Everything Old Is New Again
The results of the Great Male Survey 2009 from Askmen.com are in. I eagerly anticipate this each year (no sarcasm, really) because it’s like getting a small peek into a cross-section of men that are in my dating pool. From what I can tell, modern men are still big on tradition: “When it comes to the romantic front, everything old is new again” I feel that this is a great thing to hear, for the most part. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with some of the ideas that come with that though.
The Dating & Sex part of the survey had a lot of great questions. I would be interested to hear some of our male readers to respond to the first five: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”? Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”? Do you believe in marriage? How important is it to you for your future wife to sign a prenup?
Ladies, the Great Female Survey was given by Yahoo’s female portal, Shine. Same questions for you: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”? Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”? Do you believe in marriage? Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Would you sign one?
Some of the numbers surprised me, what do you think about the responses?
Happy Friday everyone!
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Sassy Me...juicy fruit ... :-)
July 24th, 2009
12:53 pm
I feel you Mo ’cause it is a little thick up in here….quiet as it’s kept somebody sounds a little verklempt at some of these “anti po po” rants and whatnot.
I hope the story about E. Lynn isn’t true either.
kimmie
July 24th, 2009
12:54 pm
I think that the press wouldn’t do it if they didn’t get ratings from it. USA is about the dollah, dollah bill.
PG- I so agree. So folks should not complain. Same with these sorry, low-quality tv shows we have. They would not show them if folks did not watch them!
From a lot of folks that vent about him being on tv a lot, the underlying, and sometimes not so underlying, thought is that if he’s on tv then he’s not working. If he takes a vacation he’s not working. Like that Gorilla Glue comment Zell Miller made – glue him to his seat at the Oval Office! Even if you don’t agree with anything he’s doing, I think he’s working his butt off. He might be 75% gray by the end of the his first year.
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
12:54 pm
Okay I have my lunch..now what did I miss.
@W8 I read you loud and clearcops and military guys can get it any day. I support the efforts and considering the stuff you have to deal with in law enforcement and military..this is one citizens that will defend the police any day. There are good and bad cops just like good and bad people.
On E.Lynn Harris Arkansas Times is reporting him dead at 54..he had some health setbacks says the article. His latest book, “Basketball Jones,” is about the gay lover of an NBA star. Says the publicity blurb: “In Basketball Jones, E. Lynn Harris explores the consequences of loving someone who is forced to conform to the rules society demands its public heroes follow.
@PoppaG aka Big Brother lookout I am so glad you know all my alias..hey if I go to the Clermont lounge could that be ruled unethically and unmorally behavior when I apply for law school?
Tazzee - in need of some beach time
July 24th, 2009
12:54 pm
AmRed and PoppaG – C’mon now, give me more credit than that. I only believe the posts that have a link and I got the same link AmRed posted. I check sources before making mention of anything.
Actually, twitter has been a GREAT source for me because I don’t read papers in other cities. Got the McNair info from someone that posted the Nashville paper link, E. Lynn from the Arkansas Times link, etc. It seems the news makes it local before CNN or another national source publishes it.
M'
July 24th, 2009
12:55 pm
http://www.ArkansasSports360.com
This is the source link reporting the story about E. Lynn Harris…but it is the only google site to come up with that story.
AmazonRed™
July 24th, 2009
12:57 pm
It seems the news makes it local before CNN or another national source publishes it.
Yeah, that’s because CNN has to actually get it varified. I wasn’t gonna believe anything about Michael Jackson til CNN called it! And it was HOURS after it broke.
TMZ broke it first, and you knew it was true, I just didn’t want to believe it.
Though I was apt to believe Jeff Goldblum was dead too, but didn’t speak on it til I could find a source, and I couldn’t.
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:00 pm
W8
the Redneck Riviera is the Florida Panhandle Beaches nickname.
Travel Advisor/expedia/etc have even made mention of it.
I heard it routinely growing up in south Clayton County. Folks would go to Panama City and come back with “My mom went to the Redneck Riviera and all I got was this -T-Shirt”shirts.
Although I’ve never really given it much thought until now, but it sounds like a reference to the fact that Although Florida is in the south a/k/a “redneck country” , Florida was not an English colony. Florida was a Spanish term. Hence the Riviera, a latin term that is associated with coastal areas.
Grace
July 24th, 2009
1:02 pm
I agree with alot of the comments made on the incident of Gates/Cam Police. IMO it’s more about bruised ego than race. Most of all I want to thank the neighbor for looking out, she/he could have turned a blind eye but instead did the right thing by notifying the police. Gates on the other hand took things out of the context esp by uttering something in reference about the police’s mother, that was not called for. As for the President he should have gotten all the facts and not let his emotions toward his friend lead him to give a premature statement. Last I read the police is considering a defamation lawsuit.
kimmie
July 24th, 2009
1:02 pm
W8 – I get it, you really can’t choose your battles and that’s a poor choice of words on my part. I do think some could assess situations better so as not to overreact, but I am not a cop and have not walked in your shoes and come up against what you have to deal with. My dad could have told you all kinds of stories about what he went up against and had to deal with working in Grady’s emergency room.
This is probably not the most supportive forum for a cop, but speaking for myself I do appreciate what you’ve said on here today. I respect all aspect of law & law enforcement, just not some of the individuals in it and their actions. I appreciate being able to call the law for help. We could not have a peaceful society without it.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit ... :-)
July 24th, 2009
1:04 pm
Poppa I really like readng you….it’s like you know something about everything….I’ve learned a thing or two from reading you on dis here blog.
Melo
July 24th, 2009
1:04 pm
I think he’s working his butt off
well, i didnt vote for him(technicality
) but whenever he makes a press conf,he seems to have better grasp of the actual issues than did W.(wednesdays’ was rambling tho,he makes a 5 min comment/answer to limit qstions) Bill remains my champ!!,what a smart and brilliant multi tasker!! 
Dick was W’s brain,it appears even tho i like W as a beer buddy! I have a pic of him in one of my fam potraits.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
1:05 pm
Now for something completely different…
Blog ladies, what say you about this? I’d like to meet some of the ladies who agreed to participate in the study where genital temperature were monitored… I bet they’d give it up pretty easy. Just sayin’…
Professor...sitting on my ego
July 24th, 2009
1:05 pm
Let me sashay out and get these wings…
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:07 pm
Tazzee
It seems the news makes it local before CNN or another national source publishes it.
Twitter isn’t always verified news.
CNN has to verify news or face possible lawsuits. Which leads to some sort of accountability.
Twitter, as it stands, has no accountability. Twitter considers itself a rumormill. It looks like twitter might start charging to verify news. They don’t always verify accounts, and it looks like they will start doing that for a charge.
http://www.pcauthority.com.au/News/148409,twitter-set-to-charge-for-account-verification.aspx
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:09 pm
Swiss- Personally, I am not a porn watcher but if my Mr. wants to watch will we play then I am all for it
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:10 pm
Florida was a Spanish term.
I meant the Florida was a Spanish colony
Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)
July 24th, 2009
1:12 pm
Took a dude into custody at an abortion clinic this morning…now I work HRT/SWAT/Fugitive Recovery….we’ve been looking for the dude for a long time…well we find out that his girlfriend is having an abortion early this morning around 4am…now I just got in around 2am I think because after about 7 Hennessy’s and multiple Corona and Heiniken chasers i am a little twisted…phone rings @430am…”mount up we have to go uc in an abortion clinc..etc etc etc” we get in place and we are helping run the show at the clinic..man that is the saddest place I have ever been in..just knowing what is going on in there…I saw a 12 year old girl come in and leave with her mother..The 12 year old had an abortion…I dont know the backstory on that due to HIPPA regulations…but there were other clients there too.. Anyway our perp walks in he’s in a suit 40 plus guy…he walks up to the window she fills out her paperwork he fills out his section since he is her “escort” or whatever the clinic calls the person who goes there with you…Then BAM we take him down HARD…She starts crying people are giving us a hardtime once they realize what’s going on.. we are hearing the “Let him be with his woman..this is a trying time crap..etc..etc” What they dont know is that this clean cut guy who is trying to be there for his woman is a cold blooded killer and a fugitive from justice. Anyway….those clinics are by far one of the most depressing places in the world…..sad sad sad stuff…I don;t know if my hangover amplified that fact but geeshh I am glad to kiss my kids today and glad that was not an option for them…
Tazzee - in need of some beach time
July 24th, 2009
1:13 pm
AmRed – I’m apt to believe that a local news source verifies their information before reporting it too. Not talking about TMZ but an actual news outlet.
Some people don’t believe it’s true until CNN publishes it – I’m not one of those people. And unless the E. Lynn story proves to be false, I haven’t had an instance where CNN didn’t follow up with the same information.
Unfortunately, I don’t think E. Lynn Harris will be high on the national news source radar.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit ... :-)
July 24th, 2009
1:14 pm
Let me sashay out and get these wings…
See what I mean?….why you gotta go stirrin up shyt with those wings…..that’s just wrong and you know it
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
1:14 pm
NPR is my official news source..I trust them. The last great trustworthy news anchor died last week. Everyone else is just pulling out of their toots. Making faces, commentary, just the facts please. Ohhh wait there is one more I like..the lady white house press core..oh lawd HELEN THOMAS!!! I like her too.
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:16 pm
W8
I agree with your 12:06. I agree them even though I have had problems with cops in certain jurisdictions.
Lawyers say similar things in that we are villified and called everything but a child of God until someone needs us too.
Law students and med students often talk crap to each other. One thing that we tell the med students: ” When lawyers were crafting the United States Constitution, doctors were saying ‘take two leeches and call me in the morning’”
That always seems to get a good chuckle going between us law nerds and those med nerds.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:16 pm
W8- THAT IS SOME ISH!!! I commend you! Hope you are OK dude
Leggs
July 24th, 2009
1:17 pm
Sad story, w8, but glad you got your perp. Also, what abortion clinic opens at 4 in the morning?
Tazzee - in need of some beach time
July 24th, 2009
1:17 pm
YAY ME!!!
Just found out I won a sideline pass for a Falcons game!!! I never win anything.
PoppaG I guess you missed the part where I said I only believe the posts that are accompanied with a link to a news source?
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
1:17 pm
@Tazzee Well he was scheduled to be here next week for the National BookClub Convention. Dead or Not he just sold about 100,000 books today. NBA player, gay..the speculation and rumors are going to fly. you know he had to get research somewhere.
AmazonRed™
July 24th, 2009
1:18 pm
AmRed – I’m apt to believe that a local news source verifies their information before reporting it too. Not talking about TMZ but an actual news outlet.
Tazzee – My point is that CNN is behind the curve becuse they take more steps to verify their info more than local (or gossip) news sites.
They aren’t always the last to know. I would venture that they would get tips just as early as local news do too. You’d gain a lot of credibility having your tip reported on CNN. But because folks want to be the “first” they’ll give it to anyone who will be willing to broadcast it.
Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)
July 24th, 2009
1:18 pm
Just called my brother(he is an Author for Random House also and he knows E.Lynn) The fru fru author is indeed dead…he told me that senior executive sent out an email to all of the writers a little bit ago.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:19 pm
That is why I cringe @ old dudes hollaring @ me..
Leggs- Illegal ones maybe
AmazonRed™
July 24th, 2009
1:20 pm
NPR is my official news source..I trust them
I will admit I will trust People Magazine when someone is breaking up, getting married or giving birth. They just seem more responsible to me.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:20 pm
Taz- YAY!!!
Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)
July 24th, 2009
1:22 pm
@PG- See I hate lawyers…lol..it’s a never ending circle..lmao
@Leggs- we got the info at 4am and we mounted up at 430am…WE found out about the abortion at that time it took place at 8am….this clinic is in the area of where the “Chastain” concerts take place
@Lioness- Yeah my mind is pretty phucked right now
Leggs
July 24th, 2009
1:22 pm
That’s what I’m thinking, Lioness! …dude in a suit going to an abortion clinic 4:00 in the morning.
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
1:23 pm
@Leggs they don’t open at 4am. But most do open at 6am. And I know because I had to be a “driver assistant” for a friend of mine. Abortions are medical procedures(out patient surgery). It took about 5 hours. The one I went to open early because they try to avoid the protesters as much as possible. They had bulletproof vest on the escorts to protect them as they lead clients in.
Tazzee - in need of some beach time
July 24th, 2009
1:25 pm
W8 Do you guys get a lot of counseling? I know you see a lot of messed up stuff and I’m sure it gets to you. I’m going to have to keep you on my prayer list.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:25 pm
W8- I bet
Leggs- That dude needs to be DEAD! 12 yr old??
kimmie
July 24th, 2009
1:25 pm
W8 – I befriended this young lady(20 yrs old) that was new to the A. Her boyfriend was my boyfriend’s best friend. Anyway, her bf gets sent to the Persian Gulf and she finds out she’s preggers. Decides to have an abortion and calls me to go with her. I go, and I agree its a sad place. After she filed out the paperwork & I verified that I was her escort, I had to get out of there for awhile. That was back when Macy’s was downtown. I shopped & walked around (they told us it would be a few hours before it was all over). Abortion protesters with pictures of dead babies were at the clinic.
She and I lost touch after I broke up with my bf. But she had 2 more abortions after that one – just using it for birth control. It sickened me.
Melo
July 24th, 2009
1:26 pm
HRT/SWAT/Fugitive Recovery
damn W8!! U do illegal immis too??!!
Forget it,we aren’t meeting for a beer anytime soon!
Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)
July 24th, 2009
1:27 pm
Once again Leggs we got the info @4am that she was going to be having an abortion at 8am…we mounted up @430 am and went to the clinic to set up “eyes” on seen and then get a crash course on how an abortion clinic is ran so that we would fit in and not look out of place..we took him down around 815..do you have the timeline now?
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
1:28 pm
Is any one else watching Tyra??? This is some real bullsheet.
One of these days we need to discuss the Rules of Engagement in a relationship. What is truly acceptable behavior between friends when one of them is in a commited relationship.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:29 pm
Melo-
Kimmie- If it is necessary, I don’t knock a persn BUT nowadays, there are other ways of preventing pregnany.. Plan B?? People kill me!! This girl I know has had 10 abortions.. SMDH
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:29 pm
W8
See I hate lawyers…lol..it’s a never ending circle..lmao
It is a trip. I can’t do criminal law because I am old and ain’t go the patience of some cat telling me to get him off for some crap that he knew was wrong in the first place.
On another note, my criminal procedure class, which focused on the 4th, 5th, and 6th amendments of the US Constitution, spent a great amount of time on police and what they can and can’t do. That gave me more of a respect for what cops go through when I read some of the cases.
Like I said earlier, folks seem to forget that you have families that you wanna get back home to see everyday just like everyone else does.
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:31 pm
Melo
Are you an overstay?
Tazzee - in need of some beach time
July 24th, 2009
1:31 pm
Raqi – we need more info on the Tyra episode, what’s going on?
Lioness – I signed up for the Falcons Fandemonium sweepstakes a while ago. Found out about it on twitter
Anyway, I thought you had to sign up for each drawing, so after I didn’t win the one right after I signed up, I stopped checking. Apparently it was a one time only thing and the guy just called to let me know I won sideline passes to a ‘mutually agreed upon’ home game.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:32 pm
PG- Just might be.. Maybe that was the REAL story why the officer made him get out of his..
Hose "Jigsaw" Johnson aka "pullin out early"(W8©)
July 24th, 2009
1:32 pm
@Tazzee- Before this I spent time in Special Forces then Secret Service now this..we have counseling always available and it’s mandatory for me also because I suffer from PTSD
@Melo- somebody has to do…but I am on the downhill now..the promise I made to my dad was that when he died i would takeover his business…he left it to me and I am keeping my promise..so I will be out of this soon. I won’t lie..I will miss it
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
1:32 pm
Bromance??? A freaking Bromance??? Mason bet neva step to me talkin bout he has a bromance, but it’s all innocent. Bull.
Jamoca - Needs the "Black Orpheus" to match her "Eurydice"
July 24th, 2009
1:33 pm
That’s funny I had that debate with a guy awhile back regarding Fla being located in the south, doesn’t make the entire state “southern” and/or country….and I say the because of it’s history with the spanish. But it’s also funny to me that the further north one travels in this state (I’d say from Ocala on up)the more country it feels and looks.
Lol Shoot, I have folks from those parts too, from Waldo to Wimauma (pronounced Wild or Wile Mama)…to Ocala to parts of Bama and Jawgia…to…awww heyal, all over. But I’d still venture to say there is a bit of a difference in there.
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
1:34 pm
@Tazzee Congrats!! on the Win. (that is the last time I will write that phrase to a Falcons fan).
Poppa Grande
July 24th, 2009
1:34 pm
I don’t know what the attorney said to the secretary that sits outside of my office. She is cussing so much that I thought that I was in NYC again.
She rarely gets upset, but someone ticked her off royally. This is the first time in two years that I’ve heard her cuss at the office.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
1:35 pm
Almost time to get my sauce ON!