I remember completing this survey a couple of weeks ago. Some of my answers were not posted on the cue box but here goes:

Do you believe that you have a soul mate? Yeah . . . more than one.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”? First of all be a lady . . . simply put I ask myself the question would I be proud to introduce this woman to my mother?

Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”? Of course . . . why bother with a relationship otherwise.

Do you believe in marriage? Yes.

How important is it to you for your future wife to sign a prenup? I’m not a man of great wealth. I’m not a pauper either . . . in a nutshell I would not make my soulmate sign a prenup.

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One more thing – Did anyone notice in the survey that majority of the guys said they wanted their woman to have no more than 5 partners?!?!?! HA!!!!! Lie ladies… LIE!

Shout out to the homey Mike Vick!!!!

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Do you believe that you have a soul mate?
I use to think yes…but now I believe your soul can connect with more than one person so..Nooooo.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”?
Sense of Humor you have to laugh at yourself more than others most days.

Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”?
Nooooooo

Do you believe in marriage?
For others yes..for me Nooooooooo

Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup?
Since I don’t want a future husband …Noooooooo

Would you sign one?
Sure, why not?

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iampeach….what is your phone namber…lol

on topic

Do you believe that you have a soul mate

NAW, its just like unicorns…they dont exist…

Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”?

- No its not important…she just may be for a season
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What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”?

- cooperation/comprise….and above all else loyalty!!!!

Do you believe in marriage

- Yes

on the prenup…naw…i am a gambler so i will take my chances

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Professor – Did you get the recipe?

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Being a lady is second nature to me because I was raised by one and brought up around many(grandmother, aunts, family friends, etc.). Same with my brothers and being gentleman. So the concept of a person not being one is foreign to me. When I see it going on, that person sticks out like a sore thumb.

Good manners cost nothing. They trancend all economic levels. Some of the least fortunate people I’ve known had the best manners and “home training”. Some of the weathiest were the most boorish. If that type of thing was not stressed in your household, read up on it and put it into practice. 2 boyfriends I’ve had did this. It worked wonders for their careers and personal relationships. I’ve certainly reaped the benefits of them myself. Conduct yourself and treat others with the greatest respect. It will just make you and everyone around you feel good! Good manners will take you far.

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Good Morning All

Do you believe in a soul mate- Ehh.. Maybe.. I just want my mate to touch my soul

Personality trait for relationship material- Caring

Husband potential? Yeah..

Marriage? If my man wants it, I will give it to him but I agree with –> I’d be satisfied with the Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell deal as long as we were totally committed to each other.<– Right on Peach!!

Prenup? Not signing one & would not consider marrying anyone who suggested I had to.. When I get married, it is until death do us part PERIOD!! Also, I am ONLY doing it ONCE!

All that men tend to like women who have had LESS than 5 partners in their life is CRAZY! They will get a woman that has JUST as many partners as they’ve had

I frankly don’t think it is any of their business what went on before them as long as you have a clean bill of health!

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I frankly don’t think it is any of their business what went on before them as long as you have a clean bill of health!

Lioness – Word! I don’t know why it even comes up for discussion!

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Kimmie- I have only been asked that question once and I had to ask if he was serious.. He was YEAH.. He actually wanted to know how many orally & sexually.. Told him & he was fine..
I should have asked him how many but I might have ended our relationship that day

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**** I frankly don’t think it is any of their business what went on before them as long as you have a clean bill of health!****

I agree with this statement…it really caught me off guard when my doctor made his comment…it left me wondering if that was his “male” perspective or “medical” perspective since he ask this question all the time. Do you feel me?

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Lioness

IMO
–Any adult female is a Woman. Its a very broad term
A Lady–Caries herself in a respectful way, she respects herself and others
You take a Lady home to meet your mohter, you can’t take just any woman home.

(Brief explanation without going too deep)

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@Professor you are a good one..like you said you have that relationship. Cause my first reaction would be is that question on that form? No, then why you wanna know. You asked when I had my last period. I give you half my blood when I come for all manner of testing..so what’s up Doc?

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Greetings from the Bar Right by the beach (In my best carribean voice).

Do you believe in a soul mate? I used to. Now not so much

Personality trait for relationship material Consideration. Consistency, Loyalty and ability to admit when she’s wrong. (Cause we all know women never admit fault.

Marriage? It’s not my end-goal but. I’d be satisfied with the Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell deal as long as we were totally committed to each other. (Yes Peach Yes)

Prenup? Yes without a doubt.. You aint gonna Kelis me.

I’ll be in and out todat ladies and gentlemen.. I’m getting my most intersting man in the world on right now..

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@Rell… go sit down somewhere! I bet I’ve met you out somewhere – trying to holla at everythang that pass by

@Professor… I feel you on keeping the cars. Because if I can ever afford an M6 and my ex-husband tries to take it from me, he will see all kids of Decatur come out!

@Kimmie… I love a man with good manners! One thing I always notice is how a guy acts when we go out to eat. From being nice to the server (including the tip), if they let me order first, how they eat, etc.

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Professor- Your doctor was complimenting you but I haven’t EVER had a doctor ask me that & my gyn is a male.. Frankly, it is none of his business neither.. As long as ain’t ish growing or reeking up in the nana

Thx Chica! My bday is next Friday but I ALWAYS start the week before Grey Goose Pear here I come

Mike- You know we gets DEEP on this piece Especially with this statement–>Any adult female is a Woman

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Lioness–
I take it you didn’t like that statement…Why?

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Steele- have a lot of common sense<– Good Luck

Peach- I love a man with good manners! One thing I always notice is how a guy acts when we go out to eat. From being nice to the server (including the tip), if they let me order first, how they eat, etc.<– yes maam!! Some men think some women just want to go to dinner to get in his pockets.. NO DUDE! It is essential to have dinner dates cause it really shows you A LOT about a person.. Do they lick their fingers, elbows on the table, clean their teef @ the table etc..

I LOVE an observant man.. I LOVE my man to order my food for me.. That makes me MELT!!!

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Mike- No.. Just don’t agree with it.. Any female is a woman? Do you mean as far genetically?

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One other trait that I believe is important in my partner is the ability to call me on bvllsht and correct me as needed.

I exercised bad judgement. Mine called me on it and corrected me in a way that was neither harsh nor condescending.. It’s probably one of the sexiest things he has done to this point. Period. That ish spoke to my soul. And I appreciate it.

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Do you believe that you have a soul mate? Yuppity Yup it can be more than one person that you have a connection with.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”? Morals/Honesty

Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”? Yes

Do you believe in marriage? Yup
Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Depends
Would you sign one? Depends

Mike While 40k a month might seem like a lot to you but it still might not be enough to suit her lifestyle.

While it does seem unfair we dont know what she had to go through in 5 years of marriage …while money dont provide happiness but it sure would give her some type of take away from a tumultuous marriage. Hey she just happend to marry someone who had some paper!

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Okay let me try this one again..

This ordering of the food..I mean I heard a woman say she like a man to order her food..just pick something for her and she eats it. That is not going to work for me. I mean what if he picks something I don’t like or not in the mood for? I am not eating it just because.

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Kym- Nope.. That is not what I am talking about.. If my man knows I don’t like onions, tomatoes, dressing ON my salad, fried stuff etc.. and finds something on the menu while I am sipping on my glass of wine & ask if this is cool, I reply, he places my order without me speaking to the server.. That is what I love.. An observant MAN

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@ Lioness – I like when my old man orders for me too….

“Baby what do you want?”….Server comes over…”She’ll have the salmon and shrimps”…then looking sideways at me…”Do you all have “grits” by chance?”

Me: Auwwwwww shucks, you’ve been paying attention to your woman. The book says you were not sharp enough for that baby! lol

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I mean what if he picks something I don’t like or not in the mood for? I am not eating it just because.

@ Kym – If he don’t ask what you want in the first place….???

Just reach across the table and show some Ike skills. I beatcha he wond order chicken fingers the next time!

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@LIONESS – OMG, do they lick their fingers, lol!!! (What if yall are at KFC, does he get a pass on the finger lickin?) My son eats like an animal and I keep telling him he needs to start improving his table manners or else he’ll never get a second date. He said he’ll just look for a girl that eats like him. *rolling my eyes*

@Diva – don’t know what I said but THANKS!!!

@Red – it’s always like that the week before a vacation. Just makes it that more worth going

@Sexy – I would appreciate the same from my man. Sounds like you have a good one girl!

@Sassy – I thought about me winning the lotto situation and whether it would cause me to ask him to sign a prenup… just don’t get married!

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Melody-

Cee- You know what I am talking about You & your man are TOO cute!!! I LOVE REAL LOVE!!!

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Morning.

Soul Mate??? Yes. My soul mate is the one that gets me.

Personality Traits??? Allegiance, Dedication, Commitment.

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I do not eat beef or pork it has been 17 years since I have…I like veggies and fruit. Actually I look at the dessert menu first because that depends on how light or heavy I will eat…I am a sucker for a good dessert…so dude need to check with me and place the order when the server comes.

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“He said he’ll just look for a girl that eats like him. *rolling my eyes*”

Peach — Maybe you should set him up w/ your sloppy friend from your first post. Could be love at first belch.

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anything more than a recreational phluck

Swiss??

Swiss boys do that too??

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If you don’t need be to cut your steak I don’t need you to order for me. Do I look 8 years old???

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I thought about me winning the lotto situation and whether it would cause me to ask him to sign a prenup… just don’t get married!

Peach that’s always a good solution…..I’ll just do an Oprah and Stedman ’til we old and grey.

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Simp-

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@ Melo – Low blow dude. “Swiss boys do that too?”

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@ Rell – Low blow today? Aww heck what’s up with “some men like to raise adult daughters”? Well COOK like a adult son too then!

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@swiss What do you mean dance in public?

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Professor- Basically he will ask me what I want before the server comes and that is how he orders for me.<– Exactly what I am talking about..

Peach- YES ppl do lick their fingers.. Most annoying thing EVER!! I don’t even lick my fingers after eating wings or potato chips..

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@CEE…yea i love to cook…i have said before i do my best thinking while i cook or clean…i cook breakfast every morning before work…i keep up early to do that. I clean every other day….i dont expect an adult women to come in an clean my stuff…hell i dont like women to wash my cloths…i wash my own…all i need you to do is support the movement…with whatever you want to bring….i dont have time to give instructions…

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Posted as per the request of Demi

“What I did at the strip club was a once in a lifetime event…so do not judge me”

And ladies, what is Demi’s favorite word???…Bish (paraphrasing Too Short in BLow the Whistle)

Disclaimer: M’ is just the messenger…don’t shoot me…lol

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Cee- Folks taking it on a WHOLE other level..

Lioness It always ‘all gravy’ over here mami.

Tomato – to-mah-to…

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@iampeach….thanks for being such a good sport about the back in forth….thanks..some folks would be like are you serious…NO!

@RAQI…i remember that cold house key around my neck at 7yrs old..i remember getting my 4yr old brother off the bus…fixing sandwichs and cleaning chicken at 7…i have been doing household things for a long time..hell i am the oldest of all the grandkids…so you know i am use to being in charge…i was all the time….again i dont require a women to replace mom…i have one….i just want her best or what she thinks is hers

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@Raqi – I agree, I think there are more men than we realize that want to get married, but I believe they are afraid to admit it b/c they feel like it says “I want to marry YOU”. I think (some) women have a good enough head on their shoulders to not confuse “general talk” with “us” talk.

But, who am I???

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“Yea, my son is 14. My girl is 38.So… lol.”

Oh yeah, I guess that would be a little out-of-bounds. Unless, of course, your friend is a teacher & white, in which case it’s the new trendy thing…

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Rell – I see ya with ya most most interesting man in the world deal going on…

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@Sassy

love those answers in your 9:57 post…on point.

I do believe that we all have someone to whom we are connected on a higher level beyond physical, emotional and sexual attraction/needs/desires…and I guess that person would be called a soulmate…but I do not know if that means the designated person would be a lifelong partner…but rather someone who contributes to our lives in such a way that there is an indelibly etched marker in our existence from them having been in our lives…so that we are never again the same in a certain way b/c of that shared moment in time and space…so hence, a soulmate.

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Cee-

Peach- I think (some) women have a good enough head on their shoulders to not confuse “general talk” with “us” talk. <– Some don’t though

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I don’t think the Cambridge case was racial profiling. The cop in question has taught race relations at the Cambridge Police Academy for 5 years, having been appointed to the task by an AA police commisioner. Gates was unruly. Here’s the deal: get unruly with a cop, no matter the circumstances, and they’ll taze your azz, then take you to jail. Your race doesn’t matter, the cop’s race doesn’t matter. They’re a cop and you’re not, that’s what matters. Gates is lucky he didn’t get hurt.

Now, I have no use for cops, and if anything, I have a very strong bias against them; but this incident had nothing to do with racial profiling. The President was way out of line in his commentary on the case.

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@abc..Now that’s how you flip a topic change.

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abc okay. Well if it wasn’t profiling then WHY didn’t the police officer admitted he was wrong when Gates showed proff of residency.

Lucky he didn’t get hurt? I think “profiling” is enough.

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Good morning everyone!

Do you believe in a soul mate? Yes, I do!

Personality trait for relationship material: Honesty, Consideration and Empathy.

Husband potential? Yes, but don’t want one. Just a long-term committed relationship

Marriage? I’ll try my best not to go that route again.

I certainly believe in tradition and my tradition is I order my own food.

Prenup? Not necessary, but have no problem either way (requesting one or signing one)

@Rell, your new email address is a hoot!

@Lioness, isn’t your b-day 7/31?

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WOW, blog machine switched the order of my responses. How is that possible?

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@abc…i said the same thing..he should have just chilled and hit the county in the pockets

something similar happen to me when my house was robbed in 2005 cop shows up..i am outside he ask for my id even before entering the house..he goes back to his car runs my stuff…oo he wanted proof of insurance for my vechile as well..then he enters the house and ask me is this all my stuff checking in closet and all type of stuff while i am standing in the kitchen like they came in thru here…i was pissed i filed a complaint but you know the outcome of that..in dekalb

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Morning Folks!!! I haven’t read the responses, I wanted to get mine in first:

Do you believe that you have a soul mate? I believe I have soul mates. Male and female, there are people that my soul simply connects with on a spiritual level that extends beyond the regular. In the context of a romantic relationship, yes.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”? Difficult to name one – really it is, but I’ll have to go with he must be considerate of others. I thought to say ‘unselfish’ but we’re all selfish to a degree – so I need him to be able to forgo self and be considerate of my needs/desires.

Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”? Yup.

Do you believe in marriage? Yup.

Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Would you sign one? Nope but I would have no problem signing one. Mainly because he has children and I wouldn’t blame him if he wanted to make sure they were protected. Although I think that could be accomplished with a solid will – if that were the case then nope.

I’ll have to read the responses in the article later.

HAPPY FRIDAY

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The President was way out of line in his commentary on the case

He was honest enough to put a disclaimer in the beginning of hiz commentary,”Proff Gates is my friend, so I am biased”
As a black man,he did the right thing even tho he acknowledged he didnt know all the facts.
I wld have called him a pantsy had he not broght up black profiling in this country.Racists cops are on notice coz they know,they will be called out.

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The charge was for being unruly with a police officer, details of which are a little vague. The actual charge is ‘Disorderly Conduct’. Investigation of a possible break-in became a domestic disturbance, brought on by the resident himself, in giving the cop a bunch of crap.

This cop followed procedure to the letter. Given one of the courses he teaches to recruits is entitled ‘Racial Profiling’, he is literally the definition of how to avoid racial profiling in the police department that protects the town where Harvard is located. You can expect that they’re not ill-informed on the topic.

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M’ Ditto.

I’m done. I’m not politic driven too hard, i keep a file just for keeps.

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Do you believe that you have a soul mate?

I don’t believe there is only one person that “completes” me. I belive there will be men I have more chemistry with, but ultimately, there is more than one guy I could have a lasting marriage with.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”?

A strong sense of commitment. You never have to stay in a relationship.

Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”?

Of course.

Do you believe in marriage?

Depends on the day. I do ultimately believe in it, but I don’t believe many people have the mettle to make it last long term.

Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Would you sign one?

I’m not into prenups, but I’d sign if he asked me to and as long as I could add my own rules to it.

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I don’t believe many people have the mettle to make it last long term.

- do you?

Hell most folks dont realize the “work” until day 1 after the honey moon period is ova

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Wow.

If my friend was in trouble. I don’t care WHAT Office seat i hold. I’m not gonna turn the “cheek” on him/her.

At it’s finest.

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You can expect that they’re not ill-informed on the topic

maybe so,but u tell me a crook is not a good candidate to teach others how to be a good crook??
Dont believe the police report either,what do u expect?? for it to incriminate the police officer??
If u heard correctly,Profdessor was arrested when he followed the oficcer,asking him for his ID and name.Thats how the Disorederly Conduct came about.To me that suggests,the officer was done veryfing that the dude lived there.
He was pissed that the guy stood up to him to ask him for that detail.Officers dont like that,esp from a black man.
U still dont believe that??
Why was the charge dropped if it were legitimate??

I did smethign like that way back.A cop stops me on I-85,my car was brand new, i was on speed limit,nothing amiss.
He steps to me,ask for id etc,and evething checks.Why u stop me, i ask?? Oh,ur lights were bright.I say,my lights arent bright now,what u mean,what changed them to deem then,i aint tched them.
“Sir??,step outa the car”" Went ahead to give me a ticket to go to court.I go there,case dismissed!
A black man must keep quiet,thats the message in this country

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Why would any media outlet want to know Pres. Obama’s opinion

@CTO1 – The president knew about the question…all questions are pre-screend and approved….plus he waited until the end…the president is tired of being nice…he is showing that he has a tough side or he can be the “decider”…..thats all this was about…craft…if you dont see that…then…..hell he was on GMA this morning like a man caught cheating by a women..he was smiling and deflecting questions….like i dont have anything more to say

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Perhaps I missed something, but a neighbor called the police because he thought someone was breaking into the house. Doesn’t he know what his neighbor, Mr. Gates, looks like???

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Put on a show for the Media.

The Obama family never portrayed that. I ain’t never seen it, at least.

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As for the Gate’s situation, I believe both parties were power happy. The cop had the badge and cuffs though, so he wins.

I’m sure once the cop got hold of Gates ID, it could have ended there, but since Gates was still going, so the cop did too. Neither person was the bigger person.

It would be different if something suspicious had not being going down at the home. Two men trying to force open a door is suspicious. He wasn’t being targeted, the police were rightfully called. He didn’t roll up on Gates out the blue.

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Melo I agree with you

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Doesn’t he know what his neighbor, Mr. Gates, looks like???

I don’t think it matters, but besides, I’m sure his back was to the street, making it hard to tell.

Not only that, if he lived there, there would be no need for him to be breaking in doors. It’s a suspicious enough activity to call the police. Besides, had it really been a burgler, he would have been grateful to his neighbors.

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Melo- Went ahead to give me a ticket to go to court.I go there,case dismissed!
A black man must keep quiet,thats the message in this country<– Black man or woman!

When I had my NY plates, they had a field day with my car.. I live in Cobb county

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Well, the racial profiling may have been in the call to the police…as the alleged perps were described as 2 black men.

Look, we know that racial profiling exist…and we know that racism, racial ignorance and insensitivity, racialism ain’t going no where…some form of it has been a part of civilization for nigh 800 years (read Racism: A Short History by George M. Frederickson)…human nature is inclined to form biased opinions of “the other” by perception…we, as a ppl, need to look more closely into ourselves and situations in order to determine the content of racial association with an issue…we also need to learn to be more objective and rationale about racial situations.

Hey-ale…I am a bigot…I have biases about ppl based on varying criteria of identity…so be it…and there are times when I am prone to use these criteria as well…but I learn to control how I articulate my bias/bigoted opinions of others…I how that to my God consciousness to first attempt a more humane expression of perceived or real differences…and I also attempt to discern how my race, class or gender have come into play with an issue before I label it a discriminatory act…did it happen because of these factors or did it happen by way of human idiosyncrasies colliding?.

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Does that mean you’d be doing Gail?

No I wouldn’t Swissie….lol. I wonder if Gail even has a man…or maybe she has a girlfriend who knows?

What’s up M?…had to keep it real with the 9:57 you know I sho do thanks you, chirl

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Cops are going to be aggressive with anyone that gives them crap, regardless of race. That’s what I’m saying: ALL cops are this way, intentionally and by design, to ALL people. We’re supposed to think the cops are our friends, they’re around to help us? Come on. To a cop, everyone is a suspect and a perp, just like to a doctor everyone is a patient, to a politician everyone is a voter.

I’ll admit my bias, though. I just don’t like cops. It takes a certain personality to be a cop, and it’s not something that I find appealing in the slightest.

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Hmm…post got eaten.

Leggs – It doesn’t matter if the neighbor knew what he looked like or not. The activity was suspicous, why would he have to be breaking in to his own home? And because the driver was helping, the neighbor could have thought Gates was being taken hostage or held at gun point or something.

And had he been an actual robber, Gates would have been grateful that the police were called.

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But seriously who wouldnt have been pissed about a cop tripping on you at your house. Everybody knows how Police act and especially when you dont care that they are Police officers. I talk them exactly how they talk to me, so if they are talking to me in their crazy police tone I talk to them back that way and give them my Lawyers card. Usually they know who he is and know that he’s no joke. Heck I take him with me to traffic court so I dont have to wait in line to get stuff straightened out. See I’ll admit it I’m from the NWA “F the Police” mindset because I have seen them do way more wrong than good and people have to understand a Black Male doesnt get the same courteous, mannerable and respectful approach as anyone else. I myself have asked to get out of my car and on my knees with my hands behind my head. Only to be let go afterwards and the reason was “They felt like stopping me”.

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Grr…blog wizard

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Mytwocents Guess what babyboy Will’s name is?

…..Jackson.

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Leggs – If you knew what your neighbor looked like and you saw him trying to force his way into his home, you wouldn’t find that odd?

Especially if someone was with him? (Gates had his driver helping him). I would have been concerned that maybe the person with him was holding him up at gunpoint or something.

Being locked out of your house is one thing, trying to break into your own house is another.

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Cee

Unfortunately, calling a spade a spade may come a steep price for him. Passing this healthcare thing was gonna be tough anyway. But now, he has made it harder. He is now getting some labels as racist president. It won’tbe passed before the summer recess in August. So the Congressmen will get to go home and hear from their constituents. This incident that they will have in their minds.

Sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture and be smarter than those trying to get you to slip up.

As far as putting on a show for the media, right now I feel like I have subscribed to BHO instead of HBO. Barack Hussein Obama is on TV quite a bit. Whether it is with Brian Williams on DateIine, 60 Minutes, or 20/20, he is on TV often. Let Press Secretary Gates do his job in front of the Media, now.

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True Infamous, but you don’t have to always prove your point. If you know how they are just as you said f’em and let them do their job.

This is the way I look at the whole thing, if my alarm went off and the cops came I would be more upset if they didn’t ask to see my ID to make sure I lived there. And then I would be okay with them walking thru the house because they would actually see pictures of me and family in there.

But that’s just me.

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Do you believe that you have a soul mate?

Yes, had her I messed up the relationship..probably won’t have another..but I will still give my sould to the deserving woman

What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”?
She is a Lady and she is turstworthy, loyal and respectful to me as a man and at the end of the day I know I have atleast one person in my corner…and thats her

Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”?

Yes

Do you believe in marriage?
Yes

How important is it to you for your future wife to sign a prenup?

No prenup…TILL DEATH DO US PART…I aint never divorcing again…somebody would be dying so no prenup needed

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@ARed, not odd enough to call the police…hell no! Really, probably think his key jammed in the lock, or lost key and all windows were locked. How he gets in HIS OWN HOUSE is not a concern of mine!

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All of this happened in the hospital parking lot..

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“As far as putting on a show for the media, right now I feel like I have subscribed to BHO instead of HBO.”

Lol PoppaG As i recall i have missed so many of the interviews. Just cause.

That’s funny.

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Hey, I’m glad there are cops. If nothing else, it means I don’t have to be one. I understand why they have procedures that insist on immediate compliance, or else. I even understand how they’d consider everyone around them to be suspects of something or other, and why particular personalities are better suited for the work. Talk about profiling, there’s some serious profiling right there, I admit it.

Given that I understand all that, when I’m faced with cops, I comply with them immediately, keep my words and actions to a minimum, facilitate whatever it is they’re after and wish them well as they depart — hopefully, they simply depart after the encounter, leaving me at home, in my car, whatever. Gates didn’t do that. He got arrested for giving crap to the cop, not for being black. Young, old, black, white, male, female — anyone would have gotten exactly the same treatment, maybe worse.

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As for President Obama..he had no dog in this fight. He should have shifted the focus back to the topic..Healthcare and kept it moving. I love my friend and family too..but everything they do is not right and I don’t uphold the wrong. As an elected official you can not committment on everything. Hell last week it was skinny jeans..now its Skip Gates..this stuff gets you off task. Focus.Focus.

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@ARed, also, if it was a break in by my neighbor being held up by someone one else, I probably would have rolled the window up and yelled at my neighbor asking what his/her problem was. Then with the response or lack thereof, I might have had to call the police. Point is, the would be robber would know he’s been seen. Then I would bolt my house down and hide with my cell phone until police arrived!

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@ARed, also, if it was a break in by my neighbor being held up by someone one else, I probably would have rolled the window up and yelled at my neighbor asking what his/her problem was

Hope you azz doesn’t get shot.

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@Lioness, I never forgot a classmate in my Constitutional Law class. He had serious self-esteem issues. One day he said outloud that he wanted to be a cop due to the authority he would have over others. I said out loud that I hoped he never makes it into the police academy because he would be a trigger happy walking fool. The class laughed, but I was dead serious!

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Raqi – And I was quite hot I might add. I had on Brooks Bros slacks and on my knees in a turning lane between four lanes of Traffic. Oh and I will raise you one more. It wasnt until My White Collegue stopped to see what was going on did they let me go. I put that on everything I love. If he hadnt stopped they were gonna keep harrassing me and their tone changed when he got out and began asking questions. I’ll never forget it. I was right there on Delk road by Lockheed at 5:30 in the evening during major traffic, so not only was I humiliated but I was disrespected and put on display for every one to sneer and shake their head at. Did a businessman come to mind when they saw a well dressed Black male in a Porsche pulled over on his knees? Prolly not.

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Lioness I saw the report on the news and read the story as well….does that cop still have his job or was he fired?

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I am not the po-po..let the po-po find out what they were doing. Damn that.

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Leggs- I think MOST cops are people with self esteem issues! FOR REAL!!

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Hell at this point I do not think I believe in love.

Aw…Staceye!

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On gentlemanly duties…Ladies it’s all or nothing you cant pick and choose what you want him to do..if he is a gentleman you take the good with the bad.

On this Law Enforcement Convo..I will say this and be done…It’s amazing how people bad mouth the police but never say thank you..I wish we were allowed to have the same piss poor attitude towards others that they have towards us right off the bat from one experience or whatever(I am sure you have had bad experiences with the opposite sex..but you keep going back).but nope…We put our life on the line because we are supposed to…do we have bad days yes are we human ..Yes..I am a Federal Law Enforcement officer so I don’t play by state or local laws…I commend those on that level because they have far to many regulations. Attitude and being mouthy are not criminal offenses. Should cops have to endure a tounge lashing because they are stopping someone that broke the law? one thing I never realized before I became an officer is that you can go to jail or get a citation for anything (Except 2 things and I’ll leave that up to you to figure out). So Peace Officers exercise a lot of restraint and give many brakes more then you realize. Well Mr. Citizen, I guess you have me figured out. I seem to fit neatly into the category you place me in. I’m stereotyped, characterized, standardized, classified, grouped, and always typical. I’m the “lousy cop.” Unfortunately, the reverse isn’t true. I can never figure you out.

From birth you teach your children that I am the bogeyman, and then you’re shocked when they identify me with my traditional enemy, the criminal. You accuse me of coddling juveniles, until I catch your kid doing something. You may take an hour for lunch, and have several coffee breaks each day, but point me out as a loafer if you see me having just one cup.

You pride yourself on your polished manners, but think nothing of interrupting my meals at noon with your troubles. You raise hell about the guy who cuts you off in traffic, but let me catch you doing the same thing and I’m picking on you. You know all the traffic laws, but never got a single ticket you deserved. You shout “foul” if you observe me driving fast enroute to an emergency call, but literally raise hell if I take more than ten seconds responding to your call!!!
You call it “part of the job” if someone strikes me, but it’s “police brutality” if I strike back. You wouldn’t think of telling your dentist how to pull a badly decayed tooth, or your doctor how to take out your appendix, but you are always willing to give me a few pointers on law enforcement. You talk to me in a manner and use language that would assure a bloody nose from anyone else, but you expect me to stand and take it without batting an eye.

You cry, “Something has to be done about all the crime!” but you can’t be bothered with getting involved.

You’ve got no use for me at all, but, of course, it’s OK if I change a tire for your wife, or deliver your baby in the back seat of my patrol car on the way to the hospital, or save your son’s life with mouth-to-mouth resuscitation, or work many hours over-time to find your lost daughter.

So Mr. Citizen, you stand there on your soapbox and rant and rave about the way I do my job, calling me every name in the book, but never stop a minute to think that your property, your family, or maybe your life might depend on one thing, ME, or one if my buddies.

I don’t want to get into the argument about why cops do certain things, if you’re not a cop you’ll never understand. That’s ok. I don’t know your job and I might not understand why you do the things you do.

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DK

I was right there on Delk road by Lockheed at 5:30 in the evening during major traffic, so not only was I humiliated but I was disrespected and put on display for every one to sneer and shake their head at.

Cobb County has a bad rep for that type of behavior. Heck even the WWE knows enough about it to have had a wrestler by the name of Big Boss Man from Cobb County GA.

I had one of those experiences as well on South Cobb Drive. I was driving a Corvette. Luckily, I was near my friends house, who is a Cobb County judge. He walked down to see what the commotion was about.

Villa Rica was by far the worst though. The US Department of Justice came and dealt with their police department.

I also loathe Fayette cops. I had one experience with them, too. I outran them the next time that I that pursued me.

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as for your comment saying I got fired from a BJ…well is it my fault you lil’ peter kept slipping through the mini gap in my teeth?

As I clutch the pearls and slowly walk away…..

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Infamous what did you do to get stopped? Are you saying it was just random.

I was watching Good Morning America this morning they were talking this guy Williams asking him his take on. I agree with him although we really don’t hear of it happening quite often, but he said that the cops are trained to check out the premises just in case some one is in the house and making get rid of the police. Yeah it seems far fetched because it we really don’t hear of that but it is possible. If it wasn’t the police would not be trained to expect.

I still say hate me for doing my job rather than not doing it and things turning out much worse. The thing is a police can’t or rather should never assume a situation is not the worst.

Just think had somebody been the house and that man was killed or robbed because the police did not do their job. We would still be here talking about racial issues except it would the cops not caring to fully do their duty because it was a black man’s house.

Tazzee I disagree. If I call you to my house as an authority to perform a service of investigation and protection I need to allow you to do just that. Yes I am unruly when I fight you in doing the job I called you to do in my house.

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Sassy- I damn near tinkled on myself when I read THAT

The 3 C’s in a relationship: Chemistry, Compatibility & Communication

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Professor – Why fight it?

Yesterday I wanted some McDonald’s french fries and an Oreo McFlurry. It was 3:30 in the afternoon.

It was yummy.

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@ W8 – I’ve been preached that.

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Dayum W8….no words on that 12:06 except you’re right…..Sassy still clutching pearls only walking away faster now….

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My mom was a cop for 20 years, albeit military police. But you could never know from the outside looking in what it looks like from the inside looking out. I have MAD respect for law enforcement and what they do to put their lives on the line on a DAILY basis.

Are there bad cops? Yes. Do good cops have bad days? Yes.

When you make a bad judgement call or mistake on your job (depending on that job), you sell a few less widgets, you have to stay late to re-work the numbers, you have to drop more fries for the lunch crowd.

When a police officer does the same thing, someone one may end up in jail, he may receive harsh scrutiny or…he may not come home that night…or ever….

So…they deserve a measure of respect regardless…

And I could go on.

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I am listening to the news now where another police officer is saying that Crowley was only doing his job. And yes he forced his way into the house because that is what they are trained to do in situation where a possible robbery has been called in.

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dang prof…and i was doing so good…in you come with the wings..but i like my wangs with beer so i will have to wait….dang now i am thinking about it

ok enough cop talk

they people like you and me and have a job to do

ummm so where is IP404…where you at lady

where are all my other ladies

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Okaay Lioness that almost sounded like one of those “down to the white meat” blows.

Who dat talking ’bout lemon pepper wangs and fries?…….

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@ Freedom Friday!

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W8…you made some great points in that posting. I know the fines will be heavy but the information you presented is truthful. I recently chastised my brother for talking about the police. In fact my exact words to him was the police dept (EMT and firefighters included), were the only folks I know that I can pick up the phone and dial a number and not get an excuse, but a response to my rescue. I have never been told we are not in the area, can this W8 until tomorrow, girl it is too late etc.

As a citizen I would like to say thanks to you and all of the other men and women that leave their families (not knowing if you will make it back home) and work hard to provide safety and order to this society. I know it is not an easy job and I truly commend you all, and thanks again for giving an insight and knowledge on that 12:06…

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Hush yo mouf AmRed you for real about E. Lynn?…..OMG cihld “Invisible Life” helped me out big time when I was new to the dating scene in the “A”….sharpened my gaydar reading about Basil.

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No sex in the Champange Room!

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Rell I am sorry that I started but I need those wings today!

Tazzee I am not being cruel, if you could see the pout on my face I am sure the blog would pass a plate around and buy me some courtesy lemon pepper wings and hot french fries due to my sad face L

Lioness I thought we were cool not an old dude with no teef jacking me for my wings…lmao. Girl I am calling the police if that happens and I might shed some tears and throw a tantrum

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Now Lioness I’m sittin’ over hear eating a salad(that I made with Kale instead of lettuce) wishing it were some lemon pepper wings instead…but why you gotta jinx me with the old man with no teefs part? I bet I’ll run into one as soon as I walk outside…watch.

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The whole time I lived in Cobb County I never had an issue with the police. In fact I was never even stopped by one.

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Poppa,my experience with cops on the road is only thrice tho.
First,the incident i explained earlier and then the second one,my tag was expired but i was on my way to the tag office to renew it and then third,when i had an illegal lane change.
Like abc,i dont wanna mess with cops coz i know that power thing can get to them and i have a temper esp when i know im right.
And cops with power dont care that much for a factual & brainy discourse.Its their way or jail!
I choose freedom.

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All this talk about wings making me want to run out and some. When Mason gets here I am going to go get some for our lunch.

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I saw that about E. Lynn on twitter, that’s my news source nowadays

You find that to be a reliable news source though? That’s how rumors get started!

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PG – Okay, I get what you said about transparency. But folks act like the prez calls the media up every 5 minutes and asks them to film Michelle walking the dog or when he scratches his butt! The press is more facinated with this man than the public is I think!

And no, you can’t please everybody. Each and every thing he and every president before him did & does – there will be somebody that is not happy.

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Sassy-

That word “HATE” is poison..

When I have childre, I won’t allow them to use the non curse words HATE, STUPID or DUMB.. Such foul words TO ME..

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W8 – wow, your 12:06 went there. I must say I while I have had a bad experience with a particular Dekalb County Cop, I never bad mouthed all cops. I have an uncle that works in law enforcement in VA and I saw the stress of the job and heard plenty of stories. I have also been helped out numerous times by law enforcement, each officer/official is different. The cop that took me in for not giving him the keys to my dad’s car (after he mad a racial remark to me) wasnt every cop, he was just 1 cop.

Serving the public in any capacity is taxing. As those being served we do tend to forget that they have bad days too (bad kids, spouse pissed them off, crazy boss/co-workers) just like us.

On a lighter note: E Lynn Harris died?? wooooooow

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I just think while the cops are going overboard dealing with elderly Harvard professors on canes or well-dressed black businessmen, there are real criminals getting away with murder. Pick your battles.

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Kimmie

The press is more facinated with this man than the public is I think!

I think that the press wouldn’t do it if they didn’t get ratings from it. USA is about the dollah, dollah bill.

As Chris Rock aptly pointed out that this country is so obsessed with money, that it is the only place where church and state really meet. “In God We Trust” is on just about every piece of currency that we have.

But as Kym/Sassette/the former relationship expert/resident Steeler fan says….”That’s a whole ‘nuther Oprah!”

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Cops can’t pick their battles because you NEVER know what you are up against…The well dressed white man or black man…can shoot, deal drugs molest,rape, kill etc..just like those “who look like a criminal” Sorry I am a bit misinformed on the crime breakers wardrobe…now what do they wear again?

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AR

On another note all together: I feel you on the job working me right before vacation. Well, actually, I took a couple day off this week already. I will take a few more next week.

However, they give me this project from hell today! I don’t really want to do it. As evidenced by me posting so much so early, I am ready for my trip to the Redneck Riviera aka Florida Panhandle.

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Happy Friday everyone! Since it’s Friday and so beautiful outside, I think I’m going to leave early today to go register my car. What’s the topic now?

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Sassy – I enjoy reading his books to and I said lighter note cause it appears to be getting thick up in here with the current topic. I hope it isnt true…..

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On another note all together: I feel you on the job working me right before vacation.

PG – As I told Peach, I already knew this is the busiest month for me. It comes every year without fail as the fiscal year closes.

I just got smart and booked vacation for right after so I can really enjoy it!

I was out of town for business the earlier part of this week, and that’s what was the real stressful part. Clients don’t care if you’re doing the end of year reconsiliation! I lost 3 solid days of work because of them. Boo hiss!

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I feel you Mo ’cause it is a little thick up in here….quiet as it’s kept somebody sounds a little verklempt at some of these “anti po po” rants and whatnot.

I hope the story about E. Lynn isn’t true either.

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Okay I have my lunch..now what did I miss.

@W8 I read you loud and clearcops and military guys can get it any day. I support the efforts and considering the stuff you have to deal with in law enforcement and military..this is one citizens that will defend the police any day. There are good and bad cops just like good and bad people.

On E.Lynn Harris Arkansas Times is reporting him dead at 54..he had some health setbacks says the article. His latest book, “Basketball Jones,” is about the gay lover of an NBA star. Says the publicity blurb: “In Basketball Jones, E. Lynn Harris explores the consequences of loving someone who is forced to conform to the rules society demands its public heroes follow.

@PoppaG aka Big Brother lookout I am so glad you know all my alias..hey if I go to the Clermont lounge could that be ruled unethically and unmorally behavior when I apply for law school?

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http://www.ArkansasSports360.com

This is the source link reporting the story about E. Lynn Harris…but it is the only google site to come up with that story.

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W8

the Redneck Riviera is the Florida Panhandle Beaches nickname.

Travel Advisor/expedia/etc have even made mention of it.

I heard it routinely growing up in south Clayton County. Folks would go to Panama City and come back with “My mom went to the Redneck Riviera and all I got was this -T-Shirt”shirts.

Although I’ve never really given it much thought until now, but it sounds like a reference to the fact that Although Florida is in the south a/k/a “redneck country” , Florida was not an English colony. Florida was a Spanish term. Hence the Riviera, a latin term that is associated with coastal areas.

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W8 – I get it, you really can’t choose your battles and that’s a poor choice of words on my part. I do think some could assess situations better so as not to overreact, but I am not a cop and have not walked in your shoes and come up against what you have to deal with. My dad could have told you all kinds of stories about what he went up against and had to deal with working in Grady’s emergency room.

This is probably not the most supportive forum for a cop, but speaking for myself I do appreciate what you’ve said on here today. I respect all aspect of law & law enforcement, just not some of the individuals in it and their actions. I appreciate being able to call the law for help. We could not have a peaceful society without it.

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I think he’s working his butt off

well, i didnt vote for him(technicality ) but whenever he makes a press conf,he seems to have better grasp of the actual issues than did W.(wednesdays’ was rambling tho,he makes a 5 min comment/answer to limit qstions) Bill remains my champ!!,what a smart and brilliant multi tasker!!
Dick was W’s brain,it appears even tho i like W as a beer buddy! I have a pic of him in one of my fam potraits.

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Let me sashay out and get these wings…

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Swiss- Personally, I am not a porn watcher but if my Mr. wants to watch will we play then I am all for it

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Took a dude into custody at an abortion clinic this morning…now I work HRT/SWAT/Fugitive Recovery….we’ve been looking for the dude for a long time…well we find out that his girlfriend is having an abortion early this morning around 4am…now I just got in around 2am I think because after about 7 Hennessy’s and multiple Corona and Heiniken chasers i am a little twisted…phone rings @430am…”mount up we have to go uc in an abortion clinc..etc etc etc” we get in place and we are helping run the show at the clinic..man that is the saddest place I have ever been in..just knowing what is going on in there…I saw a 12 year old girl come in and leave with her mother..The 12 year old had an abortion…I dont know the backstory on that due to HIPPA regulations…but there were other clients there too.. Anyway our perp walks in he’s in a suit 40 plus guy…he walks up to the window she fills out her paperwork he fills out his section since he is her “escort” or whatever the clinic calls the person who goes there with you…Then BAM we take him down HARD…She starts crying people are giving us a hardtime once they realize what’s going on.. we are hearing the “Let him be with his woman..this is a trying time crap..etc..etc” What they dont know is that this clean cut guy who is trying to be there for his woman is a cold blooded killer and a fugitive from justice. Anyway….those clinics are by far one of the most depressing places in the world…..sad sad sad stuff…I don;t know if my hangover amplified that fact but geeshh I am glad to kiss my kids today and glad that was not an option for them…

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Let me sashay out and get these wings…

See what I mean?….why you gotta go stirrin up shyt with those wings…..that’s just wrong and you know it

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W8

I agree with your 12:06. I agree them even though I have had problems with cops in certain jurisdictions.

Lawyers say similar things in that we are villified and called everything but a child of God until someone needs us too.

Law students and med students often talk crap to each other. One thing that we tell the med students: ” When lawyers were crafting the United States Constitution, doctors were saying ‘take two leeches and call me in the morning’”

That always seems to get a good chuckle going between us law nerds and those med nerds.

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Sad story, w8, but glad you got your perp. Also, what abortion clinic opens at 4 in the morning?

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@Tazzee Well he was scheduled to be here next week for the National BookClub Convention. Dead or Not he just sold about 100,000 books today. NBA player, gay..the speculation and rumors are going to fly. you know he had to get research somewhere.

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Just called my brother(he is an Author for Random House also and he knows E.Lynn) The fru fru author is indeed dead…he told me that senior executive sent out an email to all of the writers a little bit ago.

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NPR is my official news source..I trust them

I will admit I will trust People Magazine when someone is breaking up, getting married or giving birth. They just seem more responsible to me.

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@PG- See I hate lawyers…lol..it’s a never ending circle..lmao

@Leggs- we got the info at 4am and we mounted up at 430am…WE found out about the abortion at that time it took place at 8am….this clinic is in the area of where the “Chastain” concerts take place

@Lioness- Yeah my mind is pretty phucked right now

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@Leggs they don’t open at 4am. But most do open at 6am. And I know because I had to be a “driver assistant” for a friend of mine. Abortions are medical procedures(out patient surgery). It took about 5 hours. The one I went to open early because they try to avoid the protesters as much as possible. They had bulletproof vest on the escorts to protect them as they lead clients in.

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W8- I bet

Leggs- That dude needs to be DEAD! 12 yr old??

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HRT/SWAT/Fugitive Recovery

damn W8!! U do illegal immis too??!!

Forget it,we aren’t meeting for a beer anytime soon!

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Is any one else watching Tyra??? This is some real bullsheet.

One of these days we need to discuss the Rules of Engagement in a relationship. What is truly acceptable behavior between friends when one of them is in a commited relationship.

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W8

See I hate lawyers…lol..it’s a never ending circle..lmao

It is a trip. I can’t do criminal law because I am old and ain’t go the patience of some cat telling me to get him off for some crap that he knew was wrong in the first place.

On another note, my criminal procedure class, which focused on the 4th, 5th, and 6th amendments of the US Constitution, spent a great amount of time on police and what they can and can’t do. That gave me more of a respect for what cops go through when I read some of the cases.

Like I said earlier, folks seem to forget that you have families that you wanna get back home to see everyday just like everyone else does.

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Raqi – we need more info on the Tyra episode, what’s going on?

Lioness – I signed up for the Falcons Fandemonium sweepstakes a while ago. Found out about it on twitter Anyway, I thought you had to sign up for each drawing, so after I didn’t win the one right after I signed up, I stopped checking. Apparently it was a one time only thing and the guy just called to let me know I won sideline passes to a ‘mutually agreed upon’ home game.

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@Tazzee- Before this I spent time in Special Forces then Secret Service now this..we have counseling always available and it’s mandatory for me also because I suffer from PTSD

@Melo- somebody has to do…but I am on the downhill now..the promise I made to my dad was that when he died i would takeover his business…he left it to me and I am keeping my promise..so I will be out of this soon. I won’t lie..I will miss it

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That’s funny I had that debate with a guy awhile back regarding Fla being located in the south, doesn’t make the entire state “southern” and/or country….and I say the because of it’s history with the spanish. But it’s also funny to me that the further north one travels in this state (I’d say from Ocala on up)the more country it feels and looks.

Lol Shoot, I have folks from those parts too, from Waldo to Wimauma (pronounced Wild or Wile Mama)…to Ocala to parts of Bama and Jawgia…to…awww heyal, all over. But I’d still venture to say there is a bit of a difference in there.

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I don’t know what the attorney said to the secretary that sits outside of my office. She is cussing so much that I thought that I was in NYC again.

She rarely gets upset, but someone ticked her off royally. This is the first time in two years that I’ve heard her cuss at the office.

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Tazzee these couples are here that are engaged but the guys are paying more attention and spending more time with their friend instead of the woman.

This guy has a gay friend that is coming between the couple. The guy doesn’t see the problem because they are only friends but the girl is like hell no. You are my man. Don’t ditch me your fiancee to spend time with your friend. The gay dude is talking about getting friend rings because the guy gave his girl friend and engagement ring.

Certain relationships are just not allowable especially when your mate has a problem with it and it takes you away from the time that you should be spending with your mate.

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@W8, ok..just going by what you typed “well we find out that his girlfriend is having an abortion early this morning around 4am”. I gotcha now. you found out around 4 am that the girl was having an abortion that morning. Ok!

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Melo…..Are you an overstay?

Poppa,in the immi community,u dont ask those qstions(u legal or not) or where pple wrk.

Evebody do what they gotta do.
If the law gets to u,we all know the deal.
Ask Slim Rick

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lol@Kym- I only hate my ex wife the lawyer and all of her Lawyer friends…so that would be Black Lawyers who went to law School at UGA during the late 90’s early 2000’s…yup just them…we are good unless you fall under that umbrella…lmao

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Hose’= Jose’…just putting our ethnic spin on it

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Melo

Well, do you man.

I know about those questions. i just took immigration law this summer and had to sit a day with the professor in his law office. He is a practicing immigration attorney.

Overstays get green card preference over EWI’s. Especially if they have family roots here.

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Damn, with all these ‘heavy’ topics, I think I preferred the Friday’s where we are heavy petting…each other.

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@ARed, we had that on Hump Day Wednesday!

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Ared- I agree.. LAWD!

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Mason just made a point that I have always felt to be true. The only friend that complains about you spending time with your love interest is the one that needs a love interest themselves.

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WTH is a bromance and man ring?

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Kym – as always you got jokes about my Falcons Can’t wait for the season to start. And August 1 can’t get here soon enough. Did you hear/see Big Ben’s presser?

Raqi – That’s some crazy mess. nothing wrong with having friends, but if I’m about to be your wife, we put each other number one after God. (friend rings )

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Raqi- I agree!

W8- Some BS on Tyra

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Kimmie the thing is the two guys have been friends for a long time and the gay friend was not gay or did’t “realize” he was gay at the start of the friendship. That’s why the hubby doesn’t see it being a problem. But I am like the fiancee their relationship just ain’t right. He cares too much about the gay friend’s input while the gay friends wants the two of them to wear matching rings.

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W8

WTH is a bromance and man ring?

I think that Raqi is watching & commenting on the colored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain”.

I hope that she is covering Lil Elizabeth’s eyes.

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Weight they are saying it’s a close friendship between men that is non-sexual however it interferes with the relationship one of the guys has with his woman.

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Oooops… forgot to close that bold tag… my bad.

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icolored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain” LMBO

And Elizabeth is upstairs taking a nap with her dad. I am not exposing her to this foolishness.

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I have no gay guys that are friends or associates….ya can judge me on that one all ya want…and how a dude gonna let anotha dude even ask him to wear his ring…ewwwwwwwwwwww

@Kym- You don’t like my Falcons?

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Dude said: Beat it up like sme cake mix & put this meat up on your teef..

LAWD the lyrics to these songs..

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Somebody tell Alanis Morrisette to take notes, ‘cos this is ironic:

“and how a dude gonna let anotha dude even ask him to wear his ring…”

Followed immediately by:

“ewwwwwwwwwwwwww”

Just messin’ w/ you W8…

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There is truly something wrong with a “friendship” when the friend complains about how much time the person spends with his/her love interest…geesh…personally, I encourage as much together time as a couple can share…if that is what they truly enjoy…I may be adamant about being single and non-emotionally attached but I will stay in my lane…thank you…and if I have so little of a life that I need to attach myself to a friend for companion and diversion…then maybe therapy is required…geesh again.

BROMANCE…WTF!!!!…man ring…again, WTF!!!!…can we say BYE, BI…that is all I can imagine is that the male is bisexual or such…geesh for the third time…lol.

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Rell

they look to others for constant attention and entertainment

That is another reason that I limit TV. It can make you passive.

We don’t even have a TV in the bedroom. We seem to have one everywhere else.

But the Bedroom and Bathroom is off limits.

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Melo- http://www.wsbtv.com/news/20158224/detail.html

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Raqi

colored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain” LMBO

LOL…kinda like the Wiz is the colored version of the Wizard of Oz.

Does the colored Brokeback star Eddie Murphy and Johnny Gill?

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I knew a dude that LOVED Brokeback Mtn.. Me personally, couldn’t stomach watching the movie.. A bit much

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Hey everyone. omg what’t the topic. i’m way tooooooooooooooo tired to scroll back.

W8- I called to see how much my ticket is gonna be but it’s not in the system yet. *shrugs*

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No tv in the bedroom? Oh I miss those days.

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Another murder-suicide over a relationship gone bad…seems to be an epidemic…geesh.

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W8 – Wouldn’t judge you at all, that’s the way I expect a real man to think, folks can say whatever they want.

Just a little too girly & suspect to me.

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Man what a beautiful day to be outside!

I believe that many women can grow with me to become my soul mate!

Marriage is the formula of becoming one with GOD!So, yes I truly believe in marriage!

On Cops: Some of my best friends are police officers so I hear a lot what they go thru and I give them the upmost respect at all times. I have yet to be pulled over randomly and if I do I give the officer therespect that I expect in return! I am a very lucky man because I speed all the time.

Being a sales representative I go into some of the most lily white areas and even though I have been trailed a few times I still have not been pulled over.

I’m o.k. with President Obama commenting on the Gates situation but he has to know it will be a distraction and he needs to think first before he speaks! We have to get this health legislation passed!

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Kym, I haven’t seen the picture but I too think that entire case is a little shady…

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@Raqi

Truly…and even if one does not have the desire for a relationship of their own (like myself)…that does not mean that I need to be the third wheel in someone else’s…ya’ know??…shyte, I do not even want to be the person that ppl discuss their relationship issues with…but it does seem to happen…uh,here is a dollar…buy a clue…if I do not have the issues for myself, then why would I want to deal with yours????…uh-huh.

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Lioness- Fulton County

W8- LOL @ “Hose”! LOL ummmmm you know I accidentally got into that HOV lane! ok 19 months in Atlanta, and 2 tickets! UGHHHHHHH! The cop dude was like “hmmmm oh California, huh. Ya’ll think you can just come over here and drive any ole way you want to”. I was like “as if”, just give me the ticket so I can go home lol. ugh. I can’t get mad because I was in the lane, so it’s whatever. I respect loaw enforcement. Afterall, my dad is a Sherrif’s Deputy. lol

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M’

the “Don’t judge me” was a reference to W8.

I peeked in shortly yesterday, but didn’t post.

After every post it seem that he would post Don’t Judge me or something to that effect.

I thought that it was new MLB protocol….lol.

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lol@Page- and your words you use “as if”..”ugh” “rad”"totally awesome”

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Melo- Did you read the story I posted for you?

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I am starving

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LOL W8- shuttup. when i said “as if” to the cop yesterday he was like “what maam”? btw, omg what’s this about ole girl with the handicap? lmao

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@Lioness

No doubt…but why ppl attach an emotional value to poison is beyond me…I ain’t loving nothing that can cause me pain,harm or injury…no thank you…and I do not wait for physical actions…I listen to words and watch behaviors…NOT!!!

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LOL PG, W8 really gets annoyed when i’m in person. it’s the phrases and my voice. i guess it doesn’t help that i have the voice of an 8 year old lol *shrugs*

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CAM,yeah,thats crawzzy.
But to be honest,those pple are from west africa.
Sme of u have a much closer relationship with that part of africa than i do.U know why,right??
I am from the southern-most tip of africa proly more distance tween liberia and there than there is tween liberia and the east coast of america.

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@PG

Youse knows I jes messin witcha…lol…it’s FRIIIIDAYYYY!!!!

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M- True indeed!! When a dude tells you “If I can’t have NO ONE will” OR ” I will kill you if you ever left me” Heed that ish cause dude is telling the truth & plan your escape.. I’ve been there & done that but the dude never laid a hand on me but it was only a matter of time cause he was 7:30(crazy mfer)! I wasn’t staying around for the grand appearance.. Sure didn’t!

Raqi- I LOVE lamb chops That was MEAN Thx for the cyber offer though

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Ok, these toothpicks are not holding my eyes open for much longer. have a totally rad weekend everyone.

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@W8 Bring it!!! You play fantasy football? speaking of..Tazzee I am in again..someone is trying to get me in a pay league..I am not ready for that..I play for the glory.

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@Kym- yes i play fantasy

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How in the hell are you going to appear on a television court show being sued for not paying back money that you borrowed to get an abortion and then say that your father doesn’t know about the abortion and that’s why you didn’t ask him for the money? I bet he knows now.

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@lieOness….tube steak = dizzle…you blonde…lo

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Well, I am out…have a great weekend peeps!!!

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Simp- I see YOU are the blonde.. Stick YOUR tube steak in YOUR mouth.. Get it? SMDH @ HoodRats

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Raqi- I have NO idea! That is why I don’t like to lend money! If I have to ask for it back, then I know I will NEVER help your tail again! TRUST!

I haven’t EVER borrowed money from anyone and if I did, they would get it back AS SOON as I had it!

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@Ared you are right the blog did get a little heavy…

It’s Friday and I need levity in my life right now. I’m only skimming past the deep stuff, but it makes me want a strong drink.

LOL @ Lioness.

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just peeking to see what I missed…carry on.

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It’s Friday and I need levity in my life right now. I’m only skimming past the deep stuff, but it makes me want a strong drink.

Just like you said…it’s Fridaaay!!. How strong is strong guul?

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Cee – I got some friends from college & their families coming over tomorrow. I making two pasta dishes – some spaghetti with beef & turkey sausage – sauce is simmering on the stove now. The other is a shrimp pesto pasta dish. Zuchini cassarole with zuchini & tomatoes fresh from the garden, big salad & breadsticks!

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Anyone partying with Michael Baisen at Hairston’s tonight?

I heard he was trying to answer the challenge that there could be 200 attractive straight employed men in one place who arent crazy. Apparently the ladies feel this can’t happen in ATL.

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Well…abc here you go

President Barack Obama has called the white policeman who arrested black Harvard scholar Henry Louis Gates Jr. The president says he believes the sergeant to be an outstanding police.

The president said Friday that he continues to think both the officer, Sgt. James Crowley, and Gates overreacted during the incident — but Obama also faulted his own comments.

Making an impromptu appearance at the daily White House briefing, Obama told reporters: “I could’ve calibrated those words differently.”

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Judge Judy is on the air giving away the female game. This guy is suing his ex girlfriend but claiming he did say and/or do certain things. This woman pulls out old letters and cards that he had given her. Judge Judy told him we women save everything. The good, the bad and in between. Anything and everything that we feel we could possibly use to prove our point or to get back at you we save.

LOL Mason told me once “Woman you don’t forget nothing”. If you don’t mean it or you think it can be used against you in the future don’t say it.

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@ARed I can not stand Michael Baisden..His voice..its like nails on a chalkboard. Ugh!!

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Yall know that health reform legislation will not be passed. It’s been a topic since Truman, over 50 years ago. It just ain’t gonna happen, especially the way it’s been introduced this time around. Darn shame, though. We need health care reform, just not like this.

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@Kimmie-so u cooking for other folks and i still dont have a pie

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Kym – Can’t stand his voice either, plus he thinks he’s the shyt! But I do listen to him occasionally.

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Kym Baisden is a shyt starter. I like his sidekick George.

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@ARed I can not stand Michael Baisden..His voice..its like nails on a chalkboard. Ugh!!

Folks either love him or hate him.

I do wonder why he is YELLING ALL THE DAGGONE TIME. But I like the content and what he’s trying to accomplish.

I do like sidekick George.

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Anyone partying with Michael Baisen at Hairston’s tonight?

i be there now that u say so,didnt know about it tho.
I am gonna ask Queen to come,but i know she will say yes,but sleep.So i be covering my azz when she lifts her head later, pokes to find,im gone.
Baisen is a magnet for them cougars and mamas so i know it will be jumping in der.
U coming Ared??
It wild be nice to see ur tatas jumping up and down to grown folk beats!

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How in the heck you going to fix your pucker to offer me an interest free loan when your insurance needs to be getting me a new car???

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Raqi I can’t listen to him either he sounds like his tongue is too big for his mouth or something. But Baisden..ughhh..he is a NN if ever there was a NN.

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@ Moca – What happened?

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U coming Ared??
It wild be nice to see ur tatas jumping up and down to grown folk beats!

melo – If I were going I wouldn’t be announcing it on here. Besides, I’m not a cougar or a mama nor do I party on that side of town.

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I don’t know what i am doing tonight

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Lmao…meant badboy (not badbody) turned Certified Rydah! Sorry Demi! LOLOL!

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Ared- OK!! This girl I knew worked there and by the time we FINALLY got there, I thought I was Alabama.. Can’t drink if you partying there! No decent hotels to sleep in or NOTHING..

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I. HATE. JAMOCA.

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Cee- In regards to “reckon”.. I was listening to a song & it made me laugh so I decided to add it

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I hear music coming from upstair…

Love has truely been good to me
Not even one sad day
Or minute I hade since you come my way
I hope you know I gladly go
Anywhere you take me
It’s so amazing to be loved
I’ll follow you to the moon in the sky above

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Swiss – Well first off, he biased…he loves his “chocolate” (chicks). I’d say that he has a pretty good outlook on life and a clearview on what it takes to work through life’s trials and definitely up to the challenge. Definitely see marriage-material in his posts. Congrats, btw!

ForReal – Good sense of humor may be just enough to drop the panteez! Just keep in mind that he does want you for the long haul. Just enough time to introduce his Ballwood to the coota-cat and next to the AA Dolphin. Eeek..aaaccckkk….eeekkk…eeekkk! But I still see lots of potential for a longterm relationship, however I believe you when you say…marriage it OUT!

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Ooh, no Raqi did not go there with the Lutha!

Did you get you some “afternoon delight?”

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Swiss ain’t black?? Who knew? lol

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Dern it, Raqi – that song just fills me UP!!!

Got to tell you how you thrill me
I’m happy as I can be
You have come and it’s changed my whole world
Bye-bye sadness, hello mellow
What a wonderful day
It’s so amazing to be loved
I’d follow you to the moon in the sky above

It’s so amazing to be loved………

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Love brought us together
I would leave you never
‘Cause we got amazing love
So amazing and I’ve been waiting
For a love like you
It’s so amazing to be loved
I’ll follow to to the moon in the sky above

Amazon Not yet.

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@ARed, when I turn the radio on to that station, I always thought that he had too much to drink and surprised that he was drinking on the air. So, you say it’s a lisp or something…hmmm!

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Rell – First thing comes to my mind with good ‘ol Rell…he loves himself some yams and there always in season. LOL But honestly, like I said before, there’s definitely a transition going on his life. He knows a hard day’s work and will put the work in. For a relationship? Not so much. I think he definitely has it in him to give, but he fears giving it to the wrong one…again. (the story of a lot of folks’ lives) But I do believe once he finds himself a winner, she won’t be what he was expecting…like not knowing what you’re really thirsty for, until someone passes you a cold one…and you may find that it (she) hit the spot so well, that you’ll be double-checking the label.

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Melo, the problem with health care in the US as it’s manifested in the past decade have primarily to do with 4-fold increase in medical costs, 8-fold increase in medical insurance revenues, and non-availability of affordable insurance for over 15% of the country’s population.

Medical costs escalate with big pharma payola to medical industry, specifically doctors themselves; the industry is referral oriented and pays on a fee-per-service basis, so the more tests, treatments and prescriptions that are specified, the more money the industry makes; they sock it to the insurance companies to pay for it, and the insurance companies compensate by charging more for premiums and denying treatments. This has everything to do with why America ranks at the bottom of industrialized countries in terms of chronic care and infant mortality while costing more than any other country.

I say, do away with fees-per-service, making the medical industry based on salary across the board; regulate big pharma and the insurance industry such that they can’t gouge and rackateer; watch costs drop as unnecessary tests, treatments, and prescriptions drop, along with more granular costs for each category; and come up with a plan that is similar to Medicare/Medicaid in function (I say in function, not in design) such that people who have jobs that don’t provide insurance have some coverage. Regulate stringently and punish non-compliance.

It wouldn’t cost any $3 trillion, either. But it would break ties with medical, pharma and insurance lobbies, powerful ones that hold much sway in Washington, and that may be a lot easier said than done. But it would mean put up or shut up, calling a spade and so on: are we all about politics, or are we all about making a health care system that benefits all citizens without penalizing any citizens?

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**everything old is new again**

i 2nd that! giggle. WISE get outta my head! lol.

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Now hearing….

Always and forever
Each moment with you
Is just like a dream to me
That somehow came true, yeah

And I know tomorrow
Will still be the same
Cuz we got a life of love
That won’t ever change and

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okay i know what im doing tonight now..lol

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thanks jam…you right on with that break down!!!

-red alert plays good music when he dj’s..but i swear dude about 60 or something…hell i would love to see him do the OSS just one time…but hairston is dead..the east side for entertainment is dead

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Truth – One thing about him, he loves his dogs. But like them, (at least for him) the more well-trained a woman by the time he gets to her, the better off she will be…and the better off they will be. Wellll…that is, only for about 2-3 years, because after that her shelf life has expired, and you will be replaced. But if you got fiyah booty, he just may recycle you back into rotation, if the booty is slim pickins. All around good man though, he just doesn’t want to admit it.

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@ Lioness – Jus cause. Imma hit up something sweet on your b-day too. Just cause it’s July so i still get to celebrate mine.

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Cee- Sounds cool! Shoot me an email

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Have a WONDERFUL & SAFE weekend ALL I know I will
Peace

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W8 what are you doing tonight

Melo you make sure you are on your best behavior next week.

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Poppa might know:

where is the (non)Rev with no church Merkel Hutchins??
the con-man aka politician wannabe is so quiet these days.
( i liked the way John Lewis ignored muffcker in the campagn)

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Melo just making sure before I packed my pepper spray…lol

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And chicks should be allowed to kick a dyck in immediately upon recovery from said slap.

(Just to keep things even.)

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@W8 Take your tail to bed before you have to arrest yourself.

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W8 what part of town, because I would love to smack your azz back…

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Cee – Okay, your late lunch is ready.

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@Prof-Why you want to hit me I havent done anything to you…but you probably need to bee pimp slapped too..lol

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Kym

If you stand and scream, you won’t freeze. heinz field is nice. Football is supposed to be played outdoors. Not in a wimpy azz dome.

Soft teams play in domes. Only one dome team has every won a Superbowl. (The ST.Louis Rams).

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Let me try this again.

And chicks should be allowed to kick a d-yck in immediately upon recovery from said slap.

Just to keep things even.

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@Ce-you so hood and dont think u aint in trouble either

lol@if he leaves im leaving

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No judgement.

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Don’t watch the talking heads on TV too much.

I’ve talked with a lot of Canadians that like their system of health care. They shake their heads at what people in the US have to deal with. Talk heads saying that our health care system is better are full of it. Both the UK and Canada are miles ahead of the US statistically in terms of chronic long-term care and infant mortality.

As far as how to legislate the medical industry to not include fees-per-service, that’s a discussion that might exceed the limits of typing them into the blog here.

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Melo just making sure before I packed my pepper spray

well ,u know u dont really need it.

U can bring ur handcuffs if u like.U like what u see,just cuff me and molest me,whatever/however way u like.
I miss Tip!

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If it’s a pimp slap with no recovery time, then you didn’t put enough on it. (See A Pimp Named SlickBack for further instruction.)

If it’s the properly placed slap on the derriere, then I withdraw my suggested follow up action.

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