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No, Seriously

I was asked what the dating scene in Atlanta was like recently. I smiled and said, well, you need three things: healthy dose of self-esteem, loads of patience, and a sense of humor. I think that is pretty much going to keep your dating drama to a minimum.

In your opinion, when you are getting to know someone, is it a waste of time to get to know someone that you think has little potential for “MVP status” with you? I ask because, I think so many times we completely miss the mark on who is actually a good match for us.

Have you ever met someone who seemed like a colossal waste of time, then they turned out to be a great thing?

Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? Does that make us big chickens when it comes to match in love and romance?

If you are brave enough to want an actual relationship with someone, how long does it usually take before you take the person seriously? Is it more about their behavior and consistency or the amount of time they have managed not to repulse you? Perhaps a little of both? What are your thoughts?

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THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:51 pm

ARED – So what could she have possibly told him to get him out of there? I was the friend.. I wasnt the husband.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:51 pm

and most of the single men on here don’t state that they have the answer they are just answering the “if and then”

So do the women. No one is saying their opinion is the one and only way.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
12:52 pm

Kym

However, why are you blaming the dude or the other woman?

I don’t read W8 as saying that he blamed the other dude.

However, I do read W8 as saying that there are consequences to other dude’s participation in said behavior and the other person is being dealt with accordingly.

If I am wrong W8, feel free to correct me.

Melo

August 4th, 2009
12:53 pm

(1) you are taking the person out or (2) you are a hunter and you see dinner.

what a way to step in!

Hey Proff!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:53 pm

ARED – Dude was a chump.. He was.. A real square that didnt want any problems. She put him in a bad situation though cause he didnt know what was going on.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:55 pm

@PG- you are correct and thank you for making it a little more clear

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:55 pm

ARED – So what could she have possibly told him to get him out of there? I was the friend.. I wasnt the husband.

Doesn’t matter. If I tell me dude that the man I just saw is trouble or unstable and may want to pop something off with his gun or his martial arts skills. I don’t want my dude like “so what, bring it on!” It be one thing if he ran after you came after him. It’s another to not even go there.

To me, you waving at them like some looney didn’t make you seem “normal” either. Homechick knows the kind of mess she’s in. Leaving was the better option.

No way they should have left if things had been progressing amicably. Things were not though.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
12:56 pm

M’ sorry I got tricks but not those kind. I never once did I have to pull some trick out of the bag to catch a married dude..I have dated on accident and because I was pursued,woo, and caught..but never once would I claim to be Blackstone of the infidelity world.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:57 pm

ARED – Steve McNair didnt deserve to get killed by his jumpoff. Now if his wife had got at her and put hands on her well she was justified. She would even be justified giving him a good smack.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:58 pm

ARED – Dude was a chump.. He was.. A real square that didnt want any problems. She put him in a bad situation though cause he didnt know what was going on.

DK – Well, I like squares. :lol: Not chumps though.

But I’m sure he knows ole girl is married, so he’s a chump anyway. I’m not excusing that in the least.

I don’t see what’s wrong in now WANTING any problems. Who does?

But if he’s messing with a married chick, even during divorce, he can’t say that.

Professor

August 4th, 2009
12:59 pm

@Ared I totally agree! There is not reason to flex muscles or pull out the switchblade, 9 or just wrestle in the mall until the police comes and take them to jail. I guess I like a man that has a brain and knows how to use it…

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:00 pm

Now if his wife had got at her and put hands on her well she was justified. She would even be justified giving him a good smack.

DK – Where is the line? So she’s justified in whooping her azz but not justfied in killing?

I mean, just walk away. Seriously. Go live a life that will make your ex look foolish for even thinking of stepping out of you.

Everyone wants to take justice in their own hands. I just think it’s sad.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
1:01 pm

My grandpa used to say that a man’s two main jobs in life are to provide and protect. Some of my cousins seem to have added procreate.

With that in mind, we are very territorial when it comes to us and what we consider ours.

Sometimes it works for us and the ladies. We have a protection mindset to those things that we consider ours. Whether it be our rides, rims, or women. Sometimes it works against us. as it did Vernon Forrest. (Dude got robbed and them ran after the robbers) Sometimes it work for us, when we keep our family safe from day to day.

We have different mindsets than females. Just like y’all are calling some of our mindsets foolishness, we feel the same about those females that get into a tizzy over who said what to whom.

lurker

August 4th, 2009
1:03 pm

We break our vows with GOD all the time but he does not strike us down!

….and an amen from this corner

W8 so typical of a dude to call foul (i.e. your all the single ladies comment), when a chick don’t easily agree. Wrong is wrong. And don’t assume folks are single cause the speak against something. Guess if I’m quiet I laying like rover and taking it huh?

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:04 pm

ARED – How bout the chick was wrong and she knew she was out of bounds. And yes I was waving like get the F outta here cause you dead wrong for this ish..

You never see a woman in the wrong its always one excuse after the other. Now I’m worng for making the chick feel unwelcomed. She wasnt welcomed. Thats my patna and I dont know dude so you know who my loyalty lies with. To me it was dirty and to him it was dirty so thats all that matters. And to be honest if dude wouldve popped off I wouldve whooped him just on GP.. Like Ol boy said in TOMBSTONE
“Whay are you helping Wyatt”
“Because he’s my friend”
“well I got plenty of friends”
“I dont”

SexyCool - I'm in charge.

August 4th, 2009
1:05 pm

I don’t profess to try and understand Man Law, Man Thought, or actually ManSh*t period. But when it comes to me and Mine, I respect the hell out of it.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
1:05 pm

I see so somewhere in some dusty part of the male library there is a volume that says if a married woman rubs your dizzle and says fire it up daddy you are suppose to walk away and say sorry..I will break the code. Yeah okay…free coochie and a dude is turning it down? Isn’t that one of the signs of the apocalypse(sp).

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:05 pm

we feel the same about those females that get into a tizzy over who said what to whom.

Yeah, but I’m not going to say someone “gets what they deserve” by doing it either.

One of my friends spray painted her exes car with “man wh-ore” and “btich made.” He did her dirty. But he didn’t deserve to have his belongings vandalized.

I can’t co sign on that type of behavior, even if she’s a female or my friend.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
1:06 pm

You never see a woman in the wrong its always one excuse after the other.

DK – You might as well get off that soap box right now. I’ve already said that h0 is wrong. So pay attention. I don’t ride to foolishness just because it has a va.gina.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
1:08 pm

..some people do a lot of barking and some just bite…some like it str8 …some need a chaser…some make excuses…some deal with it…some of these fellas are bytchmade and some of yall ladies still loving them…maybe because you can still control them…LMAO marinate on that

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:08 pm

ARED – In the jungle do the lions walk away. Its a most basic Male instinct to fight when challenged. I guess that what makes me who i am.. I will never be put in a skirt and I will never let some dude chump my gril/wife/mom or sister off. If i had a daughter and a young man disrespects her. I WILL knock his head off. Now I’ll let a dude talk all day but if he tries me you better know its on and all you need to do is crank up the car and get ready leave quickly.

M'

August 4th, 2009
1:08 pm

@Kym

What I meant was that there will always be a REASON the exonerates the guilty party from accepting responsibility for the decision that led to the incident occurring…even if it means using extreme justifications like the David Copperfield explanation…lol.

What had happened was…that is the key phrase a buddy and I use as an indicator that you gettng ready to hear BS…Copperfield comment fit so well into that…lol

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
1:11 pm

Yeah okay…free coochie and a dude is turning it down? Isn’t that one of the signs of the apocalypse(sp).

Kym you’se blaspheming guul…..but that was on point,though.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
1:13 pm

…some of these fellas are bytchmade and some of yall ladies still loving them…maybe because you can still control them…

:shock: Well then…….

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:13 pm

ARED – Thats just it.. There really isnt a line when you married and people get all crazy about spouses. People lose sight of that line really quick when in that situation. And yes Steves jumpoff was sanctioned to get whatever because she knew he was married. Now if she didnt know that would be a whole different ball of wax.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
1:14 pm

The end must be near cuz I turn free puddy down all the time…no some good head..I probably aint turning that down…lmao…read yall in a few hours I have to go buy some crab legs…lol

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
1:14 pm

@M ooohh my bad..

@PoppaG and W8 I guess I am from the school of responsiblity. Because anything I have ever done I take responsiblity for it. I have had one woman, one time, try to hem me up, trying to figure out if her husband was dating me. He was not, he was just a old friend, but since she was looking I gave her something to look for. I told that story on here a few years back. Dushawn told me I was evil for what I did. Which I most likely was.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:15 pm

Kym – Dang that was cold.. ;-)

Demi

August 4th, 2009
1:16 pm

A.red…I am in agreement with a lot of your posts today…but there is always…X-factor.

Life has a way of throwing some mean curve balls

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:18 pm

Kym – It comes down to ones principles. I for one cant get with a married chick.

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
1:23 pm

Kym

PoppaG and W8 I guess I am from the school of responsiblity

I am as well.

Yes, who said that W8 or myself wouldn’t have to take responsibility for dealing with either the spouse or the sideazz? Everyone involved would have to face consequences.

Raqi

August 4th, 2009
1:24 pm

I for one cant get with a married chick

Infamous so this ^ means we are over??? :cry:

LOL Let me stop before I get an innocent man gone.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
1:25 pm

Most man wh-ores are bish made….

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:28 pm

Raqi – read my 12:39 comment

elijah( Dinner, Dancing, Sexing! That's want I'm talking about

August 4th, 2009
1:31 pm

@Kym….I like that Kym…. Tell it like it is! That is a real sista not making excuses!

@DK…. Look my woman is my woman and if you get stupid I will have to put you down! Age and experience has brought me to a level of piece!

@Sassy….. Can you tell me how juicy that fruit is? I like some juicy fruit! :wink:

Poppa Grande

August 4th, 2009
1:34 pm

Kym

Also, there is no such thing as free puddy.

In general, nothing in life is free. Life itself isn’t free. Time is the price that is paid. For some, it is a reasonable cost. But it is still a cost. That time that you spend with that puddy is time that you will never ever get back.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:36 pm

I stick to my statement.. I dont mess with a married chick cause that is something that will make a dude unstable even if she is supahead. Dudes cant see straight when it comes to their wives.. Most cant cant handle it when it comes to their girlfriends. And if you get with a married chick/man and get your wig split you got what you deserved.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

August 4th, 2009
1:38 pm

I’ve been kinda sitting back and reading this stuff today. Life is not fair sometimes and everyone has to take responsibility for their OWN actions.

I was thinking about the earlier statement made about “making a person what they are today”. The below example came to mind. It might not be what Rell meant, but that’s what that “made what they are today” comment made ME think of.

I’ve stated here before that my late father was a physician. Well, growing up I remember he & my mother talking about some trifling behavior of some of his peers. There would be dudes who had women stand by them while in med school, some even helped them substantially pay for school, open their first offices, give birth to their children, make the house a home. Even put their own dreams on hold for these men. Making things easy so they could become the doctor that they dreamed of being. Some of these same dudes, once they “made it”, would trade wife in for a newer, younger model. Parade the other woman all over town. Now how hurt & disrespected do you think the wife felt. But nobody ever got killed. But fate has a way of getting back. Some had careers that were less than stellar, some had other unfortunate things to happen to them.

Did I let this cloud my judgement of all men? Absolutely not. Neither my dad nor mom condoned the behavior of either party – the men nor the other women. But they did instill in me that if you treat people ugly, there is a price. Be it a man or woman, treat others as you would want to be treated. Period.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
1:38 pm

On Married women…Demi don’t do them…Demi maybe a former w’hore…but Demi doesn’t cheat.

Raqi...The Wife of a Weekend Jail Bird

August 4th, 2009
1:40 pm

LOL Infamous I missed that. I have baby issues today.

But you are right. I will not go there and he would definitely…I’ll just say he wouldn’t like that too well.

Demi

August 4th, 2009
1:43 pm

Dudes cant see straight when it comes to their wives…per the good book…A jealous husband should be feared…there is no telling which direction his wind is blowing.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:43 pm

Kimmie – Thats a good read and thats some knowledge.

“I’m not saying I agree with OJ but I can Understand”

lurker

August 4th, 2009
1:45 pm

If the OJ situation can be understood…then so can steve mcnair’s…just not understanding how we’re dividing

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
1:48 pm

raqi could you please way on this…

@dk…love the movie and vk role in it..and that was a defining line
hell i just watched a movie…green street hooligans..about english “firms”….and there motto was no matter the number…you stand your ground!!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:48 pm

Lurker – Dang that was Chris Rock. Google it.. I’m not saying I agree with OJ but I understand.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
1:48 pm

@Poppa G I understand nothing in life is free. But, all this anger and violence that is not going to do anyone any good. I am with ARed..destroying someone else’s stuff shooting up the mall(where other people who don’t know you or your drama can be harmed) that is foolishness. Bullets don’t come with names.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
1:51 pm

Can you tell me how juicy that fruit is? I like some juicy fruit!

Oooh Eli…you so Nasty ;) ……Aquafina……CLAP…CLAP ;)

Raqi...The Wife of a Weekend Jail Bird

August 4th, 2009
1:51 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
1:53 pm

Kym – Dang now Im gonna shoot a mall.. I see how stuff can be taken out of context. Seriously I dont advocate violence cause a punk beats a woman.. But I can understand how stuff pops off

Leggs

August 4th, 2009
1:53 pm

HAAAAAA to anyone understanding OJ’s actions. OJ walked around flexing like he’s the alpha dog only to wind up crying in court like a punk ass biotch! He cheated on his wife constantly (no proof on my part), but when he suspected she was doing the same, he went berserk. Back to all of you who say “don’t mess w/a married chick” because you don’t know how crazy the hubby is. He was beyond crazy, he always rode on the stupid train.”