Everything Old Is New Again
The results of the Great Male Survey 2009 from Askmen.com are in. I eagerly anticipate this each year (no sarcasm, really) because it’s like getting a small peek into a cross-section of men that are in my dating pool. From what I can tell, modern men are still big on tradition: “When it comes to the romantic front, everything old is new again” I feel that this is a great thing to hear, for the most part. That doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with some of the ideas that come with that though.
The Dating & Sex part of the survey had a lot of great questions. I would be interested to hear some of our male readers to respond to the first five: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman “relationship material”? Is it important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential”? Do you believe in marriage? How important is it to you for your future wife to sign a prenup?
Ladies, the Great Female Survey was given by Yahoo’s female portal, Shine. Same questions for you: Do you believe that you have a soul mate? What is the most important personality trait that makes a man “relationship material”? Is it important for a boyfriend to have “husband potential”? Do you believe in marriage? Do you want your future husband to sign a prenup? Would you sign one?
Some of the numbers surprised me, what do you think about the responses?
Happy Friday everyone!
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ImAPeach404
July 24th, 2009
10:17 am
@LIONESS – OMG, do they lick their fingers, lol!!! (What if yall are at KFC, does he get a pass on the finger lickin?) My son eats like an animal and I keep telling him he needs to start improving his table manners or else he’ll never get a second date. He said he’ll just look for a girl that eats like him. *rolling my eyes*
@Diva – don’t know what I said but THANKS!!!
@Red – it’s always like that the week before a vacation. Just makes it that more worth going
@Sexy – I would appreciate the same from my man. Sounds like you have a good one girl!
@Sassy – I thought about me winning the lotto situation and whether it would cause me to ask him to sign a prenup… just don’t get married!
Mike Jones (who)
July 24th, 2009
10:17 am
Lioness Professor
Dictionary.com Lady–a woman who is refined, polite, and well-spoken
Mike Jone’s officially (unofficial) definition– A woman with manners, respectful as well as demands respect, trust worthy, honest, strong, AKA Wifey Material
A lady describes a type of woman.
Just my opinion like it, bump it or dump it.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:19 am
Melody-
Cee- You know what I am talking about
You & your man are TOO cute!!! I LOVE REAL LOVE!!!
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
10:19 am
@Lioness whateva gets you off I guess. I know me I like to try different stuff. If I am in the mood for something new..I go for it. I’m quirky like that. So if I say caesar dressing everyday, I may switch up and say raspberry vinegrette just to shake it up. I know if a dude tried to order for me he would go apeshyt batty trying to keep up.
I am into Mango Sweet Tea..(my friends fault) I am sitting here now thinking..hmm I havent been to the Vortex in a minute..chilli tatertots, a big burger from Vortex and Mango Sweet Tea would be great this weekend. But by 5 who knows.
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:19 am
Morning.
Soul Mate??? Yes. My soul mate is the one that gets me.
Personality Traits??? Allegiance, Dedication, Commitment.
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:20 am
Swiss WTH? That’s your cousin?
Southern Baptist say: Love thy Brother…
Professor
July 24th, 2009
10:21 am
I do not eat beef or pork it has been 17 years since I have…I like veggies and fruit. Actually I look at the dessert menu first because that depends on how light or heavy I will eat…I am a sucker for a good dessert…so dude need to check with me and place the order when the server comes.
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:21 am
My son eats like an animal and I keep telling him he needs to start improving his table manners or else he’ll never get a second date. He said he’ll just look for a girl that eats like him.
Love it! He is a Classic!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
10:21 am
“He said he’ll just look for a girl that eats like him. *rolling my eyes*”
Peach — Maybe you should set him up w/ your sloppy friend from your first post. Could be love at first belch.
Rell - tell groupie to get over it!
July 24th, 2009
10:23 am
@Rell… go sit down somewhere! I bet I’ve met you out somewhere – trying to holla at everythang that pass by
- NAW love i am the mack in the back…i just chill….if i see something that strikes me i will holla..between cali and atlanta..not much makes me jump anymore….but again whats your phone namber…lol…email it to me at gigglosgetlonelytoo@holla.com…lol
@lie-o-ness…thats why i HATE DINNER dates….what is this a dayum auction or a date…i rather do fun stuff…btw rat…you clean up well!
Melo
July 24th, 2009
10:23 am
anything more than a recreational phluck
Swiss??
Swiss boys do that too??
Professor
July 24th, 2009
10:23 am
Mike…I gotcha
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:24 am
If you don’t need be to cut your steak I don’t need you to order for me. Do I look 8 years old???
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
10:24 am
@Peach my son has gotten better with age. He ate like a football player the first few years. One arm to guard plate, one hand to eat with, head down….Shovel. He still shovels but atleast his head is up.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit ... :-)
July 24th, 2009
10:25 am
I thought about me winning the lotto situation and whether it would cause me to ask him to sign a prenup… just don’t get married!
Peach that’s always a good solution…..I’ll just do an Oprah and Stedman ’til we old and grey.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
10:26 am
“Swiss boys do that too??”
Now Melo, I thought you’d know by know I’m only “swiss” on the outside. My soul (and wang) are all zulu.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:26 am
Simp-
The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world
July 24th, 2009
10:26 am
yea i never understood the whole order for me thing…thats set a bad tone for the rest of the relationship…..some men like to raise adult daughters
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:27 am
@ Melo – Low blow dude.
“Swiss boys do that too?”
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
10:29 am
“I’ll just do an Oprah and Stedman ’til we old and grey.”
Sassy — Does that mean you’d be doing Gail?
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:31 am
@ Rell – Low blow today? Aww heck what’s up with “some men like to raise adult daughters”? Well COOK like a adult son too then!
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:32 am
“Everything Old Is New Again”
You know WiseDiva I think that it has always been it just who you talk to or associate with. There are more men that believe in and want to get married than a lot of people realize. And think the greatest divide is on the side of the women. The terms of marriage is what I am hearing a lot of women these days find undesirable.
And BTW I have a topic I want to throw at you. I heard something on the radio yesterday and I think is was quite interesting.
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
10:33 am
@swiss What do you mean dance in public?
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:34 am
Exactly Rell. I allow my 14 year old son to order for himself.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:35 am
Professor- Basically he will ask me what I want before the server comes and that is how he orders for me.<– Exactly what I am talking about..
Peach- YES ppl do lick their fingers.. Most annoying thing EVER!! I don’t even lick my fingers after eating wings or potato chips..
ImAPeach404
July 24th, 2009
10:35 am
Cemeeli – he didn’t even blink when he responded. You know I wanted to laugh…
Swiss – Yea, my son is 14. My girl is 38.So… lol.
Lol @ Rell – gigglosgetlonelytoo! Cute
Kym – I think our boys are around the same age, right? He’s getting a little better, but if he’s really hungry… watch out!
The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world
July 24th, 2009
10:36 am
@CEE…yea i love to cook…i have said before i do my best thinking while i cook or clean…i cook breakfast every morning before work…i keep up early to do that. I clean every other day….i dont expect an adult women to come in an clean my stuff…hell i dont like women to wash my cloths…i wash my own…all i need you to do is support the movement…with whatever you want to bring….i dont have time to give instructions…
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:36 am
Cee- Folks taking it on a WHOLE other level..
NOT THAT SERIOUS FOLKS..
M'
July 24th, 2009
10:36 am
Posted as per the request of Demi
“What I did at the strip club was a once in a lifetime event…so do not judge me”
And ladies, what is Demi’s favorite word???…Bish (paraphrasing Too Short in BLow the Whistle)
Disclaimer: M’ is just the messenger…don’t shoot me…lol
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:37 am
Off topic:
What has been interesting to me is, since Wednesday night the media is astonished how Obama expressed his opinion about the police officer’s in Cambridge. The guy’s racial profiling (which is was,at it’s finest) with the Harvard guy Prof. Henry Louis Gates was outrage.
Please. They should have apologized and own up to there fault. Geesh, this gets so old.
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:38 am
Cee- Folks taking it on a WHOLE other level..
Lioness It always ‘all gravy’ over here mami.
Tomato – to-mah-to…
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
10:38 am
Kym — Watch the video (you have to get past the commercial & the hosts setting up the clip)…
The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world
July 24th, 2009
10:38 am
@iampeach….thanks for being such a good sport about the back in forth….thanks..some folks would be like are you serious…NO!
@RAQI…i remember that cold house key around my neck at 7yrs old..i remember getting my 4yr old brother off the bus…fixing sandwichs and cleaning chicken at 7…i have been doing household things for a long time..hell i am the oldest of all the grandkids…so you know i am use to being in charge…i was all the time….again i dont require a women to replace mom…i have one….i just want her best or what she thinks is hers
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:40 am
Do the ones of you that think the man should (or its okay to) order for the woman also believe in traditional roles in marriage???
ImAPeach404
July 24th, 2009
10:41 am
@Raqi – I agree, I think there are more men than we realize that want to get married, but I believe they are afraid to admit it b/c they feel like it says “I want to marry YOU”. I think (some) women have a good enough head on their shoulders to not confuse “general talk” with “us” talk.
But, who am I???
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:41 am
@ Rell – Good stan-up guy as i predicted. I’m just having/being a lil eyebrow raising fun when my guy sometimes ordering for me. You know Cee won’t play the “I’m a dasmel…” when my man is on front street. Somethings i like for him to do, than others.
Ayw, fry me some fish tonight?
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 24th, 2009
10:42 am
“Yea, my son is 14. My girl is 38.So… lol.”
Oh yeah, I guess that would be a little out-of-bounds. Unless, of course, your friend is a teacher & white, in which case it’s the new trendy thing…
Grace
July 24th, 2009
10:43 am
When is your birthday Lioness?
THE INFAMOUS DOMINICANO DK
July 24th, 2009
10:44 am
Rell – I see ya with ya most most interesting man in the world deal going on…
AmazonRed™
July 24th, 2009
10:45 am
@Red – it’s always like that the week before a vacation. Just makes it that more worth going
Peach – July is the one month I do actually have to work. I’m in the office at midnight some times, up at 5 am some others to get it all done. So now I just schedule the vacay right afterwards so I can decompress and get my mojo back!
M'
July 24th, 2009
10:46 am
@Sassy
love those answers in your 9:57 post…on point.
I do believe that we all have someone to whom we are connected on a higher level beyond physical, emotional and sexual attraction/needs/desires…and I guess that person would be called a soulmate…but I do not know if that means the designated person would be a lifelong partner…but rather someone who contributes to our lives in such a way that there is an indelibly etched marker in our existence from them having been in our lives…so that we are never again the same in a certain way b/c of that shared moment in time and space…so hence, a soulmate.
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:46 am
@ Raqi – Yep.
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:46 am
Cee-
Peach- I think (some) women have a good enough head on their shoulders to not confuse “general talk” with “us” talk. <– Some don’t though
Lioness- My Birthday Week Begins TODAY!!
July 24th, 2009
10:48 am
M- WOW!! I LOVE that song!!!
Grace- July 31st
abc
July 24th, 2009
10:49 am
I don’t think the Cambridge case was racial profiling. The cop in question has taught race relations at the Cambridge Police Academy for 5 years, having been appointed to the task by an AA police commisioner. Gates was unruly. Here’s the deal: get unruly with a cop, no matter the circumstances, and they’ll taze your azz, then take you to jail. Your race doesn’t matter, the cop’s race doesn’t matter. They’re a cop and you’re not, that’s what matters. Gates is lucky he didn’t get hurt.
Now, I have no use for cops, and if anything, I have a very strong bias against them; but this incident had nothing to do with racial profiling. The President was way out of line in his commentary on the case.
ImAPeach404
July 24th, 2009
10:50 am
@Rell – I’m pretty easy going and laid back. But I know you DO cut the fool every now and again
Kym-I am the mystery in the room
July 24th, 2009
10:52 am
@abc..Now that’s how you flip a topic change.
Raqi
July 24th, 2009
10:52 am
abc I agree. He should have stayed out of it. It was not racially motivated. The cop was doing his job. He was actually what I would want him to do if it had been me.
Cemeeli
July 24th, 2009
10:54 am
abc okay. Well if it wasn’t profiling then WHY didn’t the police officer admitted he was wrong when Gates showed proff of residency.
Lucky he didn’t get hurt? I think “profiling” is enough.
The Real Rell - The most interesting man in the world
July 24th, 2009
10:55 am
fry me some fish tonight?
- what time…lol
@dk…..i love those commercials…lol
@IP404…really i dont….i like to have fun like the normal person…but from my blog persona i get where you coming from..why is my inbox still empty..ok try this one…threeleggedman@onlinebootycall.com