The Truth Is, You’re Sexy (For Now)
My friend Ian was talking about the two women he was interested in recently. One of them is kind, has a lot going for her, and is attractive. The other is “stunning”, a little distant towards him, and is giving him mixed signals.
I asked him which one he got along with the best and he said they both are cool. But he thinks that Ms. Attractive has the potential of losing her looks. At first, I thought this was an extremely shallow way of thinking. Then I thought about Ian and his obsession with his own looks.
I believe a lot of people have this fear about themselves and sometimes they project it on others. I suppose it’s a real concern for him personally, therefore, he thinks the same way about his future wife. If you are seeking a long-term partner, do you ever worry about their looks fading?
Perhaps you’ve heard the following before: If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife. A man is only as faithful as his options. So basically the theory is that when it comes to relationships, the more attractive you are, the less likely you are to be a good partner. I don’t know if I agree with this or not. What do you think?
Do extremely attractive people make bad partners? Do you think that you invest more in a relationship if you are less attractive (or think you are) than your partner?
Where and how do you think a person’s looks and their character intersect?
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East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2009
8:24 am
A lot of very attractive people become overly involved in the world of good looking people. I mean they get into everything free, get discounts/freebies, get jobs easier, etc. Eventually they can become disconnected from the rest of the world. They have their own circles of good looking people they circulate in and after a while its like they don’t even see regular folks, they can begin to think they are better than the rest of the world. It really kills me when folks criticize or look down on others due to their natural physical features.
But yeah, unless a very attractive person was raised to be level headed and not to feel a superiority complex they can be hard to deal with.
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2009
8:26 am
I think its all a part of the plan…
Young people are attractive so that they can catch a mate, then as we age looks should become less important, as we should have caught our mate by then, so our bodies conserve energy by not expending energy on keeping things tight and looking good…It’s all a test to see if your mate really has grown to love you.. LoL
http://hispointofview.com
C tha 1
July 23rd, 2009
8:41 am
Black in America 3 hosted by Solodad O’Brian & Charlie Murphy study
Black People Who Are Convinced Their Sh!t Don’t Stank. The phenomena of colored folk enamored with their striking good looks, seemingly large bank accounts, and an overall glamorous lifestyle. But in actuality they often fail in relationships, are facing foreclosure contemplating bankruptcy, and their glamorous lifestyle becomes clouded by their surprising addiction to cocaine and/or perscription drugs.
C tha 1
July 23rd, 2009
8:48 am
Excuse me that’s Soledad O’Brien
ImAPeach404
July 23rd, 2009
8:49 am
I get really really “weird” when a man constantly makes comments on how I look. I don’t like it. It’s too much pressure! Makes you feel like if they catch you on an off day he might not be interested anymore!
I’d much rather receive a compliment on my sense of humor, personality, level of intelligence… things like that because I know they will remain constant and they make me who I am. The way I look has nothing to do with anything.
As to the question if attractive ppl make bad partners – I’ve seen plenty of not so attractive people who were bad partners. Think about ugly dudes who are in relationships with average to above average women (and vice versa) and cheat. Bad character comes in all types of packaging!
All this talk about looks… for some reason, Tiny just popped into my head. Interesting…
Я♀qi…So sexyyy yeah…
July 23rd, 2009
8:57 am
This is some Bullsheet Dee-Vah!!! Bull.
(Now I will ramble)
Extremely Attractive does not make bad partners, but self-centered conceited shallow azzholes and bytches do. And you know good looks do not make you automatically a good partner either. But who am I to say that since I am just an everyday plain Jane myself.
The cure for bytchiazzholeness is a big wedge of humble pie rammed down the throat. Not every man want a Raqi.
SIGH Now that I got that out of my system…really???
The thing about beauty, there will always be someone else that is more beautiful than you. My mother taught me that and then I grew the hell up and saw that she was right.
If a pretty face is all that it takes to make someone happy in a relationship especially in the long term sense…Wow.
The thing about good looks, when you are with someone that you love for reasons other than their looks, you just aren’t that conscious of their appearance in normal everyday living.
My husband is a very handsome chap, but I don’t take notice to it every day. I don’t sit around just gazing, ooing and awing at how gorgeous he is. I have other things to think about that are way more important. Hell when he makes me angry he doesn’t get a pass because he is handsome. When I make mention of his good looks he just says “if you say so”.
When my husband tells me that I am beautiful, it serves the purpose that it needs to serve at that moment then I move on to other things.
To be beautiful and yet dumb as a box of rocks… To be beautiful and have a repulsive personality…
Yeah, yeah we all get with someone who is easy on our eyes. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But really, when it comes to choosing a partner for the long-haul, for life, ‘til death, looks fall from the top of the list.
Now let me take my sexy little behind upstairs and make my bed.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2009
9:05 am
Good morning blog fam
So basically the theory is that when it comes to relationships, the more attractive you are, the less likely you are to be a good partner. I don’t know if I agree with this or not. What do you think?
There are some very attractive men and women who, b/c of their looks, have become self absorbed and feel entitled….so much so that some tend to treat others as if they are truly expendable. On the other hand you have some people who are very attractive but very grounded as well and it shows in their character and how they treat others.
Buuuuut i have to also piggy back on what Peach said about the fugly dudes cheating….I’m like wha’?….one would think they’d be a little more greatful b/c even though we may not want to admit it, we live in a very image conscious society that’s obsessed with looks and youth. So one would think a less than attractive person would want to hold onto and cultivate a nurturing relatioship instead of cheating….that goes for both men and women.
Not Judge Grace :)
July 23rd, 2009
9:06 am
Good morning, We are all beautiful whether it’s shown on the outside or comes from within.
If you are seeking a long-term partner, do you ever worry about their looks fading? That thought never crossed my mind. Looks are the lest of my worry. How his heart is, that’s my worry – will he continue to be good to me.
As I look around there are a lot of attractive divorced people so my guess it that looks is not the glue that holds two people together.
Professor...
July 23rd, 2009
9:14 am
My Daddy always told me that being pretty didn’t mean a damn thing and I need to get something in my head. He also told me there is nothing worse than a dumb pretty or a nasty woman. Long story short I have never relied on looks and always strived for excellence.
I think pretty people can excel in relationships and make their partners happy.
@EPO- In my mid 20s although I was the best candidate for the job I was almost not hired. Apparently the hiring manager told one of the VPs he was going to hire another candidate besides me, and the VP said that surprised him because I was by far the strongest candidate. The hiring manager told the VP that because of my looks he could see the guys going crazy and that would just cause problems (I have witnessed managers doing this too in my career). Long story short the VP rallied for me and I was offered the job, however the VP had a talk with me asking me if I was ever harassed to come and talk to him and allow him to make it right instead of filing a lawsuit.
Mike Jones (who)
July 23rd, 2009
9:18 am
Beauty is only skin deep, But ugly is to the bone! lol
Looks are what catches your attention and personality is what keeps your attention.
There is no rule that better looking you are the better the worse you will be in a relationship, it all depends on the person.
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
9:19 am
Morning all.
No I don’t worry about my partner’s looks fading. That’s kind of inevitable, though many men do look better with age.
If I were to worry about anything on the physical scale, it would be that he got fat. You have more control over that.
However, I do believe that beautiful people DON’T have to work as hard. Whether they recognize it, accept it or not, beautiful people get away with more stuff. Folks are more willing to let someone string them along if they happen to look good. Just IMO.
But at the end of the day, looks will get you in the door, but character will sustain you. So no one should rest on “being pretty.”
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
9:22 am
Good Morning All
I could care less about my potential husbands looks as long as we love each other and have a plan with one another, that is all that matters to me
Personally, I was never the type of person date “cute” guys cause I always felt that they were into themselves.. I am a cute female but I am very humble
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
9:23 am
Ian…my very favorite boy name. Well, it’s tied with Jackson, but I digress. Ian seems to be lacking in depth.
Mrs. Aufton Izza started it so, I wanna use some profanity too (well my version.) You might be sexy as fu *bleep* to one, yet not make the next dude blink. I think there’s a potentially for people who have been convinced that their looks are the bulk of their value who have come to exert less effort in life, love and even love making. They say hey, my skill set is in the physical, so I’ma just show up. But that would require them to place little value on their other qualities, be lazy, and worse, willingly be used all the time. I’m gonna hope that’s a small sub group. Ultimately, you invest more in a relationship that you have the most vested interest in. (Now there’s a topic…half these folk runnin round here whose vested interest ain’t the love. Shocking, but I can be naive like that.)
P.S. Yes, if Raqi jumped off a bridge, I would do it too. I know she ain’t gonna do that, tho.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
9:27 am
Professor- WOW!
Mike- Beauty is only skin deep, But ugly is to the bone!<– You are DEAD WRONG for this one!!
Ared- That is very true but it is sad how many people rely on their looks..
The only thing I REALLY think about is my tata’s sagging before their time
Rell - the smartest man cant outwit the dumbest women
July 23rd, 2009
9:28 am
Enter your comments here
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
9:30 am
The only thing I REALLY think about is my tata’s sagging before their time
That can be fixed.
Rell - let vick play!
July 23rd, 2009
9:32 am
does wieght gain count…thats my biggest fear someone letting themselves go….looks…er whatever…all that fades with time anyway
but i will say this…and some may not agree..but whenever i approach and extremely attractive women i dont have a problem…with either talking with her then or later..meaning a number close…getting the digits…moving along…dates..sex usually come into play fast….but whenever i talk to someone that has average looks….according to society not me..but you get the picture…i have the HARDEST TIME…meaning they are not recpetive or claim i am not there type or something like i like to take it slow or lets be friends first..go figure.
but it never fails..whenever there is a beauty and all the fellas are just looking an talking amougst themselves…i will step to…thats how i bagged this argentina beauty years ago while walking thru the mall…i just step to
Not Judge Grace :)
July 23rd, 2009
9:34 am
Professor seems as if the VP put his job on the line with harrassment by forwarning you about future harrassement.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
9:36 am
Question: What makes a person extremely attractive?
Pretty Wings
July 23rd, 2009
9:37 am
Good Morning All!!!
Great Topic WD! There are so many men/women worried about the wrong thing!
Just because a person is attractive does not mean that they will make a bad partner, what makes a person a bad partner is that they are not for you (hopefully you’ve both taken the time to figure that out). I personally would never choose a mate by just looks alone, nor his potential to lose his sexual prowess – hell anything can happen….I’m going for love and raw compatibility. There has to be love and respect from the deepest part of his heart.
If the woman or man treats you like crap and is overly concerened with themselves, I don’t care how good he/she looks, it’s time to move on.
I really like Musiq Soul-child’s line that says “I will love you until your hair turns gray, just as long a your love don’t change”.
Check in later…………..
Not Judge Grace :)
July 23rd, 2009
9:38 am
thats how i bagged this argentina beauty years ago while walking thru the mall -Rell hmmm I wonder if you and the Gov from SC bagged the same lady j/k
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
9:40 am
Morning….
This topic is interesting….i will read on after shimmying my way to have breakfast.
So far, there are some good post guys. I really don’t have much to add right now.
Raqi your post pretty much summed up what i feel about “cosmetic driven relationships”.
And Professor I’m sorry you had to deal with such unprofessionalism in the job/career force. It’s funny you mentioned NOT gettng a job because of good looks, when in most instances folks get jobs because of their good looks.
Oh – I agree with your daddy 100%.
brb
Rell - let vick play!
July 23rd, 2009
9:41 am
@grace…we could have…lol..
@lioness….what makes a person extremely attractive….lol…you babe..you and that fine tall drink named ared are extremely attractive…i coudl not contain myself when i was in her presence..i was so shy i could not bring myself to approach her…day um she fine…and i heard you the bee knees as well…with breastee’s…lol
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
9:42 am
Grace-
This is the ISH
Keep on believing
All the dreams inside of you
And don’t stop achieving yeah
Let some love shine on through
And don’t fight the feeling
Keep on dealing
Everybody, keep on moving
Cause I know we can get it over, so baby
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
9:42 am
PERNT You always have an interesting perspective. I think God has a sense of humor tho, so your theory could be so.
RELL Ever consider this… the extremely attractive is probably used to being tried by every tom, dick, harry & rashad. She may give her number out by rote and play the I’ll ig his calls and he’ll get the hint eventually card. -Cuz ladies will testify, sometimes it takes lotsa time and energy to convince him of why your conversation should truly end there.- Whereas the average woman could be well aware of what she’s looking for so doesn’t feel like she has to entertain the request just cuz dude is asking. <– Lotta fellas mistake that.
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2009
9:44 am
Professor… This is ture, very good looking women can get the short end of the stick when it comes to hiring, especially if other females are doing the hiring, or there is an enviornment full of guys who might not be able to control themselves…
But overall studies show that good looking people have more opportunities than folks who are not thought to look so good. Also men who age poorly tend to have a harder time getting jobs than similarly qualified good looking men according to some studies.
http://money.cnn.com/2005/04/08/news/funny/beautiful_money/
Kym-Is very proud of myself!!
July 23rd, 2009
9:45 am
Good Morning All,
I see we will be swiming in the shallow end of the pool today. Honestly I think so little about looks(except height) but heck even with that I have dated short guys(they have complexes). I cant say that looking a dude I thought hmmm I can’t be with him because he may get fuglier later on. If anything I am hoping we have something more in common than bumping uglies and football. MuSt LoVe FOOTBALL!!!
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2009
9:45 am
Tall men make more on average than short men, and thin women make more on average than overweight women.
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
9:46 am
W
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CUTIEEEEEEE Back from hiatus. When’s the anniversary of your birth?
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
9:51 am
The ArTist
July 23rd, 2009
9:57 am
Question: What makes a person extremely attractive?
For me t could be anything, a certain look, a walk, the way she smiles
It just has to be something unique about her that makes say “Dmnnnnn I like that!”
Rell - let vick play!
July 23rd, 2009
9:58 am
get really really “weird” when a man constantly makes comments on how I look. I don’t like it. It’s too much pressure! Makes you feel like if they catch you on an off day he might not be interested anymore!
OO FA REAL…whats your phon namber…lol
@2cents….huh….naw love i dont get that….i am telling you from my xperience and this mine alone…i gets no problems…not saying they all bite..but when they do…they all in without all of resistance…now the other women…they try to make me jump thru hoops or whatever lil silly test they have to show them i am just not out for the panties…but hell ALL MEN ARE OUT FOR THE PANTIES…lol…some just play the games better than others….
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
9:59 am
Lol…if someone doesn’t hurr’ up and get Sassette some STeeler Nation on her T.V.!!!
EastPoint I read that same study concerning attractiveness, height, weight, and such when i was a Hiring Manager. True, it is very common. Sad, but true…
For Real
July 23rd, 2009
10:01 am
What up Blog Fam!
Yall need to stop lying to yourselves if you think beauty isn’t 80% of what you look for in a mate. The 80/20 rule is all about the physical.
- He got to be 6ft
- She can’t get fat
- I tried to kiss him but I couldn’t cause he ugly
- Dayum she fine as hell, if only she had a face to match (but Imma hit it)
Does those sound familiar? Lets be honest no one wants to settle down for life with someone that ages into Barbra Bush. Now as for looks having anything to do with a relationship being “good” or “bad” well that BS. Character is glue not looks. However, with this I, MY, ME society that we live in, everyone thinks they are beautiful and fine as hell regardless of what the mirror says. Now I will end with my famous quote for those Beautiful people:
“YOU DON’T GET TO TELL ME HOW VALUABLE YOU ARE TO ME! I DETERMINE YOUR WORTH TO ME!”
abc
July 23rd, 2009
10:08 am
I don’t focus that much on looks. Most folks look just fine, pretty normal. Standards of beauty change constantly, based mostly on media jiveness. For the most part, if a person is normal weight, good hygiene, with a pleasant disposition, they’re attractive enough to attract a suitable mate.
Some people are more challenged by their own appearance, due to obesity, genetics, whatever. Some folks are more challenged by their opinions of other peoples’ appearances. I like the former group better than the latter.
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:12 am
Cee/Lioness/EPO I was grateful that the VP spoke to the hiring manager and let him know that the culture of that organization needed to change. And he did put himself out their having a heart to heart chat with me and he did it in a very professional manner.
I will say this; I have gotten spiteful comments at work like I see why they hired you when the hiring manager was a man from other women. I usually say something like yes I think my three degrees made the decision easy.
Off topic: I cannot go out during the week…whew I am tired the martinis (I am not a drinker) did it to me. Prince-Roger-Nelson is going to have to get me through the workday.
Kym-Is very proud of myself!!
July 23rd, 2009
10:12 am
@Cee You can say that again!! Some chick trying to hem Big Ben up on a civil suit for rape…Steve McNair dead and now Mike Vick is back on my damn tv. It’s all too much.
Can someone please tell me how to bold and italic thangs? Thank you in advance
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:16 am
Professor- Tell them to kiss your prettay tail!!
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:17 am
I meant Rogers.
What makes a person attractive? To me it is the mind and the way they treat others first and far most.
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:18 am
Thanks Lioness! Girl I could write a book, correction I am going to write a book about some of the crazy stuff I have witnessed.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:20 am
My Two- DARLING
I am Bizzack!
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
10:21 am
Sassette Ben is getting pinned for attempt to rape? Or is that actual rape?
@ Yep – VICK IS FREE.
SexyCool - Live Strong.
July 23rd, 2009
10:22 am
Three Words Daily – Know your worth.
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
10:23 am
@ Professor – Again, sorry you havta endure the snide, smirkish comments. But that just shows how this society is driven or, lack there of.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:24 am
Professor- To me it is the mind and the way they treat others first and far most<– I agree!
Some dudes can’t handle having a convo with an attractive woman and take it for what it is worth. Just cause a woman is chit chatting with you, doesn’t mean she wants to get to know you any better than that convo..
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
10:30 am
Ladies, what compliment do you hear most from guys: pretty, beautiful, cute or sexy?
SexyCool - Don't confuse hate with jealousy.
July 23rd, 2009
10:31 am
I prefer attractive over not.
I prefer tall over short.
I prefer in-shape over fat.
It’s just the way I am.
However, over the long haul in a relationship (after the bond is established, the love is there and the commitment is made), I would be more concerned about my partner’s health. And since I lead an active lifestyle and prefer to only get involved with those who are active, perhaps, together, we will have a better chance of living, long, healthy, happy lives together.
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:33 am
@Cee thanks! It is crazy…once you add race and age to the pot you have a mess, but I say my Prayers and affirmations every morning so I am GOOD! I just wish people could walk in my stilettos before they start judging me…that my friend is my only wish.
@ Lioness…girl are you my one of my kinfolk? Some guys cannot handle the convo. I had a male friend just this year send me a nasty text saying if I wasn’t interested I should have let him know…WTH. Interested in what I have known him for 15 years and I thought we were just catching up…where did that come from?
Since I am listening to Prince…ohhh I love this song:
Baby, baby, baby
Can’t u stay with me tonight
Oh baby, baby, baby
Don’t my kisses please u right
U were so hard 2 find
The beautiful ones, they hurt u everytime
Paint a perfect picture
Bring 2 life a vision in one’s mind
The beautiful ones
Always smash the picture
Always everytime
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:33 am
I would be more concerned about my partner’s health.<–Couldn’t agree more!
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:35 am
Professor-
YOU BETTA NOT START WITH PRINCE!! I LOVE HIS MUSIC!!
Not Judge Grace :)
July 23rd, 2009
10:35 am
I agree 100% Lioness @ 10:33
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:36 am
Ared I hear beautiful and sexy…and sometimes gorgeous, but the one I really like to hear is smart or intelligent. My ex used to tell me how smart I was and that I could do anything…that was the ultimate compliment.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
10:39 am
It’s easier to talk to attractive women, I dont know if it’s lack of dudes trying to speak to them or what but it’s just the way it is. ..Sorry but I cant date an average looking woman…but it’s my own personal rating scale and I have different types of beauty that I like. Now what I do look for physically is not the Phat Azz or the HUGE Tata’s….all that stuff may start to sag as you get older…so i have to look at yo momma,aunties and sista dem…to see how ya bloodline ages…if everything holds up we are golden..but if ya saggin…you are out of luck…
Я♀qi…So sexyyy yeah…
July 23rd, 2009
10:41 am
Humility is your friend…get to know it.
Now on another note…I cannot deny that beautiful is beautiful. Hell I am beautiful. Just not to everybody.
As far as beauty being the number one requirement to choosing a mate, crap happens.
My brother-in-law got part of his face burned from the heat in a fire and he did worry about whether his wife-to-be was going to back out because of it. Luckily her love for him penetrated far beneath the skin surface and she married him.
See when you consider situations like that although they don’t come about every day, you have to wonder will the person that makes a choice based solely on looks be able or willing to stick around should a misfortune take those looks away. Suppose they development a skin disease. What then???
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:41 am
That girl knows every single man
Would ask her for her hand
But she says her love is much too deep
For them to understand
She says her love has been crying out
But her lover hasnt heard
But what she doesnt realize is that Ive listened to every word
Thats why I know Ill tell that I love her
That I want her
That my mind, soul and body needs her
Tell her that Id love to, that I want to
That I need to do all that I have to
To be in her love
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
10:42 am
I wonder if folks follow the world definition of beauty or their own personal definition because some folks who think they are all that would totally be missed by me. I mean there is nothing wrong with thinking highly of yourself but there is a limit.
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
10:42 am
@ SexyCool – I lead an active lifestyle as well, and will continue to unless some ailment hinders that.
Good health is a better benefit, than good looks.
M'
July 23rd, 2009
10:42 am
@SCool
You got mail.
Well, having lived both sides of the coin…I am turned off my men who are only attracted to me b/c of my physical appearance…hate it! hate it! hate it!…the person I AM is more vital to my existence than the appearance of my features…for which I only have my moms, grandmoms and the women on my maternal side to thank…otherwise…whatever…lol
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:43 am
Ared- I tend to hear “Hey shawty, wat yo name iyis?”
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
10:43 am
And to me sexy is not a look but it is yet a strong doesn’t need to be stated confidence. It is just in her being without her even trying it just “there”
ImAPeach404
July 23rd, 2009
10:45 am
ARED apparently, at the age of 32, I’m adorable.
From 3 different dudes. Adorable.
Thats a new one for the kid….
Rell - let vick play!
July 23rd, 2009
10:45 am
@professor…you fine…girl what is your phone namber…lol
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
10:45 am
Oh – And good health produces a great attitude, less stress, feeling good, and eventually looking good.
Chink....e
July 23rd, 2009
10:46 am
Looks count in the beginning unless you can make me laugh…I am attracted to that. In the long run you start to look better or worse depending on your character.
But if you are pretty attractive you are always judged before you open your mouth. There can be perks but than you can get unwanted attention also.
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
10:46 am
Morning beautiful people!
I only have one thing to say on this topic, not going “Jamoca” on yall today!LOL!!!
BEAUTY FADES, DUMB IS FOREVER
That’s the title of a great book by Judge Judy.
Did any of you all watch Black in America 2 last night? I liked it better than the first BIA from last year. The 2nd installment did not focus so much on the negetive, but rather those that are actually out there making a difference and trying to change things. They are doing the da– thang!
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:47 am
W8-And to me sexy is not a look but it is yet a strong doesn’t need to be stated confidence. It is just in her being without her even trying it just “there”<– EXACTLY!
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
10:48 am
@Kimmie- How did D.L.’s 5th grade teacher remember all of that about him?
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
10:51 am
W8 – Amazing. There were just some amazing people on that show last night. Those are the type of people I like to be around, people that make a difference and can inspire me.
That principle, Steve Perry, was totally hot to me! Intelligent, dedicated – I have ALWAYS been attracted to smarts & drive & compassion!
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
10:52 am
RELL So you’ve had successful relationships with them? I’m asking because a lot of women do that. And they see what he’s “offering” and get cool off them after they have no motivation. (this goes back to my earlier statement about why they’re vested.) But to your point about how some ‘average’ act, depending on how they rate themselves, they may wonder what he wants with or sees in them.
CEMEELI What they say? Mitlady! Slow down, Mitlady. (Grabs hand, licks lips and looks into eyes.) You so secci, shawty…
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
10:53 am
RELL Meaning reacting out of insecurity.
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
10:53 am
W8 – Folks not sitting around complaining, but DOING something! No Excuses!
Mike Jones (who)
July 23rd, 2009
10:53 am
Ladies
Are you more receptive of a guy depending on where you meet him? Ex. At a club vs in the Walmart parking lot…
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
10:54 am
LMAO @ Lioness and Peach.
Yeah, adorable, that’s a new one. I’d be “WTFing” on that one too.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:54 am
Chink- There can be perks but than you can get unwanted attention also<– I agree!
I find that just as many women stare @ me as men do.. Weird.. My thing is, don’t stare, say something.. Hello, your shoes are nice, you are cute, you remind me of someone I know or good morning, afternoon, or evening.. Gawking creeps me OUT!
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
10:56 am
Mike- Very good question..
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
10:57 am
Rell…LOL I am not “fine.” I am my worst critic.
Melo
July 23rd, 2009
10:57 am
Do extremely attractive people(females??) make bad partners?
whaaat, WD?? U Halle Berry hater!
her example may be a test case…..she proly got it right this time! hmpf!
a beautiful woman means a multiplication of problems…or some to that effect.
There is a ring of truth in there somewhere,not all the time,but smetimes.
Stunningly beautiful??? that may be nice arm candy but on the long term,the gazes,eye dress downs and starings may make that very unattractive to the man.A lyfetime of being called pretty,beautiful,sexxy etc can have the wrong effect on the party’s head! Some dont wanna have sexx cause that will mess up their hair piece!!(i have only heard of that….here… on this MIA..so??)
Now!!??,a handsome man is a requirement ladies,not that much of a problem! hahahahaha.
Good morning folks!
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
10:57 am
@Kimmie- Yep that is how I screen folks that are close to me. What are you adding to my life? Inspiration, Incite, Insight, are you a Dream Maker or Dream Taker, gossip, drama..etc…when you break it down it’s quite easy..and I can not stand folks who complain.
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
10:58 am
Mike – Yes to your question. But I would be more receptive in the Walmart parking lot than a club. I don’t go to clubs much anymore, but when I did the whole thing was a complete joke to me. Folks stylin & profilin. On the other hand, I see attractive men all the time in Home Depot & Walmart. They are usually guys that work well with their hands and probably are homeowners and family men. I like that. They are usually less pretentious too.
I met my SO at Publix.
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
11:02 am
CUTIE You’re a New Yorker. You’re supposed to aggressively say “Good Day!” if they don’t. Let em know you see their shifty lil behind eyeballin’ you. Hmmph gonna check ya birth certificate…
MIKE Walmart Target is probably preferred by many b/c it’s regular. But if you’re at a grown up place like a Lounge, not a club, you can probably gauge the person well too. Do you just approach wherever you see someone you like or are you more comfortable making moves in certain places?
I’m with Kym needing a tutorial on the tags. Somehow I hoped to get our asterisk abilities reinstated.
Professor...playing my song
July 23rd, 2009
11:03 am
Are you more receptive of a guy depending on where you meet him?
Yes, absolutely yes! I am a communicator to my core so if I meet a guy somewhere and we actually talk and I give him my number we are good, but if I meet a guy and give him my number with no conversation, and we met at the club I would never be receptive to him.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
July 23rd, 2009
11:03 am
Mawnin errbody
mytwo – I am LMAO @ “Mitlady”! That is the ‘new’ Shawty, too dayum funny
Kimmie – Steve Perry is a beast, everything that he has done and the impact he is having….wow
“If you are seeking a long-term partner, do you ever worry about their looks fading”….not really, I mean there is too much other stuff to worry about in a long term relationship (like will I actually roll that azz down the steps cause he/she has pissed me off again).
ARed – I get pretty and cute, maybe a sexy thrown in here or there
abc
July 23rd, 2009
11:03 am
We all will be old, infirm and unattractive, sooner or later.
Rell - let vick play!
July 23rd, 2009
11:03 am
A number of gossip blogs have reported that Vick was seen at a strip club in Virginia Beach with Allen Iverson and his wife on Monday night.
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
11:04 am
hmmm…What WHO say? mytwo – Get back here.
kimmie You know…let me gon an vent. I could not get to Black IN America 2 lastnight b/c when my son is having “writers block” i havta turn off all the appliances in the house. ‘Cause if the refrigerator, computer, alarm clock is on, and he can hear it make that ummmmmmzzz sound, he gets so distracted i just shut down everythang! OK!
We usually don’t want t.v. when school’s in session anyway…so go figure.
For Real
July 23rd, 2009
11:04 am
Chink: “Looks count in the beginning unless you can make me laugh”
Want to hear a dirty joke – Two white horses fell in the mud.
What’s the one thing you can never have for breakfast?
What is a Boss?
I wondered why the baseball was getting bigger. Then it hit me.
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
11:05 am
I wanted to cross Walmart out.
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
11:06 am
I’m attracted to peoples spirit. A person’s spirit speaks volumes to me.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
11:07 am
@abc- I only agree with the old in your 1103 but not with everything else
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
11:07 am
Sister Cee – You can watch it online. Also, you know they are going to rerun it like a thousand times. I missed the first hour and caught it on the replay later when I woke up in the wee hours this morning.
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
11:09 am
Kimmie – You met Ginseng in Publix girl?
so cute. That’s one of my favorite talk to strangers place. Along with Six Feet Under.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
11:09 am
One with a trigger
two with a bat
three big brothers, four
want to squab with me, so i guess a brother gotta throw
tell em like this you better get up out my camp dude
before I have to pull a gat and get real rude
i don’t figure that its worth getting hurt
just ’cause your gal wanna give me that skirt
bet it feel funny when you doing 69
knowing that youre sipping all on my jimmy wine
and when you get a kiss
do you feel bad?
knowing that you swallowed all the skeeter that i had?
you want to step to me but i don’t really think you should
i shoulda shot you up instead i told you something good
Mike Jones (who)
July 23rd, 2009
11:10 am
Thanks mytw♥cents and Kimmie, thats kind of what I was thinking…
mytw♥cents–Honestly I’ve found a club is the worst place to meet a female.
1. She probably gave her number to 5 other guys so you are trying to describe yourself when you call her (I was the tall one with a blue shirt on)
2. Its hard to have a convo.
I prefer a social event, a party, possibly a Lounge, just out and about
kimmie-just being me & that's enough
July 23rd, 2009
11:15 am
Cee – Publix will always have a special place in my heart!LOL!!!
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
11:15 am
Are you more receptive of a guy depending on where you meet him?
Mike Jones – Since I’m not in the habit of hanging around in back alleys and strip clubs, the place really doesn’t matter.
I’m more receptive based on my mood that day. When I’m out and about running errands and stuff, I’m typically to myself, just trying to handle business. My “come meet me” radar is not often on. I may not even be paying attention that you exist.
In settings designed to be social, I’ll at least make sure the radar is on.
Kym-Is very proud of myself!!
July 23rd, 2009
11:15 am
Actually my compliments on beauty cross racial,ethnic and age lines. For example, African American men and women give or take a few say I am cute and tall–I always get tall. But I have had white men and women say beautiful or pretty. One of my coworkers told me today I love that color don’t you look beautiful another said now dont you look cute. I love compliments thank them kindly and keep moving..cause frankly I love the skin I am in period.
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
11:16 am
CEMEELI Who? They. The gentlemen ladies with less than stellar grammar who accost uhm approach outside grocery stores across the Atlanta metropolitan area, about whom we have spoken ad infinitum. They.
Ringing any bells yet? Now I’m disgruntled about being forced to use a run on sentence to pick on other folks.
abc
July 23rd, 2009
11:16 am
W8, I figure if we’re lucky enough to make it over 80 years old, we won’t be very concerned with our relative attractiveness at that point. Will we still have enough teeth to be able to eat, not be blind, be able to walk and get around, not be bound by malaise of old age? Good enough for me.
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
11:17 am
Lawd, Anutha…
CEMEELI Who? They. The gentlemen with less than stellar grammar who accost uhm approach ladies outside grocery stores across the Atlanta metropolitan area, about whom we have spoken ad infinitum. They.
Ringing any bells yet? Now I’m disgruntled about being forced to use a run on sentence to pick on other folks.
…Futha
Jamoca - Brown Skin, I Can't Tell Where Yours Begins...Can't Tell Where Mine Ends
July 23rd, 2009
11:18 am
How to italicize and/or bold.
Please note: No spaces in between.
1. greater than sign –
4. the word, phrase, or sentence to be italicized or bolded.
5. greater than sign –
Yep, it’s a lot. But it is what it is ya’ll…
Be back later regarding the topic…and Kimmie Ya’ just wrong for that, missy! LOL