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Getting In The Way

There are so many single people that are oblivious to what it takes to keep people interested in them. So many of us focus on the absolute wrong thing, that we end up getting in our own way of making a connection. Here’s the thing: just because you have a great resume and look great on paper, doesn’t mean the right person will chase you down or fall into your lap.

If you really think about your last dating misadventures, you could probably pinpoint where you went wrong. It’s not always “I picked the wrong person” either. It’s possible that it is you. You are part of the problem and you may not know it.

One thing that I have noticed that I do is act very aloof with men that I am interested in. I have had this problem for quite a while and even when I actively try to change it, it seems to be a defense mechanism that kicks in like a knee-jerk reaction. What do you think is getting in the way for you?

I have noticed that in Atlanta, a man can think that his great car, fly clothes, and a little swagger (that word is not going away, is it?) is enough to make women fawn all over him. Oh, some fawn over him, alright! This is also the same guy that will complain about women who are too materialistic and shallow.

While the single women in Atlanta can boast of their hot looks and gym tight figures, they are happy to turn the heads of gentleman. They showcase their looks and accomplishments but will complain that men don’t take them seriously. They get upset when they can’t keep a man interested beyond a couple of weeks. They haven’t quite figured out how to capture a man’s imagination and his mind. This is most likely because they lack the ability to bring peace to his mind and heart. Men need that, I think. Just as much as they need a woman that looks great and can put together a great meal.

So, let’s be honest, what is getting in the way of our dating relationships? What are you going to work on that has impeded you in the past?

625 comments Add your comment

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

@W8: I’m dowwwn — about to get this INSANITY in rrrrrright now!!!

@Cemeeli: That would be the one! No heart meds ova hurrre, but yeah- whomever that was iz a DUUUUUUMMMMMYYYYYY !!!

@SexyCool: Splendid – give me a ring once you have.

Magnum

August 6th, 2009
4:14 pm

@ ALL: Training time – BE BLESSED – ARRRRRRRRRRROOO!!!!

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

it’s always ARed’s fault….learn from that chick….you’re the common demoninator

That’s fine with me. It’s blogging not brain surgery.

Besides, I was being sarcastic. I’m not a woe is me victim blogger. I couldn’t care less.

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Page1908 – LOL! I knew early on at Barnacles that you “heart” Steve Nash. “Hi, Im Page and I heart Steve Nash”!!

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

if that ain’t about the simplest thing I’ve ever read….or some really really simple chicks

thats the quote,not attack in there by my interpretation,not to u not to W8.
I wld say sorry to lurker,if i were u.Its human to misread.
Queen knows she “my” bia,just depends where i say it, :arrow: in her face,just us 2 and when its hot!

and i luv u too,remember that…

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Magnum – Yea Shawn is silly for real. I’ll take Tony on a bad day!

yea…He’s back at work now. But boy, i thought…jus wow!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:15 pm

Eli – Naw, but I’ve always loved current events & news stories since I was very young. I always got straight A’s in social studies! Should have really answered my calling and went on to journalism school at UGA instead of majoring in business/accounting. Sigh… Oh well, never too late!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:16 pm

Ok I’m putting the Chapelle Show up there as one of the Funniest Shows ever. Im sitting here laughing my A$$ off..

SexyCool - Jazzy's words called me...

August 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

Did Magnum just howl?

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:17 pm

Page

I agree that Amare probably won’t go anywhere at least until the trade deadling. (After all, he is a free agent next summer and Phoenix doesn’t need to let him get away for nothing).

Amare is still here in Atlanta a lot either way. He is trying to do a rap label or something here(as if we need more rappers here).

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

Sister Cee – I wanted to go thru the tv watching that bigot messing with the nurse with the artificial leg on Hawthorne!

mytw♥tatas

August 6th, 2009
4:18 pm

CEE Of course you do! I’m just using shock and eek. And I got eek from you, miss ma’am.

And how you know what that look gonna look like? You ain’t ever gonna get to look at me like that. tee hee hee

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

melo – I misread. Moving on. :arrow:

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

melo – it wasn’t really a curse laden post. I put ‘freaking’ in there. Oh and I said Elijah was on that crack…

Mag – yeah I see your point about Vick being too close to the scene of the crime.

Cemeeli – OK, you know I had to laugh about that Bucs reference.

Y’all my guy is a Bucs fan. I’m slowly trying to woo him over to the Falcons…

W8 – you still might have a spot…

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

Queen knows she “my” bia,just depends where i say it

Melo – I’m so proud of myself. Soooo…I did read you quite well, if I must say so myself…and I understand the sentiment behind —> “biaaa, biaaaa”! Lol

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:19 pm

@Kimmie- Go Dawgs!!

@DK- I agree

@Others, It’s just comedy…just jokes..nothing serious..besides I like saying off the wall stuff..just like kicking the ant pile sometimes…I guess I should have stated that in reality I took the most direct route there…actually 4 turns to E.Cobb off of GA 400..

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:20 pm

Jamoca Gal, you are a fool witit!! lol…oh…oh…oh….naw, for real though..i cain’t stop laufin.

Professor

August 6th, 2009
4:20 pm

Stepping back in…

@Melo I have not read back far enough, but for some reason your 4:04 made me laugh.

So I guess there is a little tension in the place? Well let me read and see what is going on b/c who knows I might donate a few lines…

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:21 pm

@Tazzee- Okay I hope so…besides I don’t want to have to snitch on someone in your league who needs a little help..ZIIIIPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

The ones who were supposed to understand did.

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Kimmie I was not playing with the artifical leg. Some folks…boy i tell ya. And Jada’s daughter driving? I’m like wait a minute here…wasn’t she like in 3rd grade when the show started a month ago?

Driving???

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Im out.. Toodleloo MuthaF–ckas (As I roll up the escalade window)

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

Cee

You better start loving CSS. As part of the new SEC TV deal, CSS will get some live SEC games this year. Some of those old Jefferson Pilot/Lincoln Financial games that were on UPN and the WB affiliates on Saturday afternoons will be on ESPN and CSS now.

SEC is raking in the moolah. Maybe I should quit law school and because a SEC coach. Nah…I up for the travel that recruiting entails.

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:22 pm

W8 – PG said he used to do the same thing to then you co-signed with him.

Whether you were “joking” or not, it likely happens.

But hardy har har to your joke. :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Mo- Yup, you know I do. Yeah, when we went to Barnacles like when I first moved here and the Suns were in the Playoffs, remember! I was going bananas and dudes were looking like “whoa”!

PG- Yeah, my friend in Phoenix’s son went to school with Amare’s little brother. Man, the kid needs help…mucho. Amare’ is actually really nice and down to earth in person. I hung out with him with my cousin and some Cardinal players a few times when I loved in Phoenix. I *heart* Phoenix…I’ll be there next week….*dang it’s gonna be hot as hellz out there* lmao. *shrugs*

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Did someone mention Ronnie Brown?? I’m going to have to visit LA Fitness in Atlantic Station periodically. That is one nice bit of chocolately goodness!!!! Whew! And the good thing is, he’s so dark you can barely see his tats.

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:23 pm

Melo I wld say sorry to lurker,if i were u

She ain’t that simple. Everything about her comes off as “grand”, I’m sure she thinks. Just be glad folks like you and I have no problem admitting our mistakes. That’s the vital part she misses…on a daily.

Jamoca What’s up girlie. Yep, its’ me…Ms. Main

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:24 pm

W8 – I know thats right – whatever the pros are doing, we can always count on our DAWGS for some excitement!

Grace

August 6th, 2009
4:24 pm

Okay what’s going on up in here? football- I know nothing about, but those men sure look good from the back..much to hold on to.

going down back roads to confuse a person does not work at all these days, some folks have gps systems or better yet lojack for brains

now that my day is over and they have worked me to the pulp, I’ll go to the spot and enjoy a not so tiny tini. Have a great evening yall :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

SCool. Why do you like the number 13?

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

@Ared- I think we were both talking about way back in the day..i know you can roll with jokes…..sometimes…..rarely….. not very often…lol.:) just kidding

@DK- lol at the Hangover reference

Tazzee - today's my Friday !!!

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

Haven’t seen this week’s Hawthorne but Cemeeli Jada’s daughter has been a teenager since the first episode :lol: I think I saw an earlier post where you called her Jada’s sister or something after the first episode.

The Real Rell

August 6th, 2009
4:25 pm

There is nothing worse than Bills Fan

-shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhheyt…philly fans are way worse..followed by gaints fan…remember the infamous batteries in the frozen snowballs

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

Just be glad folks like you and I have no problem admitting our mistakes. That’s the vital part she misses…on a daily.

That’s why I feel no need to apologize to you. Keep posting like you know me. A lot of your posts are attacks on what you think you’ve learned about people through their post. No one gives a shyt.

I admitted to my mistake, I just didn’t apologize to you. You’ll live, trust me.

Grace

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

Lift up the lives of those around you and you’ll lift up your whole world.

Jamoca

August 6th, 2009
4:26 pm

MyTwo – Sis, ain’t nobody (well I didn’t) say that Ms. Fannie cain’t read Mury had a lil lamb… However, I remember listening to her on the morning show and further clarifying the rumor that should could not read. And that chick DID say —> “All I meant was I’m not/wasn’t a very strong reader” when growing up (and also referencing) some difficulty reading to the little one.

Now you can yell out: Jamoca, say it ain’t so!!! “But it Izzzz the troof” !!! Lmao.

Cee – You know I’m not downing sistah gurl at all. Just encouraging Demi, E-LYE and nem to read a little more. That’s all. :D

Kym-embracing my inner Grace today.

August 6th, 2009
4:27 pm

Okay what did I miss? No fights I hope. I saw the word football. Are we talking football?

AmazonRed™

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

@Ared- I think we were both talking about way back in the day..

W8 – Duh. PG been married for almost a decade. ;)

It’s cool, a lot of us are doing the 500 meter backstroke today. Don’t worry the water is warm. :lol:

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

LOL @ The Hangover. “weenis”. lmao.

SexyCool...

August 6th, 2009
4:28 pm

Page – Cause I’m weird. LOL.

Playing volleyball in high school, no one ever wanted the number 13 jersey because it was supposedly ‘unlucky’. I decided to prove ‘em wrong.

13 ain’t never caused me no problems.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Cee – Yeah, her driving is about right. She started as an unruly teenager on the show, about 15 or 16. So time for learner’s permit.LOL! Actually she needs to get slapped for that smart mouth before I would take her out driving, but that’s just me.

Did you see the look on that dudes face that was questioning the nurse’s credentials until she told him she graduated top of her class at Georgetown?! Priceless!!

Professor

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Cemeeli

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Tazzee- It’s all good. PoppaG owe us some bbq ribs and chicken for that tailgate we should be having. Trying to rake me over…:) he should know by now Cee don’t have any hate for the Jags…i was rootin’ for them when they were 12-4 going to the playoffs.

I gotta go get ready for this Play….Enjoy you trip Ladybug!

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Hey MO! That wasn’t Barnacles, that was Flambeaux in StoneCrest! LOL. Remember when we kept ordering stuff and they were like “we ain’t got no mo jambalya….huh? u wanna apple martini? well, we ain’t got no mo apple mix”. lmao

Melo

August 6th, 2009
4:29 pm

Good Ared/Jam,we all good.
Proff, im making peace and luv in the joint,more than i have ever done,no funky lines needed today! :lol:
watch it, i dont want to make nobody prego

Tazz,good altho i know u a mad fan.

W8©

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

P90x..woohooo…lol I ran into a “blog sis” at T-mobile one morning after a workout and I had on some workout pants that happened to be tight…she said..”.umm W8, i know i have seen those pants on the rack at a fitness store but never did I think that someone I know would be wearing them”….lmao….she made me feel all self conscious…lmao

“Yep, its’ me…Ms. Main”
@Lurker- I dont know why but that reads so sexy to me…go on ‘head “Ms Main”

Poppa Grande

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

Tazzee

Did someone mention Ronnie Brown??

Yeah, I did. I actually met him a year ago when he was rehabbing after his knee injury. I was with Bob (Sheree’s ex-hubby) when I met him. I saw him a couple of times during the summer at the gym and he would ask me to spot him.

We haven’t hung out or anything but he seems cool.

However, I know nothing of his chocolately goodness,though. But maybe that is why Mrs. PG’s eyebrow raised when I introduced him when she came over while I was spotting….Nawl..she raised her because of me!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha-This Day, This Minute, Right Now)

August 6th, 2009
4:30 pm

Page1908 – LOL! That is why I said you were like “HI, my name is Page and I heart Steve Nash”! You were rooting hard when they showed him on the screens! Too funny!!

lurker

August 6th, 2009
4:31 pm

No one gives a shyt…you’re not suppose to. You’re reading them those, as meant to be done…on a blog

Page1908

August 6th, 2009
4:31 pm

LOL SCool. *Weird*

Mo-”huh, huh, huh, huh, huh” (black baseball cap dude) lmao.