No, Seriously
I was asked what the dating scene in Atlanta was like recently. I smiled and said, well, you need three things: healthy dose of self-esteem, loads of patience, and a sense of humor. I think that is pretty much going to keep your dating drama to a minimum.
In your opinion, when you are getting to know someone, is it a waste of time to get to know someone that you think has little potential for “MVP status” with you? I ask because, I think so many times we completely miss the mark on who is actually a good match for us.
Have you ever met someone who seemed like a colossal waste of time, then they turned out to be a great thing?
Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? Does that make us big chickens when it comes to match in love and romance?
If you are brave enough to want an actual relationship with someone, how long does it usually take before you take the person seriously? Is it more about their behavior and consistency or the amount of time they have managed not to repulse you? Perhaps a little of both? What are your thoughts?
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The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
8:44 am
loads of patience
- biggest problem with me…i have none
Is it more about their behavior and consistency
- consistency!!!
mytw♥tatas
August 4th, 2009
8:52 am
I always take fellas seriously…until shown that I cannot. Not sitting around thinkin every dude’s playing games. BUT. Time is of the essence because it’s so precious and my frolicking 20s are over. Not tryna waste it on anyone who can’t add non-monetary value.
I think it’s definitely wise to factor in how much or how little the person has done to repulse you, Wisey. That’s a fabulous gauge! Who the bleep are we to have the magnanimous standards and 12 feet walls for potentials to scale if/when we can barely crest the minimun requirements across the board. There will be high arcs where we excel and then spots where we need improvent. Basically when you factor it all in, we’l mostly be average or slightly above average. But you’re probably some kin to it no matter how you slice it.
Today’s soapbox statement sponsored by the Producers and Participants last night’s episodes of “Dating in the Dark…” Have a lovely day, all.
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
9:07 am
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QC
August 4th, 2009
9:26 am
Morning Bloggers..i’m with you Relly Rell it’s my PATIENCE…I’m trying to do better
Have a great day bloggers
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
9:27 am
Mernin Ya’ll
I date just long enough to get you in your birthday suit. I’m kidding maybe.
Seriously it depends on the person as to how it goes. If shes intriguing enough to make keep me wanting to date her I will. If not I guess I wont. Oddly enough I have found myself putting women in the dreaded friend zone after things do pan out the way I thought they should.
In today’s society it instant gratification and thats what we want but the sooner we realize fine wine takes time to ferment then it will happen for us.
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
9:28 am
Morning all –
people ask me all the time how the dating scene in ATL is. I tell them it’s very easy to get a date, and harder to lock someone down. There are a lot of choices here. All in all, I enjoy it.
Yes, I think it is a waste to time to date someone who has little potential. Folks will show you who they are, and if they’re not to your standards, why go there? If someone is going to magically morph into someone you’d eventually date, there is no need to be put through the ringer while it happens. Have him holla back.
As for taking someone seriously, you will get that from the beginning. I’ll take you seriously until you prove you are not to be taken seriously, then you’re an afterthought.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
9:29 am
I’ll be forever mackin’
Heart cold as assassins, I got no passion
I got no patience and I hate waitin’
Mami get your a$$ in
And let’s RI-I-I-I-I-IDE
Professor
August 4th, 2009
9:39 am
Happy Tuesday!
I do not have a lot of patience, nor do I have a lot of time however I am serious from the start. I am one of those that know what I want so that is not a problem for me sitting in limbo and always changing things up. Simply put, I know who I am and I know what I want.
As for allowing someone to waste my time…never that, but I really try to give men the benefit of doubt. One more point I have learned that every wo/man you meet is not for relationship purposes even if they look good on paper. So normally if things are not going well and dude is good people I will still keep in contact and for other networking opportunities. This rule of thumb has been beneficial to me on the business side and making some good connections.
Confession: I am working on my patience and I have done okay this year with carving out time for myself.
M.
August 4th, 2009
9:42 am
This is my theory on the dating scene in Atlanta (I have used this for years): It is alot like shopping at Marshalls; you know there is a great deal in here somewhere (a cashmere sweater, cologne, set of wine glasses whatever!) but you will get so exhausted looking through all the misc. stuff that when you do find something, you may be to tired to want to deal with it!
I know for a fact my biggest dealbreaker with Atlanta women is the FLAKINESS! It has costed me plenty of girls who I thought were cool then they act like they are to busy or its fast paced in the beginning and then mellows out quickly.
Am I somewhat right people?
Professor
August 4th, 2009
9:43 am
Let me address these…
Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? I am, never scared of taking a risk in dating or loving. One of my favorite songs by Lee Ann Womack states
Lovin’ might be a mistake
But it’s worth making
Don’t let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
So I have no problem taking a break and getting back on the field.
Does that make us big chickens when it comes to love and romance? No me I AM a lion, tiger and bear all in one!
Professor
August 4th, 2009
9:47 am
@ M…I love the shopping at Marshall’s analogy. I agree with the fast pace beginnings and the mellowing out (I call that evaporation).
IMO I really think that is just part of the game the person is playing especially for those that have motives (looking for a sugar daddy or sugar momma, sex etc.)
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
9:48 am
I just realized (or maybe I forgot) over the weekend while out with Staceye that when it comes to dating, she sees it in a way that the dudes start off, they automatically have an “F” grade, until they show and prove they can work themselves up to an “A” grade. For me, I see it in a way that when the dudes start off, they automatically have an “A” grade, until (or if) they show and prove otherwise and at that time I will adjust accordingly. I thought this was interesting.
SexyCool/W8/Staceye- LOL at me not be able to say I lost. Ok, so me and Staceye won in Taboo, but I guess “I didn’t technically win” when I played W8 in “rock, paper, scissors”. LOL. All these years I have been winning with “knife”…I had no clue I couldn’t use that one! lmao.
Tazzee - looking for Friday
August 4th, 2009
9:53 am
Morning Folks!
I give guys the benefit of the doubt. Personally I try to look for the upside in everyone. Now if a dude is blatantly disrespectful he gets nothing.
There’s one guy I met that seemed to be too obnoxious for me. I still think he is, but he’s now a nice associate. After our first few interactions I intuitively knew we could never date but he’s a cool guy overall.
As for risks in dating – it doesn’t take long for the ‘issues’ to manifest. You know, those things that turn a potential love interest into a ‘DNA’. The times that I did take a ‘risk’ with someone I didn’t think I would like…well my initial thoughts were confirmed.
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
9:54 am
Three Words Daily – Instinct or Logic?
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
9:56 am
@M
Atlanta women is the FLAKINESS! It has costed me plenty of girls who I thought were cool then they act like they are to busy or its fast paced in the beginning and then mellows out quickly.
- not just atlanta but most WOMEN ARE FLAKES
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
9:59 am
LOL @ “most women are flakes”. wow
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 4th, 2009
10:01 am
Morning good blog people!
I’ll start toward the end of the topic. I am not afraid to take small risks in dating & love. I did that with the current SO. I met him in a way that was unconventional for me. I took a chance and it is paying off. But yes, if people are chickens in love & romance, there is reason for it. People used to meet at church or school and kind of grow up with a person. Or you met people thru others in your small family/social circle. There was safety there. Now theres the internet & facebook & night clubs and other ways that are not the most safe & reliable. It’s a big, cruel, dog eat dog world out there now. You have more options, but it’s not necessarily more quality with all the quantity.
As for the scene in ATL, I took myself out of the conventional scene soon after college graduation. I was turned off by the fake, phony and the games out in the cruel streets that come with any major metropolitan area, not just ATL. I am a native ATLian and I concentrate my social scene around mostly other natives or friends of those natives. My college friends which are life friends, a few friends from work, & those I’ve made doing things I enjoy & hobbies. This is a scene that is more comfortable for me to navigate in. The people I deal with on the regular are real and humble and share my values. The ATL I know & love.
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
10:03 am
People are reasons, seasons, or lifetimes. I have learned appreciate for each encounter, contact, conversation, relationship, friendship and so on. I take what I need, give what I can and let the world keep turning on its axis.
As to risk, it’s like DasK always says, “Life is full of risk.” I add to that, if you’re not taking risks, you’re not really living. We attempt to be risk-averse to protect ourselves, but what we really do is tie the hands of the Universe and stifle our growth.
Page – Paper, scissors, rock, knife – who knew? I guess the knife is for stabbing. LOL!
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:06 am
I am one of those that know what I want so that is not a problem for me sitting in limbo and always changing things up. Simply put, I know who I am and I know what I want.
Word.
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:07 am
@The Real Rell: True that
@Women: What’s with the Flakiness thing? Is this your way of wanting to be pursued or do you just like being chased around 285 to stroke your egos?
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:08 am
LOL SexyCool! You know I was pissed when I told W8 that knife beats rock and he was like “WTF Page! There is no knife…what are you doing”! I was like “uh?….Oh…my bad”. lmao
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
10:08 am
Rell – There are some flaky-ass dudes around as well. (Notice, I said some – not broadstroking at all).
Hell, sometimes, I look at your blog posts and think, “Yeah, he’s really unstable today.”
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:10 am
LOL M. OMG I get lost on 285 all the time. Not because someone is chasing me around to stroke my ego, but because I have a horrible sense of direction. lmao.
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
10:10 am
Page – Stab, stab, stab. Die, die, die.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 4th, 2009
10:12 am
What’s with the Flakiness thing? Is this your way of wanting to be pursued or do you just like being chased around 285 to stroke your egos?
M. – The absolute same thing could be said about quite a few men here. You have so many choices, it’s hard for a lot of you to chose one. I agree with Amred in that it’s easy to meet people to date, but hard to close the deal with a commited relationship or marriage. But since you’ve put every woman here in that catagory in your mind, that’s the energy you now give off. Now that’s probably all you are attracting. Start looking at the man in the mirror before you make generalizations – just something to consider!
Professor
August 4th, 2009
10:13 am
Not to turn this into class, but usually when you have a bunch of flakiness, jive talking or acting, trivial-mindedness, being a know-it-all etc. it is the ego. The ego tends to make us feel like we know more than we do, we look better than we do and it has to be stroked even if the stroking is solicited.
Ok, class is over.
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:13 am
@Page1908: I meant that jokingly as in chasing women around Atlanta…lolol
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
10:15 am
Yeah, he’s really unstable today.”
- WORD??…dayum really?
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:16 am
@kimmie-livin my life like it’s golden!: Relax! Its only tuesday and it was a general question not an accusation! I did ask a question and of course everyone knows the story on the Atlanta guys here so no need to go there!
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
10:17 am
M didnt ask yall about dudes he asked about women. Stop twissting the question and shifting it back to dudes. Just answer from a womans perspective..
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:19 am
@Women: What’s with the Flakiness thing? Is this your way of wanting to be pursued or do you just like being chased around 285 to stroke your egos?
M – The man leads, therefore he sets the tone. I am a lot of things, and flaky has NEVER been one of them. But I do get me a nice flaky golden crust cooked at 375° when I encounter a dude that brings his B-game or below.
A focused man gets a focused effort.
lurker
August 4th, 2009
10:19 am
I was turned off by the fake, phony and the games out in the cruel streets
I’m so agreeing with your post but this statement is pivotal. I CANNOT deal with the fake fake, be it man or woman. And yes, I find some women to be as phony as a $3.00 bill. Well, don’t let me discriminate, men too. We’ve ventured into a day and age where folks are all for self and all about self. I mean you should be to some extent but not at the cost of others. I have absolutely no patience for foolishness and will write someone off quickly, man or woman, seeing that we’re grown folks and all. Patience for me, is reserved for some youth approaching life. A need to not entertain/enable foolishness doesn’t necessarily equate to being afraid. I’m all for love and navigating through the novelty of, however there’s a fine line between the new new (with someone new….not necessarily new experiences) and bullcrap. Not afraid at all to have a go at unchartered territory with a new person but the bullcrap meter still keeps a running.
mytw♥tatas
August 4th, 2009
10:20 am
M. Marshall’s is a grrrreat analogy. Sometimes you have the patience for it, other times you go straight to zee mall. And uhm, please define Flakiness. Gracias!
PAGE EXACTLY on the grading curve. But I also see the glass of wine as half full, so…
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
10:20 am
As to any flakiness in females that I have experienced or exhibited on the level that you all referring to, my experience has been that, just like in a romantic relationship people send their representatives, chicks can send their representatives to sistergirl relationships as well.
Then, over some time, I realize that your negative, whining, complaining, dragging me down, always broke, mooching ass has no place in my life.
OR
If I have a crisis/emergency/situation and call on you and you’re not there, that lets me know that you just dropped from friend status to associate. And I really don’t care to associate with that many folks that are not friends.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
10:20 am
ARED – Good Answer
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:22 am
Hell, sometimes, I look at your blog posts and think, “Yeah, he’s really unstable today.”
There are manic depressive people in real life. They perhaps can post on blogs too.
Melo
August 4th, 2009
10:23 am
M is a lady,is she not??
Pretty Wings
August 4th, 2009
10:24 am
Hola!
I feel like doing the Salsa this morning….go figure.
@WD -Your topics; sound like you are in my head sometimes, seriously! LOL
I agree I am working on my patience. I’m usually able to discern rather quickly if someone is for me or not and because of that, I’ve developed some good frienships and business associates that would have made disaterous relationships. Although I’ve had to revisit it, I came to my “Great Therefore” along time ago on wasting my time.
Have a Great Day!
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:24 am
ARED – Good Answer
DK – Thanks.
There is nothing wrong with dating and having a team and all that. But you can’t approach a woman and want to be taken seriously if you call sporatically, can’t make dates, etc because you are managing a roster. Women pick up on half-azzness and will respond in turn.
Start strong and the woman will either fall in line or get left behind!
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:25 am
LOL M.
LOL SexyCool @ stab, stab, stab. BTW, sorry…I mooched your wine opener from you and I still have it lol. I’ll have it today! *I swear, I am not a moocher* lmao
SexyCool - If you knew the path I've traveled ...
August 4th, 2009
10:25 am
Yes, Rell, really. Like yesterday, when you came on here talking about “b*tches who wanted to be friends.” I’m sure you were just venting. However, it read REALLY CRAZY.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 4th, 2009
10:25 am
M. – Take note of my moniker – livin my life like it’s golden so no need to remind me to RELAX!LOL!! You asked a question, I answered it, sorry you don’t care for my answer.LOL!!
DK – I did answer from a womans perspective – how can I answer about HIS dating experience? I don’t know what kinda vibe he’s giving off to the women he keeps meeting up with!!! But it must be something if everyone suddenly gets very BUSY when he meets up with them. Then its the women – they’re all FLAKEY now! Upgrade your selection process then!LOL!!!
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:25 am
LOL @ manic depressive.
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:26 am
@Ared: Good answer and I see what you mean.
@mytw♥tatas: Flakiness to me could be alot of things sending mixed signals, acting like you know someone, then disappearing like David Blaine its all based on who you ask.
I asked a friend what would happen in dating if everyone really kept it 100 with everyone and he said the truth….The CRIME RATE would go up. Some people just cant deal with the reality of someone not being interested in them etc…
Melo
August 4th, 2009
10:27 am
ARED…
flakky is what?? as in, “u see me now and now,u dont??”
is that it??
lurker
August 4th, 2009
10:27 am
But you can’t approach a woman and want to be taken seriously if you call sporatically, can’t make dates, etc because you are managing a roster. Women pick up on half-azzness and will respond in turn.
I can’t do the smiling emoticons but you should mentally see about 3 right about here—->
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:28 am
Dos Centavos- I agree with seeing the glass half full.
ARed- I agree with your 10:24.
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:29 am
flakky is what?? as in, “u see me now and now,u dont??”
is that it??
melo – Yes. Generally flakiness means inconsistancy.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 4th, 2009
10:29 am
Melo – I think you might be confusing M. with M’karyl, who sometimes goes as M – it confused me at first too.
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
10:30 am
A focused man gets a focused effort
- WHY do people have this mindframe…this is flaky…why you waiting around to react to what i do or dont..DO YOU….its like i have to put on a show before you make a move…dont get it
why do we play on words..all/some/many/majority…we all know what we are trying to say – buddy – asked a question about whats up with the flaky behavior – from jump – women jump to say “i am not like that” or “its not me”…etc….so none of you have ever flaked on anyone?…let me be the first to say i have flaked and when i did it was a variety of reason….but bottom line was after i thought i made a good purchase the remorse set in and i was like a i am cool
can we all stop getting our panties in a bunch over wordplay…we(men) know that we have the creme de la creme on this blog and all negative or flakiness does not apply to you wonderful perfect women…we just need some guidance with dealing with these other wayward a$$ women out here….
THANKS!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
August 4th, 2009
10:30 am
Amred – Yeah, you’re putting it down today!:)
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:30 am
@Melo
That M. is not ME…M’…lol
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:30 am
M- I need a translation for “kept it 100″. Are you saying the crime rate would go up to 100%? I’m lost.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:30 am
In Atlanta you have to have a good dating filter and the ability to walk away for the greater good even if it does hurt or bother you. A whole new level of trust in your potential mate. Also don’t catch feelings to soon…these women are smart or so they think…so fellas play your part..play your part (MESSAGE!!) 285 is a circle says alot about you if you get lost on a circle…just saying…
@Page- There were three people on you all’s team to our two..but Marcus and I lost we accept defeat..I thought SCool was our secret spy on your team. Hell Angie, Andrea and Staceye beat me on Playstation American Idol not to long ago…but umm I can’t sing anyway. I need a win streak bad..spades anyone?
Bibay
August 4th, 2009
10:31 am
Dating in the ATL- since I have matured, I have less patience for BS. I don’t have an issue with taking risks (living in the ATL and surrounding areas has become quite risky lately). I try to be clear about what I want up front and see where there head is. But, you just never know what will be revealed.
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:32 am
Well, if most women are flakes then a lot of men are the milk that makes them soggy…lol
Grace
August 4th, 2009
10:32 am
Good morning Folks, I ususally take it slow seeing where the guy is coming from and most def where he is going. I’m not so serious since my seriousness, when I say serious I men micro-managing things, it tend to send a negative vibe with the guy.
Rell in my case I’ve ran across some flakey guys too.
You said it best Ared @ 10.24.
C tha 1
August 4th, 2009
10:32 am
People love to rationalize the purpose one meets anyone is for a reason, season, or a lifetime. That sounds nice but overgeneralizes human interaction. I think today’s topic is asking us to look deeper than that. The truth of the matter is everyone has placed someone in the wrong catagory without taking a chance on them. At the same time we all have highly overated other people we dated simply because they was phine as hell but turned out to be dumb as rocks.
If we meet people for a reason, season, or a lifetime that’s all based on decisions we make. I mean the girl you accidentally got pregnant is now a lifetime partner weather a dude likes it our not…and she could be the bane of your existance. Still you share a child. How about the dude that burned you with whatever “curable” STD that women keep secret and pray to God a worthwhile man doesn’t find out? You can only have so many yeast infections without something being seriously wrong.
Ultimately, the dating scene in ATL is a contact sport that requires keen perception to manuever. It can leave the faint of heart apathetic, but dating in general really is for those who pursue a thrill…whether temporary or otherwise.
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:32 am
@Ared: Good answer and I see what you mean.
M – thank you.
I mean, the reality is that many women, maybe even MOST want a fulfilling relationship! At the very least we’re gonna try to keep the momentum going! So if she’s acting flaky, there has gotta be a reason. Look to what YOU are not doing as a man and if you are bringing the A game! If you are doing what you say you are gonna do and bringing more than trying to get in to her pants as quick as possible, then either she is not worty OR someone else is bringing his A-game too.
If she’s not interested that will be determined quickly. So if she interested and acting flaky then there is a reason.
Grace
August 4th, 2009
10:33 am
Oops I meant “when I say serious I mean micro-managing things”
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:33 am
@The Real Rell: True that
@kimmie-livin my life like it’s golden! I just asked a question then my dating life is on trial? Wow….
Melo
August 4th, 2009
10:33 am
can’t make dates, etc because you are managing a roster
i like that Ared.And a player shld be the last person to complain that a girl is being flaky.
I also think that some chics are flaky(to pick on Rell’s point) becoz they are used to being abused.So when they see what seems like similar type tendencies(they may read wrong),they quickly recognize and move on,leaving the dude
I cant blame them for it,myself.Every person got do what they got do,smetimes u right,other times u wrong.Its lyfe.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:35 am
“can we all stop getting our panties in a bunch over wordplay…we(men) know that we have the creme de la creme on this blog and all negative or flakiness does not apply to you wonderful perfect women”
@Rell- let me preface my comment with this..I am nowhere near perfect or where I need to be…but “hell nawwwww” unless you were being sarcastic
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
10:35 am
OO and on the slick a zz comments…I SEE YOU and i will respond in person – bee lee dat
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:35 am
Hmmm…and why did I stop “dating” in the ATL in like 1986????…lmao…NO FUN!!!!!
Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta
August 4th, 2009
10:35 am
Good Morning All,
I just had a discussion like this with a few friends. I think half of the reason I don’t dig the ATL dating stage is really there is too much foolishness out there. I have patience but I am just not trying to search around “Marshall’s for a good baragin on a coach bag when if I want it I am willing to go all in and pay for it.” It doesn’t mean I don’t date but I am pretty sure that the man that does finally catch me will not come from ATL. I don’t see some of the dudes I run into as flakes..more like fakes.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:36 am
If a man or a woman is acting flakey with they other there is a reason..obviousl he or she is not interested enough in the other to make an impact…take the lost and move on.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
10:37 am
Kimmie – Up your nose with a rubber hose. You are the funniest.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:38 am
@M’- Dang I was 13 in 1986
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:38 am
@Page1908 I mean if everyone kept it real with people they date then he said the crime rate would go up because people cant really handle the reality like if a guy met you and said you cool, but I am dealing with 3 other women and you can be #4 if you like. This kind of stuff could not fly in the dating scene. This what me and my friend were talking about.
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:40 am
LOL W8- Ok, I know it’s a circle but still! You are lucky I didn’t come through for the American Idol showdown because if I had, everyone woulda lost lmao. Oh btw- I agree with your 10:36.
M’- LOL @ dating back in 1986.
The Real Rell
August 4th, 2009
10:41 am
bringing the A game!
- WHAT DOES THIS KIT INCLUDE..for or can i just say what do women look for in the A game
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:42 am
Ohhhhhh ok M. So kept it 100 means keep it real. Ok, gotcha. Yes, I can see what you mean. But you know what…if the person is being flaky, then I already know I am number 4 or whatever like you said. It wouldn’t take a conversation or the dude to tell me for me to get that….even with my helmet on! lol
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:43 am
Some people just cant deal with the reality of someone not being interested in them etc…
My cousin was in Dallas this weekend. She witnessed a young lady being shot in a Denny’s parking lot because a dude was trying to holler and the young lady expressed that she was not interested.
Grace
August 4th, 2009
10:43 am
M. if I meet a guy and he told me upfront that he wants to put me on the rotation I don’t see where that deems me to commit a crime against him. I’d rather him tell me than lead me to thinking I’m the only one when it’s not even close to being true, not that might make me commit a crime.
Melo
August 4th, 2009
10:43 am
thank uall on the definition of M!
not feeling smebody the way they feeling u cant be regarded as flaky either.
but bottom line was after i thought i made a good purchase the remorse set in
Now For Real,thats flaky!! unless the purchase was made after just five minutes or so of rumination.
When u make a purchase,make sure it is a deliberate and serious decison!
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:43 am
Rell check your text msgs
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:44 am
RIP Naomi Sims…what a fabulous life, career and woman.
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:45 am
ARed- omg that’s horrible.
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
10:45 am
Amred – Yeah, you’re putting it down today!:)
Thank you.
M.
August 4th, 2009
10:47 am
@Grace I dont mean committing a crime against them right then and there. We meant when people get lead on and their feelings get hurt, that’s when bad things happen.
@Page1908 LOL got you with the helment thing but how you know he is flaky if you just met him, what if he came to you correct? Do you have a 7th sense we dont know about?
Bibay
August 4th, 2009
10:47 am
Grace- your 10:43 response to M are my exact thoughts. Then you can decide if you want to be a number or walk away. Sometimes folks make things harder than they need to be.
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:48 am
@w8
Yeah, Iwas doing 13 in 1973…lol…I said I is an oldhead…hehehe
@Page
Yeah…did not start until 1983…and stopped 3 years later…lol…I was just so turned off by it…absolutely had no fun with it…so I pulled out my “single shimmy” boots…and kept steppin’…went out solo and found my own good time…lol…and ain’t looked back since.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:49 am
@M’- disco disco
Raqi
August 4th, 2009
10:53 am
These M’ & M. s are getting me confused.
M'
August 4th, 2009
10:53 am
@W
Keep on when the force stops…don’t stop til you get enough…and my force ain’t stop and I ain’t got enough…lmao.
Mo (aka Moeisha-)
August 4th, 2009
10:54 am
Morning All
Im speed reading so Im trying to catch up
ARed – on your 10:43, I had a friend in college get shot by a guy that she had been seeing when she tried to break up with him. its crazy how rejection can make some people really lose it.
Page1908 – “So kept it 100 means keep it real”…you are so funny chica!
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:56 am
LMAO M’ @ dating from 1983 to 1986! Dang, that’s a long time ago. But, I bet there are still some of the same ole cat daddies on the scene too. lol. Do you still have any 80’s outfits? lol All I remember from that time was jerry curls, ruffled mini skirts and stockings, leather pants and jackets, and mullets. LOL
Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta
August 4th, 2009
10:56 am
@Raqi apparently there is a M. and a M’ I think M’ is a woman Mkaryl and I don’t know who the hell M. is.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
10:57 am
Um let’s not forget that psycho women far out weigh psycho men during breakups or rejection…..but oh I know it’s always the mans fault right..lol
If he cheats he’s a dog…if she cheat’s that means he did something to make her cheat…lmao
Page1908
August 4th, 2009
10:57 am
Hey Mo! LOL Girl, you know I needed a translation on that one. I’m thinking to myself soooo…”ok, so why not just say keep it real”? *ctfu*
Grace
August 4th, 2009
10:58 am
M. that’s why I ended my comment with it may be a crime if he misleads me. Let me decide where/what I want to be, who knows I might be alright being on a rotation. (not talking bout physical here)
Leggs
August 4th, 2009
10:59 am
Well, if most women are flakes then a lot of men are the milk that makes them soggy…lol HOW TRUE, HOW TRUE!
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
11:01 am
Sometimes folks make things harder than they need to be.
Amen.
Yesterday on Facebook one of my friends changed her relations status to “it’s complicated.” Someone asked her what meant and she went into a story about how she’s with this guy but not really with himm…
I’m like “is this chick reading her own foolishness and is she really broadcasting it proudly for all to see???”
Some folks just like drama in their lives, apparently.
M'
August 4th, 2009
11:02 am
@Page
My fashion sense is “immortal” in that it transcends all time periods…lol…I do not do “trends” so much…and most 80’s fashions were hideous trend moments…I like to rock the classic lines of the 50’s, the mod of the 60’s and the hippie chic of the 70’s…I hook it up and make it work, chirl…lol…I do M’Fashion so well…lmao.
As far as the old cat daddies…yeah, dem lame sums of bishes are still out there…with the same game, lines and foolishness…seriously…I had no need for it then and truly less patience for it now…it is like being stuck on a bad movie rerun…it was not good the first time you saw it and it gets worse every viewing of it after that…lmao
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
11:03 am
You know I always hear women say if a dude just told me what his intentions are I could have made a better decision. No you wouldnt have and on top of that ya’ll never tell us what ya’lls intentions are. Ya’ll cant expect what ya’ll not giving.
Ya’ll tell us only what ya’ll think we should know and we do the same.
Mo (aka Moeisha-)
August 4th, 2009
11:04 am
W8 – I think the psycho men, as of late, are creeping on a come up in outweighing the pyscho women. There have been more men losing it and killing women recently than I ever remember hearing.
Page1908 – its funny b/c you are soo sincere, like ‘huh?’ And I LMBAO @ Mullets!
ARed – like your 10:32
AmazonRed™
August 4th, 2009
11:04 am
I had a friend in college get shot by a guy that she had been seeing when she tried to break up with him. its crazy how rejection can make some people really lose it
Damn.
If something like this every happened to me it’d probably be from someone on this blog.
W8©
August 4th, 2009
11:05 am
@Mo-Men just have more bite than women..thats all
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 4th, 2009
11:07 am
W8 – “If he cheats he’s a dog…if she cheat’s that means he did something to make her cheat…lmao”
Man preach on.. I’ll say amen if nobody else does.