention it was over 30 of them dudes that I recalled??? May be I’ll shell out a few tomorrow. However, because of the count, I can only handle the multiple personalities/tones/characteristics of our beloved blog men in increments. Gotta love em though. Lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
5:00 pm

@Melo-Lol reminds me of that scene from I’m gonna get you sucker.

@Page- You and Staceye looked great lastnight I couldn’t come sorry I missed her Magazine launch..I gave the lil lady her props today though

Pretty Wings

August 6th, 2009
5:01 pm

@ Demi – Play some Earth Wind and Fire

W8©

August 6th, 2009
5:01 pm

lol@MO and 2 fifth graders..like yall need a chaperone

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
5:03 pm

MyTwo – Yes, ma’am! We are. Which is why I automatically put the killswitch on reference of Peat & Re- (I shall not utter the remainder).

And hey, we bof’ came up with Main. I remembas! LOL But yeah, that Ms. <—sets it off real proppa like. All dignified & ish. Lmao! So, chick (meaning 2Pieces)? Where’s my percentage? Ching! Ching! LOL

Wise Diva

August 6th, 2009
5:03 pm

Have a great evening everyone! I appreciate those comments today, very nice.

Elijah( )

August 6th, 2009
5:06 pm

@Jamoca…. I enjoy reading your posts. Don’t Judge Me!

Everyone be blessed this evening! Share a smile and a laugh with someone it will not hurt ya! :lol:

Jamoca - Pusha Gal say - "Bish betta have my Money"

August 6th, 2009
5:07 pm

LOL

G’nite you all!