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Can I Get Open-Ended?

I used to think that relationships always reached a point where you either had to break up or get married.  The end of the road just comes up and you have to make a decision about what to do next. I’m sure this still applies to many couples, but it seems as if some of us prefer/need/seek to have open-ended relationships.

What are these open-ended relationships? Some of you may be in one right now. They are the pseudo relationships that don’t consist of much relating at all. One or both of you are saying and doing just enough to keep the person around and interested. Perhaps you are waiting for someone better to come along, just in case. These don’t end well, usually. Both individuals deserve better than to be in a non-relationship, wasting time and energy.

I think it is always good dating practice to let someone know that you have absolutely no intention of getting married or being exclusive. At least let them know what to expect. So how do you date someone with no goal of marriage or commitment?

I think it’s harder than many of us think. I know many single people who say that finding someone who just wants companionship is tough. Even when they are able to find someone to go along with this casual, companionship plan, someone begins to want more.

Would you be willing to be in an open-ended relationship? If you met someone that could meet all your “needs” for companionship, do you think you would tell them there was no promise of a commitment?

What would you do if someone you met and got along great with told you they aren’t into exclusive relationships? Could you handle that kind of arrangement?

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Cemeeli

July 30th, 2009
3:49 pm

@ Moca – Before i dozed off too lala land lastnight. The lil G and i put a dance move together. He still rubbin his head doing the stanky leg. You should see his old spirit dance moves.

Soo we were doing the “mortorcycle” and I got it shawty. Trust, if we do it for the “block party” promotion I’m only doing it at the Westside party, not on the East…The Shop is all for it but i know them folks ready to challenge us.

Too funny.

Poppa Grande

July 30th, 2009
3:50 pm

Raqi

One more thing….You better be prepared for more football talk. Football season is basically here. Preseason practices are starting all over the NFL. I think that the Falcons have a game on August 14 (or somewhere around there).

So, I will truly begin in earnest.

Plus, I think that Tazzee gets NFL Network back on Saturday.

Cemeeli

July 30th, 2009
3:50 pm

Shawty by Nature a.k.a. Mo You read the blk prty post right?

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
3:51 pm

LOL Jamoca. You broke his weewee.

LMAO. I didn’t mean to, Raqi…well….anxiety will do that do you, if it’s worth the fuss. But that was him. Totally self inflicted. Told him to take his time, cuz “it” wuddn’t going anywhere. Lol…But nooooo, “He Ready”!!! So because I was the target, the reason for his rising blood pressha, it was all my fault. Women…nothin’ but trouble, we are. But also, thanks to me, I revived it!…well, once it healed properly. Hahahaaa

Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)

July 30th, 2009
3:51 pm

…now sucking thumb like a two year old, who can’t have his way

I know Demi…I know. It’s a necessary evil that has to be done…..

Raqi

July 30th, 2009
3:52 pm

Poppa I don’t know much about football, but Mike Vick’s entire situation is a great life lesson.

He had it in the pocket. To put something so much more valuable on the line for something so useless and lose it all. Man I tell you.

Just think about all of life situations that is covered by that.

W8

July 30th, 2009
3:52 pm

@SCool- Pages Chest and Staceye’s butt on one woman be a hot azz mess…but amazingly that woman would still have no hips…LMAO Staceye got all that azz without an inch of hips…Kimmie can we borrow your hips please…LMAO

Asthmatics are no fun…lol

For Real

July 30th, 2009
3:53 pm

Tazzee: Okay I have to disagree with you on Ryan being better than Vick. People tend to forget Roddy and Jenkins were playing with two right hands when Vick was the qb. Come on now you know on alot of Ryan’s passess last you were like WTF he caught that??? And to this day, Vick is the only qb I have seen sacked on a 3 step drop. And don’t get me started on the coaches and play calling. How you gon call 2 str8 bootlegs and he runs 50 yards and then call a passing play expecting him to be accurate????

Raqi: Pusha Gurl a.k.a Weewee Breaker

W8

July 30th, 2009
3:53 pm

LMAO@ SHAWTY BY NATURE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Demi

July 30th, 2009
3:54 pm

What would that be?

and your chocolate look…A Hellafine Sista Fine-fine!!!

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

July 30th, 2009
3:54 pm

Raqi – As Poppa said, thats a VERY good thing – Dungy & Vick! Dungy is an outstanding individual.

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

July 30th, 2009
3:54 pm

Wee wee breaker…. :lol:

W8…I do have an inch of hips….just an inch..thank you!

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
3:55 pm

LOL ForReal! Well if you’re fond of ya’ AA Dolphin, don’t point the “head” over here…you’ll be limpin’ back. Don’t start none. Won’t be none. :D

Poppa Grande

July 30th, 2009
3:55 pm

Kimmie

It sounds like hate Florida as much as I hate the Tennessee Vols.

As a South Carolina Gamecock, I don’t like Florida either. But there is something about those orangesicle uniforms that get to me.

Plus, I hate the way that they celebrate Peyton, but Tee Martin brought them the Nat’l Title.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

July 30th, 2009
3:55 pm

W8 – Yall can have half of this ish, and some thighs too.LOL!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha-)

July 30th, 2009
3:56 pm

Cemeeli – you know err’body on the Eastside knows about Glenwood Day! Plus that is in my neck of the woods! LOL!

NotSexyCool – your 3:47, hilarity!! And if you had been there you would have been ‘nice’

Jam – I heart “The Notebook”

Demi – black cap dude was trying, bless him heart

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

July 30th, 2009
3:56 pm

RELL…don’t punch me in the booty like W8 did. :lol: It came out of nowhere…then For Real asked was it hard or soft! :lol:

Cemeeli

July 30th, 2009
3:57 pm

PoppaG – Okay gotcha. And for the record. Hot maggots in the garbage…I’m over here rollin’.!

Tazzee I wont concede to Ryan better than Vick. 2nd, i’m a Falcons fan.

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

July 30th, 2009
3:57 pm

DEMI…step away from the Notebook! :lol:

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
3:58 pm

Now, I don’t know if I am no match for that Ballwood, but I’m game. Hahahaaa!

Cee – Yeah, sis….I can see the two of us with Lil G…the crowd would be sold out. From the stanky leg to the booty do to walkin’ dat walk! We need to go on tour! Lol

Demi

July 30th, 2009
3:58 pm

Sassy…y’all ladies win this round.

I am OUT!!!

W8

July 30th, 2009
3:59 pm

Demi is all in love until he hits a strip club…”I wanna make luvv in dis club…in dis club..” LMAO

and WTH is “The Notebook”?

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
3:59 pm

I know right, Mo! I love that movie.

here it comes….5,4,3,2….

Raqi

July 30th, 2009
3:59 pm

Jamoca I broke one with my knee by mistake once. But he soon got alright after about an hour. LOL

Play wrestling can be dangerous. Especially when the torpedo is gearing up to launch.

NotSexyCool - I'm not saying I was there. I'm just saying.

July 30th, 2009
4:00 pm

Yes, Mo – NICE – I like that…and she giggles…some more…lol…

Page1908

July 30th, 2009
4:00 pm

LOL @ no hips. Staceye u can have mine. Yeah W8 punched it right before you fainted when we saw Dwight Howard. lmao.

LOL Kimmie.

Tazzee - countdown to Pensacola Beach

July 30th, 2009
4:00 pm

PoppaG – YES!! Saturday August 1st, I’ll arise and turn on the TV to watch NFLN as I get ready to go up to Flowery Branch for training camp. What a wonderful day that will be, LOL.

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
4:01 pm

W8 – I’m waiting for PoppaG to give you the male (critic) version of The Notebook. Lmao.

OR….you can just watch it yourself. It is a good movie. Story of a city gal and a kuntry bowaay. Classic love story.

Cemeeli

July 30th, 2009
4:03 pm

@ W8 – Don’t hate. You want a nickname too, dontcha?…:)

W8

July 30th, 2009
4:04 pm

@Jam- Nope I aint watching it uhh uhhhhhhhhh

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
4:04 pm

Dang, Raqi. You probably didn’t kick him hard enough…unless he had that Supa___. LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha-)

July 30th, 2009
4:04 pm

W8 – the Notebook is the cutest dayum love story but ummm yeah, I’ll let PG give his male critique! LMAO!!

NotSexyCool – ‘nice’ is the way to be! LOL!

Tazzee - countdown to Pensacola Beach

July 30th, 2009
4:05 pm

Cemeeli – I never said you weren’t a Falcons fan. But you said you were going to root for Vick in the Dome…

As far as Vick vs. Ryan – I hope we get to prove our theories this season. Meaning, I hope Vick gets to see the field.

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
4:07 pm

Cee – Gone’ head and give the mayne a nickname…hmmmmmm….Lol

…and W8 – you know you’re going to check it out. It’ll be late night, when you’re by yourself. Be carefuh’ tho….it’ll make you cry too. LOL

Lord Velonese (insert trendy name here)

July 30th, 2009
4:07 pm

What would you do if someone you met and got along great with told you they aren’t into exclusive relationships? Could you handle that kind of arrangement?”

Of course! But every woman I try to just be friends with ends up wanting more. In some cases I have a had a woman claim we are a “thing” without even informing me of it to divert other lady friends. I’m passed the stage of considering marriage from landing a successful career. I’m no Bill Gates but I do live comfortably and that makes me a target and my trust for women is in the toilet ( I’d rather trust a rattle snake, at least I know the snake is going to bite me). Thank god we don’t have a common law marriage anymore or someone like me would have been screwed a long time ago. But back on topic, it’s either Open or nothing at all.

W8

July 30th, 2009
4:08 pm

@Ce- Nawwww I have to many nicknames as it is…but “Shawty by Nature” is hilarious

@Mo-Nope dont want to watch a love story that a woman calls cute..that means its extra mushy

Fellas dont you hate it when you watch a love story with ya girl then she gets all fiddy afterwards? Wanting you to do some of that cheesy stuff that was in the movie..lmao…girl that’s a movie..lol

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
4:09 pm

Cemeeli

July 30th, 2009
4:09 pm

@ Tazzee – I conceded on that.

Raqi

July 30th, 2009
4:10 pm

Yall want to see something??? http://bittersweet-rose.blogspot.com/2009/07/pork-new-white-mean.html

We are going to the movies tonight so we are having an early dinner. Sorry you swine haters, but you cannot deny that’s a nice piece of meat.

W8

July 30th, 2009
4:10 pm

@Lord V- There is no more common law marriage..ahhh sookie sookie now

Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it

July 30th, 2009
4:11 pm

Raqi – You are SO wrong for THAT! lol but n/r.

Mo (aka Moeisha-)

July 30th, 2009
4:12 pm

W8 – LOL! Extra mushy!

Raqi

July 30th, 2009
4:13 pm

You probably didn’t kick him hard enough

LOL Jamoca I try not to do things that takes away a benefit from me.

Poppa Grande

July 30th, 2009
4:13 pm

The Notebook is the #1 reason that Mrs. PG is on Movie choosing probation.

I endured that horrible excuse of film and precious time off my life that I will never ever ever eva…eva….eva….(remember the scene from Friday when Smokey tells “Janet” to never call him…insert that many evas).

It is a chick flick. It is in the league with Message in a Bottle.

The wife and I don’t see many movies together after that. I see movies like the Hangover by myself (sometimes with my homies). She sees those things usually with her Soror that lives near us.

Mo (aka Moeisha-)

July 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

PG – LMBAO!! Now I didnt do Message in a Bottle though, I couldnt hang there

Raqi

July 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

Jamoca by the time some of you are leaving work walking to you cars, we are going to have eaten and on our merry way.

Just give you something to dream about on your ride home. LOL

W8

July 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

Nope not going to watch it

Page1908

July 30th, 2009
4:15 pm

OMG PG The Hangover was soooo totally bananas!

Leggs

July 30th, 2009
4:16 pm

LOL, I watched Message in a Bottle last week (3rd time).

mytw♥cents...Electric Relaxation

July 30th, 2009
4:17 pm

I’m confused about the male eye cutting, but, okey dokey.

JAMOCA That’s the oldest trick in the book. Pretend you visualize one thang so they can show you it’s another. Mmm hmm, you and PAGE ain’t slick. Me and Trini gonna sign an oath so we stay ‘in tact’ cuz we don’t know nuthin bout that…

DEMIGOD You gone? That’s so tweet. Her got you on a curfew, huh? Well Floating on Cloud 9 should get you home sooner or later. Be kefful out there.