Crossed the Line, Now What?
I read somewhere that every healthy relationship has boundaries. That invisible line in the sand that you would never cross, under no circumstances. Riddle me this, what happens to the boundaries when you are in love? Why is it that otherwise normal people toss out their logic and reasoning when they are head over heels?
It’s like being caught up in “the haze of love” completely blinds one to their boundaries. The next thing you know, you are hacking email accounts, looking at text messages, or something equally psycho. Would you be able to get past your date’s behavior if they crossed your relationship boundaries? Did you regret it?
My friend Paul said that he once forgave a young lady for looking through the photos on his laptop without asking. That was just one sign of how nosy and insecure she was about his female friends. They dated for a while but he thinks that the photo thing was a red flag that he ignored.
Have you ever crossed the line with someone you were dating? Did they give you another chance?
My friend D. Young coined the term relationship boiling points, recently. Those things that can send you over the edge. I can think of a couple that a guy would never recover from. Then there are the ones that can be dealt with and I can be won over again. After a little begging and a trip to the Apple store or something!
What are your relationship boiling points?
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Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:10 pm
What’s y’all take on ‘lie to Me’?
BK…your boy got busted flying a buck seventy a few month back…no ‘busa for me, LOL
2can…Sup!!
The Real Rell - needs a HEAD nurse
July 31st, 2009
12:10 pm
las vegas real world was the best one
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
12:10 pm
Raqi’s Jealous Chick Questionnaire
1. Who are/were you talking to on the phone?
Answer: [crickets]
2. Where have you been?
Answer: [crickets]
3. Where are you going?
Answer (If I feel that it’s general convo): I’m kickin’ down to blah blah… You need something while I’lm out?
Answer (If I feel that slim is trying to check me): “Out, I’ll be back.”
4. Who are having lunch with?
Answer: I’ll tell her with whom and where we’re going.
5. How do you know him/her?
Answer: I’ll tell her from where I know the chick.
Mo (aka Moeisha-)
July 31st, 2009
12:12 pm
Page1908 – I remember that season. I cant remember the chicks name that got arrested but I did watch that season.
PoppaG – I actually liked the New Orleans cast, I tried to get my sister to ‘try out’ for the Real World and it wouldve been for the New Orleans cast. The only other season I watched as faithfully as that one was Chicago, I remember then watching the news during 9/11.
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
12:13 pm
Mo- The girl that got arrested name was Robin.
Яaqi…A Real Housewife...Temporarily
July 31st, 2009
12:13 pm
LOL SexyCool. Only those who can appreciate and enjoy sharing a mega bowl of Fruit Loops on a rainy Saturday morning and then sitting on the couch reading the paper or watching Curb Appeal with your sweetie would appreciate having my kind of boring.
My kind of boring…
Him pushing the cart and me marking the list at Costco.
Going to church on Sunday mornings.
Making his coffee and taking a sip to make sure it is just right.
Going shopping and putting together an outfit for the other.
Sitting at the kitchen table paying the bills.
Spending Sundays after church clipping coupons.
The Real Rell - needs a HEAD nurse
July 31st, 2009
12:14 pm
the best new series is on HBO its called HUNG..i actually thought about doing something similiar…still might do it
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:17 pm
Cee
PG is doing sign language… I do NOT like the Closer..period. I like Leverage better…. end of sign language
Other than Leverage, Hawthorne, Dark Blue (gotta support my boy), and Law and Order series (except Criminal Intent), I watch HBO and Showtime shows.
Яaqi…A Real Housewife...Temporarily
July 31st, 2009
12:17 pm
Or I forget to include…
Changing diapers
Warming bottles
Doing a thousand tons of laundry
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:18 pm
Hung is off da chain.
Rell have you seen the fake commercials that they have for his “services”? Funny stuff.
Яaqi…A Real Housewife...Temporarily
July 31st, 2009
12:19 pm
Poppa Showtime…
I always knew when my oldest son was watching The L Word. He would always scrabble to change the channel when I walked in.
The Real Rell - needs a HEAD nurse
July 31st, 2009
12:19 pm
raqi..thats not boriing just routine…lol
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:20 pm
Raqi
If you have tons of laundry, you be better off served just opening a laudromat out of your house.
If you are already doing tons, then a few more pieces won’t hurt.
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:23 pm
The L Word wasn’t one of my favorites. It was
I love Dexter on Showtime. It is better on that channel than it is on CBS.
W8©
July 31st, 2009
12:23 pm
@PG- I dont like “The Closer” at all
The Real Rell - needs a HEAD nurse
July 31st, 2009
12:25 pm
yes i have seen them….HBO had another show i enjoyed but it was short lived but good stuff/….it was called….mind of a married man…that was the truth
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:25 pm
(If you have tons of laundry, you be better off served just opening a laudromat out of your house.)
LOL
Яaqi…My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
12:29 pm
Rell no it is not boring. But some would say that it is. I love my life. I love being wifey, motherly, friendly. I am not one for having to be up on all the latest ballings, hitting up all the latest raved club scenes, rubbing shoulders with B-list celebs.
I don’t need all of that to have an enjoyable life.
I spend time with my family and friends doing the things we like to do. That’s good enough for me.
One day I am going to have a 7 nights/ 6 days stay in The Westin Palace, but until then…we good in our own little humble haven.
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:31 pm
I like Lie to Me. It may be the only Fox show that I watch even though I am not a Tim Roth fan.
I learned a lot of that facial stuff back in school. Some of it is exaggerated for TV, but a lot of it is true.
It probably is the reason that I am not a fan of telephone conversations. I like seeing body and facial language.
It annoys the hell out of Mrs. PG. I could read her face pretty easily. She doesn’t hide stuff well.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:32 pm
Demi is still grieving over, “The Wire”.
Яaqi…My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
12:34 pm
LOL Poppa if feels like a ton.
My delicates – 1 load
His and Hers Darks – 1 load
His and Hers Neutrals – 1 load
All shades of red – 1 load
His and Teenager Whites – 1 load
Teenagers Everything else – 1 load
Baby Whites – 1 load
Baby others – 1 load
Towels – 1 load
Linens – 1 load
Kitchen items – 1 load
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:36 pm
HBO has good shows.
Even though, I don’t care for True Blood. I must admit that it is well done. I’d probably like the show better if I hadn’t read the books already.
The only show of theirs that I didn’t like at at was Carnival. It was just a little too out there for me. Plus it fueled my fear of midgets…lol
Яaqi…My Sleep Number is 75
July 31st, 2009
12:38 pm
Oh yeah, you all were talking about The Hangover yesterday, we saw that yesterday evening. Good movie.
My Boring…
Making out like teenagers in the movie theater at the ripe mature ages of 41.
Mo (aka Moeisha-)
July 31st, 2009
12:38 pm
Demi – Me too!! I heart The Wire!! I loved Entourage too but I stopped watching for a while so I let it go. But that dayum Wire had me hooked!!
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
12:39 pm
Dark Blue is a damn good show!
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
12:40 pm
Raqi Making his coffee and taking a sip to make sure it is just right.
You wouldn’t believe how big, something so simple like this is to a dude.
1. Shows a dude that you care enough to make sure that it’s just right; and 2, that you’re not putting anti-freeze in his cup & looking for an insurance check.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:40 pm
Snoop..Snooop…Snooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooop!!!!
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:41 pm
Leggs
Dark Blue is a damn good show!
Continue to support the show. W8 & I have a mutual friend that stars in that show.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 31st, 2009
12:44 pm
SEXYCOOL… flashback of last night…” who gon’ check me boo?”
RELL…you goona be a male ho?
I love that show Hung.
Blue_Kolla
July 31st, 2009
12:45 pm
Demi, man i just gave you some serious counsel on your bike case, but I guess the blog ate it. Have you been to court yet?
Mo (aka Moeisha-)
July 31st, 2009
12:45 pm
Demi – I guess its kinda obvious I like the show since i have Tristan Wilds (Michael) and Idris Elba (Stringer) on the walls at my desk!
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 31st, 2009
12:46 pm
PG….you don’t like True Blood? Wow! I LOVE that show…but then again I love any shows with Vampires!
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
12:46 pm
LOL please no flashbacks of last night Mamba!
Leggs
July 31st, 2009
12:47 pm
No sweat there, PoppaG. Easy show to support.
Page1908
July 31st, 2009
12:47 pm
LOL Mamba yeah because you are a Vampiress woman lol. Speaking of, we need to get our Halloween costume ideas rolling soon lol.
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:48 pm
Rell
RELL…you goona be a male ho?
Is Staceye offering to be your pimp? Just think…she has connection in NYC and ATL. You’d get to travel for business on her dime…..j/p
SexyCool - Silent Thinker
July 31st, 2009
12:48 pm
Stace – Don’t get me started on that again.
Ya’ momma’s a btch…
Just wow….
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:49 pm
PG…On, Lie to Me…I agree. I will say, reading body languages accounts for 40% – 60% of my hearing…via lip reading…I’ve met a few people with those gifts…isssssh, I am dating one of them now
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:50 pm
Staceye- I think that I’d like True Blood better if I hadn’t read the books.
That happens a lot with books that I’ve read. Movies and shows don’t live up to what I pictured.
It is not the same if I see the movie or show before reading it.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:54 pm
Blue…I was force to park my boy’s bike and loose my license for three months…just got them back. I still be riding…at cruisers speed…time to time.
Poppa Grande
July 31st, 2009
12:54 pm
Staceye
I love vampires too. I loved the Anne Rice books.
I like werewolves too. American Werewolf in London (MJ inspiration for the Thriller video) is one of my favorite movies of any genre.
Bibay
July 31st, 2009
12:55 pm
If you have not seen it, Nurse Jackie on Showtime is a good one to watch.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 31st, 2009
12:57 pm
PG…yeah the books are different…Tara is not Black in the book and Sookie is a size 10 not 4. I feel ya…
PAGE….you know I LOVE costumes!
SCOOL…”yo’ mama…who says that anymore? ”
W8©
July 31st, 2009
12:57 pm
Dark Blue!!! (Homeboy has a lead role on that show) Love it
I also love Monk, Psych, Burn Notice, Son’s of Anarchy and my favorite is “24″
Reality TV..hmm that new Making HIS Band show is pretty cool..I like watching musicians play
Demi
July 31st, 2009
12:58 pm
Black Mamba…please be a vamp this halloween!! You will look hot as a Queen of the Damned.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 31st, 2009
12:59 pm
PG…do you read Poppy Z. Brite books? They are Vampire books as well.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
1:01 pm
pg…I was speaking of how well she can read the body linage of others.
Demi
July 31st, 2009
1:02 pm
>>>>language
Demi
July 31st, 2009
1:03 pm
The Vampire Lestat…The dude was once my hero, LOL
SexyCool - Silent Thinker
July 31st, 2009
1:05 pm
Oddly enough, I don’t think of Diddy’s show as reality tv. I look at it as music.