Crossed the Line, Now What?
I read somewhere that every healthy relationship has boundaries. That invisible line in the sand that you would never cross, under no circumstances. Riddle me this, what happens to the boundaries when you are in love? Why is it that otherwise normal people toss out their logic and reasoning when they are head over heels?
It’s like being caught up in “the haze of love” completely blinds one to their boundaries. The next thing you know, you are hacking email accounts, looking at text messages, or something equally psycho. Would you be able to get past your date’s behavior if they crossed your relationship boundaries? Did you regret it?
My friend Paul said that he once forgave a young lady for looking through the photos on his laptop without asking. That was just one sign of how nosy and insecure she was about his female friends. They dated for a while but he thinks that the photo thing was a red flag that he ignored.
Have you ever crossed the line with someone you were dating? Did they give you another chance?
My friend D. Young coined the term relationship boiling points, recently. Those things that can send you over the edge. I can think of a couple that a guy would never recover from. Then there are the ones that can be dealt with and I can be won over again. After a little begging and a trip to the Apple store or something!
What are your relationship boiling points?
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Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
8:47 am
Yes we tend to be a little more tolerant when we find ourselves really into someone. We tend have broader allowance when blinded by infatuation.
I don’t know if it is that I looked the other way during the early years or if mi marido is actually more forward in his actions since he’s “got me” now. Either way I make it my business to derail such blatant actions of presumptuousness.
The problem??? He doesn’t get it. He doesn’t see himself doing it.
A small portion of a recent situation…
Me: Mason you are doing it again.
Mason: Doing what? What am I doing?
Me: Taking me for granted.
Mason: How? You keep saying that but how am I taking you for granted?
Me: Because you…yada, yada, yada
Mason: What?
By this time the discussion is no longer about what he did but has turned to the great debate as to whether or not he is actually aware of what he does.
That hits pretty close to my boiling point because I wonder why he doesn’t realize he is doing it. Outside of the fact that he can sometimes be a pretentious arsehole. But you know what he clearly understands or gets?…that I am being unreasonable and unfair when I don’t his grungy smug paws on me after he has tried to take me for granted. You can my “wrong” but not your own???
There are other things but this is where I am bright and early this morning…
Professor
July 31st, 2009
8:57 am
Happy Friday!
Interesting topic, as for relationship boiling points I am pretty simple, so here’s my list:
1. I do not deal with guys that show abusive behavior (mentally, physically or verbally). I think I mentioned before the guy who told me that I talk a lot of junk and he could see himself choking me, and he said, “Don’t get alarm because I know CPR.”
2. I do not deal with guys that present conflicting stories otherwise known as a lot of lies: not claiming their children, lying about their education (claiming he graduated from one college, but actually attended somewhere else) and other dumb stuff.
3. I do not deal with guys that are control freaks I feel they are abusive and manipulative…
4. I do not deal with guys that have crazy current girlfriends (if it is an ex I want to see the restraining order before I entertain him as well). There is nothing like dealing with a psycho trying to get tabs on her man. The chick should get at her man, because if he is hers (possessive) she should know the answer. Yea I know it is not the man’s fault, but something has to be said for why the chick is crazy…is the beanie weenie that good or did he mislead her? Whatever the answer is my car tires are too important to take the risk.
Off topic: Has anyone (or know someone) that has taken advantage on the cash for clunkers deal? I hear they are running out of $$$ and I wanted to check into it…for some reason a car is whispering my name.
Professor
July 31st, 2009
9:03 am
Wow…I did not mean for my post to be that long…I really am pretty simple either it is a go or a no go. I do not have a lot of in between area and I do not think my list is that long, but I failed to mention respect which is huge…I have been turned off by how a guy treated others…I find it a turnoff when a guy calls women bytches etc. So please add that to the boiling list…all of the snooping and stuff I never really had a guy do that except for one and I will not share that story because I am embarrassed for him.
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
9:09 am
Yeah dating I would have a problem with a guy looking thru my personal emails and files. That is crossing the line. I mention the other day about a guy looking in my medicine cabinet but that didn’t bother me too much. I would take great offense to someone hacking an account or breaking into something to get information. There is no forgiveness to be offered there.
Other line crossers, talking down to me. Talking down to or about my kids. Standing me up without the courtesy of a phone call.
One offense that I can recall that actually was allowed to be made right a time or two, and this only worked with a certain person, the pretentious arsehole, but it’s inviting me over yet removing yourself from the space and leaving me alone. Especially when I postponed something equally important to spend time with you. You knew you were moody before I came over. We could have planned for another day. But like I said he was allowed to make it right. Like WD mentioned, some earnest pleading, a nice consolation gift (shopping, weekend getaway, etc.)
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
9:40 am
There are obvious no-brainers like abuse of any kind, cheating, stealing that are for many and should be for more line-crossers. But we all know that.
It’s the little ones like the snooping, the unauthorized use of cell phones and computers, the showing up unannounced time and time again, the extreme habitual tardiness and more like those that we sometimes allow passes for given some circumstances also depending on how much we like the person.
But it’s like a balloon. You can only fill it with so much air before it burst. Every relationship has its balloon. Even the good and healthy ones. This is a matter where flaccid is better than the alternative. Don’t let it build up. Let more air out than you allow to be injected.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
9:41 am
Three Words Daily – Don’t stop believing.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
9:42 am
Have you ever crossed the line with someone you were dating? Did they give you another chance?
One of my cardinal dating rules is to NEVER cross those lines….I don’t hack email accounts or cell phones and I don’t snoop around b/c I wouldn’t want that done to me and I know that,me being me, all sorts of helll would pop off. Have I been tempted to YES but out of mutual respect I haven’t. Now I’ve had this dont to me by an ex who tried very hard to control me.
Long story short I left him at my apartment downtown while I was at work one night only for me to return to find that he’d rifled through some of my personal things found a letter from a highschool friend and some pics they sent and tore them all up into little pieces and left them in the middle of my bedroom floor. Mind you I had just seen “Thin line between love and hate” with Martin Lawrence and I was on fire. Sooo I ever so politely packed all of his clothes in a plastic trash bag,caught a cab to his apartment(told the cabbie not to leave cause it wouldn’t be long) and dumped all of his shyt on the middle of his yard. It had just rained and all of his cousings were outside and saw the whole thing. Needless to say we were done after that and I felt sooo good. The cabbie laughed the whole time and didn’t even charge me for the ride. Revenge is a dish best served COLD
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
9:43 am
Yeah. Boundaries are good. Seriously. But so is a corresponding level of openness within a relationship.
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
9:43 am
Morning everyone!
I can’t remember a time when I’ve crossed the boundary line. I don’t eavesdrop, play coy, or sneak into accounts. All this is a waste of my time and energy. I don’t believe in snooping. If I want to know something I ask. If he snoops around in my things without asking, then Houston, we have a problem and I won’t ignore that flag!
Like Raqi stated, tolerance level is heightened when you’re really into someone, but certain situations need to be addressed head on before it escalates!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
9:47 am
Professor I liked your 8:57 and I cosign with that….I wouldn’t date those types either. I have female friends who have done all of those things and I’m always on the side thinking “why” and “do you have ANY pride whatsoever” but it’s like they just have to do it…..then they wonder why the guy doesn’t want to be with them….DUH chick you’se crazy that’s why…but I digress
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
9:47 am
Let me re-state: Agreed upon / understood boundaries are good. And those boundaries may go farther for some couples than for others. It’s really about what you as a couple are comfortable with.
That is also true for the level of openness. Mine shared something with me recently that let me know how open he is with me. And it gave me one more thing to admire him for.
RelldaRake - 8inchs of limp dizzle
July 31st, 2009
9:50 am
@PROF…whats ya phone namber..lol
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
9:53 am
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LIONESS! Hope you had a fabulous b-day week!
RelldaRake - 8inchs of limp dizzle
July 31st, 2009
9:55 am
happy bday lioness…i hope you have a good one
Professor
July 31st, 2009
9:56 am
I don’t have any little things, because for some reason the people I deal with were above those games for the most part (the ones I kept around). For me there are certain key elements that set the foundation for a relationship. Hence the big things if those things are in place you are good. For me a liar will snoop in your stuff, therefore I don’t deal with liars so I do not have the snooping issues. The control freaks will try to manage your time and deal with you when they want to deal with you, thus I stay away from control freaks. Those that are abusive and show signs of this will damage your property or you (even if it is just pictures or a letter), therefore I stay away from these guys…if you can do an assessment of the big things you will see patterns.
Sure there are aggravating things we all do to each other in relationships, however those things should not be character issues. I think the aggravating things are you did not brew another pot of coffee, and to me a pot of coffee is not grounds for a break up…IMO.
Professor
July 31st, 2009
9:57 am
@Rell 777-9311 are you old enough to know that song…well sing it with me
Professor
July 31st, 2009
9:59 am
@Sassy good for you in handling him…
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
9:59 am
anybody home??????
Relationship Boiling points—–pyssin’ me off…plain and simple!
M.
July 31st, 2009
10:00 am
I know that I have given one to many chances. I was seeing a girl long distance and she came to visit me. Long story short, a couple times I caught her snooping through mundane things that had no relevance to her. She said I am the type that if I want to know something, I get down to the bottom of it. Why not ask?
Then a couple occasions, she would play dumb and be like can I use your phone, and attempt to go thru my stuff but the worst situation was when she took my phone and locked herself in my bathroom and went through my calls, pictures, picture mail,etc….crazy anyone? Man I am glad I am out of that situation…now anyone touching the communications….cut off!!!
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:01 am
Agreed upon / understood boundaries are good. And those boundaries may go farther for some couples than for others.
I agree with that. For me at a certain stage of a relationship some things are acceptable. I don’t have a problem with my marido reading my email. I don’t care if he uses my cell phone. He doesn’t ramble thru my purse but I have no problem with him reaching in there to get my keys or whatever.
That’s a topic we should discuss on here one day, if we already haven’t. The level of privacy in relationships and when does that level increase/decrease. Or better yet is there such a thing as privacy in a marriage or committed relationship. I am not talking about revealing all the personal intimate details of your past to your mate but just every day doings. Does privacy exist when you become one? WiseDiva we can discuss this one day??? (I know a statement and not a question)
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:01 am
OMG!!!!OMG!!!! 2CAN IS IN THE BUILDING!!!!
SexyCool faints like she’s at a Michael Jackson concert.
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:01 am
Do my eyes deceive me?!?!?! 2CPTG
Miss Moni
July 31st, 2009
10:02 am
-Riddle me this, what happens to the boundaries when you are in love? Why is it that otherwise normal people toss out their logic and reasoning when they are head over heels?
Good Morning Blog Family!
Speaking from personal experience, I am my biggest advocate, especially when it comes to protecting myself from being hurt emotionally, physically or mentally. If the guy I’m dealing with is doing suspicious things I will give him the opportunity to explain. If 1 and 1 is not adding up to be 2, then YES I’m going to investigate! Now if I don’t love him, then I don’t care what he’s doing and as soon as the story doesn’t add up will simply move on. However, it’s something about being in love and feeling vulnerable that won’t allow me to rest peacefully until I find out the truth. (If you look, you will find. If he’s not doing anything wrong, you will find that out as well)
The logic and reasoning is there, but it is totally ignored sometimes! No one wants to get played or be used as someone’s doormat. Respect me, be honest and communicate effectively and I will equally do the same. The bottom line is, if your S.O. is doing things that continue to raise your suspicion, then just let it go. As much as it may hurt, just let it go!
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:03 am
Hey Sexy….nah, Raqi, ya eyes ain’t playin tricks wit’ cha…it’s ya boi!
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:05 am
Sup, No. Fla. Bwoi?
Professor
July 31st, 2009
10:06 am
BTW I will say this I never saw my dad go in my mom’s purse and I cannot remember going in her purse I can remember her saying bring me my purse. I think the small things are a spill over from the big things…we have all seen the movie before and know the ending is what I am saying.
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
10:07 am
Ok, I am running off of 3 hours of sleep and omg 2CPTG! Is that you or am I dreaming? Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! *kisses and hugs*
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
10:07 am
777-9311 are you old enough to know that song…well sing it with me
I remember that song…and have also give it out as my # to some persistent fools who never got the hint.
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:07 am
the people I deal with were above those
Do we ever really know who is above what?
Was Michael Jackson above being a drug addict?
Was OJ Simpson above murder?
Was Mike Vick above illegal dog fighting?
The thing about people, you never really can know what they are until the do it.
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:08 am
been chillin, just wanted to “pop” my head in to see what was going on…..bout to go see if Obama got any beer left over….
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:10 am
2CPTG Big hug to ya. Good to see you pop in.
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:10 am
Hey soror….yeah this is me…..damn, Joe Biden drunk all the beer…punkazz!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 31st, 2009
10:11 am
Morning blog gang!
Well I mentioned the other day about the guy that was surprised when I DIDN’T snoop thru his things when he left me alone at his place when he went out for food. Set little traps & everything. I’m just so not that nosy, insecure, crazy, whatever you want to call it!
DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT – Go in my purse & wallet, mess with my cell, computer, read my mail, go thru my drawers! It won’t end pretty! I was raised that way & I expect anyone I deal with to be that way too. In our home growing up we could set our wallets, purses, money, jewelry, whatever down and come back and it would not be touched. If I let you in my personal space like that I expect you to respect it, like I respect you & your privacy & personal space. That’s the only way to be in my book.
I had a guy to steal half my hard drive from my computer & set up a stalker virus on it. Other than to let him know I discoved his treachery, I have not spoken to him since. And I really probably could have f’d him up real bad & got him in trouble cause he worked for the Pentagon. I’d never had a man to steal from me! I’ll give you my last if you ask for it, but don’t steal!
abc
July 31st, 2009
10:14 am
Have I ever crossed such lines of privacy? Sure I have. I was never caught at it, sneaky bastid that I am. As maturity grows, though, so does a realization of the importance of 1 Cor 13. In addition to that, “Love is not jealous. Love trusts the other person.”
If so, wonderful; else, bummer.
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
10:15 am
Hi 2C, bring me a Samuel Adams, please (from what the news reported, only two bottles were consumed 4 bottles are somewhere on the White House property).
Professor
July 31st, 2009
10:16 am
Honestly I do not know any of the celebrities that you mentioned. However past behavior is always an indication of future results whether good or bad. So let’s examine your list and see what we come up with:
Michael Jackson his bizarre behavior left the world knowing that something was wrong we (fans) may not have known what it was, but we knew it was something. However close friends and family members came out and said that they were trying setting up a good date/time to confront him about his problem.
OJ was acquitted of the murder, however even if he did murder his ex-wife we all saw the pictures of her being beaten and we heard the stories of his obsessive behavior.
MV7 we remember the “Joe Mexico” and the water bottle incident etc. I will not bore the blog with all of this…
That is why my argument said look at the big things… and yes the people I chose to deal with I know them and they are above those things….
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:19 am
Set little traps & everything
That’s one I have a problem with. If I feel the need to set traps, the feeling itself is all I need to know what I need to know.
Professor
July 31st, 2009
10:20 am
@ Sassy a few years ago I gave that 777-9311 out with a 770 area code attached to it, the guy was younger and he told me ohh that is an easy number to remember did you have to pay extra for it…? I actually felt sorry for him because he was so sincere with it…I guess Ol’ Professor has a heart after all.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:20 am
Atlanta Housewives – Best Trainwreck TV on the PLANET!!!
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
10:21 am
Oh My Dayummmm it’s 2Can !!! LOL
…as that chick Cee would say —> What da stanky leg???
What a surprise!…mayne, how you been?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 31st, 2009
10:21 am
Professor, it was like that with us too – dad never went in mom’s purse & she never went in his wallet, unless they gave permission. I think it is a matter of respect. I don’t have anything to hide & I’ll ask SO to answer my cell at times & he’ll ask me to grab his, but that’s as far as it goes.
Raqi – I know this could potentially be another topic one day, but to answer your question, again its a matter of respect to me. I just can’t get with – “since we are together we should let it all hang out” line of thinking. I know, I’ve never been married, but it is not what I observed with my parents’ marriage and my grandparents & others I’ve been around. The purse & wallet were just a little sacred, not to be entered unless permitted, but not hiding anything either. I just don’t think marriage means a COMPLETE loss of privacy.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:22 am
“Dwight, do you have on lashes?”
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:23 am
I’m really gone need to hear Bob’s side of the story. Sheree dogged him out totally. Lost even more respect for her on that one – if that were possible.
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:24 am
What it do, **Jamocha**…..now lemmee see what y’all talkin’ about…..
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:24 am
“My momma don’t like him cause he got a lotta kids.”
“How many kids he got?”
“Six.”
SexyCool faints AGAIN…
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:25 am
“I’m a top level executive and I’m gone need you to respect my top.”
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 31st, 2009
10:25 am
Hey 2Can!
Personally, if I feel I have to go snooping, that’s too much drama & stress already for me, so I’m out.
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:25 am
Love trusts the other person
abc I agree. I just can’t see myself in a relationship, not just dating someone new but a relationship, with someone that I have to hide things. I cannot be comfortable with anyone that I have to make sure my email account is closed down, my bank accounts are logged off, my purse is looked up, and my files are put away when they are around.
First I need to trust you to trust me. And then I need to trust you to not use the information that I allow you to view for ill gain.
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:26 am
morning…
Moca – What?
Hey 2? Auh, yea.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:26 am
“Google me and check my resume.”
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:27 am
2C – Post me a number from 8:15 please.
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:27 am
Morning…
I’m ‘even keel’. The same tone I have when I’m disappointed, stressed, offended, and sad, I am the same tone when I’m pleased, content and satisfied.
I’m fluid with my “don’t appreciate” and “do appreciate”…When they happen I just tell the person why/what about it was, or was not kosher with me.
I do not snoop in anyone’s personal space. The last time I was snooping, it was in my Mom’s closet when I was a teenager and I found some things that still to this day my mind is blown away that Momma had those things!
…no, no, no, do not snoop!
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:27 am
Atlanta Housewives??? That show is embarrassing.
Biatch Pleeze
July 31st, 2009
10:28 am
@Scool- Bob probably wont even respond “Above the Fray”
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:30 am
hey Cee!!!! number? you lost me……
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
10:30 am
@SexyCool ~ first time watching Housewives, and I called my friend who suggested I watch it that this show is a “trainwreck” and I see how people get sucked into watching it cuz I’m now sucked in.
abc
July 31st, 2009
10:30 am
Yall just have to say no to reality TV programming.
The reason that there’s mostly crap on TV to watch is because, evidently, people will watch dayum near anything! It’s even become difficult to find a movie to go watch these days!
I’m back to boycotting reality TV altogether. The only one I’ve really watched is American Idol the past 2 seasons, and then only because my girl likes it, but that show is pure BS sandwich with a side of fried stupid. I watched NeNe for about 2 minutes some months back; Housewives of Atlanta, you have got to be kidding me. Just say no. Maybe folks will be forced to come up with something better if nobody watches that drivel.
Яaqi…And I repeat “I am not to be taken for granted!”
July 31st, 2009
10:31 am
Kimmie I am not talking about rambling, I am talking about a level of trust. I trust my husband to get my keys from my purse without trying to find something that shouldn’t be there. Or he would not want to see. He trust me to get a $20 or a credit card from his wallet without rambling to see if he has any numbers or something there that I shouldn’t know about.
And I can say that we both can trust each other not to have such items that would raise a hair.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:32 am
Raqi – tell me about it.
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:34 am
@ 2CPTG – 8:15 there was a two digit number…tell me what that was.
lol..
2CPTG
July 31st, 2009
10:36 am
oh……hehehehehehe, 30! what, you thought someone was impersonating me?
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
10:36 am
I’m really gone need to hear Bob’s side of the story. Sheree dogged him out totally.
I’m interested in that,too. Even though I didn’t watch the show I heard about Sheree and some guy almost coming to blows and he called her and her mother a “B”…actually he called her a trashy “B”…who was he anyway?
W8©
July 31st, 2009
10:38 am
@BP- Girl stop using my phrases
On the crossing the line now what? Hmmm…. I have been presented with this situation and I am very slow to make a decision. Usually I just cut off all ties…but now I just sit back observe and watch patterns…I slide into an eagles eye view rotation pattern…I usually dont pay attention to that kind of stuff when I am dating someone because I know once I become inquisitive I can find out all sorts of stuff…and that requires a special discipline not to…but when folks come at me and try and get into mine…that opens the floodgates on my part and I find out everything I can…I dont mention it…It’s just good to know as I sit back and watch them make a fool of themselves
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
10:39 am
@Raqi, it is embarrassing. I agree w/that. I watched in disbelief mostly over Sheree!
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:39 am
No. sigh…grown folks…please stop.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 31st, 2009
10:40 am
Raqi – Okay, I get that & agree.
Yeah, I just could not see myself with anyone that I could not trust, had to hide things from, etc.
Professor
July 31st, 2009
10:41 am
@Kimmie I agree with the certain amount of respect you should have for others…that is how it was growing up for me. I am going to try your sangria recipe this week so I know it will be fabulous…
As for the “Housewives” I cannot watch that show or “Tiny and Toya” etc.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
10:42 am
I was kind of tricked into watching that show lastnight..my first time ever watching it…amazing..that Sheree girl has a great shape. Nene is fake to her core and needs others to validate her..Kim is just trash and I heard her say “that one will be working for me”…that spoke volumes right there “that one”..I was just amazed at it all..wow wow wow..
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
10:45 am
LOL @ W8 being tricked into watching the show.
Яaqi…I reside in Not-Atlanta...
July 31st, 2009
10:45 am
I was kind of tricked into watching that show lastnight
LOL at the fact that you actually remember the names after only watching once. I couldn’t tell if you put a gun to my head who is named what.
Яaqi…I reside in Not-Atlanta...
July 31st, 2009
10:47 am
Cemeeli keep an eye on this baby while I run downstairs. (Elizabeth now under Cee’s virtual guidance)
W8©
July 31st, 2009
10:47 am
@Page- Yeah I was
@Raqi- You can walk with me into the mall and i can remember every single car tag that we pass along with the color and type of car…it comes with the job…attention to details
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
10:47 am
Cee – LOL. Ain’t no what, chica. I’m so blowed….
ON TOPIC
As it has already been stated…and I will agree, we tend to let our SO’s slide with petty issues…and in some cases give the opportunity for them to “make it up” to you, in the event that there was a line crossed.
But like several others, snooping is a no-no. I don’t feel with the idea of doing it, let alone carrying it out. And like I’ve mentioned before, the moment I’m second guessing his words vs his actions then, I’m doing a little self evaluation and really asking myself “how did we get to this point”?
So naw…I don’t snoop, actually, I REFUSE to snoop, period. And I’m looking at the man real crazy if he even ponders the idea that he has to snoop around in my belongings.
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
10:47 am
Well, well, well…
I see the gang’s all here.
On Topic: We’re grown; you cross me and you’re out the door. No ifs, and, or buts.
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
10:49 am
Correction: I don’t feel comfortable with the idea of doing it, let alone carrying it out.
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
10:50 am
abc
Thank you. I have company in boycotting reality TV. I don’t see it embarrassing. Those people volunteered to act a fool for a dollar.
It is just Jerry Springer antics taken outside of the studio.
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
10:50 am
LOL W8
BK- Dude, totally omg. Hey there:)
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
10:51 am
Sup Baybeh Blue !!! What in da hayo’s goin’ on in here? LOL
Okay, who’s next: Du? SeanJohn? AggWitt? QueDog? Dreams?
W8©
July 31st, 2009
10:52 am
reality tv= visual malt liquor
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
10:53 am
Reality TV is not real. It’s improv based on created situations and manufactured tension.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
10:55 am
LOL @ W8 being tricked into watching the show.
I did that,too…..tricked..
Professor
July 31st, 2009
10:56 am
@abc I am with you on reality tv, but I am not a big tv fan anyway I actually prefer reading.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 31st, 2009
10:56 am
Professor – It’s different every time I make it somehow, but always good! Yeah, let me know how it turns out!
As for ATL Housewives, they are a trainwreck, but no more than the NJ or NY or OC Housewives. They don’t embarrass me cause they don’t represent me or my city! In fact, on the NJ Wives, they all seem like they’re in the mafia & once they were all in this nice restaraunt and one got mad & turned over the table. All the women on all the shows are ghetto cause if they truly were wealthy & had good breeding & class they would not even submit to doing such a show.
Just a guilty pleasure I tune into from time to time to laugh at & talk about, nothing more for me!LOL!!!
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:58 am
@ Raqi – Of course. Babygirl will be just fine….
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
10:58 am
Page, Jamo… what up yoll? All I can say is it’s Friday. Ain’t no tellin’ who might come to dinner. Seeumsayin’?
Hey, I gotta put this out to the A. Anybody finding a black leather satchel type shoulder bag containing one Motorola cell phone, Canon digital camera (with a lot of pics of my kid), and a Crimson Red Nintendo DS, email me @ blue_kolla@yahoo.com.
I suspect that I left the joint at an orientation meeting up at Arabia Mountain High School.
And I’m handing out a serious reward too!!!
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
10:59 am
@ Moca – You caught up…it’s not authentic sis.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
11:00 am
We’re grown; you cross me and you’re out the door. No ifs, and, or buts.
I second that motion.
Off topic: It’s raining…….CLAP….CLAP
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
11:00 am
Of course reality show is now real it is scripted. Working in the entertainment business I have seen it all. I have a cousin LA who is a production assistant on Baldwin Hills (BET) and omg! All of those shows have writers, editors, etc.
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
11:00 am
And for all them folks talkin’ ’bout, “What’s the reward dude?”, the answer is CASH!!!
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
11:01 am
BK- I talked to SeanJ on yahoo the other day, so maybe he will pop in.
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
11:02 am
Blue – What’s the reward, mayne? $$$ LOL @ The Bulletin addressed to the ville’s Lost n’ Found.
The Real Rell - needs nude pics..email me
July 31st, 2009
11:02 am
what it is – 2CTPG….where ya been pimpin…holla
What Am I Missing (WAIM)
July 31st, 2009
11:02 am
@Sassy, here I am trying not to think about it and here you go with CLAP CLAP!
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
11:03 am
Cee – So we got us an imposter, ehhh??? Blue betnot be a cloned version either.
SexyCool - Coasting
July 31st, 2009
11:05 am
I’m a top level executive and I’m gone need you to respect my top.
LOVED that line so much – I HAD to repeat it….
LMAO!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 31st, 2009
11:08 am
WAIM blame it on the rain…what’s even better is I’m about to leave work for the day…then again I don’t have anyone to call soooooo…..
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
11:11 am
As far as Bob and Sheree go, Bob roots for her success. I know them both.
She and Bob were one of those couples that were together a long time before getting married. If I remember correctly, they were together about 5 years or so before even getting married.
All I’m gonna say is that he doesn’t let anyone get over on him. His sibling had to propose a business plan in order to get assistance on tuition. He rode them to attend class and then made them work it off either through Patchwerk studios or some other venture. He doesn’t believe in anyone getting a free ride. For example, one sibling had to be his driver for some time.
Even with Sheree, he got her a spot for a boutique on Howell Mill called “Bella Azul”. She had an opportunity to have her own business. It is now closed.
Яaqi…I reside in Not-Atlanta...
July 31st, 2009
11:11 am
had good breeding
Kimmie Orange County was the only HW that I even watched more than two episodes of and from what I remember they all pretty much married into the money. There was not true well-to-do blood running thru the veins. You can take a dog out of the streets, but it is sometimes nearly impossible to take the street out of the dog.
I love days like today. The postman just brought a little box to the door with my husband’s name on it. Crossing the lines would be opening the box. Shaking the box out of curiosity would be, just human nature.
Raqi giving the box two shakes before placing it on the counter
main lurker
July 31st, 2009
11:12 am
Sure I have. I was never caught at it, sneaky bastid that I am. As maturity grows, though, so does a realization of the importance of 1 Cor 13. In addition to that, “Love is not jealous. Love trusts the other person.”
Strongly agree. Just because I’m grown and don’t entertain this type stuff and being all secure with me and who I am, if I’m in doubt or there’s seriously a reason to not trust, I’m just not doing it. Not looking, lurking, shuffling, sneaking, investigating…..NOTHING! Who has the time and energy for that when you can just keep it moving.
Atlanta Housewives….just trashy. How you gon have a “coming out” or whatever the theme, party. They they waaaay too much of themselves and really, way too much time on their hands.
Яaqi…I reside in Not-Atlanta...
July 31st, 2009
11:13 am
Poppa it is embarrassing to the city they claim to represent.
Weight you are now “The Mentalist”.