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Everything Old Is New Again

The results of the Great Male Survey 2009 from Askmen.com are in. I eagerly anticipate this each year (no sarcasm, really) because it’s like getting a small peek into a cross-section of men that are in my dating pool. From what I can tell, modern men are still big on tradition: “When it comes to the romantic front, everything old is new again”  I feel that this is a great thing to hear, for the most part.  That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with some of the ideas that come with that though.

The Dating & Sex part of the survey had a lot of great questions. I would be interested to hear some of our male readers to respond to the first five: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”? Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”? Do you believe in marriage? How important is it to you for your future wife to sign a prenup?

Ladies, the Great Female Survey was given by Yahoo’s female portal, Shine. Same questions for you: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”? Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”? Do you believe in marriage? Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Would you sign one?

Some of the numbers surprised me, what do you think about the responses?

Happy Friday everyone!

584 comments Add your comment

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
1:37 pm

Tazzee these couples are here that are engaged but the guys are paying more attention and spending more time with their friend instead of the woman.

This guy has a gay friend that is coming between the couple. The guy doesn’t see the problem because they are only friends but the girl is like hell no. You are my man. Don’t ditch me your fiancee to spend time with your friend. The gay dude is talking about getting friend rings because the guy gave his girl friend and engagement ring.

Certain relationships are just not allowable especially when your mate has a problem with it and it takes you away from the time that you should be spending with your mate.

Kym-I am the mystery in the room

July 24th, 2009
1:39 pm

@W8 wait just a cotton-picking minute! Did you type that you hate lawyers? See I thought we were going to be friends.

@PoppaG you didnt answer my question so I can assume that I am all good on that front?

Leggs

July 24th, 2009
1:40 pm

@W8, ok..just going by what you typed :arrow: “well we find out that his girlfriend is having an abortion early this morning around 4am”. I gotcha now. you found out around 4 am that the girl was having an abortion that morning. Ok!

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
1:40 pm

I don’t have a problem with my husband having friends because that’s normal. It’s necessary. It’s life. But ain’t no way I will put up with him spending one day a week with me but 4 days a week with his friend.

LOL This one girl said that the one day they spend together they have sex but then he spends his “free” just living and having fun time with his best friend. How dumb is she???

Melo

July 24th, 2009
1:40 pm

Melo…..Are you an overstay?
:shock:
Poppa,in the immi community,u dont ask those qstions(u legal or not) or where pple wrk.

Evebody do what they gotta do.
If the law gets to u,we all know the deal.
Ask Slim Rick :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit ... :-)

July 24th, 2009
1:41 pm

Be easy Hose JIgsaw and I hope you feel better soon.

Now for the rest of y’all I’m oooouuuut….it’s Friday, I’m done with work and it’s pretty outside….holla!

Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
1:41 pm

lol@Kym- I only hate my ex wife the lawyer and all of her Lawyer friends…so that would be Black Lawyers who went to law School at UGA during the late 90’s early 2000’s…yup just them…we are good unless you fall under that umbrella…lmao

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
1:43 pm

Jamoca

I consider Florida the south. It is just very diverse.

My youngest sister went to University of Central Florida in Orlando. I have tons of folks in Tampa.

On a quick tangent, I don’t think that I’d quite get used to seeing a gator or croc walking down the street like my cousins in Tampa that live near the Hillsborough River. They called animal control, but I guess that they are used to it.

Hose' "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
1:44 pm

Hose’= Jose’…just putting our ethnic spin on it

Kym-I am the mystery in the room

July 24th, 2009
1:46 pm

@W8 No I am just an aspiring lawyer. But I am leaning towards Family law or Admin Law. Admin Law is winning right now. Because I enjoy working in the public sector and there are some nice loan forgiveness programs for public sector employees.

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
1:46 pm

Melo

Well, do you man. :lol:

I know about those questions. i just took immigration law this summer and had to sit a day with the professor in his law office. He is a practicing immigration attorney.

Overstays get green card preference over EWI’s. Especially if they have family roots here.

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
1:48 pm

Melo- Did you read the story about the 4 African boys that raped that 12 yr old girl & her family diswoned her cause they said it was her fault? WTH?

AmazonRed™

July 24th, 2009
1:50 pm

Damn, with all these ‘heavy’ topics, I think I preferred the Friday’s where we are heavy petting…each other. :lol:

Hose' "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
1:50 pm

@Kym- We cool then..lol

@PG/Melo- it is hard to find folks in the muslim community..those folks can get ghost real good

Leggs

July 24th, 2009
1:53 pm

@ARed, we had that on Hump Day Wednesday!

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

July 24th, 2009
1:55 pm

“Damn, with all these ‘heavy’ topics, I think I preferred the Friday’s where we are heavy petting…each other. :lol:

Well hey there, ARed… How you doin’? ;-) :lol:

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
1:55 pm

Ared- I agree.. LAWD!

kimmie

July 24th, 2009
1:56 pm

Raqi – I think the big question here is is hubby gay.

I mean, hanging out too much with friends is a common issue some folks have to address. But all this BROMANCE stuff & man rings – I would run so fast!!!

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
1:56 pm

Mason just made a point that I have always felt to be true. The only friend that complains about you spending time with your love interest is the one that needs a love interest themselves.

Hose' "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
1:56 pm

@Kym- we are cool then..lol

@Ared- Well bust it open..lol

Hose' "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
1:57 pm

WTH is a bromance and man ring?

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
1:57 pm

Kym

I used to want to do the public thing. However, they were the first fired when gov’t wanted to cut back on costs.

I think that I have decided the family law route. I am even looking to maybe gettng into men’s rights aspect of family law. Cutting back alimony and getting more child visitation.

The system isn’t set up for males. Women have an unfair advantage in family court.

Tazzee - in need of some beach time

July 24th, 2009
1:57 pm

Kym – as always you got jokes about my Falcons :lol: Can’t wait for the season to start. And August 1 can’t get here soon enough. Did you hear/see Big Ben’s presser?

Raqi – That’s some crazy mess. nothing wrong with having friends, but if I’m about to be your wife, we put each other number one after God. (friend rings :roll: )

Melo

July 24th, 2009
1:58 pm

Poppa, i wldnt post that shyyt if i were not regular.
Immi popo are the most feared within the immi circles.
Even when ur situ is st8,u still shudder if u receive a surprise visit or sme to that effect.
U dont remember the story i told smtime back about them visiting my job and leaving a message with the receptionist for me to call them.They were doing their audit of wrk papers and shytt.
Phuck immi popo :lol:

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
1:58 pm

Raqi- I agree!

W8- Some BS on Tyra

Jamoca - Needs the "Black Orpheus" to match her "Eurydice"

July 24th, 2009
1:59 pm

It is just very diverse. I think that’s what I was getting at PoppaG. It’s overall makeup is not just “the dirty”…it’s too diverse for that with the mixture of folks from the islands and hispanic decent to include native american tribes/reserves…then top it off with our “folks”. I just see it as a big ‘ol pot of gumbo…everybody coming fresh off the boat just to contribute their own special ingredients into the mix. Being country, southern or whatever people want to call it, is just one aspect of its “upbringing”.

LOL @ the alligators. I’m right next to the Hillsbo River. We’re always spotting snakes in palmetto bushes. Heck, when I worked for this one company out near I-75 and Fletcher Ave….”we” had a huge alligator that lived on the premises. We called him Al. No one called animal control, since most didn’t see him as a threat, but he was huge. And he’d just sit out in front of the company lawn basking in the sun, mouth wide open, without much movement at all. And for some visitors, they actually thought that “he” was a statue, until someone informed them. But he pretty much minded his own business. It was obvious that we were more afraid of him than he was of us. LOL Shoot, folks in places like NewPortRichey have to worry about alligators walking right into their houses. It happens all the time, since a lot of them leave there doors cracked or opened. One elderly women found one in her kitchen.

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
1:59 pm

Kimmie the thing is the two guys have been friends for a long time and the gay friend was not gay or did’t “realize” he was gay at the start of the friendship. That’s why the hubby doesn’t see it being a problem. But I am like the fiancee their relationship just ain’t right. He cares too much about the gay friend’s input while the gay friends wants the two of them to wear matching rings.

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
2:00 pm

What is the best way to keep a relationship interesting?

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
2:00 pm

W8

WTH is a bromance and man ring?

I think that Raqi is watching & commenting on the colored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain”.

I hope that she is covering Lil Elizabeth’s eyes.

The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world

July 24th, 2009
2:01 pm

Whats the topic now!?!?!?!!

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
2:01 pm

Weight they are saying it’s a close friendship between men that is non-sexual however it interferes with the relationship one of the guys has with his woman.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

July 24th, 2009
2:01 pm

Raqi / kimmie — That’s exactly what I was thinking, kimmie. Nothing against gay dudes, but I just can’t see a straight guy being that close w/ a gay dude.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

July 24th, 2009
2:02 pm

Oooops… forgot to close that bold tag… my bad.

Melo

July 24th, 2009
2:02 pm

Lioness, i did not,where did that happen?

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
2:03 pm

icolored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain” LMBO

And Elizabeth is upstairs taking a nap with her dad. I am not exposing her to this foolishness.

Jamoca - Needs the "Black Orpheus" to match her "Eurydice"

July 24th, 2009
2:04 pm

Oh and I meant to add…

SexyCool and PoppaG I had a dream about ya’ll. I know crazy right. LOL.

Anyway, SCool…you had a child and PoppaG, Mrs. G was pregnant! Lmao. Lmao. Lmao. LOLolololol

….now putting the finishing touches/comments on the blog list

Hose' "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)

July 24th, 2009
2:04 pm

I have no gay guys that are friends or associates….ya can judge me on that one all ya want…and how a dude gonna let anotha dude even ask him to wear his ring…ewwwwwwwwwwww

@Kym- You don’t like my Falcons?

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
2:05 pm

Jamoca

think that’s what I was getting at PoppaG. It’s overall makeup is not just “the dirty”

Ohhh. I know. I used to say that going to South Beach was like leaving the US without leaving the US.

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
2:07 pm

Dude said: Beat it up like sme cake mix & put this meat up on your teef..

LAWD the lyrics to these songs..

The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world

July 24th, 2009
2:08 pm

What is the best way to keep a relationship interesting?

- variety and imagination…..or try this…become a more interesting person yourself…most folks that complain of being bored are boring themselves…they look to others for constant attention and entertainment….these are the types of leechs you need to avoid in dating..

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

July 24th, 2009
2:09 pm

Somebody tell Alanis Morrisette to take notes, ‘cos this is ironic:

“and how a dude gonna let anotha dude even ask him to wear his ring…”

Followed immediately by:

“ewwwwwwwwwwwwww”

:lol: Just messin’ w/ you W8… :lol:

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
2:10 pm

You know I hate yall men folks. If you were just somewhere less than 10 minutes ago and could gotten what you wanted while there, how come you leave that place go all the way upstairs just remember you want some and call back down for me to bring it to you. I thought you were going to take nap.

M'

July 24th, 2009
2:10 pm

There is truly something wrong with a “friendship” when the friend complains about how much time the person spends with his/her love interest…geesh…personally, I encourage as much together time as a couple can share…if that is what they truly enjoy…I may be adamant about being single and non-emotionally attached but I will stay in my lane…thank you…and if I have so little of a life that I need to attach myself to a friend for companion and diversion…then maybe therapy is required…geesh again.

BROMANCE…WTF!!!!…man ring…again, WTF!!!!…can we say BYE, BI…that is all I can imagine is that the male is bisexual or such…geesh for the third time…lol.

Kym-I am the mystery in the room

July 24th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Tazzee I missed the press conference but I am catch up on the case. The hoochie did not go to the po-po she went to civil court..she is suing Ben and 8 other employees of Harrah’s casino. I read the comments from the rape crisis folks on how victims don’t report. I get that. But most victims don’t lawyer up and go file civil cases either unless they are looking to get paid. You that tramatized by the experience go to the po-po and get a ruling there and then to court. This chick sees dollar signs.

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
2:11 pm

Rell

they look to others for constant attention and entertainment

That is another reason that I limit TV. It can make you passive.

We don’t even have a TV in the bedroom. We seem to have one everywhere else.

But the Bedroom and Bathroom is off limits.

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
2:13 pm

Swiss- Isn’t that word cute when a man uses it??? :roll:

Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!

July 24th, 2009
2:14 pm

Raqi

July 24th, 2009
2:15 pm

Somebody better call Sgt. Crowley ’cause somebody is finna get smootherededed up in here. Don’t ask me to bring you something and say nevermind when I get there. sigh

Poppa Grande

July 24th, 2009
2:15 pm

Raqi

colored rendition of “Brokeback Mountain” LMBO

LOL…kinda like the Wiz is the colored version of the Wizard of Oz.

Does the colored Brokeback star Eddie Murphy and Johnny Gill?

Kym-I am the mystery in the room

July 24th, 2009
2:15 pm

@W8 No I am not a Falcons(see I can say it without laughing) I am a Steeler fan. Speaking of which I have decide that my new home has to have a playroom with one of those Fathead Steeler helmets. I just saw the photo of this woman who is accusing Ben of rape..she looks old enough to be his mom.