Crossed the Line, Now What?
I read somewhere that every healthy relationship has boundaries. That invisible line in the sand that you would never cross, under no circumstances. Riddle me this, what happens to the boundaries when you are in love? Why is it that otherwise normal people toss out their logic and reasoning when they are head over heels?
It’s like being caught up in “the haze of love” completely blinds one to their boundaries. The next thing you know, you are hacking email accounts, looking at text messages, or something equally psycho. Would you be able to get past your date’s behavior if they crossed your relationship boundaries? Did you regret it?
My friend Paul said that he once forgave a young lady for looking through the photos on his laptop without asking. That was just one sign of how nosy and insecure she was about his female friends. They dated for a while but he thinks that the photo thing was a red flag that he ignored.
Have you ever crossed the line with someone you were dating? Did they give you another chance?
My friend D. Young coined the term relationship boiling points, recently. Those things that can send you over the edge. I can think of a couple that a guy would never recover from. Then there are the ones that can be dealt with and I can be won over again. After a little begging and a trip to the Apple store or something!
What are your relationship boiling points?
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SexyCool - Silent Thinker
July 31st, 2009
1:50 pm
Main – Good stuff.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
1:52 pm
Cee…I know right…
Baby you know ima take care of you
Cause you say you got my baby, and I know it ain’t true
W8©
July 31st, 2009
1:53 pm
Who has a big huge gumbo style pot that I can borrow?
W8©
July 31st, 2009
1:56 pm
I need a big huge pot
and Wendy Williams is ignorant about Atlanta
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
1:56 pm
The thing that gets me about on friend in particular is we all have the “respect my house, don’t call too late” understanding. But she will call because she really does need something yet say never mind.
Heifer you called my house at 2am, now speak up. What’s ailing you?
She has done this like twice…but still.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
1:56 pm
lol
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
1:57 pm
Momma did just call me though. all loud…
SexyCool You be in your own world, and is not really moved by things/folk around you. …I can dig it…
My mom is OCD too. If you drink water out of a glass, you HAVE to wash it as soon as you finish. Mom wants her bathroom spotless at all times, no soap left on the shower curtian. She likes pillows fluffed everytime you make up bed, she like vacuum marks on the floor after vacuuming.Had to dry the dishes after everywash and put them away.
Whew..i’m so glad i do my own thing now that i’m grown. Some of that stuff i let ride.
Grace
July 31st, 2009
1:57 pm
Afternoon Folks! TGIF!!!! good points to most of the post, I would like to add that for me crossing the line comes into play when you do something I didn’t ask of you without getting my opionion/go ahead first, sometimes it could be the simpliest thing.
I love watching reality shows even though I don’t think it’s much reality but as close as it gets, I’ve started watching the T.O. show, I’m thinking that Akita has a crush on T.O. the way she looks at him make me say hmmmmmm
W8©
July 31st, 2009
1:58 pm
Cell Phone and house phone….people who have the house phone number is work and close family members who know not to call late unless its an emergency
Melo
July 31st, 2009
1:58 pm
When it’s all said and done status, money, cars, balling, clubbing doesn’t mean anything and really is not what “living” is about
u confusing the kid,Main lurker,hw old is he/she?
why u making the kid aim low….hahaha!!.Make her reach high 4 the skies,get money,shake it like its hot,ride that pimped benz and ball if need be..those are the rewards of hard wrk,right??
Hwz evebody doing in here…??
The boss’ york is on ma neck and im hating on it and enving uall!
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
1:59 pm
Raqi – Ditto. Don’t wake me. I’m a bigtime sleeper, I love naps and all…I remember when i was pregnant and fell alseep during early morning….woke up it was dark out side..i had sleep 12+ hours. Woke up cleaning walls.
SexyCool - Silent Thinker
July 31st, 2009
1:59 pm
“she like vacuum marks on the floor after vacuuming.”
Now THAT is me and my momma for real…Are you some kin to me?
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
1:59 pm
And you know what main lurker I don’t feel the least bit bad or inferior about how I roll. My life is my life.
Keep telling your daughter that I will be arranging a marriage with my son and her in about 14 years. What’s your dowry looking like? LOL
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:00 pm
SC girl you’re making it happen huh!
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:03 pm
@ SexyCool – Calm down grasshopper.
I ain’t never understood the vacuum marks…lol…but Oooookay.
What is it about that?
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:06 pm
@ Raqi – What’s your dowry looking like?
lol….
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:08 pm
yall some non pot having folks
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:08 pm
Mase was talking in his sleep the other night. He was saying “Eddie give me my money. I got a wife and kids to feed I want my money”
The next morning I asked him how much did Eddie owe, he looked at me amazed and asked how do you know he owes me money.
Would listening to a sleeping talker be considered as eavesdropping or snooping? LOL I kid.
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:10 pm
What is it about that?
If you don’t see the vacuum marks you didn’t do it right. And they all better be going the same direction.
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:12 pm
@ W8 – I have 2 (count ‘em 1-2) big pots. But i don’t lend kitchen utensils (one suace pan that costs me 40 bucks is not returned unto me), coats/jackets (for chirstmas my in-law borrowed my ONLY red cashmere coat i havn’t seen it in 2 years), cars (friend drove with suspended license i was at work, and the cops impounded my car),grills (borrowed out for a cook out, it came back one less leg) and last but not least…MY MUSIC! I still have several cds & 2 Outkast CDs that no one knows where they are…
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:14 pm
@ Raqi – The floor/carpet is clean? Check! Okay, i’m good.
I grew up with hard wood floors and cleaning and staining all the time.
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:15 pm
W8 I have neva let anybody borrow my pots lol….need milk or suga, you got it but not my pots
I was in big lots last night looking at some really good stock pots thinking I need to upgrade
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:16 pm
Little known fact(and its really not a secret..almost all high level criminals know this)..even if you take the battery out of a cell phone..they all still have an internal battery in them…also if you have a cell phone that is on tmobile,att,sprint/nextel or verizon…it can be turned into a listening device “bug” without the owner even knowing…even if you turn it off…just keeping you in the know..lol…but we can’t listen in on criket and metro phones or any other pre-paid for that matter.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:17 pm
I will buy my own big huge pot then…lmao..yall so stingy..lol..hmm kimmie may have some…I need something to cook the crabs in..lol
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:18 pm
You don’t loan pots, you give them as Christmas gifts.
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:18 pm
Cee I grew up on hardwood floors too, I didn’t like when it was time to strip the floors and polish em, but when it was all finished I would be slippin and slidin all ova the place like Tom Cruise.
Melo
July 31st, 2009
2:18 pm
W8 and Demi,u can take me to body tap next Friday! I be ready to wild out coz next morning saturday,im off to the beach.
W8,lemme know mayne.
I be exhausted come next friday,so we can chill and jus play with the nice booteys.
Hit me up plays!
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:18 pm
Grace why do you have to tell me no in all bold and stuff..lol
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:20 pm
@melo- next friday is bad for me..Saturday is the party so I will be cooking and grilling friday night and saturday..lol
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:20 pm
@ Raqi – Can i get my sauce pan replaced as a gift from you? You don’t havta wait til crimmus.
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:20 pm
whaaaa W8….dude was right bout people listening to him lol and I thought he was crazy
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:21 pm
LOL….sorry bout that..I thought I only bolding your name..
Demi
July 31st, 2009
2:23 pm
yall some non pot having folks
W8…A cousin stole my gumbo pot a month ago…ish cost me 50 bucks…that was around the time I posted, ‘no mo play in ga’ and added family into the mix.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:23 pm
Grace you’d be amazed…but with this job comes alot of discipline…now when someone starts messing with you though..you have to ask why..would you try and get messy..lol
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:23 pm
In fact I am against loaning anything except money. If you like my jacket I will give it to you before I loan it.
I used to loan stuff and yep Cemeeli, not get it back. Then to see that person wearing it two months later in front of you acting like it don’t even belong to you. Folks will lie when questioned and say they bought it knowing good and well the borrowed it from you.
But get this, I let a lady a work borrow a CD and she never gave it back. One day at her desk I asked her for my CD back that she had right there on her desk and she tells me ‘this ain’t yours, I lost yours. This is mine. I just bought it.’
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:24 pm
@ Grace – Girl, our floors were DARK dark, wood growing up. So we (i) cut alot of corners when it was time to strip em. But i do still love em
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:24 pm
You too Demi…I didnt know folks were so sensitive about their pots..lol
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:25 pm
I wish somebody would give me some pots for christmas esp if it’s teflon
mytw♥cents
July 31st, 2009
2:25 pm
No Stress, No Stress, No Stress… Happy Friday, lurkin fam, bloggin fam, et al.
What’s poppin? Errybody ready for a fab weekend?
Cemeeli
July 31st, 2009
2:27 pm
I asked her for my CD back that she had right there on her desk and she tells me ‘this ain’t yours, I lost yours. This is mine. I just bought it.
@ Raqi – Naaaah, that’s when you were suppose to go “souf” a.k.a. South, with her.
“Girl if you don’t stop playin’. Okay i’ma give you 2 seconds to pass me that CD, or you’ll see why the call me iRaqi.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
2:27 pm
Well folks it’s tax free weekend and Princess W8 is ready for daddy to take her shopping…yall have a good one…enjoy life to the fullest and let no person be in control of your joy….life is good!!
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
2:28 pm
Dang. What did I miss…you all tombout to be…or NOT to be —> Domesticated again?
Now checkin’ how the masses love to igg…Lol…watch dis’….hehehe…
Jamoca
July 31st, 2009
2:29 pm
Oh, Demi – quit lyin’…you know nothing of how to make that gumbo! Lol
abc
July 31st, 2009
2:30 pm
Off topic,
Now, what is up with extending yet more billions in tax money into something as stupid as Cash for Clunkers?! Dayum thing ran for a week, depleted funds even though it was supposed to last through October, so they allocate 3 times the original sum?! And the President is ‘pleased’?!?!
What an international embarassment. America: Land of the Free (handout), home of the weenie beggars. Friggin Congress should start to go by the name “Robin Hood”. Like I want my taxes to pay for people to get new cars, gimme a dayum break.
main lurker
July 31st, 2009
2:31 pm
SCool <> <>
Melo boy hush
Raqi Dowry? A hopechest of dishes and an unopened sheetsheet, kitchen utensils, and a couple of nickels from the summer job…lol
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:33 pm
Demi how do you make gumbo?
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:35 pm
I have never been able to take advantage of tax free weekend. I always misses it…I need to either stop being so fast or stop waiting till the last minute and do the darn thing right!
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:39 pm
abc your comment made me think about one time I was in Finish Line with my son getting him some shoes for soccer and noticed the shoe bin at the counter. You can give your olds shoes for charity. There was a pair of shoes in there so raggedy the person giving them should have been embarrassed. If I was working there I would tell some of those people “nah that’s okay never mind you can keep those.” In other words “take that raggedy shyt somewhere. Can’t nobody where.”
Raqi...My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
2:41 pm
Cemeeli the thing is it was not my CD. My case had a crack in it and the one she had was obviously new. But how is it she did not see the need to replace mine after losing it but could buy herself one since she no longer had mine to listen to
Grace
July 31st, 2009
2:42 pm
that commercial got me thinking about getting hard wood floors in my condo, if I can get the whole place done for a lil bit of money like the commerical says then I’m a winner.