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No, Seriously

I was asked what the dating scene in Atlanta was like recently. I smiled and said, well, you need three things: healthy dose of self-esteem, loads of patience, and a sense of humor. I think that is pretty much going to keep your dating drama to a minimum.

In your opinion, when you are getting to know someone, is it a waste of time to get to know someone that you think has little potential for “MVP status” with you? I ask because, I think so many times we completely miss the mark on who is actually a good match for us.

Have you ever met someone who seemed like a colossal waste of time, then they turned out to be a great thing?

Are we not willing to take risks in dating anymore? Does that make us big chickens when it comes to match in love and romance?

If you are brave enough to want an actual relationship with someone, how long does it usually take before you take the person seriously? Is it more about their behavior and consistency or the amount of time they have managed not to repulse you? Perhaps a little of both? What are your thoughts?

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THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
11:48 am

ARED – Yeah but dudes feel too. Ya’ll always talk about showing our feelings but then we B!tchmade when we do.

SexyCool - Only thing that's on my mind is who's gone run this town tonight...

August 4th, 2009
11:48 am

Oh and not from the standpoint of forcing a confrontation or a dyck measuring contest, but simply from the standpoint of this being a free country and we got to dip cause you saw some other dude. GTFOH, seriously.

Grace

August 4th, 2009
11:48 am

W8 are you saying you’re ok with getting slapped?

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
11:48 am

I tell people all the time, “The opposite of love is not hate. It’s indifference.

SexyCool – Amen.

Folks should try it sometime. It’s so liberating! :lol:

For Real

August 4th, 2009
11:50 am

W8?Rell: Mark my words there will be more qb injuries this year than any other time in the history of the NFL. Here are my NFL predictions:

1. Romo will get hurt to cover up his poor play

2. Brady will have a horrible year. Knee surgery is 20% phyiscal 80% mental just ask Palmer.

3. Vick will land in Denver

4. Superbowl teams: AFC – Ravens vs NFC – Saint

DK: Good thing you talked your boi down odds are she was never anything that HE believed her to be.

Kym: “(bs define as excessive dramatics, out of focus thinking, behavior, speech that only makes sense to the moron(s) who are spouting it and or agree with it.)” – You just described every “girls night” event that has occurred since the beginning of time. Funny how your definition butts up to my statement “Women are irrational, unaccountable, and logic-less

W8©

August 4th, 2009
11:50 am

@Grace- it turns me on..lol

W8©

August 4th, 2009
11:51 am

@For Real- been trying to hit you up for a few days..check your text also..lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
11:51 am

Sexy – Thats what was triple funny to me. Cause dude was gone with her and I’m sure she had som splainin to do cause they looked back and I waved at them. Yeah I did keep an eye on them standing in the middle of the hallway until they left but it was funny cause I wouldve been like we aint going nowhere.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
11:52 am

ARED – Yeah but dudes feel too. Ya’ll always talk about showing our feelings but then we B!tchmade when we do.

DK – Getting enraged to the point of violence or “snapping” is not what is meant by that.

Seriously, if the h0 drives to that point, seek help.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
11:52 am

ohhh Vick in Denver…that would be nice on the surface I have to do a bit more research to give an opinion on that

SexyCool - Only thing that's on my mind is who's gone run this town tonight...

August 4th, 2009
11:52 am

DasKrait – If I knew that all I had to do was type your name to get you to show up, I would have done that long ago.

Good to read you, dude.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

August 4th, 2009
11:53 am

…but it seems that my always being solo and never with anyone conveys to them the “possibility” of my being available with enough persistence…

Lawd…lawd…lawd. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve suffered through that. It’s like sometimes when I try to be nice it falls upon deaf ears but the milli-second I come out my bag with some ish then they look at me like I’m crazy.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
11:53 am

@Rell sorry work to make her where she is today? Did I just step into a ghetto version of My Fair Lady or something? Seriously is that the what goes on in the minds of dudes. We breaking up or divorcing and you moving on in after I made you what you are today? <<<<<<<<This is foolishness. (Foolishness define as the actions, sayings or beliefs, that would rival the dreams of the most insane schizo person..)

M'

August 4th, 2009
11:54 am

@W8

IMO when it gets to the point that much anger and violence are present…then I should have been gone long ago…I do not linger in situations where I have to let unresolved differences fester…when the ability to communicate is not openly and readily available…then it is time to bow the pop stand and leave a fork cuz it is done…I may not choose what another person will do to try and make me angry…but I can choose whether or not I will allow myself to stay in the path of that behavior and attitude.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
11:56 am

I can’t imagine dealing with the caliber of dude that would be okay with running from another dude.

- YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED…i have confronted plenty that pleaded for there life and i just knocked on there FRONT DOOR or WAITED for them in there THERE drive way…trust me i have backed a plenty of these back door bandits..but i should have just left instead of either catching a charge or losing my life…neva again

@DASK…whats up mayne!

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
11:56 am

I have not talked to a dear friend of mine in several months because of the situation she’s gotten herself into with this dude.

I saw her this weekend and she told me how we needed to catch up. She proceeded to tell me how she had vandalized her car a few months back and spray painted “man wh0re” and “bytch nigga” on his ride.

This is relationship she knowingly entered into. I’ve long said she’s needed some therapy. We will have a sit down and talk, but I just gotta figure out how to broach it. I don’t believe in telling grown folks how to live their lives, but ish is ridiculous.

For Real

August 4th, 2009
11:58 am

W8: “yeah I may do something that may warrant you to slap me I will take that” – Dayumm that keep your hands to yourself and I will keep my hand to myself. A lot of women think their bodies are more valuabe than men and that’s BS. Ack like a lady and I will ack like a man. Ack like a man and I will still be a man.

Grace

August 4th, 2009
11:59 am

W8 hold still – ssssllllaaapp! turned on yet!?!

lurker

August 4th, 2009
12:00 pm

YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED…i have confronted plenty that pleaded for there life and i just knocked on there FRONT DOOR or WAITED for them in there THERE drive way…trust me i have backed a plenty of these back door bandits..but i should have just left instead of either catching a charge or losing my life

WOW

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:00 pm

I can’t imagine dealing with the caliber of dude that would be okay with running from another dude.

Depends on what she said. Danger is danger, and if I was like, “yeah, homie ain’t stable, maybe we should bounce” I’d hope he’d put his bravado aside and roll out.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:00 pm

Rell – I have been there myself.. So mad I wanted to spit in my ex wifes face and I know that is the worst. I just had to go do something anything just to clear my mind. You know in the end though I look at her now and she has been through so much over the years that karma is a MF and I know its her turn to feel the mess she put me through in the divorce. She came to me recently and asked if we canget back together. I asked her where were the cameras because I must be getting punk’d pulled out a stack, counted slowly and paid for dinner…

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
12:00 pm

@KYM…making her what she is today

meaning when i meet her she was one way…but along the way she picked up some of my mannerism, taste…etc etc…now she takes that package to another person…how is that crazy…people say this all the time…have you not heard a women say..when i meet him he was not ish…i stuck by him….then when he gets on….he does me like this…etc etc…thats all it is

and again this is post feelings..that i am sharing…i am not feeling that way now…but thanks for your breakdown

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:01 pm

Yeah alot of dudes run…you can spot a punk from a mile away…

DasK

August 4th, 2009
12:02 pm

SC – you mean that is the FIRST time you have mentioned my creed there(life is full of risk)? LMAO

Hi Rell, didn’t want to mention “Tell us how you REALLY feel” (something on page one here, somethin’ about flakes) not familiar with the new format. for italics and bold..

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:03 pm

Did I just step into a ghetto version of My Fair Lady or something? Seriously is that the what goes on in the minds of dudes. We breaking up or divorcing and you moving on in after I made you what you are today? <<<<<<<<This is foolishness.

:lol: Agreed. Folks need to get over themselves and stopping given them props for doing the job they signed up to do!

For Real

August 4th, 2009
12:04 pm

(Foolishness define as the actions, sayings or beliefs, that would rival the dreams of the most insane schizo person..) – Is that kinda like when a chick says this about every relationship she has been in “I’mma good women and if he can’t see that den it’s his loss”

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
12:04 pm

@lucker..why the wow…why do women want you to b itch up all the time..but act “thug” when she wants to show off her bad boy…i dont get that…if you man enought to creep with my wife then you man enought to take th is a zz whipping coming your way or some form of property damage…da hell!!!!

M'

August 4th, 2009
12:04 pm

@Sassy

Yo…now I am the crazy bish…the frigid lesbian…the contaminated C.U.N….uh-huh.

I have 3 levels of not interested rhetoric:

1) NO not interested in you agenda of pursuit.
2) I prefer being single and I am not looking to be involved with ANYONE (including you).
3) [insert whatever personally rude, disrespectful and vulgar thing I can say] to humiliate him into leaving me alone.

TOO MUCH NOISE for the same nice no I gave up front.

SexyCool - Only thing that's on my mind is who's gone run this town tonight...

August 4th, 2009
12:04 pm

ARed – Somehow my next post got lost. I agree, there is no use in forcing a confrontation or a d*ck measuring contest. But to just turn around and haul ass. I know Mine would not be feeling that.

Melo

August 4th, 2009
12:06 pm

Seriously is that the what goes on in the minds of dudes

this is what goes on in the minds of the more agrieved party,male or female.

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:06 pm

IMO when it gets to the point that much anger and violence are present…then I should have been gone long ago…I do not linger in situations where I have to let unresolved differences fester…when the ability to communicate is not openly and readily available…then it is time to bow the pop stand and leave a fork cuz it is done…I may not choose what another person will do to try and make me angry…but I can choose whether or not I will allow myself to stay in the path of that behavior and attitude.

This needs to be said again!!!!

I have never, ever, felt threatened in ANY relationship I’ve ever been in. Recognize the signs and bounce out. Most importantly, don’t spend time throwing salt in the wounds of an already hurtful situation. Just roll!

That’s when the “indiffernce” side comes in handy.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:06 pm

Yep once a good girl goes bad…she’s gone bad forever…i’ve turned many a good girl bad…I didnt realize this until during the process a woman told me that

@Grace- you are funny..lmao

@DK- That was the low of my life…I didnt hit old girl but dayum she was taking me there.I mean she literally hid the keys to the deadbolt..I couldnt get out of the house..she threw crap..slapped..hit me..called me all sorts of names etc etc…I just spit in her face..i am very sad about that to this day..I should have had better control….

For Real

August 4th, 2009
12:08 pm

“I’d hope he’d put his bravado aside and roll out.” – And yall wonder why there are so many b*tchass men out there. Funny thang tho yall then will turn around and expect that same dude to protect you when you can’t run. WOW!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:09 pm

ARED – The reason I would have said we aint going nowhere is because I keep it with me at all times. I’m licensed to carry it and have repo’d a few cars where people say “I’mma Kill you” so seeing as though I wanna get back home to my Lil Guy I just keep in on my person at all times. Then on top of that I wouldnt be a a$$ about it like yeah I got ya girl. I would just keep doin my thang and not being all extra and if he came up I would try and holla at him like a man. Most dudes understand when another dude tell them “this really dont have anything to do with me” and he aint trying to pop fly but he’s standing his ground.

lurker

August 4th, 2009
12:09 pm

Rell If a man is man enough to sleep with your wife, at that point is it really worth it? Seriously.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
12:12 pm

@For Real please don’t drag me into your male-female bash sessions. You ask me to define the word I did. Foolishness and BS can apply to both sexes.

The Real Rell

August 4th, 2009
12:12 pm

@lucker..its the principle at that point..dayum her…you disrespect me and you think you slick with it

Melo

August 4th, 2009
12:14 pm

Recognize the signs and bounce out

ARED:
have u have loved someone so much but still had a major,animated disagreement with them?? If u luved and disagreed,did u bounce then or stayed?

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:16 pm

And yall wonder why there are so many b*tchass men out there.

For Real – I don’t wonder why, I know why and that isn’t the reason.

Dude is questionable for being with that married chick anyway. But if some dude and I were out and he walks away from a fight, especially with some dude that ain’t got it all kosher upstairs, that doesn’t necessarily make him btich made.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:17 pm

Rell – I understand that.. Cause its rules to this and dudes act like they dont know married women are off limits. I was taught you dont mess with married women cause a man will kill you bout his wife..

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:17 pm

I am so glad I am not 21 anymore

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:18 pm

ARED – The reason I would have said we aint going nowhere is because I keep it with me at all times.

DK – Yeah, you have a weapon so now you can feel like big Willie. How are you without your piece? :???:

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:19 pm

Hmm you must protect momma bear at all cost..some dudes just have to be made an example out of…and yes married women are off limits…you check her if she cheats in your own way..but the dude she cheated with has got to get it…sorry Man Law

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:19 pm

Rell – Exactly because dudes know what it is.. “Yeah man I hitting this married chick, and I be doing everythang to her.” “I dont see how he kisses her, Ha ha ha”. I feel like you get whatever is coming to you if you mess with a married babe or married man.

SexyCool - I'm in charge.

August 4th, 2009
12:20 pm

I keep losing my posts on this…oh well

But dude didn’t run from a fight. He was escorted out the mall because of another dude. I’m not saying that confrontation should have been forced. But, just turning tail, seriously? I couldn’t see Mine going for that.

Plus, I’m too cool to do some ish like that anyway. LOL

AmazonRed™

August 4th, 2009
12:20 pm

ARED:
have u have loved someone so much but still had a major,animated disagreement with them?? If u luved and disagreed,did u bounce then or stayed?

Yes and I still didn’t feel I was in harms way. No one says crazy ish to me like “I’ll step to you in person” except for crazies on here.

But seeing as I’m single…I’ve always eventually bounced out. But not for reasons like thinking he was unstable.

W8©

August 4th, 2009
12:23 pm

People yall be careful crime is WAY up in Atlanta and there is a reason it not all being reported by mass media…I am not going into that..but dang this stuff is abnormal for a growing city..even in this controlled recession it is bad. Just be careful and watch your surroundings.

Kym-Don't want no Paper Gangsta

August 4th, 2009
12:24 pm

@W8 if every there was more foolishness that 12:19 is right there on top. It ranks up there with the married dude I dated trying to regulate who I date. You can’t run your house and mind..we is not a couple.

THE INFAMOUS DK

August 4th, 2009
12:24 pm

ARED – Im also a brown belt in Hapkido, Black belt in Karate and a state wrestling champ from the 80’s. Really good with my hands. See I dont seek to open a can of whoopin but if I have to I aint running from nobody. I will never pull my tool unles I plan on deadin you anyway I was taught that too. Never pull a gun unless you plan to use it.

Melo

August 4th, 2009
12:25 pm

I was taught you dont mess with married women cause a man will kill you bout his wife..

THATS ONE “CRIME” THEY NEED TO TAKE OFF THE LAW BOOKS