Can I Get Open-Ended?
I used to think that relationships always reached a point where you either had to break up or get married. The end of the road just comes up and you have to make a decision about what to do next. I’m sure this still applies to many couples, but it seems as if some of us prefer/need/seek to have open-ended relationships.
What are these open-ended relationships? Some of you may be in one right now. They are the pseudo relationships that don’t consist of much relating at all. One or both of you are saying and doing just enough to keep the person around and interested. Perhaps you are waiting for someone better to come along, just in case. These don’t end well, usually. Both individuals deserve better than to be in a non-relationship, wasting time and energy.
I think it is always good dating practice to let someone know that you have absolutely no intention of getting married or being exclusive. At least let them know what to expect. So how do you date someone with no goal of marriage or commitment?
I think it’s harder than many of us think. I know many single people who say that finding someone who just wants companionship is tough. Even when they are able to find someone to go along with this casual, companionship plan, someone begins to want more.
Would you be willing to be in an open-ended relationship? If you met someone that could meet all your “needs” for companionship, do you think you would tell them there was no promise of a commitment?
What would you do if someone you met and got along great with told you they aren’t into exclusive relationships? Could you handle that kind of arrangement?
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W8
July 30th, 2009
1:57 pm
@Kimmie-well I hope she is enjoying herself and winning…cuz (in my Chris Tucker voice from Friday) “I don’t give a phuck!!”. Lol
@Sassy/Staceye- (in my business voice)”I think I’m goingto leave you two alone because I think yall are serious,I’m scared and I don’t want to get raped”
Leggs
July 30th, 2009
1:57 pm
I too will admit that I have gotten over on a guy or two. We have all been played, used, tossed to side. This part of life not many escapees walk amongst us. Some do, but not many!
“Hungryyyyyy like a wolf!!!!!!” – everytime I read these words I think of Farrah Fawcett. She played a lovesick woman who killed her kids because her then boyfriend didn’t like kids. This was the woman’s favorite song.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
1:58 pm
RELL….those guys deserved it…for initiating the phuckery!
They start it…I finish it! 
The Karma Kitty will bite you in the a$$!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie ... :-)
July 30th, 2009
1:58 pm
Wait til’ you are in the dungeon with Sassy and I….
Sassy and Mamba saying to W8: Ssshh..don’t be scared…you gone like it….just relax
RelldaRake - my FRAME is correct
July 30th, 2009
1:58 pm
where is vick going?
Jamoca - Now All We Have Is Memories
July 30th, 2009
1:58 pm
I’m no Tranny! LMAO.
Okay, see now….this here deserves a chuckle. Menfolk say they want a signed blog confession from any of the ladies who’s ever gotten ova on a dude. Then, when they’re handed one (per Xio)…notarized, signed, sealed, delivered….then the rebuttal is —> …”we dont believe you..ya need more people”…lol What got-danggit, which is it?! May be, I’m not following, but please clarify. What-in-deh-heyal-ya’ll-want?
Please note: Although I’m scratching my head, it’s just a question? So please, keep this here —> !!!…to a minimum. Thanks.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
1:59 pm
LEGGS…I saw that Lifetime movie! Girl she was crazy!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 30th, 2009
2:02 pm
Leggs/Staceye – I love that movie too! I think it’s called Small Sacrifices. Farrah was my girl, she could play crazy,trailer-trash like nobodies business! RIP
Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it
July 30th, 2009
2:03 pm
Okay now…
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:03 pm
SASSY…I got that blindfold..and cuffs for him…
Cemeeli
July 30th, 2009
2:03 pm
Leggs Yep, i think i remember that. Kinda…You know all that Farrah Fawcett stuff was ‘for my time.
Who else saw “Hawthorne”? Mosses’s mom was hilariou. She straight stole the Doctor’s artifical titanium leg. How you just steal someone’s fake leg, like it ain’t nuthin?
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie ... :-)
July 30th, 2009
2:03 pm
where is vick going?
I was thinking Miami maybe… but so far at least 18 teams have said no.
mytw♥cents...Electric Relaxation
July 30th, 2009
2:05 pm
JAMOCA And for all that fighting against the call to the carpet, you get/got real resist to the idea that I’d keep mytw♥cents to myself… luckily, I’m willing to let those I give a damn about cut their eyes, suck their teeth and cuss at me under or over they hot breath
And once again how you gonna be a DJ if you won’t eva spin the records the folks be requesting! Ima let it slide… since its my gurrrl, Mary. Hmmph
Leggs
July 30th, 2009
2:07 pm
@Kimmie, yes “Small Scrafices”! “she could play crazy,trailer-trash like nobodies business! RIP” Yes indeed, yes indeed! She acted her tail off in Burning Bed!
@Cee ~ hey chica. Yes, before your time. That’s cute!
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 30th, 2009
2:07 pm
Who ever Vick goes to will be lucky because that dude is gonna be the truth. He is going to dedicate himself and have one of the greatest comeback stories ever told.
W8
July 30th, 2009
2:08 pm
@Sassy/Staceye- Stay away from my azz…..
21 Teams have said no to Vick two have expressed interest though. I think he will end up with the Vikings, Saints, Patriots, Ravens or Raiders
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie ... :-)
July 30th, 2009
2:09 pm
Mamba…I’ve got a riding crop I haven’t used in a while…lol
Raqi
July 30th, 2009
2:09 pm
I am blessed that I don’t have any “I wouldn’t take that from him” friends.
Tazzee those type of friends are poison. I have one really really close friend that I even that deep with. When it is a “him” thing to offers her advice but when it’s a “me” thing she will say in a heartbeat “girl you need to cut that mess out”. True friends are priceless.
Cemeeli
July 30th, 2009
2:10 pm
Leggs – Hey love. I will wear a Farrah Flip, in a minute though. Don’t get it twisted. lol…i’m a fan of that hair.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:12 pm
SASSY…girrrrrl…I ain’t mad at ya with riding crop!
Giddy up!
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:13 pm
W8…come sit on mama’s lap!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 30th, 2009
2:13 pm
On Vick, yeah DK I agree, the team will be lucky & he’s gonna give it all he’s got, which is alot!
W8 – You see that article in ajc today asking if the Dawgs can win a title under Richt. Whatchu think?
RelldaRake - 8inchs of limp dizzle
July 30th, 2009
2:15 pm
open relationships are cool….actually it may help lead you into a long term deal..both parties get a chance to test drive without all the expectations
DJ Demi
July 30th, 2009
2:16 pm
My love,, do you ever dream of
Candy coated raindrops?
You’re the same, my candy rain
Have you ever loved someone
So much you thought you’d die?
Giving so much of yourself
It seems the only way
Tell me what you want, and I
And I will give it to you
‘Cause you are
My love, do you ever dream of
Candy coated raindrops?
You’re the same, my candy rain
My love
Did you ever dream that it could be so right
I never thought that I would find
All that I need in life
All I want, all I need now I know
I know I found it in you
I found it in you
‘Cause you are…
Raqi
July 30th, 2009
2:17 pm
Man it’s raining outside and I just want to go back to bed. I have been at home for 8 weeks and today is the first day that I slept late and didn’t get up at 6am. I didn’t get out of bed until a little after 9 and now I want to get back in.
Cemeeli
July 30th, 2009
2:18 pm
I cain’t wait til Micheal Vick plays against thet Falcons. I bet the die hard fans will wear their Vick jerseys in full attendance! I’ll be at that game too.
Jus cause.
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:18 pm
RAQI….how did you manage that feat of sleeping late? Princess is out with Daddy or Grand Auntie?
Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it
July 30th, 2009
2:19 pm
2Pieces – LOL. You know I switched it up for old times sake, besides I knew you’d neva reject Mury . And speaking of the carpet call, all that yappin’ was really their way of asking for a confession to go along with Luda’s —> Youza Ohhhhh! Lol Of course, they’re some who feel it AIN’T trickin’ if ya’ got it! Dunno about that…but I’ve had a family member or two tell me I was thoopid for NOT taking a man (that I was seeing) for all he had…down to not accepting mutiple dranks from folks (because I’m not a seasoned drinker like somma ya’ll)…I got the —> Gurl, we know you don’t go pass two, but that doesn’t mean we can’t! I just couldn’t do it. I’m still thinkin’…I know I’ve got a confession in the time machine, I’m still diggin’ though…so many of them. I need to write a book. Lol
Demi
July 30th, 2009
2:21 pm
Black Mamba…yousa tranny…And I be taking sneak peeks at your behind…I feel soooooo GAY…
Demi is now standing outside in the rain with tears in his eyes…Purple rain purple raiiiiiiiiiin
Jamoca - shake it, shake it, shake it, shake it
July 30th, 2009
2:23 pm
Demi – LMAO. Da heyal!… and if you play CandyRain on here one mo’ time…
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:23 pm
DEMI….
I am gonna kick your a$$! OMG!
Demi
July 30th, 2009
2:24 pm
Just to upset ALL dawg fans
HELLZ NO!!!!
W8 is now coming at a Demi in full gears…with 10 of his jump crews
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 30th, 2009
2:25 pm
Sister Cee – Your sister will be sittin right there next to ya! Cheering him on!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 30th, 2009
2:25 pm
Stay away from my azz…..
Whatchu talking ’bout?…we’re not going there. Sassy now giving W8 a reassuring hug as she lays him back down….shhhh..it’s okay
Raqi
July 30th, 2009
2:25 pm
Staceye Mason doesn’t leave for work until 8 so he gave her her morning bottle. When he got ready to leave he put her in the bed with me and we both slept until she was ready to eat again.
I was talking to one of my friends about how since I have been home I have the opportunity to sleep late but my body has it’s own built in alarm. Every morning I am up at about 6. I knew by the time it was nearing my going back to work I was going to finally be adjusting to lazying around the house. Come 4 weeks from now it’s going to take a bulldozer to get me out of bed to go to work.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit says O is for Oochie :-)
July 30th, 2009
2:27 pm
I will wear a Farrah Flip, in a minute though. Don’t get it twisted. lol…i’m a fan of that hair.
I think she started that hair style. What I liked most about her was that 1000 watt smile she had.
RelldaRake - 8inchs of limp dizzle
July 30th, 2009
2:27 pm
@demi…i am jealous..you got a peek at that round brown…i wanna see…and touch it…lol
W8
July 30th, 2009
2:28 pm
@Kimmie- I think 2010 season will be our year. Tebow will be gone then also..lol
@Demi-You are silly…with your gay self looking at a tranny’s azz..you’d still hit though huh?
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 30th, 2009
2:29 pm
W8 – I just want us to act the fool on Florida like we did in 2007. And we do the blackout thing that day too – wear all black. That was cool! If we don’t win any other games, that’s the one I want us to win. Can’t stand the gators.
W8
July 30th, 2009
2:30 pm
@Rell- That dude Staceye got a phat azz…lmao..you coming to the party right? You will see it there
Page1908
July 30th, 2009
2:30 pm
LOL @ Staceye’s dungeon lair. Girl, I know where you stash your “toys” lol.
SexyCool - Just SexyCool, that's all - nothing else.
July 30th, 2009
2:31 pm
Speaking of trannies…um, dude/chick/dude on Making His Band last night was a beast…but was singing her/his/her behind off!!!
Demi
July 30th, 2009
2:31 pm
Jamoca…Look Ms.Tampa:
Candy Rain Candy Raiiiiiiiiiin…
I am Baad!!! I am Baad and you know!!! LOL
Mamba…Girl stop!!! I am five seconds away from pulling out my BlowPop and licking it in a way…you are guarantee to rub them lovely thighs together…LOL!! How are you today?
Page1908
July 30th, 2009
2:32 pm
Demi! LOL @ Purple Rain! *ctfu*
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
July 30th, 2009
2:32 pm
W8 – They are saying your frat brother Damon needs to fire the defensive coordinator. We need somebody that won’t choke when it gets down to the wire. Somebody that will keep it classy like Richt but go buck when needed!
Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara
July 30th, 2009
2:32 pm
RELL/DEMI/W8…I am going to get all of ya’ll! You know I’m iz all woman!
PAGE….Shhhh girl…don’t be telling my secrets! Quick…to the Batcave!
Cemeeli
July 30th, 2009
2:33 pm
All you wanna do is holla at the cutest broad to get up in them dr__ws. Don’t try to buy me bottles, got my own dollars. I could buy up the bar if I wanna.
Moca What if i’m in Florida tonight?
Where can i go dancing on a Thursday night?
Page1908
July 30th, 2009
2:34 pm
LOL @ Batcave! Baby got baaaack!! lmao. All, I can say is “skull and crossbones” lmao.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 30th, 2009
2:35 pm
Speaking of Trannies.. Ms Sophia on V1033.. Awww Mayne.. He needs to quit. I love when Ryan gets on there and calls him a dude all day. Frank acts like he a girl for real. Frank is suspect to me anyway. Doo Doo Brown says it all.
W8
July 30th, 2009
2:35 pm
@Kimmie- True we need a new DC..and how do you think I get on the sidlines every game and the locker room during halftime. Damon is the man
@SCool- That show is actually good and that tranny could sing..
@Demi- Who is your college team?