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No, Seriously

I was asked what the dating scene in Atlanta was like recently. I smiled and said, well, you need three things: healthy dose of self-esteem, loads of patience, and a sense of humor. I think that is pretty much going to keep your dating drama to a minimum.

In your opinion, when you are getting to know someone, is it a waste of time to get to know someone that you think has little potential for “MVP status” with you? I ask because, I think so many times we completely miss the mark on who is actually a good match for us.

Have you ever met someone who seemed like a colossal waste of time, then they turned out to be a great thing?

Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? Does that make us big chickens when it comes to match in love and romance?

If you are brave enough to want an actual relationship with someone, how long does it usually take before you take the person seriously? Is it more about their behavior and consistency or the amount of time they have managed not to repulse you? Perhaps a little of both? What are your thoughts?

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Elijah( Unhappiness is a tool of the devil)

August 4th, 2009
3:11 pm

…PG I am with you on that, No Talking just a barrage of knuckles coming at you in bunches.

On Cheating… men can cheat just as good as women do! We just get to a point where we do not care anymore! When I was in the game I was running it very smoothly, I would tell the ladies who can except it and continue to phluck the one who cannot accept it!

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:11 pm

Some folks are dealt a rough hand, but others just make bad decisions. Which is it?

in either circumstance tho,there is no excuse for not pulling ur weight out of it.
Some are born poor and others rich but it dont mean the poor cant wrk their way to riches.

Its all abo ut choices really,bad or good!
U make ur bed,u lie on it!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:12 pm

I learned that my dark side has to be kept at bay

Shyyyyt who you tellin’. That’s an ongoing thing with me….I don’t start ish b/c I know how I am but if you start with me then I almost feel compelled to finish it. I’ve gotten a better handle on it as I’ve gotten older but once in a while I’ll let it go.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
3:12 pm

I’d just pick up something

- yep like two big cokes….lol….

Mo (aka Moeisha-)

August 4th, 2009
3:13 pm

SexyCool – liking that 3:07 chica…just get to it already

Elijah( Unhappiness is a tool of the devil)

August 4th, 2009
3:13 pm

Speaking on married women! My work-out partner is about 6ft5 250lbs bka Mr. Gym personality. A good portion of the married women in the gym are offering him le panties!

Men need to mount up and take care of their wives because they are on the prowl!

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
3:13 pm

My mother told me many years ago that a woman’s scorn runs just as deep as the love her heart housed.

I got my name Scorned from my brothers after my rough ride with Whitebread and I only was just mildly fond of him. If Mason wrongsme I will become the Evil Azz Scorned B1tch, because my love for him engulfs my entire being.

SexyCool - I'm in charge.

August 4th, 2009
3:14 pm

LMAO!!! – But that wasn’t a fight.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
3:14 pm

Poppa Grande – I understand that. I have touched and been touched up.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:14 pm

On Cheating… men can cheat just as good as women do! We just get to a point where we do not care anymore! When I was in the game I was running it very smoothly, I would tell the ladies who can except it and continue to phluck the one who cannot accept it!

:shock:

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
3:16 pm

RAqi – That is scary love right there. Thats Im gonna kill you love.. See everybody pay attention if Mase tries to leave Raqi he’s gonna get it..

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:16 pm

Today uall made m remember that UGA professor who blew his cheating wife away,then ran off and blew himself off too,not be4 hiding in that little hole he dug himself…For whaat? :lol:

Tragedy can be comdeic ha??! :lol:

(i feel sorry for the other innocent older dude who was caught in crossfire)

im sure u infer what i think about the other cheating dude and the trifling hoe wife.. :lol:

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
3:17 pm

So I guess the guys will disagree with me but I think Vernon Forrest should have taken the “L” rather than run after the dudes that car jacked him. I KNOW he took off thinking it was a fight he would win.

Elijah( Unhappiness is a tool of the devil)

August 4th, 2009
3:17 pm

Sassy I got something for your darkside!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:17 pm

My work-out partner is about 6ft5 250lbs bka Mr. Gym personality. A good portion of the married women in the gym are offering him le panties! Men need to mount up and take care of their wives because they are on the prowl!

I’m more than sure he’s gettin’ more than he shake his stick at.

SexyCool - I'm in charge.

August 4th, 2009
3:18 pm

Okaaaayyy, Mo – It actually ended up keeping me out of more fights than anything. Nobody wanted to fight me. They’d be like, “Uhnt-uh, I don’t mess with her. C is crazy.”

And that is especially funny cause I used to be one of the skinniest chicks around.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:18 pm

Sassy I got something for your darkside!

I’m more than sure you do Eli…more than sure ;)

Tazzee - looking for Friday

August 4th, 2009
3:20 pm

Anybody that ran up on me, I’d just pick up something and hit them with it.

SexyCool – last night in the gym, this guy just came running up behind us folks on the elliptical machines. I kid you not – I was ‘this close’ to jumping off my machine with my metal water bottle to knock him out. He had left his keys on another machine and he was running to get them – but his moves were suspicious…

I had to laugh at myself after he grabbed his keys and walked away.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:20 pm

I think Vernon Forrest should have taken the “L” rather than run after the dudes that car jacked him. I KNOW he took off thinking it was a fight he would win.

I think so,too….especially in the part of town that he was in….rough,rough hood. Sadly it doesn’t really matter what part of town you’re in.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
3:23 pm

@SC…it should have been a fight..lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
3:23 pm

Look ladies because we are men we do certain things. If we were like yall we would not need to war but we arent and every now and then you have to go cross a fool head.

ARED – Now me personally if buddy got the drop on me he got that cause I was slippin, but in no way shape or form am I chasing anybody near machanicsville into no nearby apts. Yeah I would have took the L but believe me my westside cousins in dixie hills/pittsburgh would be notified and somebody would get seen about.

Pretty Wings

August 4th, 2009
3:23 pm

How about just living “sucka Free”? Instead of trying to get all the Na na/Dizzle that is thrown at you, just have courage to turn it down. Then you don’t have to worry about the drama.

I don’t belive in getting even, I’d rather get ghost. More times than not for me I aint hanging around that long.

A wannabe called me last night and I had to remind him, “dude we have’nt been talking, what part of I not interested don’t you understand. I think he was use to women falling all over him……..sad.

Tazzee - looking for Friday

August 4th, 2009
3:24 pm

yep like two big cokes….lol….

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Professor

August 4th, 2009
3:24 pm

Melo just when I was getting ready to tell you to get your azz out of Thailand and finish crunching those numbers, you are not on vacation yet, you hit us with some real talk.

****Some are born poor and others rich but it dont mean the poor cant wrk their way to riches.*****

I totally agree work pays off…I am trying to catch up a little here.

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:25 pm

I think Vernon Forrest should have taken the “L” rather than run after the dudes that car jacked him

well,everyone in here who proclaims to be a fighter gets beat too,on ocassions.Thats the risk u take for standing up to fight.
Noone is a guaranteed winner,not by a long shot!

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
3:27 pm

If we were like yall we would not need to war but we arent and every now and then you have to go cross a fool head.

DK – No one is asking you to be like us women. No one is saying there is never a reason to fight either, you are selectively reading.

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
3:28 pm

See Infamous it had happened like this…

I was doing just fine. I had gathered all the pieces of my heart back and locked it away in a solid steel box. The key was melted and used to fill the key hole of the lock. Never to be touched again. I was good. Living fine.

But he came along and chiseled at that box until it was talcum powder dust. Then he took the pieces of my heart and cemented it back together with his love, his loyalty, his generosity, his tender kisses, his understanding, his patience and made it whole again branding it with his mark.

I have always the one who gets me would the one who “gets me”.

That’s how it happened. LOL

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:28 pm

Professor,im counting down.
Its getting tame here,cleaning up my spot…by friday,i be ready!

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
3:28 pm

A wannabe called me last night and I had to remind him, “dude we have’nt been talking, what part of I not interested don’t you understand. I think he was use to women falling all over him……..sad.

:lol:

I had a dude come into town and get his feelings hurt that way. We’re cool but we are clearly not dating. Don’t ask for time like we are!

SexyCool - I'm in charge.

August 4th, 2009
3:29 pm

Taz>/strong> – You showed up just to laugh at that. I am HOLLERIN’….

Naw, Rell – he wasn’t worth and neither was she.

still laughing at Taz…

Professor

August 4th, 2009
3:29 pm

For the real fighters in the room, fighting is mental anyway you should already know your POA…you just don’t start hitting folks and all that mess that is how you get that head splattered open or gutted like a fish. I digress…I guess I have handed out too many azz whoopings, but I am so glad that I am pass that stage in life.

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
3:29 pm

Now you got me feeling all loving and mushy. What time is he getting home??? I need him.

Cemeeli

August 4th, 2009
3:30 pm

…hello.

@ Melo – Where are you and Queen going for vacay?

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
3:30 pm

ARED – Its that time of the day where I start messing with you and crossing up your statements to see if you’ll keep playing with me..

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
3:32 pm

ARED – Its that time of the day where I start messing with you and crossing up your statements to see if you’ll keep playing with me..

DK – I’m flattered. :???: :roll: ;) :lol:

And still not FLAKY. ;) :lol:

Professor

August 4th, 2009
3:32 pm

Melo I am over here working hard, so I am glad you are getting your desk cleared. If I am not on here (probably will though) make sure you have a safe trip and plenty of fun.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
3:33 pm

No one is asking you to be like us women. No one is saying there is never a reason to fight either, you are selectively reading.

Sho ain’t read me……….

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:33 pm

Raqi, u love him or u adore him??

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
3:33 pm

I have never been one to just fight without really being pushed there.

Alvin

August 4th, 2009
3:33 pm

(Seriously though. Why has life been for so rough for folks. I can’t believe all this drama is not a result of poor choices one has made.)

AmazonRed….LOL…I loss my hearing aid this weekend…I’ve ordered a new one…(for a cool 2k).

Try this…buy some ear plug…and try to have a normal convo with them…do this for 20 years…as child first…watch how little you will be treated…by family and friend…now tough it out…even your love one get tired of trying to have a convo with some one who can only hear 25% of what is being said.

I was 20 the first time I’ve ever heard a bird sing, hear the phone ring and really hear my mom’s voice.

Yeah sis…I’ve spend a lots of years working on myself…People only see the semi-finish product today…not the painful and angst product of the past.

Some folks are dealt a rough hand, but others just make bad decisions. Which is it?

I don’t know…I just thank God for give me the strength to endure my trials.

Tazzee - looking for Friday

August 4th, 2009
3:34 pm

SexyCool – actually I had posted something regarding your pick something up and hit folks comment but that got lost. But yes, I did have to laugh at that one…

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
3:34 pm

Raqi – Aww dang I threw up in my mouth twice for those last two comments.. In my Napoloean Dynamite voice “DANG!”

Lord Velonese (insert trendy Quote here)

August 4th, 2009
3:36 pm

No, Seriously, Hasn’t a topic like this been covered already?

Professor wrote: Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore?

Nope, when there are no clear benefits for a successful man, even minimal benefits are dwindling; I see NO REASON to risk going for broke for a woman. Regardless of women’s beauty I have NEVER met a woman that is worth risking it all because that’s normally that’s what they go for. Ask yourself do you think they would do the same for you? Probably not, women have it in there head men are here to serve them especially when you have money/ are successful. Women are excellent manipulators to get what they want; too bad they hit a roadblock when it comes to someone like me (and no flashing your cleavage doesn’t work). If I had a dollar for every time a woman used the “watch how my boobies and booty shake” tactic well it would be nicer than it is now.

Cemeeli

August 4th, 2009
3:36 pm

Alvin – Cee don’t cry on Tuesday! Stop it…

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
3:36 pm

Try this…buy some ear plug…and try to have a normal convo with them…do this for 20 years…as child first…

Alvin…while it’s not 25%, I can relate to your analogy above. And that’s all I’ll say on that one. :)

But I wasn’t just directing it to you. A lot of people have alluded to having anger issues. I’m wondering what is going on.

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:36 pm

@ Melo – Where are you and Queen going for vacay

Our own Martha’s vineyard on Hhead.
We got our own pvt beach there too,in our plantation,so we dont sunbath with uall regulars who come to vist.
A mandingo like me, i feel like Obama right now,1st Prezedente of these U S A

Melo

August 4th, 2009
3:37 pm

thanx Professor!

Pretty Wings

August 4th, 2009
3:37 pm

@ AREAD – You know I did’nt mean any harm and was very gentle with him
but damn……..

You know folks one for certain and two things for sure…….I’ve been on the come around and the go around. It is my mission never to cause harm to anyone ever.

So, I never really worry about anyone doing wrong towards me, I actually am mature enough to feel sorry for them.

Demigod33

August 4th, 2009
3:37 pm

A.red not at you in ANYWAY

I AM THE DEMIGOD BISH…FUGG WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH, FUGG WHAT I’VE BEEN THROUGH, AND FUGG WHAT FOLKS THINK ABOUT ME.

Get use to it…I am in this BISH for life!!!

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
3:38 pm

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE.