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No, Seriously

I was asked what the dating scene in Atlanta was like recently. I smiled and said, well, you need three things: healthy dose of self-esteem, loads of patience, and a sense of humor. I think that is pretty much going to keep your dating drama to a minimum.

In your opinion, when you are getting to know someone, is it a waste of time to get to know someone that you think has little potential for “MVP status” with you? I ask because, I think so many times we completely miss the mark on who is actually a good match for us.

Have you ever met someone who seemed like a colossal waste of time, then they turned out to be a great thing?

Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? Does that make us big chickens when it comes to match in love and romance?

If you are brave enough to want an actual relationship with someone, how long does it usually take before you take the person seriously? Is it more about their behavior and consistency or the amount of time they have managed not to repulse you? Perhaps a little of both? What are your thoughts?

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lurker

August 4th, 2009
1:53 pm

No matter how trifling that woman was, her life shouldn’t be discounted less than his or anyone else that’s taken a bullet under those circumstances. Both she and he are now positioned to face their creator. If her life was sooo insignificant, then she wouldn’t have to face her deeds…but she was and so she must give an account…as he. Frankly, I can’t dig anybody taken the life of another in a fit of rage. She and Steve are neck and neck and God ain’t gonna give him a free pass because, according to society, was of a different caliber and she’s considered a skank.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:53 pm

ARED – In the jungle do the lions walk away.

DK – Humans are not regular mammals. They have the power of rational thinking.

You don’t go around fighting at every little sign of disrespect for a reason. I’m sure you encounter “signs” of it daily.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
1:54 pm

Raqi…Mase is 6a,12n,5p,11p..news material…that dude adores you, LOL

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:56 pm

And yes Steves jumpoff was sanctioned to get whatever because she knew he was married

DK – We’ll just agree to disagree then.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
1:56 pm

@kimmie…thats what i meant.

lurker

August 4th, 2009
1:57 pm

and yes, reaping what you sowed ain’t no joke….not only did OJ do all the dirt he could do while married to that woman and was too punk to take what she dished, he was too ignorant to go sit his trifling behind down somewhere. So, since he supposedly “got away” with what he did, he’s paying now. No stones go unturned.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:57 pm

A.red…I am in agreement with a lot of your posts today…

Demi – I was wondering where you were today.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:59 pm

Most man wh-ores are bish made….

Demi – Loving that!!!!

Raqi...Will Cut a B!tch...No, Seriously

August 4th, 2009
1:59 pm

Demi actually he is very collected yet very territorial. And I adore love him also.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
1:59 pm

But, all this anger and violence that is not going to do anyone any good.

Sleeping with married folks isn’t either.

Anyways, anger doesn’t come until there is a reason.

Honestly, I believe that it will get worse for generations to come.With schools taking simple things like dodge ball out of school and stopping honor rolls because kids feelings get hurt isn’t preparing kids for the real world of layoffs and furloughs. Add to that our cultures glorification of violence, it is a bad mixture.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
1:59 pm

@dk

see how stuff can be taken out of context

- yep it does….i am always taken out of context

@raqi….how your husband would feel if you stepped out on him…

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:02 pm

Kym

Let me put it to you in legal terms, knowingly sleeping with married folks = Assumption of the Risk

Demi

August 4th, 2009
2:02 pm

Aquafina……Sassy…I love a woman…who…can…spray water…while coming on my Africa.

Sassy is now attempting to murc a Demi

lurker

August 4th, 2009
2:02 pm

@raqi….how your husband would feel if you stepped out on him…

blank stare

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
2:03 pm

Rell I would never step out on him. But I have a very good idea of how he would feel and/or react.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:04 pm

Did I let this cloud my judgement of all men? Absolutely not. Neither my dad nor mom condoned the behavior of either party – the men nor the other women. But they did instill in me that if you treat people ugly, there is a price.

*putting $10 in the collection plate*

Like I said, folks are too busy trying to take justice in their own hands. Chill out. It will work itself out.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
2:06 pm

@lurker..is that not a valid question…since we talking aobut it…and most of you split tails are railing against how we men stand on it…lets hear from a married women…how would her husband react…you act like we men like drama or danger….or having to go across somebodies pearly whites to keep our pride and respect..we dont…trust me i have at folks in defense of my life..and after words i was still worried if i hit someone or not….trust me all this tought talk is not easy…but its how a majority of us feel

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August 4th, 2009
2:06 pm

Enter your comments here

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
2:06 pm

With schools taking simple things like dodge ball out of school and stopping honor rolls because kids feelings get hurt isn’t preparing kids for the real world of layoffs and furloughs.

How true. I was watching Black in America over the weekend and one of the guests were talking about a school district in either Lousiana or Mississippi where the principal wanted to lower the academic requirements on tests and a slew of other scholastic standards so that OUR kids would have more passing than failing…..talk about injustice. That’s part of the problem.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:07 pm

No stones go unturned.

*nods head* As a person of faith, you gotta see the bigger picture then your dumb azz hurt feelings. We ALL have them.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:07 pm

Lurker

I’ve always felt that the OJ verdict was more about LAPD not getting away with something than it was OJ getting away with something. He was held liable in the civil case.

LAPD made way too many mistakes (they contaminated that crime scene and then tried to cover it up by trying to frame a guilty man) and OJ had the money to hire counsel that could exploit their f-ups to his advantage.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
2:09 pm

ARED – Youre right but when the trail derails nobody knows where it will end up..

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:09 pm

I believe that it will get worse for generations to come.With schools taking simple things like dodge ball out of school and stopping honor rolls because kids feelings get hurt isn’t preparing kids for the real world of layoffs and furloughs. Add to that our cultures glorification of violence, it is a bad mixture

PG – I completely agree. And that is one of the reasons I really feel no pressure to have children. Even if I homeschool them, they’ll have to deal with other kids growing up with these mentalities.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:09 pm

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
2:10 pm

Aquafina……Sassy…I love a woman…who…can…spray water…while coming on my Africa.

Now see there Demi…if your phone rang right now you’d be all “shook up” wouldn’t ya?…… :)

Demi now stomping his feet and putting him thumb in him mouf

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:11 pm

ARED – Youre right

:shock:

:lol:

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:12 pm

Sassy

How about there have been reports that some teachers across the US have taught that slaves were allowed to go home on the weekends to be with their families? There was one teacher in Meriwether County, GA that was caught doing that and she said that didn’t want to make the black kids feel bad.

Now that is foolishness.

That was one of about a dozen teachers found throughout this country.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
2:13 pm

AmazonRed…I just lurk today…I am in no mood for Wisdom to sent me one of her all knowing textings.

But I’ve notice…right before she text or calls…my nostril is filled with her scent.

Raqi…smile LOL

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
2:13 pm

ok

PG how would you react

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
2:14 pm

Rell it would make him extremely unhappy. Extremely.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
2:14 pm

ARED – Youre right. We will have to agree to disagree but not without a parting shot.. Take that and that and that..

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:15 pm

As a person of faith, you gotta see the bigger picture then your dumb azz hurt feelings. We ALL have them.

As a person of faith, I recognize that I am not perfect. We ALL have some bit of Doubting Thomas in us. It is what makes is human

Leggs

August 4th, 2009
2:16 pm

Inside buzz has an email addy asking if anyone in Atlanta knows of the party planner that had a catfight with Sheree Whitfield. Seems nobody in Atlanta knows him (so they say).

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:16 pm

We will have to agree to disagree but not without a parting shot.. Take that and that and that..

:lol:

Testosterone is a hell of a drug. :lol:

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
2:16 pm

Poppa G I know it is assumption of the risk…like I said I only had one problem. If a person is going to screw around at least don’t be sloppy. If you get caught own it. I told this guy if drama follows you then it better not be while you hanging with me..I may not be an alleybat but I can play one on tv. Don’t let the smooth taste fool ya. Oh yeah and adultery is a misdemeanor.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
2:17 pm

Sassy/A.red/My Bey(she does not blog)…Dayuuuuum Yousssssssssse!!!

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August 4th, 2009
2:20 pm

Rell No that’s not a valid question…coming from a man. You’re a man and obviously in agreement with the rest that said they’d kill if their wife cheated. I’m sure she’ll say her husband would be angry/upset/mad or whatever but she can’t answer from a man’s point of view…seriously….cause she ain’t a man. She may be in tune with him but and can tell up what he likes and how she can move him but IMO, only he can answer that and truthfully if ever placed in that situation. No, I don’t think you men like danger or drama but I would think by now you would have a better handle on your EMOTIONS and can think through a situation before sporadically reacting. I mean I understand at the height of your anger, sound thinking ain’t a rationale but to the point of death, naw not getting that. Here’s why. Sadly your wife cheated. I’m not going to discount the level of anger and hurt but, think about it. Cheating has been going on since the world existed and killing has not been the resolution. If every man that’s been cheated on killed then I’d say yeah, it’s evident that that’s the needful and an automatic reaction but no, it’s not. There are some that kill but there are many that stand tall and deal, whether it’s working through it or walking away. I won’t say killing wasn’t a fleeting thought but it’s not automatic, as played out today.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
2:21 pm

But this time, I was actually looking forward to hearing her voice.

demi now understand how bish iggas feels…not really

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
2:22 pm

Awwwww Demi…….ssshhhhh it’s okay….WOO..WOO..WOO :D

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:22 pm

Rell

PG how would you react

She knows that I’d catch a case. I am extremely protective of her.

One time we were in NYC right outside of Madison Square Garden. This dude came by and he flick his hankerchief and it hit my wife in her face and he started laughing. I walked up to him and said nothing. I gave him a quick chop to the throat and walked away. I heard him gasping for air.

I don’t play when it comes to her, respecting her as my wife, etc.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:23 pm

Kym – Thanks for bringing back “alleybat.” Automatic chuckle!!! :lol:

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
2:23 pm

Who’s making love to your old lady while you were out making love?

Most men get sloppy when cheating. Women are better liars and decievers therefore better at cheating.

I have a theory about men cheating. Either your wife is just too damn naive and stupid to see it OR she couldn’t care less because she has her own thing going on.

lurker

August 4th, 2009
2:25 pm

PG I hear what you’re saying and no matter who contaminated what, he knows he either killed or had his wife killed. H may have been able to pay his way out of that one but in the grand scheme gotten by during that trial, he didn’t get away…as evidenced now.

Rell that 2:20 was me…I couldn’t get my screen to refresh.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:25 pm

Kym

You were really lucky.

Depending on the facts, assault can be a misdemeanor, too.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
2:26 pm

One time we were in NYC right outside of Madison Square Garden. This dude came by and he flick his hankerchief and it hit my wife in her face and he started laughing. I walked up to him and said nothing. I gave him a quick chop to the throat and walked away.

PG – Very nice. As stated before, if trouble comes and starts something with you, I’d expect a person to defend themselves. This includes women too.

But you know there are plenty of folks that see trouble coming. Like a madman gunmen in a croweded shopping mall. Some folks would stay and fight, others would hot tail it and run. I don’t think it makes you less of a man if you chose to roll out!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
2:26 pm

I walked up to him and said nothing. I gave him a quick chop to the throat and walked away. I heard him gasping for air.

That’s what I’m talking ’bout…..cause if a chick did some shady stuff and disrespected my man(if I had one) I’d be on that azz like a bad rash in mid-July.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 4th, 2009
2:26 pm

Sassy – On Black In America, that was Louisianna and that tired governor Bobby Jindal. He wanted to lower the graduation standards so more students would pass & make the state standards look good and also offer more training for blue collar positions.

PG – I agree with your last paragraph in your 1:59. These kids are not going to be equipped to handle anything. No survival skills at all.

abc

August 4th, 2009
2:27 pm

I’m not saying that I’d take violent action against a man that committed adultery with my wife. But. I know some Shiite refugees hiding out with the Bahai brothers in KC that work cheap. They can tie him to a tree, douse him with gasoline and set him on fire, or beat the hayell out of him, wrap him in duct tape and throw him on a train headed for Nevada, for the same low price.

But I’m not saying I’d do anything violent to him. She’d be single for sure, though. And to whoever said ‘marriage is just a word’, or a label… don’t get married until you understand what it is!

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
2:29 pm

Rell

I’ve always evaluated those situations based on how much I’ve got to lose.

In my early twenties, I had more to lose than many twenty year olds. So, I knew that they were didn’t care what went down.

I have a lot to lose now. Chances are that I’d would really go the O’ran Juice Jones (cat that did that song “The Rain”..) rout and cut the credit card accounts and things like that.

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
2:31 pm

My youngest son’s father was very on point about our birth control method. At first. He got sloppy. I got pregnant. He was the one married unbeknownst to me.